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poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Sexual Teasing... Posted: 8/20/2008 9:36:40 AM
IMO, sexual teasing is the very epitome of foreplay! I LOVE the teasing...and would like it to happen a lot more often.

poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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How to Stop Making Poor Choices Posted: 8/20/2008 9:20:38 AM
Now that I realize this, how do I stop? Do I need to scrap my "I want" list and try something different? Do I stop making the initial contact and let the men pick me? Or, do I just give up and become a nun? I think the most important step you can take is to determine why you want the things on your "I want" list. What is it about those particular things that you feel you need? From there, you might be able to determine what it is you really need from a partner, and allow that those needs may be met in a different fashion than that which you're always drawn to. Consider the feelings you're trying to achieve, and then consider also how many different ways you might go about achieving them, without repeating the same harmful pattern you're finding yourself stuck in.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Learning opportunities Posted: 8/20/2008 8:24:00 AM
Have you ever been hurt by someone, and while processing the information in your mind, realized that you've been guilty of doing the very same thing to others? How does that make you feel? Do you take steps to avoid doing the same thing again, with another person...or do you just deny your own (interject your own word here: selfish,thoughtless,careless, etc) behavior and stick to blaming him/her? I think that if we're honest with ourselves, we have a lot to learn from these otherwise negative experiences...provided we take advantage of the learning opportunity given.

Poly_1der

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Msg: 46 (view)

Weed Addiction Posted: 8/20/2008 8:18:08 AM
@ FredHH I have to disgaree and say that weed as a substance is not addictive. But ANYTHING can be an addiction if it triggers those processes in your brain that are characteristic of what an addiction is. Sex, porn, food, money and the lost goes on, are all things that people can be addicted to and it destroys their lives. But in and of themselves they are not addictive just like that. You do not have a physical addiction to weed like you would for cocaine, heroine etc. It falls into the same category as sex,food,porn etc anything that makes you feel good and then you abuse it . MissEmpress, that's the best definition I've ever seen anyone give re "weed addiction"! I smoke some pot myself, but am not addicted to the stuff. I don't mess with it if I have other plans, simply because I know I'd just end up like OPs girlfriend is when she's with him after smoking a few "cones" (I don't know what cones are either, ). But I do like to take a few hits at the end of the day, when I know I'm not going to be doing anything else...to help me unwind for sleep.

Poly_1der

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HELP HELP HELP! Posted: 8/19/2008 11:19:45 AM
migivadamsbusted...how special you must feel! To be able to lord your (and your friends') common sense over all! Unlike many I have common sense... Can you say sanctimonious b*tch?

poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Polyamory Posted: 8/19/2008 7:11:57 AM
I'm polyamorous, and I feel it's far less selfish than possessive, monogamous relationships are. I find that polyamorists are, generally speaking, more honest, trustworthy, respectful, compassionate, and accepting than most of the monogamists I've known. Love is without limits or boundaries...when we give our love to another person, we don't have less love. If anything, we have MORE. Love is meant to be shared, not guarded like some precious commodity. Don't worry, we won't run out.

poly_1der

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Knowitallism Posted: 8/19/2008 7:01:43 AM
Rule #1 for knowitalls: Limit yourself to 3 sentences on any topic. If you don't get questions or a go ahead from your listener, stop talking and allow the listener to do some talking--- if he/she hasn't already disappeared. That's a great rule, uncle_enrico!

poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Knowitallism Posted: 8/19/2008 6:53:55 AM
I think I have a much better understanding of how things work (such as life), but I was much more of a "knowitall" when I was younger. Maybe that's evidence of how much more I know today! I find that I'm annoyed MUCH more often by the 30-something knowitalls than I am by someone closer to my own age. I feel that the older we get, the more we realize we still have to learn, ergo we are more eager to just listen to other viewpoints than we are to pontificate.

poly_1der

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Does Appearance Mean As Much Over 45 As It Did When You Were Young Posted: 8/19/2008 6:43:19 AM
Appearance has never meant much to me, so I guess I'd have to say yeah, it means as much today as it did 20 years ago. Very little, in either case.

poly_1der

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getting caught by parents when a teen Posted: 8/19/2008 6:41:58 AM
No....but I did get caught by my teenage daughter, TWICE! Once while having sex with my partner at the time, and the other, and infinitely more embarrassing, when I was home alone, masturbating on the couch, and she walked in unannounced. YIKES!!!

