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bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

get together Posted: 11/15/2006 4:42:48 PM
I think we need to put a "cap" on how many guys attend. I mean, I counted roughly 11 women outta' 53 guys signed up.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

what makes you lose respect for your partner? Posted: 10/17/2006 10:17:52 PM
A basic lack of care and consideration for others. Ignorance is another negative. Partners who show these traits are pretty worthless.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

Why are men threatened by an Independent, educated woman??? Posted: 5/21/2006 8:58:01 AM
@OP "my intelligence and blunt way of educating " Well....it's not what you say, but how you say it. Nobody, wants to feel, 'talked down too'. Personally, I like educated women, who can hold a decent conversation.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Toronto.....what can ya' tell me about it???? Posted: 4/22/2006 7:28:01 AM
What's Younge?

bestguy1

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How do you feel about interacial dating? Posted: 4/16/2006 11:42:07 PM
"There is no such thing as the 'human race' humans are a 'species' there 'race' makes them different and unique... " Huh......what does any of this have to do with 2 human beings coming together, sharing the same desires, interests, appreciations etc. , while becoming better for the experience/exposure? Maybe you don't see it, but it's the abilty to share and bring together "different and unique" ideas, ppl. etc. that makes for progress/advancements.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

Msg: 254 (view)

How do you feel about interacial dating? Posted: 4/16/2006 11:11:12 PM
"but the strange emotion of love does play a factor, I do understand this! " And this is really all that matters. And this is all I'm saying. The other stuff is b.s., i.e. "the looks" (see this is what I thought, it's the same b.s. I once thought about too until I woke up and said f*ck what other ppl. think, there's always ppl. who are gonna think something, who the heck is in control here me or them), the heritage, this "species" crap etc. "lets just say I would have to really 'love' the girl to be in a 'interacial relationship'. " Well, I'd hope you'd be man enough to "really love the girl" your with regardless of 'labels,' or what somebody else thinks. I'd hope you "really love the girl" and stand up for her if she likes keeping the thing's simple for you, have beers with you, going to hockey games with you and who's down to earth....regardless who she was or what others might think. Anything thing else would ignorant. Coming from Canada, I'm a little surprised by your views. LOL, And here, I'm thinking it's the U.S. that's still struggling with a lack of social progress in matters of diversity.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

Msg: 251 (view)

How do you feel about interacial dating? Posted: 4/16/2006 4:31:51 PM
@Euro_Canadian "I would'nt do it! I have friends of all races, but dating 'interacial' No!" I jumped on this because of the way it was stated with EXCLAIMATION marks and all. It was like 'are freakin' kidding me'. I'll tell something else, I was like you when I was younger. So I know all about "preferences". The difference with me was back then I wouldn't call someone my "friend" man or woman of another "race" if I didn't see them as a whole person b/c they looked 'different' from me. "Whole person" to me, back then meant "my own kind". Which meant friends, dating, relationship, marriage what have you as long as it was " my own kind". Pretty ignorant huh? However, once I got exposed to a variety of ethinic groups and saw how they were no diferent than me.....I changed my way of looking at ppl. There are sexually attractive ppl. in all groups. There's beauty in all ppl. So given that premise. It stands to reason, if I met someone who shares the majority of my interests goals etc. what would stop my attraction to them? As long as I percieve them as whole human beings who belong to one race.....the human race....what else could possible come into play?

bestguy1

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would like a guys opinoin Posted: 4/16/2006 3:18:52 PM
I think squirl800 knows she made a mistake. So, she doesn't need to be beat over head with it and verbally "stoned". Obviously the guy she was with didn't use protection either. If she decides to have the baby and the guy doesn't wanna anything to do with it....fine make his azz pay child support ( have his check garnished). I hope she knows or can get his SS#. If the baby belongs to this guy...he's gotta share the responsibility. It's not ALL squirl800's fault.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Wait, or move on? Posted: 4/16/2006 3:04:10 PM
I think it's more insecure to not know what ya' want vs. being secure enough to let a woman know, you want her with you in a real relationship. IMO..yoshi69 is now a man ( no matter how young he is) and shouldn't have to play a "waiting game" for woman who's unsure of what she wants.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

