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zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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My Boyfriend's Dog Posted: 5/6/2013 4:43:02 PM
Hilarious story--and so are the comments--needed some editing though. Dog needs obedience training, maybe agility classes after that. Wears them out. Also some vets give Prozac to help. But the owner is the problem here--not the dog--I mean your BF. He obviously LIKES the kinkiness or he would have put a stop to this nonsense long ago. I wonder how many girlfriends he has been able to attract with this seduction technique! Can't be many. Don't hold your breath though. And DON'T move in with him. Dogs learn from each other and it won't be long till your boxer is in on the action too. Ah, well, whatever rings your bell! Have you met his mother yet? PS: I am a puppy-raiser for Guiding Eyes for the Blind and also take one of our Mexican rescue dogs to agility classes--really great for highly energetic dogs, gives them confidence, too.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Dating Up? Posted: 4/20/2013 5:40:48 PM
Yikes, you two are not a match, obviously. You don't mention that you laughed or had any fun or felt like long-lost friends/lovers on this date, only what she had on. And what it likely cost. Superficial anybody? Move on, keep dating. She is not The One for you.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Boyfriend moved in... Posted: 4/20/2013 5:21:08 PM
Daynadaze nailed it, mostly. I personally am wondering...what's in this deal for YOU? Is the sex that great? Is he doing all the housework? Is he a great boyfriend? Beautiful arm candy? You come home in the evening, dinner is cooked (which he paid for, having done the shopping) the house is clean, and he's handing you a martini? What is attractive about this guy??? Where is the cost/benefit? All I am seeing is Roger the Lodger/Minnie the Moocher. You have already run this pitiful situation through another forum and haven't been satisfied with what you heard, which is probably similar to what you are going to get here You seem to be a desirable, financially stable attractive woman who could attract many decent men. Why do you feel you must put up with a less than 50-50 arrangement, ie you need to pay some guy to live with you? Just because YOU are financially astute does not mean you owe this moocher a living. I don't think so. He seems to make a career of sponging off women. Wake up and smell the coffee.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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(Long) Help Me Understand Her: Why? Posted: 4/20/2013 5:02:40 PM
Enjoy it for what it was but this is not your eternal Sweetheart. It's a nice little blip on your radar screen. In a couple of years you will barely remember her name. Live in the moment and you will be OK. She has a kid very near your age. A boy. No way, shape, or form is this going to work out like the Brady Bunch.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Awkward silences Posted: 3/23/2013 5:27:35 PM
When you meet Ms. Right, you'll have plenty to talk about, and if not, the silences won't be awkward. All will feel natural. You did the right thing but most likely this gal is not for you.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Does no experience prior dating leave me at a disadvantage? Posted: 3/23/2013 5:24:52 PM
Yes, a therapist. Never having dating by 26 needs some help. If you are culturally East Indian, look there first. Someone shy about dating does not need to add the stress of cross-cultural dating. Attend events within your culture, religion, etc. Also a profile review, and for God's sake post a picture. Get your friend to take some pix of you and post them. and quit worrying about your yourself. As for shy, here is what I think about shy. Shy is being self-conscious, all wrapped up in yourself and how you appear to others. Guess what, nobody cares. Get involved with making the other person feel comfortable. Get used to walking up to strangers and saying, "Hi, my name is _____. What brings you to this event/party/church/temple whatever?" Listen to their answers and find something there you can then ask another question about. Make friends with both sexes, young and old. Do not just approach women you are trying to date. You need practice. Befriend some old ladies and they will be dying to fix you up with their nieces, etc. Good luck to you.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Ex Girlfriend question... Posted: 3/17/2013 6:21:01 PM
And where is your poor kid? With them, or with you? That ought to be your focus.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Ex Girlfriend question... Posted: 3/17/2013 6:19:59 PM
Hey, go for it, they probably want a threesome--WHAT are you thinking??? That, I'll bet. Recipe for disaster. But whatever floats your boat. Recycling is great for the environment but for relationships, NO.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Is he not into me? Posted: 3/11/2013 4:10:07 PM
So was it ED or Herpes or HPV (neither of which are protected by condoms) or some combination thereof? Enquiring minds want to know!

