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wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Suggestions on how to make a girl I'm seeing who's sick feel better Posted: 11/18/2009 3:20:22 PM
I'd send her an e-mail or a text asking if there's anything you can do to help her feel better, then suggest a few things you could do to help (ie: stop by with some soup/cough drops/a book or a movie for her to read or watch if she can't sleep/a hug). By coming up with a few things that you think might help you're showing your thoughtful side, and by asking if there's anything you can do you give her the opportunity to say "Oh that's so sweet but I think I'll just tough it out" or she could say "Thanks so much I've been wanting to watch The Proposal but haven't had time. Want to come over and watch with me? Just bring your surgical mask and hand sanitizer so you don't get my germs."

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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A question for a girl Posted: 11/12/2009 3:17:57 PM
You could always ask which photo is most recent. Although like the other posters said, you probably won't get a reply given the quality of your profile. But for other men, that would probably be a better way of asking...

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Do you look at forum posts when considering men? Posted: 11/11/2009 7:22:51 PM
When POF used to have the last few posts a person made at the bottom of a profile, and I noticed a guy used the forums I would check out his posts, and a few times the posts they made caused me to lose interest completely. There was one in particular who said some pretty nasty things about women in his forum posts. His profile was perfectly nice, his posts? Not so much. Had I not seen his posts I may have dated him, but his forum posts revealed a nasty side of him, and I was glad I saw that before I got too involved. I've also had the opposite happen though, where I've seen a guy's posts on the forums and that made him more attractive to me.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Why The Girl I'm Seeing Won't Add Me On Facebook Posted: 11/2/2009 4:51:21 PM
Some people are selective about who they add to facebook, partly because the amount of personal info, or maybe because they've had people abuse their facebook. I'm a little leery of adding some people, especially those I don't know well because they've posted inappropriate things on my facebook page, and I have family (including my mom) on there....

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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whats the best way to reject a woman Posted: 11/2/2009 2:49:09 PM
Thanks for the message but I'm not interested. Good luck with your search.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Whats better Online or real dating Posted: 10/22/2009 5:54:50 PM
I personally find it easier to meet men online than in real life, for a few reasons. First, I don't know where to meet men, second I'm pretty shy and third, I don't really do anything where I can really meet guys.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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New Trend: Trash the Wedding Dress Posted: 10/9/2009 10:32:47 PM
Another thing you can do with that old wedding dress? There are companies that will take them and make them into burial gowns for babies who have died, whose family cannot afford something nice to bury them in, especially if the mother/baby had a lot of medical bills due to the complications from whatever caused the baby's death...

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Why are we single? Posted: 10/4/2009 4:44:26 PM
I'm single because the guys I like don't like me and the guys who like me, well I don't like them.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Returning a gift? Posted: 10/4/2009 5:08:18 AM
Hello fellow fishies, I was hoping you could help me out with a sticky situation. I recieved a lovely reed diffuser air freshener thingie for my birthday from a friend (not a particularly close friend either). Problem is, it's a scent I'm allergic to. Any way to tactfully call her up and ask where she got it so I can return it or something? Or should I just let it collect dust unopened in the closet until I can re-gift it? Or what?

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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How can I attract intelligent women? Posted: 10/4/2009 4:57:31 AM
I agree, intelligent women are attracted to intelligent men for the most part so you either have to switch your bait (ie: make a profile that shows you're intelligent) or switch ponds (ie: hang out where you are most likely to find intelligent women, maybe attend some university classes, hang out at the library, things like that).

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Understanding Hypocrisy Posted: 7/9/2009 5:31:41 PM
I used to smoke, quit awhile ago, dated a guy who was a smoker after I quit and what a turn off that was. His clothes, hair and skin always smelled gross. And even after brushing his teeth and rinsing with listerine I could still taste it on him and it was disgusting. Its not hypoctritical to want someone who isnt judgemental and not want to date a smoker, theyre probably not doing this on moral grounds, but because the smell bothers them. For all you know as well they may be allergic to cigarette smoke which is why they dont want to date a smoker....

