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chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 15 (view)

Do we expect more? Posted: 11/22/2009 7:59:03 PM
And how do you find them when some people are acting totaly differant than they do in real life? I am the same person both on and off my computer, if someone finds me and wants me for the woman I am then I "know" it's a good thing.. It's not because of lies that have been told.. know what I mean? I can't say that I do know what you mean. I've been on the internet for several years and have found most people to present themselves, 95% of the time, very accurately. At least the ones I have met from online. Those who I didn't meet I guess I'll never know.

chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Do we expect more? Posted: 11/22/2009 7:30:43 PM
I have a great life, and am really happy just sort of would like to find someone now that I am getting a bit older to share the happy times with.. know what I mean? Seems a shame so many people just can't seem to simply be happy without a mate,I mean if your not happy with yourself and have to pretend to be someone your not online.. Will you ever find someone to be happy with? And you have just answered your own question. Many are happy with themeselves and are not willing to settle for less.

chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Why do men seem distant? Posted: 11/19/2009 1:44:50 PM
Why do men seem distant after telling you how they feel about you? We're just getting ready in case you are thinking about slugging us. Geeeez people analyze things to death.

chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Why can't I just move on? Posted: 11/19/2009 1:11:35 PM
CassaGo said: Get together with some girlfriends and trash-talk him. It works for me. All guys who have dumped me are azzholes, even if they're really nice guys. You forgot stupid. Stupid azzholes.

chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 41 (view)

Current girlfriend keep insisting on meeting my ex...Drama Drama Drama!!! Posted: 11/19/2009 1:04:35 PM
They both seem to be acting like children to me. Tell them that you will be glad to introduce them to each other once they grow up.

chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 26 (view)

why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/19/2009 11:52:38 AM
Well I can't speak for you OP, but us guys need someone to remind us what dogs and losers we men are. We some times forget.

chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

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I saw my ex's new woman/I don't know what I feel Posted: 11/15/2009 7:45:14 PM
OP- You are still hurting from the break-up and not as "over" it as you might think you are. That's why you let the whole incident get to you like it did. You're not anymore inferior than any of the rest of us. Think about some of your own criteria you listed on your profile. You don't want to date a smoker. You don't want to date someone farther than 75 miles from you. Being that you are 5'3" I bet you wouldn't want to date some scrawny 5'0" guy either. You list that you are looking for a man, so I guess that rules out women, huh? Do you think all of these people are inferior? Possibly, but they shouldn't. Next time someone doesn't accept you as "their type" just remember you do the same thing. None of us can expect everyone is going to want us as is. You mention that you were in a 24 year off and on relationship in the OP. Being that you are 39 that would mean you were 15 when you first started seeing the guy? Were you always a BBW or is this something that happenned while you were dating. If weight was a dealbreaker in the relationship, how is it that the relationship went on for 24 years. Didn't it come up before?

chancesrmd

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 26 (view)

Man-shy Posted: 11/15/2009 7:12:10 PM
I can relate. I imagine if I were to run into Angelina Jolie alone in the elevator I would be a shy too. For a few seconds before I realized I had a rare opportunity and I should at least talk to the girl. Just saying

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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When do I ask again, or do I? Posted: 11/12/2009 11:34:51 AM
So you fell for an Aussie did you? Just remember the old internet dating rule, it aint real until you actually meet. You really have no idea of knowing what the secret is. Maybe it's an old picture. Maybe she's still married. Who knows. She really needs to come clean with you about it soon, especially if it's something that could be a dealbreaker. If it's not important than she should tell you so, that way you don't have to worry about it. At this point it's either going to be continue as pen pals, or pursue an in person meet. If you can't meet right away what about Skype or something similar? Just don't send her any money or put anything on your credit card. You already admitted to yourself that your judgement might be a bit cloudy. Watch out for cons.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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STD/Mutual Testing Questions Posted: 11/12/2009 11:11:24 AM
Does anyone still have the URL for that Blow Up Girlfriend? She's starting to look better and better by the minute.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Man-shy Posted: 11/11/2009 8:48:07 PM
This shyness you speak of only occurs when you are trying to talk to a beautiful woman? Does that mean you have no problem speaking to average looking women? If that's the case you are setting yourself up for a lot of rejection, which can lead to your insecurities. Beautiful women are use to get approached all of the time, probably to the point of being harrassed. Some probably can't go pick up a gallon of milk without being hit on. There is probably even a good liklihood that they are already taken. Just keep in mind that just because you have an interest in them doesn't mean that they will have an interest in you. My advice would be to take baby steps (start with a simple hello), be thoughtful in your conversation (show respect) and get use to being shot down. It comes with being a guy.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 26 (view)

