I can't believe how many women I have met on here, in person, who claim to be "average" or "a few extra pounds", and were borderline obese... or didn't look anything like their picture.Upside? Don't make me laugh.

They often have difficulty understanding that I as a mature woman sees sex as a celebration of a loving relationship not a test drive to see if you are sexually compatible. Nor am I interested in friends with benefits. At may age I want a friend, companion and lover in that order.

Well, I guess I find it more convenient to have a life partner there to participate with me in life's little daily activities than to go it on my own

The good news is that there is nothing mechanically wrong with the skeletal structure, but I too wonder about the prevalence of back issues as we get older.

Only you can answer that. If there are no conveniences that you can think of, then you probably won't put much effort into the project, and won't miss out on any of them.

Hmmmm....let me see.....he keeps fit and in shape, she keeps fit and in shape, and the two of them have an active sex life.......

My goodness...what a concept! I really wonder why more people don't realize that! I mean, what woman would not want to have sex with a guy with a strong hard body? What man would not want to have sex with a woman with a strong lithe figure? And...they even love each other!!!!

IMO, when one goes slow it means the chemistry is not there. They are seeking it. Why else would they need to take a length of time getting to know the other person? Is it really that difficult to know someone? And what is so important to know?

Most meet-and-greets are one-shot affairs, even when each and both are completely honest. Chemistry is far more than words on a screen. Face-to-face, it works or it doesn't. If both people have been completely honest, it is a go or no-go within ninety seconds. After that, it is all politeness or deepening involvement.

According to every woman under 40 I have talked to, men over 40 all have this issue."

how can you not expect that life will be either largely a single affair, punctuated increasingly less frequently by relationships of convenience?

There is another factor here, and its atmosphere. Its a little difficult to stay focused when her Yorkie is climbing on the bed licking your balls, the kids are beating on the door asking for the car keys, and her text messages are coming in like rockets into Gaza! Add to that her constant yammering, and its little wonder ANYTHING happens in the bedroom.

Correct me if I am wrong, but aren't women the ones who want romance and atmosphere for love- making?

Two words > Peanut butter

I'm really in my 90s

I met a women in her 50s and we hit it off perfectly. She and I had a good romatic experience...except that I was having trouble keeping aroused. So I went to my doctor and he prescribed Cialis. When I need it I take 1/2 pill about 30 minutes before becoming intement. It works like a charm and that small dosage lasts for 3 to 4 days.

Some are capable of emotional connections...others arent...it doesnt make one group better than another...that wasnt what I was implying.

.what I was trying to get people to realize is not to give up and not think that cause one or two posters (or more) wont be interested in you..there are more who will.

I his my dating from my kids when they were little. I dont believe in introducing one's kids to anyone where you and they havent made a commitment to each other first. Many of you forumites have argued that on other threads so dont start up on me again. It's just an emotional mistake, as I see it.

I agree, somewhat. When peope gauge their association with another person based on sexual performance, I sincerely challenge anyone to claim the relationship is a deep emotional relationship. I say that because, if the man suddenly has a problem and is diagnosed with ED, that emotional connection will weaken rapidly and the woman will leave for another person who can get an erection.

Interestingly, in my treatment with males over 40 experiencing ED, more than half, are experiencing these challenges as the result of psychological reasons.

It is interesting that the facts about ED article fails to mention the testosterone hormone deficiency and yet, it's an issue that is more common and less expensive to address. In fact, if the level is too low, ED drugs won't have an effect.

.they arent really as interested in being in LOVE as being LOVED, some are just in love with love...and they dont care as long as appearances are made, they have the "in" things including boyfriend or girlfriend.

in all honesty very few on this thread have the emotional fiber to be that open and willing to do so...

while longer men might have more stamina...are they really able to deal with their emotions...can they emotionally satisfy you?

ps now is the time for "couples" to study tantra yoga!

Most above average fit guys prefer not to date the less fit.

What that means is we aren't willing to put up w/ idiots any more. and you know some men can be acting like idiots.

My question is if she doesn't want me then why all the texts? And how do i get her to stop without looking like a wuss or a jerk?

Hmmm....that might be fun....depends on who is doing the scolding.

Just something I have noticed .... I have found men who smoke pot ( not to the extreme) seem to have no problem with erections ... maybe just a coincidence ? I think we should do a study

Must be awful to be loved only for your bank account instead of your body, brains and personality.

I'll bet they are damn few and far between.

8...be great in bed [at least five times a day]

just sex is the easy bit...be nice to find one that makes my heart happy as well as my groin. lol

Is sensitivity in a man is a plus or a minus to you?

I guess reading all this stuff the thing I should do is wear a t-shirt that says "Hi, I don't need a little blue pill to perform in bed!"
I am going to wear it when I go out and see if my hit ratio improves at all..I am going to wear it when I go out and see if my hit ratio improves at all.

I think a person's appearance and lifestyle reflect who they are.

the risk of birth defects is not only due to the 40+ woman's contribution.

The tables have turned and now they feel they have to give their mom advice, look out for her. I think it's adorable. My 3 little boys have become men who protect me.

I wonder if dogs have problems with ED as they get older.

Since men are mostly not eager to discuss this ... even with their best buds (Message 2) ... I seriously doubt that we'll ever really know how many men are affected by it.

The only secret I have is that I wear a girdle.

All I can conclude from this thread is that I should be spending more time in bed with a woman while I still can perform. If I believe the comments here, its only a matter of time before I run out of lead in my pencil, and the last chapter of my tale of physical prowess is complete!
Terrifying, really.....

They are also separate individuals from you, and I assume they have just begun their own paths to wisdom as adults. I would think they hold an honored place in your circle of support, yet finding the balance in their level of influence is probably tricky.

My youngest is 8, and he probably has the best radar of us all: "Is she fun?"That said, I am very careful to keep my parenting and social lives separate. My kids don't so much as see anyone I'm dating unless the relationship turns into something serious and it appears this woman will be in our lives for a long while.

Take a deep breath! Step back and reflect on why you like him and then write and tell him what about him makes him the person you want in your life, re-enforce in his mind the reasons he is the man for you.