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FunkyMonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

Msg: 77 (view)

The Silent Treatment Posted: 11/19/2009 5:02:56 PM
Trying to " discuss" things with people when they are not ready or not interested in excessive details, speculation etc is also a form of aggression and equally "unhelpful' as the silent treatment. Lets discuss something is often used by proponents to mean I am going to impose something on you, or the opening gambit in a confrontation. It isn't quite as simple as some people would have you believe.

FunkyMonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Crop Circles, what is behind this mystery ? Posted: 11/19/2009 4:38:55 PM
OK OP.. whatever you say...must be aliens then i guess eh ...

FunkyMonkee

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Richard Dawkins fans? Posted: 11/19/2009 3:57:13 PM
Great guy. There is of course a difference from revering someone (or allying yourself with what you believe they believe) and worshiping them ! Why do theists get so upset when an atheist questions the scientific basis of their beliefs and simply says "where is your evidence ?' Dawkins defends peoples right to believe what they want, even though he clearly thinks people who don't base their beliefs on scientifically derived evidence are deluded at best.

FunkyMonkee

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Nassim Haramein Posted: 11/19/2009 3:54:17 PM
We are hard wired to find all this stuff atteactive and believeable on some level. It is a shame that despite his obvious intellect (and the good stuff hes come up with) he has allowed himself to stray so far off the scientific method and accepts so much thats science fiction.

FunkyMonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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How can you prove soul exists after death? Posted: 11/19/2009 3:46:22 PM
You can't... Enough with this unscientific babble.

FunkyMonkee

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anyone tried turbo jam Posted: 11/19/2009 3:44:35 PM
Sounds like something you might find under a mechanics foreskin

FunkyMonkee

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Wiping off equipment prior to using it Posted: 11/19/2009 3:43:20 PM
Shout "Freak !" and point at them...

FunkyMonkee

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What is the most effective way for a female to develop muscle? Posted: 11/19/2009 3:41:55 PM
Pelvic floor exercises...

FunkyMonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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A work in progress but not going great Posted: 11/19/2009 3:39:39 PM
Given that you are an author.... Why not start your profile with a passage from one of your books ? That would be different wouldn't it ?

FunkyMonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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I think I've scared him big time, how to resolve this? Posted: 11/19/2009 3:34:13 PM
You have written more here than you have in your profile...... Shouldnt have a problem simply saying to him, "Do you fancy popping out for a coffee and a cream bun sometime ?"

FunkyMonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Virgin Broadband Posted: 11/19/2009 3:28:48 PM
I got banned from Virgin media Internet, then cancelled the rest of my services wit h them. I was spending over 1k a year with them at the time. I allegedly rang a voice mail for their internet security team and told the guy whose name appeared on the bottom of an insulting letter they sent to me to go f$$K himself ! VM are fine if you don't mind your ISP policing your email, throttling the bandwidth you paid them, or charging you more cash than new customers etc. OP..you just have to keep on at them. head office staff are often more obliging when customer services are fobbing you off.

FunkyMonkee

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Blair loses out in European Presidency Posted: 11/19/2009 3:22:44 PM
Gordon = kiss of death

FunkyMonkee

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Has flirting gone out of fashion? Posted: 11/19/2009 3:21:19 PM
There are a lot of insecure people masquerading as sour pus.

FunkyMonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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I think I've scared him big time, how to resolve this? Posted: 11/19/2009 2:17:43 PM
Stop being so coy. You are not 13 and neither is he.. Getting the cleaning lady to do your dirty business..tut tut.

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Apart From Metal. Posted: 11/2/2009 7:59:17 AM
Well said. I would personally add that a lot of the people drawn to musical extremes, particularly in their teenage years are often trying too hard to be different, self loathing or it simply isnt about the music its about the look and the scene. A lot of these hard forms are about shocking people and stickng 2 fingers up to the establishment. They may be seen as overtly negative rather than representing a positive (abeit just as likely to be naive etc etc) outlook thast say mainstream pop or less hardcore genres suggest. For me making yourself ugly and listening to music that most find ugly is the issue here far more than anything else. A lot of people will ask why you are drawn to that.

