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netdates4humanshit

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Which do you prefer? Dating a man who has never been married, no kids vs. divorced man with kids? Posted: 1/24/2006 11:25:46 PM
I'd prefer no kids - but thats as I dont have any and would like to start our own family together If that was to be. But If the right man came along I'd take him on as a full package. But not If he had several children to several different women. Again I think Its one of those things that Its just a matter of finding someone who mirrors your own choices on this.

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Is it nerdy to have refused to even sample pot once? Posted: 1/24/2006 11:14:23 PM
No Metro It Is best to avoid all Illicit substances so you are right there .. however I worry about this "passive Inhaling" of the fumes around you. And please PLEASE be carefull that they dont perment Into your bath towel - or next time It Is covering your pert little nipples It may Indeed not be your manhood hanging out the bottom but the scent of Simsimilla that sends your date running.

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 10:56:58 PM
Stormflower not offense, but what country are you from? I cannot understand the way you write. NO offense taken as It was so obviously not meant to be ( yer right ) .... AUSTRALIA - Its this small backward Country In the never nevers where women have sex sometimes, and speak whats on our mind - we dont pretty It up with Bullshit and hide Insults - we tell It how It Is - And say It to the person straight - you should look us up online sometime!! Not offense ? Or not meaning to be offensive? Neither was taken especially when you couldnt write one simple line without error.

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 10:50:32 PM
Thanks ezygoin - haha I aint always so vicious but at times you gotta get on the soap box - I think Ill just avoid this thread hehe - see me In another this ones not good for me I think haha brings out my worst side

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How many of you would date a man with no car or license??? Posted: 1/24/2006 10:25:00 PM
If It was the right person I would - but I wouldnt go out of my way looking for It. I met a man off the Internet and he had no car or license ( had never had one , cause he chose not too ) and I never bothered to follow to It up - he lived about an hour away and frankly even If we had of met and clicked I couldnt be bothered driving down to pick him up and bringing him back ect But If I met a man I really liked and he didnt sure Id work my way around It - but It's not something Id actively seek - but then Im not sure men would actively seek a woman In this position either - Its about Independence. Oh haha and Im In Australia so I think Its a bit diff than say New York - we're pretty much all suburbs over here no big city networks.

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met someone need advice Posted: 1/24/2006 9:59:47 PM
Oh I dont know 10 - 30 years - well lets face It theres a lot of people In perfect health In this world right now that arnt going to make the next year.. Life comes with no guarantees and personally Id take 10 fantastically happy years than 40 mediocre ones. Just something to think about. .. No ones guaranteed old age and we can all go at any moment In a multitude of ways .. so to me a medical dignoses of 10 - 30 years wouldnt alter my desc If I felt It was the right person. But thats a choice only you can make - do whats right for you.

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Did I offend him to the point of no return?? Posted: 1/24/2006 8:56:16 PM
Sorry to sound like a **** but I seem to be the only one who didnt miss this line In one of your posts .. does not read the forums that I know for a fact! Yeah the whole coworker thing is a bit wierd. He just moved in with a GIRL coworker in a 1 Bedroom apt. on the first. So hes living with another woman In a one bedroom appt - I think the rest Is kinda glaringly obvious sadly. Theres the answer to why he didnt spend a lot of time with you Id say. Sorry you fell for It - but at the same time how do you fall for It? Just be more careful In the future. I dont have a lot to say I dont know the facts but that one line says more to me than every other reply to this post. Cut him off - move on and be a lot more picky In the future. Seems his live In gf Is owed an appology as much as anyone.

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i am done Posted: 1/24/2006 8:40:33 PM
Well thanks for letting me know that Important piece of news

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The man messed up my life forever Posted: 1/24/2006 8:36:09 PM
I donno ( and are too lazy to go do the needed research to be sure ) But I think Its something like 1 In 3 women have this and It goes away ? Go see the doctor - get the stuff tablets whatever to remove the obvious signs of It and ask them fully about It .. I think Its something thats as common as a cold from memory.. And then again maybe Im just full Of It and have no Idea.. But I do know Its deff one of the lesser stds - and Im pretty sure Its passed on within 6 months of contact from the carrier - but I am sure Ive read In cosmo ( or some such enlightening high grade womens mag ) that you can literally pick It up without sexual contact - human papaloma virus ) donno best to study up on It I spose. But as far as him ruining your life - I think you just need to research about It and you'll find Its not that bad but does need to be treated as Its kinda ugly on a cosmetical scale - and Its contact with the warts that makes It contagious I think.. Just remember If Its not on Its not on .. but I know I know that still doesnt protect against a lot of diseases But keep your chin up Its certainly not the end of your world as you know It

