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 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Help me out, please
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:34:45 PM
Help me out, please. I've used this site for like 5 years now, and only had one date from it. I've sent out millions of first quick messages, and they usually go something like "hey, I'm so and so. Noticed that you like __________ also. Well, so do I. Maybe we can get together sometime and talk about it? Looking forward to hearing from ya." So, out of the millions I've sent out, I hardly get any response back. Any suggestions on what I should change in it or what I should say to get a response back?

ps- I apologize if this is miscategorized. I wasn't sure where to ask it.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Just another profile review please.
Posted: 10/7/2011 11:47:54 PM
Well, I can't make many suggestions because mine hasn't been that successful either. I mean, your profile kind of seems like a cut n' paste type of profile. Short, simple. Women don't want that. What do you like to do with the computers? Have you done anything interesting with it? Worked directly with Mr. Jobs before he passed away? I think stuff like that might help ya out. Gives the girls something to work with then they read it then start talking to ya.

And yea, I hate how these posts have to be 5,000 words long. I feel yer pain, man.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Help requested
Posted: 10/7/2011 11:44:38 PM



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 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Need some advice
Posted: 9/22/2011 3:06:10 PM
I need my profile reviewed. I've sent plenty of messages out to women, only to get nothing back. No "not interested", "thanks but no thanks", or even a "hell no". They take one look at the profile and not even bother to respond. Is there something wrong with my profile? I'm tired of getting the cold shoulder from everyone. Thanks.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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How did your parents find out that you were having sex?
Posted: 9/13/2009 5:47:36 PM
Went out one night without telling my parents. I was 19 at the time though (just starting college.) I had heard enough of how "sex was great" and how I should "wait for the special someone" before I did anything while hearing about all my friends banging every girl that walked by. So, I talked to a girl online, grabbed my keys and went over to her house for the weekend.

Mom called my cell phone constantly (I had it on silent). She threatened to call the cops if I didn't call back. No one said a thing when I came walking into the house with scratch marks down my back and my neck looking like a leopard. They all knew from that point on.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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What is your favorite type of sex?
Posted: 9/11/2009 1:49:51 PM
The kinky kind. I'm wearing a darth vader voice-changing mask, doing her doggie style saying "who is your father?"
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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What is it about women having Jack Sparrow fantasies.
Posted: 9/11/2009 1:37:12 PM
If you women aren't into sharing him, I'm sure his first mate Mr. Gibbs, is more then happy to take ya.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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How to reject a man that won't hurt him?
Posted: 9/10/2009 6:44:03 AM
He works in construction and is out of town until XXXXX. I think that if you flat-out tell him you're not interested, he'll keep persuing you. Obviously he hasn't taken the hint by now.

Hope this helps
-Jon
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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How can/Should girls approach guys?
Posted: 9/7/2009 6:46:07 PM
I agree with Chris. If you like the guy, go ask. Nothing said that you had to be the wallflower.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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am i just an idiot for going with my gut?
Posted: 9/7/2009 6:42:30 PM
always go with your gut instinct. It never lets you down. You shouldn't be dating someone who won't support your decisions and ideas, anyway.

good luck
Jon
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Bring it on!!! ... *smiles*
Posted: 9/5/2009 9:04:33 PM
my god, that thing is long as hell! If you said there's a shorter version of it, I'd go with that. I don't know any guy that would spend that much time reading a profile that long. Plus, you're not really leaving much to talk about later on. Oh, and you should keep the first sentence under "first date". The rest of it needs to be moved up into the main body of your profile.

Hope this helps.

Happy hunting.

-Jon
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Why should I wear a smile?
Posted: 9/3/2009 3:51:23 PM
Just out of curiousity girls. I just read in another thread that you should "wear a smile on the first date." Interesting thing is, I don't smile much anyway because I think I look stupid as hell and scare people with it. Thus, the reason why I always looked pissed off at the world. I never hear anyone say "hey, nice smile!", so I guess I don't know how to pull it off without looking goofy. Any idea from you girls how to change that?
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Are women nearly as pre-occupied with sex as men are?
Posted: 9/3/2009 3:36:01 PM
Women LOVE the french language. Allow me to pass on a phrase that has landed me in the arms of women plenty of times.

