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PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Are you threatened by a Bi girlfriend? Posted: 3/7/2006 6:18:03 PM
Where would the threat be? A woman obviously provides her with things that a man cannot - not only physically, but emotionally. I would say the same to lesbian women who feel some sort of threat from a bisexual girlfriend, or any hetero/homosexual lover of a bisexual man or woman.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

Would you date a single mother that does not have custody? Posted: 3/7/2006 6:02:08 PM
Rule #1: wait and see why. Sometimes a mother couldn't afford to properly care for the children. I've seen one case of this, where a middle-aged housewife suddenly found herself and her kids cut out and cut off from a husband who decided he wanted something younger and prettier. She couldn't keep up with her half of the accumulated debt and a huge mortgage on just alimony and child support, and had little to no skills to make any real income with (she was a student of mine - her kids stayed with relatives in joint custody). There are also women who had children at a very, very young age, and turned over custody to their parents or family until they could get on their feet financially and job-wise. There are also, on top of that, women who have had children in circumstances that were hellish to understate things, and the children need an environment that helps them to heal. Not all custody cases go to either the mother or father. Stop and listen before making up your mind.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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is North American productivity affected by our inability to form relationships? Posted: 2/27/2006 4:54:50 PM
if relationships were easier to form in North America, would productivity improve? Productivity is a question of attitude over circumstance, no? Albert Einstein once said that the key to happiness was to always be enthusiastic about something. Considering that both of his marriages were of convenience and not romance, the man was likely a lot happier at work diddling with algorithms than he probably ever was at home doing anything of the sort with the missus. That said, I certainly would never discount love at home making one feel a lot better at work (though the flip side is, you miss him or her while you're at work, and...) would we make more babies to feed our pensions? Actually, the more well-off an economy or nation-state is, the lower the birthrate. Large families were once built as a built-in 'pension' of sorts (the kids eventually took care of their parents, and the more kids you had, the better off the retirement years were...) would the economy be better-off? Probably - confidence has always been a strong support of most Western economies.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Safari! Posted: 2/26/2006 9:58:23 AM
I use Safari on the Mac (w/ the "Automatically Open Safe Files" option turned off for safety), and Firefox on the Linux machines. (I have exactly one Windows PC from a previous job as a programmer, but it's not allowed to touch the Internet. At All). While all browsers have the occasional flaw, IE seems to get them in constant spades, and ActiveX only makes it just that much worse. Safari has exactly one, Firefox a couple, but IE has literally hundreds, if not thousands of flaws which are exploited. To heck with that - I'd rather spend my time actually having fun online and not constantly scanning for patches and worried about what's next on the malware pipeline.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Do you girls message guys in this website? Posted: 2/26/2006 9:02:00 AM
Personally I think the guys that are posted as living in utah are posted from obituaries . Beg pardon? While I've been happily landed (and practically in her boat), I know quite a few other local guys who would probably appreciate getting an email as much as you would like receiving one. I swear the whole Utah population doesn't even know how to take advantage of a good thing. Oh, c'mon... this place is home to Singles' Ward! You expect most of the guys out this way to change paradigms now? Cheers from SLC!

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Class action against Yahoo Personals and Match.com for fraud Posted: 2/25/2006 3:45:18 PM
Just wanted to vent against Match. I got a notification that I had an email on there so I went to look at it. Guess what? I have to subscribe to read it! After hearing all these horror stories there is no way I am going to. I can understand paying to send an email but to read one? Come on! Match, I hope you go bankrupt! I did notice an email today (my old sub at Match.com is nearly up- should expire at the end of this month) that was titled "CRAZYSEXYCOOL63 and babyduke68 Viewed Your Profile!" Funny thing is, I'd never seen one of those mails before (I subscribed to it back in late August). I haven't really been active on the site since November or so, so it'll be interesting to see what pops up in the next few weeks... I will say this though; POF has been far and away superior to anything Match.com could ever hope to be, and it didn't cost me the $80 spent at the other site to find that out.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Do you girls message guys in this website? Posted: 2/25/2006 2:56:21 PM
I found it to be awesome when I got messaged first - it shows that a woman is confident and not afraid to be something other than a passive player in a relationship, so it got my attention faster than someone answering one of my mails ever did). (that's how Shari and I got together, come to think of it )

