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goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 115 (view)

Should I? Posted: 8/7/2009 8:18:50 AM
He is trying hard... I now know why eh is doing all of this... he is hurt. We talked last night and he told me this was going to be fix and that he was sorry for everything stupid he was doing, but he was so hurt... God know if it is true., Im just going to keep my guards up. Thank you all for the comments

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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Should I? Posted: 8/6/2009 3:47:59 PM
So he saw her... after everything I alouded him to see her, I never had a father in my life so I believed maybe he could be at least that to her... Well I was wrong... We agreed on keeping it as a secret that he saw her. I actually believed he could keep the damn secret. Well he didnt and he screw me over. I was planning on going to Colombia (my home country) to see my family and spend her first christmas wiht them, now he is making the court take my pastport away so I cant go no where. He asked the court that I have to INFORM him of everything i do with or without the baby. He wants to know where i go, what i do, what school i go to, how many times a day we sleep or eat or go to the bathroom... he wants to know my address my phone number my postal code, he wants to know everything so he can come to my house anytime he feels like it and he wants me to work around his scheduale so he can see her and take her over night when he feels like it. He wants to take her every weekend and take her 3 times a week on the afternoons. This is so unfair! Ive being alone for everything and now he gets all the benefits he wants... I can not even go and see my family! because this man thinks he owns my life and her life! I shouldnt have never let him see her on the first place or talk to him.. I screwd myself over...

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 105 (view)

Should I? Posted: 7/31/2009 6:53:37 PM
He loves her so much, is not even funny, he is working on himself, and things are better now... She still cries everytime wiht him, he works to much so she doesnt really know him yet, but he asks for her and worries... which i guess is all a mother ever wants from a ma like him... I do take really good care of her... some of my friends have kids too and I have no idea how they can not care about their kids, Im wiht mine as much as i can, basically all day if posible.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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Should I? Posted: 7/26/2009 7:10:58 PM
just so you all know, he met her, and she cried all the time... He was happy tho, and he is kind a being good to her... so I guess it was worth the try, only god know how things will go on with him and the baby.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 67 (view)

Should I? Posted: 7/2/2009 6:58:37 PM
Everything that is happening right now she will find out... I DO NOT NEED TO TELL HER ANYTHING. Kids always find out. Have any of you ever though about what would have you felt if you found out that your father denied you? Many of the people that post here are from North America. You guys think different, that is why I post this, so I could get the different opinions, not to get judge. I have proof of abuse, I have proof of everything I said to the court. None of you have idea about my parents or the way I live or how I was raised, maybe I had a worst life or maybe I was a rich girl form where I am from. So please do not bring up my past or my family. Courts try to give equal chances to fathers and mothers... when... they have work out a relationship with the child. My ex never tried. Why would I know, after I have done everything by myself. Im not going to let him see her. I made my decision and if he really wants to see her then he can just wait one more month.

goga00

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Msg: 60 (view)

Should I? Posted: 7/2/2009 6:29:55 PM
Ok to all the ones that are looking back of why I had a baby. 1) I was with this guy for 3 years, life was great, one day we moved out together and everything was ok... I found out I was pregnant after I graduated from school and was about to start college, I decided to have the baby, because it was my decision, is my moral and my right to do with my body what ever I wanted. He didnt say yes or no. * Another point is that a he asked for DNA test knowing she is his, he is 100% sure she is his! he is doing it for some reason to offend me, but he is only offending her. * I asked should I let him see her or no? Note: why are people getting out of this topic and arguing why I had the baby, why I did this, and that...???? I had her period. She is healthy and happy... I just wonder if I should let him see her before court, or should I wait for the court to say when, how and where. ( that is my question) PS: I think if is a stable relationship... or at least you think is is then the father will be around and he will care for his family. If he is not around like my ex, then he is just a piece of shite.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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Should I? Posted: 7/2/2009 8:07:55 AM
I filed child support, full custody and restraining order. He was abusive to me. My daughter is only 4 months old but if he starts coming in and out of her life randomly that will be hard for her. He hasn't being around at all... Why now? if he is up to no good....

