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Staten Island Anyone Can Come POF Dance Party!!!! March 28 2008 Posted: 3/21/2008 4:36:03 PM
Ok Ok...I will try....Sweet Vanilla Scent!!! not promising tho......on the weekends I try to finish up my thesis...only 7 more weeks of school left.....YEAAAAAH....after that I will be free all the time.....that is when I will meet up with you anywhere...lol.... Hugzzz sweet one!!! A.L.

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Viewed Me not Changing Posted: 1/26/2008 8:15:21 PM
It's working fine again!! thanks bigfish!!

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Viewed Me not Changing
Posted: 12/26/2007 9:18:53 PM

This seems like a server problem...My "who viewed me" has not worked in 2 days...My computer is working very well with an exception of this problem....I checked Java that is not the problem....seems like many are having this problem....all other pages are working as normal....I had some friends of mine on here view me who always show up on this page and they haven't shown up in two day.....it has not changed in 2 days

Can you guys see if its a server problem?? thanks

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East Meadow, NY OCT 26th - Singles/Halloween Party - No Cover/Free Buffet Posted: 9/27/2007 8:07:35 PM
Sweetie..Please don't kidnap me....I have affairs to attend for the University and I have to be there....I am giving the welcoming speech...lol.... You know if I could I would be there....as soon as things settle in my life I will definitely be at one of your Meet N Greets.... Hopefully...It will be easier in the spring and I will make it out there my sweet niecie..... Have fun!!! Auntie L

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East Meadow, NY OCT 26th - Singles/Halloween Party - No Cover/Free Buffet Posted: 9/25/2007 2:18:06 PM
Hey Sweet Vanilla Scent...... Wish I had the time to get out the East Meadow...Sounds like alot of fun..... Miss ya Sweet one!! Auntie L

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nyc party for pof Posted: 10/31/2006 12:36:13 PM
I don't think I'm making it Stubobb...I have to pass on this too!! not going to any cemetary which might be fun...lol...I have something else to do here on the Island that day...and besides Griffix..I'm not into Soccor or afternoon's at a Pub....nights are better for me!! Hopefully..soon we can all get together for another really nice POF Party...... Sooalive nice to see you here...You have to meet us in the City at the next Event...you'll have a blast....I'll email you when we have a date and confirm it with the POF Mod..... NYP

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nyc party for pof Posted: 10/25/2006 9:48:19 AM
That weekend is better for me!!!

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nyc party for pof Posted: 10/24/2006 5:15:50 PM
I'll be there after the game that is...lol....are you playing that night??

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nyc party for pof Posted: 10/24/2006 3:56:08 AM
Hey you guys...am I invited...lol....griffix email me the details!! I'll bring some of my g/f's along!! NYP

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Can someone help me to understand men? Posted: 10/23/2006 4:31:04 AM
Helping to understand a man is like a man trying to understand a woman...we are totally different beings...who both enjoy sex...nothing wrong with it...I'm a lot older then most on here...I do date alot...I would never sleep with someone on the 1st 2nd or 3rd date if I felt there was no chemistry involved!! NOW...I will contradict myself here!! I met someone a year ago..meeting him only 4 months ago for the first time...there was sparks everywhere on that first date....I even went back to his house on that 1st date which is something I would never do...and yes you guessed it I did sleep with him and have ever since....simply because I felt we were on the same page..physically..mentally..emotionally..the chemistry was there...the attraction was very deep!!! something I have never felt with anyone I dated... My point here beside airing my dirty laundry is that there are some men only looking to sleep with as many women they can which boost the ego...then there's the guys who are looking for a serious relationship...this is also for many woman on here as well... So this depends on what your looking for...your pic..your profile..they way you present yourself online is very revealing to ones personality...if they get the wrong impression of you...it's something you said to them....I find most men who start off nice eventually want to discuss sex...being in the field I'm in this doesn't bother me...BUT I never suggest what turns me on or get into what Bra size I wear...which is a very common thing on here...ohhh yes..I've been asked many many times...since my pic on here is also a little revealing....I'm just not in a teddy like you are!!! that makes a big difference in a man's thoughts.... Fortunately...after dating all the wrong guys who always brought up sex on dates....I finally met someone looking for all the same things in life as I am....he never mentioned sex the entire night...and we did sleep together that first night!!! and it was a mutual thing.... What I think is ....it's not a thing of understanding men...it's more like understanding yourself...knowing what your looking for in life!!!! Have a great day everyone!! NYP

