but also feel guilty about possibly hurting some one that i may meet like my first nine yrs ago.

Well if the onus of personal impulse control is a pile of crap as you said........which I agree with and as you also say this is not a porn site which is also true then there is an implicit sharing of responsibility on "everyone's" account to be mindful of what they are doing.

But I maintain that a woman with normal common sense should know if she is going too far with her skin display and simply......if she does this is not helping the situation whatsoever......so there is a mutual responsibility between the genders.

Personal behaviour can never be the sole reponsibility of "one".......not in this case. The old adage is true.......you reap what you sow.

I've heard from some that proclaim about them being "independent and strong",yet see differently.

What they don't seem to get is that 'no mutual chemistry' can be a temporary condition. Some flames take a while to catch - but once they do - kaboom!

What's more, since so many people have experienced delayed sparks, the rest of you should pay attention and try it You may have lost out on wonderful relationships because you insist on believing sparks *must* be instant - despite plenty of people who can attest that it's silly to expect that.

“Language is the universal whore that I must make into a virgin,” wrote Karl Kraus or somebody so like him that it makes no odds. One of my favourite remarks. T. S. Eliot said much the same thing in a different way: “to purify the dialect of the tribe”. But is there a “higher language”, a purer language, a proper language, a right language? Is language a whore, used, bruised and abused by every john in the street … is the idea of purifying the dialect of the tribe a poetic ideal or nonsensical snobbery? The longer written version …

For me, it is a cause of some upset that more Anglophones don’t enjoy language. …People seem to be able to find sensual and sensuous pleasure in almost anything but words these days. Words, it seems belong to other people, anyone who expresses themselves with originality, delight and verbal freshness is more likely to be mocked, distrusted or disliked than welcomed. The free and happy use of words appears to be considered elitist or pretentious. Sadly, desperately sadly, the only people who seem to bother with language in public today bother with it in quite the wrong way. They write letters to broadcasters and newspapers in which they are rude and haughty about other people’s usage and in which they show off their own superior ‘knowledge’ of how language should be. I hate that, and I particularly hate the fact that so many of these pedants assume that I’m on their side. .....

‘None of these are of importance,’ I wrote there, you’ll notice – the old pedantic me would have insisted on “none of them is of importance”. Well I’m glad to say I’ve outgrown that silly approach to language. Oscar Wilde, and there have been few greater and more complete lords of language in the past thousand years, once included with a manuscript he was delivering to his publishers a compliment slip in which he had scribbled the injunction: “I’ll leave you to tidy up the woulds and shoulds, wills and shalls, thats and whiches &c.” Which gives us all encouragement to feel less guilty, don’t you think?

…..They whip out their Sharpies and take away and add apostrophes from public signs, shake their heads at prepositions which end sentences and mutter at split infinitives and misspellings, but do they bubble and froth and slobber and cream with joy at language? Do they ever let the tripping of the tips of their tongues against the tops of their teeth transport them to giddy euphoric bliss? Do they ever yoke impossible words together for the sound-sex of it? Do they use language to seduce, charm, excite, please, affirm and tickle those they talk to? Do they? I doubt it. They’re too farting busy sneering at a greengrocer’s less than perfect use of the apostrophe. Well sod them to Hades. They think they’re guardians of language. They’re no more guardians of language than the Kennel Club is the guardian of dogkind.

The worst of this sorry bunch of semi-educated losers are those who seem to glory in being irritated by nouns becoming verbs. How dense and deaf to language development do you have to be? If you don’t like nouns becoming verbs, then for heaven’s sake avoid Shakespeare who made a doing-word out of a thing-word every chance he got. He TABLED the motion and CHAIRED the meeting in which nouns were made verbs….

…. No, the claim to be defending language for the sake of clarity almost never, ever holds water. Nor does the idea that following grammatical rules in language demonstrates clarity of thought and intelligence of mind. Having said this, I admit that if you want to communicate well for the sake of passing an exam or job interview, then it is obvious that wildly original and excessively heterodox language could land you in the soup. I think what offends examiners and employers when confronted with extremely informal, unpunctuated and haywire language is the implication of not caring that underlies it. You slip into a suit for an interview and you dress your language up too. You can wear what you like linguistically or sartorially when you’re at home or with friends, but most people accept the need to smarten up under some circumstances – it’s only considerate. But that is an issue of fitness, of suitability, it has nothing to do with correctness. There no right language or wrong language any more than are right or wrong clothes. Context, convention and circumstance are all…..

