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nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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How has your experience been with POF? Thumbs Up or Down? Posted: 9/9/2009 8:40:26 PM
I like this site better than some of the other ventures I have signed up for. I live in a small town in an out of the way place so I never expected to run into someone on this site quickly.It might happen but the odds are low and i am not holding my breath.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Is she too young for me? Posted: 8/15/2009 11:31:57 AM
my parents have a similar age difference.I had some thoughts about it as I grew up but gee,they have been married 55 years now.They have made some adjustments , like celebrating their 50th when they were really only married 30 years and things like that. My mom made choices about financial security at her young age and she has taken care of my father's wealth for both of them.Hardly a gold digger.My dad was old enough to see what he was getting into.They balance each other. As a woman I would rather date someone my own age or younger because the odds are that I would outlive a man my own age.I would like my companion with me as long as I could have him, not just a memory years later.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Do all men HAVE to give oral during sex to be happy? Haha Posted: 8/4/2009 8:54:19 PM
I have been talked into orgasm. when I was younger oral felt more powerful to me but with time the quality of orgasms changed and I prefer intercourse/vaginal. over oral /clitoral. Just a greater loss of sense of self I guess. But I certainly would not turn down oral.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Is there life on earth? Posted: 8/3/2009 8:31:23 PM
I got a cell phone when I needed it for my job.Then I had a cell because I have no land line. Now my cell is "lost".I think I will go back to using it to call out when I feel the need.Otherwise I share your dismay at the loud conversation on the phone in the middle of a group of people, people with head sets looking like they are talking to themselves etc etc etc

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Ideas for reality television... Posted: 7/29/2009 9:21:42 PM
a cooking competition featuring only flaming dishes that must be prepared while dancing

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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will you or wont you have sex infront of the dog? Posted: 7/22/2009 8:57:19 PM
No one has commented on the complexities if a macaw or other parrot in the room

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Why do women use me for sex??? Posted: 7/22/2009 8:23:26 PM
I would just want you for your dog.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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How long did it take you to stop looking at profiles/message ppl and just go forums? Posted: 7/7/2009 9:45:17 PM
a couple of weeks. I do both, browse the forums and look at profiles. The forums give me an idea of who to check out sometimes.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Help Posted: 7/7/2009 9:38:10 PM
I think it is reasonable to meet just for a quick contact first to test the "chemistry".See if you both feel comfortable and want to actually go on a date.Seems to minimize the emotional risk if things dont click. (not sure if you are saying it seemed you had a lot in common on line or in person)

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Did I appear desperate ? Posted: 7/7/2009 9:32:22 PM
you sounded like you were thinking of him and hope he had a good weekend. If that is somehow negative no matter what descriptor you attach it is his problem.There could be any number of reasons he hasnt replied yet.None of which i would worry about. I hope you had a good weekend.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Using a phone during sex? Is this really bad? Posted: 7/5/2009 8:55:47 PM
^^^^Commonsens dear I am sending you a whole stick of butter melted for your popcorn I totally dont get it with the phone stuff.Anywhere.I lost mine a few weeks ago and now I remember I dont have to be reachable by the universe 24.7 Maybe the ideal woman for the guy in question would have a phone implanted subcutaneously in her chest so he can text, email,listen to tunes and call his mom or business partner at will.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Justifying Cheating? Posted: 6/30/2009 9:19:18 PM
I have met people where it wasnt "cheating" . They wanted it that way and both knew about it. Not sure I could ever understand or relate to that.Wouldnt want to be involved in a part time oe heartless relatinonship myself. It seemed cold and calculated.But it works for them

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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The wrong message? Posted: 6/18/2009 11:18:21 PM
Humpty hump, maybe she has that many breasts, hence the multiple pictures.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Doesn't want to go too far? Posted: 6/16/2009 6:20:36 PM
you will never know unless you ask HIM not us. I think it sounds ok though .

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Autoerotic Asphyxiation. Just Do It? Posted: 6/16/2009 5:31:02 PM
one more thought. there are other topics discussed on these boards that make me wonder if it would be better to read about the sex lives of spiders or x topic at hand.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Autoerotic Asphyxiation. Just Do It? Posted: 6/16/2009 5:23:01 PM
apparently quite a few people do this. The death part is accidental .Not much difference with this and having a form of sex where you contract an incurable disease with death as a probability though slower.Or people that are into extreme sports for the rush. Not exactly my cup of tea but I see it as a valid point to discuss. Maybe something important will be learned. Its out there whether one wants to discuss it or not.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about? Posted: 6/13/2009 8:25:03 PM
big22, ya gotta look for the women who can chew gum

