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 Author Thread: When to pull the plug on a pet
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
When to pull the plug on a pet
Posted: 6/28/2009 6:19:00 PM

Now that I tossed out the line and got a debate going...
WHAT dollar value do we put on a pets life? When do we say "Enough is enough, I'm pulling the plug!"?
I suggested a hundred bucks. Got a dispute with that? Then YOU set a figure and justify it, as I did. (Law of diminishing returns.)
Otherwise...guess you'll have to retreat back into your corners and whine, huh?

I'm not going to debate you.....and I am not a whiner...your post was totally inappropriate in my opinion, and stupid....not only that, but people like you make me angry, which is rare. People who would try to emphasize how animals are less important that humans and therefore should be treated in a less than decent manner, this makes me angry. What you should do is let other people decide the price they would feel comfortable spending on there animals. And don't attempt to make them feel guilty by making human comparisons...like rushing into a burning building and what do you save pet or human? What does that have to do the with the OPs question? Here is a question for you mr. no compassion for animals: if there was "just" an animals in a burning building would you risk your life to save it? Redundant question, as I know what the answer is...and realize this, there are many people who would do it. And they are a better person than you in my opinion....have your say because I am done with responding to the likes of you...
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Dog Grooming - How to trim his nails
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:56:10 PM

A short sharp rap on the head usually works.


Oh boy...really ignorant advice, but you have already figured that out I am guessing. Here is what I would do with you dog, begin to desensitize his feet, When he is laying down sleeping and relaxed, go up and handle his feet a bit, act like your just going to look at his nails. Do this every chance you get...all throughout the day...handle his feet, act like your examining his nails. He will adjust to this eventually. Then bring the trimmer out and over time let him adjust to that. When it comes time to trim don't be afraid to be somewhat forceful...just remember that the dog is afraid. You have to show over time that there is nothing to be afraid of...of course your going to reward it for good behavior. Mail trimming can be difficult. You should try and learn how to get a 1500# ornery horse to allow it's feet to be trimmed, now that can be challenge! Not one were hitting or being violent is at all acceptable. That is for ignorant people who have no patience...
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
When to pull the plug on a pet
Posted: 6/28/2009 5:30:51 PM

..when the costs start outweighing the benefits, you have to take a look at your stance on the subject.
Some feel that they have to treat an animal like a child...and go all out for them. Anything less makes you sme kind of monster or something. Sorry...but we ARE talking about animals here, not human lives. Huge distinction between the two...but some seem to forget that. Too bad they haven't got the brains to figure out that human life ALWAYS comes before animals lives.


You sir, are an ass! I've met you type before...always an unsavory experience. Your missing something, and a major point, in your rant about what is more important humans or animals...and it is simply this: you can have compassion for BOTH....did that ever occur to you? Your analogy about there being a fire and having to choose between a human life or an animals is ....simply stupid...to anyone who has there perspective in life straight, it is obvious what the correct choice is.
Figure a 100 bucks...if it can't be fixed for less that get a new one...oh that is just great...yah, why would anyone want to spend that much on a pet when it is as you say "cringing you little pleasure in your life now"...STUPID statement! Totally ignorant! People who love animals haven't got the brains to figure out that human lives come before animals? The two are not mutually exclusive....I am not the type to get on a public forum and post such a severe response to a comment, but for you I will make an exception. I have been fortunate enough to have seen and know what true compassion is, for animals and humans. You apparently do not understand the concept. You are lacking in a basic human quality....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
When to pull the plug on a pet
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:32:30 PM

If one gets sick, of course I'll take them to the vet, but if the sickness is age-related and the prognosis poor, what would you do?