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Boyfriend Online this week Posted: 3/11/2013 11:05:46 AM
Wake up and smell the coffee.

zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Exclusive on the first date? Posted: 3/5/2013 4:08:23 PM
That is WAY SCARY that he is parking in front of your house--and drunk in the bargain. This guy has some serious issues. I'd be wary of anybody who comes on like gangbusters on date one or two... You need to be very careful--watch your back-- and let some friends, your brothers, your father know. He may be a stalker--he is showing all the signs. You may need to get a restraining order, although they are not worth the paper they are printed on.

zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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New to dating websites. Need advice Posted: 3/5/2013 3:42:09 PM
As others have suggested, meet sooner rather than later. I happen to think a short phone call is good beforehand--note short, not 2 hours of baring your heart--no matter how tempting if you "click" with someone--save conversation for the meet. Why? because a short call will give you some idea of voice (whiny nasal voices with poor grammar are a turnoff for me)--and that the person actually is a female or male or whatever you expected them to be. You can get a prepaid cell phone just for this purpose. Handy too when you are meeting. People have been known to get stuck in traffic and then you won't think you've been stood up.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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not really sure if I love him Posted: 3/5/2013 2:24:10 PM
The longer you put it off--the worse it will be. Both he, and you, deserve someone you are excited about who returns that love. All of the above advice is sound. Do it today. Good luck.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Question? Posted: 2/28/2013 4:39:52 PM
Oops, sorry, I see you actually saw him in person once, in the beginning. But not much since to hang your hat on. Still it would seem you are not a match due to all the travel and absences. Your needs are not being met.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Question? Posted: 2/28/2013 4:38:02 PM
Question: Have you ever actually MET this guy? It is not clear from the posts. If not, it is still a fantasy relationship, if you can call it that. You are penpals at this point, nothing more. He seems pretty attentive for an email/text friend.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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How long is too long? Posted: 2/27/2013 6:57:50 PM
All of the above. Listen to what they say. If a guy is interested, you will know it. This one is attached to something, and it ain't you. Good luck!

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Does he really wants to date me? Posted: 2/27/2013 6:50:28 PM
PS: NEVER friend a person YOU DO NOT KNOW through friends or associations on Facebook. Especially a possible romantic interest you HAVE NEVER MET. Now this person can access all your personal stuff and use it for whatever ends he/she (remember, we do not even know the slightest true detail about this person) deems fit. I think online dating is great, I met my true love that way 4 years ago. It works great BUT you have to have some common sense and not be so trusting of whatever pops up on your screen.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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The dinner/flower/gift cop out Posted: 2/27/2013 6:46:24 PM
LOL, Carol Ann, every time I received very expensive gifts (Joy perfume, diamond necklaces, etc) out of the blue---I KNEW he was feeling guilty about something. Cheating men are so transparent.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Does he really wants to date me? Posted: 2/27/2013 6:42:27 PM
Something is not right. 3 months is an eternity online. Skype or telephone immediately and make plans to meet ASAP. Otherwise you do not know WHO or what (there are BOTS than can carry on conversations) you are chatting with this long. If you have time to waste on an eternal penpal, more power to you. But likely a real man (you cannot even be sure it is a man) who is eligible (not married, shacked up, in a "thing", not some teenager having fun) would have made a date long ago, like about two weeks into it. Good luck, and for god's sake keep dating other men!