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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so, uh, p-gasms Posted: 2/21/2006 6:04:39 PM
Damn... ANOTHER reason for men to curse biology! (yes, I can say that we as a whole are jealous... all we get is a monster erection that we have to talk down before we actually can drain the vein, so to speak...)

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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any ladies like being called dirty in bed? Posted: 2/21/2006 5:30:20 PM
(and that's all I'm gonna say ab't that... )

PixelJockey

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Dayam .......! Posted: 2/20/2006 9:24:30 PM
I spent the whole holiday weekend in Heaven. I have this site (and more importantly, an incredibly wonderful woman who participates here) to thank, period. If it wasn't for y'all running the site, I would've missed out on someone who not only engages my mind, but can send it on a trip to the moon with very little effort. She is someone beyond any and all that I could have ever expected or even hoped for, and I'm still feeling damned awesome as I type this. Smart, sexy, and oh, damn... who knew that she lives less than 10 minutes' drive away from me? Now if you'll all pardon me, I have to get to bed and get at least halfway rested up so that I'll be partially worth a damn at work tomorrow Thanks, guys, this site definitely rocks!

PixelJockey

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At the request of my girl, I am reading a bodice ripper. Posted: 2/18/2006 8:31:51 PM
Well, she has been reading them and getting very worked up. Dude, it's like this - Men have visuals as pornography (pictures, video, what-have-you). Women have literary material as pornography (that romance novel you're reading at the moment...). Kinda underscores the difference between men and women and what turns each on, yes?

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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He won't let me see his daughter Posted: 2/18/2006 12:41:27 PM
You have to be prepared to be a mother/father figure to these kids even though they have a mother /father who is involved in their lives. Yep. If it gets serious and the two of you are going to be in the same house all the time, be prepared for it. If you have kids and the s/o has kids, then be doubly prepared for it.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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He won't let me see his daughter Posted: 2/18/2006 12:39:01 PM
Jim, normally I'd agree with you - kids are too important to simply cut time out away from them. OTOH, I usually only date someone initially when he's at his mother's house (or when the grandparents take him out somewhere). Most single mothers I've met are the same way, and more than once I've had to coordinate weekends and such. Otherwise, when he's here with me, he's never more than a few feet away from me at any time, and then only if it is his choice to do so. I take him out as much as I can to let him play with friends' children on play-dates (many are his age, so it works out perfectly), and if I fell in love with someone I know that she would have to know up-front that when my little guy is over here, he's the center of my schedule (especially as a toddler) -- just as I would be expected to know and accept the same if/when I met her children (assuming she has any). For instance, if this eventual lady and I wanted to go on a date when I had him over for the weekend, that date is going to be at places like the zoo, the dinosaur museum, the pool, the playground... and not at a nightclub (at least during the times when he's under my care). This way I can still be together with her, and at the same time he doesn't miss out on anything. Of course, your mileage may vary.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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He won't let me see his daughter Posted: 2/18/2006 9:06:56 AM
Maybe he just thinks she's too young at this point and won't understand that daddy is dating someone other than mommy. ...and what if Mommy is dating actively? I can understand the difficulty in explaining such a thing to a young child, but instead of deception and camoflage, I think the child will appreciate an honest answer a whole lot more... and after two years, maybe he should sit down and explain it to her? I was in a relationship with a man who's ex-wife wouldn't allow their children to meet any woman he was interested in, and he didn't feel he could stand up to her. Daaaaaamn. I think I'd tell my ex in full graphic detail exactly where she could stick that kind of demand.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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what do u think is the best method to fish? Posted: 2/18/2006 8:45:30 AM
The best method to fish? Chuck a stick of dynamite into in the lake - stuns a lot of 'em and lets you pick from whatever floats to the surface. That IM title scheme is a lot like that. Problem is, dynamite doesn't sink - so the only fish that are usually going to float to the surface are all the little ones - the ones that stay shallow. If you want a keeper, you're going to have to put your bait down deep, where the big ones lurk.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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He won't let me see his daughter Posted: 2/18/2006 8:39:57 AM
It's weird that he's waited two years (okay, really weird). I mean, As a father myself, I usually wouldn't let someone I was dating see my little guy at least until I know that things are somewhat serious between us - enough to where I know she'll be around for quite awhile. The one and only exception was a woman that I had went from being a lover with, to becoming best friends with (her sister is a single mom with a little boy the same age as mine - they had a blast playing together back on New Years' Eve). ...but two years? Oy, vey... Funny Girl is 100% correct - if I find someone and we fall in love, then she's going to have to get used to the idea of seeing my little dude around the house, and I would prefer that she not be a bystander

