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aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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Oldschool or outdated? Posted: 10/21/2009 5:50:22 AM
To get a girl with class, one must have class themselves. Like attracts like.

Aspiring_Angel

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Asperger's Syndrome Posted: 9/27/2009 6:40:28 AM
Why would you think that women have it any easier? Do you have any theory to back up that claim, or is it simply that women have it easier in this (male dominated) world, just because you say so? Math and Science are male dominated fields and Aspie's are known for their skills in those areas. So the reverse would stand to reason. I work far below my skill level and ability because female Accountants (and such) are more easily accepted in the workplace. In regards to the test - I do not think the results indicate that I have Autism. I think it is relative to my field and my talents. I remember long strings of numerical information; always have. I find patterns where others do not see any. I have a unique view of the world. Am I Autistic? Not at all, I'm just an extreme geek. lol. My father was a Cryptologist in the Navy. He solved puzzles for a living. I am his daughter.

Aspiring_Angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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Asperger's Syndrome Posted: 9/24/2009 5:58:09 PM
Okay, My daughter has Asberger's and I do not. Here are my scores. I have thought I had certain traits of Asberger's but this blew my mind. Agree: 2,5,6,9,12,13,16,18,19,22,35,39,41,42,43,45,46: 1 point Disagree: 1,8,10,11,17,24,25,27,28,29,30,31,32,34,36,37,38,40,44,47,48,49,50: 1 point Score: 40 She is taking the test now and her husband is our control group. I'll post their scores below. Son in law scored - 24 Daughter does not want to take the test... (OOH changes her mind the last second.) Daughter scored - 20 Okay, I just lost all respect for the test.

Aspiring_Angel

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How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him? Posted: 9/24/2009 4:57:43 PM
He needs to make enough money to cover his own bills and be self sufficient. It's not a dollar amount per se. That having been said, I wouldn't be interested in someone living in their parents basement because he can't secure a good enough job to pay rent. Ergo the part about being self sufficient. Hope that helps to answer your question.

Aspiring_Angel

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mail settings, how did he message me? Posted: 9/24/2009 4:53:55 PM
It could be that he changed the "looking for" after he emailed you.

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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Need to find a good hockey goalie gear store! Posted: 8/19/2009 5:29:30 PM
USA Hockey has an online store with tons of goalie equipment. I have emails sent whenever they have a sale going on. eBay isn't a bad bet either. Hope you find what you're looking for.

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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Is this message ok? Posted: 5/15/2009 3:55:13 PM
OP I thought your message was cute. Fix the spelling errors but otherwise, I thought it was ok. Good luck fishing :)

aspiring_angel

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Suggestion for site - tallying actual dates / meetings Posted: 4/14/2009 5:27:49 AM
When I was here for dating and meeting I had very little trouble figuring out who was serious and who was not. Yet I hear the same story over and over from friends here, that so and so was just chatting...never meet anyone serious...game players. This was simply a thought I had that may help others find what they are looking for. Peace ~

aspiring_angel

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Suggestion for site - tallying actual dates / meetings Posted: 4/9/2009 9:14:19 AM
I know the Testimonials function is supposed to do this, but it would be nice to have some way to tell how many dates a member has been on from POF. This way you could tell how serious about dating / meeting someone is. Perhaps a check mark for each date (or similar). In this way a person's privacy could be maintained and they wouldn't have to give an opinion on the date. It would simply speak to the seriousness of the member. Testimonies don't quite do it, as many don't specify if they have actually met. I have friends on the site who write back and forth with others ad nauseum only to find out the other member is simply chatting and not interested in actually meeting people. This would help them to weed out those members. Thank you

aspiring_angel

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Young Bachelor needs Cleaning Tips! EMERGENCY CODE RED Posted: 4/6/2009 7:14:44 AM
I have my car detailed every three months. It's worth the small fee. If I were you, I'd get mine done. They guarantee their work, so if the smell returns - they'll take care of it. Better than wasting time while this bacteria has a chance to grow and infiltrate your trunk. best wishes

aspiring_angel

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My Friend, Girlfriend was borne with a Mr. Winkler! Posted: 4/4/2009 3:05:09 PM
There probably wasn't a test for her being a hermaphrodite, she was probably HONEST with the doctor who saw her and performed the tests. How dense some of these posts are! OP If I was your friend I would not be able to continue on with someone who flat out LIED to me about something that would effect my future and ability to have children. She kept this a secret from him all this time and he became emotionally invested in her. Therapy would not fix this for me, no way.

