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Thread: Girlfriend visiting at work too often
cute_physics_guy
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Girlfriend visiting at work too often
Posted:
9/15/2008 12:20:24 PM
PS: did you not notice she was clingy before you moved in together?
Yes I did. I love her and I am very happy, she has brought much joy to my life. She is clingy. That is her one fault. I understand that her being clingy is something that I will have to always deal with.
I didn't metion that we moved this last year when I got into grad school. She's been trying to make some friends, and there has been somewhat of a problem with this, a lot of people around here are so damn flakey. She had some good friends, I met them and they seemed like really nice people. Then at a party that we were at they whipped out a bunch of drugs (neither of us are into drugs, them pulling out the drugs was a shock to both of us). So she doesn't hang out much with those people anymore.
Talk to her at night and tell her you need to conscentrate on work during the day and do not have time for chatting or visits.
Alright, I like that approach, I will be very direct with her "honey I love you, but I need to concentrate on work".
"I understand that you are bored and dont' think you have anything to do, but I am at work, and as nice as it is to see you, I really need to do my job, I am going to get into trouble if you keep stopping in, so please don't drop in unless it is lunchtime, or there is an emergency that needs my immediate attention.
I like that, actually I really needed help with how to phrase these things, so thank you.
Your girlfriend should not be visiting you at work at all, unless she is meeting you for lunch, and it is lunchtime.
Yes today she visited for lunch time, and then wanted to hang out afterwords.
cute_physics_guy
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Girlfriend visiting at work too often
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9/15/2008 11:41:55 AM
So I'm a graduate student who gets paid to do research. My gf is a student. We live together on campus. The semester just started and she's always calling me up and asking if she can come visit between classes.
I don't mind a brief visit, such as if we are going to lunch, but she wants to stay for over an hour. If I tell her "hey honey, I need to get back to work" she acts all hurt and sad and gives me the "well what am I gonna do". That is more time than I can spare. I want to be sensitive to her feelings, but if I have work to do, she needs to leave.
What's a good way to get my point across other than just having the attitude of "I need to get stuff done you have to go"? Or is that the attitude I need to take?
cute_physics_guy
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If you don't/didn't wear a wedding ring...
Posted:
3/22/2008 11:57:32 AM
I can't even stand to wear a frickin watch, I always end up taking it off and playing with it. Sometimes I can't find my watch for a few days, or I have actually left it in a couple of class rooms.
I would probably not wear one, just because I fiddle so much with those types of things. My gf now has no problem with it.
My last husband managed to lose 3 wedding bands.
Yup, that would be me. I might have a nice one, and then have about 7-8 immitations made if I decided to wear a ring.
cute_physics_guy
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What would you think about a woman with a no gift policy?
Posted:
3/22/2008 11:54:01 AM
I think costs should be shared and don't worry about nickle and dime differences.
Often I'll do a "I'll get this one, you get the next one
" if the girl made a big deal about it I would be pretty turned off.
cute_physics_guy
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only seven?
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3/22/2008 11:50:21 AM
Oh that is fricking hilarious. 7 - 4 = 3
Men often claim they've slept with about 3 more than they have actually, and women claim about 3 less.
People lie to beat hell on those surveys, don't put any stock into them.
cute_physics_guy
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Wedding ring
Posted:
3/22/2008 11:47:37 AM
I will get my g-friend a tweety bird ring to go with her tweety bird pillow.
Beyond that, I would probably take her and buy one she liked AFTER she said yes. Why would I waste time and money on a ring she may or may not like?
cute_physics_guy
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Moving to fast to soon!!!!
Posted:
3/22/2008 11:41:36 AM
Started crying on a first date because you said you didn't know if you would marry again? Run!!!
cute_physics_guy
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What should I do about this date...? Help Please!!
Posted:
3/22/2008 11:37:54 AM
Listen to the alarm bells!
cute_physics_guy
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Showing a form of identification
Posted:
3/22/2008 11:35:35 AM
If a woman asked me for ID out of the blue, I might give her a cawked eyebrow and wonder "what the hell?" However, I also don't keep the info of my company or my last name secret.
I wouldn't blatantly ask for her ID if I really wanted to see it. I might pull mine out talk about mine for a bit, then ask her if she had the same feature on hers. But I've never found it necessary to card a woman I've been seeing.
On the other hand, if I girl didn't tell me her last name after a few dates, I'd do this
cute_physics_guy
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Rejected after the first date?
Posted:
3/22/2008 11:29:38 AM
Well if you aren't getting any second dates, I think it is a failure of how you setup the first date. I ask the girl plenty of interesting questions and have a bit of romantic converstation lined up.