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How do you feel about interacial dating? Posted: 4/16/2006 2:34:20 PM
@wonkabar Hey some guys just wanna "stick it" irregardless of who it is But on a serious note, to bad your wife threw you out b/c you were unemployed.....I mean what part of "for better or worse" did she and her family not get??? I dunno, I gotta believe that all Chinese can't have this attitude, whether 'old-school' or modern', about the unemployment thing. Could it be that her parents just didn't want her with a white guy ( and used your unemployment as a convient excuse, afterall you did say they were "old-school")?? Another thing, why wouldn't your wife have prepared you for what to expect in China i.e. customs, culture, parents etc.???

bestguy1

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Wait, or move on? Posted: 4/16/2006 2:07:29 PM
"What I dont think will be a healthy thing for you.. is to hang on to a woman.. express to her over and over again ur feelings, tourment yourself.. sit around waiting relentlessly for her to change her mind.. It will be torture, and no good will come of it. " This above statement is good advice. In addition, be careful about the "friends" thing. You don't want to end up being her "gal pal". Once this happens, your done. I do like what you've done in terms of being a man and letting her know where you stand. The next thing you may have to do is just reaffirm (one last time with her) that you want a relationship. If she's still not willing or ready to follow you, then you have to be ready/ willing to bid her farwell and move on. At some point soon....ya' gotta do it or yes you will "get F***ed in the end".

bestguy1

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How do you feel about interacial dating? Posted: 4/16/2006 12:18:43 PM
" I would'nt do it! I have friends of all races, but dating 'interacial' No!" This type of thinking always cracks me up. It's like some of my best "friends" are ________. But just don't bring one of em' home ( i.e. realtionship or mariage). Whatta' joke.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/16/2006 11:26:01 AM
irishmusicchick, raven1, jenni(the 'role play thing was funny, even though I'm nothing to "swoon over" LOL) and willow13 thanks for the responses. Good insight. zenobia : "Did you approach her because of her physical attractiveness? I know that I base my opinions on looks but that doesn't make me shallow. I also base my responses on the body language of the other person. Are they friendly? or pushy? or overly touchy feely? or ok? You were attacted to her for your reasons and she wasn't for her reasons." I saw her there in the past. Physically, nice face. Body language "tired". So as I look back I'd have to say she was tired ( so I could not be angry about this. I mean if a person is tired, they're not gonna be up for exciting, simulating conversation. Therein lies the "boring" comment I made at the beginning of my post. So bored yeah, mad, absoulutely not). We commented on the week having been a long one. We talked about a band that was there the last time we saw each other. We touched on some other things as well. In terms of attractiveness, she was ok, but as you mention one doesn't want to get caught up in looks. A lot of times I'll let the personality speak for the person's "looks". For example, I know other women who are average looking, however, their personalities far outweigh their "looks". Anyway, not only was she tired, but hungry as well ( she ordered food). By that time, I'd finished my drink ( which was really the reason I stopped by) and left. There's a good chance I'll see her there again. If she acknowledges me the next time around...cool, we'll talk. If not, cool. It's not like we have anything invested in each other. LOL

bestguy1

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Msg: 108 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/16/2006 10:44:27 AM
irishmusicchick and willow13 thanks for the responses. zenobia

bestguy1

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Toronto.....what can ya' tell me about it???? Posted: 4/14/2006 6:13:23 AM
I dunno about having to have a lotta cash. Generally, I use the 'currency' of good communication. IMO...if a guy needs a lotta cash to attract women while he's own vacation, then he already struck out b4 he ever meets a woman.

bestguy1

Joined: 1/8/2006

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 11:06:59 PM
" And she was just yawning and stuff to get you to go away cause you were ruining her night " EXACTLY....case solved...thread solved. Gosh Jen you're the best and intelligent

bestguy1

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Msg: 74 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 10:59:15 PM
"we love you (most of you, some of you we are laughing at)." Just remember.....what goes around....comes around.

bestguy1

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Msg: 71 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 10:40:23 PM
Jen that guy calling you a crack head was really bad, funny, but very bad.

bestguy1

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Msg: 69 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 10:33:24 PM
" @ bestguy1 Yeah you're too old for my parimeters......." hey baby...."old or young" I still look good. besides...you're the one who asked for the pic. Anyway, I have a lotta respect for single moms and hope they find a man who can accept both them and their wonderful children.