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When was the last time you fell in love? Posted: 10/20/2006 6:53:29 PM
The last time I fell in love!!! hmmmmmm I remember that term...yes it's coming back to me...I think it was waaayyyyy back in 1970...my first love who I was engaged to...I never married him...felt I wasn't ready for commitment...he then moved to the West Coast and we lost contact... Ex-husband's don't count do they??...lol....they wouldn't be Ex's if it was true love!! I met someone on here a year ago..we finally met 4 mos ago...I don't think a day has gone by that we haven't seen each other....so this might be it....LOVE NYP

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Crazy ex girlfriend that won't leave me alone Posted: 10/19/2006 10:35:47 PM
Ok my story is a little resvered from the OP's story... When I started dating this guy I'm with now...he had broken up with his girlfriend 4 mos prior...no sign of her in site...then one day she showed up at his house to pick up some clothes she had there...while he was busy doing something she went through his phone and got my number...she first called me from his phone to see who answered..when she heard my voice when I got no answer from the other end and saw it was his phone..I knew it wasn't him...so I called him back...he said it was his ex... Well she must have called me 15 times that night from her restricted number...he told me to come over in case she decides to show up...well..he was right she rang the bell then walked in and YEA I was waiting for her...she started to cry and ran out before anything started..then got on her cell to call the police on us...saying we wouldn't let her in to get her clothes...the police asked if she lived there...she said no..they said sorry nothing they could do so she stormed of.... She's been calling me harrassing me and him....telling him she can't live without him....UMMM HELLO...where were you the last 4 mos...now you know he has someone in his life and you decide you want him back....YEA RIGHT..try and get him now....HE'S MINE NOW....lol.... Just needed to share this psycho ****es story with you all..... Night NYP