Should I make a second attempt? Posted: 11/10/2009 5:50:45 PM
You can give it one last shot if you really want to. Make it non-intrusive. Send her an email and let her know that you stumbled across her MySpace address and wanted to say Hi. Throw in if she'd ever like to get get together for coffee sometime to let you know. Do you know if she's into the same things you are?

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/10/2009 12:34:37 PM
Some guys apply such thinking to relationships with women. If they tell you they love you in the morning, but say they can't stand you at noon...even if under their breath...you have no right to expect devotion/fidelity from such guys. If you don't like that, do not date business types...doctors,lawyers,bankers, etc. For some guys the grass is always greener elsewhere. Not all guys are like that, but the one who are really are,and will never change. they reveal their "more isbetter" attitude when: buying cars, wearing jewelry, betting on sports, and in many other ways. Notice the signs, and heed them. I assume that would be all guys, with the exception of you. You are but one guy, do not pretend to know all others. So far you have come across as a bit of an AK. JMHO.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Texting while on a date Posted: 11/10/2009 12:23:31 PM
Truth be told. It doesn't happen to me. I'm not one of those that are attached to my phone. All I am saying is if it did happen, what would you have me do? Go to the bathroom? There are pretty good odds that if a family member calls me that it is important. What's next? I'm taking too much of your time making my menu choice? Are we sweating the small stuff here?

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 88 (view)

Texting while on a date Posted: 11/10/2009 11:50:15 AM
There seems to be 2 different scenerios being discussed here. 1. Socializing with others by texting while on a date. That one to me is a no brainer. Very rude. Totally unacceptable. As Ismene put it, I'd drop em in a New York minute. 2. A text from someone important. Mom or Dad, a child, a babysitter or an employer. I could go to the bathroom and answer this message or I could be out in the open about it. I would prefer to make it public. Excuse me, it's my daughter. She doesn't know I'm on a date, would you mind if I let her know I'll get back to her later? If the answer was yes she minded, she'd be gone in a New York minute. There is no way she is more important to me than my family. There is no way I could forgive myself if I put a stranger in front of a loved one in an emergency.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 87 (view)

Texting while on a date Posted: 11/10/2009 11:49:58 AM
There seems to be 2 different scenerios being discussed here. 1. Socializing with others by texting while on a date. That one to me is a no brainer. Very rude. Totally unacceptable. As Ismene put it, I'd drop em in a New York minute. 2. A text from someone important. Mom or Dad, a child, a babysitter or an employer. I could go to the bathroom and answer this message or I could be out in the open about it. I would prefer to make it public. Excuse me, it's my daughter. She doesn't know I'm on a date, would you mind if I let her know I'll get back to her later? If the answer was yes she minded, she'd be gone in a New York minute. There is no way she is more important to me than my family. There is no way I could forgive myself if I put a stranger in front of a loved one in an emergency.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 86 (view)

from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please' Posted: 11/10/2009 11:18:46 AM
I had my drivers license tattoed on my azz. When we get that far in to the relationship, then your are welcome to see it.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Open mic night... Posted: 11/10/2009 11:00:51 AM
As much sh*t as I've been given in my life for being small-chested, I refuse to feel overly bad about this. It sounds like you are projecting some bad experiences/comments you have had on your breast size to this man's penis size. He went out for a cigarette, he wanted to check on a missed call, he wanted to fart in private. Who the hell knows? If every move he makes is scrutinized like this you both are probably better off going your separate ways.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/10/2009 10:04:35 AM
I've always believed, if it takes more than one woman, I've got the wrong woman. Harem? That sounds like too much trouble.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 98 (view)

