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brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 11 (view)

What defines a fetish? Posted: 9/24/2009 5:06:25 AM
MsMicki- [and I agree......a fetish is some "thing" that you have to have... to enjoy sex. If you just enjoy these "things" as an addition to your normal sex.....then I don't consider it a fetish.] Right on...i think you hit the mark.. now what is up with the baby/diaper fetish? i try not to judge but damn is that f'ing wierd or what? Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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What is it that natural seducers have that guys like me don't? Posted: 9/22/2009 6:52:27 AM
do you want to know the real difference? they dont whine about their lack of success...also they dont take a strike out personally....you shouldnt either....as Marlon Brando said "YOU CAN ACT LIKE A MAN!!" get some confidence..do you have a female friend who can give you an honest appraisal of your tact? also maybe you should not talk sooo much...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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To cum or not to cum Posted: 9/21/2009 12:26:46 PM
omg douchebag...something that feels too good? sign me up...nothing ever feels too good...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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not exactly a sex question but it is physical Posted: 9/19/2009 12:45:10 PM
you are doing something that is aesthetically enhancing and most times healthier...why would anyone fault you for that...i think the lisp is sorta cute btw..

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 29 (view)

Does the opinion of others .... Posted: 9/16/2009 4:51:15 PM
i have found out after my marriage was over how much my friends and family hated my ex...i wish i knew beforehand how they felt...although some made it quite apparent during our marriage i would never have left her because of how others feel. you know how opinions are.

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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what does a break mean? Posted: 9/12/2009 12:21:06 PM
it means he has moved on and doesnt have the balls to tell you or wants a short term play thing and will come back to you... omg how would i know that?

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Is there a way to explain it to kids? Posted: 9/11/2009 5:41:03 PM
TOwoman1 c'est voila! you are right on mama, it is not that hard to figure this out. kids are more freaked out later on when they learn that they were kept in the dark. if i told you the misconceptions i had about sex when i was a kid you would all laugh( and if i told you about all the ones i have now you would cringe)...but seriously that is something my parents failed at and i will try to do better on... Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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A bit of a quandry Posted: 9/11/2009 5:19:05 PM
browneyesboo- i wondered at also, my kids are small and are sort of a package deal..how do you neglect to tell this woman about the other 2? this guy is either a flake or an a-hole...dude i take it back hope you have a sh*tty date... Reverend Fist

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Is there a way to explain it to kids? Posted: 9/11/2009 3:10:48 PM
"Don't kids just keep on asking stuff until you run out of answers? I can hear it now "why would he want his thingy to get hard and big?" that is why you give them the long answer so there is no place to go with it....i work in the medical field so they are sick of hearing me talk by the time these answers are given...they (plus a few others) must think i am a blowhard.. Rev. Ro

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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have you ever tasted breastmilk? Posted: 9/11/2009 2:16:31 PM
i put it in my coffee once after a double shift.....

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Is there a way to explain it to kids? Posted: 9/11/2009 1:44:03 PM
its simple you dont use immature words like pee-pee or weiner....tell it to them scientifically and that should shut them up when they are thoroughly confused... Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women. Posted: 9/11/2009 11:36:23 AM
how many is enough? Maybe he just feels you guys are moving into the crucial phase of your relationship and it scares him. just have open and honest communication and you may yet get through this. Good luck to you, Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot? Posted: 9/11/2009 9:21:06 AM
it was suggested to me by a physician that i smoke marijuana to alleviate anxiety but as i get drug tested i havent used it for that reason and in a while...i dont think we are talking about medical marijuana use here...this sounds like recreational use...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot? Posted: 9/11/2009 8:29:10 AM
all this talk about it is making me want to roll one....damn...i guess i will just go drink coffee..