Well I can speak in regards to this question with a fair amount of experience as I was married to a veterinarian for 12 years and we had a clinic that treated small animals among other things. Never an easy decision...but inevitably one that must be made unless your fortunate (?) enough to just have the beloved pet pass away on its own with no long term health issues leading up to it. When one of my own dogs (a red heeler that I had from since a pup) developed cancer I nursed her along till she couldn't even get around anymore...she was in pain to, but I felt that the times she wasn't in pain and was still enjoying things offset that enough to put off the inevitable for a while. I would say this much....if your a kind and compassionate pet owner, don't make yourself miserable 2nd guessing yourself about the proper time to put a pet "down". Sure your veterinarian can advise you...but you will most likely be the best judge of when is the proper time. Enjoy having them while you can that is the best thing...
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Do you think chocolate is addictive?
Posted: 6/27/2009 4:16:09 PM

This study discusses whether or not chocolate is physiologically or psychologically addictive but does not come to a definitive conclusion. This is the conclusion:


Well I think it is quite easy to say that it can be psychologically addictive at least. I know it effects me in a pretty strong way when I indulge in it, and I don't do well if I have any more than a small amount of it at a time.
Had the greatest experience with it to date this spring, went into this chocolate shop in Paris:
http://www.lamaisonduchocolat.us/us/en/commerce , and purchased some. Some say it is the best chocolate in the world. I believe it. Now this stuff is REAL (dark) chocolate, not to be confused with the milk chocolate which is commonly seen here in the states. Tried to tell the young lady behind the counter that I wanted one kilo, in two 1/2 kilo packages, of a variety of everything they had...my french apparently wasn't that good because when I returned 15 minutes later to pick it up she handed me two kilos of chocolate in two packages. What a great mistake! Except that it cost$$$$...a lot! I gave most away but kept some for myself and enjoyed it every now and than. Chocolate is DEFINITELY a mood altering drug! Anyone ever seen the movie 'Chocolate' with Johnny Depp? That is what the movie is primarily about...Think I read somewhere that it is actually a useful treatment for depression. Do I ever believe that.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Camping tips and recipes
Posted: 6/27/2009 2:16:03 PM

I'd like to see if anyone here has any camping tips and recipes that wouldn't normally be found by doing a search on the Internet.


Saw the title of your post and it caught my attention, but after reading your question had literally no idea how to respond, simply because many people have a different idea of what constitutes camping.... I can only surmise since you talk about fire rings , 5 gallon jugs of water, cast iron fry pans ( but a dutch oven is to heavy?, a book I might suggest is "dutch ovens chronicled" read it and you might not bring anything but one...), and frozen food, that your talking about campground camping. Personally...never been in a campground. But I do have some advice for those who might enjoy braving things a little past the campground habitat, and which is similar to my idea of a true camping experience. It is all outlined in a book entitled 'woodcraft' published in 1891 written by a fellow with the psuedonym "Nessmuk". This guy had it all figured out...this book has it all, highly entertaining reading! Even if your only destined to venture no further than a campground, I would suggest you get a copy of this book to bring along and read on your next camping "adventure". I should mention that the area he liked to explore was the Adirondacks.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Advice
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:00:09 PM

Your friends are idiots and you should stop asking them for advice about YOUR relationship.


OK...so he should listen to a total strangers advice off the internet, why?


There is no more difficult a position (to me) than to be in the role as step parent. You have all the responsibility and none of the control as to what actually happens with the child.

I think your first plan of avoiding women with minor children was wise. Not sure how you got into this lady with that thought... but now you face the decision of whether to stick it out or find someone else.

Neither decision will be easy (short term). Though I think when deciding things for the bigger picture, let your brain take over.


These to me are wise words.......I might only add that, when it comes to step children...you might want to think about treating them with as much thought & care as the person you are interested in. Try and look at things from there perspective, if at all possible, they are just along for the ride, or it may feel that way for them. A person that can persevere in a situation like you describe is a good one...better than most.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
which would you prefer?
Posted: 6/25/2009 6:51:13 PM

when i say single, so i mean, basically 365 days per year without any company on the sofa. (can i get an 'aww', etc, blah.)

and altho it's improved in the 30's (they loved it) say sex every 3 years in 20's (other guys must be better at talking the talk)


OK gotcha, now how about defining "bad relationship"? Because by my definition of it, there is no way a person could prefer that over being single. A bad relationship makes life miserable...but when your single and don't wish to be, it is often possible to fill you life with other things that can somewhat make up for the lack of a significant other. I am talking meaningful things...productive things...things, projects, or interests that a person might not otherwise be able to undertake if they were in a relationship. That being said:


No being single means I get the remote all the time...

