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 Author Thread: Virginity scares men
 IBAQT
Joined: 3/11/2009
Msg: 116 (view)
 
Virginity scares men
Posted: 4/1/2009 9:12:05 PM
K, I'm just going to be blunt and honest here. Guys that say they don't feel comfortable sleeping with you after they find out you're a virgin probably are not in it for the long haul. A man that is head over heals for you will wait until you are completely ready and comfortable, as is he...even if it takes months.

Please make sure you find a guy that is willing to do that for you for your first time. It can really be a special thing and you want that for your first time. That is something in life that you can never take back, so don't do anything you will regret...there will be time for that later! LOL

I waited until I was about your age and I was proud of that and you should be too. I found a wonderful man that respected me and waited until I was ready. We were too young to make it last a lifetime, but we are still friends to this day and I have no regrets, unlike many of my friends that didn't wait to make it special.

Try not to put so much emphasis on the sexual part and really get to know someone and let them get to know you...it will all happen when it feels right regardless of the timeframe.
 IBAQT
Joined: 3/11/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
its been 5 months!
Posted: 4/1/2009 7:29:27 PM
"If you can't love me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best!"

Going through tough times are a part of life...I believe that two people are meant to be together when they become a team to help each other get through those times. We all handle things different ways and there is nothing better than someone who tries to understand where you are coming from and vise versa.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is to let it go...forgive yourself and forgive him. Loving someone isn't always about being with them. Truely loving someone is when you can realize you aren't meant to be and hoping they can be happy, even if it is in someone else's arms. You want him to be happy, right? I'm sure he wants the same for you.

I think sometimes people get tripped up on the "what could have been," but if it was really meant to be...you probably wouldn't have to ask that. Everything happens for a reason...may not know today or even tomorrow, but someday you'll look back and it'll seem so clear.

I don't have much advice, but take your time and make sure that you're ready...be honest with yourself. There are different periods and emotions people go through when getting over someone. Don't fight it, embrace it and before ya know it...you'll start feeling like you again. That's when you'll find the right one...when you love you and are being yourself for another to accept.
 
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