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 64 (view)

Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot? Posted: 9/11/2009 6:27:30 AM
ok, let's get this straight here...use of marijuana does not denote drug abuse..drug abuse is drug abuse......by that rationale all social drinkers need to go to AA meetings. if that happened then there would be way too much competition and where would i go to get dates? omg that wasn't funny...THE REVEREND IS GOING TO HADES IN A HANDBASKET!!! the issue here is the use of psychological games that are being played here in this marriage....he may be using marijuana as a protest or a way to incite discontent... play me out fela http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsVwKS7dbds

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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A bit of a quandry Posted: 9/11/2009 5:18:55 AM
just tell her upfront...take a deep breath, you will do fine and make sure you carry tic tacs...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 44 (view)

do we get hit on just because ... Posted: 9/11/2009 5:11:21 AM
onemoondance, lol you made me smile there...i guess it wasnt the most profound statement i have ever made huh? now sarcasm i get and irony rocks also but passive aggressive nonsense just makes me shudder at its dishonesty...have a great weekend doll.. Rev. Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 42 (view)

do we get hit on just because ... Posted: 9/11/2009 4:55:03 AM
oh please just say thank you.... do i get upset when someone who i am not interested in flirts with me? no i am flattered and move on.... i have found that answers"why? questions" usually have the least gratifying answer..or was this some kind of passive aggressive rhetorical question? Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 71 (view)

Men taking responsibility for their kids Posted: 9/10/2009 5:14:58 PM
wow you know how to pick 'em huh? being a dad is the best job i've ever had, he will wake up someday and regret this whole incident... i dont believe this metamorphosis was instantaneous when you told him you were pregnant tho..hadnt you guys ever discussed this especially since you weren't using birth control..remember pulling out is not birth control people... regardless, he needs to man up and support his kids no matter how badly this situation was handled by him...good luck and mazel tov on the new kid.. Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 45 (view)