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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Should I? Posted: 7/1/2009 5:48:45 PM
I have a 4 month old daughter who I've being taking care o my own since she was born. Her father was horrible to me and never cared for her. He denied her and never looked for her, he smokes marijuana and drinks all the time. When I was pregnant he never looked after me or helped me with nothing, he kicked me out and treated me really bad. He never looked for the baby until I filed court paper work. Now he wants to see her and I dont know if I should or not. My lawyer says No and my mom says No. But I dont know what is the right thing to do. My question is Should I let him see her before the court day?

goga00

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I still dont get it... Posted: 6/8/2009 9:20:12 AM
"24/7" cuz right now Im off for the summer from college...

goga00

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Msg: 95 (view)

I still dont get it... Posted: 6/7/2009 3:40:44 PM
I guess a ot of people here are confuse about this Post, I asked if Maybe he ever loved me? I never put the topic about my child up for discussion! So to everyone that is going to comment on why I had her, read the post first. I had her period, that is no ones bussiness no more. I have her Im doing great as a mom, I go to school, work and have tons of time wiht her still... He couldnt be a father that is his problem not mone any more, I know what it is not to have a father, and sometimes is better that way. I had a **** up as a dad, do Im glad he was never around, and my daughters father is now one. Just because I had a babu doesnt mean my life is messed up, on the other hand I have more strenght to finish college and become someone in a future. So not for one second think that I feel sorry for myself, just because I wonder what happend to him it doesnt mean that Im done living. I loved him, he left us, well is done and oer with, I can do this alone... Ive being alone since he kicked me out, and I was 6 and half monhs pregnant going to school... and I did great in my semester so Im completely convince I don need him, BUT AGAIN I WONDER WHY HE LEFT OUT OF NOWHERE... I got a tons of answer and I guess they make sense... but other answer have nothing to do wiht the topic, so my child is not for discussion... If one of you dont like the fact I had her then Im sorry deal with it, none of you is the one that is going to raise her and see her become a great women, I AM, and I am more than happy to do it.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 495 (view)

Do children need a father? Posted: 6/4/2009 5:15:14 PM
Im a single mom myself, and I was raised by a single mom also. I will say that for a child it is important to have his/her father involve in their lives BUT if they never had a father, or tha father wasnt involve then with time the child will understand what really happend. In my personal opinion, I didnt need my dad, I kind a did when I was very young, I always asked why the other little girls had a dad and I didnt. But once I started growing up I started finding out things about him and what happened wiht my mother, then I understood that it was for my own good not having him around. Im old enough now to say I DONT NEED HIM OR WILL EVER NEED HIM. My ex kicked me out when I was 6 months pregnant and my daughter does not need anything fom him. She will ask one day about him and I wont need to tell her who he really is, she will figure it out alone. So I think kids do need their fathers but only if they are good fathers.

goga00

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Single Father who wants to date? Posted: 6/4/2009 5:06:23 PM
I honestly think is harder for girls than guys, but off course that depends on the situation. Good luck! Im sure youll find a wonderful women.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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Single father of 2 little girls looking for advice Posted: 6/4/2009 5:03:01 PM
1) Some women do and some dont. 2) Yes children should be mentioned at all times. 3) Depends on the women 4)Personally, I will think so, but off course it depends.

goga00

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Msg: 44 (view)

paternity tests Posted: 6/4/2009 4:58:59 PM
Yes, your friend can start a court process and then she can ask for it, BUT she will have to pay for it and it is very expencive. Around $800 each test, usually what happend is if one of the guys is the father then he more likely will help wiht the costs. Once she asks the court for the DNA test, if they say they wont take them, then the court makes them and they pay for it.

goga00

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Give us single Dads a break Posted: 6/4/2009 4:54:25 PM
Your daughter is first and the right women will come, and she will be more than happy to accept the fact that you have a daguhter and that she is first. I totally agree wiht you, I wouldnt bring guys around me baby girl if I didnt know that one of them is going to stick around. GOOD LUCK!