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call or not to call Posted: 1/24/2006 8:14:20 PM
why not what have you got to lose but the cost of a phone call - and you never know she may have felt It - never know untill you pick up that phone

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The sex is gone...are you, too? Posted: 1/24/2006 8:08:31 PM
Ive been with a partner with some of the listed ' Issues' made no difference and thats not the reason we split - there's many diff forms of sexual Intimacy so I think you can work around It easy enough.

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 5:18:07 PM
Just realized how one of my above points might have been misinterpreted. I don't mean that choosing to abstain means you have values and not abstaining means you don't. lol I mean that any choice you make is one based on your own individual values and not because you don't trust someone, as the poster I was responding to seemed to be intimating. Ooli your making valid points and being fair to to both sides of the argument - Im not trying to Intimade anyone and I have taken offense at nothing you've said ( In case It was me you were worried about haha ) but I wont sit back and be classed as a whore haha I will defend my position - but you have spoken your mind and there's nothing wrong with that - the whole Idea of the thread was to get peoples varied opinions on the subject and you havent personally attacked anyones morals In the slightest - you are putting a point across as you see It and thats the Beauty of life - the fact we all have the right to do that and different mind sets on things I have taken no offense to anything you have said - you have handled yourself beautifully to defended your points - as should be. I was jumping down the throuts of those who assume as someone has not waited untill middle age to have sex In marraige they are a serial dating ho cause thats plain silly and offensive to 99% of the females In the world today.

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 5:08:17 PM
My point exactly! Now, my question is: If you go out with different men and have sex with each one of them, doesn't that make you a whore? What is the difference between a prostitute and a serial dater? The money? Because at the end they are using the same thing: their ass. Has anyone here ANYONE said they had to bend over the coffee table each time they met a man for coffee?? Shows your mentality no one elses - everyone else can date without having to take a slice of the action with each person they meet! This Is getting ridiculous - people date - date means meet to see if they like the person on a net site 99 out of 100 dates will never go past coffee... this Is a dating site not a sex site for swingers .. but even If It was and thats what they choose to do - as long as their partners In the same mind set I hope they have a long happy life with It - we are all different and although you may not approve of a life style - thats OK as they arnt gonna force you Into It - live and let live So Im a whore In your opinion - sweet I can honestly say Ive never been on a dating site whilst Im with a partner - can you? HAHA and dont jump on It I know you are married and looking for " friends" female ones seen It In another post - but there u go - ASSume a lot and you get a lot wrong but you know whatever - get back to me In 6 years time and I wouldnt waste your time looking for friends on a pick up site - seems Illogical especially when theres so MANY places you can meet people with the same Interests on the net ... whats the saying ?? Me thinkith thou protest too much

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 4:40:00 PM
And anyways once her fantasys over and the dress Is packed away - what happens 3 years down the track when reality hits and she starts wondering what Its like to be with others?? That is if you have been with a ton of "others". Look darls how meny men Ive been with IS NO ONES business - but its well under 10 thanks and I think you ASSume a lot with no valid reason too - Im 37 - all my guys bar 1 have been ltr - years not weeks not months ... Im not a serial dater or a " prostitute" but I arnt going to marry a man I havent slept with - BIG BLOODY DIFFERENCE!!! You are carrying on like as If someone states they like sex with a man they love they are some Net Pony hanging out on a sex site for all to have a ride on - LET IT GO And waiting months - no problems - marrying without having sex? BIG PROBLEM TO ME - what you do Is your call frankly Its not my problem - but I arnt making a life commitment without knowing that side.. but dont assume that means I ** 10 a year or date 500 as thats Ignorant and a woman who chooses to have sex before marriage Is not a whore - put away your stones - someone may choose to have sex before marriage and have been with 3 men for all you know as they were 6 , 7 & 5 year relationships - theres tooo many variables for anyone to make personal judgements on someone saying they like sex - liking sex and ing anyone who Is willing to ** them are 2 diff things.. And anyways If thats what they wanna do - more power to them - Its just against my personal morals and religious beliefs Im a White Occultist white but anyone with a laymans knowledge knows we DONT sleep around - but we do like sex - we wait untill we SEEM to have the full package with a partner - I say seem as obviously my 7 yr ect SEEMED .. but hey If It was I wouldnt be here .. Another Interesting fact ... why are you all here the ones trashing us for having had sex and admitting to like It with past partners If you'd been so right with your choices?? I dont mean the young ones here - but theres an awfull lot of oldies like moir getting Into the debate - marraige Is for life Isnt It... so why are you here? Cause obviously that choise wasnt so damn bloody fine or youd still be with them

