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goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Profile jackers. Posted: 5/25/2006 10:20:04 AM
I think somehow someone jacked my profile and started responding in the forums as me. I've found posts that I did not type. Is it possible that someone on POF doesn't like me enough that they would sabotage my reputation by doing this? How is it possible for them to even have figured out my password? lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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oral sex - whipped cream and chocolate syrup ? Posted: 5/25/2006 10:16:24 AM
What the hell? Who is this using my profile? I've never used whipped cream, certainly not on a guy. lol. Did someone hijack my profile while I wasn't here? Is that possible?

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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oral sex - whipped cream and chocolate syrup ? Posted: 5/25/2006 9:29:41 AM
Mmmmm.... I'm going to like it here with the stuff you all talk about. lol. I've used whipped cream before on both guys and women when performing oral on them and everyone I've ever performed oral on loved it. Haven't used the chocolate syrup yet. Hopefully, I'll meet someone soon that will let me do that.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Naturally Wary - Positive or Negative Posted: 5/25/2006 9:04:56 AM
It's good as long as you leave some space open to allow for growth in the relationship. Cause, at some point, if they see you still have those walls up, they may feel it's too difficult to be with you and move on.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Are all prostitutes the same? Posted: 5/25/2006 8:18:37 AM
Or course, they aren't all the same. Some do it to support a drug habit. Some to support a small child as they can't find other work. Some because they've been sexually assulted as a young girl and see being used as a show of affection from men. There's all different reasons that people become prostitutes. I knew a guy that used to be "Gay for pay" they call it. He had a big drug habit. So, he sold himself. Now, that's different too as it's not a female doing the sex act for money, so yes not all are the same.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Help with flirting, please guys!! Posted: 5/24/2006 10:09:04 AM
Bigtrucker059 nailed it. There are men that will never get the picture. I've been direct with female friends that I was interested in them if they should ever choose to be more than just a friend, so why shouldn't you do that with him? Just say "Listen, I know we're just friends, but....." and you fill in the rest. No time to beat around the bush. Life is too f*ckin' short.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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put out or get out Posted: 5/24/2006 10:01:22 AM
Not defensive, just trying to get certain people to stop generalizing all people as being the same. I don't want to be painted with the same brush as others, for I am not the same as other people. Just because talk about sex doesn't mean all I want is sex and yes it angers me that people make the assumption that all of us are after sex like that's all we care about. I've not had sex in well over a year and I feel no need to have sex without first have a relationship, but we (I mean mostly us guys) get seen as wanting only sex because women have been out with the cretens that only want sex and think we're all the same. I'm disappointed in women that can't see the truth that there are still good, honest, relationship-seeking men in the world. Yet, it is us men that would treat them with decency and respect that get passed over and made to be their "Friend" rather than the bf they say they need. It's very sad that all men are judged by what some men do and that even if a man proves himself to be good, he's then deemed unfit to be a boyfriend because he's too nice. Too nice? That's a crock of sh!t and you know it just as much as I do. lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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put out or get out Posted: 5/24/2006 9:22:44 AM
I don't assume I'm getting sex simply because we meet after talking. I've met with a woman I consider a good friend in person many times and have even been to her house and we have yet to have sex. She just wants to be friends and I'm cool with that. So, don't judge us all as being the same. P.S. About the every thread being sexual. YOU'RE IN THE SEX AND DATING FORUM!!!! lol. DUH! Go to another forum like Relationships or Humor or something. Check out some of the nice poetry on the Poems and quotes forum. If you stay where people talk about sex, you're going to see alot of sex related threads. That's just common sense.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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I need GUY ADVICE!! Posted: 5/24/2006 7:46:28 AM
You did nothing wrong. He probably either got cold feet and didn't know how to say it to you or he got some rather bad information concerning you maybe and he's keeping distant for that reason. For him to not even try and explaing himself makes him, IMHO, an a$$hole, undeserving of your time wasted on him. I say move on and just don't give up on us guys, cause we're not all like that a$$hole. Good luck, honey.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Interesting information. Posted: 5/24/2006 7:32:58 AM
How about we try to actually learn a little here? Here are some things I've learned throughout my years. Hurricanes produce enough force that if one hurricanes power were harnessed and converted into electrical power, it could give enough energy to power the whole of the continental US for 3 whole years!!! If done correctly, using an eyedropper, you can place approximately 100 or so drops of water on the head side of a US penny. Pure amonia is much stronger than the cleaning products you buy and if you take so much as a half a sniff out of the bottle of pure amonia, you'll have a b!tch of a headache for about 3-4 hours afterward. lol. As we age, are taste buds actually lessen. This is probably why we can actually stomach eating liver and other gross foods when we're older. lol. A 300 lb man at a construction site can jump 6 ft. if he's fearful of breaking a board that he should otherwise use to walk across the ditch. lol. A 170 lb man should never attempt to lift the entire frame work of a wall by himself up to the second floor where it needs to be placed. Gravity has a way of pulling the board loose of the nails. lol. These are some things things I've learned in my years. Some are funny, but all are true.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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I have no idea what to do. Posted: 5/23/2006 9:22:17 AM