Being single means I can go where I want when I want and get there how I want...

Being single means I can go out with any guy I want, well for the most part

Being single means that I can sleep in my bed without someone stealing the covers

Being single means if I don't want to talk I don't have to

Being single means if I am having one of my days nobody has to know it

Being single means when I need something fixed I can go fishing anytime I want

Being single means I can eat what I want

Being single means I can party when I want

And being single means if I feel like being green and bouncing off the walls, I can do it...if I want


being single means you never have anyone to watch tv with...

being single means you get to go where you want how you want when you want...alone

being single means you have to be searching for that someone special, oh is that fun...

being single means your get to sleep alone...

being single means when you want to talk there is no one there to listen...

being single means if your having a great day there is no one to share it with...

being single means there is no one to even share a meal with at home...which can be one of the nicer things in life...

being single means you are going to get sick and tired of partying after a while...

being single means you can do what you want...but you have no one that you care enough about to wonder "what would my partner want to do for them to enjoy themselves?" ...making someone you love happy can be addictive.......watch out...
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 88 (view)
 
ever think about giving up and just be happy and single?
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:27:21 AM

If you can be your only source of everything, no one can take advantage of you for asking. End of story.


That is so true, and in my opinion a prudent way to approach a relationship. Just like you said, being independent insures that you might not be taken advantage of. But still, that being said, and to address the OPs' question....do you find that you need to be in a relationship, while adhering to the principles you have set forth if that is what suits you? Or can you just go it totally alone? No relationship. Few people can truly do that...for reasons that become fully apparent to those who have, for an extended period....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 139 (view)
 
I Want Someone Like ME- is it too much to ask?
Posted: 6/21/2009 10:53:31 AM

Now, I am about to give up. brndn


Well go ahead with that ...no really...do it. Give up. I mean...who in there right mind would ever think that there is a women out there with the qualities that you have listed...that thought is so ridiculous......
OK sarcasm aside...what is your hurry???? Do you think relationships are that easy? All you need to do is read these forums for a bit to see that...well...it ain't that simple.....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 82 (view)
 
ever think about giving up and just be happy and single?
Posted: 6/21/2009 10:41:23 AM

No one ever took care of me. I no longer feel the need to take care of them.


Oh I just feel the need to chime in here......that sentence sums up your post. I may not have any idea of what I am talking about.....but... as far as I know a good relationship should be about taking care of each other. Someone who would listen to about how you had a bad day....someone to take care of you when your not feeling well....someone who is excited about hearing something exciting that happened to you...someone to "share" things with....good relationships are never lobsided with one person taking more out of it than the other....all that being said...I think the single life can be good. Not only that...but I think everyone should do it at some point. It will only make a person appreciate a close and true relationship with someone else all the more....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Stumbling upon unfortunate news...
Posted: 6/21/2009 10:24:26 AM

If you know that someone is doing something vile to someone else, you are morally responsible to stop it.



Really????? In that case I better get moving & stop coming to these forums....so many vile things happening to people...so little time.......
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
How has your experience been with POF? Thumbs Up or Down?
Posted: 6/21/2009 10:07:21 AM
for me I would have to say....I guess a lot of it could have to do with a persons perspective though, or to put it more simply, what your expectations were when you joined the site. I think this site is great.....have met some really wonderful people in the short time I have been here. I had no expectations when I came here I just did it to see what would happen...and so far I am liking it a lot...
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Is it me or him being odd?
Posted: 6/21/2009 9:44:01 AM

Just a passing thought re-reading the post, does anyone else find it odd that people now "talk" through texting?...