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 4:57:18 AM
faithful people are talking about sex - not staring In a Porno Movie - all we think abouts between our legs ??? See Sex In love Is beautiful with the right partner - a deep sharing of heart and soul - and to me a shallow relationship would be one entered Into PURELY based on sex - or one taking a life commitment without knowing the level of soul connection and real compatability - Its about more than sex. I dont want to become the town bike - this Isnt possible for me nor wanted but I also dont wish to make a life commitment to a man I know very little about .. so much to It you cant put It In words - but untill you've lived with someone for 6 months you dont even know the real person - you know the good side only. Good side cant be lived 24 / 7 - you see the real person when your living with them. I dont need a man to buy my house - I dont need a man to pay my bills - I need a man to love and share my life with and that Includes Intimacy to me - and If we are living together or together as a couple and he had a terrible accident and his Penis was lost In one foul swoop on the production line Id still love him and stand by him 100% - but see Id know the man Id chosen to make that commitment to 100%. I cant express It In type - Its not possible - but the sex Is just a small SMALL part of what most people mean by they'd want to have sex with the person first - Its the entire Intimacy - bonding and love experience that lets you know THIS IS THE ONE. I mean really Ive worked with women ( from the older generation ) who gagged at the thought of her husbands penis In her mouth ... I dont want to go there for myself personally .. I want to know I love - REALLY love and will stand by the person I sign my life away too. And for me to do that I need to have woken up beside him bad breath and all for quite some time - seen the real deal and how we Interact together spending large amounts of time together ... and No Im not having him move In and keep his jammies on each night and keep to his side of the bed. I have had sex the topics Irrelevant for me really - but I would not commit to life to someone I did not know totally, and totally means every Inch of his body - and as much of his mind and soul thats possible to reach Into. And If his wonki drops off along the way I hear they have some great strap ons down at sexyworld

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 4:20:06 AM
Oh and I'm 37 and theres no Children - they Invented a funny little pill and called It Birth Control back In the 60s or the like ... things like that arnt relevant honestly Its just called responsibility theres no need for accidental pregnanys In this era If both parties take birth control responsibilities. But the easiest way here people as everyone different and thats the Beauty of the World - that not everyones the same and everyone Is capable of having their own mindset - that we find someone to date with beliefs that match our own and dont try to force ours on others. Theres no wrong or right way - Its what fits you.

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 4:11:54 AM
Yer the men are as hard to find too but I still wouldnt do It - I just did 18 months no sex not a drama - I dont sleep with anyone It has to be the full package - did 2 years at one stage .. but still I wouldnt be making a life commitment to ANYONE without having been Intimate with them - knowing them totally. Im looking for a true soul connection and you cant know that without fully knowing a person, theres too much to It. It worked years ago as women married as a job - as long as they were supported they stayed. This Is 2006 - we support ourselves and buy our own houses ect. And Im not a man but I choose to post here anyways call me a manwhore If you like And anyways once her fantasys over and the dress Is packed away - what happens 3 years down the track when reality hits and she starts wondering what Its like to be with others??

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 4:01:27 AM
Billin I know you were being funny back thats why I was rolling around laughing - It was excellent what you put. Maybe the electricity shut off as we're all being so naughty wanting to pork our beloveds before the final commitment Infact maybe our rings have been seen before we have Indeed seen their ring of gold To everyone else On a serious note for couples happy to wait - good for them but personally I arnt marrying anyone Ive known for 6 months - thats plain ridiculous - and I arnt doing sex free dating with someone I love for years believe me .. each to their own

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 1:18:56 AM
well if it was a half inch.. he would be and i don't have kids here but i would think... about three!!! and that would just be WRONG!!! lol

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 1:12:45 AM
Ohhh and what would happen If I did then when he unleashed his weapon .. It was a half Inch and a wrinkle?????

