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Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 15 (view)

A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go? Posted: 11/8/2009 4:09:42 AM
If it's not clear to you already, this woman whom you adore is one helluva selfish, self-centred and ungrateful individual. If what you are looking for is longterm partner, what exactly do you see in her? I don't get it. Sorry to say but it's quite obvious that you are like a doormat to her. I could be wrong but once she got a job or find a man who could provide her with premium quality toilet paper, it's when you are out of the picture too. Now you got 2 options: 1. Change the MAIN ENTRANCE door lock 2. Change the BATHROOM door lock (so that she can have it all by herself whenever she decides to come back one day ...)

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 28 (view)

A friend's cheating husband Posted: 11/1/2009 7:26:39 AM
I too have a feeling that your friend can't be totally ignorant of what's going on with her husband all these years. Being a woman yourself, you should know how powerful women's instinct can be right? She must have her own reasons to stay with him, either for money or for love. If he ever hits on you again, simply tell him to try on other ladies instead unless he plans on divorcing her and marrying YOU. Ask him if you could be of any help by forwarding his text message to her.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band Posted: 11/1/2009 3:05:37 AM
Now... I do understand that some business people like to wear a 'fake' wedding ring so that they appear more stable. It is actually quite common. I find this 'trend' for some singles in the business world choose to wear a fake wedding ring quite interesting. Now you remind me that a friend recently told me about his colleague (never married) wearing it just to appear more stable and trustworthy too. Hmm now that X'mas is coming, makes me wonder if I should get myself a nice 'business ring' too.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Still friends? Should they be? Posted: 10/31/2009 10:27:44 PM
Okay this is what I understand so far: - Guy is well aware of the fact that Girl #1 is interested in him more than just a friend all these months - Guy has been telling her he's been busy and putting off plans to meet again after one date - Guy has got Girl #2 pregnant and wants to stay friends with Girl #1 I am struggling to decide what else the guy wants from Girl #1, other than a FWB deal when he asks her "still friends"?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band Posted: 10/31/2009 9:31:07 PM
I don't think that's possible. I have been on here.. what? About a month? Less than maybe? And I have answered a question like this or similar twice. Oh really? I did use the search function and only one thread popped up ... Anyway, it's always interesting to hear what other people have got to say and to be honest I am for one who doesn't really mind similar threads being done to death. The truth is, people come and go in this forum, and that means we might get some insights from someone new every now and then.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band Posted: 10/31/2009 9:21:08 PM
This person is my former coworker. Once we went for a drink together with another colleague, and he told me out of the blue he has been divorced for 10 years and this other colleague is aware of that too. I think I did ask why he is still wearing the ring and yet I forgot what he said. No problem of me asking him next time we hang out but the same question just comes across my mind again this morning. Okay I am a bit bored so I thought I'd open a thread which has not been done to death.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Divorced for 10 years and still wearing the wedding band Posted: 10/31/2009 8:54:50 PM
What could be the implication/reasons behind? It makes me wonder if the person who does it: - has not moved on? - feels s/he is STILL married in the eyes of the Catholic church? - just wants to appear unavailable to certain people? - for the sake of the children? Inquiring mind wants to know ...

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Perfumes, my boyfriend bought it and now there's an issue Posted: 10/11/2009 1:08:22 AM
I'm a perfume girl myself and tho I know it oh so well that the same perfume smells very different on different person, I wonder what perfume you are wearing now. Do tell! My apology for going OT, I know I am totally not helping here ...

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 36 (view)

What to do when someone keeps canceling plans ? Posted: 10/5/2009 4:57:18 PM
What to do when someone keeps canceling plans ? ... Is he just shy and scared to meet again?? You've already met A FEW TIMES and he STILL makes plans but then cancels at the last minute, how shy can he be? Scared? Of what? Who? Don't kid yourself. I've got four words for you: WRITE HIM OFF ALREADY

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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What does it mean when a woman says... Posted: 10/5/2009 8:23:36 AM
d) she is not attracted to you at all and doesn't want to hurt your feelings

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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do you know what you want or not? Posted: 9/28/2009 11:53:37 PM
do you know what you want or not? I know I do. I want a man (note: NOT a boy!) who won't get put off by my loooooooong laundry list, is as picky as I am and yet thinks we might be compatible in our special ways!