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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so the case of CFS vs racist parents has started... Posted: 6/25/2009 5:26:14 PM
Apparently the other concers are the fact that the mother showed up late to a parent-teacher conference with the smell of alcohol on her breath, told the teacher she was late for the appointment because she had to stop for some beers, drove to said conference with the child in the car. Both the mother and the step father have admitted to smoking pot in front of the children as welll.

wpg_chick_84

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Would you date a guy with less-than-perfect (but not terrible) teeth? Posted: 6/19/2009 7:10:34 PM
If it's an issue of slightly crooked teeth, fine. Mine aren't perfect either. But if it's more an issue where the teeth are not taken care of properly (ie: severly discoloured, rotten, nasty breath etc) then not so cool. Braces for slightly crooked teeth that aren't causing any problems seems like a waste of money if you ask me....

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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I will marry you if...... Posted: 6/11/2009 7:24:20 PM
#1 This is an old one but, the crime still continues to this day: Just let the man have the remote, please, you don't understand what it does to us. Sure, I'll give you the remote, but you have to keep it on the channel I want to watch. #2: We men hafta put up with some seriously despicable things so, regardless of the volume, don't touch the stereo! If it's not making it impossible to hear what I'm listening to/making it difficult to concentrate on whatever I'm trying to concentrate on or it's hurting my ears, the music can stay how it is. Otherwise, turn it down.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Peregrine Falcons – Chicks on the Way! Posted: 6/4/2009 4:02:21 PM
Apparently they made the new nest a lot better, they built up the ledge a bit and made the ledge and the nest easier to drain, so hopefully we won't have a repeat of the sad events of last year...

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Golf Anyone!!!! Posted: 6/4/2009 3:59:35 PM
Own set of clubs huh? That means you guyz are wayyy too good for me to come out other than to heckle and snicker! Shooters on Main has fairly reasonable green fees, and you can rent clubs there. It might be worthwhile having a POF golf game there so that those who don't have clubs can still come....

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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What's your definition of a workaholic? Posted: 6/3/2009 5:43:01 PM
I think it really depends. You can work 35 hours a week and still be a workaholic if all you think about and talk about after work is work. You can work 60+ hours a week and if work stays at work and you have time to go out and have fun every so often then you're not a workaholic.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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June 5, 2009 4:30 - 9:00 PM Baja Beach Club Patio (alternate Finn McCue's) Posted: 6/3/2009 5:35:47 PM
I'm hoping that maybe this week I'll finally be able to come to my first POF event... Does anyone know about parking around there? Is it free after a certain time anywhere near by?

wpg_chick_84

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Golf Anyone!!!! Posted: 6/3/2009 5:28:42 PM
My goal for the summer is to golf more and get to the beach more. It only takes one outing to the beach and 2 games of golf to beat last year. So let me know if there may be a POF golf game on a weeknight or weekend and I'll see if I can come!

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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May 29, 2009 4:30 PM Baja Patio (Alternate Finn McCue's) Posted: 5/25/2009 9:41:46 PM
Hmm, I don't get off work until 8, so I probably won't make it to this one, but I'll try to get out to one this summer!

wpg_chick_84

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May 29, 2009 4:30 PM Baja Patio (Alternate Finn McCue's) Posted: 5/25/2009 9:05:32 PM
Just curious, how late do these things usually last? And do you guys still have the fish balloon so people know who you are?

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Not good with holidays... Posted: 5/21/2009 12:01:41 AM
An aknowlegement of the occasion (ie: a card) is nice in addition to a slightly nicer than usual gift/date is generally enough. If you normally buy her half a dozen roses, get her the full dozen type thing. If you normally do dinner or a movie, do dinner and a movie. Instead of agreeing on a movie or restaurant that you both like, take her to her favourite restaurant or to a movie she really wants to see. It doesn't have to be huge, just a small step up from normal. And FYI: gifts all the time aren't necessary. Doing this you're really just setting yourself up for this situation where there's not really anything special you can do for special occasions.