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 1/24/2006 1:11:00 AM
I just wonder - and No I dont sleep around - - but ummm .. If you marry someone no sex.... errrrrrrr ummmmm sex Is a very VERY Important part of a relationship and ummmm quite frankly NOT everyone Is sexually compatible - so what do you do then visit the brothel taking the grass clippings to the dump on a sunday morning? ( dont laugh heard of It many a time ) ... No Its not possible to wait untill marraige - well yup It Is If you dont expect much for yourself on the satisfaction level - cant go wrong then. Each to their own not for me - I like sex dont want to do missionary and make a mental shopping list for the rest of my life.

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Do you get lots of encouragement from your exes/friends? Posted: 1/23/2006 11:57:03 PM
Yer I just get cant believe your single all the time or my friends trying to get me to go for one of the guys Interested In me when Im out like as If theres something wrong with choosing to remain alone ( as In not even dating ) untill you find one who can really get you on all levels. I think a lot of people just grab the first person along rather than be alone - Ive been alone by choice ( except for one he escaped haha ) for 3 years - If It takes another 3 years fine ( well not really hurry up )

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Rebounds.. Posted: 1/23/2006 9:52:21 PM
Of course It can rebounds just a term - every situation Is different - you can meet the perfect person the day you split with another - or 5 years after your last partner. Not everybody feels the need or desire to play the field after a breakup - and In fact Ive never understood the facination with playing the field as I mean honestly Its so hard to find someone your happy with, or even attracted to on more than one level - once you do why not follow It through - could be a long LONG time till you find another. People break up every single day - and most breakups although Initiated by one have been In the wings by both for quite some time. As long as It wasnt a really messy breakup and the persons still trying to cling onto the other - ie pictures all over ect ect you shouldnt have a problem I dont think. Good luck and I hope It works out for you .

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How to Get Over a Messed Up Man Posted: 1/23/2006 8:02:11 PM
Yes as hard as It Is to do everyones right - you need to let him go - to be there even as a friend for the 3 months will just keep you tied to the hurt ( very likely what he wants as this Is not cutting you free to move on but keeping you on the back burner Incase ). Your a Beautiful person and deserve a lot more - just break all contact and know Its his loss not yours. Sorry you've had to go through this

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How do you get a womens attention on these stupid things Posted: 1/23/2006 7:38:28 PM
I think the best way to really put yourself at number one In anyones eyes Is to start a thread about the mysterious yet amazingly " everywhere" famous person you have not so recently stopped shagging.. Remember to add bits of useless attention seeking Information as If just by chance - you know what I mean small things like .. They are about to pick up an award OR .. Yes I am glad to be free of them - music was the only thing In their life - their children will suffer This Is the latest IN device to make you a legend In your own lunchbox ... Just enjoy .. hey didnt I see you with Mariah Carey ? Haha and If that fails as It seems to for some - just be yourself

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Men Who do the Disappering Act Posted: 1/23/2006 5:59:07 PM
Pot Of Gold.. Why on earth would you have your friend ring a man who was clearly simply not Interested In you and Ignoring you at this point? If there was ANY chance hed contact you In the future that just did that totally In. Its not healthy behaviour - Its bordering on obsessive and would make anyone male or female run for the Hills. I really think a lot of people just need to look at their actions and the answers are clearly there .. yes we can all get overly excited at times about someone as frankly If we are looking for the full package It comes along very rarely - so we tend not to like to let It go without some form of a fight for It - thats human nature. But to be ringing and leaving more than one or 2 phone messages for someone when theres No reply .. and having friends ring a man you had one date with one month later Is just overstepping the mark In a very sad way. And honestly good options are very few and far between - not each man you meet and not a monthly occurance - you'd probably be lucky If they were a yearly occurance. Please dont become like one girl I know who EVERY single man she meets I have to listen to ridiculous phone calls how hes " one In a Million " " shes so blessed " bla bla quite frankly Its the saddest most desperate thing Ive ever seen and Im about to cut off the friendship cruel as It Is as It just screams mental and emotional Instability. Shame her one In a million comes along every 3 weeks - SAD and they leave quicker than they arrive - and no wonder - If I was a man Id be doing the 1/4 mile sprint Just take things as they come - dont make life plans - or even think that anything Is In msn ect chats - they are nothing - phone calls before meeting are nothing - for all you know the persons bored and lonely with nothing else to do with the 2 hours. I know Its hurtful - I know Its frustrating when you thought there was something there then nothing - send a email If you must - but If you get no encouragement of any form - let It go - but dont Invade their personal space with unwanted phone calls please - It will just make them 100% sure they were right to cut It before It began.