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 45 (view)

Pls help, guys and girls, did I lose him? what to do to get him back? Posted: 9/28/2009 9:38:39 AM
By the way, there is nothing wrong with your writing. I wonder if half the people who criticize you can speak and write in another language...I very much doubt it! My thoughts exactly! We are actually doing them a big favor by speaking/writing the language that they could understand. They might have better chance criticizing/insulting us if they could learn to speak/write in OUR first language, as fluently as we are in theirs! But judging from what I read (grammatical mistakes and typos), I doubt if they could get pass simple words like hello, goodbye and sorry. Sorry OP I know I am a bit off topic here but I just can't help it heheh

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Should I trust this guy? Posted: 9/28/2009 9:25:54 AM
Hmmm what exactly he's been doing which makes you feel he IS using you? In what sense? Maybe he is addicted to the forum just like alot of us here, no?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Pls help, guys and girls, did I lose him? what to do to get him back? Posted: 9/28/2009 7:34:09 AM
As you can see, I am Asian too and in a way, I do know where you are coming from. Let me try to answer your questions here: 1) If a guy is really really interested in a woman, he would never be 'TOO BUSY" or "TOO SHY" to go out his way to reach out for her, even he is out of town or has been mildly rejected before. If he hasn't contacted you for 2 weeks, you get the drift already ... 2) Guys are good at testing the waters and I don't really see why he would be offended/hurt/insulted just because you didn't give him a big hug on the 2nd date. It's not like you reject his marriage proposal. Bear in mind you are not even dating, let alone in a relationship. 3) You can't possibly "lose" someone who isn't yours in the first place. I am assuming he senses there is a huge disparity on intimacy comfort zone between you, he then decides to rest his case as it might take him forever to 'warm you up', if instant gratification is on his agenda. 4) If you still wanna give it another go before the proper closure, by all means give him a call and tell him you wanna meet up. Just don't hold your hopes too high, listen to that little voice, and don't let the desperation gets the best of you tho. Good Luck.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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seeing the person you've just started dating on a date with someone else Posted: 9/28/2009 1:18:21 AM
Hmmm ... isn't she just doing exactly the same thing as you, and might have the same thoughts about you too? One thing is for sure, both of you like fishing at the same pond. Happy Fishing

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Long periods between contacts Posted: 9/13/2009 1:45:00 AM
What should i do, as i think it could be a good relationship. Okay it is the kind of connection you have with this guy: - he disappeared for 2 months after the first meet as he was 'busy' with work - he helped you relaxed by making out with you when he knew you were tired - now he ignores you and disappears again ... he is probably getting himself busy somewhere ... Hmmm you actually mean to say a good SEXUAL relationship right?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 60 (view)

Fellow world travelers? Where have you been, and where do you want to go? Posted: 9/11/2009 8:26:52 PM
Been to - France, Germany, the Netherlands, Poland, Czech Republic, Hungary, Austria, Italy, Spain, Switzerland, Lichtenstein, US (East Coast & West Coast), Canada (Toronto, Vancouver, Canadian Rockies), Australia, New Zealand, Thailand, Cambodia, Indonesia, Singapore, Malaysia, Taiwan, the Philippines, Macau, China, Japan, Korea Want to Do - Russia, Brazil, Argentina, Peru & Egypt

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 60 (view)

The curse of the Asian Persuasion. Posted: 9/11/2009 11:11:32 AM
As Asian women are generally more subservient than American women, I'd just think you were interested in someone you could push around ... Obviously you have not met enough Asian women to have such made such a sweeping assumption ...