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Is Love forever a natural thing? Posted: 2/18/2006 8:32:40 AM
Agreed w/ PeaceOfficer - excellent call, 'mano. As far as the original question? Yes, if you put the effort into it. Fortunately, it isn't really hard to do that, just that it requires both parties to actually do so

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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younger men and older women Posted: 2/17/2006 9:52:50 PM
LOL! And here I thought the Utah forum had finally came back to life... (wow - what're you guys doing here, anyway? Mod decide to shove the thread into the deadest forum he/she could find? )

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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How do you show your Lover you love her without buying her stuff Posted: 2/17/2006 5:11:03 PM
Do something out-of-the-way nice for her once in awhile... it doesn't cost a mint to do that. Okay, I hope the ladies don't mind, but I'm going to give up a couple of ideas, and express them in a manner that guys can understand at 500 yards off. Okay, I have this antique claw-foot bathtub in, well... the bathroom (like I'd keep it in the kitchen or something). Here's what you could do with it (or any other bathtub for that matter - basically if it holds enough hot water to half-submerge your ladyfriend, you're set): Set out some candles and scented stuff that women enjoy, put a small table next to the tub with a favorite snack (cheese, chocolates, etc) and a glass of wine on it. Oh, and get hold of and set on that table whatever book she was reading at the time - you keep up on stuff like that with her, right? Plug in the ipod (or cd) full of her favorite (but keep it relaxing) music into the player/stereo/"anything with speakers". Just before she arrives, get a nice hot bubble-bath going in the tub. As soon as she gets in, take her coat, shut off her cell-phone/pager/whatever, and lead her to the bathroom. You get out and close the door to let her get in the tub (unless you're married to her, then take her clothes and go fold them up). Once she's settled in, go back in there and ask her something that will get her to talking to you... then listen more than talk. Basically, you're doing one thing that women tend to appreciate a whole lot: Pamper the unholy crap out of her. As long as it's a special occasion thing (do it too often and she'll think you're some sort of metrosexual), and you don't hose it up by dropping your pants next to the tub or saying something ungodly stupid? You're golden. Other things you can do? Little stuff that adds up... like detail her car for her, remember her birthday (and other dates important to her), pay attention to her when she speaks to you, things like that. They're all cheap money-wise (most won't cost you a dime), and they send a much louder signal that you love her than Bill Gates would by dropping off a 40-kilo diamond on her front porch. HTH,

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Srange question . Posted: 2/16/2006 6:20:16 PM
What is he doing there anyway? ...what bears normally do in the woods?

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Morning breath! Would u still have sex? Posted: 2/16/2006 5:12:01 PM
OP: Depends on where you kiss her, doesn't it?