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How can you stop the feelings? Posted: 1/23/2006 1:34:47 AM
I've been In a similar situation and In the end I just had to cut It totally off - No contact - thats the only thing that would work for me - when there was contact I was on an emotional roller coaster ride that In the end I realised I needed to get off. Took me a long time to fully realise though and to be able to do It without regrets - quite a lot of go aways - come back I miss you In between - eventually to be honest ( sad to admit ) It wasnt common sense that gave me the strength to do It - It was the fact I just got so sick of selling myself short and setting my self up for dissapointment time and time again. I really feel for you on this I know how hard It Is

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How do you get over someone famous. Posted: 1/23/2006 1:16:37 AM
Well If hes marrying someone else - I doubt he's thinking of you quite frankly

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How do you get over someone famous. Posted: 1/22/2006 10:31:41 PM
You said he cheated on you? So I assume It was you who left him?? If so whats the big thrill about him now his face Is ' everywhere ' hes still just the same person he was - only with extra airbrushing now - If Its a true post and not attention grabbing ( seems a LOT of descriptions about just how famous he Is and all the places he Is and will be ) - Id say you'll get over It the more you see him - I mean assuming It was you who was happy to end It at the time. I feel Its just like us mere net dating mortals - once the one we adore dumps us and goes back on the site - we just feel the need to stalk his profile daily for a couple of months ... then suddenly that all smiling - all fabulous Mr Got Away suddenly becomes what he really Is during a much waited for moment of staring at the pic - we suddenly just see a sad lonely player who will still be here at 69 The Beauty In your situation Is that teenie pop mag centre folds make a perfect date board cover

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Why is a decent girlfriend so hard to find? Posted: 1/22/2006 2:40:03 AM
I dont believe In the BAD BOY theory - But I know why men think this.I've had a lot of men say It to me over the last 2 yrs as I couldnt find a man I cared for as deeply of felt as strong a connection as I did for a man who'd given me the run around, so some of the ones who wanted to date me treat me well bla bla used the same terms " women want badboys " NO we dont - my " Bad Boy" started off well believe me - and the reason I didnt wish to be with the others wasnt because they'd treat me well - It was simply that we did not have the same connection - chemistry ect. When I did find a guy who compared - hes NOT a Bad Boy haha look you could call any woman not Interested In a man a BAD GIRL too - ie she wont give him much attention - she wont return calls - she wont really give a damn - Its not that shes doing It as It appeals to all men - Its that shes doing It as this one man who she appeals GREATLY too - holds absolutely no Interest to her. BAD PEOPLE that could be the term for anyone we all fall for who doesnt return the feelings with the same force We want to be treated with love and respect and kindness - we just want It to be from one we hold a deep Interest In too - the same as you guys - think about It. If anything treating them mean wont keep them keen - only works If they already had a die hard Interest to begin with - and then only untill they find as strong an Interest elsewhere that treats them really well - then the so called " BAD BOY" Is history.... kicked to the curb quiker than yesterdays coke can.

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Should I dump her Posted: 1/22/2006 1:37:05 AM
Gosh maybe she read this profile since she hunts on all the net dating sites - stranger things have happened I mean honestly look at this comment .. seriously and tell me you really thought both parties had multiple dating site accounts - to " play around contacting each other "..... and If you did / do ... YUP " I was under the impression that the only reason that we kept our profiles was to play around emailing each other on multiple sites. We had both put that we were taken on our profiles, she removed that from hers a few days ago, then put it back on there after I asked her why she had removed it. She told me that she didn't remove it, that it was probably a system glitch or something?" 2 words - Net Pony

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Can ugly guys get good looking girls? Posted: 1/21/2006 3:06:30 AM
Oh September Monkey your the best I still cant stop laughing - thanks for making my night hun

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Can ugly guys get good looking girls? Posted: 1/21/2006 3:05:25 AM
Being compared to folk such as Dr Evil has made me come to realise that maybe I am not the next Brad Pitt. This makes me very, very sad.

