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 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Advice?
Posted: 7/28/2012 3:59:09 PM
I said I was going to find someone else

sounds like you made a threat, he made it a reality. My ex wife used to do that, bout the 3rd time I said screw it, she quit making the threat but that was in the last 5 of 15 years, in the last 5 of 20 I didnt care if she found someone else or not, fact I prefered she did
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
he says he wants more, but doesnt show it?
Posted: 7/15/2012 5:35:13 AM
1 its obvious you already know the answer
2 your already at that point
3 delete his number
4 be happy :)
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 48 (view)
 
losing erection
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:30:58 PM
I'd suggest he go to the dr and get some cialis, he'll like it you'll like it and its just not worth the issues of not having
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Best Condoms
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:29:48 PM
I went online and did a study of it and trojans scored badly but crown did score high
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Has anyone told you that you turned them into a nympho?
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:28:00 PM
hahaha dating a woman who just wanted sex and had planned on sex once a month, until the first time, then it became once a week once a day and "hey you busy tonight"..."yes", "well if she cancles will you call me"? lol yeah it happens
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 45 (view)
 
advice please!
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:24:14 PM
I'd say you've scared him enough for one lifetime
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 40 (view)
 
pretty clear already,just checking....
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:22:30 PM
I'd say uh huh and I'd say run forest run
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
When do I question things?
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:21:16 PM
I think your jumping the gun stepping in front of it and waiting for it to go off. ESPECIALLY with online dating, slow down girl
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Calling And Texting GF EVERYDAY!
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:14:44 PM
I was engaged for 7 years ending 3 years ago. We lived together, talked on the phone on our drive to work, talked on the phone on the drive home, talked on the phone when we wern't together, talked on the phone for our lunch hour. Ok we were odd with that but it can happen. Usually now days I prefer text as it doesn't tie me to the phone and I can do other things at the same time, but calling my gf every day? ah yeah!!! duh. I'll text her all day long but talking with her would be a highlight of my day
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 22 (view)
 
so confused
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:09:58 PM
There are women I date who have asked for exclusive and I've flat out refused, We still date but I'm a fun date. there are women I've dated who didn't need to ask and we went exclusive early on. My gut feeling on this is your fitting into the first catagory for whatever reason, lack of chemestry probably, no reflection on you. Doesn't hurt to ask but in asking could well drive a wedge between you, so I guess it could hurt to ask. What you'll need to decide is what it is you want and what would just break it for you and go from there... NEVER enter negoitions you won't walk away from, you lose from the beginning.

And if you've not had the exclusive conversation, I'd not lay odd on the fact that your exclusive
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Should effort be made to get back with Ex?
Posted: 7/12/2012 5:02:11 PM
sounds like a reverse roll in my 7 year engagment that broke up 3 years ago, she still wants back togther but I know she'll just return to what she was before so no point in it. So question is, if you wern't giving time to her then would you now or would it just repeat. She and I got along great but it was as long as I was making everyting happen she went along for the ride...Thanks but I can find that anywhere.

There is a rule of thumb, "they're ex's for a reason" and people really don't change who they are all that much
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Called her the wrong name!
Posted: 7/12/2012 4:57:51 PM
I've only made that mistake twice in my life, the last one was 2010 but at that time I was openly dating two women both started with an S. WORSE my mother called one of them the others name several times but she took it well, she told me "your mother ok, but if anybody else calls me that I'm going to take offense lol
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Pictures of your Ex
Posted: 7/12/2012 4:55:08 PM
I have pics lying around in boxs and such and have pics on my facebook, but thats my history, if someone is with me long enough to create new history I don't mind losing them, but someone lasting 60 days isn't creating new history and I'm not willing to give up my history for them yet
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 451 (view)
 
When a woman is squirting...exactly what is squirting out and from where?
Posted: 7/7/2012 2:44:44 PM
that guy told you right
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Why do other women flirt with me when I'm on a date?
Posted: 7/7/2012 2:28:05 PM
I reread his post and don't see any mention or indication "truely interested" he went on a date, he didn't get married
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
relationship was going somewhere then all of a sudden stops
Posted: 7/7/2012 12:08:09 PM
I'd say you'd best be looking for a new gf as this ones bout to put you to the curb. Guys seem to have trouble reading hints so eventually she'll slap you in the face with it
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Better off single or with a partner???
Posted: 7/7/2012 12:04:58 PM
I was married 20 years from a young age, I was single for 4, then engaged for 7 then single for 3 and during the 4 and the 3 I activly dated, so I've come to this conclusion

Being in a good relationship is better than being single, being single is better than being in a bad relationship
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Dating married women in O.R ??
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:58:30 AM
"in time" ok, 1 does she really want to leave him or are you entertainment
2 her kids? are you really ready to take on kids? does she belive this?
3 move on or rish heart broken? You got involved with a married woman, I'm thinking its to late to worry bout opt 3 but I am going to give you some lessons in human nature.