*ahem*

Le pomme de terre cours avec deux jambres. Au a la salle de banne, je ne sais pas?

Simple! The last girl I said that to snuggled up real close to me and said "thats so romantic." My mind is thinking "sweet! You're gonna get laid tonight!" Then she asked what it meant.

"the potato runs with two legs. where is the bathroom, I do not know?"

This was usually followed by "wait, where ya going?"

Ok, so maybe it hasn't landed me in the sack with many women. But it's fun to say, never the less.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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ex's and seeing new guys!
Posted: 9/3/2009 3:27:30 AM
4 weeks and you're already ready to go with someone else? You need to slow down and give yourself time before you jump into another relationship! Obviously if you're over the ex in 4 weeks then it wasn't that serious of a relationsip, was it?
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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is this leading the guy on?
Posted: 8/31/2009 3:01:41 PM
Sounds a little like you're leading him on. He probably keeps wanting to hang out with you in hopes that it does turn into something later on (I'm guilty of this, too.)
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Sex while talking?
Posted: 8/30/2009 7:34:26 AM
I dunno about the open talk stuff during sex. My ex and I were going at it, and she said "this reminds me, we need eggs and bread from the grocery store..."

Yea...all I said was to get off of me.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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How can I help the pain
Posted: 8/29/2009 5:56:09 PM
Volunteer your free time somewhere. One of the biggest mistakes people make during a breakup is that the woman closes herself off to everyone, while the guy doesn't give himself enough time before jumping into another relationship. You need to give yourself time to grief.

How do you do that? As I said, volunteer somewhere. Work on your body and bettering yourself. I know where you're coming from. I was married for 2 years, put my all into the marriage, before my ex up and divorced me. To make matters worse, I was served the divorce papers while I was in the hospital with our then 4-month old daughter. The key thing is that the more time you're devote your mind onto something else and not on the breakup, the better off you'll be.

Hope this helps.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
10 things I hate about you.
Posted: 8/28/2009 6:41:35 PM
1) I hate it that you accused me of beating the girls even after two seperate doctors told you otherwise
2) I hate the fact that I held on to a dying marriage, even when everyone else told me it wouldn't last.
3) I hate YOU for the fact that when our 4 month old daughter was in the hospital, I was the only one with her while you were nowhere to be found until she was released.
4) I hate it that you claimed to be a christian but showed no christian values. I'm more christian than you and I'm not even religious!
5) I hate the way I wasted my wedding vows on you, only to have you treat me the way you did.

On the other hand....

1) I laugh at you when you try to get back together with me
2) I smile with glee as I was you struggle with handling others and your own personal problems
3) I thank you for what you've done. Because of you divorcing me, I am stronger because of it.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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My best mates younger sister
Posted: 8/27/2009 3:42:04 PM
Someone at work told me that the "wingman" approach is good. If one person goes out looking for a date, then it just comes out as creepy. If two people go out, then it's just a social get-together type of thing. You should go hang with your best mate and the sister more often. The more you know about her, the more confidence you'll build, and the better chances you'll have if you do ask her. Just keep in mind that rejection is also a possibility. It's just a fact of life. You can't be afraid of it. Thats probably why you're confidence is shot, because you're afraid of it.

