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mcwr

Joined: 3/24/2009

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Keep having to select race when searching. Posted: 10/12/2012 12:26:27 PM
Is there a plan to fix it soon? I believe the "bug" has been in effect for years.

mcwr

Joined: 3/24/2009

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Keep having to select race when searching. Posted: 10/12/2012 12:20:10 PM
Every time I perform an advanced search, I have to re-select "Caucasian" before searching. The other fields, such as body type, pets, etc. retain their previous selections, but race does not. Is this an error or is there some other explanation for this?

mcwr

Joined: 3/24/2009

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Finding your partner wearing your underwear!! Posted: 9/19/2012 6:48:44 AM
I can understand wanting to smell a girl's panties, but wearing them? Not so much..

mcwr

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If you can sleep with an individual within a month after first meeting them Posted: 9/3/2012 4:30:22 PM
It depends on what kind of "relationship" you want. Marriage works best when the bride is a virgin. For any other type of relationship where kids aren't involved, it doesn't really matter.

mcwr

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Do opposites attract or not? Posted: 8/29/2012 5:10:02 PM
I would say that they definitely don't, depending on what you mean by "opposites". People seem to be attracted to others that remind them of themselves. Couples often seem to have facial features that compliment each other. And, as far as personality goes, people get along best when they have similar values and want the same things out of life. People that have different priorities don't stay together. People can have different interests or foods that they like, but they have to be compatible.

mcwr

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Would You mix business with pleasure? Posted: 8/29/2012 2:48:23 PM
I think you have the right idea. Good tenants can be hard to find. Maybe if he agrees to prepay the rent for a few years..

mcwr

Joined: 3/24/2009

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Date a Blunt Woman? Posted: 8/27/2012 9:27:49 PM
There's nothing wrong with being honest, so long as it is respectful, imo. Definition of BLUNT 1 a: slow or deficient in feeling : insensitive b: obtuse in understanding or discernment : dull 2: having an edge or point that is not sharp <a blunt instrument> 3 a: abrupt in speech or manner b: being straight to the point : direct The third definition is good. The first, not so much.. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/blunt

mcwr

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Marriage scams Posted: 8/23/2012 6:36:54 PM
Now it is possible for the wife abroad to work,yes. A friend of mine recently offered me an "opportunity". A wealthy family in a 3rd world country wanted their daughter to become a US citizen. She was young pretty and they had money. Seemed to be a very nice combination. I would of received a very nice 'deal' to get married. My friend had successfully met and married a very nice very young lady from this country. And 3 years together it seems to be working. Good for him. But for me it was not something I would go through. Marriage needs to be based on a special connection and love. Not based on what am I getting out of this type of deal. I would probably go for a deal like that, if I liked her enough and we had similar values. Where do I sign up?

mcwr

Joined: 3/24/2009

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How to get over your first love? Posted: 8/18/2012 10:31:28 AM
You just have to realize that you can have the same "love" feeling with potentially thousands or millions of other people. You just have to find someone that arouses you as much as the other person did. The actual separation can be painful for a while, but not very long. Beyond that, you are probably just lonely and confusing that for love of your ex. People that say they never got over their ex just never found a comparable or better replacement.

mcwr

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boredom blame Posted: 8/15/2012 7:23:25 PM
Lack of intimacy is the man's fault? Maybe you are too fat.

mcwr

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how to handle arguments Posted: 8/10/2012 11:06:15 AM
Maybe she would prefer that you confront her about it.

mcwr

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What constitutes cheating? Posted: 8/9/2012 11:15:26 AM
In order for there to be "cheating", some sort of agreement has to be broken. So set boundaries from the get-go and stick to your guns. There aren't many 100% honest people out there, but they do exist..

mcwr

Joined: 3/24/2009

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is it silly feel hurt? Posted: 8/5/2012 1:37:55 PM
Find someone else. If you need someone to be there, find someone that also wants that much attention.

mcwr

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Ever had someone of the same gender come onto you? Posted: 8/5/2012 1:29:46 PM
No. I think they know better. ****ing freaks.

mcwr

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The WOMAN's Role!: The MAN's Role! Posted: 8/4/2012 9:24:32 AM
Traditional roles exist for a reason. When a woman is pregnant or caring for small children, it makes sense that the man should provide for his family during this time. But for any other periods, there is no reason for a woman to not work. Further, "chivalry" is nonsense. Why should a man pay for a woman's food on a "date", when he doesn't even know her, she has a job, and can easily pay for her own food/drinks? Women that want to stay at home and not work or have everything paid for simply because they have a vagina are living in a fantasy world. Of course there are a number of men that will tolerate this situation, but they are being used rather than being with a woman based on mutual desire.

