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skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

Accepting My Alone-ness: How Can I Do So? Posted: 7/10/2008 9:18:41 PM
Alone-ness and loneliness are two different animals in my book. Doing things alone is what makes me who I am. Wanting to share what I've done while I'm alone is when loneliness enters. But "Contingency Planning" scares me. Planning for something to happen makes it less likely to happen. It's also betting against yourself in my book. I guess though a fool with a plan is better than a genius without one.

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Oh My God,he's really handsome! Posted: 7/10/2008 9:08:43 PM
This is the reason this Skunk keeps his pics in black & white. First it cuts to the chase... you either like this ugly mug or it grows on you. Second black & white is Skunx favorite color. It worx for the ladies the same way...some I've met have so much charm, charisma, and class that I'm easily distracted from their beauty. A real character goes miles with me. You don't have to be Ms. Photogenic in my book. You gotta be real.

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Do women need to work at it harder after 45? Posted: 7/1/2008 3:03:35 AM
"April Showers" I presumed "Tiny " was in regard to anatomical feature. I'm sure one would not purchase a BOB that was called a "Cave Dancer".lol! PS. Of course that would be only if the shoe fits. (Or BOB that is) Have I dug a deep enough hole for myself ? (No pun intended.) Skunxster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Do women need to work at it harder after 45? Posted: 6/30/2008 12:08:06 PM
"Tiny Dancer" sounds like the name of a vibrator! LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Do women need to work at it harder after 45? Posted: 6/29/2008 7:39:39 PM
Just wanted to know ....are you women working just a tad harder to answer this question? Skunxster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Do women need to work at it harder after 45? Posted: 6/28/2008 8:27:35 PM
OP: When an older guy spreads enough bread around he looks like Adonis to some broads. No double standard just look past my faults and over at the stacks of cash baby! Now lets' get jiggy wid it! LOL! Skunxster PS. It's a joke...It's always a joke!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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George Carlin Posted: 6/23/2008 8:34:57 PM
Carlin used humanities faults to make his point.....it was a constant struggle for him to show folks the irony of life. I, for one, Know the Seven Words, and will use them on the first nun who crosses my path in his honor!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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In the Year 2025........ Posted: 6/23/2008 8:23:13 PM
"A/W" Holygram? You crazy woman.....This is why you're in my heart and soul! Well, while you're lookin' down ...I'll be lookin' up! LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Are people afraid to post in the Georgia Forums??? Posted: 6/23/2008 7:50:28 PM
Howdy Zee and hiding Tee...Yup some people used to use the forums for self gratification. I'm getting too long in the tooth to worry about those types. I just treat folks like I want to be treated. Fair, with a little decency and respect thrown in whether they are a man or a woman. If you're SKEERED holler "RED ROCK"! Skunxster

skunk12pu

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Are people afraid to post in the Georgia Forums??? Posted: 6/22/2008 7:41:37 PM
KID 30 ....go to the Georgia forum page and click new topic and there you go!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Your POF Experience Posted: 6/22/2008 7:38:41 PM
OP: Sure, I'd like to share and some on here I'd let you keep! LOL! I joined in January 2006.....I've met some interesting folks and can only describe them from my perspective. I won't go into details but I joined only to respond to a post typed by some guy named Blu here in th GA pond. It's been a rollercoaster ride ever since. I'd better too many secrets I'd have to give up telling this story. This is enuff for now. Shoot me an e-mail and I'll give the rest of the juicy bits in dribs and drabs. Keep The Faith, Skunxster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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In the Year 2025........ Posted: 6/22/2008 7:22:23 PM
Dang "Believe" I thought you'd wanted a clone....not a clown....LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Plates Posted: 6/20/2008 9:00:17 PM
Beats me Sturd....I thought it was about Tetonic.....Go Figure!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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In the Year 2025........ Posted: 6/20/2008 7:33:27 PM
You made me rethink there "believe" my dear.....what if the holograms fall in love but the other person didn't really turn the flesh and blood you on? Ok ...now I gotta headache...LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Connecting From A Distance... Posted: 6/20/2008 7:27:38 PM
Like "April Showers" I too like window shopping. Just depends if the store is Macy's or Wal-Mart. I kinda like the originals not the knockoffs.LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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To acknowledge or not?? Posted: 6/20/2008 7:20:39 PM
Do what your heart tells you. You have to live with your decision. Personally, if you know her well enough, a face - to -face should suffice. Then maybe she'll share her situation, then maybe she won't. At least she'll know you care. Skunxster

