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barbiequed

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Not sure where my relationship is headed anymore. Posted: 9/22/2008 8:55:18 PM
It sounds like you need to enjoy the silent times and not question them. Your young , sometimes your interest change with age , don't think bad about this , find ways you can be happy together , and apart maybe you need to just go out by yourself or with girl friends a change, but it doesnt have to enclude cheating on one another. Its a healthy way to grow together. Suffocation in a long term relationship is felt sometimes but it doesnt have to be.

barbiequed

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Should I have done more for her. Posted: 9/22/2008 8:11:40 PM
maybe you need to check in with a head doctor , you want to fix someone , thats not your job, what about your needs ? Is she fixing you ? it sounds like a doomed relationship from the start. Your self esteem is in dire straights.

barbiequed

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How do I stop thinking about my expartner ? Posted: 9/22/2008 8:05:56 PM
I know what you are saying spencer I too still love my ex I always will but I am not the one and its ok. You just keep going one foot in front of the other and one day she will be just a fond memory. I want to remmber him he wss special but I also want someone who will love me like I love them. I need to matter to the one who matters to me.

barbiequed

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HELP - How is this done? Posted: 9/22/2008 7:37:26 PM
its ok if you call and if he doesn't respond then isn't it better that you tried and the rejection feelings pass get it over with you'll feel better. Just don't take it personally if you like yourself what does it matter.

barbiequed

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What do you think are some of the universal truths for humanity......? Posted: 9/22/2008 7:21:38 PM
I think we are apart of the bigger picture , cells that multiply in one big nuclious. Some cells or red cells , and some are white , then there are cancer cells that are bad for the earth the nuclious . I have already muliplied and my kids have multiplied and so on. Hopefully they will grow up as good cells. As I age I will die off . Now I look for the good in man kind and as I mature I look for more of my own kind of people to enjoy the rest of my cell life lol

Barbiequed

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Red flag statements or questions Posted: 9/2/2008 6:48:43 AM
Yes I think asking you if your house is nice could trigger a red flagg, but then agian she might be trying make small talk I would have asked her if she had a nice house ? I know about gold diggers , and divorsed one he did get some of the gold but that is the past and I am a little more careful. Like does he have his own income , if not why would I want to date someone I would have to support if it were to get serious. red flaggs when someone throws a piece of furniture across the room because he kncked his knee on it and got hurt, that is a red flagg to me. when a guy only gives you his work phone number , that is a red flagg to me. when a guy tells you he loves you and that you are the one and then over time dissapears for weeks and months at a time. I guess we all have gut feelings to what is a red flagg its really our own responsibility to listen to ourselfs and not ignore the red flaggs when they pop up , because later youll kick yourself in the arse for not apying attention to them back then. I pay attention and when a red flagg goes up I am gone.

Barbiequed

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 9/2/2008 6:30:00 AM
I was in love with one and we lived together for 15 years. besides always primping ina mirror , and telling you what you need to do to be perfect for him he will be a perfectionist as well. He will always find alittle dust you forgot about on the window sill or on the leaves of a plant in the hallway. He will flirt openely with waitresses at a restaurnt no matter how it affects you with no regaurds to your feelings, for his feelings are all that matters. We are still friends and I know his marriage has been hell for both of them I am only thankful I got out along time ago, I like being normal. I feel sorry for both of them.

Barbiequed

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taller men VS slimmer women Posted: 9/2/2008 6:07:43 AM
no I am saying it enhances my feminity snd I preferr a taller man. I have dated and been involved with shorter men and I have loved a couple of shorter men in my life but I always found I felt uncomfortable bending down to kiss or hug them. its my personal preferance , not that little men are not lovable. No punn intended. Nothing to argue about , it would be like anyone not wanting to date a woman who is 350 pounds over wieght , its something that is not attractive to me.