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 20 (view)

Love Posted: 6/4/2009 4:39:28 PM
I think once you "really" love someone, you will always love him/her some how... I dont mean crazy in love for them, but you will always have feeling for them. I loved this guy, well I think I still love him some how, even that our realtionship was hell at the end, I still think about him and wonder how he is doing. Good luck

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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Is it wrong to wanna find Mr. Right at the age of 22 Posted: 6/2/2009 9:25:52 AM
It is nothing wrong wiht wanting to find Mr Right, is women nature to want to find the perfect guy, who will love us and respect us a mothers, women, friends, etc... You just need to take your time, being a mom is a really busy and complicated thing, ( own experience) I can relate to how lonely you might feel, but if you keep looking he will never come, just relax and enjoy life, you are young, and he will definally come. Kudos for being a mom! Best of luck

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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I still dont get it... Posted: 6/2/2009 6:28:56 AM
I meant that he never cared for her. Even that he said a lot of things (BS) he never cared, he never looked for her, he never asked for her, he just never cared... He actually looked for her this month after 4 months cuz Im taking him to court for child support and custody. I didnt force him to be a father, he just didnt want to be one so here I am by myself. She was going to be born with or without him. This is not to discuss why I had her, I dont think any of you has the right to tell question me of why I gave birth to this baby, because that was my choice and I was not going to get rid of my child. She was going to be born no matter what was coming towards me.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 63 (view)

I still dont get it... Posted: 6/1/2009 7:35:11 PM
Thank you all for the opinions, I respect what you all said. For those who think I did something wrong by taking responsability on my actions adn having this gorgeous baby and working hard for our future, then IM SORRY! just so you all know, I am a 19 year old who is going to college, works and has her our ways to survive! I am not a screw up that is for sure. About him, I got the point.... And thankfully all this good and bad opinions did have an impact. I dont judge any one for what they have said to me. I did use birth control and here I am raising a 4 month old baby. I did not have her to trap him. I had her because she is my child and abortion wasnt a choice. I adore my daughter more than anything. I never had a father so I know what it is not to have one, and once you dont have one you end up not needing one! I was a happy child who had everything she wanted in life, wiht a hard working mother, just like the one I am being. I made a mistake and I am taking care of my responsabilities, MY DAUGHTER IS NOT A MISTAKE! AND IF ANYONE THINKS SHE IS THEN I HOPE YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND! She is a miracle, and gift. Her father was the mistake. Thanks again and good luck to all <3

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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I still dont get it... Posted: 5/29/2009 8:14:24 AM
Thank you all for the msgs, I didnt try to trap no one by having her, he was there wiht me when he decided to have sex ! so it was not only me in this, I dont want him back at all. He was not a good partner and he is not a good father. About the child suppport I am getting it now, Im taking him to court also. My daughter has everything she needs and she could ever want, she is a happy child and I am a great mom who is with her 24/7! So I dont think I will be dating in a long longgggggggg time... Now I get it and thank you all! PS: I wasnt trying to get people to say nice things about me, I was just trying to get some advice...

goga00

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I still dont get it... Posted: 5/28/2009 8:51:18 PM
Thank you, Is not the babies fault what happened, she is made and I wasnt going to get rid of her... she was in me... she is my blood and my child...

goga00

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PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........???? Posted: 5/28/2009 8:50:30 PM
yeah yeah yeah, w.e you say...

goga00

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Msg: 113 (view)

PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........???? Posted: 5/28/2009 8:34:27 PM
I wont need to tell her, I know she will eventually find out... Kids always find out... BECAUSE I AM SICK OF YOUR CRITICS. I respect the way you think, so I dont need you telling me what to think, specially when I am going throught it

goga00

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I still dont get it... Posted: 5/28/2009 8:27:30 PM
you didnt do nothing, you are just rude... keep your dumb comments to yourself...

goga00

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PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........???? Posted: 5/28/2009 8:26:21 PM
Yeah and once that baby grows up and finds out what happend? I dont need your critics, I hate your logic is very disrespectful... If you dont agree wiht me then shut up! keep it to yourself,

goga00

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I still dont get it... Posted: 5/28/2009 8:22:49 PM
Thank you so much, that is what I needed someone honest...