aspiring_angel

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Have I lost my dignity? Posted: 4/4/2009 5:34:44 AM
Msg 23 says it all OP. You are a user and she would be much better off if you moved out and on.

aspiring_angel

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Could baby be allergic to cat? Posted: 3/31/2009 1:59:02 PM
http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/allergy.htm Most terriers are considered to be very allergy friendly. This is due to their specialized coat. There are many types of terriers and they are widely renown for being hypo-allergenic. The only dog we have ever had that I wasn't allergic to was a Jack / Rat terrier mix. Of course your mixed terrier may have attributes in his coat not per usual of a terrier mix.

aspiring_angel

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Migranes caused by workouts, diets, or what? Posted: 3/30/2009 4:55:56 PM
OP The best advice I can give you is simply: Journal your everyday activities and look for a common factor. I don't mean sex or workouts either ;) I have severe migraines and have had them since I was 23. Through detailed journals I learned my triggers, some common, some not so ordinary. You have what sounds more like tension headaches, but could be trigger induced (you listed some very stressful events). If they are stress induced then learn to reduce stress. Take walks...blah blah you know the rest. My migraine triggers (just so you get an idea) are: Lack of sleep. Indirect strong light. Prolonged exposure to high temperature (especially the sun and humid days). Dairy - and I mean too much dairy, moderation is okay. Chocolate (crying here - I miss it so!) and caffeine. STRESS. Those are not all of them, but the two big ones that have saved me are the indirect exposure to strong light (check the gym lighting) and eating too much dairy. I have managed to reduce my migraines to about three per month, down from at least 10 - 15. I also get an aura of pain in my jaw prior to the onset of a big migraine and can often stop a full blown attack by paying careful attention. Withdrawl from caffeine can cause headaches, so can nicotine. You can read more about that on Webmd, but trust me it can really cause some doosies! Best wishes OP, I hope some of what I've written will help you.

aspiring_angel

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Could baby be allergic to cat? Posted: 3/30/2009 4:08:45 PM
Is it possible to brush and vacuum the cat? Some will put up with the vacuum, some will not. The brushing will help some. I am very allergic to cats, so I sympathize with the little guy. You could also try to limit which rooms the cat goes in for the time being. Sort of a short term trial, to see if baby improves. Be sure to keep the cat out of baby's room! This really helped me when I stayed at my Mom's who has a cat. Barring that, allergy shots in the future. Benedryl may help for the time being. Topical creams for his rash and liquid for the other symptoms. Should help a bit. Best wishes!

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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Could baby be allergic to cat? Posted: 3/30/2009 2:13:57 PM
Of course the baby could be allergic to the cat. One way to find out is to remove the cat for a period of time and see if baby improves. The terrier isn't likely the cause, as they are one of the most hypo-allergenic animals there is. They have hair, not fur, so much less dander. Do you (or did you) smoke? Cigarette smoke is the number one allergen in homes. Even if you gave it up, it is likely still coating the furniture, carpet and curtains. Have all of these steam cleaned (which you should do anyway, just because of baby's symptoms.) If none of those seems to be the problem, look at what you are putting into his environment - cleaners, sprays even your perfume. Anything with a perfume can be a problem for someone with allergies. Best wishes, I'll check to see if you've made any progress.

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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It's a Coffee! Posted: 3/30/2009 5:01:31 AM
I thought the guys would appreciate the following humor link. Just for laughs, to lighten up this subject (goes with two of the above posts). http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts9406695.aspx

aspiring_angel

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Not that into sex with same person. Posted: 3/30/2009 3:40:50 AM
OP You fail to mention (at least what I read) How many women have you been intimate with? The rest of my answers hinge on this one answer.