wpg_chick_84

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Whats your favorite thing a guy could do for you? Posted: 5/20/2009 11:43:17 PM
Notice when things are different and comment on it, but be genuine about it. Telling her that you love her hair every single time she has a slightly different hairstyle (ie: straight down one day, ponytail the next day, curls the day after). If she normally wears her hair the same way all the time (ie: she wears it in a ponytail 95% of the time) and she does something different (curls) that's a good time to say something. Also, pay attention to her tone of voice/body language. If she seems upset, ask her about it. Pay attention to what she says. I always thought it was sweet when my ex would text me to ask how exams went and stuff like that. We were in school together, he knew what courses I was taking and we'd often talk about school stuff. There was even one time where we hadn't really had time to talk, he looked up my courses on the exam schedule and he texted me to wish me luck just before the exam. I hadn't told him about it, and it was sweet that he took the time to look up when my exams were. Do little things to show you pay attention to what she has to say. Maybe she'll mention a different restaurant she'd like to try in a conversation or talk about the opening of an exhibit at a museum she wants to see. Keep that info in mind when planning a date and see if she wants to do that with you. The little things that show you pay attention make a lot of difference...

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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what should i do about messaging? Posted: 5/20/2009 11:35:39 PM
1) Do a thread search for this. 2) Use proper spelling and grammar (this includes capitalization). 3) Get a profile review.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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so why look for love, and not give people a shot? Posted: 5/20/2009 11:20:48 PM
I personally think the photos with the white in them aren't that great. But photos to stay away from: 1) topless photos 2) topless photos take with your cell phone in the bathroom mirror. These are probably the worst because it makes you look like you're trying to show off but don't have any friends who can take a photo of you, which make you seem like a huge loser 3) photos of you with other women, even if they are your cousin/best female friend/sister/mother whatever, just avoid them. Photos to have: 1) at least one close up head shot, no sunglasses or anything obstructing your face, so we can get a good idea of what you look like. This should preferably be of you smiling. 2) at least one full body shot so we can tell if you're being truthful about your body type. Men are just as bad at putting 'average' when they're clearly very overweight as women are. Smiling in this photo is good too. 3) A few photos showing your interests (ie: if you play golf a lot, post a photo of you golfing). Also, don't assume it's the photos. You do need to have a pretty outstanding profile and first e-mail to get a reply, especially from women who are getting a lot of mail. If you're not sure if your profile is up to par, head over to the profile review forum. And then search for 'first e-mail' or 'initial contact' or something like that to find threads about this.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Why?? Posted: 5/18/2009 8:55:47 AM
It's not up to you to tell them what to do with your messages. Chances are they might not even be reading that far. Bottom line: If she replies, she's interested, if she doesn't then there's a 99.99% chance she's not interested. It can't get much clearer than that.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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What's with pictures with a bed in the background? Posted: 5/18/2009 8:54:20 AM
I think the only ones with subliminal messages are the guys who post photos of them showing off their muscles in the bathroom mirror that they took with their cell phone. Message? "Hi, I'm a loser with no friends to take a photo of me but maybe if I take my shirt off or put on a wife beater and flex my muscles and take a photo of myself with my camera phone in the bathroom mirror women will think I'm hot."

wpg_chick_84

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College guys dating high school girls? Posted: 5/18/2009 8:17:41 AM
1) women mature faster than men. So a 17 year old girl has about the same maturity as a 20 year old guy. 17 year old boys on the other hand are about as mature as a 7 year old. I don't know about you, but I personally wouldn't want to date anyone much less mature than me. 2) I'd double check the legal age of consent. Where I live it's 14. Which means the day a girl turns 14 she can leally have sex with any one she wants. It could be the college kid next door, or it could be the college professor next door.