...If you are the kind of person who insists on this and that ‘correct use’ I hope I can convince you to abandon your pedantry. Dive into the open flowing waters and leave the stagnant canals be.

But above all let there be pleasure. Let there be textural delight, let there be silken words and flinty words and sodden speeches and soaking speeches and crackling utterance and utterance that quivers and wobbles like rennet. Let there be rapid firecracker phrases and language that oozes like a lake of lava. Words are your birthright. Unlike music, painting, dance and raffia work, you don’t have to be taught any part of language or buy any equipment to use it, all the power of it was in you from the moment the head of daddy’s little wiggler fused with the wall of mummy’s little bubble.

So if you’ve got it, use it. Don’t be afraid of it, don’t believe it belongs to anyone else, don’t let anyone bully you into believing that there are rules and secrets of grammar and verbal deployment that you are not privy to. Don’t be humiliated by dinosaurs into thinking yourself inferior because you can’t spell broccoli or moccasins. Just let the words fly from your lips and your pen. Give them rhythm and depth and height and silliness. Give them filth and form and noble stupidity.

But a man who would use such an expression in my opinion has far more problems than his manhood to worry about proven by the fact that he seems to think that his or anyone's unique individuality seems to depend on which set of genitalia it comes wrapped in which again in my opinion is complete hogwash.

The way I see it, either you're with me or you're not. To be honest, things were never the same after he uttered that sentence. It absolutely disgusted me.I mean, how was I in charge of his masculinity??

What would a relationship be like for you if you just threw the illusion of equality out the window and did whatever you wanted to do with/for and yes! TO the person?

It will almost always be a matter of perspective, perception, emotional attachment and belief systems. A door can be seen as ensuring your privacy, or it can be seen as locking you in. But it is your door, with the lock on your side; you decide which function the door will perform for you.

Alberta syphilis awareness website parodies name of PlentyofFish dating site
CALGARY — Faux-dating site Plenty of Syph, part of an Alberta government campaign to target the province’s rising syphilis rates, tells people “to be a part of something infectious today.”
But it’s an ad campaign one company — real dating site, PlentyofFish.com — doesn’t want be associated with.
Alberta Health Services, along with Alberta Health and Wellness, recently launched a $2-million awareness campaign that includes radio and television ads, as well as the Internet site, PlentyofSyph.com.

The name is similar to PlentyofFish.com, a Vancouver-based online dating site that boasts 32 million users worldwide.
“While we believe that educating the public about sexually transmitted diseases is imperative, such blatant disrespect for a private company’s brand is shocking,” Kate Bilenki, chief operating officer of Plenty of Fish, said in an e-mail. “I am surprised that we were not contacted prior to launch of this campaign for any sort of consent. “Whichever agency is responsible for this campaign is clearly very disrespectful. I would encourage them to come up with marketing ideas that do not damage a quality brand.”

Alberta officials stand by the campaign, suggesting they haven’t received any complaints.

“Alberta Health Services has not been contacted by, nor received correspondence from, Plenty of Fish,” Shannon Evans, spokeswoman for AHS, said in an e-mailed statement.

Alberta’s rates of sexually transmitted infections are the highest in Canada.
Syphilis has spiked in recent years, with 279 new cases in 2009 compared with 77 cases five years earlier and only two in 1999.

The Plenty of Syph site, which launched in early June, features a number of racy, fake profiles, mimicking a regular dating site to educate visitors about the infection. One fake user, beardedclam_69, a 19-year-old from Edmonton writes: “Let’s not waste time. I like doing things in person;-) msg me now and I’ll show you my 4 sexy tattoos, 2 hot piercings, and 50 small bumpy rashes on my body — and if your lucky I’ll let you graze your tongue over each and every 1!!! ”On the bottom of her profile page, a list of her syphilis symptoms is given, while treatment and testing centres in Alberta are also included on the website.


The campaign, however, has also angered users of the Plenty of Fish website, said the company, which shared some of the e-mail complaints it received with the Herald.
“I have watched you build your brand for several years, and have always been impressed with your business model, and couldn’t believe that a government-affiliated program would be so bold as to attach such negitive [sic] scare tactics to your hard-earned brand,” wrote one patron of Plenty of Fish.
Other users had similar complaints.