How do you trust anyone on dating sites? Posted: 11/10/2009 9:11:54 AM
I approach trust about the same way I look at going to a casino. I don't risk anymore than will hurt alot of I lose. I'm not about to hand over the bank accounts, car keys or credit cards on the first date, but I might let you wear my coat if you are cold. That's why you meet in public places on a first meet. You trust a little more after a person shows they can be trusted.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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In love with my best friend, but she's got a boyfriend Posted: 11/10/2009 8:43:23 AM
Wow OP. This sounds like the real deal. You should go pick out a ring and pop the question. Sounds a bit silly once you say it out loud, doesn't it?

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/9/2009 11:05:36 PM
yew4ic said: No, you have that backwards. The ones that I have to pursue are not my type, and therefore I don't pursue them. There are a few areas in life where I want the man to be more aggressive. This is one of them. I understand. Your way works for you and that's fine. I'm only trying to add a different viewpoint since what works for one person doesn't necessarily work for everyone else. Pursuing doesn't necessarily mean aggresive pursuit. We aren't suggesting something such as wrapping your arms around some guys ankle until he agrees to go out with you. Years ago it could mean something as subtle as dropping a hanky to bring attention to ones self. If I am in a place where a woman works I won't make a pass at a woman. I consider it harrassment. That has nothing to do with being " a man" and everything to do with being respectful. There is nothing wrong with a woman letting a man know she is interested. Many women are already involved in relationships and don't want to be harrassed by a man every time they turn a corner. On the flip side a woman can be aggressive and if the guy doesn't care for her it probably wont go any further.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 122 (view)

He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned? Posted: 11/9/2009 10:28:31 PM
The Jamiecat said: uhm, i think it was a joke chances. Drabnabbitt. I hate that when I'm serious and miss out on a joke. Let me read it again. Ahhhhh there we go!

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 191 (view)

IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/8/2009 8:40:47 PM
Redundant subject for sure. That's fine women. Sit back and be pursued. The guys that pursue you are probably not going to be the ones that you would choose if you were the pursuer. I don't see the OP's line of thinking as liberating for women. It's rather archaic. A woman who makes some kind of effort will have get a better look than one that does not.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned? Posted: 11/8/2009 8:04:09 PM
I know.......lets declare that all posts after this one made by people who condemn lying be made only by those who have never, ever lied What does that mean? Lying is acceptable? If you are willing to lie about something so insignificant as your age, you are setting the stage for failure in the future. When something really important comes up where I want to be trusted, it's not worth it to be remembered for being dishonest about something so stupid.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Pre-Date Agreements Posted: 11/6/2009 9:08:39 PM
I'm not familiar with the tongue in cheek phrase. So maybe I am. Maybe not. Where I am coming from is making light of the many threads that I have read that seem to take it more serious than I would have or has been taken in my generation. I have read a thread that people do want STD results. That sounds good, but unless someone signs a release form so that those results go directly to the potential dater, that is so lame. The results can be easily altered. As the old saying goes. Locks are to keep honest people out. Thieves will find a way in. Background checks? OK. That's fine. But that is one of the points I am talking about. If someone asks me for a drivers license, I want one from them too. Could someone who is an identity scam artist take advantage of us? Go from date to date and get exactly what they need to clean us out? Medical history. Maybe we should get our dates medical background to find out if they have anything that we may need to look after in years to come. Maybe we should look at their life history. Did they smoke and drink heavily for 25 years and gave it up 8 weeks ago? I'm just saying. Where do we draw the line?

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Pre-Date Agreements Posted: 11/6/2009 8:28:12 PM
We have pre-nuptial marriage agreements. Why not pre-date agreements? There have been threads that discussed background check, requests for drivers license and debates over how many dates before sex. What's next? Pre-date agreements? If you could have a pre-date agreement, what would you like to see on it? STD test results? How about height certification? Should there be a certified weigh in? How about referrals from the last 3 SO's? Last 3 dates? Medical history?

