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thesumofallparts

Joined: 4/5/2009

Msg: 13 (view)

Opening Car Doors for Dates Posted: 11/24/2009 9:19:51 AM
I use a key and unlock her door first, and keep mine locked. I then walk around the back of the car and see if she leans over and unlocks mine. If she does, that's good as it means she both accepts a gentlemen's gesture and she's not selfish. If she doesn't, I just have to think she's self centered. Not a deal breaker, but I pay attention to those things. And ladies, this is a short "game" that I think is worth playing...

thesumofallparts

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Is there hope for Susie Homemaker?? Posted: 11/24/2009 7:23:27 AM
Okay clarifying.... Taking care of the guy.... cooking and cleaning... I know ladies sounds sexist.... but eh.... going to church... goal orientated... shows affections by these things.... bringing the guy lunch.... or dinner at work. Fine, but if it means having no savings as a result, I'm out. Susie home maker is fine and is good for children. But in this day and age, it's very difficult to get by with only one income. The couple has to ask themselves if they want to sacrifice the necessary luxuries to pull it off. Either way, once the kids start school and are gone most of the day, a part time job should be taken up at the very least. It gives her/him (yes, Johnny home maker is more and more prevelant these days) something to do; a "life" outside the home and kids. I don't look for aspiring suzy home makers at this point. I'd rather find an independent woman to date and if things got serious in the future we could discuss it. I can't stand prerequisites and premonitions at the dating stage. If I read on someone's profile that they want to get married and have kids someday, I'd never message them. That stuff should be talked about in person, not displayed on a web page. Just have fun with someone, save the serious stuff for when it actaully gets serious...

thesumofallparts

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Why does he say best date ever then not call? Posted: 11/23/2009 6:53:56 PM
It's a cop out for saying "I'm not interested." Don't take it personally, though, if I was a few years older, I'd be chasing you like the road runner! Just don't drop anvils on my head, ok?

thesumofallparts

Joined: 4/5/2009

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appropriate gifts Posted: 11/23/2009 6:51:11 PM
If I was with a woman for two years and was spewing daily ILY, I would get her something I put consideralble thought and resources into. That means, I would think about it a lot, and spend a lot. Then, she'd dump me. It's happened before... haha

