Sex to me is incidental to affection. It is something I savour. It is the expression of love. The very thought of being with a partner that is not affectionate is abhorrent. If I am with someone, I am hers, she is mine and the day is an exchange of little favours, the warmth of a smile, the gentle touch of the hand, the pressure of her body against mine as we sit and read or watch TV, the feeling of warmth radiating from her body as we stand next to each other, holding hands while driving through the night, or the fleeting touch as we separate for the days duties.

What is life devoid of all that? What is sex without affection?

Does not your body cry out for it? Mine does......

You can do anything that you want to without having to get an "OK" from your significant other.

1. Who ask out, should expect they will pay. If a woman ask me out, I will almost insist I pay half, and often the whole thing if we are having a nice time. But remeber whoever did the asking out should be prepared to foot the whole bill. It's not a given the other will offer.

head out to a hockey game ...
do the wave
drink some overpriced beer
cheer the Oilers on
come on Mae

Oh! We recently purchased a Wii. I've never been interested in video games but this whole interactive with body movement thang has me facinated. Matrix, anyone? Meh! But it does seem very Star Trek Holi-decky. I found myself thinking about how back in the day many things on Star Trek were so far fetched. I soooo want a transporter... and WARP DRIVE! Awesome!

WoW! I see a lot in this thread that I'm not looking for

finding a dance partner is one of the hardest things to do. I have a male coach and he says that it is easier to find a wife than a dance partner

Mae, I am so proud of you. Oh, for a silver haired dancing machine to be my partner! Bought a new dress with a sexy kicking skirt...........

Wow! Starting with the easy ones huh! I understand the horror show there, my ex couldn't do it, she hadn't the balance.

Whoo hooo mae! At least you got out there and tried. Go back this Saturday (that's an order!), it will get more fun each time.

Dancing should be fun, not a horror show

Did you think life would be like this at 50?

And imo, when it comes to true romance, maybe we can go green! lol

It's called "manscaping" and it's an integral part of being clean cut.

Of course, age means that certain hair appears in unwanted areas.

Some nose hairs, however, require a needle-nosed pliers and a swift yank. Being inebriated helps keep the screaming to a dull roar.

instead....I'm a frikken loser trolling the internet for a date,,,

Cloudhidden.......is it ok if I picture you walking in the woods with a pair of faded button fly jeans, a flannel shirt open just enough to see your chest hair , and a pair of hiking boots amd the smell of a fire burning ??
Cuz that is what my fantasies are made of

Mae, are you serious? I've always wanted to take a cruise to the Sahara,,,

I find just the opposite, Maeflowers. Of course single fare is cheaper than two fares for simple airfare, but when considering Caribbean holidays, everything is set up for two in a room and there is a penalty for single occupancy

If you had a lawn and you were standing upstairs looking down and a man was trying to get to your front door, because he really wanted to ring your bell for you and had something superb to deliver, that was going to do wonderful things for your front passage, how would he find your front yard?

What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.

\|/ <==Baldy

Good for you, girl. Santa's helper, hey. It's a fun site/store. They give good layout. It's a little weak in some areas, like leather and plus-sized lingerie.

I believe I was into my slow tantalizingly thorough defilement of all that's pure and sacred mode at the time. It was early in a relationship. It's all good.

Just don't give me spaghetti arms!

if we men didnt shave we would look like cave men and our faces would look as stupid as David Beckham looks........what a numpty he looks.

...I thought things were about to change for me....my horoscope said that November was going to be a special month for romance...so I went out and bought some sexy new underwear....just in case. I later discovered I was reading a magazine from 2002.

...maeflowers

Now THAT'S funny....
or is it sad?

I thought it was funny

Have some fun. Go to something like "3 Wishes" on the internet. You might find that you make for a helluva French Maid.

oh sweetie, why do you think i'm "divine"????

That was when Beatles were four guys from England
The Ed Sullivan Show was the launching pad

mine are still pretty darn perky - even at 40DD!

Devine....I think I have just fallen in love.....

hearttune said: I just need to be inspired. That's all. I can still pull off a four or fiver. I had my grave doubts, but gave myself one test run since my marital demise. Rebound!

Amethyst said:Well, some of us are not getting any and talking about it is all that there is on the subject at the moment. Damn

Yes, I do find that a bit of foreplay is always recommended

ps. NEWS FLASH
I just crossed the Friend vs. Lover threshold this weekend.
Not sure what the repercussions will be BUT in the meantime I can't wipe the smile off my face

NTM, you are a gentleman and a scholar, but more important than that: you are a MENCH!

Okay Serenity...fill me in...what is a MENCH???

just have to comment judy67 you have a great ass!

i also have to aggree...............what a great ass and what a lovely sexy lady as well, what about her smile as well

Ms. Mae...."step away from the power tools"...as stated above it is not a requirement just one form of confidence. There are many other forms of confidence that are sexy in a woman. Having red hair and green eyes is just another one of those sexy things that is a personal favorite but certainly doesn't intimidate me

I only think it's fair that if I know how to cook that a woman should be comfortable around power tools. The more that we both have in common the better. It is definately not a requirement though. It is just one trait in a woman that I find sexy...confidence.

I don't think it matters what your age, you should care about the person before you sleep with them. You are worth something to yourself and you should never settle for less than what you deserve which is the best.

but I have been called a hot blooded little Metis on more than one occasion.

Wow! Even better than a Uke...

I think a man looks for various things in a relationship;

A woman who doesn't mind cooking
A woman who does some housework
A woman who is great in the sack
A woman who holds down a decent job
A woman who respects his free time

Maybe Miss Cassa, it is generally thought of as hygenic as it simply "feels" clean and smoooth....Least that is what my "friends" tell me!

I recall reading ads in Hustler magazine

Ms. Twisty I'm sure your subscription was for the same reason as mine...the articles.

Naw....in Quebec we have this expression: Menage-a-trois.....

^between you and i...

i was thinking the same thing...

but i wouldn't like to appear presumptous...
(especially to mae)...

Ms Mae is a Ukrainian....they make the French girls look like prudes.....no need to worry!

Well, I do admit to being conflicted when it comes to beautiful women. Something to do with being male, I think.

Actually, I admit to being conflicted when it comes to just about any of the hedonistic pleasures. I am probably just morally weak....

I would hate to think that I was either using or being used by my sexual partner. To me that would imply either she was doing me a favour or that I had no respect for her. To me there is no place for victimization in such a situation. Lovers give and take pleasure from each other. All of the "using" crap is just the root of dysfunctional relationships. Somebody is not really a willing partner, and so is lying. If its the woman who is allowing herself to be "used for sex", she is a liar, pure and simple, no excuses. Its dishonesty of a fundamental nature which can result in nothing but unhappiness.

Its OK, daffie. If you care to use me for your pleasures, go for it. Just be gentle. I want to survive so that others may do the same once you tire of me

Who? some imaginary man? Honestly, I never think about being held by an imaginary man. Breathe the smell of him.................sounds too teenage crush for me. that is not human natural............more like romantic nature of dreamers

Empty Bed Blues is the name of an old blues song,

Now I understand how it takes people time to learn to move from being married to being single. After a number of years though, keeping the "I need to have someone in my bed or I will be unhappy" attitude is all about attitude and the ability or lack there off to go with the flow.