I don't think you're a sl*t, at all, and I'm sorry that others are being so cruel to you but if all you wanted him for was sex, you should have been more direct with him and told him that's all you wanted. How would feel if you were to be used by a man thinking he wanted you as his gf? Unfortunately, there may be no way of letting him know that you don't want a relationship with him without hurting his feelings, unless of course he feels the same way and only wants sex, in which case you won't hurt him at all by telling him. But, either way, you have tell him as to not lead him on, should he be looking for an LTR.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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sympathy or pity? Posted: 5/23/2006 8:42:29 AM
Empathy is one doesn't understand how you feel, but can see that you have validity in feeling that way and they are there to listen. Sympathy is when they do understand how you feel as they experienced the same feelings and they may be able to help you work through those feelings. Pity is when a person really can't stand to hear your sob story and could care less about you, but feels obligated to listen anyway. I'd rather die than ever be pittied. Falsely caring about someone is a form of leading them on. They think they have a friend in you and then suddenly, when the timings right, you won't be there anymore. That's not cool. If I genuinely couldn't care less about someone, I don't pretend to. It's a waste of mine and their time.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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having your wall up Posted: 5/23/2006 8:31:26 AM
I have no wall. Only a gaurd dog. If he likes you, you get in no problems. He also reserves the right to bite you even after you've gotten past him should you try and hurt me. lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Women...would you pay for sex with a man? Posted: 5/23/2006 7:50:36 AM
Real in waterloo, in kitten's defense, she did say any NORMAL woman could get sex when she wanted. I think that's true only because women seem less concerned about getting laid then guys do. Guys try to hard while women are just too good to say no to and don't really even have to try. I've many female friends and while I respect them and would never push the issue of sex with them, it wouldn't take much prompting on their part to get me to have sex with them. What kitten meant (IMO) is that women are more desirable to men than men are to women.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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overcompensating for a lack of something? Posted: 5/22/2006 6:48:20 AM
Yes, but guys that show a pic of their body and then have nothing in their profile are relying solely on the physical attributes to get them a woman. You are a different case as in the fact that you show what you're personality is like, you talk about your son in your profile, and you don't use the shirtless pic as your main or only pic. You are more than your body and you allow women to see that in your profile. Other guys, however, have used only body pics and have nothing in their profile to show that they are more than just a body. That shows a lack of confidence. I'd rather a woman like me for who I am, not how much I can bench press. When someone uses only their physical attributes to attract the oppisite sex, it shows, IMO, that they feel they don't have any other worth-while qualities. I feel the same way when a woman posts a pic, yet puts nothing about her personality in her profile. Physicality may get you attracted to someone, but if this person doesn't think themselves worthy in other ways, that lack of confidence will overshadow your attraction to them and you will become tired of being around them because you see that they are nothing more than a body. I prefer to become attracted to a woman by seeing who she is and if we clicked intellectually and I prefer that a woman see me for who I am rather than just using me for my body, as well. I've been used sexually before and I now look for something more meaningful. Now, If a man were to have a shirtless pic of himself along with others, that would show confidence, but if a shirtless pic is his main or only pic, than that says to me that he's feeling that's all he has to offer a woman. I did say the the guys on the beach were normal due to social conditioning though.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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overcompensating for a lack of something? Posted: 5/22/2006 6:30:32 AM
The pictures on here- I'd say that he's only secure in having his physical attributes for a woman and really feels that his physical attributes are the only assets he can offer a woman as he sees himself as not having other qualities. I can see that. Not saying that they are all that way, but could be the case with some of them. The beach thing is different. Of course most guys that go out to the beach are going to dress scantily due to the heat of the sun or they're trying to get a tan and of course they hang out with all their buddies just like the girls hang together cause it's human social interaction to stay in a group of the familiar. Most people are so egocentric, that they can only relate with people who have personality traits and physicality that match their own.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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he wont let masterbate in front of him...what is the matter with him?? Posted: 5/20/2006 9:53:32 AM
red5.... I'm imagining that very thing as we speak. She's truly a goddess. He's a moron. He just needs to get over himself and his past demons. If he don't, she could just find another guy to masturbate in front of. I'm free. Fancy a trip to the US, honeydreams? lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Bare or not? Posted: 5/20/2006 9:49:59 AM
It's all good, as far as I'm concerned, as long as she wears the right color to go with her complexion and knows to not wear too much, but I prefer natural lips.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Would you be better off in relationships, if you were the opposite sex? Posted: 5/20/2006 7:31:53 AM
I think I would be better off only because women are so against being in a relationship with a genuinely nice guy such as myself. I get banished to the "FRIEND ZONE" all to often and so far I've never been in a mutual relationship. The two relationships I had were the woman using me for sex or companionship and me trying to get her to commit to me. lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Best position for bigger people...... Posted: 5/20/2006 7:22:12 AM