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Canceled our first date.. Posted: 11/20/2009 11:33:09 AM
Personally, this is exactly why I will not do long, drawn out email & phone "relationships". IMO, it wastes waaay too much time and really give you little actual insight into exactly who/what you're dealing with. The only way to find that out is to meet face to face. So true. I've even had to blow off good prospects because they want to email back and forth forever. One even told me she would rather "get to know me" through email before we meet. That's just not possible. A person has all the time they want to formulate responses, there are no facial expressions to read, it's just effing stupid! Phones are a step up, but a baby step, if that. Face to face is the only way... Wouldnt insisting on a date look needy? By the way Im a tragic overthinker No, this website is used to set up dates. Go ahead and insist. And, most if not all women are tragic over thinkers. Just do yourself a favor, and insist on a date. If he continues to be wishy washy, ignore him but don't delete his number so you know not to answer when he calls. He'll call after his other prospect fizzles out.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Reasons for not chatting with someone anymore Posted: 11/20/2009 8:42:45 AM
Funny. 1. I don't talk about sex or mention it, I've never met her and don't even know if I want to have sex with her. 2. I state when I'm free after a few nice responses from her, and ask if she's free and wants to meet in person. 3. I ask plenty of questions, and volunteer plenty of information. 4. Not everyone finds me funny, but I try. And I still get cut off after a week or two. The real world is where it's at, this site is for forums only.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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If it goes well why do I never get a second date? Posted: 11/19/2009 1:59:32 PM
Finally, keep in mind there are also a lot of other factors at work. The girl is probably seeing 2 or 3 guys a week, so she has options. Even if she likes you (and even kisses you), it may well be that her "ideal" date came through, which means she leaves you behind. I'll add that if you think of it like a race (don't do that, just for the purposes of this discussion...), you could win and she still might choose the cute guy that came in fourth. Bottom line with online dating (if you're a guy, even a "good" guy) is, it's like door to door sales. You have to knock on 100 doors to get one answer. Then out of 10 who answer, only 1 or less will actually give you the time of day. And one in ten of those who give you the time of day will even agree to a date. And then about 1 in 10 of those will turn into something resembling a relationship, then 1 in 10 of those... you get the idea. All a guy can do is keep trying, and all a woman can do is be very picky. My personal belief is that women should be even more picky with online dating, since they control all the action. Then better connections will be made, and girls will stop complaining about the "losers" they meet and sometimes start relationships with dating online.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Missing the Point? Posted: 11/19/2009 8:07:36 AM
OK, is it me or is he just not picking up the clues? I dont' think that I should have to have his****in my hand or some orifice to get his attention. You know what really grinds my gears? That we're supposed to be "cool with it" when you ladies won't let sex happen because "you don't feel like it" or whatever the fvcking excuse is. Then, when we don't want to do it, you get all pissy and dramatic and think we're not attracted to you anymore or we don't love you or want you... what a bunch of bullshit! Sometimes, we don't feel like doing all the work while you lay there and (hopefully) enjoy yourself. What you describe above is blatantly obvious and if they guy really isn't getting the hint (he is, he's just not in the mood), he's a moron. But why don't you try talking about it a little. Discuss when you feel like sex, and when he does, and reach a comprimise. Yes, women like it "spontaneous" and all that jazz... but if you're unhappy, try talking. What a concept! Not trying to be harsh, but posts like this light a fire under my a$$. All the times I was turned away by significant others, and them getting pissed when I turn them away, just pisses me off.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Is looks that important to woman, or am i imagining things. Posted: 11/18/2009 12:30:34 PM
C'mon dude, looks count. When people say they don't it's usually because they're insecure with their own looks. Your story above does not surprise me in the least, my friend. Yes, guys probably care more, but a woman will go and hang out with a guy that is not right for her, or is a total yutz, because he's pretty, and/or good in the sack.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Suggestions on how to make a girl I'm seeing who's sick feel better Posted: 11/18/2009 11:01:22 AM
Nothing better than going to her place to rub her feet and make her tea and cuddle with her, obviously not trying to get laid... then get as sick as she was and then get dumped by her a week later! Yeah, a little jaded, sorry... It's too early in the relationship to anything more than has been discussed above. If you don't know where she lives yet, there's not much you can do...

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Relocation???? Posted: 11/18/2009 10:57:42 AM
I learned the hard way that LDRs are no good. The distance is frustrating, and it's too easy to develop distrust with the other person. I'm sure that's been covered in this thread but it's worth rehashing, in my opinion.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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help me Posted: 11/18/2009 7:47:10 AM
It has nothing to do with your profile, you're going to get messages like that no matter what you do. My suggestion is read/delete and move forward, don't think about it anymore. Sooner or later a good guy will message you, or you could hide your profile, search through guys and send messages to those who pique your interest. Good luck.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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What do you think of my profile? Posted: 11/16/2009 7:50:35 AM
First, your headline is too cliché, come up with something a little more catchy or original if you can. Your pictures are great, no need to change or improve those. Please, don't talk about how you love to laugh. Everyone loves laughing. I don't know, maybe it's a little pet peeve of mine when people say they love laughing so take that advice with a grain of salt. Your profile reads pretty well, a few minor grammatical/spelling errors but nothing major, and you're very clear about what you like doing for fun and where you're going with your professional life. Overall, pretty darn good!

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Chinese girl... Posted: 11/13/2009 1:21:48 PM
I have a little experience with a Chinese girl (we parted ways due to the obvious, 10,000 miles between us, but we're still in touch as friends) that maybe will help you if you find yourself liking another one (I don't have a type or race I prefer, I just happened to cross paths with her...)... First and foremost, she's a woman, she's from Venus, and not any different than any other woman you meet. So the advice you're getting here mostly applies, whether the poster is Asian or not. Second, she may not place tons of value on traditional Chinese culture. She may view herself as a "world citizen" rather than traditional Chinese (but be careful, some Chinese women proudly proclaim that they're traditional and they mean it). So, respect what ever view she has, and if she's traditional and you don't like that sort of thing, show respect and steer clear. Do yourself a favor, and study a bit about China and it's culture. It may help you understand if she does things that westerners think are silly (whether she's traditional or not) like saving face and other outward appearence related things (in China, you'll dirt poor people dress well and not act poor in the least if they can help it). You don't need to be an expert, as chances are she is ready to accept a "silly" western lifestyle while she's here. Basically though, just treat her as you would any woman. She may think you're being "extra nice" to her even though you think you're not. That's okay! I think you'll find that eastern women and people in general have many appealing cultural traits. Traditional Chinese massage alone is practically worth the ticket (no, not the "dirty" massage, if you know what I mean, although that's available almost as easily as the straight laced places).