mcwr

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Social anxiety Posted: 8/4/2012 9:14:48 AM
You are quite above average if you realize that in meeting new people socisally its very possible they will unfairly judge yu or be unfair with you. Think more about protecting yourself from this than what they think.... and you will be fine. This is true. People will attack if they sense weakness, and will also attack out of jealousy. Such is life. You have to develop a thick skin and see things for what they are.

mcwr

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Why is she afraid Posted: 8/2/2012 7:42:27 PM
That's not fair. The OP says she is his best friend. Surely she cares, or he has a crappy friend picker. If this was a NSA (FB/ FWB) going in, you are responsible to sort out your feelings, OP. If you want "more" you need to be clear about what you want and not pretend you can handle friends "only" if you can't. I could be wrong. That's what is sounds like to me based on the information given. I would look on the bright side and take it as a compliment. At least he is attractive enough for this woman to sleep with him.

mcwr

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From a guy's perspective..define Looking to date but nothing serious status. Posted: 8/2/2012 4:16:44 PM
If a girl has that in her profile, I assume that she is just looking for some action, or that she wants to date more than one guy at a time.

mcwr

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Why is she afraid Posted: 8/2/2012 4:07:24 PM
Sounds like she just wants to **** and doesn't care about your hurt heart.

mcwr

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Fear of Someone better coming along Posted: 8/2/2012 7:55:28 AM
If they don't commit, they either aren't ready for a relationship or aren't interested. Interest alone isn't enough. There has to be good timing. But, since this is a dating site, might as well assume this is the right time and they aren't interested.

mcwr

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How to ask about debt......?? Posted: 7/30/2012 6:19:59 PM
Why differentiate between credit card debt and mortgage debt? Unless the mortgage is on rental property, the home is much more a liability than an asset. Should she have a certain debt to income ratio? If you are concerned, you could check her credit reports, do a background check, and do an IRS compliance check.

mcwr

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The One that Got Away Posted: 7/28/2012 8:28:07 AM
Not really. But there were girls I should have dated that were interested. I can't say that they were "the one", because I didn't know them.

mcwr

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Near our breaking point. Posted: 7/27/2012 11:02:21 AM
^^^ Thanks. That's a tough one. Women usually want to get married because their clock is ticking and they want kids. Some women are very direct about this and say that they want to get married "as soon as possible". OP may not be ready for financial reasons. Hopefully she will wait if this is the case.

mcwr

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Near our breaking point. Posted: 7/27/2012 9:47:57 AM
Too long, didn't read. Cliffs?

mcwr

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Is it selfish????? Posted: 7/24/2012 2:43:15 PM
Make the most of your situation and try to find a woman that is a virgin. If you actually meet one and marry her, the marriage would, statistically, have a very good chance of lasting. Trust me when I say that you really don't want to deal with the "baggage" a woman can bring.

mcwr

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Is it OK to suddenly not wanting to be with anyone? Posted: 7/18/2012 7:38:35 PM
It's ok if you decide it is. In my opinion, life is definitely made for two. There are lots of things that I like to do, but I find that they are more enjoyable when I have someone to do them with. Listening to music and reading are exceptions. But traveling, watching movies, eating out, and going to amusement parks and other places are all more enjoyable for me when I have someone I feel comfortable with to talk to. Also, I enjoy being emotionally connected to a woman. I would like to meet a woman with whom I can have a strong bond, someone I would feel comfortable having as my wife and the mother of my children. But I am only speaking for myself, of course.

mcwr

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Where are the women with old fasionmorals? Posted: 7/7/2012 12:59:28 PM
What is the definition of "old fashioned morals"? I can only assume that you are talking about writings in the Torah and the New Testament of Christianity. I'm going to further assume that the topic is referring specifically to fornication and adultery. There are still women that are waiting for marriage. You will find more in a church than online. Marriage is more successful when the woman is a virgin bride. Really, marriage is meant for virgins.. Obviously, the media has been a significant influence in culture. In fact, television essentially defines our culture, since people spend much more time watching TV than reading. In the US, not only is it common for people to "fornicate", but it is also common for children to leave their parents before marriage. Many are raised in broken homes. And there are incentives for divorce: Child support, alimony, division or "marital" property, welfare (food stamps, Section 8, cash assistance, WIC, etc.). I would argue that the problem results from a combination of media/brainwashing, broken homes, and economic influences.

mcwr

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FWB (not) turning into relationship Posted: 7/7/2012 10:11:03 AM
She should stop sleeping with men she is not married to. Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free? She can't expect anyone to respect her or take her seriously.

mcwr

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Multiple Marriages Posted: 7/4/2012 10:49:20 AM
I wouldn't date someone who was married one time. How much sense does this really make? So, multiple marriages you're out, but multiple relationships you're okay? Ha~ Exactly. The less baggage, the better.

