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Joined: 4/3/2009

Msg: 205 (view)

What a Dirt Bag!!!!! Posted: 7/3/2009 8:01:35 AM
if you have nothing better to do but cry about stupid stuff like this it would then explain why you are by yourself. you must be the person anyway cause you seem to be so involved with it. its apparent no one cares anymore over this topic. i dont understand a 30 year old whining about some guy like shes 16 and he came to the prom with another date...get over it

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Not sure she was that into me Posted: 7/3/2009 7:06:07 AM
You would be calling because she told you to call and you said you would. I dont know why you would waste anymore of your time on someone who didnt even have the decency to stay off her cell phone during the date and then made up an excuse to leave. I agree with the previous guy, call her to clear your conscience and see if she wants to go out again. If she doesnt big deal, move on....there are plenty of other fish in the sea. The simple thing to do is ask her up front if she has any interest whatsoever...saves you all this time of wondering if she likes u or not.

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Msg: 201 (view)

What a Dirt Bag!!!!! Posted: 7/3/2009 7:01:58 AM
WHO F'IN CARES!!! Maybe OP, EP, IP needs to get over it and move on...this is ridiculous....no one owes anyone anything....maybe next time she'll take someone up when they ask them out and she wont have to worry about them bringing another date to "her" concert. Get over it and move on. Maybe you did him and yourself a favor by not going out with him again because he most likely would have dumped you after having to go through all this!!! NEXT

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Msg: 45 (view)

On line Dating makes me sick Posted: 7/2/2009 7:36:16 PM
Wow! I can see why he left....you went way off the deep end on that one....let the man breathe! You scared him away and number two he wasnt that interested. Third why are you guys texting each other and not just picking up the phone to talk? Back up a little bit, quit being so clingy and quit making more out of the issue than it really is. If he didnt call , so what, find something else to do...

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Msg: 25 (view)

Just had an interesting experience... Posted: 7/2/2009 7:31:44 PM
i dont know why people take time out of their day to read someones profile and decide to write something nasty to them to get shit off their chest. it showed that she apparently was a know it all by deleting ur message. i wouldnt even worry about it....there are lots of those people who exist out there...she's scarred and angry...good luck

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Msg: 54 (view)

I'm sorry... Posted: 7/2/2009 7:10:22 PM
i am happily divorced and i am proud to be a single mother of 3 children by my ex husband. but at least i wont have to worry about waking up crying because i slept with someone like you who makes absolutely no sense whatsoever and has no morals and sleeps with every chick you meet by the 3rd date. and trust me no one over here is concerned with you either...please dont flatter yourself.

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Msg: 52 (view)

I swear....and every man I know agrees.... Posted: 7/2/2009 7:05:56 PM
emlamNsea i was responding to his previous posts....at the end of the day people can sleep with whoever they want to sleep with, so make sure you know what someone is trying to say before you go off saying i called someone a tramp. i wasnt even referring to her. you can dissect my words all day long....i dont know of anyone who will say its healthy to sleep with a guy on the very first day you meet him and if you choose to do that with who you date then knock yourself out. it doesnt take a rocket scientist to wait a while and make sure you know the person before dropping your panties to someone who may ultimately give you a disease, leave you, or treat you like the average chick. i will continue to have my view the same way you will have yours.

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Msg: 217 (view)

Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive? Posted: 7/2/2009 6:40:01 PM
absolutely agree 100%. its just about being smart and being careful. you could just as easily meet a few liars in the club or at a bar or wherever who are liars or whatever....you just have to be more careful online and not take everything everyone says to be real...until u get to know that person and truly see what type person they are...

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Msg: 45 (view)

I swear....and every man I know agrees.... Posted: 7/2/2009 6:27:22 PM
putting out by the 3rd date is ridiculous....could this be why everyone is "your ex". if i went out with you knowing that there was some time clock that i had to sleep with you by, we wouldnt go out to begin with...you might as well find a tramp off the street. THAT IS WHAT I SAID....i wasnt calling her a "tramp". i was referring to the guy who said he expects his dates to put out by the 3rd date! If you think its ok for a guy to expect u to screw him by the 3rd date and you do it so he wont leave you then yes you are crazy....and yes i would feel u would be a tramp if you didnt have enough respect for yourself to sleep with someone who obviously doesnt have feelings for you.

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Msg: 41 (view)

I swear....and every man I know agrees.... Posted: 7/2/2009 6:11:49 PM
the "make him wait" is not a strategy. its called common sense and yes if its players your trying to get rid of then it will work because he most likely wont stick around a couple months to wait to have sex. sex isnt something that a woman is obligated to give a man at any point if she doesnt want to. no you will never be able to tell if your relationship will last or not last no matter how long you wait but i can guarantee you, you will not have as many men coming in and out of your bed and never hearing from them again...its called respecting yourself and your emotions. save it for someone who deserves it.