PixelJockey

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Once a cheat, ALWAYS a cheat! Posted: 2/16/2006 5:04:50 PM
I just felt like posting this for all of you who are heartbroken and confused about what to do in your relationships with cheating spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends.. Confused? When I discovered the second affair, I wasn't confused at all - I left. :/ I figure that she'll likely do it to the guy moving in with her, and prolly the guy after that, until she becomes older and realizes that maybe that's a bad thing to do. Either way, it isn't my problem anymore (shrug), and I can concentrate on finding someone that I can hopefully build a better life with. Guy after him tried playing me, dated for two years, cheated on me with a cougar I know what you meant, but I still get this rather creepy mental image of some loser with his pants around his ankles, trying to grab hold of a pissed-off mountain lion's hindquarters.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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opinions please Posted: 2/16/2006 4:50:16 PM
OP: I had something similar, and this may help... I was dating someone back in November, up until right around Christmas. We hit it off extremely well (...and her idea of nocturnal playtime? O. M. G.....! I still get all happy thinking about it ). BUT... she had a boyfriend who had broke up with her nearly a year back, right before he was to be stationed in Kuwait. He was worried that she would be worried about him, so he broke it off before he shipped out (this may sound weird, but as a Desert Storm vet, I find this completely understandable). Well, he had a change of heart, and realized that he had virtually lost one very fine person, so he calls her up. Her feelings for him were still incredibly strong, and she asked me what she should do (which raised my estimation of her character even higher than it was before). I simply asked her point-blank: "Do you love him"? She said yes, and that was enough for me to step back and let her go as a lover. It sucked, yes - I won't BS you about that part of it. OTOH, I know that there's no way I could carry on with her in a relationship when someone else was in her heart. We're still close friends, and we still get out with other mutual friends often. In all, big-picture-wise, I'm kind of glad about how it turned out - she's happy and looking forward to his return (he'll be back in a couple of months), and she and I are still close friends. Weigh the decisions, and act on them without regret. That's the best I can offer as far as advice.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Are you really independent? Posted: 2/15/2006 7:45:25 PM
Dave, a question: Independence taken in extremis would mean having high standards and being secure enough in one's own solitude to not ever settle for less than a mental ideal, no? To be honest, it isn't as if most folks here have some ungodly checklist, and would likely be quite content with someone they can be comfortable and happy with. Independence to me, is being secure enough in myself that I'm not in any hurry to simply flop into the arms of the first willing someone just because she happens to be female and carries a pulse. In moderation it's good; it helps me avoid something worse than what I divorced, or even something that would go south anyway. OTOH, I do my best to avoid letting independence blind me to hidden treasures

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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I'm moving to Canada Posted: 2/15/2006 6:39:31 PM
And you know how when the temperature is just so hot you can't stand another person sleeping next to you/touching you, etc.? I dunno... night time out here in the desert gets awfully cool - even in summer. Now the Deep South, where the air is so thick and humid that you have to chew it first to extract the oxygen? Nuh-uh... I don' want none of that either. Then again? sometimes a hot, sweat-drenched bout of... well, I'll shaddap now.

PixelJockey

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Is he a player or am i jsut sensitive? Posted: 2/15/2006 5:38:52 PM
I saw him on cam.He is 36,body wise anyho!! Oy! as a guy who carries a 36-yr-old body around wherever he goes... Kidding; I know what you meant (a bit flabby and wrinkly, and probably carries a bald spot big enough to land a helicopter on. I feel damned fortunate by comparison. Kinda scary sometimes...) If he's 36 and acting like that I'd like to revise what I said in the dupe thread: The dude is monumentally, Titanic-grade, cosmologically, macrovision-sized stupid. With a capital "S". (did I mention you look damned fine for someone in her 30's? ) I betcha it's cause he's smokin' hawt ! He's been smoking something...

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Is he a player or am i just sensitive? Posted: 2/14/2006 10:52:41 PM
Dude is exquisitely stupid, if nothing else.

PixelJockey

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Is he a player or am i jsut sensitive? Posted: 2/14/2006 10:48:35 PM
spotted the double-post. My bad.