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Why do women think sarcasm is a desirable trait? Posted: 2/27/2013 6:35:54 PM
OP, here's a huge clue about online dating. You see a trait in a profile you do not like, ie "sarcasm." Or, smoking, doping, criminal record, bad credit, live in their parents' basement, married three times with multiple kids, no job, whatever it is they admit to. Whoo hoo! You can scratch that one off your list, and keep fishing. IF there is something you do not like, and someone puts it right there in their profile, Where is the problem. They did you a huge favor. Another advantage of internet dating. If you'd met her in a bar or in church or through some other dating venue, it might have taken you a lot of wasted time to find out you weren't compatible. Voila, here on Plenty of Fish, you got the bad news FOR FREE.

zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Tired of the same bs... Do real relationships even exist anymore... Posted: 2/24/2013 6:51:55 PM
Excellent comments from both daynadaze and abmccray. I think today is the best time ever to be single. We are not limited to our local community, we don't have to hang out in bars where we will most likely meet alcoholics. The world is our oyster, so to speak. Surely there a lot of toads to be kissed before we find the handsome prince/princess. Dating is a numbers game. Keep at it. Don't give up. However, our opportunities are also unlimited in a way they were not even ten short years ago. I have to agree about the 30's; my daughter is in this age group and it is the hardest for dating, due to young children, divorces, having to deal with the ex(es) etc. The kids take precedence at this age. They did not ask for the chaos their elders have created. The good news though is that for people over 45 the chances are excellent, especially if one has minimal baggage, or even a lot. The whole ballgame has changed. And do remember this: as my dear old Dad used to say, "when selling a house, you don't need 300 lookers. You only need ONE buyer." The same is true with dating. You only need ONE. So don't worry if you don't have many many dates. Not necessary. Be selective, don't compromise what makes YOU happy, get out there and have fun.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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How not to chicken out...? Posted: 2/24/2013 6:20:30 PM
Many good suggestions here; keep in mind, nothing ventured, nothing gained. I'm on the side of adventuresome. Also, if you can't take rejection, forget dating, online in person, or any other which way. Being funny and playful is always good. My only caveat is that women in service professions (checkers, receptionists, bartenders, veterinarians, doctors, nurses, physical therapists, etc etc) are inundated with offers--our job persona is to be friendly, nice, welcoming, smiling, etc. and many men seem to take this as an invitation to more. I notice at my supermarket,Target, Walmart and drugstore these days perfectly random employees make eye contact and act friendly--they are COMMANDED to do so by management. So make sure you are not misreading the signals. Otherwise, I say, go for it.. What have you got to lose?

Zermatt

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Anyone else only come here for the forums? Posted: 2/18/2013 11:41:15 AM
I love the forums and am only here for them. Found my sweetie online 4 years ago this month. The forums are educational and amusing.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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The spark! Posted: 2/12/2013 6:40:10 PM
Dora: you like him obviously, why else waste time with a whole thread about him. He probably feels the same way about you. so get off here and check that out.

zermatt

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The my place date Posted: 2/12/2013 5:40:42 PM
I consider my lovely home sacrosanct. I have worked hard a long time to have things exactly as I like them and live the lifestyle that I do and also to have peace, quiet, and harmony in my home. I invite a man over for dinner when I am SURE. And it is an honor to him, as vice versa, when he ivites me to his place for dinner. I have dated a long time online and in real life before I met Mr. Right. Along the way, the majority of guys I met were lovely fun people. Just we were not compatible. BUT in that jolly company I had a couple of really dodgy experiences...and am glad neither one ended up in my home or seeing where I lived. The scariest one was oh-so-cleancut--a US Marshal, actually, with a security clearance. Should be OK, right? He was handsome and personable. Turns out during the first meet that he actually was living with someone, who also a high level job, out of town.He was out looking around to see what else might be out there. So we had a nice dinner but I ended the evening early bid him adieu--however he walked me to my car and saw my plates. Which later gave me a lot of angst as he continued trying to contact me-- Got home and out of curiosity googled his unusual name. WHOA!!!! Up popped a bunch of rape accusations and law suits...mind you, I could not find any convictions BUT I don't care. He might have been straight up innocent but who can risk it?? Especially not based on whta I read. I don't want to be on the next Dateline or Nancy Grace. He may have been innocent of all of the above. But I cannot take that chance.

zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Can you top this date? Posted: 2/12/2013 5:10:18 PM
Carol Ann is right. Frame your dates better. And walk out IMMEDIATELY if they are tied up on the phone . That is SOOOO rude. And disrespectful of your time and effort to get there.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Conversation No-Nos on dates. Posted: 2/10/2013 4:57:59 PM
Outmind, hilarious, I have dated enough to have heard some version of stuff on your list more than once. I live in Washington DC and very often first meets here are like job interviews, they want to know your resume. My entire dating attitude has always been, I want to have fun on this meet and greet, no matter what. It does not matter how wonderful your job, social position etc is, or your entire health history, problems with your ex, the law, and whatnot, IF you are never going to see this person again due to lack of chemistry. If you strike up a spark with the person, then there is PLENTY OF TIME on subsequent dates to do the resume/past thing. In the beginning, laughing and flirting and actually enjoying each other's company are more important. This presupposes that prior to this meet through your carefully worded profile and short but entertaining contact BEFORE the date have passed muster (Ie, person actually exists, is the correct gender you are looking for, doesn't have a whiny nasal off-putting voice, isn't in prison or in Nigeria, etc.)

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Friend zoned Posted: 2/10/2013 4:46:43 PM
Give her the gift of missing you. Date other people. Continuing to contact her only makes you look weak, wussy, and puppy dog in her eyes, ie undesirable and unsexy. She has told you straight out you have no chance with her. You cannot MAKE someone love you, no matter how cute, charming, sexy, accomplished etc you are. Why beat your head against a wall? Go become a brain surgeon, rock star or country music star and you can write a great song about it that she will hear and then finally regret passing you up. Of course by then,YOU won't want HER any more.

Zermatt

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always trying to please.... I'm a sucker? when do you stop trying? Posted: 2/10/2013 4:38:21 PM
bmore goat told you right. Women refuse to believe what men tell them straight out, most of the time. Men will generally tell you exactly what is up. You just don't accept is, is all. Don't waste your youth and beauty on someone who is not hotly pursuing you.

Zermatt

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Sweating the Small stuff and realizing it was your fault..but too late Posted: 2/10/2013 4:34:09 PM
The fact is that all those little things you find annoying in the beginning of a relationship--and furthermore, even those little things you find endearing-- Will be the very things that drive you crazy after ten years or so of it, like their texting/ignoring you when you are right there, sniffing their nose every 2 minutes,, telling long pointless stories, having a nasal voice, a donkey laugh, etc etc. One of self tests is, will I be happy sharing breakfast table with this person always?Look across the table and still feel attracted despite everything? I think if you are already annoyed after a few dates, that does not auger well for the future.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Red flag or honest mistake? Posted: 2/6/2013 8:35:39 PM
It's not innocent. Yes, I would find it too much too soon. If you are not comfortable, trust your instincts.

Zermatt

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I'm going to break up with her because the only thing she is willing to do is movies and dinner Posted: 2/6/2013 8:17:21 PM
I have the same thought as Curt2. Agoraphobia, probably. But that is irrelevant. You two are not a match. The purpose of dating is to find this out! You may find one, two, three, tops--loves in an entire lifetime. She ain't it. Stop wasting time and get on with it. Besides, if you dump her now, you won't have to buy her flowers and candy for Valentine's Day. When I was single, we single gals used to laugh about the guys who disappeared just before Christmas and showed up again on February 15.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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The Older we get-The Less Time thats Needed for a LTR thats leads into Marriage??? Posted: 1/30/2013 9:25:39 PM
OP, what is it with marriage and you? Relax and enjoy all the good things in your life. Take notice of the guys who are looking out for your welfare. The world is your oyster. You are young and beautiful. I am not seeing the problem.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Passionate Friendship Posted: 1/30/2013 7:19:10 PM
Well, from someone who has been there...REMEMBER those wedding vows, anyone?? You stood up there and promised, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse?? I always cry at weddings these days, because the beautiful young people do not realize what they are promising, really. So your spouse gets cancer, Alzheimer's, multiple sclerosis, etc. You cannot control yourself for a couple of years till you are free again? With all the joys of dating after years of marriage? It is a drag being with a sick old person, no doubt about it. But imagine instead that YOU are that person, and the person who vowed to love you forever (as long as you were cute, smelled good, and satisfied all their needs) suddenly was looking for greener pastures, even as you lay on your death bed. It is grotesque.

