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HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Can you love someone in just a few weeks? Posted: 7/19/2009 4:05:13 PM
The dictionary defines quite a few things as love, and this sounds like one of the dictionary definitions to me. This kind of love is what is called "infatuation," being "in love," and a few other synonyms (e.g., "head over heels"). Because of the influence of Xianity on American culture, many people have a snooty idea of what love is, imposing the definition of only one of the three Greek words commonly translated "love" in the Greek translation of the Old Testament upon our English word love, and eschewing the idea that any other meaning is valid. But it is English usage, not the Greek translation of either the Old or New Testaments, that dictates what English words mean, and we use the word "love" in quite a few different ways. So, yes, this is love. The question is, is it enough upon which to base a relationship. Probably not. You need to pursue some of the other kinds of "love" defined in the dictionary in order to have a successful relationship. But this could be a good start. Oh, and as I read the dictionary's definitions of love, it would appear that all of the kinds of love that define the word "love" can happen in as little as an hour. For example. . . A person who throws himself in front of a stranger, to protect that person from a shot fired by a criminal, would be demonstrating what Xians like to call "agape" love (sacrificial, self-denying goodness for the benefit of another irrespective of merit). You can see a person and instantly be infatuated with him or her. You can make love with someone you've just met, if you were both inclined to such intimacy so quickly. (I made love to my first lover on the night I met her.) A daughter who has no recollection of her parents can have a familial affection for them upon meeting them for the first time, as many have seen in the occasional news reports of such late reunions.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Lip gloss Posted: 7/19/2009 3:51:37 PM
I would imagine it is common. Yeah, it makes your lips look attractive, but to kiss lips covered in it is like kissing a slice of raw bacon. It just feels creepy. Same thing with lip stick and lip gloss. Ugh.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 371 (view)

What is it with men N freaking condoms!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 7/19/2009 3:41:00 PM
Is your reaction the same when a guy goes to go down on you without a dental dam? And do you insist he have it on when you go down on him? Because, frankly, once a guy has had oral contact with your hoo-hoo, or you've had oral contact with his junk, you've kind of lost the argument for a condom. Of course, herpes 2 is normally spread genital to genital (it can also be caused by a herpes 1 infected mouth coming into contact with genitalia), but herpes 1 & 2 can penetrate a condom. Anyway, if you have objections to a guy giving you head with a dental dam barrier, then you will understand why a guy does not wish to wear a condom. Unfortunately, when the sexual instinct has been put into motion, the higher functions of the brain (viz., logic, reason, precautions) cease to be a controlling factor in either a man or woman's actions. Just be thankful you don't get quite as excited quite as fast as he does.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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What do you think about cougars? Posted: 7/19/2009 3:30:16 PM
When I was 21 I was snagged by a 34 year old. Then, when I turned 22, by a 38 year old. Both were gorgeous women. In some ways, I wished it hadn't have happened, but I have to say, I had a great time.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Do ANY guys make love rather than F***ing? Posted: 7/19/2009 3:25:30 PM
I've always made love, but that didn't stop the women I was with from blurting out, "FK me, fk me!"

