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 Author Thread: why can't i find any one who just wants me for me and not just for my friends:(
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
why can't i find any one who just wants me for me and not just for my friends:(
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:20:30 AM
When this happens, does it usually happen with the 1 friend or all of them? If it's just the one then try to keep her away until he's in a relationship of his own. If it's all of them then you're either going to have to let it carry on, get new friends, or find someone who your friends would not want to be with.

It's sad, I wouldn't dream of trying to get with a date's friend. Just doesn't seem right.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
women
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:17:10 AM
Sorry to hear that. It can be tough when something like this happens.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
a Colleague who sneaks out always
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:15:25 AM
I think this is in the wrong forum.

Q1 - Yes.
Q2 - Isolation.
Q3 - Don't know.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
loneliness question? Single for too long is not good?
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:08:08 AM
Bring single and being lonely are 2 different things. I'm sure there are lots of people who are single and aren't lonely as they have a great set of friends and/or family. Then the other side of the coin is there may be people who aren't single and are in a relationship but feel very lonely because they're not in the right relationship or the love has gone.

I wouldn't worry too much about it unless you are unhappy at the situation. Then you should take action to change it. Best of luck!
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
needing advice on my profile
Posted: 5/12/2009 7:02:32 AM
Yeah break up your profile in to paragraphs. It will be easier to read.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Intimate Encounter Message Problem
Posted: 5/10/2009 8:50:33 AM
Yeah I know some women make first contact, just not this one unfortunately! Will try the favourites thing.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Have I messaged this user before?
Posted: 5/10/2009 8:34:22 AM
Ditto - would be really useful. I've had it the other way too - someone messaged me that wasn't what I was looking for but messaged me again not realising. Had to turn her down twice :o(
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Intimate Encounter Message Problem
Posted: 5/10/2009 8:28:00 AM
This is just a suggestion but people's priorities change over time. When I joined this site I was just out of a relationship and didn't feel like getting deeply involved with anyone so I was messaging people who were looking for intimate encounters. I didn't know this restriction existed.

Now it been a few months and I'm doing the dating thing proper. I don't mind people blocking me but the issue I have with the restriction is that there have been women who have checked my profile that I think want me to contact them. As we know, women usually leave it up to the man to make first contact. There is one woman in particular who has viewed my profile a few times but I can't contact her because of this restriction so we both lose out.

I know the flag can't be reset in it's current form. I merely put up for suggestion that maybe some sort of code can be inserted that turns the flag off if, for example, a certain amount of time has passed since they last messaged someone looking for an intimate encounter.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Mind Checking out my Profile?
Posted: 5/10/2009 7:57:20 AM
There might be some people who have tried to contact you but are unable because of the some of the restrictions you have on your account. You could try removing the non-smoker one or the one about messaged people for intimate encounter and then personally filter out messages from people you don't like.

Also when I joined this site I had just come out of a relationship and so I wasn't ready for dating proper. I messaged some women who were just looking for an intimate encounter. Now though I'm actually wanting to date and I find myself unfortunately not being able to contact certain people because of the "must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounter" restriction. Just a thought. Good luck.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Profile Review
Posted: 5/10/2009 7:42:23 AM
Thanks KK. Yeah the second pic I can't enlarge because the quality is bad. I'm gonna delete that one actually. Going to try crop the first one and see if I can the image size/quality.

And yeah I think some people just go on the rater and give everyone a 1.

Wondering any women reading this which of the 2 pics they like the most so I know what to put as the main image. And ofcourse if there's anything on the profile that would make you want to run!
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
what do you think?
Posted: 5/10/2009 6:45:46 AM
The main thing men go f0r first is looks. Sounds shallow but that's the way it is. This is just my personnal preference but I'm not a fan of glasses. Maybe have one with glasses and one without.
 cvocvo
Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Profile Review
Posted: 5/10/2009 4:51:01 AM
Had quite a few read and deleted messages so wondering if there is something on my profile that is putting people off or if it really is my ugly mug that's doing the damage

Also, out of the 3 pictures which one do people think I should use as a main image. (I tried to put them on the image rater but I found that I was getting a lot of 1's. Then I went to rate other men's images to see the competition so to speak and was surprised that not one of them had an average rating of over 4. Even the ones that I think women would find handsome had low scores!)

Thanks in advance
 
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