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sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Digging for complements Posted: 2/21/2006 7:10:57 AM
Lady bugg, who could ever compete with Slow Hand? OP I would find some physical activities to do together. Hiking, biking, swimming, anything physical. I she gets into it then you could carefully bring up going to the gym together to enhance your new recreational pastime. She'll lose some weight and feel a whole lot better about herself and that will transfer into the bedroom as well. Sweating together is a heck of an aphrodisiac.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

Why dont women like me ????? Posted: 2/21/2006 6:34:45 AM
Hang in there dude. There is somebody out there for you, just keep on chuggin along. Stoneangel is right about the down in the gutter thing. Don't put that stuff out, women aren't attracted to defeated men.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

If you cannot feel sexual chemistry, should you continue to date someone? Posted: 2/10/2006 11:15:10 PM
I would ask you how important good sex is to you in a relationship. Personally, I have to have the chemistry.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 185 (view)

What are your deal breakers Posted: 2/10/2006 11:11:29 PM
I could never get past a rotten mouth to ever know what the other deal breakers might be with that person.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

How do you get someone to understand that its not always possible to be friends after a breakup? Posted: 2/8/2006 7:33:29 PM
Coastergal is almost never wrong. Listen to her:)

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

How do you get someone to understand that its not always possible to be friends after a breakup? Posted: 2/8/2006 7:07:55 PM
You seem really nice. You're self esteem will continue to suffer if you let him keep you in the wings. He's already picked somebody over you but obviously is afraid to let somebody go who he knows loves him. Did he give you the present with the other girl there? Probably not. If not, then why not? You're just friends right?

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 161 (view)

Why is a decent girlfriend so hard to find? Posted: 2/6/2006 8:15:15 AM
Supposed to be hard to find. Can't settle for just any available woman

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 74 (view)

I am devasted!!! My girlfriend had an abortion we decided on and broke up with me!! Posted: 2/6/2006 7:38:19 AM
Thanks JenJen, Thought I was the only one bothered by the whole dinner thing. I bet it felt like the last Supper to her. Some people think that this thread has turned into a battle between pro choice and pro life. I dissagree, I think it has evolved into a thread about sexual responsibility. I've had close calls in my life, we are all flawed, but I can't even imagine how much of a loser I would have to be to suggest an abortion to somebody at any age, much less as someone who's in his thirties. This girl may have some problems but everyone does. YOU still want her, so she must not be THAT bad. She broke up with you because she can never again see you as a man who she can have a family with. Women are the survivors and she doesn't see you as her mate anymore and never will. What's the point? Maybe you'll be financially ready at 43, nah, that's just ten years. Let's make it 53. Now there's a great age to start a family. Hey, It's been done. Anyway, forget about her, man. She's gone. I would be willing to bet, she'll be married and pregnant with someone else within the next two years.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

I am devasted!!! My girlfriend had an abortion we decided on and broke up with me!! Posted: 2/4/2006 9:19:47 PM
I know what depo is and I don't believe she took that stuff and got pregnant. I think she lied to him.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

I am devasted!!! My girlfriend had an abortion we decided on and broke up with me!! Posted: 2/4/2006 2:07:29 PM
Sorry, don't believe she got pregnant on depo. I don't see how fully grown women can live on that stuff, much less an egg. Anyway, I may be looking too far into this, but you seem preocupied with the fact that you bought her dinner. I'm seeing a lot of that attitude on these forums. Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I almost always buy the dinner. Could there be underlying issues here? You don't want to spend money to feed her or a baby. Would you EVER want to provide for her? Maybe she had to ask herself these questions. '

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

When you connect with someone online..... Posted: 1/30/2006 6:01:06 PM
Nice input from everyone. That's deffinately the way I approach this stuff and it works for me.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

How long do you wait for a date before you split? Posted: 1/29/2006 6:36:45 AM
Of course, I'll also send her flowers appologizing for the stress that was caused by her having to blow me off.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 123 (view)

u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 1/29/2006 6:25:18 AM
You are absolutely right Kymber. There is another thread going on here in the forums about how to approach women in bars. Trust me on this, if your wingman is actually a wingwoman, you don't have to worry about how to approach them. Especially if your buddy is attractive.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

Would you settle for someone okay? Posted: 1/28/2006 5:47:55 PM
Absolutely there Tea

sloopjah

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Msg: 27 (view)

How do you get a womens attention on these stupid things Posted: 1/28/2006 4:31:39 PM
"The women are smarter" Us guys are really just stumbling through waiting for some woman to tell us how to act so you have to forgive the things we put on our profile.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Would you settle for someone okay? Posted: 1/28/2006 4:09:16 PM
If there are things you don't like about the person when it's new. You will hate those things when it isn't new.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

How do you get a womens attention on these stupid things Posted: 1/28/2006 4:06:30 PM
What if you don't like to wear suits but can still dance like a banana better than anyone alive?