Poly_1der

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A little self-respect ladies Posted: 8/18/2008 6:22:18 PM
I have never been approached for a threesome. I have never been with a man who asked me for one either. Well I sure find THAT hard to believe! Oh, I'm not doubting your honesty, toomuch, I just find it really hard to imagine NOT having men want to discuss the bisexuality or threesome issue early in the "relationship". I'm not saying everyone I've dated has, but more have than haven't suggested one or both of those options. One of the first things that most guys who contact me ask is "are you bi?"....dreamers!

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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The Kinky Test Posted: 8/13/2008 6:50:02 AM
Geez, I'm shocked! My score was 789, and I thought I was kinkier than most - but I guess there are still a lot of people out there who are kinkier than I am. Not sure whether to be glad or sad...guess neither, I'm just happy that at least I've had some (many) of those experiences!

Poly_1der

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Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/13/2008 6:30:59 AM
It's not the best use for baby oil. Lube is probably a good idea if your man finds you "uncomfortable", but oil based lubes will destroy latex condoms. Baby oil also has added scent (it's basically just scented mineral oil) which can lead to vaginal infections and/or irritation. I admit I enjoy playing with oil - frequently - love the feeling as I slide oily bodies together! But it's not very good lubrication for intercourse. KY works really well, as do any number of commercial sex lubes (Pjur is my personal favorite...FEELS like oil, only even more slippery!). I just realized this is the second time I've mentioned Pjur lube in posts today...no, I'm not affiliated with the company...just really like the stuff!

Poly_1der

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CBT Posted: 8/13/2008 6:24:20 AM
I have no desire to inflict pain on such a gorgeous part of man's anatomy. Ah, but what if that man WANTS you to inflict a little pain? What if pain turns him on? I'm down for just about anything that will make a man crazy with lust, so if my guy likes some CBT, hell YES I'll give it to him...and enjoy it! That's IF he's into it. There are so many variations in sexual experiences that there's no need to try to convince someone to do something they're not into...just move on to something else!

Poly_1der

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What is the bumble bee technique Posted: 8/13/2008 6:15:17 AM
isspringhere: If you are talking about hummmmmmmmming,,,,,,yes it does ;) LOL!! I was going to say the same thing! My ex husband used to like for me to give him what he called a hummer

Poly_1der

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Is it reasonable to expect that a man and woman in a relationship ought to have the same sex drive? Posted: 8/13/2008 6:11:57 AM
Expectations are unreasonable, period. Once you come to "expect" something, you're just setting yourself up for disappointment. People should forget about expectations, and claiming "rights" to things, and just go with the flow more.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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What makes women physically horny - Mental or physical stimulation? Posted: 8/13/2008 6:04:35 AM
It begins with mental stimulation, and then progresses to physical. The mental can be covert - IOW it needn't be directly about sex. But you want to establish sexual attraction somehow...maybe by paying close attention to her when she's speaking to you, maybe by complimenting her appearance...different things appeal to different people, and it's YOUR job to figure out what's going to appeal to her, and make you attractive in her eyes.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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How do I tell my family? Posted: 8/13/2008 5:55:45 AM
Have sex in your parents bed with them home. ....while your parents are IN the bed!