I don't ask her boaring all the time questions such as "so what do you do? blah blah blah" I ask her interesting questions such as
I setup a situation I want to talk about, or things I want her to associate me with and discuss that. For example, "So a few weeks ago I was out with my friend Mikan, we happened to be watching a movie about this couple on a date, I asked her "so what is the most romantic date you've ever been on" she replied "when Damien took me out to the bar and got me drunk" then I ask the girl the following question
"what's the most romantic date you've ever been on"?
I of course have an interesting answer lined up.
This type of converstation is far more interesting than many typical first date quetsions I've seen such as "so what do you do, what do you like.... blah blah blah".
There's nothing wrong with you, but if you keep on going on dates and keep never seeing a second date, I think it involves more about what is happening on the date.
cute_physics_guy
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Marriage not an option
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12/9/2007 3:21:29 PM
Agh, the one PoF forum that had a good example of why people wouldn't divorce for financial reasons is gone.
I don't remember all the details, but he described a business started by the couple which grew in wealth and that if they got divorced they would have to pay 20%+ or some odd taxes on it. Now if that business was worth a good amount, it may or may not be worth getting divorced to pay that.
Sorry I explained that horribly, I read a very good explanation one time and believed it. I would probably just ask this girl "what are the financial reasons, what do you loose $200,000 dollars if you get divorced".
Anyways, if you want to be married, and she won't marry you, move on.
cute_physics_guy
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so, why are you still single?
Posted:
12/9/2007 3:11:37 PM
This just happened to me today, and then I remembered this thread. My gf asked me when we were first dating why I wasn't already seeing someone.
So my highschool x-gf befriends me on facebook and asks "how do you know this person", I put "dating 1997-2000", and I left out the details of how it ended and that we haven't spoken in a few years (because she is mean).
So it goes to her for approval, and she DENIES it. Now that's just plain mean. So I deleted her as my friend.
Then I told my gf about it and it actually really makes me appreciate how nice she is to me, I am glad that I am winding up with her other than my previous gf.
cute_physics_guy
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Why do people say you have to love my dog/cat/animals
Posted:
12/4/2007 5:44:47 PM
They say that because the last guy kicked the darn cat across the apartment like a foot ball because the cat woke him up through the night by crossing by over his face with her little fury belly
Oh if only my girlfriend had a cat that I could kick.
cute_physics_guy
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Am I Being Too Picky?
Posted:
11/25/2007 9:10:13 AM
No you are not too picky, all of the listed are legitmate reasons to not be interested. Try looking at more dating sites, I met my gf on hotornot.com Sometimes they charge, but they only charge $5/month and they do go through long periods where messaging is completely free.
cute_physics_guy
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A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted:
11/25/2007 9:05:14 AM
Guys, when you dig a woman..when you are into her...are you ever too busy to call her?
Definitely, and I take 1-2 minutes to call and say hi.
cute_physics_guy
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Is this a major turn off for anyone else?
Posted:
11/25/2007 9:03:22 AM
OP,
it is not just you, something is wrong with that. Do not let him into the house. I suggest not contacting him further and just looking for a new fish.
cute_physics_guy
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8 times today?! WHY?!
Posted:
11/25/2007 8:54:34 AM
I used to get that too and I did not like it. Actually I found it to be a turn off and if I was being hit on, I got out of there pretty quickly.
My current gf started some of those comments about a month into our relationship and then she wanted to know why it didn't work out for me in past relationships. I said the following generic response "well some of them I didn't really like, and some of them didn't like me".
cute_physics_guy
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Why do mature adults think taking it slow lends itself to a deeper/more meaningful relationship?
Posted:
8/20/2007 8:45:24 PM
That's a very good question.
Personally my response to someone telling me to take it slow is "what in the hell are you waiting for?"
I'm not saying do something that you are uncomfortable with, but if you want to take it slow for the sake of "taking it slow" you are just playing the "taking it slow" game.
My gf and I got really serious after dating for 1 week. 4 months later, we are still pretty serious. Neither one of us regret getting serious, and had we not gotten serious, we probably would have ended up seeing other people.... so why take it slow? Either you want someone, or you don't.
cute_physics_guy
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Moving In Together???
Posted:
7/29/2007 6:17:16 PM
I'm about to move in with a significant other in about 4 months. I am getting a 2 brdm apartment for us to live in. I want a 2nd brdm in case for whatever reason, we decide that we don't like living together, we can still cohabitate for a while w/o immediately drastically having someone move out. Cause really, I'm going to grad school, and if it doesn't work out, I really can't be picking up and moving to a new apartment.
