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calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Firgiving a cheating spouse? Posted: 10/11/2009 3:47:54 PM
why have you been on this site...as this other person says you were on the site ...was that before your wife cheated on you or after...if you were on the site after she cheated on you...then i will say leave her...take care of your child...she is playing games...if you were on this site before this fiasco...do you blame her? i find on her part there is no responsbity...and it is like she can not be on her own...you need to make the decision...leave her

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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How do men suddenly withdraw emotionally? Posted: 10/9/2009 5:35:01 PM
get out of this relationship and meet a real man

calientecutie

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What to do when you meet an amazing man that is commitment phobic! Posted: 10/9/2009 5:34:13 PM
leave him...i am saying that...becuase i have to do that too...he is playing games...you are just the acting quaterback...or is he not a real man...he will not end this relationship...he has everything...take it from me...you will find somebody else

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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For our Northern friends Posted: 10/9/2009 5:32:20 PM
why would we want to move to your country? we were listed as the fourth best country to live...and your soldiers are killing innocent people...you had a devil for a president...i blame you people...no brains...thanks for the wishes...believe me i would not want to be na american

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Single... does it equal weird? Posted: 10/9/2009 5:02:48 PM
we have statndards ...and find myself more picky...if i wanted a man here...i could but i need to be with somebody who makes me feel good...hopefully i will find mr. almost perfect....any volunteers?

calientecutie

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Driving me nuts! Posted: 10/9/2009 5:01:12 PM
take the easy way out...you coward...how would you feel if somebody did it to you...you can not love her that much...if you are going to cheat...counselling...find out the problem...and then if all fails...stop using her and move on...you are not beinfg fair to her or you...remember you will pay the consequences...

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Would you date a cheater Posted: 10/9/2009 4:58:57 PM
it is a stupid question...simply because people do change...if a man cheated when he was in his twentys...and he is 42 years old and he has been able to have good relationships...of course i would date him...question to you? would you date a woman who has cheated? and also would you date someone who has has problems with substance abuse...i am curious to know the answers

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Who Does All The Work In Bed? Posted: 10/8/2009 7:36:09 PM
are there two individuals in the bed? then there should be two individuals having sex...have the person teach you...study videos and books...do not worry you will learn.

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Do i stick with it for the kids Posted: 10/8/2009 7:33:42 PM
you need to date...like i need a third breast...you need counselling...if the worst situation...i would say...have him live with you...but not same room...and maybe date him...get counselling...or if you do not want him...have him live with you...maybe a house two floors...and he can help you with the daycare...but looking for men...you gotta be kidding...your track record is not good...what kind of example are you for your daughters? not a good one...smarten up and get your priorities right

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Sex with ex who has a boyfriend Posted: 10/8/2009 7:29:28 PM
did you ex and your best friend betrayed you? if they did not ...why are you feeling bad? if she is stupid enough to give it to you...it is her choice...and yes you do not want to be like them...but for men sex is only sex...while women it means something else...go and find something better...it is your ex that should feel bad...she is playing you and her boyfriend...but what is good for the goose is good for the gander...take care.

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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How many is too many? Posted: 10/8/2009 6:46:00 PM
how many partenrs at one time? or in your own whole life? in one week? it depends on the person...i feel that sex is taken too lighty...sex is not a sports...unfortunately...people sees it as...take care

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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WHY R OLDER GUYS SO SEXY???????? Posted: 10/8/2009 6:44:28 PM
how old are you? in your twenty's...i find younger men to be sexier...older men are too narrow minded and set in their ways...of course if they have money we can talk...everybody has their choices and taste

calientecutie

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I am not sexually attracted to my own ethnicity Posted: 10/8/2009 3:41:02 PM
i will not judge...i am not attracted to my own race...unless you look like the big celebrities in south america...so i do understand...but the older i have become i have become more open minded...hope you find these...take care