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Shopping at Goodwill for clothes - is saving money a turn-off? Posted: 1/21/2006 2:56:16 AM
Well I spose you'll never get a date then metrosexual as now Its In writing and some people cant tell a joke

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How can i be sure ? Posted: 1/21/2006 2:53:06 AM
The one bit I dont understand If Is It wasnt true - why didnt he state that then and there In the room In front of the girl ??? Sounds like hes playing you both. Sorry you've been hurt but I think you really do need to look at why he never said anything right then and there - I know If someone made a false statement that could ruin " my relationship " Id be setting it straight then and there. Move on and be far FAR more wary with the Internet for developing relationships - this Is all far FAR too common sadly.

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Can ugly guys get good looking girls? Posted: 1/21/2006 2:28:04 AM
Why can't I find a good looking girl with a personality to match and not be a model? Is it even possible? I may lack in the looks deparment, but make it up with my personality. See this Is the problem If you lack In looks ( and Im sure you dont everyone Is Beautiful In their own way ) but you claim you do but want an attractive woman..... Well arnt you therefore as shallow as the attractive women who dont want you? Facts are people are simply attracted to who they are attracted too - and thats life. No point worrying about why you cant get a certain standard - maybe the girls who arnt so hot looking " make up for It with their personality " too but you dont want to look there ...

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Phony's,pervs and slim pickings Posted: 1/20/2006 9:05:27 PM
I share your pain - the world of Internet dating Its a wonderful thing

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I hate when this happens Posted: 1/20/2006 2:21:44 PM
Haha yer the only 3 men Ive met over the last 2 years Ive been really attracted too all had partners

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What would you do? Posted: 1/20/2006 2:15:17 PM
Hey Guys Heras done nothing wrong she hasnt used his name - shes here asking for advice - exactly what the forums were set up for I agree with the let It go though Hera even If hes just trying to make you Jealous why would you want someone In your life who purposely wanted to hurt you? But I'd say hes more a player, heard from friends ect how easy It Is to score off the Internet and decided to make a life plan of It But theres karma as you say sweetie and lets all just hope that the first " hot woman lookin for sex " he goes off to meet turns out to be one who had a false pic up - hear about It all the time so really Its not as easy as he's kidding himself. I think any of the women on any dating site realise theres a LARGE amount of men on them just after sex thinking that they can type In 4 msn boxes at once to 4 different women then when they meet them first time SOME of these women think they have something going on and sleep with him Immed. But surely most arnt that silly. And guys dont get excited with the man bashing thing Im sure women do It too - we're just speaking on the male side of It now I think once the hurt has faded you will be damn glad hes out of your life - people like this have serious Issues and need some heavy duty counselling - Not 50 one night stands You've just gotta do whatever It takes to get through at the moment - and try to keep your mind of him and anything hes doing - end of day It will come back to bite his a*** and he will end up a very lonely person.

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Msg: 4 (view)

Why do people who break up, feel the need to unload on everybody? Posted: 1/19/2006 11:03:00 PM
I like to hear about other peoples situations personally - and If we can all help each other realise that we're not the only one that's been In that place or a similar situation by sharing some of our own past experiences, I think It helps everyone. I also like all the different points of view on the situations I think It gives you a clearer perspective on a situation by seeing others views on It. I for one find It very helpful and thank everyone who contributes with their storys and viewpoints

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Msg: 26 (view)

cheaters website? Posted: 1/19/2006 7:29:08 PM
I think the problem lays In the fact that just because someone wasnt that Interested In a particular person - doesnt mean they wont treat the one they do have strong feelings for like Gold. So you couldnt really take any notice of anything anyway even If there Is a site like that. And It does leave It wide open for people who were being a " bedbuddy" to someone expecting It to become more even when there was no lies told ect to the other party, to then go out and seek some sick revenge because In their mind they created a delusion It was more... Ive seen this before with some of my own friends. So even If there Is such a site Id really take no notice of anything you found on It - In actual fact It would really just scream revenge because If people arnt bitter or trying to create problems for the other person they'd just move on and learn from It. Each person behaves differently with each person they date - It all just comes down to " how Into you they are " quoting that cheesy book haha sorry cant help myself. Just keep untill you find the one thats totally Into you thats the easiest thing to do. And the best revenge Is moving on not looking back and living happily.