wpg_chick_84

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I Have An Interesting Question About Rejection Posted: 5/17/2009 8:41:56 PM
Yep, been rejected by men a lot on this site. Majority of the time, they don't reply to my messages. But I don't know if they read/delete or just delete or what because I don't check my sent box. It would be nice if they could send a little note to say "Thanks, but I'm not interested." but if they don't I don't have a problem with it.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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What do you think of his ride? Posted: 5/16/2009 10:50:16 PM
It depends a lot on the specifics. There's a guy I know who lives in a tiny little itty bitty 1 bedroom house and has a car that's worth more than the house. To me, that seems like someone who has messed up priorities. He also complains about how he's always broke because his car payments are so much. Well duh, that's what you get for buying a $150,000 car! Same with men who think it's cool to buy a Cavalier or a Sunfire and spend more on after market parts on it than the car is worth. If you want a performance vehicle, don't buy an economy car!!!! Oh and if you think it's cool to have a stereo where I can hear you from 3 blocks away, not cool either. I'm also not a huge fan of Hummers or really big trucks for city dwellers. I really don't see why anyone needs one who does all their driving in the city. If you spend a lot of time at the lake and have to haul a boat around/have a camper that hooks up to your truck or something like that, or if you work on a farm/in construction (or are a DIYer and haul a lot of stuff around for home renovations), yeah it's fine, but why buy a great big truck that's hard on gas if you're just driving to your office job? Doesn't make sense.

wpg_chick_84

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What is Your Pet Peeve About Driving On Public Roads/Highways? Posted: 5/16/2009 9:39:19 PM
I have a new one that hasn't been discussed. People who will proceed into an intersection, even though traffic on the other side of the intersection is backed up to the intersection. There was one day I was coming home on the bus. It was the first vehicle at the intersection, going eastbound, but southbound traffic was backed up (rush hour). The southbound light would turn green, people would go, but would not be able to get all the way across the intersection because of traffic being backed up. The bus sat through 6, yes six, green lights because the southboud traffic was not able to clear the intersection before our light turned red again. I also hate cyclists who will pull up to the front of the line of traffic at a red light. I just had to pass you, I don't really want to do it again, so kindly stop at the last car, don't just go right past all the stopped cars. And then a few about being a pedestrian. Drivers do not seem to like to stop at crosswalks. Even the ones where you press the button and the lights start flashing. People don't stop at them. There has been days where it has been -40 outside and I have had to press the button 2-4 times because the first time I press it no one stops, and the lights stop flashing. Yes, I could just start walking as I have activated the signal, but in a 'fight' between a pedestrian and a car, the car usually wins. Then there's also the people who don't stop at the stop sign, they stop after the sidewalk, blocking it off. And it would be pretty nice if in -40 weather if motorists could take a look at intersections to see if there are any pedestrians waiting to cross, stop and let them cross, even if there is no stop sign. When I was in junior high/high school I had to walk home from school, and it was a pretty lenghtly walk to have to do in -40 weather (20-30 min). The area I live in has very few stop signs on my route home. If there was a lot of traffic I would often have to stand and wait a few minutes to cross the road. Which in normal weather, not so bad, but when exposed skin can freeze in 2 minutes, I'm outside bundled up as much as can be and you're in your nice heated car, it might be nice to let the pedestrians have the right of way.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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work... Change or Try Harder? Posted: 5/16/2009 8:47:29 PM
Well I would have been investing a lot of my commission money when things were good into a savings account so that I had enough money to sustain myself for several months first of all. I'd start looking for new clients if the old ones are leaving. I'd work harder at keeping the ones I do have. And I'd be finding a second job, even if it's part time.

wpg_chick_84

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VW new beetle Posted: 5/16/2009 8:38:48 PM
Anyone know much about these cars? I'm car shopping right now, I found a super cute little '99 beetle, 90,000 km on it (which is pretty low for a '99). It's in nearly perfect condition (a wee scratch on the back near the license plate, the steering wheel has a wee spot were the paint is worn off, the inside door handles have a wee bit of wear on them). It's super fun to drive. The dealership is giving me winter and summer tires for it (which is good as I live in a city where it was snowing yesterday... and well actually there's snow on the ground for 1/2 the year). Only problem is, it's the same price or more as the 2005-2006 cobalts/G5/Echo's I've been looking at. It's close to 9,000 (Canadian dollars, $7,500 US), and pretty much fully loaded. Automatic, air, cruise, power windows, power trunk. About the only thing it doesn't have is a sunroof and a CD player (it does have a casette player). I looked it up in the blue book and it is a wee bit over the blue book value. I really only know one person who knows much about cars (my father) and he keeps giving me contradictory advice and is really confusing me, and I honestly don't know what to do anymore.....