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about? Posted: 6/13/2009 8:08:14 PM
I think all human beings think about sex all the time.Most of our life is spent trying to figure out how to manage it in a civilized way since civilization is fairly new in our evolution. Maybe this guy is devolving.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Ladies Only Please Posted: 6/13/2009 5:29:48 AM
still too may I statements.Makes me wonder if the relationship would only be about you.I missed the first version

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Sex Scenes... Posted: 6/11/2009 9:10:17 PM
Johnny Weismuller Tarzan whipping through the jungle with Jane after some kind of rescue from an anaconda or a lion and her waking up from some kind of "fever "later at his tree top pad. Now I have insight into why I feel let down when a guy offers to swing by and pick me up at my place. The scene in Sin City where the Bruce Willis character finds the little girl he saved years before all grown up and filled out swinging a lariat and dancing on a bar.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Just Wondering Posted: 6/1/2009 5:02:57 PM
might want to let us see your eyes on your profile pic. looks a little spooky with all the shadows and all

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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How many women here prefer short/skinny men? Posted: 5/26/2009 9:02:40 PM
I am ok with short especially since I am. Makes some of the physical engineering problems easier.I think I can be more playful with someone my own size.A smaller lighter frame makes a lot of things easier and maybe less intimidating. Lion 1980 dont despair.I looked at yoour pix and find you most attractive. A

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Why [b]DO[/b] men send unsolicited pics of their penis? Posted: 5/22/2009 6:16:53 PM
I had someone offer then reconsider.Probably better. Doesnt seem to add to a relationship. I do find it humorous when I am looking at the "rate any picture" section and someone shows their "real side" I have seen one nude woman and many penises. Do they think we wont notice? One guy failed the IQ test when he had his face and his penis in the same frame on the rating site.Makes sorting through options easy I must say

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Casual blowjobs Posted: 5/21/2009 8:53:21 PM
Cosmoc Misfit I have read some of your posts elsewhere and your descriptions of yourself.I see you question as serious even if those who relate differently may see your wording as impersonal or awkward. That said I am not comfortable talking about my sexuality here in front of the universe.I would discuss this privately though. I will say though that many people probably view a BJ as a black tie affair

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Brainiacs Better in Bed-- what say you? Posted: 5/13/2009 8:51:18 PM
spiceynicegirl , is the crossword part of foreplay or the the rest of the story?

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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ONE Line Answer- What's the AGE Gap You Can Overcome? Dummies Guide to How to Bridge a Big Age Gap! Posted: 5/13/2009 8:44:33 PM
13 year age gap. 6 year relationship.Ending unrelated to the age difference. Probably good if the younger can go party hearty if they want with their own age group. Our musical tastes didnt match much

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Brainiacs Better in Bed-- what say you? Posted: 5/12/2009 9:20:16 PM
If you are talking to me I am just joking a little about the twin thing. Now I am wondering if a person shouldnt interpret the results as someone with a high emotional intelligence doesnt have more fun in bed. They would have to interview the partners to find out if they were really good or not. With the right person I have a great time in bed. I sure hope they do to. maybe I should do a study

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Brainiacs Better in Bed-- what say you? Posted: 5/12/2009 9:10:31 PM
For clarity's sake I would like to say I think emotional intelligence, which is what is referenced in the study is probably different than high IQ.They may not be mutually exclusive, just not the same concept. I usually connect the term brainiac with high IQ which is related to speed of processing information.Some people may be able to absorb or utilize information quickly but it might be totally unrelated to ability to process emotional input. SOmeone else may have a better handle on the terms. I dont need a twin to concur with the results of the study.Yes, purely anecdotal.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Confused relationship ending?????? Posted: 5/11/2009 4:06:31 PM
We will never know what he thinks. Bottom line even with some fun times you are unhappy and confused.Do you want this or clarity and happiness? What do you want?You are the expert on yourself and should seek the happiness you deserve.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Masturbation, How often is normal? Posted: 5/5/2009 3:13:42 PM
I dont think he will see that

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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web cams - protocol for showing your weenie ? Posted: 5/4/2009 11:00:08 PM
Miss Manners probably has a protocol written up somewhere.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Car or place? Posted: 5/4/2009 9:04:36 PM
Actually a flashy car would be a turn off for me. I like a person that shows more common sense and practicality.If something had to be flashy I would like it to be a house.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/4/2009 12:31:24 PM
so checked out the definition of droll humorous, whimsical or odd hits the head on the nail for me truth in advertising, even if i am not understood by most or just plain ODD Now I am done with this for now at least and am going out to put finish plaster on my microcasita