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do teeth matter? Posted: 10/19/2006 10:16:34 PM
Teeth are the one of the first things you notice on a person...so they are important!!! Funny story...I was in a supermarket recently in the bakery dept..minding my own business when I noticed this guy watching me while he was eating a donut...(not paid for of course) since I saw him take it from the shelf...he was trying to act really cool when he came up to me and asked me a question..I responded cordial...and thinking to myself this guy just stole this donut..LOL...I'm sure security was watching too...well...Mr.Cool..went to talk to me while biting his donut and yea you guessed it....his dentures were still in the donut that he was holding in his hand...I swear I couldn't help myself I burst out in laughter....LMAO......Poor guy..was mortified...I really didn't mean to laugh at him but hell you have to admit it was really funny....both sets of teeth were stuck in the donut....lol...to stop myself from laughing...all I could think of telling him was that denture cream was in aisle two... OK folks don't bash me for laughing you really had to be there...you would have too!!! NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/19/2006 7:43:15 PM
Quick2smile...I'm laughing my A$$ off here...lol....so true...NEVER say the "M" word....it sure as hell is not in my vocabulary...unless we prove our love to each other... then he needs to knocks me off my feet...well...just say...I'll be staying SINGLE...and loving it....lol.... ~Enough~ I did totally agree with you...I was basically talking about how hurt you were by this ordeal..and you needed to move on with me saying that you are carrying it around with you!!...HEY..I tried....lol...you know what I think is that you came off so strong that the men used that against you...not realizing your very outspoken and upfront....I say Kudos to you for speaking your mind...Not sure if your coming back to read this...you said you were outta here... See you all in another thread...I will come back to keep reading...this was fun!! Night Everyone and thanx for the laughs!! NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/19/2006 5:31:11 PM
~Enough~ What I said was "1st time burned..shame on HIM...2nd time burnt shame on YOU..not you for both... Sorry this happened to all of us..but we learned from out mistakes and from this post...boy did we hear about everyone's dirty laundry in here!!! LOL... Stella...Kudos to you again for this post...and it will go on and on and on!! This was one of the best post I've seen so far!! Who the hell needs a shrink now...we all saved $200 bucks by reading this post... NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/19/2006 3:25:19 PM
~Enough~I don't think Doug is bashing you in anyway..Doug really doesn't need my help here...he did a good job in explaining it to you... since he is seeing this from an outsiders point of view...I feel he was clearly trying to enlighten you to the fact that you seem angry about what happened to you!! Your not alone in that...many of us have been there...we have since put it behind us and moved on!! You just seem stuck on that redflag theory..I still have to disagree with you since I have dated many from this site...I figured it out early that I didn't have to be a rocket scientist to figure out the players...even the so-called good ones...the signs are there..you just need to be focused and in tuned to it...which is what you learn after the first time your burned...like someone posted previously...1st time burnt shame on him..2nd time burnt shame on you!! Remember I told you about my ex...he was a womanizer and big time player..when I found out I served him with separation papers he turned the tables on me...we had 4 businesses..he swindled 3 of them from underneath me all worth over a million $ each by selling them to his family members before the divorce..I was only his partner in one..the others he had close friends as partners..he sold his share to his family.... Judge said there was nothing I could do..granted me the entire business I was his partner in.... So when you talk about measly credit cards and ID theft...it's menial compared to what I experienced and I walked away and never looked back...mind you this was my husband not some wing ding boyfriend...so you can imagine how I felt....NOT SO GOOD..but I moved on with a positive attitude and started over and was rewarded with a wonderful life... I think what your doing is the right thing...take a break from this...clear your mind as well as your thoughts...this will allow you to see things in a different light...I wish you well with whatever path you chose...that'll be for you to decide!!! It's your vehicle and only you can drive it to your destination!!!! WOW Stella...this was some post...LOL...this has to be the most I've written on here...thanx for that and for all the lessons I learned from this!! Everyone gave great advice...this will put shrinks out of business...LOL....Boy did I air my laundry here!!!! geezzus....lol... Enjoy your Evening all NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/19/2006 3:55:22 AM
Stella....Your Quite Welcome!!! You seem like a very warm loving person..and your beautiful too!!...your bound to find that special man!!! Just keep watering that garden...lol You have a good attitude and I know you will be fine!!! Enough...You took what I said totally out of context...I never said he was mean to women...I said he liked to PLAY...as in play the field...he would never think of hitting a woman including his ex-w...who I also know and is a b-itch.......He's quite a gentlemen..We're together a year and I have never heard him raise his voice and is well liked here on the Island....and very well known...no one has ever said a harsh word about him....So I think you took that wrong!!! I think you should be a little more Optimistic about life...this can mean a whole big difference in ones life....get over all the jerks that were a part of your life..they are HISTORY...move on to the new...there are many really nice guys out there who are looking for good strong women like yourself...stop looking on the dark side of things....there is a light at the end of the tunnel.... In time you will see that things change...When I was your age...I was married to a physically and mentally abusive jerk...a real BADBOY...thought he was all that and more...today he's this big fat loser with no balls who recently told someone that he was sorry for what he put me through...YEA RIGHT!!! he thought money could keep me in the marriage...since we had many businesses he thought for sure no matter what he did to me that I would never divorce him...WRONG...I walked away and never looked back...well..with exception of divorce papers...shocked the s-hit out of him and he actually cried when I was signing the papers..go figure....did I mention he was a cocaine dealer & addict too!! I found that out after the divorce...he kept that hid well too!! He blew all our money and ran my credit to shit that it took me nearly 10 yrs to clear... I had to start my whole life over from scratch and got myself to where I am today with no child support and I put myself and my 2 boys through college and another one next year....so nothing is impossible when you dump the jerks in the trash....and move on with a possitive attitude!!! It got me everything I ever wanted!!! You can do that too!! Enjoy your Day NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/18/2006 4:57:24 PM
Enough~~~I'm sure they are taking notes..LMAO...oh well...at least they know they won't get over on US...lol...I haven't come across any Master players on here...but I will say the Novice ones I did..I read...delete...block....Most men/women come their senses when they meet "THE ONE"...my guy is 46...he was in a relationship 10yrs prior..so possibly 36...you still have some time yet..LOL....BUT..then again I have a 36 yr old son who is totally faithful to his wife...and they're very much in love...so I don't think you can pinpoint an age here!! It's when they decide to grow up!! Funny thing about Red Flags...all 3 of my kids can vouch for this...Red Flags pop in my head when something is not right...they question me constantly...how do you know these things!! It's RED FLAGS popping in my head...that's how I was able to raise them with no problems...I always knew...like I said I have very good senses when it comes to these things...and I have 3 awesome and very talented kids....with no thanx to their dad...oppss am I male bashing here...sorry guys...lol.... OK I'm off topic here....my suggestion to Stella is UNCROSS YOUR LEGS...PICK YOURSELF UP...BRUSH THE DUST OFF...AND MOVE ON!!! LESSON LEARNED.... which is what I see you are doing by telling us this story!!! Good Luck to you Sweetie...the right one is out there and most likely emailing you already after this post...LOL... NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/18/2006 1:57:31 PM
LadyC4....BRAVO TO YOU!!!! Very well said....thank you for adding and sharing that!! NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/18/2006 1:51:04 PM
Enough...I agree with somethings your mentioning not all...I tend to disagree that you can't spot a player...there are many ways to see red flags..if you can read between the lines as I can you can pick it up in their profiles...that's a dead give away...Da Hitman gave a good one..play dectective..make up a fictious profile..see if they respond... As for knowing what my partner is doing...I do..he's sitting right here reading all this...he also admitted that in his heyday as an immature kid he did some of those things...he's since grown up and wants a serious relationship..I wouldn't say this is a guy thing either...woman do this all the time...I saw his emails...all I can say is wow... Another close (male) friend of mine is on here as well...his stories are unbelievable...now here's a great looking guy who owns his own business...very family oriented..is very intelligent...and can't find a decent woman on here..he meeting all losers...he said no one is serious...go figure...so I look at this as not a gender thing...it's all over. It took me a year of being on here before I met anyone decent...no one ever got passed the first date with me...strange but true...I read people like books!! you can disagree with this but I have great instincts...When I met someone I didn't like it was over at that point...I knew eventually the right person was coming into my life...I have patience and a positive attitude...I think this got me through this... Biker_Man...I agree with what you said....Communication is the Key Point in a relationship...and yes you can check to see if someone's profile has been closed...check my guys out Phanthom3760...it'll tell you...account closed....This is with his approval since he's right here!!! I appove..LOL>>>the Phantom <<< and hey she's right, you need to look deeper into situations before you jump in. I'm glad NYP did, she's one awesome classy lady, I'm glad I have her in my life. That's all that matters to me!! When is our next POF Party??? We all had a great time..as a matter of fact I didn't meet any losers there either and there was about 100 people....everyone was there to have a good time and possibly meet someone!! Biker_Man.. I thought you were an awesome person..great personality...and of course I didn't forget what you did that night....that was super of you to do because you didn't have to do that....I saw it came from the goodness of your heart...thanx again!!! NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/18/2006 9:35:02 AM
WOW...a lot of bashing going on here!! thought we were all grown ups on this site...what I will say is that we do attract what we project to the world..I have to agree with Thorn on that one...I learned it first hand when I first joined this site!! It was a quick lesson learned..I have to say doing a quick reverse did me wonders...I now know how to spot a player from afar..I learned early on to jump in here with eyes wide open....Evenutally meeting a wonderful man on here...who use to talk to many until HE decided that I was the only important person in his life.....we both went through a lot of players and gamers until we found each other... I didn't try to change his behavior on here...I shouldn't have to ...he's a grown man with intelligence...he deleted his profile...this was his decision...not mine to make..I wasn't looking for a relationship that I would have to change someone or myself....I haven't deleted my profile since I enjoy the forums and talking to many...made lots of friends on here both male and female...HI TO ALL MY GOOD FRIENDS UP IN CANADA...LUV YA.... My point on this is you can spot a player..it's your choice to accept the behavior or ditch him/her right away before the relationship starts...which is what I did....taking a break from all the nonsense made room for this man to come into my life....There are many people on here looking for a serious relationship with no games!!! BTW...As for 50 year olds being on here...I'm 53...I wasn't aware there was an age limit for dating...I'm not on here looking for sex as someone suggested us 50 yr olds do....we're just as single as you are!!! Funny thing about this is I found the man I was looking for...have you???...He's Tall..Extremely Handsome..Intelligent...knows what he wants in life and went after it...yes ME....very smart man...lol...and I'm happy he did......he's my life!!! Talk to me when your my age...I'd like to know how far you really got in life with your ways of thinking..assumptions and pointing fingers at the world!!! Ciao NYP