Should I Be Able to Accept My Husband Smoking Pot? Posted: 9/10/2009 4:05:53 PM
ok here is my completely inept appraisal: 1) smoking pot is not immoral- does he have some medical reason for smoking? ptsd or anxiety? are there children in your household? that is the only reason you have to gripe i believe. i quit because my children live with me and are both asthmatics. are you in law enforcement? 2) you have no problem with a confused or morally marginalized young lady sending beaver shots to him? wow your priorities are out of whack: POT=EVIL BEAVER SHOT= OK 3) this guy seems like a hammerhead- as convoluted as your reasoning skills seem, you generally care for him...smoking pot is more important? your penance for being stupid is that you have to eat a urinal lozenge and sing "trouble in river city" in assless chaps while riding a unicycle down main street. good luck and get your sh*t together, Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/10/2009 2:31:59 PM
OK PEOPLE GO HOME!! THE CIRCUS IS OVER , THERE IS NOTHING ELSE TO SEE HERE....THIS IS TOO FUNNY, I THOUGHT WE WOULD HAVE ALL GOTTEN BORED WITH THIS BY NOW...APPARENTLY NOT AS I AM STILL HERE...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Pansexuals and dating Posted: 9/10/2009 2:09:41 PM
Tantra D, i think that may be true or may not be, let's not speak for everyone and i promise i wont either...the philosophy behind it is a beautiful mind set i think... just so we are clear; i was not attacking the practice of pansexuality just the labelling of one's self that is all....i try not to label myself as it limits me and i am sooo much more than the mere labels put on me... i am a father, a shepherd, a brother, a surfer, a jerkoff, etc. good luck and love to all, Rev. Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Should I just F**k him or try to date him? Posted: 9/10/2009 10:16:17 AM
MsMicki, you say true again lady... "If you can't have casual sex w/o the expectation of a relationship.... then don't have casual sex!" there is no condemnation there just a reality, this is not a suppression of women (as someone has implied) as i would say this to male friends of mine... Rev. Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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cuckold? Posted: 9/10/2009 10:09:48 AM
now i dont subscribe to this fetish but i dont condemn it either, the only thing i can say is that it could put a strain on a friendship if an unwilling person was approached. if people can have a healthy relationship and have that as part of their sex lives then go and have fun. personally i feel that the idea of group sex is better in theory than it is practical or healthy for a relationship. just my idea and not necessarily true for everyone... Rev. Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Pansexuals and dating Posted: 9/10/2009 9:55:43 AM
Tantra D, I do understand the need to fit in but in subdivision after subdivision that we put ourselves in we alienate ourselves from others as we remove ourselves from the larger groups. sad to say, we are more alike than we are different and people love to celebrate the one defining thing that makes them different rather than rejoice in the fact that we are all alike. if that point was stressed more we would see alot less cruelty, bigotry, hatred, ignorance, intolerance and racism. you would have no more of the "us" and "them" mentality. just my opinion... love to all, Rev. Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/10/2009 6:18:52 AM
Cherie- you are so right! the toothpaste thing freaks me out but not cleaning out the sink after using it is infinitely worse. more so after a man has used it to shave in...dried shaving scum is just grody to the max!!! Rev. Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Is this as good as it gets? Posted: 9/10/2009 5:07:45 AM
Reveille! Reveille! wake up people!!! this relationship is obviously very sick, as your cousin has discounted her own feelings in order to live a life where her only pleasure is making her man's life hell for making her life hell....IT'S LIKE A DOG CHASING ITS TAIL AND WILL END POORLY(ok now that i have put my crystal ball away i will stop speaking like Dr. Orpheus). she deserves better than this and is just not at the break point yet. I sat in a bad marriage for years too fearful to make a change and that only made things more explosive when it came to the end. this is not as good as it gets...it is what you make it like everything else...go and live well and love to all. Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Moving too fast, still hung up on his ex? Posted: 9/10/2009 4:58:28 AM
"should I just let him see his ex"? you wield that power already? you are overreacting and you seem rather imposing of your will early in this relationship. he made these plans prior to your commitment agreement and you should "let " him see his ex. maybe he plans to tell her about you at this dinner. be careful, it sounds as if you already think that you can tell this man what to do and may push him away. be thankful that he told you about it and didnt sneak behind your back and deal with this. i didnt mean to bash you, just thought you should see this from a guy's point of view...chalk this up to a test of your relationship and hope for the best. good luck doll and go with God. Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Pansexuals and dating Posted: 9/9/2009 5:28:15 PM
mafiageek you are what you are and someone should love you for what you are dear...good luck and be yourself, someone who cares about you will rise above such tripe. hugs mama, Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Pansexuals and dating Posted: 9/9/2009 4:57:31 PM
omfg if another person feels the need to name and define themselves i will puke...what would you consider me? nerd? hipster?straight? dork? why does everything need a limiting name and category?everyone needs to limit themselves and stick themselves in a box in order to feel part of the club or exclusive of another... this is one of my biggest pet peeves..pansexual is as ridiculous as bisexual,gay or straight definitions. if you are pansexual then you are bisexual plain and simple; now be happy and live your life well...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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The real problem with relationships today. Posted: 9/9/2009 4:44:12 PM
the root problem for divorce is that people actually love themselves a little more than they did 50 years ago...you dont stay in a sh*ttty marriage anymore, you get out and eventually screw someone else's life up too...omg that sounded cynical huh? funk that, it works for me...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/9/2009 4:33:44 PM
OMG THIS IS LIKE A TSUNAMI OF NONSENSE AND WE ARE ALL F'ED FOR GETTING IN THE WATER WHEN IT WAS CALM....SWIM FOR YOUR LIVES!!

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 49 (view)

Leg Men? Boob Men? Hip men? Butt men? Huh??!! Posted: 9/9/2009 11:29:26 AM
i like a girl with a fat ass usually but does that make me a butt man? it is not a prerequisite but it is something i notice... Ro

brooklynro

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Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/9/2009 11:07:53 AM
jbogie i was in the navy and heard that story like 500 times....sorta like the superman rape story....