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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why does he call 10 times a day Posted: 11/12/2009 11:43:58 AM
No one here is him (although, he'll probably write you 10 emails a day if he knew you were on here), but it's pretty easy to see that he's insecure. If it keeps up, do yourself and those kids of yours a favor and get a restraining order. I wouldn't want to mix it up with your son, and neither does this loser, but get the law involved to cover your bases.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Can you go from good time girl to long time girl? Posted: 11/12/2009 11:21:28 AM
I've never done that with a woman so I don't know for sure, but if the sex was really good, the morning wasn't awkward and we had some decent conversation over some coffee/breakfast, I'd call her to hang out sober sometime and see if things work, if we're compatible clothed. What I described above is probably an ideal situation though, so I'll just stay away from that behavior to begin with.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Are the forums the point of no return for all eternity? Posted: 11/12/2009 11:17:01 AM
Based on the negativity of your profile, I wouldn't even look once at your forum history. I would have been driven away by the negativity. If I did though and saw the question about saying "sweet dreams" I would stop right there, too. Lighten up. Edit: Edit: nothing negative about my profile just speaking the truth I found people only looked at my pictures never read all the babbling i had about the artistic stuff i did. they never mentioned it never talked about my hobbies or what i liked just about exchanging emails and how cute i was or they ask me to have sex with them up front out of nowhere or talk about themselves, so to me it seemed it was all about the pictures.. so i give them what they want...the pictures to run off off and offer to be their girlfriend happens or at least i wished to be their girlfriend hahah ; ) Some guys will read your profile, but you must remember two things: 1. This is a dating site, so you're outnumbered by men in a big way. This means you will hear from all types of them, mostly sick a$$es with an attitude problem who can/will write whatever they want, because they can hide behind a computer screen. 2. Men are visual and I would bet money that some of them just scroll through profiles and copy/paste "hey baby, wanna fvck?" and "hi, how r u?" nonsense to 50 women a day, hoping for a couple hits. Trust me, you aren't the only one... The moral is, don't take that stuff personally. You could be driving away normal good men with the percieved negativity in your profile. Good luck!

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Do you recontact after a period of time during which there's no contact? Posted: 11/12/2009 7:02:52 AM
I don't contact exes because I believe that contact was lost for a reason and that it's best to just stay away. If an ex contacts me I'll be nice and talk for a few minutes, but that's it. I don't hate any of my exes and would never say anything bad about them (because it reflects poorly on me if I do) but I don't want to be friends with them, either.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Is being upfront about what I want wrong? Posted: 11/11/2009 10:54:11 AM
I hate dating. And I hate wasting time. Especially my time. I tend to lay all my cards on the table and let the chips fall. For sure! I don't always lay down all the "dirt" right away, but I get the truth out so as not to waste time. I won't lie just to get some panties around some ankles. Young people like myself often spend months, even years, in relationships that aren't working because they're afraid of being single and "can't handle the truth" that they aren't compatible. They could have saved the last few years by just being up front to begin with.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Do i move on and settle for 2nd best? Posted: 11/11/2009 7:03:36 AM
do i settle for 2nd best? Good you asked that question. The answer is NOOOOO!!!!! Never settle for 2nd best, it will be a huge mistake. Starting over/being alone for awhile is way better than settling on someone.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Canadians: Would you move to America for the right person? Posted: 11/10/2009 12:54:32 PM
I would move to Canada for a woman, or for a job... Why not live in a place that benefits so much by having a neighbor like the USA. You get a trade partner, military protection, and isolation from anything "bad" like wars, terrorism, and illegal immigrants. All the frills, none of the fuss! Why not!