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 52 (view)

open relationship, women do not seem to like a happy and permiscuous married man. any help? Posted: 9/8/2009 5:43:29 PM
OP while you are lucky enough to find a woman (wife) who is comfortable with your promiscuity, it doesn't mean any women of good quality (sane, sexy, intelligent, classy, funny etc) are equally happy (or should I say generous) to be your play toy. Why is it so difficult for you to understand? Say how would you feel if the table is turned and you were the single woman, would you rather go with these other single and available guys, OR someone who is happily married to his wife and yet looks for some extra action just to spice up their marriage life? What extra more you could offer to the woman in return that the single guys cannot? Seriously what are YOU thinking anyway? Or are you being delusional here?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You? Posted: 9/8/2009 3:41:11 AM
Before I walk out, I'd tell him, "yeah I can imagine women whom you dated think the same about you too and thus you need to "downgrade" yourself now in order to be dateable. Btw I don't find desperate guys attractive at all. Ciao!"

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Newer relationship Posted: 8/31/2009 7:14:59 AM
I retract my previous comment Mmmmm he sounds dreamy! Oh, AND he's good in bed! All the girls must be envious! Lucky you to find such a catch! I'm all refreshed and challenged by your unique point of view

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 8/30/2009 6:37:00 AM
watching a man cook...sexy as hell Yes! Yes! Yes! YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! Some of my friends even tease me by saying I should find myself a chef as my bf, they are so missing the point here.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Why don't you age? Posted: 8/20/2009 5:21:56 AM
ragadon, I think you are way too modest here, you look more than just ok for being 57! You are one of the very few non-Asian ladies on here who don't look your age at all. Very impressive!

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Why don't you age? Posted: 8/20/2009 5:09:48 AM
Genes, good diet, exercise, healthy lifestyle and positive outlook in life Seriously tho, I think good genes play a big part in it.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Sincerity at the Beginning Posted: 8/19/2009 11:12:26 PM
True golddiggers chase the men with the big bucks. Most of you don't have anything to worry about. Very well said Miss Contemplative I truly believe anyone who is afraid of being 'used' should stay at home so as to avoid meeting some of these free meal diggers.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Just A Friend Or More? Posted: 8/17/2009 7:16:47 PM
If she is still getting over her ex, be her friend for now while keeping your options open ... unless you wanna be just another rebound guy. You can hang out with her as a friend and see how things go from there. Good luck!

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Should I call my ex-gf one year after break-up? Shes single and I love her, but..? Posted: 8/12/2009 10:00:48 AM
Don't dig out the old wound or we are going to see 2 broken hearted people soon ...

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Does your ex still calls you? Posted: 8/9/2009 9:38:03 PM
Isn't kind of weird considering that they're getting married and still calling you? No. She is the same ruthless and shameless control freak who once broke your heart by cheating on you and breaking up with you. Now she is doing similar things to her soon-to-be husband (or probably soon-to-be-ex?), what makes the same old trick so weird to you now? It shows some signs that they're still interested in you? Definitely. You are the love of her life knowing that you will always be there as her last resort. Manipulation is her game and cheater is her name. Remember this just in case you've been "upgraded" to be the other guy someday, ok?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Good Looking, Nice Credentials - Why No Connection? Posted: 8/9/2009 8:45:01 PM
Do you actually think you can find chemistry from a profile? OP is asking why these seemingly good catches are still looking and not hooking up with one another already. What I was trying to say is, chances are some of them did get pass the profile, hook up on email/phone/in person only to find out the physical/intellectual/romantic connection just isn't strong enough to proceed things further, no? There are many reasons why some great catches are still available and looking, and CHEMISTRY and LOCATION are among the top two in my book.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Good Looking, Nice Credentials - Why No Connection? Posted: 8/9/2009 4:08:45 AM
ChEmiStRy, ChEmiStRy, ChEmiStRy! AND LoCaTion, LoCaTion, LoCaTion! Now repeat after me 10 more times.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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He brought his Fanny with him... Posted: 8/8/2009 8:13:53 PM
OP if people call you shallow, pls count me one as well. I know I'd find it awkward too if the guy couldn't just leave his fave fanny pack at home, knowing we are going to an extremely trendy restaurant. I must admit I still find it very amusing when I see some ladies from Mainland China going on hiking wearing 4" stiletto.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 69 (view)