mcwr

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A guy who doesn't read books. Deal breaker? Posted: 7/3/2012 1:15:25 PM
Fiction books are lame. I may be hard-pressed to date someone that reads Twilight or Harry Potter books, or Cosmopolitan Magazine. But, if they are otherwise moral and not influenced by that garbage, I see no reason to hold it against them. I personally like non-fiction that most people would find extremely boring, like the works of Henry Charles Carey, a classic American System economist. In my opinion, it is best to judge someone based upon their character, rather than the books they read (or don't).

mcwr

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No dating criteria on some profiles Posted: 7/2/2012 6:53:56 PM
I don't think that all of the restrictions are useful. Having "friends" or "hang out", whatever doesn't always indicate people's intentions and can block potentially good matches. It can give you a good idea, though. Some are very useful, like "must have picture". In every case, the women that have sent a message to me without a picture were already in a relationship.

mcwr

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Burning Bridges Posted: 6/24/2012 6:38:39 PM
It sounds like your friend allowed the woman to gradually be more disrespectful. He should have demanded respect from the beginning.

mcwr

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How important is a Good Photo..?? Posted: 6/23/2012 10:17:39 AM
It's always good to present yourself in the best light possible, in every sense.

mcwr

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How Long Should I Wait to Text Her? Posted: 6/22/2012 4:15:05 PM
3 days, 2 hours, 15 minutes, and 43 seconds. Or just whenever you feel like it.

mcwr

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Tough Spot Posted: 6/22/2012 7:54:41 AM
Just ask her out. Worst case scenario she says "no". You could probably still be friends with her, as long as you don't act funny about it.

mcwr

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Oral Whores Posted: 6/21/2012 1:26:42 PM
Doesn't it defeat the purpose of using a condom during intercourse if you're gonna put your raw mouth on someone's gentals? Whatever disease you can get from anal/vaginal intercourse you get get with oral. What is with folks who think it's too soon to have 'real' sex but will lick and suck you down at the drop of a dime. And is it ok to be a virgin (meaning you've never had anal intercourse if your gay, or vaginal intercourse if you're straight) but you've licked and sucked down everyone you've met (which can be well over 5, 10, 30 or 50?) Oral whores do exist. I can only assume that the reason a woman would suck**but not have intercourse is so that she can lie to a potential husband, saying that she is a virgin, and use her in-tact hymen as proof. "Yes dear, I am definitely marriage material". Meanwhile, she actually let 20 guys ** her in the ass.

mcwr

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Career Vs Lifestyle. Posted: 6/20/2012 9:34:05 PM
I wouldn't worry about the opinion of one woman. Frankly, she seems to lack much depth, seemingly dismissing all of the legitimate reasons for which someone would live with their parents. In your case, it certainly makes sense to continue what you are doing. Sure, she says that she wouldn't date you, but she may just as soon leave you anyway, if you were to stay in a low-paying job. People in the US (and UK?) seem to have an obsession with moving out of their parent's home. In other parts of Europe and Asia, it is common for the kids to remain in their parent's home, and to live with extended family. I used to pay rent to my Mother, when I lived with her for a while after high school. She made me pay $400 per month. But she did say that I could avoid paying rent by going to college. I wasn't ready to go back to school at the time, so I paid rent. I would like to have a big family. And, when I do have kids, I want them to live with me as long as possible, so that they can afford the best educational and financial opportunities. Ideally, I would want my kids to live with me after school, so that they can save as much of their money as possible. Why should they pay rent to people outside of the family instead of working for the prosperity of our family? If they did choose to move, I would want them to be able to pay "cash" for a home and to have a lot saved toward retirement. Besides for educational and financial reasons, I would especially want my daughters to live with me until they are married. This would go a long way in helping to instill family values.

mcwr

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English men Posted: 6/20/2012 7:14:25 AM
please t his is the level i want to avoid, having a picture of me in my pole dancing attire does not reflect my personality, look beyond that u "english" people, just because i pole dance and have a pic of my back sideo n my profile doesnt mean im a so and so. why cant u people see that, i am a genuine girl, i live life to the max, i love my friends dearly, why is it so hard to meet that special someone. SURELY IM NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG Have you tried meeting men at church? If you are looking for a more traditional relationship, this would be the obvious place to look. Putting a pic of yourself in your stripper uniform in your profile will not help to attract virtuous men. It demonstrates that you lack "shame", and desire sexual attention from various men. Whether you think that it is right or wrong is a matter of morality. But these are facts, like it or not. There are plenty of good men that would love to meet an attractive woman that respects herself. My goal is not to berate you, but to make you consider your actions carefully.