That's my 2 cents, get a 2 brdm place. Sorry I don't have a good response to your other questions.
cute_physics_guy
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threesome?
Posted:
7/29/2007 8:32:41 AM
The OP didn't mention a sexual threesome, just that 3 ppl were going out on a "date".
She is doing it for safety reasons, and it's likely to be a complete and utter failure.
I would not be willing to have it be the three of us. Here's what I would do. "Well I'd really like to get to know you one and one, would you be comfortable if you had two of your friends show up and be nearby, but not at our table?"
Anything less than that and you run the risk of them ranting on about stuff you've never experience.
cute_physics_guy
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why cant guys tell you if they dont like you after one date
Posted:
7/29/2007 8:26:56 AM
Move on to the next one.
cute_physics_guy
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Are women marketable after age 30?
Posted:
7/27/2007 2:14:23 PM
I believe that women in their 30's should all be in nursing homes.
*Voice from the background* "You dated someone 31"
Ssssshhhhhhh........
cute_physics_guy
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Lust and Dislike
Posted:
7/27/2007 2:12:51 PM
Yes I have wanted to jump the bones of someone who was bad for me
cute_physics_guy
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Touch and overkill on first date
Posted:
7/27/2007 2:10:36 PM
Is it true that if I guy is overly "affectionate" towards you on a first date that he's just testing the waters to see how you respond and to see if he can get you into bed ? I mean is there such as thing as too much "affection"? A guy friend of mine told me that if guys are overly affectionate on a first date that means that on some level he doesn't respect you/thinks he is out of your league and thinks you are an easy target to "bed". If that is the case then what level of "affection" does a guy display on a first date to a woman that he does respect?
Um what?
Sorry I don't get it =(
cute_physics_guy
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stay on, delete, or hide profile, what would you do?
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7/27/2007 2:08:29 PM
I put in my profile that I was seeing someone and that "here's what my profile used to say". My gf doesn't like that I still go on dating sites, but I life the forums. I have explained this to her a couple of times. Don't think she really likes it, but I do not hide it from her, and when I tell her specific details of what people post on the forums, she seems more comfortable.
cute_physics_guy
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Why do men ruin relationships with video games?
Posted:
7/27/2007 1:31:05 PM
WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES?
BECAUSE THEY ARE AWSOME!
Also highly addictive, at least for me. I'm actually very careful in relationships now that I don't get addicted.
cute_physics_guy
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Unsettling
Posted:
7/27/2007 1:29:55 PM
Haven't ever been married, but I've sure felt the same way when I've seen an x-gf happy with another guy.
cute_physics_guy
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I am a...
Posted:
7/27/2007 1:22:51 PM
The thing people don't get, is that your profile isn't a self description, so much as it is an advertisement meant to bring people in. You have to catch perk their interest.
cute_physics_guy
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An all too familiar predicament... and how to overcome it?
Posted:
7/27/2007 12:29:37 PM
Do not listen to the cry baby women that complain "there are no good men left". Either their standards are too high, or they aren't willing to look.
I live in a city of 100,000 people, and if you can't find a good single one, the problem isn't that they don't exisist, it's that you haven't found them. Complaining that you can't find one doesn't get you anywhere.
just how is a guy supposed to know:
1. A woman is single? Some women have rings on all their fingers. Even thumbs - not that it's much of an indicator but that's why the 'bar' was probably invented near the beginning of mankind.
2. if she's open to men of a race other than her own.
3. if she's open to men of her own race (Asian and Indian men know what I am talking about).
4. if she's really of an ethnicity that she seems to be.
5. that if he does say hi, she won't dash like the road runner or make a scene. I do acknowledge the risk factor but that's the whole point.
6. how old a woman really is? I've seen 18 year olds that manage to look 30 but their attitude shows.
1) Ask her
2) Ask her, or just hit on her and ask her out and see what happens
3) Ask her, or just hit on her and ask her out and see what happens
4) Ask her
5) She might dash, it's all apart of trying to meet someone. The key is to not let yourself get worked up if she dashes, and try and a approach her in a friendly manner.
6) That's a tough one. Talking to her will clue you in on her age. I'd say date her for a while. Do you really care as long as she's over 18, responsible, fun, independent, etc, etc?
cute_physics_guy
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Why do guys take your number and never call?
Posted:
7/27/2007 12:20:18 PM
Every now and then I exchange numbers at a bar/party, whatever, and then she calls me an hour after the party for either sex or because she's frickin insecure.
Either one isn't something that I'm interested in, so I just immediately delete if that happens.
cute_physics_guy
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MEN ARE MESSES!