I've been 'dumped"? by women who claimed their ex's were abusive mentally physically emotionally YET they went back to them. Had a woman I've just stopped dating tell me about her ex hubby and his abusiveness, I'd quit dating her a week and was about to tell her we weren't going to date anymore when i get an email telling me she went back to her ex... lol So even if hes bad and your fantastic, thats no guarentee she's going to stay with you, fact she may even get bored with you.

So you have options, contiue, quit or put a huge condom over your body and crawl into a dark corner so you don't get hurt, cause with the other 2 options your bound to sooner or later anyway
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Not showing up at a date..
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:50:07 AM
ok understand I'm going way out on a limb here as there’s much we don't know. and I see only 3 possibilities here...1 he died sitting there...2 he got arrested and now visiting bubba in prison or there is still an outside chance that he did see you and there was something about you that turned him off and he decided to just forgo the meet. Personally I don't see the point of option 3 but it is there.

I am impressed with how you handled it however, if for nothing but that...his loss :)
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Why do other women flirt with me when I'm on a date?
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:39:47 AM
alone your no challange, human nature
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 449 (view)
 
When a woman is squirting...exactly what is squirting out and from where?
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:21:17 AM
you'll see many answers from people who've never experienced this so can't really accept the facts, no she's not peeing on you the consistsancy of the liquid is differnt. Understand what goes on inside a woman. she gets wet? this isn't to aid you, she secrets a flow of fluid to assist sperm, the lil guys swim upstream and if theres no stream they don't know which way to go, she has fine hairs inside which create a current. Women orgasm differently, some are rush over, some are slow build and cum forever on the way down. With some the orgasm is so intense they spasam and these are likely your squirters. If you've figured out how to make your partner squirt, I do hope you were paying attention and can repeat it :) thats worth doing. Next we'll discuss making them see colors :)
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Sex every day.
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:10:27 AM
I was engaged for 7 years ending 3 years ago. Her 18 yr old son went to the other side of the state to meet a woman he met on the net, he came home bragging “we had sex 5 times in one day FIVE TIMES in one day”. She and I just looked at each other, we had sex 4 times every day and had at that time for 2 years. Her gyn asked her if I were trying to prove something, she assured him I wasn't and no I wasn't on Viagra or anything, we just enjoyed sex. By the 7th year we were down to twice a day.

In 2010 my gf told me her sex drive was equal to or beyond mine, she'd tell me “don't wake me unless its to have sex” she was true to her word and fantastic at it to boot.

My ex wife and I had sex at least once a day for 20 years.

Now for the 2nd part of your question, is it worth looking for? I can tell you from experience that yeah its great, its NOT the solve all end all of the relationship tho my 2010 gf thought it was.

Sex 2 or 3 times a month? I have more sex than that without a gf. But I can also tell you there is no body worth such drama as delivered to me regardless of the amount or quality of the sex
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Friends to sex to nothing
Posted: 7/7/2012 9:29:08 AM
The meat of your question seems to be the things he's claimed to only have done with you. Was it real or was he faking. I have many titles placed on me, or labels, Player, power dater whatever. None are actually true, active dater would be. But women who know me rather well have complained that, well as one who I've known for a decade has complained, if you do all this for all them how am I special? Point is, women draw out different sides of me, and its the rare woman who gets it all. There is nothing canned, nothing stock, its all new every time because it arrives new every time. The fact I may have done it before with someone else doesn't apply as I thought it up new for you. I'm sure I'm going to get tongue lashed for that last statement, but its still true. I do what I do for who I wish to do it for at that time. So for him to claim he's never done this or that before I have no trouble believing. Its entirely possible you brought this out in him.

Why it hasn't worked, could be many things, close friends have a problem having sex, which is weird when you see so many posts from women “looking for my best friend”, which shows they know so little about human interaction. What your looking for may become your best friend but if he starts there you've really screwed the pooch.