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One day she's day...Next day she's gone...??? Posted: 7/2/2009 6:03:40 PM
amen, hallelujah....lol...men have absolutely no problem ignoring us but cant seem to handle it when we dish it out to them

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Msg: 37 (view)

I swear....and every man I know agrees.... Posted: 7/2/2009 5:58:58 PM
putting out by the 3rd date is ridiculous....could this be why everyone is "your ex". if i went out with you knowing that there was some time clock that i had to sleep with you by, we wouldnt go out to begin with...you might as well find a tramp off the street.

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Msg: 1032 (view)

Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 7/2/2009 5:47:51 PM
lets see how you feel at 65 in a nursing home, lonely and by your self....theres nothing wrong with having children...thats what people do. Id much rather be seen as being a mother and having my baggage than being 45, no kids, never been married and being seen as someone who is obviously afraid of commitment.

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Msg: 242 (view)

STOOD UP by a P.O.F. MEMBER Posted: 7/2/2009 5:44:17 PM
lol........that would be a good idea...

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Msg: 35 (view)

I swear....and every man I know agrees.... Posted: 7/2/2009 5:42:22 PM
i think everyone has had a one nite stand at some point in their life but if your smart and pick up quick, most men do bounce after a couple hits because they knew they werent interested in anything serious to begin with. Im sure there are those love stories where it lasted after screwing the first night but thats rare. All i am saying is if you dont sleep with someone the first night you spare yourself the feeling of feeling used when he doesnt call you anymore....if you give it a few months and wait to see if you even like him you may realize he wasnt for you anyway, so why sleep with him unless you just wanna get laid?

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Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 7/2/2009 5:26:59 PM
the same way men date multiple women at the same time..... until u are a couple then i think its fair game to keep your options open...that usually takes a couple months to decide on that. just because u go on one date doesnt mean you should delete ur profile and only see that person...now after 2 or 3 months and you decide to be exclusive then yes, i feel both people should delete their profile and give each other the respect of not dating anyone else.

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Msg: 240 (view)

STOOD UP by a P.O.F. MEMBER Posted: 7/2/2009 5:24:12 PM
cause this is the internet and thats just life....there will always be good apples and bad apples

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Msg: 222 (view)

What are women really looking for? Posted: 7/2/2009 5:21:07 PM
there is no concrete answer to what women are looking for....the same way you cant tell me why im single and cant find "the one"....its either there or it isnt...i wouldnt take it personally...i do believe everyone should at least respond back whether its a yes or a no thank you....if they cant even do that then that should tell you they really arent worth talking to anyway. everyone has different likes as in physical appearance, height, weight, etc....but outside of that some people may not think that u guys would have much in common, maybe they have kids and u dont or vice versa....alot of times its also in what your profile sounds like...is it positive, is it the same ole same ole crap...did u just write 15 words or did you write a whole book...believe it or not you can tell alot about a person just by reading how they type, how they say things and what their talking about in their profile...be unique, be yourself, and never smother someone...if they respond great, if they dont, no love lost...good luck

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Why does contact fade? Posted: 7/2/2009 5:15:31 PM
yes you shouldnt have slept with him for at least a couple months...NEVER SLEEP WITH THE MAN YOU CONSIDER LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL until you know he wants to be in a committed monagamous relationship and that takes time....its not that they arent interested, but you already gave him the most important thing u could give him. we all do it, but i learned that if u make him wait it will give u time to at least see if things are going to work out and trust me if he really likes you, he will respect ur wishes....men dont see sex the same way we do...they can sleep with u one day and move on the next...u wont find this out unless u get to know each other in different ways besides rolling around in the bed...

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No it isn't necessarily... Posted: 7/2/2009 5:04:48 PM
everyone isnt blessed to have responsible exes or exes in the same state.....men who dont have kids or better yet who know they are dating a woman with children should also be understanding to the fact that she cant just jump out the house every weekend to go out...its not that women arent ready to date, but if a man is interested then he should also be patient

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Msg: 178 (view)

What a Dirt Bag!!!!! Posted: 7/2/2009 4:50:59 PM
exactly....why should he have stayed home bored and missed a great concert because you couldnt go with him...so should he have gone alone and been bored?? please

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Msg: 134 (view)

Are pay dating sites worth it? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:47:32 PM
no they arent worth it...you wont find anyone different on that site that you cant find on a free site....why pay to get mail from people you probably wont even be attracted to? then sometimes even though you are a member, the other person cant contact u unless they are a paying member....its a waste of money to me.

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Msg: 263 (view)

Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:42:21 PM
no one likes to be smothered....men like to know that you have a life and that you arent so needy and clingy...why would u need to call a man 10 times a day? leave your phone conversations short and to the point...you dont always have to make yourself available...men will chase you more and appreciate the fact that you dont need him to be happy. when youre overly aggressive it comes across as being a bother and a nuisance and desperate but if you give him time to call you, and to chase you then you will know that he wants to talk to you......always remember that men do like a challenge sometimes....dont make it so easy for them...give them time to miss you...

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Msg: 176 (view)

What a Dirt Bag!!!!! Posted: 7/2/2009 4:38:43 PM
the concert shouldnt be off limits because he didnt go with you, after all you went and had a good time with your friends....the way i see it is, unless you are in a committed relationship then you can see or go wherever you choose...once you two decide to make it serious then he would have been in the wrong. i wouldnt have said anything...it just made u look like u were mad and uptight....i would have brushed it off and if he was worth going out with, went on a date somewhere else...