2 strikes and you're out? Posted: 8/8/2009 8:00:53 PM
You might not be the top of his priority list but I don't see him being flaky, nor has he wasted your time standing you up and all that. He had the decency to cancel it prior to your first meet at least. If he wanna meet up again and you don't have better fish in sight/things to do, why not?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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How do i know? Posted: 8/8/2009 7:51:07 PM
How do i know if a person is being honest about their age and all that jazz? 1. Get them to talk on the webcam if your doubts over their age is such a biggie to you. 2. If they don't mind, ask them to send you a scanned copy of their driving licence and etc, and you do the same 3. Meet up without any expectation other than finding out the truth yourself! Then again, all of the above doesn't apply to people who do not look their age ...

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Why do men have affairs? Posted: 8/7/2009 11:01:26 PM
OP your question is too gender specific, truth is both men and women have affairs. They do cuz they are selfish; the only person they truly love and care for in the universe is them and themselves. Plain and simple.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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need help fast! Posted: 8/7/2009 10:47:26 PM
Doesn't she have any friends/family who could send her the money if she is really stuck in another city??? Like how she asked you for help? You just met her last week ... have you ever seen 'her' on webcam?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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IM IN LOVE WITH A MAN WHO DOESNT LOVE ME Posted: 8/5/2009 9:03:59 PM
We all want someone/something we can't have. You will have better chance with guys who want the same things as you in life, than sticking around and hoping for him to change for you. Good luck!

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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The Love of My Life ......married with incurable cancer Posted: 8/5/2009 8:29:19 PM
My question is, if you knew that you might only have a short time left to live, would you want to spend it with someone you love even though it required a big change in your life? I'd choose to spend it with someone I truly love, instead of someone who truly loves me. By the way, OP can you tell the difference? I tried to get him to leave his wife, but I think he felt guilty because she took care of him for almost a year while he battled cancer. I feel him slipping away from me, and I am trying to understand what he's going through. Seems to me you are the only one who is in love in your OWN head from all along ... and he doesn't seem to let you in his life during the years you have an affair ... is it just a fling or FWB thing? Or, would you go to that safe place you now call home and spend the rest of your life with a miserable witch (who just happens to be a nurse)? Please, no comments about leaving him. If I haven't left him by now, I certainly can't leave him when he's sick. Are you sure you are the one he wants to spend his last hours with? Does he call his wife a witch, or do you out of jealousy cuz she was the one whom he chose to marry and stay with, even in a sexless marriage? If you truly love him, be a real friend and be there for him whenever he needs you. Seriously give this sick man some peace already.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Too much baggage to start a new relationship ?? Posted: 8/4/2009 3:50:09 AM
OP this very same question of yours is all over the places, by any chance you are still waiting for certain replies which are pleasant to your heart and eyes? http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12871738.aspx Yes I do believe it's very common for both genders to have too much baggage to start a new relationship, the bottom line is : Do I want to leave all these baggage behind for THIS person ??? Don't listen to these negative people, of course your man does love you! He just doesn't love you enough to treat you the way you deserve, reciprocate your feelings when you throw your heart out at him, and most of all, have most of us to remind you "how much" he really does love you despite the truth is just as plain as my nose.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Is it too early to ask where we stand? Posted: 8/3/2009 3:13:30 PM
Is it too early to ask where we stand? No but I'd suggest you to wait till he finally makes plan to meet you OUTSIDE the bedroom first, if it is ever going to happen. Or else you know the question isn't necessary at all cuz the answer is oh so clear.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Are women marketable after age 30? Posted: 8/3/2009 5:05:17 AM
Age is just a number, it's really down to how well the woman takes care of herself. Say if she looks wayyyyy younger than her physical age, good looking, has nice personality and classy, the market is still there even after 40!

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Friends Helping Friends.... Posted: 8/2/2009 6:06:44 PM
First thing first, OP do you mind losing this 'friend'? If not, try this and tell her something like this: "Hey (her name) thank you but no thank you, guess what? I think you are a bit better than these women, if I can't bring myself to date you, what makes you think I would ever be interested in them? Truth is I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life if I had to go out with any of them."