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 79 (view)

What if the woman makes more money than the man. Posted: 11/5/2009 7:57:00 AM
That should about even things out. It costs more to be a woman anyway.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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OC MD Nov 7, 09 @ 8:30pm A Seacrets Party Posted: 11/4/2009 3:48:09 PM
What? A POF get together at one of the best resorts in Maryland. Where? Seacrets Resorts 117 Weat 49th Street (Bayside) Ocean City, MD 21842 410.524.4900 www.seacrets.com When? This Saturday night. November 7, 2009 at 8:30pm Who? The Host and Co Hosts are Tim- 301.254.6055 and Mike 410.371.9448 A group of 10 POF men and women are taking an RV Party Trip to Seacrets this Saturday and have decided to open the event to anyone who wishes to join us. You can find us at Seacrets by our glow in the dark necklaces or bracelets. Please call Mike or Tim for more information. If you have trouble finding us at Seacrets feel free to call.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 87 (view)

My first Russian mail order bride! Posted: 11/3/2009 10:21:09 PM
You won't find any. Those that don't marry before highschool graduation move to Toronto. True. Most women from Canada that I have seen on POF prefer to stay in Canada. With the way the US has been lately I can't blame them. Except I don't know if I could survive the winters up there.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Girls making the first move??? Posted: 11/3/2009 10:12:36 PM
I say go for it too. Take 50 men and line them up against a wall and 50 women and line them up against the opposite wall. If given the choice, would you prefer to be the one choosing from the 50 men or would you rather hope that the one man that you wanted picked you? You definately increase the odds of getting what you want by putting your pride aside and making the first move. This goes for both sexes. Why do you think men have taken this lead all these years? You thought it was they loved the chase?

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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guy/girls who were cheap on date Posted: 11/3/2009 9:54:02 PM
If I had a nickel for every post on this topic I could afford to date every day and night for the rest of my life.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 87 (view)

Married Men on POF Posted: 11/3/2009 9:35:25 PM
you still don't need to be on this site misleading innocent women. thankyou Joels profile indicates he is separated. So how is he misrepresenting innocent women? You read his profile and if you don't like the fact that he is separated then you move on. Women who don't have an issue with his status can make further inquiries. Since when do you make decisions for all women?

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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What are the rules about swapping phone numbers and making the first call? Posted: 11/3/2009 9:22:06 PM
Rule #1 and you will hear this one often. There Are No Rules. I agree with the first poster. Usually the first call is scheduled. Typically when you first exchange phone numbers. Who calls who? Flip a coin, because it really doesn't matter in most cases. All the other details for future calls can be discussed during the first call.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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I find this site disheartening.... Posted: 11/3/2009 9:15:57 PM
I've just started here. The thread forum isn't very comforting. There are quite a bit of jaded posters not sure why that is. Perhaps it's easier to dump insecurities here on a thread. Oh I wouldn't worry too much about them. You will learn who the always negative and bitter people are and also who the people who's opinion you have grown to respect. I have already given most of the regulars nicknames such as a cartoon character. After awhile you get to a point of reading posts from certain people and ignoring those of some others. In the end you will find that you might actually learn something and that mixed in with all of the garbage are some very special treasures to be discovered.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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What's the point? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:36:35 PM
I thought being called a dork was an endearing term. I'll have to remember to be momentarily pissed off the next time. I'm just kidding. No way he should be at liberty to call you names like that. I don't make it a habit of name calling even with close friends.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 59 (view)

Does online dating make your life easier? Posted: 11/3/2009 11:43:13 AM
It's just another line of communication to the outside world. I would by no means put all of my eggs in only the POF basket. Continue the things that you have been doing to socialize and maybe think of some other social groups to be apart of. Check in on your little place of the pond from time to time and see if there is anything of interest. The difference between online dating and real life meetings I describe as: On the internet you get to know a bit about a person up front and then you meet at some point to see if you have any physical attraction. In real life you meet and find you have an attraction and then you spend time afterwards to see if you have anything in common. There is your difference. TracyAnn- you know we are in to you. It is you that is not in to us. Have fun at work.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 88 (view)