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 10:16:41 PM
Now Jen.....did I call you a name? Have I been in any way dis-respectful toward you?

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 10:11:19 PM
"Newsflash...not all women wear clothes for men. Some of us wear clothes for ourselves, the ones we think we look good in and make us feel good. Why does everything a woman do have to be about a man? " oh Jen....lighten up

bestguy1

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Msg: 59 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 10:08:50 PM
@ tauche 'Ok, please do...it would help me to understand things better... thanks" .....you know and I know my pic won't "help me to understand things better" b/c you're attitude is ......."F*CK A DIME, I'M A SILVER DOLLAR! HOLLA" Anyway, your parimeters aren't set for me.

bestguy1

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Msg: 55 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 9:51:11 PM
@tauche "OK, I'm starting to think that maybe this bestguy1 isn't so good looking and thats what made the girl feel all weirded out... where is your pic.... maybe that would shed some light on this whole dissing thing!! " I guarantee ya' i'm not some overweight troll. Nor did I feel dissed. Bored maybe. Like I said earlier once a woman tells me she isn't religious (I can live with that) and goes on to say she DOES NOT believe in God....then that tells me all I need to know. If you want a pic ( don't know why) I'll email it to ya'.

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 9:18:16 PM
"it sounds to me like you did what any normal male would do in such a case you tried to score! but no goal, nothing wrong with that! if nothing else, you should be proud of yourself ! for trying ! it just goes to prove that you are not a gay blade walking around. and dont worry about the little things that people say on here, in other words" dont sweat the little shit! " Thanks talldarknrugged, but I just stopped in for 1 drink and out. My days of "scoring" via the bar scene are long gone.

bestguy1

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Msg: 42 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 9:11:54 PM
" Yeah, if I saw that I wouldn't be thinking damn, he's fine...I'd be like "OMG, Who does he think he is a PIMP??!!" Obviously, you haven't seen the movie "Hustle and Flow". Pimps don't spend a lotta time in bars unless they have a demo tape, looking to be discovered as rapper or something

bestguy1

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Msg: 40 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 9:05:09 PM
"you're pissed cause she didn't like you and of course you have to put her down cause how dare she not want to be with you." Where do you get that I'm putting her down? As I said earlier in the post, I was just making conversation with her. I also asked the question ( in my thread), why SOME women wear stuff that makes them have to pull it closed. Heck, I've seen women wear those fold over skirts wear the have to hold them together while they walk down a street. Certainly this has nothing to do with me. Now in terms of "morals" etc., she asked me if I believed in God (this relates to the Good Fri./not having to work topic of conversation with her), I said yes, she did not. So if anything, it would be me not wanting to be with someone who doesn't believe there's a God.

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 8:41:23 PM
"Well, he said he met her on good friday...HOW?? OMG he's got a time machine " ummm.... no, we talked about not having to work on Good Fri. ( she does), which is TOMORROW.

bestguy1

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Msg: 35 (view)

So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 8:37:33 PM
@ irishmusicchick Thanks. I'm glad someone here understands where I'm coming from. Like Irishmusicchick said generally a person knows before they leave home if a outfit is "unflattering/uncomfortable/draws undo attention" or not, so if ya' know upfront why wear it. It's like a guy wearing pants too tight (sure my butt looks fine, so what) or a shirt with the button opened to his navel or something. Bottom line, if a person has a personality....they don't need to show off body parts to get attention. It just sends the wrong signals.

bestguy1

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What's Up With NO PHOTOS? Posted: 4/13/2006 8:17:11 PM
Well I posted a pic on another site....and a lotta women never read my profile. They were like, hey! "you're hot", "you're cute" or "nice bod" ( I'm not looking to just get laid, b/c that's never been a problem for me)...so I decided to go without a pic, just to see who really cared to find out the real me. I figure if someone takes the time to get to know me, I'll send a pic, no problem

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 7:57:16 PM
" because you wander into a bar doesnt mean you are looking to get picked up." Same here.