Barbiequed

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taller men VS slimmer women Posted: 9/1/2008 9:32:41 PM
great reply finfan. i agree. i do preferr taller men, its the feminant part of me that wants taller.

barbiequed

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Would love to help you out with your profile Posted: 6/4/2008 7:07:10 AM
how does my profile strike you we are close to the same age

BarbieQued

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Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore??? Posted: 4/11/2008 9:10:52 PM
maybe its because too many people have been burnt enough in relationships that its not appealing anymore. Maybe we should rename it like "minds and bodies" or" friends and lovers". Im not sure that age doesnt play a big part of it too. Maybe after say 50 you are happy with being friends and lovers, and if you stay together great but if you dont then you might be able to stay friends if that part was all that stayed healthy. what is a relationship other than two people who like and love each other , who compliment each other as well as learnig to be partners in life ; and mariage is a contract. who needs a contract if they trust each other.

BarbieQued

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What do men feel about Gemini women? Are we too much? Posted: 4/10/2008 8:56:08 PM
June 16 1956 , I am just like that too.. I think we are all allot a like. You all fit me to a tee can you image all of us be out on the town at the same time. it would be fun thats a fact . do you you ever get spontanious thought and run with it. like... take off to vegas with out a room reserved, just go..?? adventure and fun..

BarbieQued

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What do men feel about Gemini women? Are we too much? Posted: 4/10/2008 7:25:40 AM
yes you know it, I know my sun is in gem, my moon in libra, mercury in gem, venus in cancer, i cant rember the rest but I know I have one other in gem,one more in cancer one in leo and another in scorpio. I use to do my own chart (took classes) but its been years and I cant totally rember the whole thing with out looking it up agian,(no time). I do know one thing that I fit the profile 99 pecent . I m glad Im not libra although my moon is in libra that probably accounts for my disfunction in relationships. Most libras I have known are manic depressives. You know as you hit 60 something your sign asscends, your sun sign can move into another, your attitudes chnage , traits etc.. I forget the math on that but I know when im into my sixtys Im supose to be more of a leo. I dont really live my life on this but it is a fun topic.

BarbieQued

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How do you get over someone Posted: 4/9/2008 10:34:40 PM
god you so right galonthemt, i have done that only once in my life , it hurt the guy i had hooked up with for two years ( while i got over my broken heart). i feel so bad about it , it wasnt deliberate, i was so in love with my ex-sole- mate . it took me by surprise too when one day i realised didnt love him enough , and i had to get out of it immedatly.

BarbieQued

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Anyone else out there in love with someone they can't have? Posted: 4/9/2008 10:06:04 PM
not stupied fire fly we have all had a special love at one point in time I have had ywo special loves in my time , Ken #1 and Jim Ill never forget them. Its ok to have that as a good memory.

BarbieQued

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Anyone else out there in love with someone they can't have? Posted: 4/9/2008 6:58:44 AM
well I still love the guy I left, does that count? If I had wanted him I wouldnt have let him go. it doesnt mean I didnt love him, I loved him enough to let him go (last Boyfriend). My ex husband ( awhile ago) was in love with another for 4 years , he loved me too, but I believe in marriage and if I wanted to share him with another was not an issue. I didnt feel I could be with him and him wanting another at the same time. So I devosed him and set him free. The funny thing is she didnt divorse her husband and they fell apart. I think what you two are going though is strong and what makes your love for each other stronger is the secret love thing but should she leave her husband you two wont last 6 months the excitment will be gone. some people want what they think they they cant have, but when its available they dont want it anymore.

BarbieQued

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How do you get over someone Posted: 4/9/2008 6:38:42 AM
you never really get over a serious love, and if you say you did then you will fall in love again and get hurt agian, you need to remmber your old love so you can find a new love. red flags in a new relationship are important to listen too, they were the ones you ignored in the old one and thats why they are remmbered after you break up the most. You saw it coming but thought you could live with it, or you could fix it. just remmber to cry until you dont cry anymore, youll be numb for awhile, angry with yourself, angry with her , then youll start being opened to meeting someone new. Unfortunatly as you get older like me the first red flagg that pops up in someone I am interested in is the last one , I havnt the patience or desire to fix anyone, or put up with any thing that I cant live with.