I've a best friend whom we started out with sex, quite literally NSA sex and became best friends after to the point if I'm sic she's driven 1.5 hours to bring me meds and when a tree was about to fall on her house I drove 1.5 hours and downed the tree friends. We started with sex... we no longer have sex, but we'll do anything for each other...go figure
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Time (together) & Relationships - Now broken up
Posted: 7/7/2012 5:50:50 AM
musicians make lousy bf's
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Struggling to cope with feelings
Posted: 7/7/2012 5:48:53 AM
can we say FUBAR?? Your best bet is to go find yourself before you screw up again. You've already shown this guy your a nut case twice, if he has any brains he'll stay as far from you as possible. Doesn't mean he will always remain thus but for the near term I'd be thinking run. From what you've posted I'd be thinking unstable, bipolar, drama queen, all kinds of bad things I'd want to keep away from.

SO I'd suggest you go away for 3 weeks then send him a good morning or something and see how that goes but wait the 3 weeks or your going to get another title, stalker...

good luck
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Struggling to cope with feelings
Posted: 7/7/2012 5:45:02 AM
you missread it, she was sighting another case in that love someone else
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/7/2012 5:40:33 AM
for the past 15 years I've been labled a player, even took a servey on yahoo about it, turns out in every case when I'd pin whoever accused me down to define it, I never qualified. I date, I have relationships I've been married once for 20 years, I was engaged once more for 7 years, hell I've been engaged longer than most stay married these days, but hmm I'm a player, go figure
 cptironjack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Rejection
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:22:03 PM
Ok 13 years out of the game, I spent 20 out of it but then the last 3 years my wife and I trained each other to be single so I missed the 'I'm lost out here' feeling. But I see it all the time. its difficult to walk into a new place cold and make friends and I agree with a few posts on here, singles meets blow badly. I've never been to one but can't see how they'd be a good thing.

Another problem...age. Its not that we're old its that we're no longer young. I go out all the time dancing but I'm not staying till 3 and 5 am, I can't even sleep till 9 and have things to do anyway.

If you didn’t learn to dance in high school find a dance club and learn, its well worth the effort, hell I am a good dancer, instructor even and I still seek out dance clubs as their a great way to meet new people with common interest.

Going out to night clubs is tougher as the people are much younger than they were in my 40s but still a plausible place to be as I can in fact dance. Get to know the bartenders waitress's bouncers...never EVER sit at a table alone, EVERRRRRR. Once you get to know the staff take them cookies at xmas or candy at Halloween, ONCE YOU GET TO KNOW THEM. Their mostly collage kids that don't get that kinda thing anyway. But now your established, your visible, you know people and interact with them, your no longer someone who's never been seen before. Women get comfortable with someone they've seen before as long as your 1 not a barfly and ALWAYS there and 2 you don't develop the reputation as a creepazoid.

Be polite, be courteous, you can still be a bad boy and be polite about it. You can strike up a conversation anywhere especially in check out lines but you do need to be disarming about it.

The main thing is quit trying so hard, Real life is far easier than this online stuff, in real life you can look at the eyes and see if she's open to conversation or closed to it and if you see she's closed off don't bother

Go have fun with being you, the rest will fall into place :)
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Should I tell her I'm a virgin?
Posted: 7/1/2012 8:04:28 AM
The only real down side to telling her I can see is her thinking "do I want to TAKE his virginity", that can be a huge issue at least for me. Ok I'm 52 years old and talking about taking someones virginity seems stupid lol the possibility really exists haha. But if I knew she was a virgin I wouldn't want it simply because the possibility of long term really isn't.

So in all honesty I wouldn't tell her this, it puts a HUGE HUGE really big issue on the sex. You could tell her your not any good at it and let her teach you, but to tell her your a virgin? I'm thinking no, that puts a whole lot of pressure on her.
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 146 (view)
 
Natural and hairy women?
Posted: 7/1/2012 7:56:18 AM
Take heart, the shaved seems to be going out of style :)
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Shaving the boys .
Posted: 7/1/2012 7:54:39 AM
I keep this simple, she gets to decide at the time, after all its her playground. on the other hand I have a hairy chest and I'm not about to shave it simply because it would be a serious pain to keep it shaved. Some girls like a hairy chest some don't, oh well, i have one...