calientecutie

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What Is She Trying To Suggest - Pursued By Other Men Posted: 10/8/2009 10:07:02 AM
simple she is telling you she does not want to be played but she is also insecure...do you like her? if i was you...i would have said ...if this is the case...go after other people and leave...she did not have to telll you this...i do not put all my eggs in one basket...but i do not need to tell anybody what is going on...if i have 10 men or 50 men...drama

calientecutie

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Misrepresenting Posted: 10/8/2009 10:01:37 AM
dear...you need to be more cautious...do not put all your eggs in one basket...look around...you are gorgeous lady...my rule...we talk on this site...if i like you ...we can on yahoo mail...then we phone...then we meet for coffee...unfortunately 80% of the people are idiots...it is sad...they have not grown up...take care

calientecutie

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do you want more kids or are you done Posted: 10/7/2009 1:49:08 PM
i have raised my son...he is nineteen...but i am interested in meeting men...and if the case of being with someone younger...and to have another child...sure...i will probably be a mother of children-fostering...thanks

calientecutie

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Personality matters - only if they're hot? Posted: 10/5/2009 4:03:10 AM
sex is important...but if you give it...do men stay? why would you want to be with somebody who wants looks...personality is important...yes looks are too...but if you have looks and no personality...show them to the door...set boundaries and have respect for yourself...do not act desperate

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Why some women don't like receiving oral Posted: 10/5/2009 4:00:36 AM
every one is different...ask why they do not like it? it is their choice...and then my question do they like giving oral? anyways it is your choice...sex is important...and i believe two individuals need to work on that...men tend to be selfish...so i find it interesting your comment.

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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When do you broach the topic? Posted: 10/5/2009 3:59:00 AM
listen to people...it is not the price of coffee..it is the time...it is not fair...treat them how you want to be treated...good luck!

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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When do you broach the topic? Posted: 10/5/2009 3:57:55 AM
personally i would tell the person at the beginning...honesty is important...want somebody who is on the same page...do not want to waste my time or theirs...if somebody had a medical condition, when would you want to know? you need a real man...not a wimp

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Should I trust this guy? Posted: 10/4/2009 3:33:56 AM
come on you are anot a young chick...get some common sense...first at your age...you need to be with somebody who wants something serious...what is his problem? younger....or maybe scared to commit...you wnat us to tell you something...like dear do not worry he wants you...not...focus on yourself...date ...then become interested

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Should I tell her hes a cheater!? Posted: 10/4/2009 3:23:42 AM
he put a gun to your head...is that how you added him on facebook? first worry about your actions, it is obvious you are interested...run the other way then do not have anything to do with him....regarding his girlfriend...do not get involved...you do not know her...and she will not believe you or she will make excuses for him...she will realize what is going on...that is not your job...take care of yourself and respect yourself

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Getting burned out on dating? Posted: 9/29/2009 11:47:13 PM
i understand...have gone through the same feeling...the special person will give you sparks...on my date i have these secret meeting...i have met somebody who is different...and he will be achallenge due to the situation...i like it...take care

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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At 32, I am new to this thing calling dating Posted: 9/29/2009 11:45:00 PM
just try your best...focus on being freinds...and hopefully someone will encourage you to date you...just give people a chance

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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After 3 dates he called me beautiful, what do I say back? Posted: 9/29/2009 11:42:29 PM
what is the big deal? he gave you compliments...what do you want? take care...just take your time...what will happen will happen.

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Can you handle me? Posted: 9/27/2009 6:07:58 AM
they are trying to make themselves look hot and in demand...i do not take them seriously...boys will be boys i need a man

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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How do i walk away? Posted: 9/27/2009 6:03:14 AM
i am going through the same feeling...i was going through a rough time...and he was there forme...but he keeps telling me...his feelings for me are not the same...meanwhile he wa the one who lied to me more than once...and he hads disappointed me...walk away...keep yourself busy...need to get away from him...if they are going to appreciate us...they will when they realize we meen busines...it is hard...you need somebody who is travelling the same road

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Single Mothers Adopting? Posted: 9/27/2009 12:00:10 AM
you go girl...good luck...you need to give love and attention...you need to receive love and attention

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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widow needs advice on custody issue Posted: 9/26/2009 11:58:51 PM
santana...what are you doing? is it because your are more strick than your daughter does not want to live with you...maybe shred custody...i just can not imagine! my son has been with me...since day one...he has a second home...i am his mom...this is a privilege and a honour...it seems you do not care.