BarbieQued

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 4/9/2008 6:28:39 AM
sweetKristine, yes I know I will live alone forever, but Im never really all alone. I have my friends which are one or two, I have aquaintences to talk small talk too, I have my kids and grandkids to love and cherish, I spend my alone time with music and a joint and I sculpt or draw, my daytimes can be spent in the gardens. I havnt met anyone who I have had a happy ending with, so I prefer to not be commited , but if I meet someone I want to be itimate with then thats all it is, frienship with heart felt feelings nothing more. I choose to live alone. If I like someone enough then I will love him but inlove I have lost that ability along my lifes path, I think when In love for me that is, has been the times I have lost the most, I have lost apart of me, and I am not willing to loose myself with anyone agian. learn to be happy alone, then maybe youll find someone to be happy with, at your young age dont scar your future with bad endings, hold out for what you want in another, dont settle. I had settled to many times in the past. I know that its much better to be alone and happy than to be alone in love.

BarbieQued

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What do men feel about Gemini women? Are we too much? Posted: 3/28/2008 7:36:24 PM
virgilskid I dont think anyone is matching up anyone else in this thread, I believe we gemini people born in the same sign , have alot in common and weither you should want to tango with us or not was the question. I know it doesnt matter what sign some is meeting and some do. I usually know when I llike someone enough to go out with them, and when nI find out their sign it doesnt keep me from going out with them. But if your a capricorn Ill know it before you give me your birthdate. I have never meet a cappy that I liked male/female.

BarbieQued

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What do men feel about Gemini women? Are we too much? Posted: 3/26/2008 10:09:08 PM
i only read the first two pargraphs of your post and yes to all of the above. if you call it fickle then fickle its is lol. I became bored after reading the rest avoid june girls , I bet your a cappy/or a cancer.and it doesnt really matter

BarbieQued

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What do men feel about Gemini women? Are we too much? Posted: 3/26/2008 9:41:24 PM
ohh one more thing I did have a relationship with a gemini man the best sex I have ever had but a flake like me in relationships lol, and have just ended a 3 year reltionship with a diff gemini man and I like him but nothing really more transpired. I think gemini men are fun to hang out with, but thats it. we gemini wemon can be as selfish as any sign maybe more so , because we are selfish with ourselves we dont always share with our significant other all of us, there is a whole other world we are livng with out him. I think we can make a man feel lonely when in a relationship with him , I think for me that is why I cant stay with a guy to long, becuase my space in life is vary important too me.

BarbieQued

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What do men feel about Gemini women? Are we too much? Posted: 3/26/2008 9:27:39 PM
Im a sister gemini woman and love being me. I have many wonderful traits all at once. I am always busy always a challenge to everyone as well as to myself. and I suck at relatinships because commitment bores me after the first two years, and I leave. I think I might be emotionlly disfunctional, becuase I can leave a relationship when any red flag one /two or three emerges. I sometimes think being a Gemini is a curse, but thats only a fleeting thought now and then lol. yes I think we Gemini wemon are all that , but I dont like Gemini men. I tend to wound poor sensitve cancer men , and virgo men are poor dates, sagitarian men are great and so are leo's. Piceses men of boring and capricorn men are stuffy. Aquarian men are selfish like Gemini men. Ariain men are imature and childish. the rest I havnt known yet . But I love Cancer men the most although they never forget or get over a Gemini womans leaving them. So poor Cancer suffers the internal scares of us . I try not to meet Cancer men becuase I dont like adding to thier laugauge of heat aches.

BarbieQued

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A kiss...What can you tell from a kiss? Posted: 3/26/2008 9:08:11 PM
a kiss determines allot . If your a passionate /sensious person and he is just spit and tongue then you know youll have lousy sex and its not worth the time of that kiss. And if the kiss was all that then you know youll either go out with him or not , and if nothing else youll have some really good sex.

BarbieQued

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Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available? Posted: 3/26/2008 8:53:55 PM
cooper, you might find being alone is great , and accepting that , then when youve learned to be alone and like it then meeting someone and liking them first and if you get together or not you have made a friend and no one feels bad. why take the risk of of jumping into a sudden replacement of a significant other to feel happy or complete. Youll never feel complete until you like yoursnelf enough to not settle no matter how many wemon you have to go through. I am still single because I choose it. I became tired of meeting all the wrong ones awhile ago , I recently broke up with another who i wasted three years with , I think maybe I might be alone for along time or for life and that is ok and great , I am content with it. I feel such a relief to finally sit down and say this isnt working for me , and be done with it, I wonder if I am a commitophobic ?? Be happy with yourself and dont look just go with the flow of life and maybe youll bump into that impossiable dream girl.