Dr. Andre Corriveau, the chief medical officer for Alberta Health and Wellness, said although they’ve heard a couple of “slight” concerns, he’s only gotten positive reviews from his colleagues. “People think that it’s quite innovative and unique, and it actually gets us some results,” Corriveau said, noting they’ve had more people show up for testing in both Calgary and Edmonton. “Those numbers are higher than they’ve ever seen,” said Corriveau, crediting the Plenty of Syph campaign and another one titled, Don’t You Get It. Research prior to launching the campaign told the province it needed an edgier campaign to appeal to 15- to 24-year-olds, he said, noting the young people wouldn’t respond to a traditional ad campaign. “That’s a group that is very heavily into social media,” he said. “(Researchers said) they live in a different environment and that dating sites were very, very popular, so if we wanted to catch their attention, using a mock dating site might be one way to go.”

David Finch, assistant professor of marketing at Mount Royal University, said the campaign is an effective way to attract the target age group. “It’s a very shock-centric campaign that cuts through because it is raising inherent questions with that target group,” Finch said. As well, he said parodying a company is a good way for promotion. “It’s an in-joke with that audience, so it’s very effective,” said Finch. “In that sense, you are leveraging someone else’s brand equity to drive your message. The value of parody works in that way.”

The campaign, which is the first element in a three-year action plan by the provincial government to target sexually transmitted infections, had 14,000 visitors in its first week.

Am I being too picky here? Are they just being lazy?

I'm not trying to be a snob here but what do other people think about this.

"The past is behind us" is often intended to mean 'you can't change what has already happened, and spending all your time wondering 'what if' isn't going to help your current situation'.

Are things getting worse for our youth or are we just more aware of it???

Does the graphic violence in video games (and YES it is more violent that the "pong" of yesteryear) contribute to these slayings?

Are you concerned for our children or are these incedents more isolated than they appear in the media? Excuse me if I seem concerned.

How can anyone think that sharing this past 'relationship' information is anyone else's business except for those you choose to share it with?

RWW ^^^^Know yourself, be confident, trust others, don’t worry so much.
sincerely, ML

The same rights of privacy regarding personal life should apply to to all equally.

Seems Y'All have forgotten the four Mounties who in plain view and in front of a video camera jumped on and in cold blood murdered the exhausted and disorientated but otherwise harmless Polish immigrant at YVR
I don't think any of them has been discharged, convicted and sentenced for murder
but I hear they are now suing the province for the embarrassment and slander they suffered

you are working at hooters wearing a red cop uniform????
when and where????? oh, pssst ... do tell privately, we don't want to start civil unrest

sorry rose, I do find some of the above commentary unbecoming, sort of a stereotyping of professionals based on conduct of a very few exceptions or some kink trash magazine/porn peep show. Plain bad taste. It has the same ring as the propaganda slurs of past dictatorships religious fanatics or out southern neighbors, all intended to create some general distrust and paranoia. I, as many others have lived though enough shyt in our lives that there is no need for the "national Inquirer" style bullshit aimed at the mentally challenged.

Critical thought and open-mindedness are at the heart of science. If we live in a world that doesn't push these qualities to the forefront, how might that effect our future?

It's a short question because that's all I can throw into the air.. :)

to having some life experiences that would rattle your very core. It will change you from being trusting and gullable to cynical and cautious. Meet a few real evil people on this planet and your outlook becomes changed.... forever. Do I really have to explain it? LOL!!!!!

He leads second paragraph with underage drinking.

To be sure, the Canadian women's hockey team should have acted with more class and been a little more discreet with its celebration. …. In past Olympics we've seen steroids, political boycotts, cheating and judging scandals. A few puffs of a cigar hardly seems to be in the same league.

shouldn't be gender specific sports, you make it on merit and ability alone or you don't at all. It's the only fair way, let women compete in EVERY event, period.

Too bad it isn't a slight against womanhood eh?

When someone is talking/posting about how sexual they are, I'm thinking, "Less talk= more action--so with all that talk, there must be NO action."

Your inner security is your inner self that never changes.
the outer self is the ego. The ego is swayed and is driven by all the outside forces.
What is a woman defending on the outside if she feels she has to advertise her sexual prowess...
dissatisfaction of her love life.
There is no blame or desperation there. She is just merely advertising what she desires the most

“It’s old-fashioned, traditional European men who have their extreme sport. They don’t want women diluting it,”