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Joined: 3/6/2009

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how do you stop the heart ache Posted: 4/7/2009 9:30:37 PM
My best remedy is the old addage; "Out of sight - out of mind." Tell her to leave you alone or block her number. It may seem harsh but darling it is the only way to move on. By talking and texting with her - you are reliving the experience over and over again. Sometimes it take a few minutes for us to get back up when we've been knocked on our asses. And once you get up, honey get moving. Move forward - always move forward. Go easy on yourself and take care. ~Fhoenicia~

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Disillusioned Posted: 4/7/2009 9:22:33 AM
I think I was disillusioned about how internet dating would go. I had heard many good things about POF - I know of 3 people who have met and fallen in love. This is good for the rural area that I live in - very good!!! However, I am frustrated with lack of common courtesy and refinement this medium brings. Not that I wasn't expecting or prepared to meet a few odd balls - but just not so many. Just because you are not standing infront of a person doesn't means you have carte blanche - that because there is a computer screen between you as opposed to a table that manners and general respect have to go out the window. That it suddenly okay for a person to ask you to "describe your genitalia", or ask if you spit or swallow? I just don't get it. Both profiles say looking for LONG TERM - I guess long-term means different things to each of us! Why do you think people act differently over the computer - or do you think they are not acting at all and this is who they truly are deep down? I look forward to input. Thanks y'all. ~Fhoenicia~

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Have you ever been caught Masturbating? Posted: 4/6/2009 12:43:54 PM
Careful what you wish for - I caught my BFF's husband 2x. Once at my place - he stayed with me for a few months while they were moving from Ottawa to Montreal (he was getting a job & apartment for them). I get up to go pee in the middle of the night he has a porno on in my Livingroom and he's spanking the monkey. The next time, I was visiting them back in Ottawa and I got out of the shower and was walking to the spare room when he was on his sofa infront of the webcam with someone - again choking his chicken. I mean - DUDE! Later when that evening I was drunk and told them I had seen - he said he had hoped that I would catch him and offer to help him. I was completely disgusted.

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Something that spoke to me Posted: 3/31/2009 11:11:16 AM
Lodged The rain to the wind said; "You push and I'll pelt." They smote the garden bed That the flowers actually knelt, And lay lodged - though not dead. I know how those flowers felt. by Robert Frost This poem spoke to me of heart-break and loss. The interesting thing is that the flowers always get back up. As does a broken heart and spirit mend with time.

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Single, Divorced or Seperated Posted: 3/30/2009 9:58:35 PM
So you would wonder about a gal would be "single" vs. "seperated or divorced". Thanks for answering Cowboy!

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why would he do that? Posted: 3/30/2009 9:53:19 PM
Maybe he was telling the truth? Maybe he meant exactly what he said to you: "he said i was his everything and that i had changed his life and gave him another shot at life". The thing we forget is that people change their minds and you should not let it take away from what he said - it is entirely possible that in that moment - it was exactly what he was feeling. Does changing your mind make you a liar? No it doesn't - impetuous, for sure? Rash - yup probably, but don't automatically think that he lied to you or did not mean it. Chin-up darling!

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Single, Divorced or Seperated Posted: 3/30/2009 9:12:22 PM
Would you rather see a gal's marital status as: Single, Divorced or Seperated? Or does it matter? I ask because I see a lot of "Single" men on POF and at first, I was wondering why these guys had remained single - they are handsome and from what the profile states - they all seem to be normal (I know - I know 80% BS - 20% Truth). But I wondered what was wrong with them? Players? Cheaters? Liars? Abusers? The list goes on and on - but then I had to laugh at myself because I am single - and I am not a player, a cheater, a liar or an abusive control freak. Then I looked at the divorced and wondered why? Then again I stepped back and just figured I was plum crazy! Putting way too much thought into it, do y'all do that? Try and read between the lines of a profile and are y'all suspicious of us too?

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Why does she think I'm using Myspace to cheat on her? Posted: 3/16/2009 11:20:46 AM
I must agree with celebrtlife on this - it is an easy call. I don't understand why you would even post yourself on POF? Everyone knows these are really dating sites! If you want to make friends - go out and make friends with your fiance! Get some couple friends. I understand about work colleagues - you work them, see them, eat lunch with them everyday - I get it, we all have work friends. I really clicked with a guy I worked with, we got each others humour and laughed allot - and he could not wait for me to meet his wife and kids, and when I met them they were awesome. Now I am friends with both of them. You have no business being on this site or any dating site of this type if you have a fiance - no woman in her right mond would trust you either - vice versa for men in this same situation. You are looking for trouble and if you put 1/2 as much effort into your relationship as you put into this website, you find yourself in a better realtionship. If you are not happy - then move on. But the way you are playing her is not fair and not very gentlemanly. It doesn't matter about the past - it is now that counts. Show some respect to your lady, it appears that she is not the only one with control issues. You use these websites in a way to control her - to keep her wondering if she is going to lose you - this is not a healthy relationship. Get out before we see you guys on COPS or somthing. Life it too short for this craziness. Be kind to each other and support each other. Best of luck to you both.

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