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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widow needs advice on custody issue Posted: 9/26/2009 11:56:12 PM
sleeping beauty...were you abandoned? come on...it is not turning on her...it is telling her the facts...she abandoned her daughter...it is neglect and she is selfish...another widow is disappointed with her...her child is probably tramautized...she needed her mom...where is mom? busy with her own life...now she is back and everything is back to normal...take care

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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widow needs advice on custody issue Posted: 9/26/2009 11:53:38 PM
i have no sympathy...being a mother is a privilege...you do not give up your child and then say guess what? i want to be momma again...get legal help...get your life back together...be responsible for your daughter...there are issues...deal with it...she is not your true friend...she took advantage of your weakness...i have a friend who was a widow at a young age...she took care of her two children and hard her third child...with her new partner...good luck...how does your daughter feel with the rejection? there is something missing...lady, you have issues...serious.

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Have you been manipulated by a passive-aggressive fishy? Posted: 9/26/2009 7:17:56 AM
all the time...they are pushy, needy possessive or can not commit? why i have a better chance of becoming the prime minister of canada...then being with a companion...who i am going to be happy with . opposites attract

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Is it worthwhile paying a woman to be arm-candy, so I can more easily meet other women? Posted: 9/26/2009 7:16:19 AM
you are such a nice guy...you have no life and personality so you sue a woman...then you wonder why you are on your own...loser

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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If Love Is Blind....Why Is Lingerie So Popular? Posted: 9/26/2009 7:15:16 AM
lingeries is sexy...like a men wearing thong...it depneds on the two people...i am now confident with my body...so when i lose 10 pounds...i would like to start dress more sexy...it is your choice and who you are with

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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yes i did a search before posting... Posted: 9/26/2009 7:13:54 AM
dear...you do what makes you happy...ti depends what you want ...and i hope you will be happy...i find so many people want approval...why? it is your life if you want to play with yourself 100 times...it is your life...it is your willy

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Ladies, How can I be more like one of you? Posted: 9/26/2009 7:12:17 AM
give it up...you are gay...if you want to be a woman...take hormones and have a sex change

calientecutie

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How do I get (politely) out of a threesome Posted: 9/26/2009 7:11:12 AM
honey we are not doing...thank you for your understanding...please get real...it is obvious you have a choice...do it or leave him...or let him do it with two other women...it is obvious he wants that...i agree with him...it his fantasy...so you decide ...do you want him...can you conpromise...would you have a threesome with another man? why and why not? good luck

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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need advice about best friend living wth me Posted: 9/26/2009 7:07:52 AM
mahoganyrush...you are right...but his friend can not be a hostage...get help and get him a room...and see him three or four times a week...how would you like living with someone who was drunk?

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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need advice about best friend living wth me Posted: 9/26/2009 7:06:39 AM
give him two weeks notice...and tell him he needs to leave..firmly stand yourground...this is not mother theresa daycare...also he needs to follow the rules...now ...heis taking advantage of your kindess...it is not your problem...he is a grown man.