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Near death experience/Afterlife/Supernatural/ out of body! Posted: 11/1/2009 4:50:43 PM
Plenty of rational (if less exciting) explanations for these sorts of things... To understand the human propensity for spirituality or religion you need only understand the psychology of the Big Mac Meal. there is many an atheist thats had a conversion and vis a versa ....proves nothing really, other than the fact it happens.

funkymonkee

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Proper dates please Posted: 11/1/2009 4:45:56 PM
I think there is nothing wrong in having a preference but in my experience it is all too easy for people to pitch up with some romantic fantasy in their head or a huge chip on their shoulder. As long as you fall somewhere imbetween, are true to yourself and honest with the other person you are probably doing the right thing. You cant really beat yourself up when other people are off the mark in terms of their behaviour or expectations and you should expect to meet plenty of people like that that will have you questioning your own standards.

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Are parents immune to how annoying their kids are? Posted: 9/16/2009 1:09:15 PM
You need to know how to do Jedi mind tricks on kids, especially babies...

funkymonkee

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Patrick Swayze Posted: 9/16/2009 10:14:20 AM
He played some interesting roles and seemed like a nice guy...RIP fella....

funkymonkee

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Restless Legs Syndrome!!! Posted: 9/16/2009 9:44:44 AM
I have something that sounds a bit like that..... It is similar but not the same to the sensation you get with early pins and needles but more like the feeling you get in your stomach when your are doing something exciting...(ooo eeer)

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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First date - just like an interview Posted: 7/3/2009 8:24:33 PM
I never try and make a "perfect impression"

funkymonkee

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Dating a professional person Posted: 7/3/2009 10:46:08 AM
It is a life choice.. You can't have everything.

funkymonkee

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Wimbledon 2009...Will you be supporting Andy Murray? Posted: 7/3/2009 10:44:14 AM
Told u so .... aah well...

funkymonkee

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People who get in your head Posted: 7/3/2009 7:36:56 AM
She also loved wrecking guys heads. If you are given torture/interrogation training it is very hard to have your head wrecked by someone. in relationships we have to take responsibility for out own thoughts and "head" not blame other people who will most likely be on their own agenda, and deliberately or otherwise, be trying to "mess" with our heads. Very few people are capable of deliberately messing with someones head . You need drugs and a lot of training to do it, time or a very special set of circumstances AND the right subject. Most people are just being themselves and head wrecking is an unintentional side effect that other people use as an excuse for their own lack of self awareness/control.

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Good judge of character? Posted: 7/3/2009 7:32:53 AM
To be a relatively good judge of character you need to have gained a lot of experience of different people from all over the world and from different backgrounds. You then need the mental capacity to be able to process lots of information about people and the way humans behave. You need to be able to ask and take advice becasue you may not be looking at a person objectively becasue you have an alterior motive to view them, their behaviour in a certain way. Ergo ...most people are very poor judges of character even though they think they are good judges of character.. You have no hope in hell in judging someones character to any significant degree of asurity using a profile or a few dates... One thing i look at is peoples ability to cope with stress or things outside their comfort zone.. we all know most people have apublic and a private face. the voice changes they become relatively polite and express middle of the road or uncontroversial views etc..

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Wimbledon 2009...Will you be supporting Andy Murray? Posted: 7/3/2009 7:27:23 AM
COME ON ANDY........ OOO he's gonna loose .......

funkymonkee

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Owen to Man Utd Posted: 7/3/2009 7:26:54 AM
Owen will score goals if he gets the service.... Ferggie is not mad he just has an eye for a good player that can be used as an option at the highest level of the game..

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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heard on the raido Posted: 7/2/2009 6:06:10 PM
You are damned if you do, damned if you don't.

funkymonkee

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de-je-vu? Posted: 7/2/2009 11:15:34 AM
This is caused by one half of the brain working a split second before the other and happens more in young people when the brain is still developing. Sorry but you did not have past lives ! And because women think on 2 sides of their brain versus men one, women may experience it more than men... Then again we are apparently riding a piece of rock going round the sun so........

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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where a girl works... Posted: 7/2/2009 11:12:07 AM
Yes and no... You can find a lot of people that are not academic types are intimidated by people that are, and academic types that think anyone with a degree is as boring and shocked by the sight of an erect penis as they are, but it doesn't do to make assumptions about people based on their "job" People that are constantly wanting to study just for the sake of it are not very appealing. Someone that has no work history (without good reason) is not appealing. But that is just me..

funkymonkee

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Should I or should I not? Posted: 7/2/2009 11:01:07 AM
Revenge is good if she cheated on you and you can honestly say it wasn't something un reasonabnble you did. Just make it amusing and move on immediately. Alternatively forget and move on.. Trust me 2 years is nothing people cheat and deceive for years and ultimately someone who cheats is just showing their personality flaws...they are not going to change whatever relationship they get into (at best they will suppress them) Don't let these sorts of experiences make you bitter..learn something about yourself and go find someone that deserves you - and spoil them..