But in direct answer to your ?, I like women being trimmed, not all that found of shaved, but one day looked down and it looked like the congo, so I trimmed it and keep it that way, its rather a dangerous place to be shaving
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
quick ? woman views your profile
Posted: 6/30/2012 5:11:58 AM
I'm sorry cowboy, seems if I wanted a guys opinion I'd have ask a guy
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 129 (view)
 
Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 6/29/2012 8:14:30 PM
I figure every time I walk out the door I'm on parade. I meet women in all walks of life and usually when I least expect it so I keep an acceptable appearence as much as possible. Its not about being who I'm not, its about appearing as who I am. I keep fit, no body builder but I wear 2 sizes larger pants than I did in high school by design. No I dont shave my beard as I do shave my head and I look rather mean with a shaved face as well. Its simply a matter of being presentable and perhaps I've done it so long (married, engaged and single) that maybe I've just become that person, but I'm still that person.

The same goes with my manners, I open the door for anybody, I'm soft spoken and unless your chewing an innocent checker out at the register? I'm never rude. If your a bully, well thats a differnt me your going to meet.

My beard is white when left alone and my sister kept on me to color it, I did and now rather like the color, is this fake? I guess you could say so, but I like the look for me so its no more fake than a woman coloring her hair save I have the option of differnt looks with it as I can go from dark to salt and pepper to gray to white, its kinda cool.

So putting on a total facade I'd see as a very bad thing, keeping yourself presentable, this is a problem why?
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Hello...Text
Posted: 6/29/2012 8:04:23 PM
in the old days you had the letter or the visit, then came the phone, email, texting. at what point would you want to stop? The problem with stopping is the rest of the world moves on anyway. So heres a story for you that played out today.

I get a text from my son 7 hours away, which is how we normally communicate, then tonight he calls, we're talking on the phone and theres a knock at my door, still talking with my son I go see who it is and its my son.

point is, communication is communication, go with the flow. I see a lot of complaints about texting from women and men about men and women. The way I work I can text with you all day or talk with you 2 mins. Talking stops me completly texting stops me for seconds at a time.

I spent most of the day today texting with a gf who really needed to talk, not so much about her and I tho that was included but more she just needed me to talk her through some stuff in her life. We rarely talk on the phone, with the I4 I hate talking on the dam thing but we text constantly which works for both of us. Its as much a part of life now as the paper letter was in the past...

adapt, improvise, overcome, you can do it :)
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
What do You do on a Bad Date?
Posted: 6/29/2012 7:52:24 PM
Kaki, the shortest date I've ever been on was 2 hours, at the time my normal dates lasted 8 hours for some reason or other but this particular woman 2. I really don't recall the turn of events but after 2 I knew I had to get her out of my company. Oddly we're still friends to this day and that was 15 years ago, but if your not having fun, she's probably not either, its time to call it a day. We came to the silent conclusion that we can run into each other and still have fun, BUT WE WILL NEVER DATE AGAIN. Be honest and call it a day man :)
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
quick ? woman views your profile
Posted: 6/29/2012 7:30:57 PM
why are you answering in ask a girl?
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
quick ? woman views your profile
Posted: 6/29/2012 5:05:23 AM
a woman views your profile but makes no contact. Reading the forums I know a lot of women won't make contact. But to me if she views and won't even say hi then she's not interested enough to say hi. on the other hand she may not want to seem forward.

So Ladies, what should I do, msg, ignore it and go on. I've no wish to be intrusive or annoying so mostly I just ignore it but figured I may as well get your take on it.
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Sleeping with my Best friend
Posted: 6/26/2012 7:07:41 PM
Personally I think and pardon this, 'you screwed her now your screwed" Your best course of action is to let it go and see if it comes back and don't put to much effort into it or you'll be pouring yourself into a bottomless hole

as for her having sex while in a relationship? I'm not ready to condem her to hell for it just yet, but in very real terms sleeping with your best friend is seriously screwing the pooch. it really screws up a good friendship
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 223 (view)
 
Dealing with POF rejection
Posted: 6/26/2012 6:52:55 PM
Silver I had to chime in here. I've a female friend who's on christian something or other, she complains daily that all the guys on there want is sex, so i guess they figure the christian name gives them some way to hide this fact? lol

"It's the lack of men willing and able to make a commitment that has turned me off the site. Lots of players/serial daters, etc"

Doesnt matter what sight your on, your still going to have that...sorry
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 222 (view)
 
Dealing with POF rejection
Posted: 6/26/2012 6:49:04 PM
I've been on POF going somewhere around 3 years and to be honest the first 2.5 were wasted time, fact it was only last december that things actually happend and I've no idea why. Having said that I've several very good friends, some I've met in person one in particular I've not in over 2 years but we spend more time texting and talking pretty much daily but live half a country away from each other. DON'T take online to seriously, its great and you just may meet somone or you won't so don't let it get to you. Its really not that much personal rejection, as one of your posters put it, its a catalog and your free to browse.