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Couch to 5K Posted: 5/7/2009 2:09:10 AM
I was just wondering if anyone know anything about this program at all? I'm looking for a way to get some more physical activity in life, and was thinking about taking up running as it seems like a pretty cheap way to get more active. I do walk every day, but want to step things up a notch and am thinking about doing a 5K in late summer/early fall, but I know there's no way I can run it now. And to be honest I have a couple lbs that I wouldn't mind losing.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Why would she give me her number and not answer the call? Posted: 5/7/2009 2:02:50 AM
1) something may have come up that evening. Most women I know, myself included, are not going to sit around waiting for a man to call. She told you to call after 5, you called her at 6 (which for most people I know is dinner time). Were you seriously expecting her to sit around for an hour just waiting for your call? I'm not saying that you had to call her EXACTLY at 5, but you still should not expect a woman to just sit around waiting for your phone call. 2) You need to give her time to actually return your call. If she asked you to call after 5, it's possible that she did wait a little bit for your call, or maybe got a call from a friend/family member asking her to do something that evening, perhaps dinner and a movie or something else that would take up the entire evening. As she was with said friend/family member if she's a decent woman, she wouldn't want to be rude and answer her phone/check her voicemail/return a phone call that could be somehwhat long (or even one that would be short). Then by the time she got home it was possibly too late to call. And now it's the next day it seems. She most likely is not going to wake up early to call you (as she would not want to wake you early) nor is she going to take time off work to make personal calls. She could call on a break, but that's not likely as most people if they have co-workers they like will want to converse with them, plus chances are you don't have the same break time as she does, so by her calling you it will just create a game of phone tag. 3) I think you blew it by calling her again so soon. I personally would wonder why on earth a person would call me twice in such a short span of time. Do you think she has no life? Is she to be at your beck and call 24/7? No? Then calling her so soon and not giving her a chance to call back is sending the wrong message.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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I need your honest opinions ? Posted: 5/7/2009 1:44:54 AM
One thing I noticed is you say you're looking for intelligent women, but your profile has a lot of awkward sentences and grammatical errors. Not to be nitpicky, but you have plenty of time to edit your profile (read: spell check it). By not doing so you are coming off as somewhat lazy/unintelligent/too busy to put any effort into your profile, and these are not attractive qualities. Generally intelligent people enjoy the company of other intelligent people and it is somewhat unrealistic to expect to find a mate with qualities that one does not possess, especially when it comes to things like looks/intelligence/humor/wealth etc. Also, based on the photos you have posted, you do not appear to be average, but more likely a few extra pounds or possibly Big and Tall. I would highly suggest posting at least one recent full body shot so that one can truly determine if you do have an average body type or are more in a larger category. I personally would far rather date a man who is honest about the fact tha he carries some extra weight than one who denies that they have extra weight/who feels he has to hide it/who outright lies about it, and I'm sure a lot of women feel the same way.

wpg_chick_84

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What's a Good Opening Line for a Message? Posted: 5/7/2009 1:36:39 AM
A good opening line is one that displays your personality, and no offence, it's not a good idea to go around asking women what they want because if you don't acutally have it, when the 'true you' comes through, you could end up getting hurt/end up hurting someone. Best advice though? Before you message someone you should make sure you would actually be interested in dating them. If all you're attracted to are her photos, and you send her a generic, one line "Hey how are you?" message, it's probably not going to work out. But if you can get a conversation going, especially about mutual interests, then you'll have better luck. And the only way to really do this is to actually closely read her profile and by asking relevant questions.