Posted:
7/27/2007 12:17:13 PM
Some guys are. I remember being at my friends place, and they had garabage and crap all over. Not to mention the pile of dishes heaping on top of the dishwasher.
I have also seen the same place at some women's house's. Not any of the girls I dated, but some of their siblings, it was pretty bad.
cute_physics_guy
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He's Looking for a life partner but sleeps with his best friend when he's in town?
Posted:
7/27/2007 12:12:56 PM
If my girl friend was sleeping in the same bed and cuddling with another guy........
cute_physics_guy
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Why do people say i'm just to busy no time right now for dating?
Posted:
7/22/2007 1:02:30 AM
A busy person that is interested in you will make time. So yes, it's an excuse.
cute_physics_guy
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Where do you see this relationship going?
Posted:
7/22/2007 1:00:19 AM
She may be busy, however she isn't interested in you. It's time to move on.
Texting seems pretty impersonal unless you have been dating for a while. The next girl you date, call her up. If she isn't answering your calls, you know that you are being ignored.
cute_physics_guy
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My New Girlfriends Nuts!
Posted:
7/22/2007 12:56:49 AM
This person is obviously a control freak.
She can demand whatever she wants, you have to have the testicular fortitude to look her dead in the eye and say to her:
"I am not removing this person off of MSN"
"You can't have my passwords" (beware of keylogger programs, if she uses them, dump her asap)
"My profile stays, however I will change it to "In a Relationship" as opposed to "single"".
You have to set boundaries in this relationship. From your side of the story, you do not seem to be doing so.
cute_physics_guy
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Seeking Guidance
Posted:
7/5/2007 11:39:31 AM
Thejuice83,
I have been in the same situation. After 2-3 months, she left him. However, after she left him, I found that I wasn't able to trust her, because she was seeing me while she was still seeing him, and she hadn't ever told him about me.
You have to decide what kind of relationship that you are going to be happy with. If you are not happy with it, or are not going to be happy with it, you need to be willing to walk away from it, or you will continue to be unhappy.
I would be very direct with her. She made the first move you. I would ask her what she wants from you. Putting up a wall between you two is not going to solve anything. You have to directly address the situation with her. "So what's the plan? Do you plan on living with him and not breaking up with him while seeing me forever?"
I would then listen to her response and give her an honest answer.
If she gives you the "well I don't want to leave him, I want to be with you, but I don't want to hurt him" I would reply "if you want to be with me, then be with me". If she insists on not being willing to leave him, I would walk away from the relationship on the spot. "I'm not willing to keep seeing you while you are involved with another person."
I'd also be wary of this one. She is involved with someone else, and is seeing you. If she has made a move on you and not told him..... there is a word for that. A person like this is likely to give you the exact same treatment if she finds herself unhappy. Be careful of what you catch
cute_physics_guy
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Spanking - What's the deal?
Posted:
7/1/2007 4:12:36 PM
I don't get it either. Not really into pain. A stinging sensation doesn't turn me on.
cute_physics_guy
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Is meeting more than one on the same day acceptable behavior?
Posted:
6/30/2007 1:48:33 PM
Each one is informed of the other either during the meet or if possible beforehand.
You seem to be straightforward about it. When I was single I did the same thing because usually I'd meet someone and either I or she wouldn't be interested in going on a second date.
I actually dated a girl for a while who on our first date told me she saw a guy a few days before me. I didn't mind, we liked each other and kept seeing each other.
Nothing wrong with it, just don't hide it.
cute_physics_guy
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He looks nothing like his picture. Help!
Posted:
6/30/2007 1:41:21 PM
Is it okay to leave early if someone has told material lies in their profile?
I think it's ok to not even say hi and just walk away if they try and like and post fake pictures. Or you could say "you look nothing like your picture, I'm really not interested in wasting time with someone that's going to try and mislead me". Then walk away.
At the same time, some of my pictures on this site are 2-4 years old. Someone might say I look different, I just happen to really like the pictures I have up. It also might be a good idea to ask them for a recent picture before your first meeting. If they say "it's only 4-5 months old" and the picture is obviously not, feel free to walk away or use an excuse to leave early.
cute_physics_guy
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Dating men who have never been married
Posted:
6/30/2007 1:38:23 PM
I think that there is only 1 star in the universe. I stepped outside at 4pm and saw only 1, so there must be only 1 star. All of existence is exactly the same.
By the same logic, all never married men over 35 must be selfish and unable to relate to kids.
cute_physics_guy
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chemistry on first date
Posted:
6/30/2007 1:33:11 PM
I think that you have far greater chances of actually going on a second date if there appears to be attraction on the first date. Go in with the attitude that you are actually interested in meeting this person, if possible try and have 3-4 funny stories prepared in advance to try and help you both relax.