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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How to ask the right questions.... What do i do now? Posted: 11/10/2009 10:41:16 AM
Is it worth me sticking around? I feel so awkward now, and I never know what to talk about. I really like him, but havent found the right words to talk about what needs to be talked about. 50% of me wants to dump him, and 50% of me feels like i have no right to be upset as we didnt discuss the status of our relationship. You know, people call me "old school" a lot for some reason... One of those reasons is because I can't believe how some people can have sexual relationships and not be able to discuss the simplest things, like relationship status. It's not too late, and if you're looking for answers, I have two for you. Talk about the status of the relationship now. Bring it up at a good time (aka, NOT after sex) and have an open and frank discussion on where you stand with him, where he stands with you... It needs to be done and if he won't man up and do it himself, it's up to you. Another answer, based purely on what you wrote here, is that it's not going to work out. He's distancing himself and you have no idea why. Time to find out, and possibly save/continue this relationship. But it sounds like it was based mostly on sex so you're prospects aren't too good... Sorry for that, and good luck!

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Do guys really want woment to contact them on this site? Posted: 11/10/2009 7:39:20 AM
Then again, it seems most people are not. Never mind. That's what I thought, but maybe I'm delusional and they don't want to meet "me." Anyway, OP, it's great when I get a message from a woman. More often than not, I respond and we go from there.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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What Makes You Want More Than Sex From A Woman -? Posted: 11/9/2009 9:09:47 AM
I know if I'm attracted to someone 10 minutes after meeting them. There have been exeptions, but for the most part, this holds true. If there is attraction and I like the person (easy to talk to, etc.), then I'm not going for sex right away. I would rather find ways to bond a little before bumping uglies. I've found that it's always better for both parties to feel a real connection before making the final physical one. It's possible, especially for younger people (teens, maybe until mid-30's???) to get attached to someone they don't really like or have a real connection with, simply because they had sex before finding out. Then, let the drama begin...

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Trip with Ex - yay or nay? Posted: 11/9/2009 9:03:20 AM
Traveling has a romantic vibe, and he knows this (I suspect you do, too) and that if you travel, you're likely to down some wine over a great meal (better wine and food than you get in Mad-town, haha) and end up rolling in the sack later... Seems to have "matured" since before? Well he cheated on you once, he will again, as cheating men never stop... If you want to go, make it clear what your intentions are, and then ask him if he still wants you to come. When you're there, stick by what you said!

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Would like to know.....?? Posted: 11/6/2009 8:56:18 AM
Ugh, where is "1KindMan4U" when we need him? He would simply state that you're toying with a "boy" and that's "what boys do." Any questions?

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Should I just wait and see what happens? Posted: 11/5/2009 9:19:47 AM
yes we are friends with benefits. This is the problem with FWB arrangements. Someone always falls for the other. He's not going to come around, the financially stable thing is a ploy so he can keep banging you and not have to play the role of "boyfriend."

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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A Question of Jealousy - Posted: 11/4/2009 9:13:03 AM
Interesting topic. David puts it the right way... jealousy is fear-based. we all have our fears, but i don't want a partner who manifests them that way. people like that are reassurance vampires, and dealing with their insecurities gets exhausting. I, for one, don't mind and even like when my date or girlfriend gets hit on, in front of me or otherwise. This grows her confidence, stokes her ego, and that means more fun for me later! I wouldn't be found with someone like that in public or private more than once. I don't have time to re-assure someone constantly that I'm "with" them and don't have the desire for funny business with someone else. If I did, we wouldn't be together.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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why is it so hard to meet a nice man? Posted: 11/3/2009 7:45:29 AM
Anyhow, oftentimes I hear this broad generalization that "Asian girls are materialistic and are only concerned with looks and money". From what I've seen from working a bit in Asia, but also with Asian colleagues, this is mostly not true. Certainly, "they" are no more concerned with stuff like that than any other women. It's programmed into a woman to seek out a man with something to offer. Of course, this may change, as some day she wants a man who can provide security (money) or who is well built and "runs marathons" if you know what I mean. And of course men are just horn dogs and you all know what we're looking for and what we're willing to do to get it... What I'm saying, OP, is that it's completely okay for you to want to find a good looking guy who makes good money. But, don't be so out front with that. It will scare off men who might otherwise like you for your personality or whatever. Remember, good looking guys with good jobs are going to be gaurded because they might suspect women are out to get them. Be more subtle with what you're looking for and see if your prospects improve.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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What is it about men? Posted: 10/31/2009 5:27:28 AM
Why does it seem all men have a thing about motorcycles and long hair? Another preposterous, general statement. But when it comes to a women, they have the nerve to judge her based on her looks. Not every guy has to like every woman, another foolish sentiment.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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what Do I do about this??? daft question.. Posted: 10/30/2009 2:15:14 PM
If they have restraining orders in the UK/Northern Ireland, get one, and get one right away. Like the others, I have to agree. Love yourself first, others next. Good luck to you!