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Should foreplay be equal or mostly about her? Posted: 7/19/2009 3:21:42 PM
Hell, all I need to be ready is to see my lover naked. So, yeah, I try to keep the foreplay about her. Once in a while, if she insists, it's nice when my lover teases me, but I don't really need it. Of course, sometimes a woman needs to tease her man for her own increased pleasure.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Ever heard Big girl vaginas are tighter than thin girls is this true?? Posted: 7/19/2009 3:12:52 PM
The first woman I had sex with was the thinnest, and she was also the tightest. Almost too tight. When she asked me to get in, I kept thinking, Is that as far in as I can go? Once I was fully in, I was afraid to back too far out, for fear I'd have to go through the same struggle to get back in. This is no joke. And, frankly, I can't say that being so tight was an advantage. It was rather disconcerting.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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do you buy that i only did that because i was drunk excuse? Posted: 7/19/2009 3:04:31 PM
Well, people lie, so I'm not sure if I would. But, I believe it's a valid excuse if it happened. The first woman I kissed was when I was drunk, and I woke the next morning and suddenly recalled the event and felt horribly mortified. That memory plagued my mind each morning, when I would awake, for months afterward. I certainly never would have kissed that woman had I been sober.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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what's with women going to the toy box instead of the real thing Posted: 7/19/2009 2:57:44 PM
From what I've read in various publications, most healthy men masturbate whether or not they have access to a woman. The explanation that typically is given is that no woman can meet all of a man's sexual needs, that in fact masturbation provides something a man cannot get from a woman. So, I'm guessing the same would be true of at least some women, too. Of course, if a woman in a relationship typically forgoes intercourse for toys, then that sounds like a problem that you should discuss with her.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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can you have a crush in your late 20`s early 30`s? Posted: 7/19/2009 2:52:18 PM
Having a crush is the same thing as being in love, or being infatuated. And it can happen into your your 40s and 50s, even, and, I imagine, as late as your 110th birthday.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Is Analingus the new Cunnilingus? Posted: 7/19/2009 2:49:31 PM
Analingus? Sounds vile. It also sounds like the perfect way to get e-coli poisoning, as well as a host of other diseases.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 7/19/2009 2:45:02 PM
I can't say that I've ever found this to be the case.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Whats an instant turn on for you Posted: 7/19/2009 2:42:25 PM
There are lots of things; for example, when a woman: Flashes me her bare breasts, or her bottom, or her hoo-hoo, or even when she flashes herself in her undies (especially if they're white cotton). Caresses my chest with her finger tips. Gives me a minty French kiss. Gives me a slow, not quite soft, kiss on my cheek, or one on an eyelid.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Why is no head an automatic turn off for guys Posted: 7/19/2009 2:30:39 PM
Not all of us are that big into it. But, I'm guessing a big part of it is that it shows us you don't think we're repulsive, or that our**** are repulsive, and that is meaningful. But, if a guy wants it, he should reciprocate.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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If they call us women Cougars, what do they call the Men? Posted: 7/19/2009 2:27:40 PM
How about calling older men who go out with younger women "Rolling Stones," since the band by that name are a bunch of old farts who all seem to have young girlfriends.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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ok boys which do u prefer boobs or butts? Posted: 7/19/2009 2:25:08 PM
Who cares what we like? There is always going to be a guy who likes small breasts and a bountiful butt. Okay, but you asked. I like all size breasts, up to a point, from virtually flat to ample. I'm not crazy about overly large breasts, however. I'm the same way about butts. I suppose, if I could pick the perfect body, it'd be a thin woman with a small, round butt and small to medium sized breasts (someone like Evangeline Lilly). But, really, it's the person who wears the body who makes the body exciting, and I've met some women with the "perfect body" who could never interest me, and women who were chunked out to here who utterly enchanted me. The first woman I ever kissed on the mouth (sober) was fat, with a bottom considerably larger than my own, and breasts that were definitely bountiful; and what a kiss it was!