PixelJockey

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need some advice Posted: 2/14/2006 8:56:46 PM
Okay, here's the deal (from someone who has had the dubious pleasure and actual honor of serving in the US Air Force): Active or Reserve or Guard - doesn't matter. Basic Training is all the same no matter the eventual status: If he was really in basic training, he would have had to pack his cell phone away (along with pretty much anything else that wasn't issued to him by the military) within the first week (usually less), and wouldn't be allowed to touch it again until he got out of 'basic. His only contacts with you would be through snail mail or the rare phone call. The only exceptions would be the day he gets to parade, and (at least in the USAF) the one single 12-hour period of liberty - both usually granted towards the end of training (assuming his squad/flight/whatever didn't hose-up something and lose even that as punishment). Quite frankly - he wouldn't have time to do anything that he wasn't explicitly told to do, period. From the nanosecond he got off the bus and onto the parade grounds, until the day he leaves, his life is micromanaged to every minute of every day. Texting? Pfft! Anyone fool enough to whip out a cell phone, even on his first day, would earn himself a first-rate a***-chewing from the first drill instructor to see him try it, and perhaps a bit of wall-to-wall counseling. To put it short: I'm sorry, but he's bullshitting you.

PixelJockey

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What is real love??. its cant eat cant sleep type feeling right?? Posted: 2/14/2006 8:40:37 PM
I always thought it was that urge to get out of bed at midnight just to step outside, have a ciggy, and grin like an idiot into the night; the whole time replaying the thought that she just told you earlier in the day that she loves you.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Sometimes I wonder am I destined to be alone? Posted: 2/14/2006 8:37:54 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^ ditto what loops said. I remember when I was 20. I thought the very same things in-between relationships (okay, dates), then remembering that every worry I ever had about it vanished the moment a woman gave me her phone number. (this was back when cell phones were expensive mofos BTW, so you had to wait until she was actually home before you called her ) Dude - take your time, do it right. It (the lonely feelings) won't last forever; you'll find her, wherever she is.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Can an affair become a happy and successful long tem relationship? Even Marriage! Posted: 2/14/2006 5:58:59 PM
OP, serious question here: If both of you wandered into other beds because you got 'bored' (to sum it up) or didn't see your 'needs' met (a paraphrase), then what's to stop you from doing it again to each other when one or both get bored again? Relationships and marriages do take work to keep them alive. There is no avoiding that. It's the only way you'll be able to break the ugly cycle of infatuation->marriage->boredom->divorce->infatuation->marriage->boredom... , y'know? A fire doesn't burn brightly unless at least one of you hauls a constant supply of wood towards the thing and feeds it... and it goes much easier when you're both pitching in to keep it lit.

PixelJockey

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What is cheating and why do we do it? Posted: 2/14/2006 5:44:33 PM
What constitutes it? IMHO (and nothing more), anything intimate and physical - from kissing passionately on up to sex. Like someone else posted - WTF... another species? euuuuuuw! Personally, I'd tell the guy to either: 1) man-up and tell his wife what he's feeling and seriously ask what the two can do about it, or 2) buy a male sex toy, a 5-gallon bucket of lubricant, and three large boxes full of porn, or 3) leave the relationship. Anything else is adultery, and no amount of self-delusion and excuses will cover up that fact.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

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I'm moving to Canada Posted: 2/14/2006 5:13:20 PM
I've seen 'hot' and 'not' on both sides of the border (same w/ the US/Mexico border for that matter). Hell, even Saudi-frickin'-Arabia had some beautiful women living there, from what little was revealed by the typical chador dress (wouldn't want to live there, though - the morality police would make life rather unbearable for an old heathen like myself). I'm still firm in the belief that -- as a guy who has a little bit of everything in his own ethnicity -- the absolute hottest women are either Asian or Amerind, a type of woman which happens to be thankfully very plentiful on either side of the US/Canadian border... so I'm happy with women from either side of the border. As for which nationality of woman is best? Pfft! It makes me happy to rest my eyes on any beautiful woman, no matter what her passport cover may have embossed on it.