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Msg: 58 (view)

I don't kiss on the first date Posted: 7/2/2009 4:33:13 PM
she seems like a prude....a kiss on the cheek is NOT a real kiss unless he licked her face...lol i actually find a kiss on the cheek respectful because they dont just try to grab ur face and swallow it without your permission... most men are smart enough to know when a women is ready to kiss...i cant stand guys who ask for it....just be patient...trust me, you'll know when a women is ready to kiss...she will show complete interest in you...you shouldnt have to beg her for a kiss

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Msg: 38 (view)

bringing a dog to the first meet Posted: 7/2/2009 4:29:37 PM
wouldnt bother me...i love animals...unless u were going to nice restaraunt or something and u obviously couldnt take the pet in....it wouldnt hurt for the person to just throw it by you first b4 they come..."hey do you mind if i bring my dog?" simple

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One day she's day...Next day she's gone...??? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:22:55 PM
men always think that because women dont date them, that they really dont want a nice guy...Hell, i think im a great catch and there have been plenty of men who stopped calling me or talking to be, the relationship just fizzled...i could easily say "men dont really want a nice girl" the truth is i just wasnt their type....it doesnt mean im a bad person, we just dont click...i know i will make someone happy. you should look at it the same way....the reality is, there was something that these women did not like, and they didnt see themselves being with you long term so its easier to just let it go. the right thing to do is be honest and just say "im sorry, i think ur a great person, but i dont think we are a match" but no one likes to hurt peoples feelings so they just bounce, great sex , laughs or whatever....if something is missing, or a couple things are missing, then usually the person loses interest and moves on...

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Msg: 26 (view)

Am I being to harsh? Divorced vs. Separated Posted: 7/2/2009 4:12:54 PM
A lot of people just lie in general....say their divorced knowing they arent. some arent divorced but truly are seperated and dont see the big issue. i guess it depends on you...i do feel someone can be seperated and completely done with the marriage...i dont think men truly will settle down with someone right after getting done with a divorce because they havent had a chance to even relax and date and breathe....i think they just date to keep themselves occupied and because their lonely or horny....i would recommend letting them go until they get everything out of their system, you'll just end up with a broken heart and being dumped later on...

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Msg: 28 (view)

looks or profile, what attracks you first? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:08:11 PM
Of course you usually click on a profile because of the looks but to me personality is what matters most. he can be the finest thing on the planet but if his attitude sucks what good will his looks do. People sometimes focus so much on looks they dont even read your profile which shows they arent serious and are just looking for something physical...men need to realize women love compliments but dont overdo it...compliment and let it go...id much rather hear that they like me for my personality over "id love to talk to you because you are beautiful". looks wont keep a relationship going. knowing how to communicate and being able to relate to someone will.

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Not sure she was that into me Posted: 7/2/2009 4:03:33 PM
Let it go....she does not like you...sorry.... If a person wants to do something bad enough, they'll cancel any date, call off work, drive miles to see the person if they like them... she had her friend call to save her...i can guarantee you , you wont have another date with her because something will miraculously come up... move on and hopefully you can find someone who is interested. good luck!

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Calling someone you dumped! Posted: 7/2/2009 3:50:21 PM
It can go both ways.... on one hand they could just be at least trying to salvage the relationship through at least being friends. Just because you arent wanting to have a life long serious relationship with a person doesnt mean you cant have a great friendship. On the other hand it sometimes can be too painful to see this person as a friend and its better to just let things go completely. You look at it as if you dont want me then theres no need in continuing a friendship or anything, youve said enough...lol i have been on both sides..it has hurt me and i became bitter, but later on i let it go and we were able to have civil conversations and move on....

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whats his problem???? Posted: 7/2/2009 3:43:04 PM
I have 3 children myself and I tend to meet guys who expect you to get rid of your kids all the time which isnt happening. I can understand in the beginning but i guess it depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking for a long term relationship then I wouldnt let a guy constantly make you get rid of your kids because that just shows no interest. I think there is a subtle way to slowly bring the kids into the mix and it doesnt have to be expensive. After all, if you do end up dating the kids arent gonna be at a babysitters every weekend. I would give it 2 months tops to avoid meeting your kids, but i would at least like him to mention my kids and show that he's interested in even meeting them, if he doesnt then he never will be interested.

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Msg: 215 (view)

Date thought I was taking advantage of him by asking him to get me a pack of gum Posted: 6/26/2009 2:58:09 PM
lol about the hug and peck being 200.00....thats funny

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Msg: 214 (view)

Date thought I was taking advantage of him by asking him to get me a pack of gum Posted: 6/26/2009 2:55:41 PM
If he made a big stink over a pack of gum he wasnt even worth going out with. I have the same problem...alot of guys think that just because they spend money to take you out that you owe it to them to have some long drawn out kiss or have to be physical with them. That should only be done if the chemistry is there and its the right time. You did nothing wrong...

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