I do. And to send 100 in a day.....well...wow...
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 124 (view)
 
Is it racism when....
Posted: 6/16/2009 4:16:47 PM
I'm reading all of this and thinking....yah this poster has a point, and that poster has a point, and I can understand that persons perspective....but still am not able to clearly understand how someone putting the fact that there not interested in a particular ethnicity on there profile would make them racist...... please someone enlighten me. Tell me this, if I were to put on my profile that I "PREFER" Asian women, for example, would that make me a rascist? I agree it is bad policy to put on a profile that your not attracted to a someone because of there race, I mean I think that is just rude really...but saying that I am attracted to certain people because of there race would be acceptable, and in effect means the same thing...that the person is not as attracted to other people because of there ethnicity.......In short , the OP may be rude, but racist...
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 422 (view)
 
What is your favorite type of sex?
Posted: 6/16/2009 2:49:30 PM
^^^^^^^^^^ your boyfriend=lucky guy
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
any buckethead fans out there?..........
Posted: 6/13/2009 6:13:11 PM

I guess he sure likes the KFC!


I hear they sued him (KFC), now he just wheres a plain white bucket.....KFC must not have wanted him publicizing the chicken genocide that was occurring every day in there restaurants worldwide....he cracks me up....Pearly I think your right it might be better to see him in an indoor setting. I would love to see Claypool play...where in the heck do you get a base like he has? I don't know, but I like it.......
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
who is into Leonardo Da Vinci & the Mona Lisa?
Posted: 6/13/2009 5:47:54 PM

Have to say that in the same room at the Louvre is a fabulous painting, Caravaggio's The Fortune Teller.<<

I've always loved Caravaggios' work myself...most of it's really dark, definitely the look he was going for... but I enjoy his work mostly because he was a superb student of the realist school. "The fortune teller" is one of his more colorful works, and probably one of his more famous, but I would hesitate to call it the best work in that particular gallery, in fact there is no way I could do it...to many excellent works to compete against. I don't recall it being in the room with the Mona Lisa, I have a picture of it which I took this spring, and it was in the long hallway containing most of the 15th & 16th century Italian works. I would have to say my favorite work by him is "The Entombment". His biography is very interesting, quite the renegade. A self destructive personality if there ever was one. Never went anywhere unarmed, even when it was against the law to carry a sword. Running from the law because he killed someone in a sword fight over a tennis match of all things... wounded many times in sword fights and even severely disfigured in one towards the end of his life, and then an untimely death while on a mission to seek a pardon from the pope...all that contributes to making him one of my favorite artists.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 295 (view)
 
favourite paintings
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:25:34 AM

Monet first for me too...Can we have whatever we like? in that case I'll have the 8 Waterlily Murals flown in from the Musee de l'Orangerie please.


Oh yeah......not a huge fan of impressionism, but seeing that in person sure did make me a huge fan of Monet....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
any buckethead fans out there?..........
Posted: 6/13/2009 3:18:14 AM

...did I tell you they are playing at that place by the river, up the canyon near ft. collins?!



Hi Pearly, I did see he would be performing at the Mishawaka Amphitheatre, but wasn't sure what it was like there. Is it a nice place to see a live show? Fort Collins is great, it has one of the best used/rare book stores in the state, definitely overdue for a visit there.....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
any buckethead fans out there?..........
Posted: 6/12/2009 5:47:52 PM
I'm thinking of going and seeing him live next month....anyone have any experiences to share? I don't know what it is about his music...but I like it! Maybe it's just because he does things his own way....and he rocks for sure! Thanks for any opinions....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
who is into Leonardo Da Vinci & the Mona Lisa?
Posted: 6/12/2009 5:22:34 PM
Just saw this article this evening at:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31320879/ns/technology_and_science-science/?gt1=43001