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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It's a Coffee! Posted: 3/29/2009 2:54:07 PM
The other option is simple: He took one look at you and didn't want to do even the slightest thing to encourage you to be interested. . . like buying you coffee.

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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It's a Coffee! Posted: 3/29/2009 2:06:18 PM
OP I cannot believe you are upset over paying for a four dollar cup of tea. Holy hell, call the media. I say the guy dodged a bullet. I would assume he does this for a reason, to judge his dates reaction. I say well done on his part and not so well done on yours.

aspiring_angel

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Ladies ... I Must Know Why? Posted: 3/27/2009 3:17:21 PM
When I met my boyfriend, he was a long haul truck driver. His rig was the only other woman in his life ~ lol. At first I admit (and told him) I had misgivings about dating a "trucker" but once I got to know him, they disappeared. The truth of the matter is that a truck driver spends 12 + hours a day driving. He spends another 10 hours + a week maintaining his truck. There isn't time for another woman! He kept his truck clean as well and some of the best times we ever had were washing his truck on Sunday. OP You'll meet a woman who sees you as a man, not your job. It is part of who you are, but it does not define you. I'm fortunate enough to have met the man of my dreams. He no longer drives a truck, but WE miss his rig every day. Like I said, she was the other woman. ;) Best wishes OP.

aspiring_angel

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What to do now?? Posted: 3/23/2009 3:34:51 AM
What more of the situation do we need to know? You allowed the man to use you, walk all over you then dump you. You allowed him to come back once before, and he did it again! What makes you think he's apt to do anything differently if you don't? Once a snake always a snake. You may not like the answers, but it doesn't make them any less valid. Your behavior has shown him that you are lonely enough to put up with almost anything. He's just trying to figure out the limits of your desperation. The blame lies with you and you alone.

aspiring_angel

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What to do now?? Posted: 3/22/2009 1:35:02 PM
Either you're a booty call or he needs to use you for some other reason. You've already proven he can walk all over you...so he's back for more. One month? wow. Nothing screams I'm desperate like that. Sorry but you asked and I'm being honest. There is no way to say the above nicely. good luck

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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make butt bigger thur exercises question... Posted: 3/22/2009 12:25:31 PM
Put your back flat against a wall; feet about four inches from wall base. Squat down about knee height and then up again. These squats are good for your bottom line, but be careful; if you have a bad back, these are no good. If there is a skating rink in your area - skating is one of the very best ways to build a perky backside. Hope this helps ~

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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whta would you do if you found out your x was a predator of women Posted: 3/16/2009 12:36:48 PM
Since you state that he is your EX, then I'd do nothing. Anything related to an ex is no longer my concern...period. Worry about your own backyard and keep out of others.

aspiring_angel

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Mom and Dad Posted: 3/7/2009 4:21:19 AM
My Dad always said you can tell a lot about a person, by the way they treat their family. (especially their parents). My answer is yes, I would be interested in a man willing to care for his aging parents.

aspiring_angel

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Dating and the Ex-Wife Posted: 3/7/2009 4:14:09 AM
KC I am very sorry about your son. The fact is, a LOT of people use very good excuses to manipulate others into a relationship, claiming their marriages have been over for years. There are claims that state they have not been intimate, are together for the kids... You get the picture. Many will see this as a flimsy excuse from you; not because it truly is; but because they have heard this before. A good idea would be to introduce them to your ex, so they KNOW all the cards are indeed on the table and no one is sneaking around or trying to fool anyone. Best wishes and I will light a candle for your son, in the hopes it will help him in some small way.