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Why do you want to know about old boyfriends? Posted: 10/30/2009 2:11:21 PM
I never ask questions like that, because I don't give a rip. If I find out she's still with someone (it's happened) or not over the ex (that's happened, too), then I get the hell out of there. If they are asking, ask them why (assuming you're interested in them after getting questions like that) they care about your past so soon before they've even met you face to face.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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What is he thinking? Posted: 10/30/2009 2:08:28 PM
Don't bother with this jerk off. He cheats, and fools around and makes illegitimate children. Say all you want about birth control, men can take matters in to their own hands, as well (they're called "condoms"). You're 20 years old. Move on. Friends? Fine. Don't fvck this guy, you'll regret it!

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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HELP Posted: 10/30/2009 11:05:02 AM
Find a guy who doesn't like booze as much as he does. The classic advice is, raise your standards and you won't deal with annoying drunken frat boys. Your "future" with him will see an increase in his alcohol consumption, which will case beer gut, strawberry nose, depression, trouble holding jobs, and worst of all, the possibility of you enduring abuse. Not all young guys drink and party all the time. Find one of them.

lifewithoutboundaries

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His friend's jealous Posted: 10/30/2009 11:00:50 AM
He CHOSE the drink NOT YOU Totally, no one get's booze forced down their throats.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Is it okay to ignore an email from no photo? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:54:18 AM
It's short sighted because they might be just right for you and even look good, too. Are you here to find someone, or are you here to be persnickety and crabby about every possible little thing? You can do what you want, of course, but if you're serious about finding someone you would be looking for how things could work out instead of looking for any excuse to ignore someone. Obviously, a person who gets little/no play on here. A photo is mandatory, but doesn't have to display on your profile. Where "private images" pop up, it should say "yes" at the very least, otherwise you're wasting your time.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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what do women REALLY want? Posted: 10/22/2009 1:41:28 PM
Why don't you act like a man and cut to the chase. What your asking is, "why don't women want ME?"