PixelJockey

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last thread on this CHEATING subject Posted: 2/14/2006 5:03:23 PM
I'm throwing in my vote for the "cheating" side of the ballot. I'd start reading your/her CC bill charges too - you never know what you may find in there. (my ex did a LOT of the things you talk about... and it didn't take much to track the cell # down and discover who it was. Cross-checked w/ her credit card bill for a couple of motel stays, and it all clicked.)

PixelJockey

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Should We have a area for Openminded People to communicate in POF? Posted: 2/13/2006 6:11:14 PM
Sucks that he said no - did he say why? As far as finding out what a potential someone wants orientation-wise, there is in the profiles {gender} seeking {gender}, which in conjunction w/ the search, does cover some of it. Good luck if you decide to try to persuade him in the future.

PixelJockey

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Open Relationship Posted: 2/12/2006 6:53:56 PM
If you're not okay with it, tell him that. It may be something of a phase, and he may snap out of it when he realizes that it would hurt you if he did it. (at least he brought it up before he ran off and partook of it, yes?)

PixelJockey

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Yes, I did the unthinkable...I called the next day!!! Posted: 2/12/2006 7:58:51 AM
How about this. Suppose you exchange numbers, who calls first? Last time that happened (couple of months ago), I had to... I got lost getting to her house to pick her up

PixelJockey

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Yes, I did the unthinkable...I called the next day!!! Posted: 2/12/2006 7:57:04 AM
OP: It's all good... like it was said before, if she didn't want you to use the number, you wouldn't have it. As long as you're not using it every five minutes... ( yeah, I know - sucks to check for voicemail every ten minutes now, doesn't it? )

PixelJockey

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are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 2/12/2006 6:43:33 AM
"wow that sucks" Funny, but when my boy's mother told me she was pregnant (we were married then), I spent the next six hours bragging about it to everyone I knew, and quite a few people that I didn't even know. It's a bad assumption to think that all men automatically react to pregnancy with "that sucks"...

PixelJockey

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Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 2/11/2006 9:55:02 PM
I don't think you can ever really forgive. Perhaps, but I have found that, if it was a once-only thing, a person can eventually make his or her peace with it (to his or herself) and then try to repair the damage, but only in that order; first you, then with him or her. Even then it will hang over the relationship like a cloud for a very long time. Eventually though, it does heal, if you and your s/o let it. There are no hard and fast rules, given that the reasons are rather wide and variable. It's the second time you find the spouse cheating that breaks the deal entirely, IMHO. I finally forgave her for that once the divorce decree was final - and it became some future guy's problem. If you're not married? Depends on how well and closely tied you are with the person, and what the circumstances are, but it seems like a much better time to break it off on the first incident than to have to make that decision when there's a mortgage company, kids, lawyers, and families involved.

PixelJockey

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sidewalks Posted: 2/11/2006 8:21:26 PM
It's easy enough - start shouting and arguing with yourself. That or scratch yourself in weird places, start coughing like you have something contagious, or simply begin singing dirty limericks. If all else fails, panhandle them as they approach. Most couples will literally cross the street to get out of your way looong before they reach your position. If you're the couple, just take her hand with your other and gently slow your pace a touch, guiding her in front of you. No biggie. HTH

PixelJockey

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What is ur preference of beauty ? Posted: 2/11/2006 2:27:06 PM
Dude - if she doesn't have a big, beautiful pair of... ...Cerebral Cortices, no-go.

PixelJockey

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are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 2/11/2006 2:04:42 PM
God could never be a pregnant woman. Pfft! You've obviously never sat with one when she's in labor.