BarbieQued

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Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?... Posted: 3/25/2008 8:35:25 AM
sleep in your car or his? that had to feel pretty bad. I cant imagine being asked to sleep in any car, nor tell a lover to go sleep in a car. God what complete loosers; he for having you sleep in a car and you for doing it. Im ofended for you, outraged, and more. Your self respect is at a all time low. I have never been abusive but that would have made want to throw a punch.

BarbieQued

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Mismatches: Marriage Minded People Pick Commitment Phobics And Posted: 3/24/2008 7:12:45 PM
did you ever think that commitaphobics are unaware they have commitment issues? I didnt realize I was a commitaphobic until this last relationship ended "finally" what a relief... I find I go with the ones I wont fall in love with , and after two years I have to end it...go figure...I think its sad because I think it would be wonderful to have a husband and grow old with one person, but I cant. I cant stay with anyone longer than two years I start looking at thier faults after the first year and then the distancing starts up half way through the second year and then I end it with Im not in love with you and I need my space. I now realise I wont get involved agian, I dont want to hurt anyone ever agian. I will tell whom ever I meet agian that I have comitment issues and dont need anyone to try fixing them. we dont do it on purpose I didnt realise I was a commitaphobic until resently. But you must realise we do feel bad too

BarbieQued

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They Say 50 is the New 40 do You Agree? Posted: 3/24/2008 6:52:54 PM
Im 52 , and feel a little more tired than when I was 32 lol otherwise I find in my fifties I dont tolerate people as much as I use to and if a relationship starts to go bad I dont waste time trying to fix it like it did in my thirties I just let it go and move on. I dont think I feel as rushed about settling down or being alone, I like being alone and marriage isnt an option anymore, I dont need it. I guess thats the nut in the shell is I think I have a keener sense of what my needs are.

BarbieQued

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when is a man in love? Posted: 3/22/2008 10:29:34 PM
I think that every love is differant, I ve been in love and I know when a mans in love with me. But keeping the love is another thing. I know for me I don't play head games and when Ive been in love and the games begin, or I feel taken for granted then Im the one who lets go first. I don't chase , nor do I have a jealous nature , I am who I am and for myself havnt been loved the way I wanted to be loved. So I think its not when is a man in love ? its more like does he love you they way you need to be loved? we are all differiant we all love one another the only way we know how, is it going to go the distance , over time.. I think the older we get the harder it gets to want to bother going the distance , change , bending to make things work. I don't do any of those things anymore. I have accepted the fact that having a man in love with me is not important anymore. Its more like can a man be a true friend first.

BarbieQued

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Suing an Ex for Damages... Would you? Posted: 3/22/2008 9:46:58 PM
no, suing is not the answer, unless there was property damage enough to bother with it. I am a woman who had to pay since I am the bread winner. I am now worried if a passing relationship I am getting out of will be a lawsuit. I have decided ill never live with anyone agian. I am at a age that making friends is all I want who needs the drama , and the bs that goes along with a relationship? I like not having anyone to answer too, I come and go as I please.

BarbieQued

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Do you still think about your ex? Posted: 3/14/2008 9:19:18 PM
yes i do, I think about him allot. I miss him still but don't want him back. I have moved on with out him, but I still love him and always will. He wasnt my husband but someone I loved as much as.

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what does a man REALLY want ? Posted: 3/11/2008 5:56:19 PM
I don't think men know anymore what they want as we females pretend toknow what we want. What I want is to be alone right now and it is what I really want. I dont want anyone in my way, or to be reponsiable for anyones happiness. I want to be me. I havnt meet a male whom will just let me be me. I like men allot but have no interest in loving one. I have been dissapointed by the men in my life ( not sexually) but in the ways of how they love me, I havnt been loved by a man the way I need to be loved. So we need to worry about how we are with others , how we treat others first . concideration for the other is lacking sadly in relationships.