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 7/19/2009 2:16:05 PM
Yeah, I do. My ex is a great woman, and I love her dearly. But we weren't meant to be married, and make better friends than spouses. I have a lot of female friends who I really like, but there's only one I'd ever marry.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Confused! What do men really seek? A nice woman that can be wild sexually or just plain wild period? Posted: 7/19/2009 2:11:41 PM
Few men expect women to be virgins, so that idea is a bit passe. I think most of us guys got wind, a long time ago, that women enjoy sex as much as we do. I don't know what other men want, but I want an attractive, kind, thoughtful, gracious woman who enjoys intelligent conversation, over dinner or side by side on the couch, and enjoys going places together, sharing projects, cuddling to watch a movie, and, yes, who also enjoys sharing her body with me a few times a week.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Can you fall in love over the phone? Posted: 7/19/2009 1:52:59 PM
I have seen a lot of statements, in various places, like the following one: "You can fall in love over the phone, email, and internet. However I think you’re falling in love with an idea in your head not with the actual person. Non direct contact such as phone conversations, emails, letters and instant messaging do not allow you to get a complete picture of the person you are courting. You do get some aspects of the person, but what you cannot get through those mediums your brain (fantasy part) fills in for you." If this is true, then someone like Helen Keller would never have a chance to feel connected with another person, much less to fall in love with a man, but could only feel connected with fantasies of other human beings (including their own parents). The fact is, no matter how many faculties we have at our disposal, any one of us can both connect with and fall in love with a fantasy of another person; it all depends on our willingness to observe what is observable, and on the other person to communicate the truth about himself. And, if you have no ability to see or touch or smell or hear or taste another person, but only his letters, then, if he is open and honest, you can certainly both connect with and fall in love with the real man without ever having seen him, if what he reveals to you about himself is appealing to you. But, the fact is, if you spend 50 years in intimate contact with a person you've fallen in love with, your infatuation (being in love is to be infatuated) will still be something of a fantasy, for what you are in love with will always only be a passion for a fraction of the man, since you can never truly know a person fully. All connections with other people are at least part fantasy, and who is to say what is the proper proportion? One would think that early on in a relationship, connections are mostly fantasy, while, many years later, they're mostly reality.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 7/19/2009 1:39:47 PM
There could be a number of meanings. Translation #1: You're not. Translation #2: I want you to believe I'm family oriented, or that I really like kids. Translation #3: I need an excuse for my failings.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Is it possible for Men & Women to Posted: 7/19/2009 1:29:05 PM
Hey, I'm a good guy, and I still think it's a treat when a woman I'm in love with has sex with me. So what! And I hope she thinks it's a treat, too. Object-Schmobject. When you're in the trows of passion, you both become objects to each other (especially, if you're like many people, and you actually fantasize about someone else during sex -- something I've NEVER done). Sure, there are lots of other things that go into good sex, too, but, really, when you get right down to it, you're looking, tasting, smelling, hearing, and feeling, not idealizing. The grand thoughts come before and after, not, as a rule, during sex.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Why women want guys to come to THEM Posted: 7/19/2009 1:06:44 PM
"The bottom line is, females don't have anything to offer a man but SEX because he doesn't need anything else BEING STRONG AND SELF-SUFFICIENT, so whatever she offers other than sex (caringness, emotional connections, etc) is useless. She instinctively knows this and feels humiliated about it, so seeks to pretend she has something to offer, so if males don't see THAT, but instead get happiness from sex, voila, she's pissed." Sounds like total crap. I'm not sure what kind of women you're meeting, but apparently you're flirting with the wrong ones. I'm sure a lot of women have nothing to offer but sex, but those aren't the kind of women I've ever dated, and they're certainly not the kind of women I enjoy spending my time with. In fact, as far as I'm concerned, a woman who has only sex to offer is really offering nothing more than an illusion. For sex to be good, a man has to be able to respect the woman with whom he is engaged in intercourse, has to appreciate her mind, her character, her dreams and aspirations, her drive, her abilities and competencies, and all that comprises who she is as a person, not just how she looks or feels when he's between her legs. A woman like that is a woman a man will find satisfying even when she gets fat, grey, and wrinkled.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Are women who don't need men likely to ever find one and be happy? Posted: 7/19/2009 12:52:49 PM
Gee! An attractive woman who doesn't need a man is the kind of woman I'd love to find. I make a decent living, for me, but I sure don't make enough to keep a woman in designer jeans and a growing collection of shoes and purses. I think a woman who doesn't need a man is more likely to be looking for a relationship based on love and mutual attraction than a woman who feels she needs a man. A woman who needs a man is looking for someone to support her, and will forgo a loving man for a man who may not be especially loving but who is rich.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Underwear - The New Relationship Indicator? Posted: 7/19/2009 12:48:05 PM
Believe me, the moment you leave a woman alone in your house/apartment, she's going to check out your underwear drawer. And if you're wearing tighty-whities, she's probably going to run.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women Posted: 7/19/2009 12:43:48 PM
Have you told him that you feel the same way about him? Perhaps, if you're being coy, or if you're making him chase you, he's not certain enough of your interest in him to give up pursuing other women. Men get lonely, too, and relationships with women -- whatever those relationships entail -- can help stave off oppressive loneliness.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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he never aks questions about my life Posted: 7/19/2009 12:34:56 PM
I'm confused, too, and I'm a guy. He sounds a bit self-involved.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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What's with girls not wanting military guys? Posted: 7/19/2009 12:30:10 PM
There may be a number of valid reasons for this. First, there is the military way of life; you, the soldier, airman, marine, or sailor are Government property and at the beck and call of the military. You get sent on TDYs away from home, and the girlfriends generally do not get to come along except at their own expense (and sometimes not even then). Second, in the Army and Marines, you are men who generally live by the sword (i.e., gun). It's an ancient proverb that he who lives by the sword will die by the sword. Some women are wise enough to know that they can't handle that kind of grief, and that there is little sense in increasing their odds of having to deal with it by dating a military guy. Third, enlisted men are often just out of high school and about as bright as a box of rocks. The smart high school graduates usually go to college, not into the military. Yes, I know, there are exceptions, but I suspect the rule is lower IQ guys are more inclined to go into the military than higher IQ guys. When I was in the Air Force, at Tinker Air Force Base, there were certain times of the evening when you could go into the day room on all three floors of eight barracks and the television set would be set to the same channel in all 24 day rooms; the channel that was playing The Dukes of Hazzard. Smart lot, those airmen were (and the Air Force has the highest standards for literacy of any of the armed forces). Other times, all 24 television sets would be tuned in to Hogan's Heroes. Other times all 24 would be tuned into Gomer Pyle. Yeah, real bright lot. Just the sort of guys a really great woman would want to spend her time with. Fourth, there's the haircut. Some women just don't like their men to wear their hair that short. So, even if you don't fit the stereotype, you've got to understand that there's a legitimate reason why the stereotype exists, and why a woman would use military life as a means to quickly weed out a large portion of the guys she doesn't even want to meet.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 65 (view)