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Msg: 53 (view)

Do you really need to know everything about a person before you get into a relationship? Posted: 1/19/2006 6:50:26 PM
I went through something similar with a man I met on another site - we'd met In person bla bla huge connection but he kept backing out and " needing to take things slow" haha he actually even said to me at one point - when we were dating " I dont know what you do to get Into a relationship these days but you dont just click your fingers " ummm we were exclusively dating and we'd both removed the profiles - he just seemed to have some psycological problem with the term " relationship ". Anyways long story short I ended that and from time to time hed come back on msn ect like as If to start dating again we needed to do the entire thing from scratch again - In the end I realised It was just a waste of time and cut It off. The reality Is If you arnt spending time one on one In real life with a person you arnt getting to know them. And Its also not giving you a proper Insight Into the person In the slightest. The other way to look at It also, Is that Its more just like the person stringing you along Incase they cant find better In the meantime .. In the end I figured this was the actual whole point of the exercise with my situation not some severe psycological problem and just moved on Id just explain your side - as believe me Its TOTALLY the norm to expect things to be moving forward .. and If you dont get the desired response move on. Theres plenty of people out there looking for something real not to kill some time on the computer here and there. But you do need to put your side forward at least once before deciding to move on from the situation - anyone could surely see that months of emails and msn chats or phonecalls Is not building anything just wasting a lot of time. And time Is a precious commodity. Past baggage Is really no excuse not to lose It at the airport - everyone else has to In life. Good luck and I hope you get a better outcome than I did But If not keep

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Msg: 28 (view)

How do you feel about your first love? Posted: 1/19/2006 6:21:43 PM
I feel nothing Im not sure why your supposed to - I loved him It didnt work out simple - same as any after him. Ive never been too Interested In the first of anything - I think In love ect the last one you'll fall In love with Is the relevant all consuming one - not the stepping stones along the way to finding your real life partner. In fact I believe untill you find that person you dont even know what real love Is - love comes In many different forms. Living In the past and holding onto things that didnt work for a very good reason Is unhealthy and Its the main thing that stops most people ever finding real happiness and peace within themselves.

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Msg: 42 (view)

Giving Up Posted: 1/18/2006 8:22:52 PM
But don't you think if u are dating someone and having a profile on here that you are leaving a door wide open for temptation? because ur always going to be curious about that person on the otherside who u are talking to Thats the exact reasons their profiles are still here - hoping they find better dont listen to anything else they say Its glaringly obvious. It takes 2 seconds to hide a profile and If they really had any serious Interest In you they would ... but unfortunatly Its the net and both males and females want to keep looking thinking that the dream boats out there for them... ummmm the reason why a lot are still on these sites 5 yrs later and end up with nobody. Your a stunning girl - and your pics are lovely - you dont need to wear a moomoo curvie - you are dressed nicely - not half naked to try to lure anyone with your wares but It seems a lot of the people on these sites If they get someone decent - even If its better than anyone they ever dated before think Ohhhh If I got her what else can I get. Its a sad kind of merry go round at times and no I dont think net dating works - Ive never heard of It working for anyone In Australia - 3 people who claim they are In relationships - but yes all 3 men are still on all the sites hoping to get better but making weird excuses for It. But I spose Its like lotto you've gotta be In It to win It - but If they dont have the respect to remove the profile If they wish to start seeing you - move on you deserve better

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Msg: 43 (view)

Worst dump ever Posted: 1/18/2006 4:41:59 AM
LMAO connorus same sorta story for me - living with a guy he called me 3 times at work that day to tell me he loves me and he'll see me when I got home - wellll I got home and hi, and everything he owned was gone with a 3 line note left behind hahahahaa moved straight In with another woman I found out later hahaha Gotta laugh now but at the time I was so shell shocked as I hadnt even seen It coming haha Actually both times Ive been dumped was the same LMAO the other time I was living with a guy who came here from the UK for me ( we met here ) and he worked for like 4 weeks out of the 8 months - I had to buy his smokes everything - when I asked him when he was getting work he told me hed be leaving In the morning - LMAO and left crying and saying he felt I didnt love him and hed left his country for me - so obv I went Into a total depression and basically psycho trying to find him to let him know I did ... NICE ... only thing was everyone I was contacting knew he hadnt gone home but to queensland and no one bothered to be kind enough to simply say hes ok he just didnt think It would work - even his parents let me believe hed cought a flight to uk via new zealand and was missing as he hadnt arrived or contacted them since leaving LMAO. People can be cruel - I was so devastated thinking hed killed himself In new zealand I put myself Into counselling hahaha now It makes me laugh even thinking of it. But at the time It was 4 months of total darkness theres no way I wouldve believed 3 years later Id be here laughing as I told the story

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what does it mean if someone says they arent in love with you Posted: 1/18/2006 12:31:26 AM
You can love somebody but not be IN love with them - theres a huge difference. At least hes been honest about his feelings - but now Its seriously time for you both to do a lot of thinking Id say. I hope It works out for you both for the best.