Hope this helps
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Breaking up first time that I do it, any advice?
Posted: 8/26/2009 5:11:14 PM
There is no "gentle way" to break up with someone, unfortunately. You're just going to have to tell her how it feels. Be prepared to get either: 1) her yelling at you, or 2) her trying to pull sympathy to keep it together. And give her time to think it over after you break it off.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Early morning or late night dating?
Posted: 8/26/2009 4:59:25 PM
Unfortunately I'm not familiar with Ohio. Then again, those ideas that you gave aren't bad, either. You're kind of missing a key point out of all of this. If you two are into each other as much as y'all say, then it's not going to matter what or where you go. Park, taco bell, it's really all about the company that you're with. You should ask her for ideas, too btw. You might be surprised.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Early morning or late night dating?
Posted: 8/26/2009 6:25:20 AM
I agree with Urban. If she's that into you and you're that into her, then it's not going to matter which one you do. Plus, if you won't roll out of bed every now n' then for the girl you're into, what else are you going to short change her on? Hope this helps.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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explain this to me, make me understand
Posted: 8/21/2009 8:10:00 PM
How can people seem to pick up dates and go all the way like every other week, but I can't seem to snag date one after 3 years? Am I missing something out of the equation, here? What are you people doing that I'm not? A little advice, please. Thanks.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Christians & online dating?
Posted: 8/20/2009 6:55:50 PM
I think you put too much emphasis on "not religious" or "other religion". Get to know them anyway, despite what the online profile is. You might be surprised.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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What are you women thinking?!
Posted: 8/18/2009 3:04:29 PM
LOL, my apologies. I didn't mean to come across as telling everyone their mistakes. I was just curious why there are a lot of overhead shots. I'm still trying to understand the "bathroom with no shirt on shot" that guys seem to take. Of course, I don't have one of those. I haven't found a mirror wide enough yet.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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What does the long gaze mean?
Posted: 8/18/2009 2:58:21 PM
Question, how do you know she's looking "at you"? She could just be daydreaming or bewildered (or however you spell it). Make a funny face, wink at her, something. Just to make sure she's looking "at you". Then, if she is, talk to her. Ask her out. OR, be creative like I saw on one forum = write your name and number on a piece of paper, run up and tell her "look, I don't mean to bother you, but you dropped this" and hand it to her.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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What are you women thinking?!
Posted: 8/18/2009 2:52:07 PM
Just kind of crossed my mind, but what are you women thinking? I notice a lot of "overhead" shots of girls, where you can clearly see down the front of their shirt. Then they say on the profile that they are looking for a guy who's "down to earth" and mess like that. Why do women take the overhead shots? I know I can generally say that most guys are going to be looking at one thing when they see that pic, and it's not going to be the face...
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Should you tell someone you're not interested in them or just ignore them?
Posted: 8/17/2009 5:30:48 PM
If you want to get the point across, just tell him that you two should just be friends. Nothing hurts a guy more then hearing a girl say "lets just be friends." Thats like telling him "the dog died, but you can still keep him if you want". But by all means, message him back. I hate it when women don't respond to my messages.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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trying to understand the female psychi, help
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:36:52 PM
Just for the record, no I'm not sleeping with her. She invites, I turn it down. No reason FOR me to sleep with her. Thanks for all of y'alls input, also.
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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profile review, please
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:41:29 PM
Any constructive ctricism for my profile on how to improve it would be well appreciated, thanks. I've had like 30+ people look at my profile, and not but 1 person to write me. Is there anything wrong with it?
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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trying to understand the female psychi, help
Posted: 8/15/2009 7:33:56 PM
How come when I ask this one particular girl out, she says that there will be nothing between us, and me asking her is getting annoying. However, when we hang out she says that I can crash with her for the night and she has no problem stripping naked and getting dressed in front of me. What gives?
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Whats with all the colors?
Posted: 8/9/2009 12:28:42 PM
Ah, makes sense. Thanks for the input!
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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Whats with all the colors?
Posted: 8/9/2009 12:22:55 PM
How come my matches come in different colors? There are different shades of blue with the occasional beige looking one. Why do they come this way?
 dpk47
Joined: 3/23/2009
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whats the cheesiest pickup line used on a woman?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:35:40 AM
For some reason, when I say "Hi, my name is (name here), wanna go out back and rut like weasels?", it doesn't seem to work much. Just wandering what the cheesiest pickup lines used on you women were so I know not to use them, either. (I seem to be full of them).
 
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