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Cross your legs until he cancels his POF account#2! Posted: 10/17/2006 8:18:36 PM
Op...Sorry that happened to you..it was unfortunate....I'm not here to bash anyone for falling in love and being blindsighted by the light...BUT...I do have to say and this is just my opinion...before you uproot yourself to move in with a person you need to know him inside and out..which wasn't the case here...It's honesty..loyatly and respect to each other that signifies a good relationship!!! He obviously did not prove that to you!!! I too met someone on the internet over a year ago who lives 3 miles from me..we finally met..started a wonderful relationship....NO.. neither of us removed our profiles from here....he was very honest about the people he spoke to...also showed me the emails he received from women...I did the same with my emails..he actually gave me his password since he thought an email he received was so funny..he wanted me to read it....NOW this is honesty...I trust him with all my heart...one thing he didn't mention was that he deleted his profile the other day...When I questioned him.. he said it wasn't necessary anymore and didn't mind me on here since he knows that I love to write and I really like the forums.....What a guy...and I would never do anything to jeopordize this relationship...I make sure I tell everyone that emails me that I am in a relationship...I'm not here to play games with anyone's head..neither was he..... So in reality..what I am saying is that you need mutual trust and understanding before you pack up and move in with someone or even have a relationship with....there are alot of good liers and players out there who are addicted to fantasyland..you learn to spot them in a heartbeat.... Unfortunately....all the good men/women suffer for their behavior....you need to know how to pinpooint them!!!! Good Luck to you OP....there a plentyofish in this big pond!!!!! keep fishing for the right one NYP