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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gone back to cheating husband Posted: 3/4/2009 10:59:17 AM
You've been broken up since January. Why care who she's with, your chance with her has been lost. 17 years is a long marriage, even with the cheating, they share a history that you cannot provide her. They have a family to raise, I'd suggest bowing out gracefully and leaving her alone.

aspiring_angel

Joined: 1/25/2006

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why do people commit suicide in general? Posted: 2/28/2009 4:34:58 AM
As I stated earlier in this thread, my son completed suicide in October, just a few days before the OP started this thread. I did find the joke offensive but then I have grown since the day my son passed and let it go. I am grateful that others do not understand the depth of misery that a suicide leaves behind. It's as if a grenade has gone off in the middle of our family and each of us is left with unique and traumatic wounds that need to heal. I hope those who are insensative or find this situation humorous, never ever know the pain that suicide causes. I wouldn't wish the comprehension on my worst enemy.

aspiring_angel

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Poor Grammar Posted: 2/26/2009 1:05:38 PM
Da good ting about da kine is local people can spot each other fairly easily wit just a couple of words, yeah? Damn it's hard to write in pidgin. I wouldn't change it for the world! It does dis ole heart some good to hear da words of my ai'ina agin. Aloha!

aspiring_angel

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Question about pseudo blowjobs Posted: 2/22/2009 10:14:42 AM
OP It all depends on how you relayed the information. There is honesty and then there is brutal honesty. I think you hurt her feelings rather than just saying, "I love it when you really go down on me." That would have gotten the response you were looking for, not the F this mentality. Positive reinforcement always works best.

aspiring_angel

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hardcore kinky ideas to do with bf? Posted: 2/19/2009 7:53:43 AM
^^^ The OP started that line of thinking - not us. lol

aspiring_angel

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What is with the what are your long term plans question? Posted: 2/19/2009 5:34:27 AM
A man with goals and aspirations is attractive in my eyes. I have short and long term goals, I need my partner to have similar (if not the same) goals. Someone who doesn't plan ahead, is often left behind.

aspiring_angel

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Q. for professional women Posted: 2/19/2009 5:25:17 AM
It's the man, not his job, that matters. The only downfall would be dutch outings together. If there is an inequality in incomes, then issues arise. For example, I often entertain clients, at my own expense. Golf, drinks, restaurants, Country Clubs etc. Someone who isn't making around the same income as myself would have a hard time keeping up. I don't mind paying sometimes, but every time? Not happening. Vacations would not be a possibility for someone in a different bracket either. I work hard and save for my time away, so that would also be a problem. Best wishes OP I hope this helps.

aspiring_angel

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Thread deletion and why? Posted: 2/17/2009 5:21:42 AM
It's not arbitrary; try reading the rules of the forum. Redundancy is the number one reason for thread deletion. Those two threads are VERY redundant. It does not matter how many people had posted to the thread. It's still redundant. Forum rants are also against the forum rules. Emailing a moderator with concerns is the proper route to take. Ranting will get you nowhere. Best wishes

aspiring_angel

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Locking Threads... Posted: 2/15/2009 2:27:02 AM
The point of having an open forum is to express opinions. If a thread poster could lock a thread, it would defeat that purpose.

aspiring_angel

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hardcore kinky ideas to do with bf? Posted: 2/14/2009 1:25:35 PM
Get a violet wand or tens unit. That, is hardcore.

aspiring_angel

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Thank you! I love the new Posted: 2/14/2009 6:30:26 AM
I just noticed that after I search "Newest Threads" there is a new button at the bottom of the results page. It lists "Next page!" It isn't for regular thread searches (title) just newest threads. It makes navigating much easier. thank you!

aspiring_angel

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Why are there still so many stereotypes about single mothers? Posted: 2/14/2009 5:55:13 AM
The stereotype exists because everywhere you go, there is a single parent that fits that stereotype. There are also those who do not. They are the rarity. Sorry OP, that's life.

aspiring_angel

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Sex, Cheated and Revenge Posted: 2/14/2009 5:05:51 AM
Your marriage needs work - lots of work. You were wrong and she was wrong, there is no excuse for cheating on your spouse, imho. Leave her if there is nothing left to salvage; from your post it seems that there is very little left of the marriage or commitment. Don't continue cheating on each other, do the respectable thing. If you love her, you can make it work. Only if BOTH are committed to doing a LOT of work. Best wishes OP.