True Love: I love you because...I love you despite of...or Posted: 7/19/2009 12:17:32 PM
"But if you truly love someone there's should be no reason." You will know that your love is true, then, when you love a poorly dressed, fat, ugly troll who is lazy and does nothing to merit your love. When it comes to a meaningful, hopefully intimate relationship, we love who we deem is worthy of our love. We love them despite their faults because we deem them worthy of our love. When a person is persistently faithless toward us, most of us will stop loving that person, or at least not continue to pursue intimacy with that person.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Will a non smoker date a smoker ? Posted: 4/14/2009 3:50:12 AM
Yes, I'd date a smoker. In fact, I kind of like the bottom of the ash tray taste I get when I kiss a smoker. Seriously. But, I'd rather my date did not smoke.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Ladies.....is anyone else NOT amused by....... Posted: 4/14/2009 3:45:14 AM
My initial reaction was to laugh at this, but it's really not funny. I mean, it is, but only because it's so stupid. I can't believe a guy would ask you such a question. I could only guess at the cup sizes of any of the women I've dated. I don't even know my ex-wife's cup size. Never thought to ask, even.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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kissing with tongues Posted: 4/14/2009 3:40:50 AM
smileygirl said: Well, I am a 41 year old woman, and have had a few dating encounters over the past couple of years since my marriage broke down. What I would like to know is why do guys seem to think that it is acceptable to gag a woman with his tongue on a first kiss. Don't get me wrong, I dont mind the tongues thing but wouldn't it be nice to enquire a little first - a gentle tongue touch to see if that is wanted? Come on guys pls explain this to me. I wouldn't ever dream of stickin my tongue to the back of your throat so why do it to me? Apparently there is a serious lack of gentlemen in the land that invented the ideal. I've never done this. In fact, while I like to be the one to initiate kissing, I wait for the woman to initiate French kissing. Of course, I do my best to tease it out of her, but until her tongue enters my mouth, mine stays put.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Age? How important is it? Posted: 4/14/2009 3:31:40 AM
It all depends on the person. There are few women under the age of 30 who would interest me for anything more than just sex. But I'm looking to develop a relationship, to have someone in my life who is significant to me, not to just have a temporary sexual partner. If a young woman shows, as on occasion some will do, extraordinary intelligence and maturity, I might take her seriously as a potential life partner. Women who look older than me don't especially interest me, but I did meet a woman, yesterday, who looked to be a good ten or 15 years older than me, who I thought was gorgeous (inside and out). My search is focused primarily on women who are about my own age, though.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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How many people have actually went on a date using this site? Posted: 4/14/2009 3:25:40 AM
You can see, under my photo, when I joined this site. I think it's been about four to six weeks, though. Anyway, the first day, alone, three women wrote to me asking me for dates. By the week's end, eight women had written. Now over 15 women have written me (I lost count after 15). I have been on four dates with three women. All of the dates have been very enjoyable, although the first woman I went out with tried to move way too fast with me. I have actually had to turn women away, because I don't have time and/or because of how far away some of them live.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Why are older women scared about dating younger men? Posted: 4/14/2009 3:16:57 AM
I don't know that it's true that older women are afraid of dating younger men. For years, when I was younger, I dated mostly older women. When I was 18 I dated an 28 year-old. When I was 21 I dated a 34 year-old. None of them seemed afraid about the relationships they had with me. The relationships ended because the age differences presented challenges they would have been idiots to take on as long-term commitments.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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What do men really want? Posted: 4/14/2009 3:03:27 AM
I think what a guy wants depends on the guy. We all want sex, of course; so do women. But, beyond that, it depends on the personality of the man. For me, if a woman makes me feel smart and important (not just important to her, but like I have an important place in the world), that's pretty incredible. After that, and only after that, giving the impression that she's just thrilled to be with me is the cherry on top.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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What is sexy to YOU when meeting a woman for the first time? Posted: 4/14/2009 2:58:26 AM
This question is primarily for the guys, I'm curious. What do you find sexy in a woman when you first lay eyes on her. I myself think it's more sexy to be subtle, especially in the way you dress..of course not buttoned up ruffled shirts, but not sleazy...to me that's suggesting only one thing..sometimes I think, especially when it comes to men, sexy is the attitude...any opinions ? I had my answer prepared before I clicked on the link to respond to the header question, and have changed it only slightly after seeing your photo: A sincere, dead on grin, like the one you have in your photo, is about the sexiest thing a woman can do when I first lay eyes on her. It may well result in love at first sight, even if she's not as stellar looking as you appear to be.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 70 (view)