Poly_1der

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The only way I can orgasm.. Posted: 8/13/2008 5:52:44 AM
I was the same way for MANY years...except I didn't even orgasm when I was on top...it HAD to be clitoral stimulation. And I had such a hard time achieving orgasm through oral sex that I just ruled it out, and gave myself nearly all of my orgasms. Things have changed dramatically for me It took being with a guy who was able to perform oral just right for me, so that I knew what I needed to have happen in order to have an orgasm. Once I'd reached that point, it was more a matter of just telling the guy what he could do to make it more pleasurable and intense for me. Not everyone is trainable, but the vast majority is Same story for vaginal intercourse...once I found someone who could make me scream, I was able to use what I'd learned from that person to direct my future partners. So IMO, what it really takes to have great sexual experiences is to have the right partner...the one who can help you discover your sexual responses and reactions to different types of stimuli; and you use that information to make the experience all it can be from that point on! You can also take some time to explore yourself! Get out your favorite dildo (probably not a vibrator, if you're trying to figure out what would feel good for a penis to do...penises don't vibrate, unfortunately) and just go exploring. When you find a spot that feels really good, try to direct a "live" penis toward that same spot. You can use your fingers to explore as well. It's all about getting to know your body and its inner workings, and sharing that knowledge with your partner.

Poly_1der

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Lube Question Posted: 8/13/2008 5:34:42 AM
I vote for Pjur...it IS a little more costly, but it's satiny smooth and lasts longer than water based lubes. Plus it's safe to use with latex condoms. Another option is to use non latex condoms, then you can use oil based lubes....but the combination of the non latex condoms and oil based lube is much more expensive than Pjur lube with latex condoms. And the oil based lubes don't last as long as Pjur lube does.

Poly_1der

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social blunders on first meeting? Posted: 8/11/2008 8:51:05 AM
I was seeing a "socially inept" guy for nearly three years. Once it became obvious that he was always that way, I just became pickier about the places I'd go with him, lol. By the time that relationship fizzled and died, we were pretty much just staying in (which, undoubtedly, had something to do with WHY it fizzled and died). For anyone who's curious, the guy wasn't rude or anything...just no good at holding an interesting conversation...and ended up boring everyone he talked to. Somehow, he never seemed to realize that he was boring....and didn't care that his grammar was atrocious either. OH, he DID have some rather bad manners as well...to the point of actually lifting one cheek to pass gas. Yeah, that one's gone.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Keeping ya socks on during sex... Posted: 8/11/2008 8:38:25 AM
LMAO!! I find this hilarious! OK, I used to see a guy who always left his socks on during sex. He was a very passionate lover...had all the right moves...but he just wouldn't take his socks off! He didn't offer any explanation for it either, when I mentioned him never really being quite naked when he always kept his socks on, he just said "yeah". Even when I eventually mentioned the fact that it's decidedly UN-sexy to be wearing your socks and nothing else, all he said was "yeah", but kept them on, nonetheless. Strange.

Poly_1der

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Under Arm Flab Posted: 8/11/2008 5:05:59 AM
Youtube has a lot of free workout videos which will show you the moves so you can learn the proper form. You might also want to check out sparkpeople.com - it's a free nutrition/fitness site, with recipes and workouts. There are literally hundreds of free sites online to help with fitness and diet, About.com has a lot of information as well. Good luck, I'm fighting the same battle.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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What's wrong with giving out your phone #? Posted: 8/10/2008 4:32:47 PM
I'm gonna be the one to go against the flow in this one. I don't give my number to people I meet IRL any more often than I give it to people I've corresponded with online - and I don't do EITHER very readily. The reason is that once a person has my phone number, I can't take it back. I don't have a cell phone, so if I give someone my phone number I'm giving out my landline, and I've had too many experiences with people not observing anything even resembling "phone courtesy" - calling at all hours, regardless of the inconvenience to me. And then there are the people who get bored and call just out of boredom...and end up boring ME as well. If someone really wants to get to know me, I always prefer doing that in person, face to face. And, in fact, I actually prefer that they don't call me unless they have something to tell me...not just to kill (my) time. Too many people are guilty of "phone abuse" for me to give them MY number to abuse!