I have been a lover of renaissance art for a long time, and have had a particular interest in Da Vinci. I see this article today and it only serves to confirm what I have been thinking all along, that there was more to the painting "Mona Lisa" than it being a simple commission. He had painted Mona lisa in the nude, and possibly several other times, in addition to what we now now as the worlds most famous painting the "Mona Lisa". Da Vinci said himself that in all his travels he carried only two paintings (among other things), with him everywhere he went, one being the Mona Lisa or Gioconda, and the other his unfinished work of St. Jerome ( incidentally this article mentions the St. Jerome and when it was "re-discovered", an interesting side note is that, it being painted on wood, when it was found half was a cobblers table and the other half had been made into a chest, it being taken apart and the wood being used). Why would an artist carry around a painting for the rest of his life of a particular woman? The fact that he brought it with him to Paris where he died is why it is in the Louvre now. I have always suspected that he was in love with her...that could be why it turned out to be his best work, and one of the finest works of art of all time,...he had a powerful motivation & inspiration, the best kind! I don't believe this painting was commissioned at all, I believe he wanted to paint her because he thought she was beautiful....and that is why he kept this painting for his own, and near him until he died. Well, something to think about anyway, but I am totally convinced he was in love with this women and the painting served as a way to express his feelings toward her.....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
What to get for a first tattoo?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:07:25 PM
I think when your really ready to get one you won't need to ask anyone what to get...or you shouldn't have to at least. For me, I drew something up myself, two eagles flying side by side. Took it in to a highly (this is important) reputable artist and he sized it on a photocopy machine to fit just right where I wanted it placed. Go with color and remember the old adage you get what you pay for. And for any guys that want to get a "tramp stamp".......well......pardon me but I think that would look pretty stupid on a guy. Unless that is the look your going for than go for it.....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
 
middle of nowhere
Posted: 5/28/2009 7:46:42 PM
I think you sound a little insecure about yourself....I mean come on, get some self confidence. So your 42...do you really believe all of what you said? If so I can tell you your wrong, for certain the part where men your age want to date younger women. Quit already with the self pity and learn to look at the bright side. There is one...your just not looking for it.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
First Impressions
Posted: 5/28/2009 10:51:54 AM

Maybe I seem a little harsh,



You don't seem at all harsh to me.....hey I wear my jeans until they fall off there so tattered. I have an entire drawer full of what I refer to as my "cleanest old & dirty jeans". But that surely doesn't mean that I need to dress in these "everyday" clothes when I am meeting a woman for the first time in order to feel comfortable, or be "me". I think the level of how a person presents themselves shows a certain level respect for the situation, and how seriously a person is taking things. Bottom line is... if you don't feel a person is taking the situation seriously enough to take at least a little time and effort to look presentable to you, than don't feel at all uncomfortable about going with your instincts in a situation like that. I mean, I am sure certain guys would feel the same way in a similar situation.....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Green Bay Pinic PotLuck meet n greet. June 27th, 2009
Posted: 5/27/2009 7:25:34 PM

the best directiosn i ever saw thanks marais1


Your most welcome, I spent a lot of my youth growing up just down the road from the park, when it was still country and the city hadn't moved out that far yet. Had lots & lots of fun at that park in those days......
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Green Bay Pinic PotLuck meet n greet. June 27th, 2009
Posted: 5/27/2009 1:37:39 PM
Pamperin Park is really easy to find.......and a nice place. When you get to Green Bay and your traveling North on highway 41/141 you want to get off on the highway 29 exit heading West. You travel about 1 mile to the 1st set of lights, and make a right on Memorial Drive, and then almost immediately make a left following old Shawano Avenue, there will be a sign there that will direct you into the Park. The road leading into it follows the river, or rather Duck Creek, so there really is no way not to find it, after you turn left off of Memorial Drive... all roads lead to the park entrance which is only and 1/8 of a mile or so away.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Is the human body all that?
Posted: 5/25/2009 6:26:03 PM

Oh, and boys would get periods, not girls


Why is it that I can always, without fail, come to the UK forums and get a good laugh? Well...I don't really care why, just am glad that I can. Have a great day!
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 532 (view)
 
Re: Most Wild Place You Had sex!
Posted: 5/24/2009 7:25:01 PM
Well...I guess I would have to say, the surgery table of an operating room at a veterinary clinic. That was a good one.....
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 96 (view)
 