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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what does she want from me? help needed Posted: 7/2/2009 10:42:42 AM
Make up with her now then.... There are different ways to express discontent other than demanding someone doesn't talk to you for a month.... i can think of plenty of "fun" punishments...!!!

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Do you think I'm being dishonest? Posted: 7/2/2009 10:30:55 AM
Do what you like m8...better pics will probably get better results but thats only in terms of responses. I think it is a good idea in some respects..... Once you get to your target weight etc you can change, and see who responds then...

funkymonkee

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opinions needed plans broken Posted: 7/2/2009 10:27:12 AM
Dont play the game m8... She wants to date now she contacts you.....the ball is in her court....

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Relationships with children? Posted: 7/2/2009 10:25:27 AM
Yep... you have to grow up and acquire the relevant skills. Thenyou will be able to make the distinction between mums that are looking for a replacement dad and just want to slot someone into their life, and those that have a different balance.

funkymonkee

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Tall Girls who wear heels Posted: 7/2/2009 10:23:05 AM
Buy some stilts and wear them out on your next date...

funkymonkee

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Opinions please...... Posted: 7/2/2009 10:21:40 AM
Because when we do women beat us up about it.....we tend to have em, deal with em , go back to normal ...very quickly. i have no problem talking about my emotions.

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Am I wasting my time? Posted: 7/2/2009 10:19:38 AM
Don't play it cool at the expense of actually having some kind of a relationship....

funkymonkee

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How would a guy want to be told... Posted: 7/2/2009 10:18:35 AM
Smear your vagina in something sweet smelling and ask him to tuck in. Afterwards you can tell him his breath smells a lot better now...

funkymonkee

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karl malden Posted: 7/2/2009 4:26:00 AM
He was a good Actor....whiskey nose .....indeed ... or perhaps a perpetual cold.

funkymonkee

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Today will be hottest day of the year so far 33C!..... Posted: 7/2/2009 4:23:52 AM
I am on tennis today and until the end of the tournament. I have yet to work out a satisfactory way to sun bathe and watch TV at the same time ... I shall work on tanning for the rest of the summer if this weather lasts.... I love it when it is hot....and cold ....and wet and windy ..... sorts the men from the boys.....

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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How Do Kids Take To A Parent Dating Again? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:19:32 AM
Don't go too easy on children misbehaving over new relationships. Once they have been afforded sensitivity and had the situation explained fully to them in terms they are old enough to understand it is time to lead by example. Paying too much attention to their every whine and objection or overlooking bad behaviours is not going to help them or you. Children are very adaptable.

funkymonkee

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Can This Work? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:05:19 AM
I'm not sure how the kids dont work as your child is 3....can't really be any significant issues between the kids here. The kids behaviour is fairly standard fair (although understanding their behaviour and accepting it are not the same thing). You seem to have made your mind up his kids are not worth the effort...not a good sign of some of your thought processes and willing to parent really. Strictly speaking yes you and your B/f could have a relationship (of sorts) that has nothing to do with the kids although somehow I rather suspect you won't be farming your child off every time you want to see him.

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Is it cold feet? Posted: 7/2/2009 3:57:39 AM
I would have thought the getting to know you phase should include understanding his perspective as to why his marriage ended....we are all creatures of habit... if you haven't got to know that it begs the question what else of importance you haven't got to know about each other that might help in understanding what is going on here..

funkymonkee

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why is it called ask a girl? Posted: 7/2/2009 3:48:52 AM
Why is the earth round ?

funkymonkee

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Making that first contact. Posted: 7/2/2009 3:48:27 AM
Besides that I'm a simple person looking for that special someone that compliments me. This conjures up images of you bouncing up and down on a bed sucking your thumb saying "mummy do you like my nappy !"

funkymonkee

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Harry Potter Posted: 7/1/2009 6:25:42 PM
I have a theory of why she is into vampire films.

funkymonkee

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Does God exist? Posted: 7/1/2009 6:20:43 PM
How come god didn't tell any of the prophets that the world was round and there was much more of it than the middle East and the med...?

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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why would he do this to me? Posted: 7/1/2009 6:03:34 PM
Why is this guy kissing your daughter ? He is a mess - sounds like you are too (sorry to say that..) how can you love him ? Do you know what love actually is ? You are not doing you or your daughter many favours .

funkymonkee

Joined: 4/7/2009

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Is it cold feet? Posted: 7/1/2009 5:59:35 PM
Why did his last marriage end ?

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