aspiring_angel

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can't email someone. Posted: 2/14/2009 4:31:24 AM
MD< Please read the links provided by the Moderator above. It has to be a pattern before the filter goes into effect. If you read the links, you'd know that.

aspiring_angel

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I've lost the ability to boil a egg... Posted: 2/13/2009 2:47:54 PM
OP Don't put the cover on. This keeps too much heat on the egg for too long. Best Wishes ~

aspiring_angel

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Should I Be Upset (Thoughtless about Valentine's Day)? Posted: 2/13/2009 12:50:34 PM
Holy - The OP even lists her favorite stores and restaurants in her profile. LOL Go figure! I've been with my S/O for 3 YEARS and am not the slightest bit worried about Valentine's Day. I know he loves me 365 days a year. No wonder some guys have such a misconstrued idea about women and our wants. FAVORITE STORES: Home Depot Lowes Ross Wal-Mart Target FAVORITE RESTAURANTS: Chili's Applebee's Gloria's Olive Garden Luigi's Italian Rest. Saltgrass Steakhouse

aspiring_angel

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Physical attraction progresses as age does? Posted: 2/12/2009 3:55:37 AM
Mike, Judging by all the men my age, who have left marriages with women their own age for young 20 somethings - no, it's not the norm. I'm in my forties and have never felt more beautiful or sexy. I don't have all the worries that I had in my twenties and my family is nearly raised. I have more time for myself. If I had a time machine and could go back - I wouldn't. Best wishes ~

aspiring_angel

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Where and How Posted: 2/12/2009 3:39:25 AM
I had dated my boyfriend for about 2 months prior to the official "coupling." I knew that things had changed between us, but will never forget the day he introduced me as his girlfriend. Prior to that, I was his "friend." It wasn't overnight and it wasn't just a few dates. It was one special date where we seemed to mesh and come together on a different level. (and no, it had nothing to do with sex either). lol. Best wishes Op.

aspiring_angel

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why doesn't he call? Posted: 2/11/2009 5:25:46 PM
OP I didn't read that whole wall of text - You treated him badly, went back to your ex, and then expected him to jump at the chance to be with you after that didn't work out. Come on! The guy deserves better - much better.

aspiring_angel

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Poor Grammar Posted: 2/8/2009 5:32:00 AM
Barbarella, Have you ever met someone from Queens NY? They have a local dialect. This was the point of my post. Please consider that some of his colloquialisms, although annoying to you, are part of his regional upbringing. Best wishes.

aspiring_angel

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Poor Grammar Posted: 2/8/2009 5:19:29 AM
OP You are confusing a strong accent with poor grammar. What it sounds like, is that he has trouble enunciating the words without the accent; a problem not caused by lack of intelligence. Your post offended me a bit, as I have a strong accent myself. I was raised in Hawai'i and there are certain words I cannot "northern-ize." The dialect there, is a hodge-podge called pidgin. I was raised speaking a mixture of many different languages, and yes several colloquialisms known mainly to islanders, not people from other areas. You either can deal with it, or not. Don't bash him for something he could not change any more than changing where He's from.

aspiring_angel

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At what point............. Posted: 2/5/2009 4:59:52 AM
Carolann, I sympathize with your situation as I waited 8 years for my ex to make that decision. At that point, I decided I either wanted a Husband or I wanted him. I chose him. We stayed together a total of 13 years, so 5 years I made an active choice to stay although I wanted marriage. At that point, he wanted to marry and I didn't. Life is funny that way. You must decide if you want Him or marriage, since you presently cannot have both. Best wishes.

aspiring_angel

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Why can't women learn to lower standards for men just slightly? Posted: 1/31/2009 9:25:31 AM
Why drag out the inevitable? If we're not a match, time wont change that. I believe in striving for what you want in life; in this and every other aspect. So far as the nice guy and good enough, I spent 15 years with him. We were BOTH unhappy in the end. We're much happier now and he is still someone I care deeply for. My S/O now is the man I belong with, intellectually, physically - I'm glad I didn't settle. Best wishes OP. OH and some men are equally superficial. In reference to your above post, why aren't you looking at a 3 instead?

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