wpg_chick_84

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how comes men here message alot at first? Posted: 5/7/2009 1:31:42 AM
I find that a lot of men, especially on this site are very eagar to meet right away. Many of them are not willing to exchange a lot of messages. And if you don't appear to display enough interest, they will quickly move on to the next woman. If you find this is happening a lot to you, perhaps it would be best to be a little more forward with men you are interested in a little sooner (ie: mention that you are interested in meeting sometime). If you are not reaching the point where you are interested/comfortable enough to meet you can still take steps to get that way, initiate conversations with men you chat with on here more often, start asking questions where if you get the 'right' answers you'll be comfortable meeting them. Start taking matters into your own hands.

wpg_chick_84

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Can Girls/Women feel dis-advatanged? Posted: 5/7/2009 1:09:41 AM
Women actually have a lot of disadvantages when it comes to dating. I'm lucky, I do have a lot going for me (I'm young, considered by many to be attractive, not overweight, don't smoke, have a good job, my finances are in order, never married, no kids, etc etc) and would be considered a pretty good catch, if I'm allowed to say so myself. But I have found that there are a lot of hurdles when it comes to dating. There are two main ones that you didn't bring up: 1) The first major hurdle I think a lot of women face in the dating world is the d@mned if you do, d@mned if you don't mindset a lot of men have when it comes to sex. If you go too far sexually too early, you're easy, a slut and not serious dating material. If you hold off too long, you're frigid and boring and men lose interest. Either way, it's a very easy way for a woman to end up hurt, especially since the majority of women (at least the ones I know) prefer to wait until there are feelings start to develop before entering into a sexual relationship with a man. And there seems to be a very fine line between the two, which varies from man to man. And men don't give out very clear signals as to when they will deem you a slut/frigid. There's also the unfortuante players out there who know all the right things to say and do to shall we say 'persuade' or 'manufacture' feelings of affection to the point where one would be interested in pursuing a sexual relationship with said player. And once a player gets what he wants, he quickly dumps the woman, leaving her hurt. Which is unfortunate as it quite often ruins things for other men. 2) Going along with #1 is the whole "what's good for the gander is not good for the goose". It generally seems acceptable for men to go around enjoying many different women sexually, in fact it is encouraged by society, and men, at least young men, who do so are generally celebrated by their peers. If a woman were to do so, especially if she were to do so openly, she would be deemed a slut and looked down upon.

wpg_chick_84

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Best Gift Ever.. Posted: 4/30/2009 3:54:19 PM
Worst gift? My ex spent more on an anniversary gift than the pre-determined amount because he knew he wanted to break up with me and felt bad about it. And then he didn't break up with me or tell me anything was wrong until almost a month later, even though I asked. Best gift? Well it wasn't from a bf/significant other, but my parents bought me pearls for graduation as a gift from my grandmother's estate. Best gift I've given? mp3 player that I pre-loaded with a bunch of his fave songs, and a few of my fave songs that I recently discovered and thought he'd like as well.

wpg_chick_84

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Ladies can you tell me Posted: 4/30/2009 3:47:08 PM
1) Thread search is your friend. Please search for things like 'first e-mail' or 'initial contact' and find out what you're doing wrong. 2) The profile review forum is your friend. Your profile needs an overhaul. 3) Spellcheck is your friend. There are several errors in your profile (and your post) and based on that I'm guessing that there are most likely errors in your e-mails. I personally see poor spelling and grammar, especially in profiles that you can take several days to go over, edit, re-vamp, a sign of stupidity, laziness, being too busy to put any effort into the site/finding a mate, and none of those traits are attractive.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

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Grammer VS Content Posted: 4/30/2009 3:43:26 PM
I don't mind a small typing error or the odd misspelled word, but more than two or three errors tells me you're: a) lazy b)too busy to take half a minute to proofread your profile/e-mail c) stupid d) some combination of the above. And none of those traits are attractive. A man who's so lazy he can't put any effort into writing his profile/e-mails is probably going to be too lazy to leave those sweet little love notes or to work on a relationship. A man who's too busy, well same thing. As for stupidity, well I like intelligent men. And yeah I get that people have learning disabilities, but with dictionaries and spell check and things like that there's no excuse for a profile full of spelling and grammatical errors. If you have a learning disability and you don't use the tools available to you to help improve your spelling and grammar/correct your mistakes then THAT makes you stupid (or lazy).