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

How long do you wait for a date before you split? Posted: 1/28/2006 3:57:35 PM
I would wait until the restaurant closes down and then come back the following day at the same time, just in case she got the day wrong. If she doesn't show up then? Well by god, she's only got 2 more strikes left and then she'll have to ask ME out the next time.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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why do guys have to make the introduction? Posted: 1/28/2006 9:34:48 AM
I don't lose interest so quickly, even if she does call me a boy

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Talking to your exes... Posted: 1/28/2006 8:36:07 AM
I still think that, and we all make mistakes, having a crappy breakup starts with dating the wrong person.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

How do you get a womens attention on these stupid things Posted: 1/28/2006 8:33:02 AM
There really IS intelligent life on this planet.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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why do guys have to make the introduction? Posted: 1/28/2006 8:24:36 AM
There is a forum here for rating profiles. You really should check it out, man. Negativity, for one thing, will keep them from introducing themselves to you. Not bashing you, just trying to help

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

can someone tell me whats wrong with this women Posted: 1/28/2006 7:58:12 AM
right on, cher!

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

can someone tell me whats wrong with this women Posted: 1/27/2006 9:47:28 PM
Sounds like you need to be more careful about who you let into your life. There are plenty of crazies out there who are physically attractive.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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why do guys have to make the introduction? Posted: 1/27/2006 9:34:51 PM
We do the chasing, women do the choosing. Just the way it is.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Talking to your exes... Posted: 1/27/2006 9:32:57 PM
I'm friends, at the very least from a distance, with everyone I've ever loved. Maybe that's wierd, I don't know. I feel that if a person was worthy enough to be the biggest part of my life for a time, then they are certainly a friend. However, I may have just been lucky enough to have had relationships that, even during the breakups, things were handled with respect.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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learning to play guitar Posted: 1/27/2006 6:51:40 AM
On that B chord. I've only been playing for 5 yrs so I'm still very new to this instrument but I've found this worked and still does work for me. As part of your warmup everyday, strum every chord you know, followed by the B chord. Some of the combinations will sound horrible together but the point here is muscle memory. Eg. ABEBCBDBAmB..Etc. In no time, you will have that chord down. Further, I do that still with any new chord or one that isn't quite as clean as I want. When I discovered bar chords(B was my first), I used the same method. Anyway, I'm not a pro but I hope this helps you out.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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I could never understand people who commit suicide over heartbreak..........until now. Posted: 1/26/2006 3:40:00 PM
You are in a very bad place right now and you know it. Get around your friends. Make yourself. Don't sit there alone

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 110 (view)

Why is a decent girlfriend so hard to find? Posted: 1/26/2006 2:22:31 PM
Don't forget, most of us are on here in the first place because we are single at the moment. It should be hard to find the right one.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 108 (view)

Why is a decent girlfriend so hard to find? Posted: 1/26/2006 2:03:57 PM
I was planning on sailing south in the fall. Being on POF is starting to make me wander if I need to be planning a trip North instead. It seems about 90 percent of the women on here are from Canada

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Am I getting this right. Posted: 1/26/2006 12:55:31 PM
Thanks Star. I see what you mean. As far as he friend thing goes. I'm on here for a relationship, but to me, you can't look past friendship until you know if there will be a physical connection. That's what I meant to get across anyway. Thanks for the input there sistah

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Am I getting this right. Posted: 1/26/2006 12:08:50 PM
Just thought I'd use this forum thread since it's available.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Am I getting this right. Posted: 1/26/2006 11:40:39 AM
I know you should be honest here. Am I being too honest?