Poly_1der

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Boring Sex Posted: 8/10/2008 4:16:25 PM
Yeah, but I finally got divorced

Poly_1der

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How do I tell my date his breath is awful? Posted: 8/10/2008 1:21:20 PM
Sometimes a person has CHRONIC bad breath, and no "quick fix" (gum, mints, etc) is gonna take care of the problem. There are a number of reasons, other than just hygiene, that a person might have bad breath. If it's just onion or garlic breath, by all means, tell him how MUCH he needs that gum or mint, and hope he does a better job of brushing next time you see him. But for those people whose breath smells like sh*t (literally) all the time, the gum isn't gonna do the trick, not for long anyway. I've been with a few guys who had this kinda halitosis, and since I've known them I've read where intestinal gas, if not passed, will often be absorbed into the system, and passes through the BREATH! I think these guys needed some medical intervention, but I didn't have the guts to tell 'em, so I finally just stopped seeing them...all because of their bad breath

Poly_1der

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First date and she brought along her kids Posted: 8/10/2008 1:10:41 PM
That's in even worse taste than talking on your cell phone during a dinner date, or checking the personals while with your date. Some people just have NO manners!

Poly_1der

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Checking pof while on a date Posted: 8/10/2008 12:56:41 PM
Yeah, I've had someone do that as well. As far as I'm concerned, that's just bad manners and in poor taste, like having a conversation on your cell phone while on a date.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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advice / potential problems dating a vegetarian Posted: 8/10/2008 6:24:39 AM
Vegetarians are easy to live with. My daughter has been vegetarian since she was 15, and she's now raising her children as vegetarians. There's really no need for concern, they don't need "special" food, they just don't eat meat. A vegan is a little more restrictive, and I'm really not sure how that might affect things, since cheese and dairy are also out; but a simple vegetarian just won't eat meat, period. Virtually every restaurant has vegetarian options, and even those that don't are capable of fixing a dish without meat. I really don't think it should cause any problems at all for you.

Poly_1der

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Anybody had any success with Craig's List? Posted: 8/10/2008 6:13:56 AM
Oddly enough, after reading (and responding to) this post, I decided to post another personal ad on Craigs List. I got 150 emails within a few hours, and have already met three people (in 4 days) from there. That's more than I meet from POF in a year!

Poly_1der

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Punctuality Pet Peeve... Posted: 8/10/2008 6:03:45 AM
Boy, I'm with ya on this one, OP! Punctuality (or lack thereof) is a real issue for me as well. I've always taken it personally, feeling as if people consider my time less important than theirs - which translated to they thought THEY were more important than ME. But after knowing more than a few people who are consistently late, I've come to realize that, while a few of them just need to be made aware of the fact that to some of us their tardiness shows a lack of respect and they will sincerely work on being more punctual, others just don't seem to have any real concept of time, or they overestimate their abilities, or something. If I really like the person, and things remain the same even after I've told him my feelings about his blatent disregard for the value of MY time, I'll simply adjust my expectations. In those cases I guess I do consider it a character flaw, at least in my opinion. But if everything else between us makes me really want to spend time with him, I just stop looking for him to be here at the time we'd agreed upon. With us ladies, sometimes we really underestimate the time it takes us to get our hair, makeup, etc finished, so are always rushing around at the last minute to get the finishing touches on. Interesting that we can hold down jobs, and show up for work on time, but can't seem to do the same thing for dates. I think, if you really enjoy the time you spend with her, it might be best to just accept the fact that punctuality isn't her strong suit, and change your expectations to adjust to the reality of the situation.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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She went away, had sex, and now is back... Posted: 8/10/2008 12:15:58 AM
I think I'd be most apt to choose option "a) Forget about it and go back out with them", though in some rare circumstances (if I felt really betrayed for some reason) I'd choose option "b) Dwell on it and don't go back out with them.", just so I didn't end up inadvertently implementing option "c) Go back out with them and throw it in their face every chance you get." because I was unable to really forgive and forget the feeling of betrayal.