Zermatt

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Vee relationships Posted: 1/30/2013 6:56:12 PM
Many insightful replies above, especially the first 3 or 4... OP needs to ask herself whatever in the world is in it for her, being involved in this thing? Friendships evolve and change, and my my, now that this guy has a new friend who listens to all his crap AND has sex with him, where is the surprise? Just wait till they break up, he will be calling and crying on her shoulder, but really. Is this what OP wants. I like the young stud idea. God knows there are plenty of them. Don't worry, be happy. And when he calls back, say, "Who?"

zermatt

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Ambivalence Posted: 1/29/2013 6:38:33 PM
I will cut OP some slack since he is a dog lover. Go to the dog park. End of sentence... I Madam X, have looked in my crystal ball and predict you will meet your True Love somehow with dogs involved. thank you, no charge, let meknow how it works out.

zermatt

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How do you date one person at a time? Posted: 1/29/2013 6:29:09 PM
Dating does NOT equal "having sex." If you are single, unattached, and said other is not saying to you,"Let's be boyfriend/girlfriend"--you are a FREE AGENT. You can, and should, date/meet a lot. DO NOT have sex with them. WHY limit your options?? MEN understand this. Even if they think we are fabulous they will continue dating/texting/ IMing/leaving their profile up on POF and elsewhere many until they are so enchanted they cannot resist YOU and your charms. We women waste our youth and beauty on iffy propositions. Hang around for years waiting for him to--be ready--divorce--get his head straight--whatever--while we get older and uglier and less desirable, waiting for Prince Charming to step up to the plate, which he would have done in the beginning in 5 minutes if he thought you were his Dream Girl, which obviously he did not since he didn't nail you down had the chance. You left him other options, your bad. But I digress. Dating, especially online dating, which I think is great since I met my True Love that way--is a numbers game. You must meet the maximum amount of people you can, because statistically speaking, even with your carefully honed profile designed to weed out all your no-nos--one date, no--meet & greet, I call it--because first meet is not a real date--maybe one out of ten if you are lucky is going to amount to anything. It is all attitude. Success in dating is like success in life. Don't give up, don't get discouraged, you are the greatest, they are lucky to have met you. Go for it!

Zermatt

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why move on Posted: 1/28/2013 6:03:17 PM
Recycling is great with old newspapers but it doesn't work in romance.

Zermatt

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is he lying to her Posted: 1/25/2013 8:29:13 AM
You may be her friend but being able to unload all this mess on you may be preventing her from getting the professional help she needs. Sounds like this is a really one-sided relationship--she moans and you listen, helpless to do anything. Must be miserable for you, too. Get the names of some good therapists in your area and help her make an appointment. Then back off. You are already too involved in somebody else's mess. Good luck to all of you.

Zermatt

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How much will you put up with? Posted: 1/23/2013 10:36:13 AM
It all has to do with your self-respect. If a date is already treating you badly during the courtship phase, imagine how bad a marriage to this person would be. As Carol Anne says, you are lucky to have learned this lesson so early in life. It will save you a lifetime of misery, divorces, etc.

Zermatt

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Longest you've chatted with someone on PoF before meeting Posted: 1/22/2013 4:33:52 PM
Sooner is better. Agree with many of the above.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Being played for a fool. Posted: 1/17/2013 6:27:27 PM
He's married, duh, and even if he isn't, he is using you and should be ashamed of himself. You look like a very nice woman. He is preying on your good nature.