I'm 5' 10" and when I was with my ex, I weighed 300 lbs. She was 5' 7" and weighed 205 lbs. and we never had a problem getting into any and every position humanly possible. I think we invented some new ones, even!!! Anyway, it's not about size. It's about wether or not the weight is proportioned evenly over the body, which would determine the amount of flexibility you may have.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Would it be unethical to have a relationship with your dental hygienist? Posted: 5/19/2006 7:06:38 AM
I see nothing unethical with dating that person as long as they are heretoafter no longer doing my dental work. It would feel then like I was paying her to be my gf. lol. So, I'd just get someone else to clean my teeth and I would begin to date her after we felt it appropriate.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Ok this something I was told is it true ? Posted: 5/19/2006 6:43:05 AM
It may be true in some cases but not in all cases. Women tend to be tighter there first time with a new man anyway due to be nervous. The vulva can contract and it can feel tight. Then, once the woman is comfortable, she may be looser. Also, there are certain medications that tighten the area. My Ex down south took allum (I think that's what is was) and she was incredibly tight seeing as how she was 39 and had 3 kids and been with at least 4 men in her life and been have sex since she was 14. So, it may be true for some women, your friend's theory, but it won't be true for all. My suggestion is to give her the benifet of the doubt, but watch more closely to other signs. If she has friends you haven't met, if she answers the phone and then begins to whisper, those are subtle things to look at. Good luck.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Are no men intrested in a heavy woman? Posted: 5/18/2006 10:57:29 AM
Well honey, this type of thread is utterly redundant and I've said it many times in various ways that I myself DO look to a woman's personality and would actually PREFER a bigger woman. I'm sure I can't be the only one. I also agree with STAIRWELL that you limit yourself to only black men and that is just as shallow as a guy not wanting you due to your weight.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Relationship or drama? Posted: 5/18/2006 10:35:01 AM
To hell with that. There are enough challanges in life. Relationships should be about getting away from the challenges the world throughs at us. I don't want to have a challenge, I want someone that understands me and wants to help me find some happiness away from the chaos of the outside world. I am just looking for an honest woman, preferably one that doesn't have an ex still hovering around so that the drama will be minimal if there is any. Also, being a nice quiet guy don't mean I can't get loud and party now and then and it don't mean I get walked all over by anyone, either. All being a nice guy means is being loyal, trustworthy, honest, and caring and not just cause you think you'll get laid. lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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ok heres one for the ladies Posted: 5/18/2006 10:27:27 AM
When you find a woman that you truly care for, she won't have to demand it of you to say "I love you" cause you'll want to. If you feel obligated to say those words, than you don't really care about her and should move on.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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why can't we start slow... Posted: 5/18/2006 9:56:58 AM
I totally agree. When I get involved with "her", I want it to be about more than just sex. I can use my hand until then. Stay strong Kay.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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When to give up the ghost; can the love that lingers long after good-bye ever really be exorcised? Posted: 5/18/2006 9:53:52 AM
That's not being in love with the person. That's loving and honouring the memory of the love once shared. It's ok to remember the love even while looking for a new, as long as you hold no hope to return to that old love you remember so well.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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the “take-it-b*tch” thing Posted: 5/18/2006 9:41:55 AM
vicilou, where on earth did you get that thong picture? LMAO. On topic, just letting a woman know what you intend to do to her next is good enough. She'll be inticipating it and the inticipation is what is the arousing part. Knowing that something is going to be done to you and waiting for it makes getting it that much better than if you were to just spring it on them without them being ready for it.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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The Ultimate Question? Posted: 5/17/2006 10:47:03 AM
Watch the movie "About a Boy" to learn why women ask men what they do for a living. You'll gain some insight and have a few laughs.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Male G-Spot or P-Spot???? Posted: 5/17/2006 10:10:44 AM
Call it whatever you like. No matter to me but the way it feels. lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Ouch! Posted: 5/17/2006 9:49:57 AM
When in the case of a relationship being started, if he did not want anymore kids it was up to him to let the woman know that. If he were to deny her the child rearing now, she may just leave him as it may be important to her to have kids and he should've thought about that before he hooked up with her.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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What do you have to bring to a relationship? Sounds so materialistic. Posted: 5/17/2006 9:26:16 AM
Bringing something to a relationship means you put in as much as you get in return so that you're not just there with someone. Doesn't mean material things. It means time spent and the personality you have. Let's face it, no one wants to be with someone they find boring and there's a huge difference between being WITH someone and occupying the same space.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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what are we all looking for ???? Posted: 5/17/2006 9:04:54 AM
I just think of this as bettering my chances of success. I've already met some women from this site and I'm taking things slowly in developing our relationships. They may only be friends, but one may take it to the next level and I'll just keep the others as just friends. If none of them ever become more than friends, then so be it, at least they are that much and it's good to have friends, ain't it?