PixelJockey

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Msg: 159 (view)

Married but tempted Posted: 2/9/2006 5:32:04 PM
1) We are animals but, as we a sentient beings and like to think we hold our selves to a higher standard. In reality people are only sweeping a common practice under the rug. Mammals also commonly kill others of their kind for little to no ethical or moral reason. This is especially true with male animals killing young born of different fathers, so as to bring the mother into estrus/menses again, to then give him a shot at reproduction (cats, camels, bears, dolphins, many primates... far too many to list). Humans in early pre-history have been suspected of this practice as well. Do you therefore suggest that we discard higher standards and abandon ourselves to our urges? That men who want a date promptly kill off all newborn/infant children that a single mother has? Of course not - we've evolved beyond that. So why can we apparently not evolve beyond other hurtful practices? It becomes a rather all-too-convienent excuse to blame genetics and instinct when it's time to go make a booty-call with forbidden fruit, no? Monogamy is not a natural state of being for a human. I'd like credible cites, please. Even if so, see the first response. There is no information on if they have an open relationship where their love and trust in each others judgement is enough that each can find joy in this simple biological function. This refutes your first two points by simple design - an open relationship is anathema to a male human's instinctual behavior if history and pre-history (as well as the social behaviors of most other primate species) is any indication. If your objection is based or religious beliefs your again imposing your moral precepts on the behavior of others. "Remember the Bible says judge not lest ye should be judged." It also prescribes death by stoning for proven adulterers, but that was IIRC refuted by J.C. Himself (where His response was along the lines of "Let he who is without sin..." (sin in general, not sin of adultery, BTW)). OTOH, He never said that she would/should avoid the inevitable divorce and public shame. The ethical implications are those that are relevant only to her and her husbands personal belief system and the understanding or covenant between them as to their boundaries. This I agree with perfectly, insofar as the two are concerned. Problem is, they live in a society - one that takes a very dim view of adultery overall. While no one is forced to wear a big scarlet "A" on their chest, it is a huge hamper to future prospects given the proven lack of integrity that is automatically assumed to be attached to the cheater.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

Looking at other male profiles is depressing Posted: 2/9/2006 4:44:20 PM
The goodlooking guys dont post in the forums. It absolutely surreal the discrepancy between the quality of the males and females, never mind the quanity discrepancy. ...that's because us ugly spuds have to rely on wits instead of looks. Well, unless you're Bill Gates - which proves that a man who has neither, but carries a stupendously HUGE bank account, tends to attract all the feminine company he can ever handle. I mean seriously - his missus is damned fine-looking...

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

The Odds of Success... Posted: 2/9/2006 4:33:37 PM
"lower your expectations and it will all work out." Dunno about lowering expectations just to find an s/o, but re-assessing those expectations to see if they fit reality isn't a bad idea, is it?

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

are women playing GOD when they become pregnant Posted: 2/8/2006 5:29:22 PM
I absoluetely have to disagree with you Tiger, if a girl gets pregnant and keeps it eventhough you tell her you dont want a child you are responsible. You had sex, it is your responsibility and if a child is conceived, that is your responsibility too So the flip side of that same logic, involving a father who wants to keep the baby and raise it but a mother who wants an abortion? Seems rather unfair, no?

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

The Odds of Success... Posted: 2/7/2006 6:26:54 PM
I'd rather find someone I get along with real well (and whose company I enjoy) and let the rest happen, as it usually does in good time. Besides, chasing a pre-formed mental avatar is usually a solid recipe for blinding oneself to the qualities and traits (or worse, lack thereof) that actually do matter.

PixelJockey

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

Retrebution vs. Moving On? Posted: 2/6/2006 4:44:18 PM
To the OP... why bother? Life is too short to waste it on 'getting even' against the ex or against anyone else. As long as you and/or any kids involved aren't getting shafted, let the ex go - he/she is just someone else's problem to deal with if you yourself are well-adjusted and normal. I'd rather enjoy the love and attention of someone better than to sit there and make my own life bitter... if Karma comes around to bite the ex, it comes around - otherwise I've got too much going on in life now to sit and worry about it. Anything else is just, well... weird.

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