I Caught You Looking: Is looking at a profile a green light to make contact? Posted: 4/14/2009 2:45:42 AM
1. Having a profile page is a green light to make first contact. 2. Seeing a thumbnail of a person is a green light to look at their profile page. 3. Thus, seeing the thumbnail of someone who has looked at your profile page is a green light to look at their profile page. 4. And then it's back to #1.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Holy crap... my first honest to goodness nutcase Posted: 4/14/2009 2:39:09 AM
So I'm thinking.. wow, we're really getting off on the wrong foot here over a simple misunderstanding, so I explain yet again that it was my fault because all I initially paid attention to was the pic.. and was saying that other people might make that mistake so she might want to change it. Again, she flips out telling me that I have no right to tell her how to make her profile and that I shouldn't be trying to control her... Apparently my sister in Upstate New York has been toying with you.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Why do guys give cell phone numbers instead of home numbers ...is that a clue they are taken? Posted: 4/14/2009 2:30:22 AM
I always give out my cell number. I don't have a land line. But if I did, I'd still give out my cell number, as I'd want to catch your call wherever I am, not just when I'm at home. Don't be so paranoid about this.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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why dont most men keep it trimmed ?? Posted: 4/14/2009 2:25:26 AM
Ok guys, i am curious to understand why alot of men just dont keep your "stuff" trimmed down stairs ? You expect women to be nice and "tidy" or "bare", so why doesnt the same go for you ????? For the same reason we don't shave our armpits or legs; it's a bit too girly-girl to be shaving our equipment. We really don't want other guys eying us weirdly in the locker room, wondering where the nose ring is. But, you know, it's really all about love; isn't it. If I was in love with a woman who wanted me shaved, I'm sure I'd do it. I'd also stop changing my clothes at the gym.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Brazillian (shaved) Posted: 4/14/2009 2:12:05 AM
I heard that New Jersey has legislation to prohibit Brazilians, because the wax is reused and people are getting STDs from it.

HexBex

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GUYS, do you like seeing ur girlfriend masturbating?? Posted: 4/14/2009 2:04:41 AM
I think i heard that guys enjoy seeing(OKAY, hearing too) girls masturbating. but i'm not sure if some guys don't like it??? would you want to see ur girlfriend masturbating?? and if yes, only with her hand, or dildo?? if a girl uses dildo while masturbating, will it look weird?? I can't imagine a guy who'd dislike it. If a woman masturbates, she's more likely to be able to enjoy sex with her lover. Women who don't masturbate often do not experience orgasms during sex.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

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Sex is over-rated Posted: 4/14/2009 1:41:54 AM
If it were not for sex, men and women would have no real reason to form exclusive relationships, much less to get married. Sex is not over-rated, it's misused. Sex is not merely physical; it is a bonding experience, which is very emotional. True, it is not the only real way to show love, but it is a powerful way of showing love between two people who already know each other intimately, and it has a bonding effect that solidifies their relationship and commitment to each other. Couples who have sex a lot are more likely to remain faithful to each other and to stay together; when sex begins to fade from the relationship, a couple is more likely to cease to be a couple. To love certainly is better than sex. However, there is no proof that love is eternal. If you really want to compare, while sex may be temporary, you can always feel it; whereas, whether or not love is eternal, you often cannot feel it.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 287 (view)