GRAFFITI: Art or Crime?
Posted: 5/24/2009 11:27:02 AM
And Michelangelo did have his moments of vanity...how do you think he got his nose broke so badly? Lets just say...don't go criticizing other artists work when they are present...and they are a lot bigger than you, with a very short temper. (see, Memoirs of Benvenuto Cellini...)
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 95 (view)
 
GRAFFITI: Art or Crime?
Posted: 5/24/2009 10:12:08 AM

Michelangelo was a sculptor by his OWN MOUTH. Matter of factly your statement even makes more to the argument. Michel never signed his works after the PIETA. Why? Vanity.


He never signed his work before the Pieta either....because he didn't have to. People recognized his work. The story goes that shortly after he finished it and when it was first placed in public for all to see, he overheard a group of people who were viewing it and talking amongst themselves. The problem for him was that they were all attributing it to other artists. So he went back after he had actually finished it, and then signed his name, in a very obvious place. He didn't want to take any chances that people would not recognize it as his work, since he considered it to be his most highly finished sculptor.

I think some graffiti can be viewed as art, that is illegal in many cases. Personally I think it can be pretty cool... but when it comes to defacing someone elses property, that is a no no.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
What kind of guitar strings do you use?
Posted: 5/21/2009 11:24:40 AM
D'Addario mediums on my Santa Cruz Vintage Southerner
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 349 (view)
 
Are US Men Obsolete?
Posted: 5/6/2009 7:33:06 PM

Both your post and Skyzeus' posts reek of sexism.


and ignorance.....talk about not having a grasp on reality........
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
BS stories to impress.
Posted: 4/23/2009 5:27:30 AM
So your question is, why do people lie? Why would someone lie to you about who they are? Like for instance... create a fake profile on a dating site? Is that the kind of lie your talking about?
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
You found your 'look!' part deux...
Posted: 4/19/2009 5:56:23 AM
^^^^^^^^
Hey, she is no "dude". Looks like a young lady to me. And maybe she did ask him or plans to, that doesn't mean she shouldn't ask for other peoples opinions.

If someone said "you found your look" they might just be saying that you look good, and that the look does fit your personality and who you are. I think the pic is great.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 271 (view)
 
favourite paintings
Posted: 4/7/2009 11:31:06 AM
>>>>Italian Masterpiece by: Leonardo Da Vinci "LaBelle Ferronniere".
I don't know when it was exactly painted, around 1700's I think?<<<<

Da Vinci died in 1519. That particular painting your talking about, I believe, would have been done while he was still in Italy so...must date 1500-1510 would be my guess.
I like that piece myself, in fact I just got to see it in person, the original hangs in the Louvre and is not privately owned.

I'd probably choose something from the renaissance, definitely my favorite time period for art in general. Having to choose one piece would be difficult.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Why do you ditch?
Posted: 4/6/2009 6:50:05 PM
Sounds like he is just a jerk. I'd never let someone get away with that, one of my biggest peeves is when someone tells me there going to do something and then they don't follow through. Thing is, most likely when he is telling you that he will do such and such, he is actually thinking he will do something else. Bad.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
You talkin` to me?
Posted: 4/6/2009 6:16:31 PM
>>Why would a man think that you would want to spend any time, or even converse with someone who has let you know pretty much that you don`t measure up to his standards? Why do they even talk to you?<<

Maybe you should just let him know that your "moose & tater chili" can't be beat. Oh, and as far as I can recall, at any bars in Moose Pass AK a guy would never do that. Odd that you would have it happen to you. Most guys there would be very polite to even a 7' bald woman, particularly the ones that were willing and able to go shoot a moose, process it and put it up for the winter.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
do i say what i do in school?
Posted: 4/6/2009 5:41:39 PM
I would definitely put that information in your profile. Why? Because I would guess that it is a very important part of who you are, and just that fact tells a lot about what your future plans might be if you happen to be looking for a possible long term partner. I wouldn't worry at all about making certain men nervous by stating you are a med student, if that were to drive someone away chances are it would be a good thing, they are probably not who you are looking for. I think you might be better off with a guy who was attracted and supportive of that goal, don't you think so to?
Oh and I wouldn't worry about being able to attract guys without the same level of eduction as yourself...I was married for 12 yrs. and my wife was a doctor, me... I never made it past the 10th grade. Embarrassing to admit, but true. We made a great couple to, even if I do say so myself.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Relationship/marriage mistakes
Posted: 4/6/2009 5:14:09 PM
>>one person in the session - one of the organizers said $2000 and above is a fortune for people these days...anywhere in the world.<<