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ingredients for a good relationship Posted: 10/15/2006 3:02:09 PM
The main ingedients in a good relationship for me are: 1- a good man 2- great communication and understanding 3- honest with each other from day one! 4- being open to each other's needs 5- loyalty to each other 6- respect for one another 7- give each other the space we need at times! 8- love each other unconditionally 9- always say I love you..no matter what!! 10- great sex!!! Now if you can live up to my main ingredients...email me!! lol I just might make you the main ingredient!! Enjoy NYP

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Are you proud of your age? Posted: 10/14/2006 5:36:42 PM
Mustangsally.....Very well said...I am very proud that I made it to this point in my life....it was all the tough times that took me to this part of life....I must say I like where it's taken me too!!! it was the rough roads and obstacles that led me here!!! Yes we did it....

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Are you proud of your age? Posted: 10/12/2006 9:00:33 AM
I am 53 and very happy to be here....I have never given age a thought until the B-DAY comes along..this is my yearly reminder otherwise I never think of it.... I love life and where it has taken me...I like who I am..all my accomplishments and who I've become!! I will do anything just once...well except bungie jump or skydive.... My kids love the way I am.. at times they ask when am I settling down...my answer:NEVER..why should I... I live my life on a positive note...I dispose all the negative that comes into my life quickly...I am always happy and smiling...someone once asked me..don't you have any problems your always in a good mood..my response was Yes absolutely and you wouldn't want my problems.....I just don't dwell on them... Enjoy your Day!! NYP

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Will you ever get married? Posted: 10/11/2006 10:08:54 PM
I always said I would never marry again until recently...I seriously thought about it...I've come to the conclusion that if I meet the right man who can knock me off my feet then I have to say YES I would....haven't met him yet!! I'm still looking for him...hope we find each other soon before we are too old to say those classic words "I do" I feel the institution of Marriage is a sacred vow...there has to be Love Honor Respect Loyalty and Unconditional Love!! Otherwise I'm staying single and keeping the dogs!!! All kidding aside I do want to marry again...I just need to find that Special Man who is Perfect for me!! Yes I'm fussy...I feel at this stage of the game I'm not settling for just anyone...he has to be all that and more!!! I feel I can give someone 300% of my love and my life then he has to reciprocate with maybe half of that...I'm a giver...I'm not looking for man who is just a taker...he needs to give as well.....otherwise Ebony & Ivory stay (the dogs) lol Night all NYP

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I learned Posted: 10/11/2006 9:49:21 PM
I learned never to try and control a relationship....especially to change a person's behavior!! they are who they are for whatever reasons... I've learned to move on without bitterness or anger...this only makes you miserable... I also learned that if one relationship doesn't work there is always the NEEEXXXXXTT>>>> Night!! NYP

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Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 10/3/2006 7:05:00 PM
Ahhhhh Fear!!! yes I find this in many on sites such as this..I say it's fear of the unknown..not knowing where it's going or what to expect...it's normal... Are you saying that many men are controlled by woman? if so, they allow this to happen!! No one should be in control of another..we are not in slavery nor are we bought property..we choose to control out own vehicle's in life..no one has control but us unless we allow it... then your in trouble!!! When one loses control of themselves they become a void..they lose self-esteem..self-confidence...they see life as a blur out of the eyes of the person controlling them!!! Greyston says: Is it just me, or do other men find "fear of _strong hardheaded women who becomes_ (fill in the blank)" offensive? I say yes!!! this can be intimidating to a man or any person for that fact...it's not a gender thing....strong hardheaded women don't carry themselves properly..it's not the femine way...an Independent woman knows how to carry herself through life with confidence..through any situation as well. Kisses back atcha Greytstone1...you get the room!! ok just kidding I'll get it...lol NYP

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Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 10/3/2006 4:49:33 PM
Opppsss...SORRY about that MEN.....I didn't mean it to sound like that..I was just giving my point of view!! I don't think men are cowards at all..I date an awesome man who would have understood exactly what I was trying to express...You used that word and are pulling this out of perspective...I would never use that word (coward) towards a man..even if he was one...I'm not rude or obnoxious towards anyone...so your being defensive...I can use the word "hardheaded" as I stated in my previous msg... There is a difference between a point of view (mine) and an assumption (yours) now when there is intelligence involved your smart enough to know that a point of view is just that!! you also know what they say about the word ASSUME...need I say more!!!! Muaaahhh Kisses to you Greystone1 Have a great night!!