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Commitments with out a Title Posted: 5/17/2006 7:32:43 AM
Truth is, it don't need a title. It is what it is. If two people want to spend the rest of their lives together, then no one can tell them they have to husband/wife or anything. Also, even if two were to be married and have the "title" to hold onto, that alone ain't going to keep them together if they should desire a split. It is whatever the two that are in it decide it to be and it's not for any outside people to say what it is, IMO.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Problems with the partners ex.... Posted: 5/16/2006 8:36:04 AM
You should relish in the knowledge that he was upfront with you about her contacting him and them talking. Just think of this as an oppurtunity to make her your friend and let her know how important he is to you. That may make her be a good thing for both you and your bf in the long run as you'll have some support in your trying to build your relationship and if she doesn't see it that way, then you know to be concerned.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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IS IDEAL REALITY? Posted: 5/16/2006 7:49:14 AM
In the 29 years I've been living, I've learned that nothing is ideal. lol. Everything and everyone has their flaws. It is those flaws that make living worth while, cause if everything were just ideal and perfect, this would be a boring f*cking world with some utterly dreadful boring people. lol. If women act according to what they suspect men expect of them, it's only cause they're reading those stupid magizines that fill their heads with BS just to make money in the cosmetics field and what not. Truthfully, there are men that could care less what you dress like, look like, act like, etc. As long as you're respectful of them and want their company and you have a good personality, that's all that is required. PUT DOWN THE COSMO DAMN IT!!!! lol. The greatest thing a woman can do to get me to like her is to listen to my opinions when I speak even if she doesn't agree and then to have something to say in return. Communication and intellectual debate or just simple conversation is the most important thing in a relationship, not what clothes you wear your what color shoes you have on. I've found myself that most women I find phisically appealing are airheads with nothing of interest to say cause they spend too much time on looking good and not enough on forming a real personality. lol. I'd much rather find a woman attractive on the inside cause that's what will last.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Would u be upset with your partner if.... Posted: 5/15/2006 11:30:47 AM
That response is only forgivable if it is followed by "You know I'm just kidding, right?" A better response would be "They don't print that much money." It's still comical and witty, but let's your S/O know how important they are to you at the same time.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Could use a tip here Posted: 5/15/2006 11:27:02 AM
What is this more that you aren't prepared to give? A relationship? Sex? Friendship? I think whatever it is, you know the answer and you're just looking for someone here to suggest the same so it releives you of being the bad guy. The truth is if you're uncomfortable, you ain't going to be doing her any favors by showing up cause you probably won't be very good company if you really don't want to be there. But, the choice is yours.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Help! I need some advice. Posted: 5/15/2006 11:10:06 AM
My feeling is by looking at your figure and hearing what you've stated that he'd be a fool to not be looking to have sex with you, but should respect your decision not to yet. I can't blame him and neither should you, for wanting you because you do have a tremendous body build and sex would be on any guys mind looking at you. But, what you need to see is wether or not he's able to wait. If he's able to wait until a few more weeks, months (depending on what you're comfortable with) then he'll wait and most likely he'll be there for more than just the sex, but if he continues to push the subject or just vanishes, then you know he was after you for the sex alone and didn't really want the relationship.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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guys....what can she do? Posted: 5/15/2006 9:15:25 AM
sayonara7- "doesn't seem too much work at all." No, us men are simple creatures, for the most part. lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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MEN THAT LOVE OTHER MEN WHILE THEY ARE MARRIED Posted: 5/15/2006 9:10:07 AM
A man that is married is off limits. If he truly loved you, he'd tell his wife and seek a divorce to be with you. If he chooses to stay married, then it's time to move on to another man.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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HOW DO MEN FEEL ABOUT SCARS? Posted: 5/15/2006 9:04:43 AM