skunk12pu

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Connecting From A Distance... Posted: 6/20/2008 7:11:08 PM
Dang ......I agree with "moraima"......distance does not make the heart grow fonder. Between Point A and Point B there is bound to be someone you'll connect with who is closer. My only problem is the ladies I admire and have my crushes on live too far away and the ones I don't give a hoot for live to damn close! Ramble amble time! Skunxster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Sensuality in your 50's..... Posted: 6/20/2008 7:03:05 PM
Let's see if I can screw this topic up more than it is now.......Sensual feelings, for myself, would be , as a man, a certain cockiness and saviour faire combined with firm gentleness. As far as Sexual feelings verses Sensuality .....one would not exist without the other. Women who exude sensuality are sexy,and whether they like it or not Women who are sexy project sensuality. Damn....where are all the female skunks at? Practicing I Hope! Viva La Difference! Skunxster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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In the Year 2025........ Posted: 6/20/2008 6:33:34 PM
We all experiencing dating now, through cyberspace. Wonder what it will be like in a few years time? I'm referring to the Evans & Zager song in regards to the future of dating. Personally, I see us standing in 3-dimension holograms introducing ourselves and meeting without every really making personal contact. Any takers on this subject?

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

Msg: 77 (view)

Finances Posted: 6/14/2008 9:04:42 PM
OP: Mature individuals have a Will drawn up. And in my state you need the following to help your significant other: Financial Power of Atty.,Medical Power of Atty., and a Living Will. Even though the OP's position has now changed I believe my friend A/W said it best. "If you can't agree financially before marriage, How will you be able to compromise while in the marriage?" Go Hit the Lottery and don't worry about money! LOL! Keep The Faith Skunxster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Ok.... down the road.... Posted: 6/14/2008 8:52:13 PM
OP: Pretty morbid topic....what I would do for the love of my life would know no boundaries. I've seen the good and bad of getting old watching and living among the older generation of folks in my life. I've seen the devastation and endearment caring for those you love can bring. It's up to you and your personal demons on how you treat those that may need your strength and dexterity during this time of life. I, for one, would take the higher road. Let me get off this soapbox................ Keep The Faith Skunxster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Sick of evil Posted: 6/7/2008 4:19:25 PM
OP: Humans have used, evil as good ,and good as evil , ever since man took the leap from monkey to man. Does it make it right? No. What can they get away with until you stop them,if you stop them? Evil succeeds where there are no checks and balances. But then who does the checks and balances? "^BG^" typed it best "I do owe humanity my awareness." As with a child you must repeatedly remind them of your vigilance. They must hear "I see what you're doing. Stop it!" All that is necessary for evil to succeed is that good men do nothing. Edmund Burke

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Hot Tub and the First Date - would you? Posted: 6/7/2008 3:56:35 PM
HHHMMMmmmmmm.......Being a Skunk,I'd have to make sure it was a Saturday night, and that she had, used the excuse of having to wash her hair as a reason not to go out with you on previous occasions. Other than that, a bucket of ice with bubbly sitting in it and two bars of Lever 2000 soap and I'll wash your back if you'll wash mine. It's Good Clean Fun!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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No time for coffee dates, at my age Posted: 5/31/2008 7:19:02 PM
OP: I see your point in the "coffee date" and "meet & greet" situation. A lot of folks don't think about the preparation it may take to just make it to these meetings. Your quite right about talking to each other on the phone for awhile until we're both comfortable with meeting. Though, I have been told that they thought I was never going to get around to asking them to meet. I'm not shy , but I'm not pushy either. I hope I'm not that dense either. LOL! My idea of a "meet & greet" is usually a brunch or lunch. I make sure I set enough time aside to get to know the person who has piqued my interest. I don't call it a date ....because it may not work for one or both of the parties involved. My Motto is : Take the time to take the time! You just never know.

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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What do you hide behind? Posted: 5/31/2008 6:52:30 PM
I don't hide but I do amble about aimlessly without regard as to whether not I'm perceived as hiding. So maybe I hide in my thoughts.....Peek-A-Boo! I keep the turtle motto though..... You can't move about in your shell unless you stick your neck out first. Now where's that rabbit! PS. A/W, My darling , My Dear, I've always thought of you as a L'Oreal Lady!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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What is your real goal for dating? Posted: 5/30/2008 7:48:29 PM
OP: My "GOAL" for dating.....kinda simple... "G" Go "O" Out "A" And "L" Live Enjoy the company of another individual for a few hours or a lifetime whatever the case may be. Sharing being human with another human being.

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Where were you born? Posted: 5/27/2008 4:35:49 PM
Junction City, KS......I'm not in KS anymore TOTO! LOL PS Howdy "Ruthannah" long tyme no type! Skunkster

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Ever Feel Like your Body Betrayed You??!! Posted: 5/24/2008 6:38:39 PM
OP: I feel for you but just can't quite reach you. Have comfort in knowing my body has turned against me on numerous occasions, but I have no where else to move to! The rent sucks and the super keeps making improvements but construction costs are going up and revitalizing this property with this variable mortgage is getting out of hand. Personally, I think they need to put "Home Improvement" back on the air 'cause "This Old House" could use it LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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He is sick, she left him... Posted: 5/18/2008 6:48:12 AM
I never thought I'd agree with this MAC guy....but I do. The second we meet anyone we are already judging them. Just think about it...you wait to see how they act... are they cordial or confrontational right up front before they even open their mouths. We all judge to some extent.