Now as for the "want a relationship" part? a good relationship is better than being single, being single is better than a bad relationship. I was told the other day by a woman I'd been dating that I'd lied, I really don't want a relationship. She couldn't be more wrong. What she failed to realize was I didn't want a relationship with her. So your being an honest dependable hardworking love to travel fun sexy person??? according to who? Those are great words but are you really looking to match words?

In 3 years I've gone through a lot of what you'd call rejection, I simply call lack of interest and don't worry about it. online is online, I still have real life and it works fine there. I live in a small town between two small cities so I use online to meet others as I really can't be out every night and in fact I'm out less and less BUT I AM STILL OUT, so back away from your keys, this isn't the only world, its just a tool. Its not a matter of them rejecting you, its a matter of you not finding the one two half a dozen who find you honest dependable hardworking love to travel fun sexy. Their still out there :)
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 22 (view)
 
The Ex's son
Posted: 6/26/2012 6:30:22 PM
I would talk with him, I'd give him the best advise Ihad and I'd try to steer him into making his own decisions as he grows, pretty much what i taught my own kids. As for her taking offense, oh but she's going to, but then in a very tight personal way what do you care, its no longer about her as far as your concerned. Involving kids in any relationship is touchy at best, she did it anyway, so be it. At some point she'll probably cause drama over it but until that point the young lad needs someone and he's chosen you.

My gf of 2010, we had her only grandson living with us from the time he was 2 months? 2 years later he was still watching finding nemo over and over and over and drives the fam nuts, what they don't realize is, here he had his own room and thats where he discoverd nemo, there he has pure chaos, I can't help but feel he connects nemo with tranquility. The young lad connects something he's needing with you, I'd say give it to him as long as your willing and can, it'll be taken from him soon enough. You made a bond, these things happen.

btw yes she'll be pissed, so be it
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Need some insight.
Posted: 6/26/2012 6:17:04 PM
I read your profile and it seems to honestly fit you which is a good thing, were you female I'd not bother sending you a message.

"we'd probably not make a good match but you never know"...your right, You'll never know

Can you fix it? probably not without being false to who you are. Best bet is keep on living and finding her in your path as you seem to feel you have a path you won't diviate from. But then again your 22, your in for lots of surprise diviations, enjoy them :)
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
What should I do?
Posted: 6/26/2012 6:08:08 PM
yes and no really. Im not a car buff, it runs it gets me where I'm going and thats sufficent, ok so I have 2 cars but besides. years ago back in my late 30s early 40s I'd repossed a dodge spirit from my ex wife, she was no longer driving it and it was still in my name. tried to give it to my son but he said "thats a girls car" and prefered to be on foot than take it. At some point my truck broke down and I started driving the dodge and had a successful dating life even then. My son asked me once, he was in his early 20s I guess, "dad doesn't it bother you taking women out in that thing?" I told him "no, if it bothers them we take their car" and often times we did. reverse was out in my truck but this one women menuvered me into asking her out. I told her ok but "You know reverse is out in my truck so we have to take yours". She said "ok, does this mean I have to come pic you up?" lol Later her daughter told me once "jack, you'd have more luck attracting women if you'd get a new car", I told her "and just what would I want these women for?" I didnt bother reminding her that I was dating her mother at the time lol

as a dear friend of mine once said, "you can pick up women on a 10 speed if you now what your doing" and thats the truth. having said this...

Ok so this girl your interested in, talk with her honestly about it, seriously, but as for continuing to hunt? give it a rest for a bit.