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 52 (view)

Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/9/2009 11:04:00 AM
omg no wonder we are all single with this type of OCD for minutiae running rampant in our world..i always thought this was a stupid argument would just do whatever was amenable..when you get real zen and see that there is no toilet you realize that it is ok to p*ss on the floor..just my two cents... Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Is he rejecting me, I'm just not sure where I stand anymore Posted: 9/9/2009 9:57:51 AM
yes, quite simply, it is over....good luck to you.. Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Is he just not into me? Posted: 9/9/2009 9:40:15 AM
right on Sassysky...i totally agree and missed the part about not expecting a reply..she wanted to hear from him but wants to jerk this guys chain...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Is he just not into me? Posted: 9/9/2009 8:44:42 AM
BINGO!! he wanted a booty call...now if you sent him a dirty book or book of sex positions then he may have thought you wanted him to call on your booty.. he isn't into you...plain and simple.. Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Can you ask??? Posted: 9/9/2009 8:32:51 AM
I have no problem telling my friends and family that I love them but what you are afraid of is rejection or silence... Abby, you got it going on; good advice..you must feel loved and love yourself if the little things make you happy.. Reverend Roland

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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The ultimate lubrication. Posted: 9/9/2009 7:12:18 AM
if necessary i like astroglide but spit will do just fine...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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The Four favourite questions guys love to ask.... Posted: 9/8/2009 1:34:59 PM
wow, how mundane and unimaginative... my four questions: 1) is it ok to hit you with a brick during doggystyle? 2) are you into midget porn? 3) can you spell paternity test? 4) will your mom be joining us? ok, these are all just jokes so please keep the Ro-bashing to a minimum..good luck darling and happy hunting. Ro

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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22, Never had a girlfriend Posted: 9/8/2009 1:10:34 PM
are you a major tool is that why you "are not her type"? sometimes confidence can be misconstrued as arrogance...dont sweat it bro, if you get to 30 without sex then i will personally take you to nevada and pay for your 30th birthday present.

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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Compromise or no? Posted: 9/8/2009 12:59:16 PM
omg dude i wish my life was as complex as yours...if they have a good personality and are interesting than i wave any and all physical preferences.... it is controlling by the way...

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 41 (view)

Can you ever become attracted to someone your NOT attracted to? Posted: 9/8/2009 12:44:34 PM
OMG this could be the most doomed relationship i have ever seen unless 2 criteria are honestly met: 1) both people are truly at peace with themselves- in that case though she wouldnt be settling for someone she is not attracted to and gold digging and he wouldnt be so blind and would remain on his own rather than waste his time with a woman who does not totally and truly love him.. 2) both peeople have no appetite for sex- I have always believed that sex is like dancing, 2 good partners makes it better for both.... In other words this is doomed....blah blah blah... just my opinion and wtf do i know?

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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The art of breaking up Posted: 8/26/2009 6:39:07 AM
say "i break with thee, i break with thee,i break with thee" (3 times) and then throw dog poop on her shoes...that or you just tell her that you are running away to join the circus ( i actually contemplate that everyday)...good luck.. Ro

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 45 (view)

dirty things to say in bed Posted: 8/20/2009 10:41:38 PM
if you are reading off a script then just keep quiet, the idea would be for it to be free form in the moment type shit...while you are at it why dont you just fake your orgasm? you dont have to talk dirty unless you feel it and want to do it.....just my opinion..good luck doll

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 42 (view)

Reconciliation advice Posted: 8/20/2009 10:38:25 AM
Wow Wolf, you got your self a classic here... the "I can't live with or without you" syndrome. You need to take care of yourself and let her worry about sorting stuff out. You have no control over what she feels or does but you can at least determine your own fate. Sometimes there is too much hurt to go back to someone ...soldier on brother, if this were a romantic comedy you would meet the love of your life right now but only you can write this script... good luck bro

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 37 (view)

my bloke of 4 years found met someone on here and now i dont know what to do Posted: 8/20/2009 10:28:06 AM
move on...this "bloke" ( i sound like a tool using the term it with my brooklyn accent hence the quotes) aint worth your time mama..cheaters cheat and liars lie lady, find someone after you speak to your therapist...HINT!!

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

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what do you miss? Posted: 8/20/2009 5:25:02 AM
I miss having someone who can take a nothing day and suddenly make it all seem worthwhile..oh wait that was mary tyler moore.....good luck all..

brooklynro

Joined: 4/17/2009

Msg: 32 (view)

Is this enough to ditch her? Posted: 8/19/2009 5:33:10 AM
amen sister...short and sweet answer..she sounds like she is not willing to meet your needs in any capacity.

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