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Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 10/3/2006 4:12:32 PM
A "headstrong" woman is actually a weak woman!!! She angers quickly and defensively as opposed to the "strong" woman who is mentally and emotionally balanced....which is her strength to survive...whereas the headstrong woman can't, she's too busy being a know it all and battling with everyone she comes in contact with because she always thinks she's right. Men seem to confuse Independence and survival as headstrong..they fear a woman of this stature for this reason. I find men shy away from the independent women fearing us as if we are aliens from another planet..thinking we are these hardheaded fearless women looking for a fight...not realizing we are sensitive,compansionate, reliable, self-suffient, self-confident, stable women with inner strength who balance their lives in society accordingly. And we're not afraid to say we are sorry!! NYP

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Have you seen your EX recently? Posted: 9/27/2006 5:24:57 PM
I saw my ex today!!! He owns an auto glass business...I needed him to fix my car...we haven't seen each other in a while...after fixing my windows we just stared at each other..I know we are still in love with each other..it just wasn't working....and yes he kissed me and I melted....life takes such strange turns...who knows what this will bring....he's coming over tonight so we can talk....this should be interesting!! Who knows maybe we can finally work things out.... NYP

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If you could have sex with anyone in the world who would it be? Posted: 9/25/2006 11:13:39 AM
I only get one choice here?? Well I'm taking two!! I want to be on a deserted Island (not Staten Island either) with George Clooney on one side and Johnny Depp on the other...WOW..what a fantasy come true that would be...the " WILD AND THE WICKED" now that's a fantasy!!! Sex Sex and more Sex Thanx for letting me share my wildest dreams!! ok I'm waking up now!! guess it would be the guy I'm dating....lol... NYP

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K, this ticks me off... Posted: 9/25/2006 10:20:40 AM
I was thinking the same Stubobb...It's time...where should it be this year? We can get the ball rolling soon!!

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On letting go.. Posted: 9/24/2006 5:29:04 PM
Like I said previously everyone handles this differently...there were relationships that I thought I would never get over when I was younger...now..at my age...it's Byeeeeeeee au revoir~~~~ have a good life!! NEXT>>>>>>>>> I know pretty shallow huh?? well this comes with age and experience...you learn you can live without the other person...I look at it as a learning process or lesson learned...never to make that same mistake again.....These type of situations strengthens you for the next heartbreak....you learn to move on quickly!!!! I know I did...as recently as the other day!! au revoir baby...all he did was talk about the ex and the abusive relationship they had...sheesh...hello get over it or go back with her!!! He went back with her now he's back on here fishing with her in his life....geezzus...glad I'm out of that!! I want my own man not someone else's... Yes even us old people have heartbreak....you learn to jump back into the pond and you keep till you find what your really looking for!! My motto is>>>> Never give up..there's someone out there for everyone!! NYP

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K, this ticks me off... Posted: 9/24/2006 5:13:15 PM
WOW stubob am I dumb...lol...that did sound a little off the wall...he can change his settings to whatever he chooses on here in order to email someone...I know I have...just to get a message to them!! loveseeker...I can relate to what your saying about the bar scene...it's not a gender thing many feel the way you do..that's why we are all still single.... I'm not really shy until an man looks at me then I tend to hold back....unless I'm in an environment that I know many people such as the POF Party...Stubob you can vouch for this....we all knew we were meeting for the 1st time...I'd say not too many were shy since this was arranged and we sort of knew what to expect...and HELL..I had a great time....we all did...so there was no shyness there...geeezzz I don't remember going home!! hmmmm...lol....yes we were all a little lit but had a blast...loveseeker the next party you have to come this will break the ice for you!!!! Does anyone know where I parked my car that night???? lmao That was a great party!!! NYP

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On letting go.. Posted: 9/23/2006 3:54:20 AM
Everyone handles this differently...it also depends on the situation..if kids are involoved you still have contact with that person...it's harder to heal....for me it's always been easy a few days of being on a low then I pick myself up and move on!! I feel if you can't reconcile the differences I don't hang on...I walked away from a 17yr marriage and never looked back..this is because he cheated on me with someone I knew..till this day he regrets it and hell that was 20 yrs ago...for me I don't go back and I don't look back I move on...so this is easy for me...it's not so easy for other's...situations like this can throw a person into depression...what I suggest is that if you find yourself going down further you consult a doctor to help pull you through..they've come along way with dealing with situations like this!! Good Luck to you JMC...you'll be ok...remember you and your daughter are numero uno in this case...if she's choosing a crack addict over you then I'd say she's into that too...take care of your daughter this will affect her too...speak to someone about this..I see your 22 your still very young but you need to get through this and possibly get your child out of an unhealty situation!!! I wish you much luck and my heart goes out to you!! NYP