Dating someone who`s a Cigarette Smoker and your not. Posted: 11/3/2009 11:04:02 AM
For me it depends on how much they smoke. I'll smoke a cigar every once in a great while, although I really don't care for them. Someone has a baby, you are with a group all having a cigar or some other special occasion. I don't think that classifies me as a smoker. If I met a woman and she was an occasional smoker I might find it tolerable. I would expect that they were sincere and honest about how much they smoke. I've dated someone that smoked alot. Say 1 or more per hour. That was a dealbreaker for me. So like I said. It's not cut and dry for me.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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how long should a first meeting last and how do you get out of one without being rude? Posted: 11/3/2009 10:49:27 AM
first meeting is just long enough for a cup of coffee. that makes it easy to bow out at the bottom of the cup. how fast can you drink it?? hey 2 or 3 cups if you're having a good time. that's why there is so much coffee-drinking on first dates. Oh boy. If I didn't have the jitters before the meet I'll have them by the time I leave.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 113 (view)

I find this site disheartening.... Posted: 11/3/2009 10:45:20 AM
I think that it may be time for me to delete my profile and maybe try to find meet and greet type of events instead. Or join some type of club. Does anyone else feel the same way? IMO you would be doing yourself a great injustice by using POF as your only means of meeting others. The more you are involved with the more likely you are to meet someone that you might share a mutual attraction. Groups that offer social activities are the best. Join a bowling league. A pool league. A softball league. Just show up where they play and watch and see how fast you are invited into the group. Who cares if you are any good at it. They usually have openings for all abilities. If you are a religious person, churches often have socail activities and fun raisers. Ooops that was suppose to be fund raisers, but fun raisers sounds good too.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Asking for a close up picture Posted: 11/3/2009 9:47:30 AM
I wouldn't sweat it. Stick with the theme of there are plenty of fish in the sea and move on to someone who will give you what you want. I agree, there's no excuse in this day and age for not having a picture if you really want it.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Successful Coffee Dates? Posted: 11/3/2009 8:54:10 AM
Funny that the cemetary visit came up. I took a date to a fall festival in a small town. Parking was whereever you could find a place. We parked in a church parking lot. On the way back to the car we took a shortcut and ended up in the cemetary by the church. All the headstones were from the 1800's and some weremworn beyond recognition. We spent a good 30 -45 minutes there. aaamm- you must not be too far from me. I'm in the DC suburbs. Don't forget Charlestown if Harpers Ferry doesn't fill the day. It's always fun to bet a few dollars on the horses. It doesn't cost to get in so you only spend what you bet. If nothing else West Virginia is fun to people watch. WooHoo. As far as the first meet goes. I think you have to evaluate each situation. If someone is close to me (5-10 minutes) I think nothing of meeting them for coffee rather quickly. We might as well as it is just as easy as talking on the phone or email and if you pick a safe public place like a coffee shop or restaurant than no worries. You can keep it short in case they are a bore or not what they represented in their pictures and profile and reconvene when every you decide. If I'm going any kind of distance, a quick coffee doesn't make any sense to me. In that case I would want to spend a lot more time on the phone or email before driving an hour to meet someone.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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People With No Conversation Skills Posted: 11/3/2009 8:33:58 AM
What's just as bad as when you receive an initial message that is extremely short and says nothing. For example I have received initial emails that said "Hi". It befuddles my mind. How should I respond back? Hi? Wow, this could take forever. I guess I am rude with those. I don't respond at all. They obviously are too busy to take the time to think of something thoughtful to say. As for the bad use of the English language. I can only guess that many people don't find it important enough. They just don't care or they would look up the spelling in a dictionary, capitalize the first word in a sentence and make sure they included punctuation in their sentences.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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Texting while on a date Posted: 11/2/2009 10:13:01 PM
OP- In the situation you describe, I agree that your date was rude and should have been called out on it. I can't say I'm on the bandwagon with the rest of the posters about texting or calls in general. I would not have a problem with a date taking a call or text as long as there was a good reason for it and it was kept short and to a minimum. In a first meet situation I would expect that my date might get a call/text from a friend to make sure she is safe. I even go as far as to let my date know it's OK to take the call if she needs to. I have never had a situation where my date didn't handle the communication with respect to our date. If I did I would have said something. A couple of short calls or maybe a text or two. I certainly wouldn't get up and walk out because she needed to take a call. I could end up feeling like the creep if it turned out some kind of emergency and I showed no compassion. I might of walked out on a good thing. If you don't like something you should speak up. Are these calls/texts really that important that it cant wait until after our date? If you don't like the answer and the calls continue, then get up and walk out.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 25 (view)