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 7:52:17 PM
Message: Well guess what....if a woman needs to dress that way to "atract men" then I'm probably not her type anyway Why? do you like guys? Hey dude......I'm not here to get into a "flame war" with you..ok. And I don't appreciate the insults. I did not start calling you names. If you don't have anything constructive to add too this thread...then move on ( like I did with with the above mentioned woman). Thanks

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 7:39:07 PM
" Sorry ,but it wasn't your lucky night." Well guess what....if a woman needs to dress that way to "atract men" then I'm probably not her type anyway. Again, i wasn't looking for a "pick up, get laid situation" ( am so beyond that phase). So I wasn't trying to get "lucky".

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 7:30:43 PM
"You were looking at her BOOBIES! Of course everyone wants to be noticed but there is a difference between being noticed and being undressed with the eyes! She gave you all the signals, man. Don't be mad, just get the point next time and focus from the neck up, you Booby peeper!! " I saw were your profile says Christian...so am I. She and I touched on Good Friday (i.e. not working on that day). She stated she did not believe in God. So....right there "boobs" or not. I had no interest. Anyway......a woman can be sexy without showing/revealing body parts. It's called being tasteful. And for the record, I did maintain EYE contact.

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 7:17:57 PM
@ Eddie0221 Look.....I was looking in her FACE!!!! 2nd thing, whether it's a man or a women, ppl. don't wear "sexy clothing" to NOT be freakin' noticed!

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 7:05:56 PM
"gawking at her chest....perv!" well...I was careful to maintain 'eye contact'. "Perv".....huh, so when a MAN looks at a woman who wears revealing clothing, he's a 'perv'. Whatta' are trying to do score "points" with the women who read this post?

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 7:01:34 PM
No problem......which is why I kept my conversation at minimum.

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 6:59:51 PM
....so why wear it 1st place????

bestguy1

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Interacial dating accepted by Blks & Whts only, how come? Posted: 4/13/2006 6:56:21 PM
"I guess its where you are geographically that matters in australia lots of whtmen go out with asian women singaporians, vietnam women,maylasian women, and etc, but there is not many asian women if any that date blackmen unless they are in the military which is the exception at the end of the day its there choice, " Well, a buddy of mine went on vacation to Australia and he said ww were all over him (he's blk.) the 1st day he left his hotel room.

bestguy1

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So you walk into a bar........ Posted: 4/13/2006 6:23:24 PM
...sit down, have a drink. There's a woman sitting there alone. Yov've seen her in the past at the same bar. You say hello, and kinda try to strike up a conversation. She seems somewhat interested, but doesn't seem to be willing or able to keep up a conversation ( i.e. doesn't ask you questions, responds with one word/one sentence anwers). She yawns and says it's been a long day/week....she says she tired. Bottom line line, the conversation goes no where. She's actually pretty boring. My thought...... this is someone who for whatever reason is just not interested.....so "move on". I'm I wrong? And what does it mean, when a woman wears a reavealing top/blouse, but keeps on pulling it to not make it seem revealing?

bestguy1

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Msg: 397 (view)

Would you Canadians move to the U.S,Would you Americans move to Canada if you met someone on here? Posted: 4/11/2006 5:14:02 PM
"It wasn't the pistol they went through a background check for, bought at the store, and keep by their bedside for home protection." Stats show, the majority of the time (when we talk about home invasion), ppl. don't even get a chance to use a gun (since home invasion usually comes at night with the element of surprise...which gives the trespasser the upper hand). Moreover, family members shoot each other (through domestic quarrles/violence/heated arguments/ACCIDENTS) at a much higher rate than home invaders. In other words, if ya' have a gun in the house, it's more likely to harm a family member/friend vs. a home invader for "protection."