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Stopped messaging Posted: 4/29/2009 5:16:19 PM
Maybe she's waiting to get her work schedule or something. I'd give her at least three days. If she doesn't reply by then, message her again and ask if she's interested in meeting up sometime, suggest a couple days/times and things to do. If she doesn't reply, then she's not interested.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

Stopped messaging Posted: 4/29/2009 5:05:33 PM
When did you send this e-mail?

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

Am I doing something wrong? Posted: 4/25/2009 8:42:39 PM
2. Though it might be true that most women won't like the things that I do, I would rather find a girl who appreciates or at least accepts those things. I shouldn't have to deny who I am just to get a girl. But would it really hurt to expand your horizons a little beyond sci-fi shows/movies and video games?

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Why do women not answer the initial contact? Posted: 4/25/2009 8:15:35 PM
Women on this site don't owe you a single thing. 95% of the mail I get on this site is from men who clearly didn't even take the chance to read my profile. Do I really owe them a response when they just looked at my photo and thought "Hey, she's cute I'll e-mail her a generic 'hey how r u? ur cute. wanna chat? my msn is blablabla' e-mail and she if she responds because if she does in some way that means she's interested." So I did respond with a polite "Thanks for the message, but I'm not interested. Good luck with your search." I then get 1 of 2 message back most of the time: 1. "why aren't u interested? ur really losing out. im a great guy, jus give me a chance." 2. "whatever ur a fat ugly b**** wat makes you think i'd be interested anyways?" These are direct quotes by the way from actual e-mails I've received (I've removed the e-mail address obviously). Oh and the answer to #1 by the way? They'd know if they had actually read my profile.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

what am I doing so wrong Posted: 4/25/2009 8:01:16 PM
1. Crappy photos. Seriously, what's with the photo of you posing next to a gravestone? 2. Crappy profile lacking completely in content. 3. You use poor spelling/grammar. 4. The username is very sexual. No woman in her right mind who is looking for a serious relationship would respond to someone with a username like that.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Am I doing something wrong? Posted: 4/25/2009 7:59:02 PM
1. the look you're going for? You know the long hair and the trying to grow facial hair? Not really working for you. I know very few of my friends who would really be all that physically attracted to you. The clothes don't help. 2. Most women that I know do not like geeks/nerds. In fact for a lot of women a man whose hobbies revolve around gaming is a pretty big turn off. And that seems to be about all you really have to say in your profile. 3. You claim you don't drink, but in your one photo it looks like you're chugging a beer. So that kind of makes you look like a liar, and that's a pretty unattractive trait as well. In fact it's probably the #1 turn off for 99% of the population (male and female).

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

Piercings and Tattoo's! Posted: 4/24/2009 6:36:06 PM
I think it depends on a lot of thing. I've dated guys with a lot of tattoos and it looked good on them, I've dated guys with just a few tattoos that didn't suit them.

wpg_chick_84

Joined: 1/23/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Losing your Job........ Posted: 4/17/2009 8:54:42 AM
Lack of ambition is a HUGE turn off. As for being unemployed, it depends on a few factors. Like if he is actively looking for a job (out job hunting every day), going to school or something like that it wouldn't be too bad. But I work every day and it would annoy the hell out of me to come home and call the guy I've been dating and have him be all "Yeah I slept in, woke up, watched some tv, hung around the house blablabla" everyt day. It would annoy the hell out of me. Not to mention the fact that technically I'm paying for him to do that since I pay into the unemployment fund on every paycheque. I think that fund should only be used for people who REALLY need it, those who are working hard looking for a job. If you're too lazy to get a job, you don't deserve it. Mooching is not attractive.

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