mcwr

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Sex gone south Posted: 6/19/2012 9:12:53 PM
If she's not putting out, she most likely either started taking some kind of hormone/medication or she is with someone else. I've never heard of a woman suddenly becoming asexual, other than for medical reasons. I would ask her if she is sleeping with someone else.

mcwr

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What makes men fall in love with a woman? Posted: 6/17/2012 11:11:32 AM
The first thing is that they have to be aroused by your appearance. After that, you have to respect them and they have to respect you. Act like you care about their needs, by feeding them and listen to their cool stories. Love, honor, obey, etc. That's all I can think of.. Oh yeah! And have lots of sex with them. The more the better!

mcwr

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Emotionally Abusive mother Posted: 6/17/2012 8:26:00 AM
Have you tried getting in her face and screaming at her? People will treat you with the respect that you demand.

mcwr

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Winning? Posted: 6/17/2012 7:01:43 AM
Uhhh, women are still paid less for doing the exact same work. Basically if there's a man being paid $65,000, his female counterpart doing the exact same work is being paid $50,000. That is not true. Women get paid as much as men, hour for hour in the same positions. But men generally work more hours than women and work in professions that women don't want to do. Go lay some bricks or replace some plumbing if you don't like it. And don't take maternity leave or try to juggle kids and your profession. I don't see anything wrong with giving a token of affection, as long as it is something you naturally want to do as opposed to something expected for a fake holiday. Most holidays, including all the major ones, are based on pagan holidays anyways, but that's another story. It would cost nothing to give a flower that was growing somewhere outside. If she doesn't appreciate it, then give nothing to her, because that's what she deserves. I think this is more of an issue for older generations, since attitudes have been changing. I hardly see profiles of women in my age group looking for someone to buy junk for them. I have seen a few, but not many. Most say that they are "independent", don't need a man, etc. Many women now have no issue with "going Dutch" and paying for themselves.

mcwr

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is it a turn off if i dont want you to have my number Posted: 6/16/2012 10:10:48 AM
I view dating websites as a way to meet women. If the women dosen't want to call me or vice versa, I take that as "not interested". I would much rather speak on the phone and meet in person than type e-mails. I hate texting, though.

mcwr

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break up message Posted: 6/15/2012 6:04:36 PM
29 and waiting for marriage before sex? I suppose there are people like that out there.....but really, 29?????? I wish this was common here in the US. Marriage is for virgins.

mcwr

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Trying to get my ex back. Posted: 6/7/2012 8:16:12 PM
You hit the nail on the head when you said she doesn't respect you. When women go from one "abusive" relationship to another, they are "abuse prone". Respect is everything. Find another woman and don't look back. Edit: Just read your profile, where you say you are tired of being treated like crap. Women and people in general will treat you with the respect that you demand from them. If you don't respect yourself, people will walk all over you. If a woman says something disrespectful to you, put a stop to it right then.

mcwr

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Deal Breaking Quarrel Posted: 6/6/2012 6:24:40 PM
Cancelling a date without calling is a dealbreaker in itself, let alone getting angry and calling multiple times. I would simply block all future calls.

mcwr

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spoiled by anal? Posted: 6/3/2012 6:17:10 PM
There are definitely some "butt-hurt" women in this thread..

mcwr

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mean words Posted: 6/2/2012 2:51:19 PM
Did you ask him to say specifically how you were being "mean"? If you don't know what he was talking about, then get some clarification. Him calling you "bipolar" is disrespectful. I wouldn't tolerate name calling from someone I was dating. That sort of behavior needs to be nipped in the bud. People with treat you with the level of respect that you demand, and will walk all over you if you let them, no matter how "nice" you are.

mcwr

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How do you date a girl whos in debt? Posted: 6/2/2012 6:34:45 AM
The reason she "dumped" you is because it became apparent that you were not going to pay her debts off for her. The only reason she would tell you about a 3000 debt is to hope that you would give 3000 to her. Now that she knows she won't get any more $ from you, she is already looking for the next sucker. My advice would be to never pay for a woman on a date, unless it is your mother or your wife, or you are both taking turns paying. But definitely don't pay on the first date. Suggest that you go "Dutch". The reaction that a woman gives you will be very telling. Why should you pay for a meal or for the drink of a woman that you don't even know?

mcwr

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Religion and modern relationships, is there a basic conflict? Posted: 6/1/2012 9:25:22 AM
I could be wrong, but I don't believe most women, even very religious ones, are against the idea of enjoying sex DURING MARRIAGE. Even the Westboro Baptist Church believes that "anything goes" in the bedroom, in a marriage. Reading that story made me feel sorry for you. That sounds very sad and depressing.

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