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/4/2009 6:37:25 AM
thanks appearer. I will review the definition of "droll". never thought about it as negatively judgemental or harsh but you never know. I looked at my contact parameters and finally found how to change it so someone from anywhere not just the US can contact me.Might make for some interesting exchange . at some point I will have more pictures of me , my animals and other things posted.You can email me anytime

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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being gay Posted: 5/4/2009 6:29:45 AM
Certainly cant speak for all gay men or any gay men here but you are describing one group of people with that sexual preference. They tend to be more obvious for obvious reasons.I have met plenty of masculine gay men that may have behavior that makes them stand out less, not from shame or fear, they are just not flamboyant and attention attracting. You are just describing your preferences and you will find men that match your desired style.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/3/2009 9:29:44 PM
Guess I am not writing from the view point you choose to read from.Thanks for your input.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/3/2009 9:16:14 PM
thanks for catching that uncomfortable/comfortable error

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Your Opinion - Much Appreciated Posted: 5/3/2009 6:33:12 AM
I dont know if it is ok by the rules to answer you here but I cant email you from here in the US Spring is sprung here.Irrigation season is on and my alpacas are waiting to be shorn and have babies.It is warming enough for me to mix cob and finish the little house. Check out my update and see what you think.I tried to revise with you comments

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/3/2009 6:27:27 AM
rewritten.now what do you think.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Your Opinion - Much Appreciated Posted: 5/2/2009 10:12:27 PM
ok I found you so I can return the favor. I still need to work on mine though Your writing is clear and as I told you I found the first date stuff funny. I am attracted to profiles like these.You paint a good picture of what might be happening if we met up.I might like one line about where you might see yourself in the future. I spent a long time pondering the word " convictions" not sure if you were talking about strong beliefs or strong bars Ya gotta give us a picture though dude.I cant imagine myself spending the rest of my life talking to a blank blue box.I would even take a bathroom mirror photo over the box.I know how hard it is to get a friend to take some shots.I am sure everyone else is too.Then you can always move up. This is just my suggestion from someone walking the planet a bit longer.I remember when I thought it was out of line for me to think about being with anyone younger. I didnt really want to be.I always went for older guys.Now it is clearer to me there are a lot of qualities that are desireable that are not connected to age.Just ponder for a minute broadening that age range a bit.You can always chose later according to who you may talk to.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/2/2009 9:55:06 PM
quick answer to you for now. thanks for the review. The little house is the first thing I ever built. It was going to be a joint project leading up to a small but not so tiny house. I finished this alone and will continue with a project of my own thinking. It is made out of earth, sort of like adobe but not quite.Sand straw and clay.I will be living in it in a few months. I wont tell you what I have been living in up till now but i have learned to be quite adaptable this past year.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 5/2/2009 8:57:23 PM
going by this definition a plutonic relationship is my ideal.Hot and rock solid.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/2/2009 1:17:46 PM
ok all. making notes and will change soem stuff later. Especially the Jimmy faux pas

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/1/2009 5:32:06 PM
Appearer, Give me a little help. I probably am writing from my own inner dialogue since when I am not at work I am out at my place thinking while I fiddle around here.Guess I was trying to paint a picture of a bit of the relationship I might envision instead of just doing the I AM speech. Probably too much process. Show me what I am saying when you feel like you just jumped on the mental escalator with me.I will try to stop it so others can jump on. I looked at your profile and wish I had thought of those first date ideas LOL thanks: Some other folks have told me too long or some wont understand XYZ but i guess that is my primitive form of psychological testing

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/1/2009 5:18:24 PM
ok I will look at it again from that perspective

nizhoni1

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/1/2009 2:26:09 PM
thanks COuntrycut

nizhoni1

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Women Please Review Posted: 5/1/2009 7:03:03 AM
You should use the third photo in your line up as it is a good SMILING photo that we all seem to be looking for. I clicked on your video and find it a bit disturbing to be listening to a couple fighting then a tune about conflict in a relationship. Kind of like playing death metal at your candlelit dinner or something. I like the profiles with music.It gives me a message about a person in a different way. i am not sure this is the message you want to give.I couldn't turn off the music so I clicked off your profile.

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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getting up the courage Posted: 5/1/2009 6:56:07 AM
to ask for a review here.I know in advance I need a full body shot but so far it's been a challenge to find a photographer on a good day.My main pic was taken after coming into a coffee shop out of 60 mph winds. I sure hope this is 200 character long

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Profile Review Posted: 5/1/2009 6:46:34 AM
I stopped reading when I saw the lists. Hurts my eyes

nizhoni1

Joined: 3/25/2009

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Straddling the fence Posted: 4/30/2009 7:29:11 PM
watch out for the concertina wire on the fence

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