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K, this ticks me off... Posted: 9/23/2006 3:34:26 AM
loveseeker...just change your settings to intimate encounter then you will be able to email her..warning tho!! that's all they are looking for!! good luck to you!! NYP

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pof meet and great on long island new york how do we go about it? Posted: 9/21/2006 8:22:03 PM
Thanx I did email him too!! I thought the same about LI..a little too far for me..I went to the one in the city...had an awesome time!!

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pof meet and great on long island new york how do we go about it? Posted: 9/21/2006 7:31:22 PM
Chris that sounds good..where in SI??

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ONLY FOR WOMEN Posted: 9/20/2006 1:59:36 AM
I'm pretty content with my sexuality...don't think I would want a penis...hell..it's got a mind of it's own...I wouldn't want to be in presence of a nice looking woman and it bulging in your pants uncontrollable at a business meeting...it looks pretty unconfortable when the guy is trying to hide it... guess there's no penis-envy here!!!

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IS MEETING PEOPLE, IN CLUBS---BARS--LOUNGES--BETTER THAN COMPUTER Posted: 9/19/2006 5:48:21 PM
I feel meeting in bars.. clubs or anywhere on the outside is better then the Internet...you get to meet face to face.......It's easier too...you know they live close...here they all live too far!!! and you get all kinds of bull....I like physical attraction...that's something you can't get on the internet....

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Msg: 126 (view)

well hon, Posted: 9/16/2006 9:01:36 PM
I don't feel it's an ego thing....I feel most of us woman want to find someone our own age...they're just not biting in this pond...maybe it's shyness...I'm not sure..What I find is most men shy away from independent woman....so who does that leave us with..the 30 yr olds...which is not reality for me...I couldn't date someone my son's age....and won't..I do date men in their upper 40's....I find there is still something missing....I would prefer someone closer to my age...someone that has similar interests....this is reality for me... So here I am still I know I'll find what I'm looking for..it takes patience and I have plenty of that.... Enjoy your Night!! NYP

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30 yr old guys what's with the attraction to 50 yr woman Posted: 9/15/2006 11:18:58 PM
I hear what all you guys are saying in here....I understand everyone's point...my question is...I'm 53 pretty much in shape....taking care of myself is a priority...I'm educated...can hold a great conversation about anything....now why can't I find a nice guy my age??? I don't care what they do for a living or how much they have...I'm not looking for that...I have my own independence..this scares many guys my age.....I'm just looking for a decent good looking 50 yr old who is secure with himself... takes care of himself and wants a lasting relationship...so far...no luck!!!!! This has been hard for us woman too!! I date someone who is 10 yrs younger (that's my limit) it's great... not sure I want to spend the rest of my life with him...I would prefer someone my own age....but the beer guts and falling jowles are a killer...I feel if us woman can keep ourselves looking young..why can't men?? It's not all about sex either...there's so much more to life then that...not that it's not important!! (wink) I'm looking for Intelligence, a sense of humor..someone to have fun with...seems like only the 30 yr olds want that...this saddens me!!! The 50 yr olds say they want all those things..seems once you meet them they are old and BORING!! They're not what they portrayed themselves on here... So what's a girl to do???? We date the younger guys!!! Night all.. NYP

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I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... Posted: 9/15/2006 9:04:35 PM
Hey Giddy Up Guy...talk to me in 20 yrs...when I still look like this and you... well...you know what happens when you stop working out..I was married to a body builder who had an awesome body.....it's now turned to fat.... Ok...just kidding here you really look great...most guys in their 30's or early 40's look great...damn I dated some awesome looking guys that age...now guys my age...aarrrgghhhhh....no offense guys...some of you are hot hot hot but you live too damn far.... Hell I live in a city that never sleeps...except the guys my age....9pm it's lights out...so that leaves me no alternative but to date younger guys....those young guys rock.... Ok the Princess is waking up from her fantasy dream ....the guy I date is 43 and awesome...I say 10yrs is my limit....younger then that we're not on the same page...it's just reality.....we've been together 3 yrs ....and he is hotter then hot and in total shape....hope he keeps up the good work...I know there are men in their 50's who do take care of themselves...not many tho....sorry guys...this might be the wake up call...get rid of the beer guts..there is so much technology out there men can use to get rid of that hair that grows everywhere...ewww This would make woman my age very happy (big smile)....luv ya....NYP