BarbieQued

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What men are looking for in women. Posted: 3/11/2008 5:39:20 PM
those are all wonderful qualities but unfortunatly they are hard to find in any sex m/f. I feel i pocess those , but I find it hard to find someone who has them. And maybe we all feel we pocess those qualities but they are not in the same prospective as the other so it feels like one or the other is lacking what we want in a relationship. Or maybe some of us are better off not bothering to look for our true love but just living life and if by chance someone comes into your life and is all that to you then , and you want to be all that to him then maybe thats what it is all about. confused in the mountians

barbiequed

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Why Is it you do everything for a woman and then you get thrown to the curb like a piece of trash? Posted: 1/6/2008 7:33:46 PM
you can give all of yourself to someone, but that is what you wanted to give now you recent giving because what you gave was more than you should have in any relationship. Give only what your willing to loosen(like gambling)

barbiequed

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The Gift of Goodbye Posted: 1/6/2008 7:16:25 PM
i agree , i have had to let many go, Im in the process of letting another go its hard because I do care and love , but am not in love. Its a hard to let go because you know its going to cause emotional pain. I plan to offer us up as room mates , and let go of the relationship.

barbiequed

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love without strings Posted: 9/1/2006 8:14:23 PM
love and sex are two dif things, and if the two merge you have realtionship of mutual understanding no questioning no chasing its just there, no emtional head games its really nice.

barbiequed

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love without strings Posted: 9/1/2006 8:06:34 PM
mr crisco, you took the words right out of mouth..your awesome. love has no strings , and damn if I have been with anyone who didnt have strings to trip on. you go ..good thoughts

barbiequed

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The Fearful Of Quality Men, But Run Too Loosers Posted: 9/1/2006 6:05:45 PM
single guy the girl friend or ex gf whatever sounds pretty insecure and has head game issues she should hook up with my ex they would feed off each other .

barbiequed

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The Fearful Of Quality Men, But Run Too Loosers Posted: 8/29/2006 9:24:37 PM
i think Im attracted to loosers Vs quailty is : quality men are pretty hard to live up to there standards . they want you but they dont let you be you. They move on because you wont change / or play the game. Ive been involved with both kinds of men. there are loosers in qualiyt men too.

barbiequed

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The Fearful Of Quality Men, But Run Too Loosers Posted: 8/29/2006 9:04:17 PM
wow what a awesome post , you are a quality man , its to bad you can't bottle the cure for it Ive been through the mud hole of loosers , and now I really dont want to get seriously in volved with anyone. Ive been burnt enough I dont care anymore if I ever truly love a man agian. maybe Im on the brink of finding happiness in my own space. And a man is good company and sexual pleasure , and it never has to go past the first stage of a relationship you know the exciting , sensual, happy faze. we know we have a problem but loosers are more attractive they have two faces , who knows but Im up for experimental mental examings, Id like to understand myelf , maybe the loosers harmones are stronger ?? go figure huh

barbiequed

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Is it harder to date now? Posted: 8/11/2006 10:41:34 AM
Im fifty and I dont find it harder to date but Im not sure what I want from a relationship that I cant have in just a friendship and sex buddy. I dont want a commitment yet , and I dont want to live with anyone now. I think I have found a happiness not trying to fit into anyone elses world and havnt allowed anyone to fit into my world. I guess since my last relatiionship I dont want another , and maybe its just where Im at right now ?? I have meet lots of men on here and just in my town , but am not attracted to them. I remmber when i was forty I felt like I would be alone for ever and jumped into marriage too soon and now Im alone agian and dont have that clock ticking away out of fear of being alone i like did at forty. Who knows what tomarrow holds I just dont worry about it anyone more. I have my family and a feeling of oneness with life , sure it would be cool to share it with our own illusion of the right "one" what is the right one? I have made several male friends if i found the right "one" what would he say about the male friends i like to talk too or go to parties with? or just have a bit to eat with? what do you want in a relationship that you cant have with a friendship , i find most dont know how to be friends first , its a step missing in my past and its a step that comes first in the present. good luck

barbiequed

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Turning 50 Posted: 8/11/2006 9:49:49 AM
I turned 50 this past june and i didnt turn into a pumpkin :) I find dating is diff because Im not falling in love like I use to , attractions are few , I dont feel like being alone is all that bad,I like it. I do as i please and have no one to answer too. So being fifty is like being in love with life instead of looking for a life to spend with another. Of corse if it should happen thats grand but not feeling like it will be the end of life should it not happen. I guess I dont have a clock ticking away and im not feeling as insecure as i once use too. I like me more now than ever before so bring it on 60s and 70s here i come. Happy Birthday .