Is kissing a important part of intimacy??? Posted: 4/14/2009 1:30:07 AM
cimacutie said: I am dating someone who does not like to kiss. We have never spoken about it but it doesn't happen very often. Every once in awhile he will give me a lil kiss but not that passionate kiss that I want. We always end the night with a hug :( Is this something that I should just get over or is their a hidden reason behind the fact that we don't kiss?? We have been dating for 4 months...Any advise?? There's a good chance you've got bad breath, or that your saliva has a disagreeable Ph balance, or something of that nature. I love to kiss. But I had this one girlfriend I really loved who I really, really did not enjoy kissing. Her saliva was just to gross; too slick, or something. Plus she was always putting really sticky lipstick on, or else lip balm, which is annoying. Check with your doctor and your dentist to see if there's a problem with either your breath or your saliva. If you wear lipstick, find one that isn't sticky feeling when it comes off, and avoid wearing lip balm when you want a kiss.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 59 (view)

Rules of the dating game? Posted: 4/14/2009 1:19:52 AM
redheaded s said: If your a nice girl, and your really looking for a nice guy to connect with, and you don't want a quick roll in the hay, what are the rules to follow on talking to, seeing, meeting and eventually connecting with a guy long range? I suspect that part of the game is that you have to say you're not into games. Get a book on dating, preferably one written by either an anthropologist or by a psychologist. There are steps to this dance (or game) that successful people typically follow on their journey to intimate relationships, regardless of how long the relationship lasts. Believe me, I know. I've gotten out of step a time or two, myself. It's disastrous when that happens. Most people are oblivious to the fact that they are playing a game, when they pursue a person of the opposite sex, but anthropologists have documented the steps of this game by observing countless couples in their progress toward intimacy and in their failures to achieve it. You'll want an entirely different sort of book to help you toward the goal of a long-term relationship, because being good at the game, alone, does not guarantee keeping your partner. Indeed, you may end up dancing the dance with someone who makes you regret him, rather than someone you really want to know for the rest of your life. I wish I knew some titles, off hand, but I'm afraid none come to mind.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 208 (view)

have you ever tasted breastmilk? Posted: 4/14/2009 1:04:10 AM
bluerunningbunny asked: I'm awfully curious to know if any of the men in particular have tasted it and whether it was a curiosity thing, a sexual thing or ??? I've tasted it. Sucked down quite a bit of it in my time. It was neither a curiosity thing nor a sexual thing. It was a nutritional thing. I was an infant, at the time, and unable to chew food.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 20 (view)

How long to wait? Posted: 4/14/2009 12:58:06 AM
The only guys who would be willing to wait that long are guys you'd want nothing to do with anyway. There's no getting around it. So if you want to land a quality guy, you better start putting out. Not right away, because then they'd just see you as a slut, but three dates max. That's total crap. In fact, I'd say it's just the opposite. If a woman wants a quality guy, she probably can know, right off, she hasn't found a quality guy if he's not willing to wait however long she needs him to wait. One thing is certain, if a guy truly wants a quality woman, he'll wait however long it takes. Question: How is it a woman is a slut if she gets into bed with a guy on the first date, but isn't if two dates later she is willing to? What is it that, between date one and date three, makes her not a slut? Date two? It seems to me you're a bit arbitrary about this, not to mention judgmental of first date lovers.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 56 (view)

Breast Size [Do guys ever notice the difference?] Posted: 4/14/2009 12:49:32 AM
On rare occasions, I will notice it in a movie or a photograph of a woman. Can't say that it's especially disturbing, though. It makes sense. But I was married for about 20 years and never noticed it at all with my then wife. Never noticed it with any of the girlfriends I had before her, either.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 386 (view)

Ladies That hate recieving oral sex Posted: 4/14/2009 12:43:05 AM
harveywallbanger asked: Why are some that don't like it really hate it? I know its probibly small but I have met a few ladies that absolutely won't let a man go down on them. Why not? My guess would be that it is because of too many experiences with men who did not really know what they were doing down there. Getting head from a guy who doesn't know what he's doing can be worse than annoying to a woman. It's like getting a blow job where the woman rakes her teeth along your shaft.

HexBex

Joined: 3/8/2009

Msg: 399 (view)

Yes.... Uh, No! Posted: 4/13/2009 11:36:26 PM
sas2009 said: but we know what....men want to have sex...they have no clue about emotions anymore. That's complete crap. Okay, well not complete. The part about us wanting to have sex is true. I suspect women want to have sex, too, though; so don't fault us for that. Besides, wanting to have sex is good and healthy. Chances are, if you don't want it, you're whithering -- either as a person or as a biological entity.

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