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Is he 'into me' or not? Posted: 8/2/2009 6:38:36 AM
Are you talking to other fish in the pond? If not, I strongly suggest you to do so. Chances are he's got a fish (or two) whom he feels a stronger connection (or have met up even) while you were still doing the 'pleasant & flirty' chatting/texting thing with each other the past 8 weeks, no? How about asking the same question AFTER you guys have met up, if it is going to happen?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Paying for Majority of Dates Posted: 8/2/2009 6:23:42 AM
Chad, some suggestions for you: - stop asking her out (she is a certified food/drink-digger!) - only date women who are generous enough to pay most of the dates (be prepared to turn a blind eye to some of their qualities, there are reasons why they are so generous with you, or men in general) - have private potluck party in the park (or anywhere which costs nothing) whenever you go on a date, she brings her own food and drinks, you will do the same and tells her sharing is not an option cuz her red might cost US$5 less than yours - pick a candy doll which is to your liking and start dating her Problem solved?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 154 (view)

can you stay friends with an ex? Posted: 8/1/2009 6:10:25 PM
This is no brainer: YES ... if both of you are happily involved with someone else (which usually happens after you cut off all ties with each other for a period of time whom you want to stay in touch with " as friends"), OR neither one wants to have anything romantic to do the other person anymore No ... if you find yourself asking the same question over and over again

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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what does it mean when your ex calls while she just moved into an apt with some dude Posted: 8/1/2009 5:13:31 PM
Wow your ex is one classy and caring lady! Hmmm by the way did you ever mention to her that it turns you on and make you feel very much loved getting a pic of her sucking some new guy off? Or did she do it cuz she knows he will get turned on?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Is he 'into me' or not? Posted: 8/1/2009 5:00:57 PM
Are you talking to other fish in the pond? If not, I strongly suggest you to do so. Chances are he's got a fish (or two) whom he feels a stronger connection (or have met up even) while you were still doing the 'pleasant & flirty' chatting/texting thing with each other the past 8 weeks, no? How about asking the same question AFTER you guys have met up, if it is going to happen?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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Help.....i need advice about my ex Posted: 8/1/2009 4:34:41 PM
Despite you've identified enough reasons why she is an ex now, obviously you are holding a torch for this not-so-ex. While we can't blame you on that, yet why bother to seek for advice on someone who doesn't even want you in her life anymore (cheating, blaming you for her own issues and etc) I know I know you see her as "a friend of life" but you get my point ... Do you see yourself patching things up with her, or even marrying her only to be her 2nd ex husband someday? Sorry but the only advice I have for you is

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

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If he says he's into you, why does he still look at other profiles? Posted: 7/27/2009 7:21:11 PM
OP you mention that you've seen each other a few times, does it mean you are in an exclusive relationship? If not, why it bothers you so much that he is still fishing? Maybe he is someone who is generous with compliments and he has said similar (or not the same) things to other ladies too, no?

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 28 (view)

getting him back + long distance Posted: 7/26/2009 11:17:50 PM
LDR is tough, even between couples who are equally committed to each other, due to physical distance, trust and communication issues. And from what you describe, obviously you are the more committed one while he seems to me a more 'hands-on' and 'long absent, soon forgotten' drama king. Of course you have every right to hold on to it or even fly 10,000 miles just to 'work things out' with him, ignoring all the red flags. Bottomline is, when you look back on one day, you know he is simply nothing but a passerby in your life journey, and not someone whom you are with at the destination. I'd say if you decide to stay, drop all expectations and simply enjoy the journey while it lasts. It won't make any difference to how you want it to be anyway.

Boots168

Joined: 3/22/2009

Msg: 1374 (view)

Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 7/13/2009 6:28:14 PM
Cheating - can you forgive? Being a typical Scorpio myself, no I can't forgive someone who cheats on me cuz this part of our history will forever haunt me. I might be able to forget it as time goes by but I doubt it if I could ever forgive MYSELF if he does it again. For me once a stray cat, always a stray cat.

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