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Joined: 3/21/2009

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do females that do the break up feel just as terrible as the partner? Posted: 5/18/2009 4:58:56 PM
I completely regret my most recent breakup. I broke up with him because I felt he was slipping away. I was crying all the time because I was afraid to lose him. I thought I cried too much before I broke up with him. Boy, afterwards, I cried for months. I still cry about it sometimes and it has been two years.

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cant get over her, and she wants to be friends Posted: 5/16/2009 6:53:43 PM
Hi Honey. I am going through the exact same thing with someone that I thought was the love of my life. We have been apart for two years and I still see him every day. He works in my building and lives around the corner, so it is inevitable. He still visits my office every morning for a cup of coffee. I have tried everything to avoid contact, but it seems that when I avoid him, he calls. In the beginning, I wanted to remain his friend because I didn't want to completely let go. But now, I realize that it is still tearing me apart inside. I don't know if I could deal with it should I find out he is with someone else. I think, no matter how hard it will be, we both need to completely let go. I wish you all the best. We will be okay. As it is said many times in this forum, it is their loss, not ours. If they cannot see what we have to offer, then they are just plain stupid!

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Words for the broken hearted... Posted: 5/16/2009 6:30:04 PM
Wow!!!!!!!!!! This is a great post. You have got it together. I went to see a therapist to get over someone that I "loved too much". I went thinking I could change myself. Instead I realized that I am a super person with a huge heart and if someone else thought that was a bad thing, then they are the loser.

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Dating with a broken heart..... Posted: 5/16/2009 5:52:04 PM
You're right. I didn't have time to heal. It was only a few months after my ex left. I failed to mention that it has been two years since I lost him. Memorial Day to be exact. I totally should be over him by now.

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I feel like I've lost my soul Posted: 5/16/2009 5:38:34 PM
Oh, Honey. I have felt that pain. It is a true pain and I too felt like I was drowning. It is so soon for you. I went to a counselor to fight through my pain. It helped me realize that I deserve to be happy and he is the one that lost. Please take a few deep breaths and realize that we are here for you.

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Dating with a broken heart..... Posted: 5/16/2009 5:21:11 PM
I met the most wonderful man several years ago. We were both in relationships at the time, so we were just friends for six years. After my boyfriend of 13 years finally cheated one too many times, I left him. My friend, had also left his girlfriend. We started dating and it was the most wonderful relationship I had ever had. He was everything I had always wanted in a man. Well, I screwed it up because of my insecurities and my trust issues. He seemed to become distant and I ended it because I was crying every day thinking I was going to lose him. I didn't want to completely lose him so I have tried to remain friends. He is the building manager where I work, so he is around all the time. He also lives right around the corner from me. I know that it is said that being friends with your ex doesn't always work out, but I knew that I would still have to see him so I wanted to make the best of that. He comes in my office every morning and coffee with me. Sometimes he calls and invites me to the driving range, or he will stop by with the puppy that we had adopted together. I am still madly in love with him. He says he is happy being alone. I have done a lot of research about how to get over a broken heart and some of it says to begin to date to get your mind off him and some of it says not to date until you are completely over him. I think my fear is that I will never get over him. He had such an impact on my life. I don't want to be unfair to a new person, either. Please let me know what you think?

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Writing a letter to the person who broke your heart? Posted: 4/3/2009 5:28:36 PM
I appreciated reading your response. I am trying to learn how to be positive about losing the love of my life. You are right that if he cared about me, he would never have treated me this way. I sent an email when we parted and never got a response. Just proved that he didn't care about my feelings. I need to stop wasting anymore time pining away for someone who could care less if I live or die. Never make someone a priority who only make you an option. I keep saying this over and over.

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