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Msg: 23 (view)

Would you go out with someone your not interested in? Posted: 1/17/2006 7:38:08 PM
I dont need to use men for free dinners so NO.

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Msg: 11 (view)

attention: game players... Posted: 1/17/2006 7:33:03 PM
haha mindinflight I had one play the games for 2 years - no rubbish 2 entire years - he would make contact again via msn - email - phone whatever start speaking too me - he knew I wanted to try to sort things out after a ending of dating ( which I did due to a fight ) and he knew I still loved him and was hurting over It. Anyways Id send a I love you bla bla email please can we sort this out and onto msn he'd show - haha seems great yer - yer right but never did he ask to see me ect so Id cut It off - then hed hack my computer bla bla various things knowing Id then start emailing him abuse or lets try again emails - this went on for an entire 2 yrs no crap - like a kid throwing a tanti - any attentions good attention - but each time he'd then start speaking as himself - he always had some excuse and never came up to see me - once a yr ago out the blue in the same type of situation - but no he didnt try to shag me haha so it was NOT about being a booty call. Anyways over the time i tried the lot - sent full on love emails in the height of his hacking tantis and call and hang up tantis ect - each one of these brought him back as himself on some level - msn - email - ect but NEVER did he want to do the normal thing then and catch up see if we could put it back together. No idea if i was a long drawn out back up plan ... If hes married ....If It was just some sick mindgame to keep me tied to the hurt or what .. but In the end I just turned my back on It and IF It starts up again Im just gonna Ignore It - Its been proven about 5 times so far Its just a joke.. BUT haha why would they bother having a mind games session for such a chunk of their lifes - plain stupid. Too much time on their hands maybe who knows but save yourself future years of primary school games and cut It off - just Ignore their attention seeking ways.

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Msg: 3 (view)

Dead on the inside Posted: 1/17/2006 6:18:54 PM
I couldnt touch another man sexually for about 18 months as I was still holding hope on a past love... so you arnt the only one and actually what you are doing Is healthy and strong .. not trying to run from your feelings by being with another. Eventually I met a man who when I was with my past love never even crossed my mind - but this was 18 months from when we stopped dating - and a ton of meetings - dates later haha look I didnt even date for the first 8 months - I just wasnt ready and everyone was trying to get me to go out and date - my thing was why - I would only compare them to him and they would come off second best so why waste anyones time? When the right person comes along you will know - just dont let people tell you theres a time frame to that ... remember a LOT of people grab the first available person they have the slightest attraction too and start a relationship with them even though theres no real connection on a deep level. I spose to some Its better than being alone .. me personally Ill stay alone untill another one takes my breath away. Just hang In there you will be fine !

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Msg: 5 (view)

How do you get over the one you love? Posted: 1/17/2006 6:08:26 PM
I think we all need to look at It practically ( and Im not having a go at anyone here I myself recently took longer to get over a man I hardly knew than a 7 yr relationship ). But we build things up In our heads to something It never was to quote the line from the Black Crowes .. " sometimes a memory only sees what It wants to believe and what fits In between are days and nights that dont mean a thing " .. If they were Mr or Miss Right they would still be with us. None of us have met our loves of a lifetime or we'd still be with them - Its not a one sided thing. True love Isnt one sided - a partner that cheats on you doesnt love you - a partner that leaves you doesnt either. We tend to only remember the good times - forget the reality and repaint our selves a delusion on what never was to begin with. Write a honest list of what you didnt like about the person - what wasnt working - because for each partner with the nerve to leave In the end - the partner they left has been thinking about whats wrong for some time too - they just didnt act on It .. then when the other party does forget that fact. Eventually someone will come along that makes you realise you can move on - that may take weeks months or years - but In the meantime just try to look at It honestly - and also remember that everytime In our lifes we've been left we think we will never find such a compatible perfect person ever again - and eventually we find one that makes us think thank heavens the past relationship did break up or I wouldnt have had the chance to meet this person. Just be kind to yourself and realise that each relationship and each person has a different time frame to move on from.

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