I hit a deer with my cougar on fathers day ( cougar kills deer, go figure) and my pontiac is good for going to work and thats bout it, so I'm just chilling for the summer (I hate summer anyway) and buying a new truck in the fall. I'm 52 and in no hurry, chill a while, life will be easier on you
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
First Date...
Posted: 6/26/2012 5:54:36 PM
ok PRD I gota tell this story. Went canoeing a few years ago. My GF was stretched out across the bow sunning and im rowing. Bout an hour into it I see this couple bank and he gets out and walks into the woods, she dropped her head on the icechest and the story played out for me. He'd been bugging her for a date, she finally accpeted the trip thinking it was harmless enough, NOT realizing they were going to be stuck in the canoe for FIVE HOURS alone. I felt sorry for her and for him really.

NOW if you get to know each other somewhat before the first (is it date or meet)? then there are no limits, but do get to know each other before you commit to five hours of anything. Follow this guide...

its not the what but the who with, and the most fun thing in the world will be a disaster with the wrong with, like wise cleaning house is fun with the right with.
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Dating
Posted: 6/26/2012 5:49:04 PM
Im thinking this is what your looking for, not so much a date as a male activity partner. The last two girls I met and dated in the past 3 months were looking for this. In all candor, the last one told me "you know so many women, go have sex with them and then we can go dancing and hanging out and whatever" Seriously? Why don't I just go dancing with them? Which is what I ended up doing anyway
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 164 (view)
 
Is 61 the cut-off age for having any luck on POF?
Posted: 6/26/2012 5:29:10 PM
I think it was 49 lol just sayin
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
 
How to break up with Mr. Won't Work Out
Posted: 6/26/2012 5:27:31 PM
chances nailed this one, I don't think he's the take a hint type
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Forums are grabbing my attention more than the profiles, OH NO!! lol
Posted: 6/19/2012 3:44:54 PM
I know a lot of women who visit dating sights from time to time but are overwhelmed with emails contacts and chat requests as soon as they're visible. As one frind of mine puts it, the chat requests march across the screen like****roaches. Its no wonder women don't reply to everybody, who has that kind of time. Back when POF used to inform you of the status of your msgs, I noticed one woman I was talking to didn't delete my replys, then she vanished from the sight. A year later we ended up meeting on FB then in real life and she's one of the ones who told me she had to leave pof, to much attention.

And so many guys if you reply to them polity then don't respond further go off the deep end, its uncanny. Course I've had some women go off the deep end as well and I've scratched my head wondering why. But at least on the forums you reply you don't reply nobody knows or cares
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Forums are grabbing my attention more than the profiles, OH NO!! lol
Posted: 6/19/2012 3:31:27 PM
my only real prob with the pof forums is the forum nazi's god forbid you open a new thread thats open somewhere else. I tend not to go to the ones with 100,000,000 pages already. But I do find the people who frequent the forums here to be easier to get along with than in other sights, one sight I left simply because of the forums, I couldn't afford to be associated with such stupidity. And I find the people in pof have more on the ball as far as advise than other sights. So no, its not a bad thing at all
 CptIronJack
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Does anyone this age actuall ENJOY the dating process after a year or more? lol
Posted: 6/19/2012 7:59:18 AM
I started this around 3 years ago when I became unengaged as it was Feb 7th and thats a horrible time to go out. Found out I sucked at online dating rather quickly and went back to the real world where life is easier. But as I live 40 mins in the country, weeknights its not all that practical to go out so came back to here as I don't even watch TV.

For the first 2 years nothing happened on here. No biggy I still had the real world going on. This past December it exploded on me and I've no idea why. I learned to hate “THE MEET”, “just be yourself?” seriously? How can you be yourself while under the microscope? And I'm one who doesn't even mind being under said scope and its still uncomfortable.

So do I enjoy online dating? Not really. Do I enjoy real life dating? Oh but yes! But I live in a small town between two small cities and eventually you meet yourself coming.

What gets me, even tho I understand it, is why women are in such a hurry. I'm perfectly happy getting to know you via email, text phone whatever before we go through the dreaded MEET, but women aren't that patient. So I have to ask, are they planning on winning the dating game tomorrow, if not, exactly what is this waste of time they keep complaining about.

Two saturdays ago went out with a woman I met on here, met via email one day met in person the next at 10 am, hit it off from hello, spent the day together until 7 pm. Then 2 sats ago we went out to eat, played putt putt then went dancing till 1 am, both of us are killer dancers. BUT, found out why Virgo's and Aries don't belong together, this I'd have discovered via email eventually and we never would have gone out on that date. Yes we had fun, no I won't repeat it with her.

But you can always give up on online dating and watch tv
 
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