Talk about what you two might be interested in doing on a second date: mini-golfing, cooking dinner together and watching a movie at home, etc. ( Don't confuse making dinner together as being the same as going out to a restaurant then going to the movie theater. The classic dinner and a movie just seems to impersonal, while making someone dinner seems to hit a better note. Also don't mention the movie in advance of dinner. Mention it during dinner so that it seems like a more natural thing to do. )
cute_physics_guy
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Sister starts arguments over petty $10 objects.
Posted:
6/18/2007 1:41:08 PM
Heh, so how much did you get for it? I should go through all of my old Nintendo crap. It all still works.
$15.50 A lot of people bid on old video game stuff. An old nintendo goes for about $40. Some of the games go for $5-$20.
I had a Mega Man X3 game and the original box and manual which went for $66. The same game w/o box and manual went for $36.
cute_physics_guy
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Sister starts arguments over petty $10 objects.
Posted:
6/18/2007 12:19:00 AM
Thank you again for the advice all. Well, here's how it turned out...
We actually happened to have a family gathering at my parents when the item sold. She happened to bid on it, and was the high bidder 45 minutes before it ended. So while we were eating, the auction ended, and she got outbid within a few minutes of the auction. The buyer happened to pay me immediately after the auction.
I'm really glad it's sold and gone so I don't have to deal with it
, although she will probably bring it up later, in which case I will just ignor her comments if she does.
cute_physics_guy
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Is my wife gay?
Posted:
6/16/2007 4:59:30 PM
Could be that she's thinking of having an affar.
cute_physics_guy
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The whole friends after dating thing....
Posted:
6/14/2007 11:15:23 PM
Andrew312312,
you are never going to be happy in this situation. It's great that you want to treat her well and care about her feelings, but either you want someone or you don't. It's not worth it to waste time with someone that won' t commit to you when you could let one pass you by that you'd really be happy with.
cute_physics_guy
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Guys, this is a Technical Question.......
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6/14/2007 12:44:55 PM
This is a common task which a hardware store rep should be able to help you out with. Just go into the store and ask a couple of people, tell them what you want. Basically, yes stud finder, rod, and brackets, maybe tools to screw in the brackets it you do not have any.
A tapemeasure and a small level might be helpful also.
Good luck! Hope you enjoy your new clothes rod!
cute_physics_guy
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one night stand, pregnancy, he's a foreigner - let him know?
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6/14/2007 12:39:28 PM
Should she or should she not tell the father?
It sickens me that the option of not telling him is on the table.
cute_physics_guy
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Sister starts arguments over petty $10 objects.
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6/14/2007 2:13:26 AM
My point is that it is petty and childish to even think in terms of a loan when you're talking about trinkets.
One man's trinket, is another man's practical appliance. Well, at least I was able to get my mini-fridge from Paris back from her. She just kept my mini-fridge from Puerto Rico. Now if she had taken my trinket mini-fridge from Brazil, I woulda been pissed
cute_physics_guy
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Sister starts arguments over petty $10 objects.
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6/13/2007 4:55:36 PM
Tell her you will trade it for the fridge .
LoL I honestly didn't think of saying that yesterday while talking to her.
I am telling you trade her the card for the fridge and as you walk away go NA NA NA the fridg is worth more ... I hope you still fight like this when you are in your 60's maybe you will fight over denture cream! and adult diapers
Christi66 you are just plain funny =P
It sounds to me as if the relationship between you and your sister has never matured (i.e., to get what she wants, sis reverts back to old behavior tactics that she pulled when you were kids together). To break the cycle, simply refuse to participate in her sibling games. You’ve already learned to never let her “borrow” anything (unless you never want to see it again). Next, refuse to discuss petty matters with her. You’ve told her to bid on the Game Genie if she wants it, and that’s the end of the discussion. If she tries to push the issue, politely restate your position and, if necessary, end the conversation. Additionally, take the “no further discussion” stance with anyone else she has run tattling to (e.g., mom). Any time sis acts like she’s still 13, nip it in the bud by refusing to acquiesce to her childish behavior. Hopefully, she’ll get “the message” and your relationship will mature.
Thank you Frau Blücher, that was very insightful. I am going to take that as my approach.
I appreciate the comments all, this has helped very much.
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Sister starts arguments over petty $10 objects.
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6/13/2007 2:50:36 PM
I have the suspicion she doesn’t have one.
She's married, lives in a house and owns 2 vehicles.
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