Poly_1der

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his longest relationship was 3 months and he is nearly 38. Posted: 8/10/2008 12:07:19 AM
This may be way off base, but 3 months is the time period most often mentioned in the articles and books I've read that touched on the subject of monogamy, and the length of time a lot of people can remain comfortable and fulfilled in a relationship. I know it certainly was for ME, back when I was still "doing monogamy" (or, more aptly, serial monogamy...as it turned out...due to the 3 month thing) So maybe the guy really just hasn't met "the right one", or maybe he's just not hardwired for long term monogamy.

Poly_1der

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Can I get into a physical relationship with my erectile dysfunction? Posted: 8/4/2008 2:18:27 PM
YES! And I've been in relationships with men who have ED, believe me! One guy just told me, flat out, "My****won't get hard anymore", so I told him he'd just better get REALLY good at oral sex, lol. The only time I found it difficult to deal with ED was when the guy wasn't honest with me about it from the beginning....so we both had to suffer a LOT of frustration as I used all my tricks to try to get it to work. But, in his defense, he was probably still in a denial stage, because he did eventually get some meds to help in out in that area ;)

Poly_1der

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Does sex get better after you hit 40? Posted: 8/4/2008 2:11:20 PM
GapeMan, aren't you the one who only has sex with paid escorts and hookers? How the hell would YOU know??!

Poly_1der

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Does sex get better after you hit 40? Posted: 8/4/2008 2:10:02 PM
Absof---inglutely!

Poly_1der

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Is exotic dancing prostitution? Posted: 8/4/2008 2:01:17 PM
Is exotic dancing prostitution? Of course it isn't! What a silly notion THAT is! A dancer is a dancer, and as far as I know, they don't ever have pimps! Looks like your high horse is a bit too high for you to get a clear picture.

Poly_1der

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Anybody had any success with Craig's List? Posted: 8/4/2008 9:24:42 AM
Yeah, I've met people from Craig's List. Never really found a great connection there, but I think I did better there than I do here!

Poly_1der

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Is going to the lake for a dinner picnic and moonlit swim a bad first date??? Posted: 8/4/2008 9:22:23 AM
I think you should go for it, if it sounds like something fun for you. I took a first date to the beach one time, and made the comment that "it really takes a confident woman to take a guy to the beach on a first date, because he's immediately going to see you at your worst. No makeup, hair all messy, and swimwear that can't help but reveal all your flaws!" But if you're ok with that, then it sounds like a great date to me!

Poly_1der

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If there is no connection, do you need to tell them so? Posted: 8/4/2008 9:11:21 AM
If I don't feel any connection, I generally say that at the end of the date...after the usual "pleasantries" of "had a great time" or "you're a really nice person" or some such thing. I follow the pleasantries with "but I really don't feel any connection", and that's the end of it. Sometimes they agree, sometimes they don't, but are willing to accept my opinion, and sometimes they want to try to convince me to change my mind. But in any case, I've done the honest and human thing and at least told them how I really feel about them. I'd much rather hear it straight from the guy's mouth if he's feeling that way, but would rather get the news in an email than to just be put on ignore after I've invested my time in meeting him. IMO, that's just plain cold.

Poly_1der

Joined: 1/8/2006

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Girls, how do I say it with out getting attacked? Posted: 8/4/2008 6:58:30 AM
Hey, you know what you don't want, that's fine. Me, I don't want to be with a guy that has no teeth, but neglects to mention it on his profile, and lies about his age when he is clearly a decade older. koff, koff OP I'll second that!! Well put, Ursula!

Poly_1der

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 8/4/2008 6:16:33 AM
No, of course not! It is never OK for ANY person to even do so much as touch another person without their consent. 'Nuff said.

