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Msg: 82 (view)

P.S. Posted: 5/18/2006 2:13:29 PM
80's Dude... Sorry... Have to point out... Unconscious: The division of the mind in psychoanalytic theory containing elements of psychic makeup, such as memories or repressed desires, that are not subject to conscious perception or control but that often affect conscious thoughts and bahaviour. :)

Joined: 1/17/2006

Msg: 81 (view)

Goodness lads, just step back from the keyboard... Posted: 5/18/2006 2:08:30 PM
Hmm... I'm going to continue with the increasingly acerbic tone here, because… Well, because it's way more fun this way. And definitely makes for a more entertaining read… I fully understood the Guide was a joke. Anyone who read it and thought there was even a shred of actual advice, clearly needs more help than can be found on an Internet dating site. (As a side note - I just read the Women's Guide yesterday - and it's far more "light-hearted" - maybe also a little more useful… Kind of a window into what men really think… I quite liked it. :) Anyway. I think what struck a nerve with me, is not so much the actual content of the Men's Guide (haughty as it is), but more the all too eager replies from women proudly displaying their "Woe is me. All boys are stupid." badges. Not to mention the peculiar "all hail Woodrow" theme that permeated the forum (from men and women alike)… It's lessened somewhat, but still leads me to believe you could potentially write any pile of rubbish and elicit the same response… (LOL. Should there be a POF 10-step program for this?) Now listen. In an effort to curtail some hideous onslaught of scathing retorts (assuming anyone's actually reading?)… Allow me to explain a little. I'm not so naïve as to not realize and admit there are plenty of stupid boys out there. Heck, some of them are even my friends. I've gotten samples of all the weirdo emails mentioned in the Guide… I've gotten numerous emails that were just barely English… I've gotten unsolicited pictures of their "manhood"... But (and this is really just my own worthless opinion), fundamentally… Boys will be boys. I think the air of seriousness surrounding these juvenile issues is, well… Stupid. And quite frankly, the whole "girls talk and we'll rat you out to all our friends" rationale is all very 9th grade to me. I have this vision of the cool girls, sitting at their lunch table, pointing and giggling at all the poor little fcks who misguidedly approached them that day… What is wrong with people?! Bear in mind, I've spoken to a number of guys (on and off this site) who all have their own horror stories to tell. So while women may be less often accused of outright "stupidity", we are btches. And some of us are just plain psycho. Sigh. It's just strange to me, this whole theory of wanting to give your potential suitor "advice"… I mean, if you feel the person needs a proof-reader, etiquette lessons and a slew of other "enhancements"… Do you really believe they might be the one for you? I'm gonna go out on a limb here and hazard a NO. Perhaps one should contemplate dating the nerdy proof-reader, instead of his friend the hot dumb guy… Dunno. Just a thought. Otherwise, it almost seems contrived… Double sigh. Where are all the hot nerdy proof-readers…? And let us just consider, for a second, the infamous c*ck shots… Does it show a clear lack of better judgement on the guy's part? Sure it does. Are they laughable? Certainly, most of the time, yes they are. (I think all of us here can agree on that.) But, how about thinking of them as more… Umm… Educational. Because, we're all familiar with that brief moment - the first time the pants come off - when we secretly brace ourselves for what we might find. So, in that sense; it's good to know what's out there. No? And c'mon. At the very, very least… They're always good for a chuckle. Perhaps the most viable tip (for both genders) regarding their respective profiles (uh-oh, look who sounds pompous now!) is simply: Don't come off as bitter. Don't be needy. I'm not saying don't "be" bitter. Occasionally this is unavoidable, but might be only temporary, therefore it's best not to advertise it... And you're entitled to the odd needy day, although any state of "perma-needy" will likely get you nowhere. Oh, and sweetpea… A woman's need for a man is more than tenuous… Even at worst. :)

Joined: 1/17/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

Hang on, hang on. Stop the freakin presses. Posted: 5/10/2006 7:25:58 AM
Hey. Another girl who knows about Volkswagen. Awesome. :) And Rasado... Anyone who likes sugar pie and maple syrup ROCKS. (Mais voyons... Si ta blonde est a Montreal... Qu'est ce que tu fais ici?!? Branche-toi pis demenage!!! :)

Joined: 1/17/2006

Msg: 58 (view)

Hang on, hang on. Stop the freakin presses. Posted: 5/9/2006 7:11:09 PM
Woodrow. No need to write a book. What? "A Dummy's Guide to Self-Help"? Please put your writing skills and intellect to better use. I really think your target audience is marginal. I know, I know… I hear it coming. "It was just a joke. A JOKE." Well, some would say there's an element of truth to every joke… And there's a certain edge to that post that hints at a little more truth… Gosh. Who knew you had a little closet man-basher raging inside you…? But ok. Let's give compliments where compliments are due: The Guide is funny, almost compelling - and somehow utterly maddening. You manage to be pompous, yet still totally adorable. In one (albeit exhaustively long) thread, you insult EVERYONE. Now. I don't know how your oral skills are (hey, practice makes perfect for pretty much everyone) but, that? That's talent! And ultimately, that's what makes you stand out to me. Alrighty. On to the real reason for my rant. Is anyone going to come to the defence of the guys? Anyone?? I mean, I've only met a handful of men from here, but they've all been genuinely, sincerely nice. Fine. There were no sparks, but not because they were all stupid, or infantile, or even necessarily unattractive. (I think it's wise to embark on this knowing the chances are slim…) And sure, I've gotten more than a fair few obscene emails, but c'mon. It's all par for the course, is it not? And so, realistically, even if some guy you don't know sends you a hissy-fit of an email and calls you names reminiscent of what you used to hear on the playground… Does it really matter? If it keeps you from sleeping at night, perhaps Internet dating is not for you. It's not for everyone, so maybe not for you. Just some food for thought. Lastly… I have to disagree with the whole theory on women posting pics of their T&A. Really. The amount of amateur porn-star shots (of men and women) is astounding. They do tend to exude a certain "that's all I have to offer" kind of vibe. Am I so old fashioned? Am I the only one who thinks it's shamelessly classless?? And here's the thing. I'm just some very averagely attractive girl. But… If push came to shove, I could cram and contort my girlie parts into something vaguely befitting of a Playboy cover. Let's face it. We all can. It's God's cruel joke on men. Now, don't get me wrong… I'm a firm believer in the need for that primal, visceral lust. It has to be there. But, umm… Hello. You're not going to know until you actually meet. So save it. Perhaps some more food for thought… I can't complain about a single guy that I've met on this, yet it would be foolish of me to presume that my "weeding-out" techniques are so superior… Please fish responsibly. :)

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