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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im in love with a guy should i tell him Posted: 10/22/2009 9:13:40 AM
I can see why you like/love him so much. He won't give in to you and accept this, he just decided to end it.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Staying over Posted: 10/21/2009 5:43:34 PM
I really do not feel I am ready for the relationship to be a sexual one at the moment What if you are ready at some moment during the evening? If you're sure you don't want sex, please don't let the guy round third base (means, VERY close to vaginal intercourse) before you put up a stop sign.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Im depressed and I dont know why before meeting a girl Posted: 10/21/2009 2:54:40 PM
OP- This is why I don't think its a good idea to talk on phone/online chat/email for "20 hours in the last five days" or anything even remotely approaching that! You've built up this image, or persona of her, and you haven't even met. You're worried about if she compliments you enough (you're supposed to compliment her more than she compliments you, anyway), if you'll like her, if she'll like you... Just meet up with her, and next time, if this one doesn't work out, meet sooner face to face so you don't build this up in your head. Find an assertive girl, you're more the "girl" in your relationships, based on what I read in your first post.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Why all or nothing Posted: 10/21/2009 2:45:55 PM
Friends don't fvck, and people don't want to be "just friends" with someone they want to fvck. Pretty simple, if you ask me.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Who knows! Posted: 10/21/2009 2:34:47 PM
I dunno, maybe it's because I'm an "online dating veteran" that I don't get nervous with people online. When I'm in a situation like yours, OP, I simply ask if they're interested in meeting at some point, preferably soon. While some people prefer to "get to know" someone using emails/texts/phone calls/IM chats, I prefer to meet in person once I know she's not a total whack job. You just can't get to know someone unless you're interacting face to face, where there is no time to contemplate answers or hide facial expressions.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Can friendship evolve into something greater for real? Posted: 10/21/2009 11:51:17 AM
You really care about her and you tell her that maybe one day you could be more than just friends. I would NEVER say "maybe" in this situation. Either chemistry for a romantic relationship is there or it isn't, I don't believe that it develops over time. Do you really think some day your feelings could somehow change to something more serious? Probably not, and I wouldn't lead her to believe that, either.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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trying to role-play safe sex in advance Posted: 10/21/2009 11:48:46 AM
Wow just wow. I'm sitting here gobsmacked and ALMOST speechless. You and your fvck partners are statistics just waiting to happen. Don't be surprised you get the gift that keeps on giving. Come on...you can't be THAT stupid, can you? NO! I refused every time I was asked to "pull that thing off." It amazes me, especially when a woman says that. Women are way more likely to contract something, just because of the natural "give and take" of human (mammalian) sex. It's not easy to say "no," but as you put it, the gift that keeps on giving is NOT worth a roll in the hay, romp in the sheets, etc. I have plenty of Jimmy Hats, and any partner I have who also has them gets tons of bonus points from me.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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trying to role-play safe sex in advance Posted: 10/21/2009 10:27:56 AM
i can never believe how many men are willing to have unprotected sex. It also amazes me that a partner or two in my past has asked me not to wear a condom (early in the relationship). I refused, of course, because I always come prepared. Good sex ain't worth dying young or ending up sterile.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Oldschool or outdated? Posted: 10/21/2009 7:57:32 AM
I have a high sex drive and I'm really picky about who knows about it. But I tend to want control in the bedroom and get really cranky when I don't get laid when I want to...so it's always something. That sounds "guy-ish," kinda... No, what it really is, is HUMAN! We're all the same that way. We want control in bed, and get upset when we don't get laid (or, at least when our partners turn us down for sex). But don't complain, what you describe happens to guys all the time, and if we get cranky, we're considered a$$holes by our partners for not respecting their wishes. I was in a relationship (that ended, thank god) where I assumed I wasn't getting laid most of the time. Then, occasionally, she'd get pissed at me because I wasn't initiating sex enough... Very confusing, not very satisfying to be in a relationship like that. Yes, it is always something

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

Msg: 3231 (view)

GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 10/21/2009 7:16:40 AM
Sure, I'd love to be there on my wedding night, finally going to have sex with her... The sex is lousy. It will take lots of open communication and understanding to make it work, if it works at all. Sexual chemistry is important, and I wouldn't even think about marrying someone if the sexual chemistry wasn't mind blowing.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

Msg: 5 (view)

Is previous infidelity a sign to run from a man? Posted: 10/21/2009 7:07:57 AM
Wow, I'm half your age, and even I know that "once a cheater, always a cheater." I mean, maybe if he cheated on a wife in a crumbling marriage and was with the object of infidelity until she tragically died and widowed him, he could be okay. But with two wives, on the internet, and you're asking if you should run or hang around? Well, hang around if you don't mind getting cheated on. Make sure he wears condoms, too.

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

Msg: 11 (view)

Just Wodering Posted: 10/20/2009 5:39:05 PM
So the bottom line is, that giving advice on how "men" think, or how "woman think is really a wuite rediculous idea. Yup, I get female advice from other females, and I still suck at dealing with them .

lifewithoutboundaries

Joined: 4/5/2009

Msg: 14 (view)

Crush/Best Friend/ Lover? Posted: 10/20/2009 1:52:06 PM
Should I engage in a long distance relationship with him or maintain the friendship as is? or ? I have to go with here. I met a wonderful woman on a business trip overseas. She was warm, kind, attractive, funny, and didn't expect anything from me. We quickly fell for each other. She couldn't/wouldn't come back with me, and I wasn't about to stay. We made a plan to eventually be together, but it all fell apart. She called/texted me constantly, it was getting annoying. If I didn't respond or pick up the phone, she would get upset. If I didn't come online to chat every night, she got upset. She told me she went out on a date with someone. What the hell's the point? I broke it off, and she's still upset, but there you have it! The distance is frustrating, and you may miss out on someone who is equally wonderful and close by. LDRs almost never work, so why chance it? Keep in touch as friends, but if you really want a healthy relationship with this man, make it so you live close together. Also, good luck, as this is a tough decision to make.

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