Scars are superficial and I am not. They would not concern me. I've gone after women with tatoos before and a tatoo is just a scar that someone made on themselves on purpose. At least you have a valid medical reason to have your scars. I see nothing wrong with it. I say post your pic, cause eventually, you'll have to tell someone about your scars, anyway. Best to be upfront about it and not waste your time on guys that won't accept you as you are in the long run.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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i wish there were mail order mates Posted: 5/15/2006 9:00:18 AM
Carrie, are you talking about the old looking, gray-haired, CNN correspondent? You would buy him? I reall don't unerstand women. lol.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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guys....what can she do? Posted: 5/15/2006 8:50:59 AM
Indigo, only some men would take it for granted. It's up to you to find a man that will give as good as you give and to remind him that if begins to neglect you in those ways, that he'll be equally neglected. Truth is some men prefer to give their women and expect nothing in return. It's just nice when it's given cause then it shows she cares as much as they car for her.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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guys....what can she do? Posted: 5/15/2006 8:26:28 AM
A nice rubdown on my neck, shoulders, and back would feel really good. A wallet-sized picture of her spritzed with some of her perfume so that I can look at her and smell her whenever I like to get me through a work day. That would be good.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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The Wow Factor Posted: 5/13/2006 8:23:20 AM
If you were going for tragic sarcasm, you nailed it. Right in point. Yes, it's easier to focus soley on the physical, but then your left with an empty, meaningless sexual fling rather than a true loving, commited relationship that will be 1000 times more fulfilling.

goodguy4uladies

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Who's more picky, men or women? Posted: 5/13/2006 8:19:04 AM
Peachy, I DO hope you know you're speaking for yourself only here. lol. For some men, appearances don't matter as long as the woman has substance and if she doesn't have it, her being attractive ain't going to help her while some women care only about appearance. Don't ever try to categorize us by our genders, cause there are always those that will disprove that theory.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Who's more picky, men or women? Posted: 5/13/2006 7:57:10 AM
In an on-line dating service, yes women are more picky and they should be. There alot of dangerous people out in the world. Women need be more picky and more cautious, cause let's face it, most sexual assaults are a man assaulting a woman. The other side of this is that women in a relationship are the ones who will become pregnant and they certainly don't need a man who can't support them financially for the period of time that they are out of work rearing the children. Now, some women do push the envelope a little too far, expecting maybe to be taken care of the rest of there lives, even as the kids don't need them at home and they could work. Or some women expect every man they're with to be wealthy, caring, dependable, a good father, and still be able to look like Pierce Brosnan or George Clooney. Lol. Now, that's unrealistic.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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The Wow Factor Posted: 5/13/2006 7:40:57 AM
Actually, the "Wow" can be purely non-physical in some cases. I've met women on-line that did not have pics. There was no physical attraction involved and yet I knew that we'd be perfect for eachother. Most unfortunately though, they live in other areas. I've met a couple though that just want to remain friends in my area and while they are not very physically appealing, I would overlook that do to the fact that we get along so well on other levels. I don't think the "Wow" has to be physical at all. For some, it would maybe, but it can also be, "Wow, that's the best conversation I've ever had with a woman." Cause let's face it, communication is key to a healthy relationship. You can want them sexually, but if they're an airhead, eventually you're bored with them and move on.

goodguy4uladies

Joined: 1/23/2006

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who comes first? friends or boyfriends??? Posted: 5/13/2006 7:27:49 AM
That's divided loyalties. You must remain nutral. If they can't respect that you don't want to be in the middle of their fued, then you should depart from both relationships until they work out their own matters. Once their issues are resolved, then you may rekindle the flame with your bf as long as he understands and respects that his ex-friend, should they not reconcile thier friendship, will still be your friend. You have a loyalty to them both and neither of them can respect that, them you shouldn't have a loyalty to either of them. Now, if you had known one longer than the other, only one was asking for you to not see the other, or you were married, My resonse may be different, but in your current situation, it's got to be both of them or neither.

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