Poly_1der

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Has the reality of age affected you? Posted: 8/4/2008 6:14:57 AM
Wow...I thought this topic was going to be a little different than the negativity I saw upon reading it! OK, here's MY answer, FWIW. I am a 52 year old grandmother who has completed menopause, and have the sags, bags, and flabby skin tone to prove it. Has the reality of age affected me? HELL YES!! I look in the mirror and wonder what ever happened to that nice looking lady I saw in there only a year or two ago. I cant believe I could possibly have aged so much in such a short time! And I really needed someone like you driving it home even more. BUT, I still have had only 3 grey hairs, so does that still qualify me to say I'm "young looking"?

Poly_1der

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Are Teachers more apt to be sexually deviant? Posted: 8/3/2008 10:52:36 AM
Dunno...I thought it was female nurses who were sexually deviant (ex nurse here, turned pro-domme :chuckle:).

Poly_1der

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Girls who can only orgasm once... Posted: 8/3/2008 10:49:49 AM
DAVE632 said they can't orgasm more than once because their clit becomes too sensitive. That doesn't happen with G-Gasms Oh, very good! Yes, that was definitely the answer for ME. It was when I was still experiencing only clitoral orgasms that I was a "single O" lady. Once I learned of the G-Gasms (as you call them) multiple orgams were just expected! BTW, to all of you single "O" ladies, how do you balance the scales to make it OK that you've had to endure PMS, hot flashes, monthly bleeding, cramps, childbirth, etc. ?? I've always considered multiple "O"s to be the great equalizer!

Poly_1der

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Msg: 41 (view)

Girls who can only orgasm once... Posted: 8/3/2008 10:39:50 AM
I've gone from being a single "O" person to being a multiple "O" person. That happened when one of my partners refused to take no for an answer, and just kept doing what he was doing until everything started happening again! Yay!!! One thing that is still VERY important though, STAY AWAY FROM THE CLIT until there's been significant recovery time! That still remains ultra sensitive after a single "O", but as long as the touch is focused on other places (eg. I still like vaginal stimulation, even while the clitorus is recovering), I'm usually ready and willing to go on and on....and on and on and on and on and on...etc. etc. etc.

Poly_1der

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all about women's private parts Posted: 8/3/2008 10:34:04 AM
I've only been involved with one man (out of more than I'll admit, lol) who didn't like ladies' genitalia. But he was strange in many ways, so it's almost as if he doesn't even count, lol.

Poly_1der

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Primarily for the older posters, but...What would your kids say if... Posted: 8/3/2008 10:27:00 AM
My kids know as much about my sex life as anyone who's not a sex partner does. They've seen my "toys", and my older daughter even walked in on me when I was using one once! (YIKES!!) As I'm a professional dominatrix, they've both seen a lot more stuff than most people ever do, and yet they've turned out just fine. The older daughter has told me quite a bit about her own sex life...more than I cared to hear, to be honest...but I appreciate the fact that she feels she can talk to me about her life. The younger daughter seems to prefer a "don't ask, don't tell" relationship, which is fine and dandy by me!

Poly_1der

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Msg: 43 (view)

Dating someone slightly developmentally disabled Posted: 8/3/2008 6:19:34 AM
I have. In fact, I am now...my partner/roommate is developmentally disabled. He has very little control over his emotions, so he's very quick to cry, and when he gets angry it's like hell's fury personified! But he's the sweetest guy, I think because of his disability. He's more attuned to the emotions of others, due to him having the emotional maturity of a grade-schooler. I have certainly done a lot worse than being with this extremely compassionate person

Poly_1der

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Letting go!! Posted: 8/3/2008 6:07:45 AM
That's a really tough one. I tend to hold on a lot longer than I should, I'm afraid. Because letting go as soon as I realize there's no future for us is just too painful...I'm still holding onto the dream of what "could be". Dreams die hard, and it's the death of the dream that makes it so painful to end a relationship, so I tend to hold on until the reality takes enough of a bite out of that dream so that I'm able to let go with a modicum of peace of mind. All the while, of course, I'm keeping him apprised of my feelings, and letting him know that we are heading for the end of what we thought we might have. Sucks...BIG time!

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