Huh? 2K is a "fortune"? That seems like a crazy thing to say. I'm not sure why someone would even need to know how much money there spouse had. Unless they were going through some sort of financial difficulty or something. I was married for 12 years and don't believe I ever once asked my wife how much she had in her savings, and vice versa. And we certainly did not ever have so much money that it could be characterized as being a "fortune". I would say that as long as the financial arrangements and future plans between two people can satisfactorily be worked out, why would the other partner even need to know exactly how much the other had?
Maybe a better question would be "Is it OK to "hide" something from your spouse", than I would have to say no, having to hide anything isn't constructive to any kind of decent relationship.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 99 (view)
 
What do you think about a first date at the cemetery?
Posted: 4/6/2009 2:51:16 PM
I don't believe it would be inappropriate. Cemeteries are often very beautiful, and can be quite a pleasant place to take a stroll. I just recently took a long walk in one of the coolest cemeteries imaginable, (check it out, for those who have never seen a "really" cool cemetery , www.pere-lachaise.com ) and would actually take someone there on a first date myself if they were alright with it. Got to see Jim Morrisons grave and headstone, that and many other famous people. Saw lots of things that would make for good conversation.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Is admitting I'm strange a turn-off?
Posted: 4/5/2009 8:18:37 PM
You just haven't found a strange enough guy yet. Be who you are and do what makes you feel comfortable. You'll be far happier that way.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Do you think it is really possible for men and women to fully understand eachother?
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:55:58 PM
I understand all of the above and agree. Relationships can get to be frustrating though, and communication a real struggle when these basic differences collide in some way. Perhaps these differences between men and women is what makes a good partnership so worthwhile. It might give each partner a different perspective on things, a better way to solve problems. But I often think these same differences are what often times lead to the end of some relationships. I have never read the book, men are from mars women are from venus, but have heard of it, and the thought has often occurred to me that it's true. Men and women are so different in there thought processes that saying its like there from different planets is not to much of a stretch.
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Checking Out Profiles
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:44:36 PM
How serious a relationship could it be if one of the partners was still "looking"?
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Do men think Gothic girls are kinky?
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:20:08 PM
I think its great if your happy being Goth. People should do whatever they need to to be happy in this world, as long as there not interfering with someone elses happiness that is. Just curious though, don't you think you would be different enough from everyone else without being a Goth? And yes, I have to admit, the less makeup the better is what I prefer in all women. But like I said before, I would find you attractive without it, so there you have it. Regards, TC
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Do you think it is really possible for men and women to fully understand eachother?
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:12:59 PM
I've been fortunate enough to have had a couple meaningful relationships, but as can be expected sometimes things happened where it became difficult to communicate, and I simply couldn't understand my partners actions or behaviour. I don't think it was any particular fault of mine or my partners, we were both intelligent enough people and good communicators. Sometimes I just get the feeling that there are basic differences in the man-woman thought process that can be difficult for each to understand. Does anyone else think that might be true? Thanks, TC
 Marais1
Joined: 3/20/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Do men think Gothic girls are kinky?
Posted: 4/5/2009 6:58:26 PM
Well honestly, I am not trying to be judgmental about your lifestyle choices, but when I look at your photos all I can think is how nice you would look if you removed all the makeup and just used your natural good looks. Lots of guys want to pick up girls hoping there kinky, so maybe your experience doesn't have to do with your being a goth. Have a good one, TC
 
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