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 108 (view)

u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 1/26/2006 11:19:19 AM
There are women in my life that I've just known as friends for so long that to look at them any other way would be like hitting on my sister. However, early on, one of them was a f*** buddy, kind of. We were dating and when that was over, didn't want the buddy part to end. Still great friends and wouldn't think of sleeping with her.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

Anyone Else Posted: 1/26/2006 10:55:16 AM
Why not call ex bf for ride. He IS a drug addict and she had a bag of coke.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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When you connect with someone online..... Posted: 1/26/2006 8:09:51 AM
I've had Libra's in my life as long as I remember. Can't tell you it just did. Plus I might have been flirting a bit

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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When you connect with someone online..... Posted: 1/25/2006 8:34:13 PM
spoken like a true Libra

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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When you connect with someone online..... Posted: 1/25/2006 8:05:58 PM
I agree with that

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Ex girlfriend wrote to me. Posted: 1/25/2006 7:31:31 PM
We are broken up, I have a girlfriend, and don't like coffee anymore.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

A V--E-E-E-R-R-R-Y INTERESTING PROPOSITION. Posted: 1/25/2006 3:08:26 PM
awww shucks!!! I thought I had fallen into a great idea

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

A V--E-E-E-R-R-R-Y INTERESTING PROPOSITION. Posted: 1/25/2006 3:05:22 PM
I wonder what would happen If my white a$$ went someplace predominatly black and started asking the same question? Ever had a white man? What, are you a racist?

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Ex girlfriend wrote to me. Posted: 1/25/2006 2:33:59 PM
If you are sending email back and forth, then she still thinks of you as a friend. What's a cup of coffee gonna hurt?

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Previously married woman meets never married man.....can it work? Posted: 1/25/2006 2:25:16 PM
I'm single, never married, have no children...I hope. Just kidding. Anyway, Where you have been involved in a day to day relationship for the past 18 years, he probably hasn't. A lot of what you are talking about comes with time in the relationship. He's also been dating for a long time, I'm assuming he's around the same age, and has put up walls and bounderies over time that you wouldn't know about because you haven't been out there in the dating world. Know what I mean? On the other hand, he could just be a very private person by nature and that could possibly never change. If that's the case then you will have to decide if you can live with that. Ironically, I had this same conversation with a very good female friend last night who is dating another male friend of mine.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Do you ever feel like just starting over Posted: 1/25/2006 11:09:55 AM
right on there wingsandheart

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Do you ever feel like just starting over Posted: 1/25/2006 11:05:27 AM
I've found that distance works well when getting over something that hurts. Just as long as it's not a move in a direction that's self-destructive.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

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Do you ever feel like just starting over Posted: 1/25/2006 10:06:42 AM
That's where I live, so I can say Marilyized has it right

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

is she cheating on me Posted: 1/25/2006 8:43:40 AM
Your story sounds just like something that a friend of mine went through. After trying to get the truth from her and failing several times and in several different ways, he hired a detective. Even if there is a possibility that you could work things out, it can't happen without her admiting it. You can't talk about the reasons it happened without her fessing up. So, anyway, my buddy was right. The pictures the detective gave him helped in more ways than one. He really didn't want to believe what all the signs had been telling him. He got a lawyer, had all the ammunition he needed, left her, and started the legal process with a full deck. Oh, one thing. Once you are given the facts and you know for sure, you can't sleep with her anymore. Legally, that's consenting to her being with other men. She will try and keep you that way if she relies on you financially. Even if she doesn't want to keep you, her lawyer will let her know how to negate what the detective gives you. Keep that in mind when she finally confesses and wan't to make love to you. Keep your emotions in check.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

Approaching women in bars Posted: 1/25/2006 7:46:30 AM
Great post Real. Enjoyed

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

Did I offend him to the point of no return?? Posted: 1/24/2006 9:24:53 PM
I don't think you owed him the appology, in fact vice versa. Most of the IM's that I know of are password protected. If I see a friend on one of them then I assume that's who I'm talking to. I would never walk away from my computer and leave that on around anyone I didn't trust completely. He let other people into your personal business. Think about the archives. You can look up old conversations. You were in a relationship with this guy so your personal business is all over that thing. Phone numbers, addresses, etc. That's just stupid, irresponsible, and inconsiderate, whether the person was a co-worker or his new girlfriend. They shouldn't have had access to you.

sloopjah

Joined: 1/21/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Where to meet women? Posted: 1/23/2006 8:35:26 PM
I do hope you WERE joking there Crystalise, but just in case, NEVER try and talk to a woman when she's buying shoes!!!!

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