bestguy1

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Toronto.....what can ya' tell me about it???? Posted: 4/4/2006 6:13:21 PM
Has anyone heard of the 'Arizona' club????

bestguy1

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Toronto.....what can ya' tell me about it???? Posted: 4/4/2006 6:07:12 PM
Has anyone heard of the 'Arizona' club????

bestguy1

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YMCA as a lodging venue....question?? Posted: 4/1/2006 6:46:21 AM
I'm not sure what the rules are in Canada, but in the U.S. a man can't let a women stay over night ( not sure if she can even visit). What are the rules for YMCA's in Canada???

bestguy1

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Toronto.....what can ya' tell me about it???? Posted: 4/1/2006 6:22:40 AM
I would also like to check out a church with a diversified congregation while in Toronto.

bestguy1

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Toronto.....what can ya' tell me about it???? Posted: 4/1/2006 6:09:16 AM
In terms of club music....I like some hip-hop, most dance music, techno. It would be nice to find a club where the music isn't to loud as to not be able to talk without screaming ( I hear some of the clubs can hold up to 3000ppl.!!!). It would be cool to find a place where the women are mature. In other words, no thug-type clubs or teenie-boopers, i.e. 18-24.

bestguy1

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Toronto.....what can ya' tell me about it???? Posted: 3/27/2006 9:01:22 PM
I'm planning a trip to Toronto within 1-2 months and was wondering if you could offer suggetions as to where I should go to have a good time i.e. clubs, dancing or cultural stuff? Also, do you know of any good inexpensive hotels/bed & breakfast type places. I will only be there for a 2-3 days ( Fri., Sat. and Sun., maybe Mon.) Also, have would you guys characterize Toronto in terms of diversity and meeting friendly nice women? A buddy told me Montreal was great. He said the women there were pretty aggressive, open-minded and all over him ( in a good way).

bestguy1

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What if the man didnt bring sex into the relationship first? Posted: 3/27/2006 6:25:04 PM
krillbee said: "I've destroyed a lot, by letting my hormones getting the best of me, and asking friends out. They didnt want to be my friend anymore, even though i was completely tactful in everything i said. I felt that maybe because I pushed it too soon, that I ruined everything, it felt like it was my fault that they didnt want to be my friend anymore. " #1) you didn't do anything wrong by "letting my hormones getting the best of me". " I felt that maybe because I pushed it too soon"......wrong. All you did was let her know how you felt. If she "didn't wanna be your 'friend' anymore" great then you weeded her. #2) The bottom line is .....if a women likes you and finds you attractive to her, there's no such thing as "I pushed it too soon " . If a woman likes you and is interested in you she'll find a way to let you know( even, if it's no more than consisting touching you, i.e. your shoulder, arm or LEG !, when the 2 of you are 2gether....generally, women don't do this if there they aren't interested in you). Then it's on you to take it from there. #3) If you like a woman....tell her. However, if you start off like you wanna be a "pal" to her, then you'll end up that way. I made this mistake once and only once in my life ( thankfully I was younger than you when it happened, and I vowed it would never happen again). No offense, but you are a hetrosexual man.....so act like one. In other words, if you don't wanna be a womens "gal pal" , then don't start off that way. "should I try kissing her at the end of the first date?" If you wanna kiss her after the 1st date, hug her and give her a kiss on the jaw. Believe me, she'll give you some indication as to whether she wants a real kiss or not.

bestguy1

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Oral Sex - How would you handle... Posted: 3/26/2006 8:07:54 PM
Do u know if she uses Massengill or douches with any regularity?

bestguy1

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What if the man didnt bring sex into the relationship first? Posted: 3/26/2006 5:07:22 PM
" I'd know he was gay if he could resist me for any length of time " Oh....c'mon

bestguy1

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She must be physically attracted to me, or its a no go Posted: 3/25/2006 7:56:29 AM
"For me I know within the first 5 minutes of meeting a man if I'm going to have sex with him or not. " But doesn't it take 2 to feel that way ?

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