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How to avoid making mistakes?? Posted: 9/9/2006 3:56:16 PM
Trust seems to be an big issue with dating...I'm a very careful listener...if I feel there is no trust I back off...If I'm in a relationship with someone I am totally monogamous...when I feel it's not a 2 way street and he needs more then one person in his life...I am History!!!! I've made alot of mistakes in my younger years and have learned what to look for...I weed them out!!!!! and I move on>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Have a great evening NYP

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How to avoid making mistakes?? Posted: 9/9/2006 9:38:12 AM
Making mistakes is our learning process...it tunes you in for things to come!! Always go with your gut feeling..if it doesn't feel right it's not!! We all make mistakes...it's human nature...we learn to better ourselves with future relationships...I know I have learned a lot from all this and I can smell a loser from afar!!! It comes with experience...which is developed... Enjoy!! NYP

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When you least expect it? Does it really happen? Posted: 9/6/2006 5:57:54 AM
This was my Theory...Stop looking and you will find what your looking for.... Especially on dating sites....there's too much stress involved...the bad dates...someone who you thought was compatable was not even close....the person who doesn't look close to the 20yr old pic they posted...I can go on about the stressful things that come with dating on here... When your not looking and constantly thinking about it...this allows you to open up to new things that are coming into your life with a smile..which is the first thing people notice.....your calmer then when your looking.....this allows the man/woman of your dreams to dance into your life.... I stopped looking..I get on here to read and write in the forums.....NOW WHERE'S MY PRINCE CHARMING.... LOL Enjoy your day everyone!! NYP

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What if the love of your life was playing you? Posted: 8/28/2006 7:13:39 AM
Dump his A$$...this is not the love of your life...If you think he is then you have a lot to learn about love..you may think he is since you have a child together...to me he was a sperm donor not the love of your life...because if he was he would have never left you for someone else... What his problem is...he's hasn't grown up..he's still experimenting out there..and girl you better be careful when he comes trotting back to you that he doesn't bring you any unwanted surprises such as STD'S.... Get rid of him..you don't need 2 children to raise you already have 1...if he truly loved you he wouldn't leave every few months....move on...find yourself a real man....you deserve better then him.....so does your child.... NYP

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Is it possible to have a relationship just by IM'ing Posted: 8/27/2006 12:58:03 PM
I read an article that said "Internet dating is the bar scene of the new millenium" It's easier to date online..especially in today's busy society..instead of hanging out in pub's all night...I know I met several on here...BUT...I have to say they didn't work..most lived too far.. In my opinion...it's not reality until you meet face to face..dating someone means going out to dinner with them..seeing them...touching them...kissing them.. being online you can't have that and how often are you going to get on a plane to see them...I'd say not too often..so to me this is not a relationship.... I met the guy I'm dating online..we were able to take it to another level..the difference was we live close and see each other often...this is a relationship... If you find someone that lives near you it's a plus otherwise it hardly ever works...I've seen it over and over again with my girlfriends who all fell in love with someone online...my one g/f sold her house to move in with him...well low and behold it didn't work out..now she's back living with her mother since it cost her a fortune to move twice....and what she wasn't aware of was he was an alcoholic which made her end up spending most of her money for the bills...not saying all online dating is like this but it does happen often....they are never the person you think they are..that's why dating face to face is so important... Oh did I mention...my friend also found child pornography on his computer....yes he was a pedifile too!!! very sad...mind you she's no dummy..she's quite intelligent..you just can't see those things on the computer!!! NYP

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Being pushy... is it just me or is it a turn off... Posted: 8/26/2006 1:24:04 PM
There are times when I'm away on business...when I get back my mailbox is full....I had one guy send me 4 emails....the 1st said I'd like to get to know you..the 2nd said I have tickets to a concert I would like you to go with me...the 3rd said guess your not interested and the 4th said...YOUR LOSS LOSER....ok...I can understand him being upset if I was even on here but I was away...this is why I said do they think we sit on here waiting to receive mail so we can answer it....geeezz especially most of us single moms who work and go to school..we sometimes don't have time to breath by the end of the day.... I believe they think since we are on here that we are lonely.. desperate and should be waiting for someone to email us because we have no lives...this is not reality....sometimes they are so pushy it does become annoying....I do have to say many aren't this way...they do understand so it's not the majority!! NYP

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