Zermatt

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If POF allows one to select not looking for date, why some people can't accept that in here? Posted: 1/15/2013 5:21:07 PM
Hilly, FFrin is right. Last time I looked it was a free country (UK, US, Australia, Canada, etc). You are of age and free to pursue your interests. You 're totally honest in your profile as to what you want--a bit of chat late at night. Mr. Idiot whoever he is has trouble with that--wonder why, when there are a bazillion other women wanting what he wants. You cannot please everybody. Carry on, have fun, and delete/block the likes of him. Please stick around. Ignore the misfits and the trolls.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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How to keep people interested...? Posted: 1/13/2013 2:54:21 PM
You should update your profile every few days and then resave it. Then it willl come up first.

Zermatt

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So here I am, 5 years later. Posted: 1/4/2013 7:05:15 PM
Your focus is entirely in the wrong place. You admit, as an AFTERTHOUGHT, that you have a daughter with her! Mercy me. Little girls who are rejected or not well-loved and spend time and revered by their dads have trouble with men all their lives. Let's hope this new husband will step up and provide what you have not, ie a loving male father figure. But you are on here pining and whining about your baby mama. After 5 years. With her, you have no chance. You have a chance to make things right--for your daughter.

Zermatt

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Double Standard on fake image improvements Posted: 1/2/2013 8:18:27 PM
I say do whatever you need to do--comfortably-- to present your best image to the world. And to make yourself attractive. Exercise, etc. If for you that is a wig or toupee, go for it. If you are neat and clean, most women will not care about your hair follicles but what is inside the head. But Sean Connery, Frank Sinatra, and many others had very realistic looking wigs that certainly enhanced their looks... the shaved head look is also great on many guys. You have to think about practicality, as well-- if you cannot go swimming or be out in a high wind (combovers!) then the natural look is probably best. Great teeth and a great smile are also high on the list of desirable things to women.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Am i flogging a dead horse? Posted: 1/1/2013 7:48:20 PM
The test of A GOOD RELATIONSHIP: Am I happy, smiling, joyous? The sky is blue, rainbows abound? It's a GOOD one. AM I ANXIOUS , OBSESSiNG, QUESTIoNiNG EVERY MINOR THiNG? Will he call? text? etc? It is BAD. Give him the gift of missing you, ie, disapear, don't anser his texts/emails/calls/pleas.

Zermatt

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My gf and I have no sex life Posted: 1/1/2013 7:37:07 PM
My rule of thumb with any and all commitments--book club, choir, relationships, jobs, whatever it is, is: knowing what you know now, now that you are in it, would you have gotten into this situation? If the answer is no, then staying in it is lethargy, cowardice, lack of courage. As you describe it, there is a serious problem. She may have Asperger's, a degree of Autism, be Lesbian, or just not be attracted to you. But you are not a therapist. And neither are we. None of us can know what the dynamic is here, except that you have reached out for help. You cannot help but feel unloved. I wish you well but I don't have much hope for this situation. I do not recommend you cheat on her. Be honorable, end it, go seek your bliss. If, in a year, you feel you miss being unloved, then by all means, give her a call.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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should I stop trying? Posted: 12/29/2012 7:00:57 PM
We women put up with a lot of stuff, as do men, I suppose. All I can say, is you will be OLD before you know it. Luckily, there are good men out there who will still love and want you (I am here to prove it.) DO NOT waste your youth and beauty on losers. Every minute you spend pining over one of these guys is one less minute you will enjoy with that lovely guy who really loves and cherishes you. He's out there. Go find him and let this a*hole go.

Zermatt

Joined: 1/8/2006

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premium pof membership worth it? Posted: 12/27/2012 7:17:31 PM
OR they are married, living with someone, otherwise engaged. Just messing about, trying to see what else is out there they might be missing while their Significant Other is snoring on the couch infront of the TV.

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