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Joined: 4/6/2009

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My ex was a compulsive liar and fell for the babysitter(women) Posted: 5/25/2009 7:47:52 AM
I read these and its great advise. Doing these things ie hobbies, fitness, etc. rewires your brain. it takes time to rewire your brain, say 6 - 12 months or so, but when it happens your whole thinking process changes. The reason we get into a relationship is to meet our needs,,,the reason we have hobbies/friends is to meet our needs. I would HIGHLY recommend putting yourself on a daily schedule where you keep busy with work, play, fitness, hobbies....lots of free time is not where you need to be now.

Joined: 4/6/2009

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Nice guys finish last is a sad truth... Posted: 5/21/2009 10:04:03 AM
Ive posted before on this subject,. go to Page 11 scroll down to "Do any girls want a nice Guy?" click on page 16 and scroll to bottom. Over the years Ive learned that Respect is vital in determining where a relationship is going, ie Doormat , BF, Just friends, whatever. For a woman to feel secure, the man must pass these tests for Respect. When you know what to look for, how to respond, your odds vastly improve. hint: "Women know when they are being out of line, by something they say or do" How you respond tells a lot about you. These are subconscious tests, ingrained in women for weeding purposes. Guys do better if they follow their natural instincts to confront, then to be too nice, or ignore the woman.

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do any girls actually want nice guys? Posted: 4/23/2009 8:52:11 PM
I can translate this question into terms of my own life,,, I know some women like to have a project, years ago I had long rocker hair , some gals were attracted to that, I think they viewed me as a bad boy or project. I imagine women view Badboys as a project ie, My love will save him/change him. having said that , Ive dated enough Women over the years to where I can say a fair amount of them early on in the relationship unconsciously tested me by pushing my buttons. Over time I've learned its a womans way of testing for respect, . If a man fails these tests, he can be put into the "too nice" category or yes even a whimp (NOTE, some of these tests are easy for badboys to pass because they don't care and some women find that challenging) I realized that eventually a woman has to respect a man for the relationship to grow.. We all want things like security , and trust in a relationship , and to get that there must be "Respect" . Some of the things that past girls I dated have said or done, just didn't make sense to me at the time, (ie if someone cares about me , I just turn cold ?) until I realized that most of these women knew when they were being out of line, and they wanted to see how I'd respond. Personally i think its universal, the test for respect.... If a mans response to these little tests is too nice or no reaction,,,,, (when the woman knows she should be reprimanded) she could perceive him a doormat to be walked upon. How the man reacts to these unconscious tests determines a lot in woman's mind as to how he will be considered in the relationship.. Once a woman decides she doesn't have much respect for a man its difficult to "make" her feel anything. Once I realized this things got a whole lot easier for me my 2 cents

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