barbiequed

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AT THE SAWDUST FESTIVAL IN LAGUNA BEACH Posted: 7/17/2006 8:11:09 AM
id be interested , please let me know time date thanks

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SOCAL meet and greet!!! Posted: 7/17/2006 8:09:09 AM
i would like to be notified of the meet and greet time date thanks barbie

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Feeling rather Bitter here-what ever happened to Karma? Posted: 7/16/2006 7:01:03 AM
so true, I feel sorry for the lady who took my place with my exhusband, she will be broke in a year resenting the way he blows through money.He'll will cheat on her like he cheated on me and his former wife . Im glad I caught him cheating its been two years now and I have financialy recovered from him. There are men out there who are prediators like there are wemon out there who are too. They want to be taken care of and play the part of loving spouse until they are caught and then they start over agian looking for someone to take care of them agian inthe life style they are accustom too.

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Fine line between love and hate Posted: 6/27/2006 6:26:44 PM
I tried to stay friends with my ex , even after he played the game of chase with me I didnt chase him I let him go . I loved him but didnt love him enough to play the games we were friends and i thought we could atleast keep the friendship , although the relationship was over. He said hed like to keep the friendship going but when I called to see if hed like to go to a music festival like we use too but as friends he was bitter and angry . So i figure he cant be friends. or maybe hes just not over it yet ???

barbiequed

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Gold digger and 4,151 emails Posted: 6/27/2006 6:05:27 PM
I dont know about 80% of the wemon , but i too divorsed a man who took me to the cleaners and thats why the man im involved in the future should have a decent job and if I marry agian it will be with pre nups . I worked hard for my money didnt come from alimoney or child support. I was taken too . But i dont think all men or 80% are f**k ups because of my ex husband.

barbiequed

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can we be friends after dating? Posted: 6/11/2006 7:08:50 PM
Maria . I want to be friends with my ex, I still love him , Im just not interested in being with him in a relationship anymore. He broke up with me six months ago the game of chase I let him go I dont chase. He says hed like to be friends but still acts like hes angry so I wont persue it. he knows how Id like to still know him , but ill give him the time he needs and if he doesnt ever pesue it then thats fine too.

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Msg: 45 (view)

Do you know what your really want??? Posted: 6/11/2006 8:09:58 AM
theres no wrong or right here , its about what you personally want . I think we are all just posting what it is we want. prince charming is only a fantasy so is being a princes , and theres nothing wrong with the feeling of either. wemon evolved we didnt kill anything or anyone we have come into being a partner with men rather than a burden. I love men , but know what I want from a man, and its more than sex .

Barbiequed

Joined: 1/12/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

When do you tell someone you love them? Posted: 6/7/2006 10:56:06 PM
for me, usually tell them what it is I love about them at the moment , a certain look he gives me, that little boy face , but true love is like a tree takes time to grow. I has to be mutual , I cant imagine falling in love with a man who hasnt shown love back in any form. I dated a guy for a awhile it helped me get over a true love lost , I didnt love him and he didnt love me but I like him and we've become friends.

Barbiequed

Joined: 1/12/2006

Msg: 113 (view)

When a woman says a man must be financially secure. What does it tell you about her? Posted: 6/7/2006 10:43:21 PM
I think its the way men feel about wemon being financailly secure. I was the one who paid, and In away I dont begrudge him of the money . I blame myself married to soon , and paid the price . My ex didnt have anything when we met , when we devorsed he walked away way ahead. I still love him , but not in love anymore.and now I have a refferance.

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