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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He is cheating, but denys it Posted: 5/28/2009 8:15:35 PM
No my dear you are not... You a beutiful girl! You dont need this! you can do so much better, is so many guys out there that will love to make you happy! You know he cheated well then that is the right thing to do! you leave him and you let another guy work to make you happy!

goga00

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PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........???? Posted: 5/28/2009 8:11:53 PM
Because that is denying a child. Plus he was living wiht the girl! and if he counts the months he will then know the baby was really his...

goga00

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I still dont get it... Posted: 5/28/2009 8:09:28 PM
Im a 19 year old single mom of 1. I dated this guy for about 3 years lived wiht him for 4 moths and loved him more than my own life. Everything was great and we were maddly in love ( I believed). In June 2008 I found out I was pregnant right after I moved in wiht him. After that I dont know what happened to him. He just grew apart and pushed me aside. He never talked about the baby or wanted o be involve with the baby stuff, I dont know what really happened to him! Time went by and he just stopped being the guy I knew, all he wnated was sex and never listen to me or say I love you any more. He started calling me ****, monster, fat, things of that kind... At the end he broke up wiht me and treated me like a stranger pregnant girl who was going to the college he was going to. He never asked for the baby or even care when she was born. He desapear until this month. Is being 6 months since the last time I saw him, and I still dont understand what could have happened wiht him! He always said how much he wanted to have a family and how much he wanted to get married after all. I would like a man or a smart woman who actually understand guys to explain to me what happened to him! did he actually loved me? Please dont write rude stuff, this is hard on me still...

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........???? Posted: 5/28/2009 7:51:18 PM
PS: don't make the huge mistake of asking for a DNA test in court. That will be just very insulting, not to her but to your son.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 106 (view)

PLANNED PREGNANCY GONE........???? Posted: 5/28/2009 7:49:09 PM
Im sorry for everything that is happening to you. I relate a lot to what you are going throuhg. I have a 3 month olf baby girl, and I wish my ex would have being involve wiht her. He has made no attemp to see her or know about her. For my personal experience I would say try to get close to your ex first. Try to be good to her, she is pregnant wiht your child... and everything that she feels the baby feels. So try to be there for her and to be involve in the baby's stuff. Try to go to prenatal classes wiht her and be there for her. A child experiences the world through his mother. Dont fight with her tho, the only one that you will be hurting is your son. Even if it doesnt makes much sense, babys are the once that suffer when they are in the womb and their mother is going through rought times. My daughter is a very nervous baby thanks to the hell of a life he gave me. I dont know you but from the bottom of my heart be good to her at least until the baby is born. If this doesnt work out then you are going to hava to go throught a case conference in court. It will definally messed things up wiht your ex, but I think your son is first. It is a very uncomfortable situation but you need to find a way to get access other wise she can just not let you see him and is nothing you can do to make her. Best of luck!

goga00

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WAYS TO GET A MAN??? Posted: 5/28/2009 6:26:11 PM
HAHAHAHA Thank you all, some of the suggestions are awsome and some are really funny, I got a good laught out of them! Well Ill try the going to kids places where single dads might be, even that I do go to a lot of places wiht her, but still no single dads, only moms.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn'Have to Lead to Birth or Parenthood Posted: 5/28/2009 3:49:35 PM
WOOT WOOT!!! I support itsallinthesoul...

goga00

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I need a profile Review!!! Posted: 5/28/2009 3:39:33 PM
My profile is kind a messed up! :( Im not even sure what Im suppose o talk about, I will like some suggestions and maybe some help wiht it? Im also trying to organize some ideas... but is hard!!!!!!

goga00

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Msg: 522 (view)

Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn'Have to Lead to Birth or Parenthood Posted: 5/28/2009 3:35:26 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjNo_0cW-ek There watch that. Probably seen it before but is all true

goga00

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Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn'Have to Lead to Birth or Parenthood Posted: 5/28/2009 3:33:48 PM
Oh and I think you guys post BS only form the states thats why :) Your websides and your sources might say something, but living it is a different story, plus I think the none sense is letting a woman screw herself with a murder.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 520 (view)

Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn'Have to Lead to Birth or Parenthood Posted: 5/28/2009 3:31:29 PM
Well then I think you should start reading more! and going to school my dear. Because all of this are facts. And once you conceive a child that little creature is alive, like it or not. It moved it feels, it hears and it experience the outside world throught the mothers feelings. You are a man thats why you dont really understand the impact of it.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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WAYS TO GET A MAN??? Posted: 5/28/2009 3:26:46 PM
Well I have nothing against geeks, on the other hand we should be nice to them... ussually we all end up getting jobs form them :)

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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He is cheating, but denys it Posted: 5/28/2009 3:16:15 PM
If he cheated once and you forgive him he will do it again. Dont let him step on you, you can do better... is way to many guys out there!

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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WAYS TO GET A MAN??? Posted: 5/28/2009 3:11:45 PM
Yeah local colleges here have smart, good looking succesful people, I dont know where you are from! but is hard to see geeks here

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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WAYS TO GET A MAN??? Posted: 5/28/2009 3:04:37 PM
=) thanx... Yeah I know guys ou age are a totally different world. Still I believe guys dont like girls with children tho :S Even if they are older, kind a scary

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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WAYS TO GET A MAN??? Posted: 5/28/2009 2:55:23 PM
I am definally not looking or want nothing to do wiht a guy my age tho. I know al they want is to have fun... But thank you for the suggestion!!!!! Ive always being the same, just got a little bitter after my past realitonship...

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

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WAYS TO GET A MAN??? Posted: 5/28/2009 2:45:54 PM
Im a single mom, Im really young and lonely, is hard to figure guys out at this point of my life so I will like to know what guys really want in a girl? what would be the perfect girl? and why not, any special way to get a mans attention???? My last realtionship was horrible and I would like to meet someone special but I dont know how or where, is like Im starting all over again. Any suggestions!!!?

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 517 (view)

Unplanned Pregnancy Doesn'Have to Lead to Birth or Parenthood Posted: 5/28/2009 2:35:31 PM
Abortion is a very safe procedure, especially in the first trimester. • The risk of complication is minimal – less than one percent of women experience a major complication.iv • The risk of death associated with childbirth is 10 times greater than the risk of death from an abortion.v • Legal abortion is safer than a tonsillectomy, an appendectomy, and a shot of penicillin. Well "futureshock" I think that what you say about abortion is a lie. 60% of women who get an abortion done will either have problems getting pregnant again, or will get breast, ovarian or cervix cancer at some point of life. Also when ever a girl or woman gets pregnant, is not the babies fault, this is a huge etical problem now days because an unborn child is consider to not be alive until the day is born, well GUESS WHAT PEOPLE, THAT UNBORN CHILD IS ALIVE!!! IT HAS A BEATING HARD SINCE DAY 22ND FROM CONCEPTION, so an abortion is not only will cause health problems in a future it will cause a huge trauma to a woman. The feeling of guilt is horrible! If a mother doesnt want to take care of the child she is carrying is ways to deal wiht it, not exactly by KILLING the child, adoption is a hard but reasonable obtion. Who in the love of Got told you that and abortion is safer than taking a shoot of penicillin! Shocking... Im a single mom, Im only 19 years old, but having my daughter didnt stop me form doing any of the things I dreamed of! and she was not planned!!!!!!!!!!!! But I never thought about killing her, so for all the mothers out there who are pregnant and dont want the child, give it away but dont live wiht the guilt of killing an inocent baby.

goga00

Joined: 3/29/2009

Msg: 865 (view)

Do guys like single moms? Posted: 5/27/2009 5:47:29 PM
Well maybe one day another guy will be man enough to take care of your child, now that you probably wont take care of him or her wiht your way of thinking. That is just rude.

goga00

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Do guys like single moms? Posted: 5/27/2009 5:44:38 PM
Oh that can also happen in Canada. But what it usually happens is a DNA test and if the child is not his sometimes the mom pays back, but most of the time they have pay child support either way.

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