the right girl but i got no moves Posted: 11/2/2009 2:00:12 PM
lol, you better strike the iron while it's hot man, also forget about the black guy if you focus on him and what he's doing, you'll lose, trust me there are others guys besides the black guy into your girl, she's foreign so you know guys, especially men like me are going to be into something different, Man up and ask this girl out now if you want her, or you may lose her to the Black guy or any guy for that matter. Too funny Colt. Too bad you couldn't bold "black guy" for added effect. Props

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 81 (view)

Disgusted yet Not Flattered Posted: 11/2/2009 12:32:17 PM
I know they are great but damn so disrespectful from guys that I dont want Exactly. You like the attention from guys that you want, but not the guys you don't want. The problem is you can't pick and choose who notices you. I was out one night and this woman was complaining to me about this guy she ran into a few minutes earlier. The standard complaint of looking at her boobs. She was about 5'3" and I'm 5'9". Her boobs were so out there I was worried they would pop out of her top (not too worried though). The only way I could avoid looking at them myself was to look up at the ceiling while talking to her. What's a guy to do? I felt disgusted, yet not flattered. The point is that she definately wanted certain men to notice her or she wouldn't have worn what she wore. But when a guy that she doesn't want to attract notices she is disgusted.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 32 (view)

Interesting concept Posted: 11/2/2009 11:48:41 AM
reminded me of a song by J Geils Band called Love Stinks Oh yes! I remember that one. It was my wedding song.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

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the right girl but i got no moves Posted: 11/2/2009 10:14:05 AM
There is a time to joke around, a time to laugh and there is a time you need to get serious. I would ask her for a few minutes alone because you have something you need to talk to her about. Then just be honest. There are no lines to use or moves, just the truth about how you feel. Start with the part about the friendship that has formed and you don't want to lose that. Then go to the part that you have developed feelings for her. Include the highlights of the relationship such as your attraction, the activities you have in common, how easy she is to talk to and how comfortable you are together. If nothing more she should at least be flattered. If she deosn't go for it, then you took your shot and you should have no regrets. If you don't take your shot you will be forever second guessing yourself. Step up man.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 34 (view)

Confused & upset - Why do men do this? Posted: 11/2/2009 9:55:09 AM
Why do men/women do this? Your guess is as good as mine and everyone elses. It's only a guess. Another possible reason is they had a chance to absorb and digest the date in their mind and had second thoughts. If that were the case then they absolutely should have informed you of their decision so that you aren't left in limbo. As far as the length of time for a date is concerned. IMO shortening the date would have little to do with enticing the person for a second or third date. The chances are greater that you will pick up on negatives and positives when you spend more time with one another. I think I would rather spend one date of 7 hours rather than 3 dates of 2 hours if in the end it was gong nowhere anyway. It's like going to the Casino. Don't spend any more time/money that you would feel really bad about losing. If you are having a good time and 3-4-5-6 hours isn't going to break your heart, then go for it.

ChancesRMD

Joined: 4/11/2009

Msg: 29 (view)

Mature Adults in their Sexual Prime ??!!! Posted: 11/1/2009 8:10:23 PM
"I can still have 6 orgasms a day with a partner" I can do soooooo much better than that, I can have 8 in one day without a partner! In a day???? You're a woman. You should be able to have 8 in a couple of hours.

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