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him? Posted: 9/26/2009 7:03:28 AM
who do you date miss americas?...come on your expectetations on yourself ...should be the same for them...example i am energetic, honest and fun...expect the same...yes i would like them to be financially responsible...but they do not need to be a millionaire...i am rich due to being a good person...i am also a loveable person who has friends and family...i am rich because of the love i give and the involvement that i am in church...bottom line...do not conpromise...what you want from somebody you should give...if you want somebody extremely good looking...then maybe you will earn more money...it is a give and take...good luck

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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why do guys keep u hanging on instead of ending it? Posted: 9/26/2009 7:00:20 AM
cifuareal...we both think alike...she needs to do her own thing and have standards...she is toooo niceeeee

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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why do guys keep u hanging on instead of ending it? Posted: 9/26/2009 6:59:32 AM
first stop act desperate...you are a grown woman...yes you have just dated for two years...do not put all your eggs in one basket...take it slow...he was living with his siters...run the other way...do you want to be his second mom...men are not going to say honey you are boring me...if they are getting some fun...of coure you both were reading the bible...seriously...you know when they are not interested...make them work at it...reason why i am saying..i have been on this site since May/09...i have only dated five men...one mr. i love myself...mr.pervert...mr. ai all that...mr.i am confused and mr. cheapo...i meet them on this site...then talk on the site...if interested...chat...then talk on the phone...go out lucky if we meet before three weeks...i repect myself and love myself...i have high expectetations...i feel you are too nice and understanding...this in not the mother theresa day camp...have standards and stick ot it...what you have...expect from them...how many sisters do you live with? take care

calientecutie

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Asking her out - 6 years older to me. Posted: 9/25/2009 4:19:53 AM
so you like her...what do you have to lose? ask her,...and if she says no...try to be her friend...and if she says no...it is her loss...you will not know till you try...good luck

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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ok...birthday over..i made it...PHEW!! Posted: 9/25/2009 4:18:18 AM
when i turn thirty...i was happy...when i became thirty five years old...i was releived...turning forty was special...great b-dy party...turning forty five will be very special...hope everybody will be proud of their age and the accomplishments...thank you

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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after 40 it is really hard to find a date Posted: 9/25/2009 4:16:41 AM
i disagree...i have given up on dating and that is when i have met individuals...i have only dated once in the past two months...i find more friends...i am very selective and wary...hopefully i will find my partner...not focusing on this site only...do not put all my eggs in one basket...distribute my eggs...it is different ...but something that needs to be done

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Men Who Want More Than Frienddship...... Posted: 9/25/2009 4:15:05 AM
i find men cannot handle rejection...if you meet somebody and there is no spak...and eventually there is going to be a friendship only...the man can decide ...to be a friend or to move on...you need to be happy in your life,...and life is not long enough...live each day as your last and appreciate what you have and focus on your postive enrgy...i have had many nasty rejection letters...men just do not get it! their egos are bruised

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Why the double standard on dating? Posted: 9/25/2009 4:13:02 AM
do you care what society says? do your won thing...and people do not need to know wht is going on...it can be private...do not put all your eggs in one basket...and what is good for the goose , is good for the gander...hopefully you will meet a descent person who can become a companion...you need to please yourself...

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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Are Cling-ons ruining your relationships Posted: 9/25/2009 4:11:24 AM
why do you attract Ms. Needy? is there are a pattern? you need to break that pattern...and be with women who are independent and have children who are responsible...at their age their grown children nnned to have their own life...My son is 19 years old and he is an idependent young man, i am not looking for a father figure...i am looking for a companion for myself...if my future partenr wants to and my son agrees...they can be friends and bond...but nobody to be dependent...that is silly and ridiculous!...good luck!

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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When you turn 30 you better have a personality Posted: 9/25/2009 4:08:55 AM
i have been a different personality since i was in my 20's...due to being mature and experience...i am a more comfortable, well-liked and love myself...it has to do wtih lots of experience and respecting oneself and each other...Setting standards and morals is crucial to one being a better person...hopefully one can become a better person...good luck in your adventure!

calientecutie

Joined: 4/5/2009

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When you turn 30 you better have a personality Posted: 9/25/2009 4:07:07 AM
why are you attracting ladies who only want looks? that says a lot about you...hope you find someone who is attractive but had a lot going for herself...anybody who has commonsense...knows looks do not last for a long time...they need to meet somebody who is going to have a great personality, great attitude and great chemistry...good luck for you!

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