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

Re: All Messages Posted: 5/17/2008 1:31:44 PM
OP: Your friend made her choices and must reap her just reward. This is my judgemental answer. We reap what we sow!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Good Night GA Posted: 5/15/2008 9:08:14 PM
Good Night ! Sleep Tight! Don't let the Bed Bugs Bite! I'll keep a light on for ya! God Bless! Skunksterooni PS. Tee... maybe you need to let them know you wanna catch'em. Ps.ps. Nite Mo!

skunk12pu

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Old bachelor/ettes Posted: 5/15/2008 8:57:32 PM
Where the hell did I put my jogging shoes?!

skunk12pu

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Msg: 66 (view)

setting your standards too high - on purpose Posted: 5/15/2008 8:54:30 PM
Accidentally on purpose.....A/W ...that's why I love ya!

skunk12pu

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setting your standards too high - on purpose Posted: 5/15/2008 1:29:34 PM
I like setting my standards too high...on purpose....that way I can't reach them easily unless I go get my high horse. And then I have to get off my ass (donkey, burro, etc..) to do something about my standards and she'll probably be well worth it. High-Ho-Silver or Hee Haw Honkey Donk! AWAY! Skunkster

skunk12pu

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Msg: 64 (view)

pick up lines Posted: 5/15/2008 11:45:19 AM
I quit using pick up lines when they turned sour. I approached two young ladies sitting at a table in a club and asked ," Would one of you ladies like to dance?". And one responded by saying, "Me and my girlfriend are lesbians." To which I responded sheepishly, " I don't care where your from, I'll dance you with you anyway." Which saved me face and gotta laugh out of them. (Their boyfriends showed up about 10 minutes later.) Damn!Cool Beans!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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MEN ARE boys WITH TALLER LEGS Posted: 5/15/2008 7:30:49 AM
Damn ..I guessed right ...Men are just boys with longer legs....LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Is red hot romance possible after 50? Posted: 5/14/2008 10:42:05 PM
Sure It Is! It's all in how you wiggle your bait! Ain't nuthin' sexier than a woman who uses her God given talent and attributes to coerce a hook shy male into a feeding frenzy! Damn I think I'll have a tuna fish sammich right about now! LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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MEN ARE boys WITH TALLER LEGS Posted: 5/14/2008 10:29:55 PM
Wondering 1980.....So a real man to you is either a psychiatrist or psychologist? HHHmm...(wonders to himself) is this an estrogen overload? But really, We are all just a combined biological mass looking for gratification in whatever form we perceive is justified by our social and economic backgrounds. If you read between the lines we are merely a product of our environment..... including this box. What a revalation......NOT!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Good Night GA Posted: 5/14/2008 10:11:34 PM
Good Night Ponders! Had a nice conversation with a fish from the pond this evening. She let me bend her ear and vent. Which a man ain't supposed to do but I Thank her just the same. Tee I'm glad your pick-a-nick went well. May my Maker Bless and Keep one and all! Skunkerooni PS. Nite Mo! Tag you're it!

skunk12pu

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MEN ARE boys WITH TALLER LEGS Posted: 5/14/2008 3:08:33 AM
This is so untrue...many men's legs are the same length as when they were boys On this one I have to agree...My legs are the same distance they've always been... from my ass to my feet. Skunkster

skunk12pu

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Old bachelor/ettes Posted: 5/14/2008 2:55:57 AM
Never being married means never having to say your sorry! Ok, Let's crank up the "Tijuana Brass" and let the "Dating Game " begin. Bachelorette #1....If you were a Ice Cream flavor, which one would you be? Bachelorette#2....If an old foggie chased you around the room and tried to smooch you, would you run or skip? Bachelorette#3....If you really liked someone, at any age ,would it matter whether they were ever married or not? Maturity and wisdom tends to gives me the confidence not to worry or rush into a relationship. It's just harder for this old foggie to identify the crones and spinsters .....er ah... bachelorettes out there. Viva la Difference! Skunk aka Old Bas...er...bachelor!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 5/14/2008 2:27:57 AM
When I was young, an elderly gent was sitting by me on a bench at the local Sears. and I noticed hair growing out of his ears and nostrils. And being a kid I asked him about it, He said "I've run out of room on my head to grow hair, so it's growing inside my head and coming out of the holes on my skull." That so grossed me out I never wanted to grow old. Now ,I'm trimming hair coming out of orifices that I can't get to grow on my head. I knew he lied to me! LOL! PS " April Showers" I'm honoured and delighted to be a Favourite.

skunk12pu

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He is sick, she left him... Posted: 5/13/2008 3:13:52 PM
I agree with Chocolatebrowne....It's a sorry world when that scenario happens!

skunk12pu

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Am I Stupid Or What? Posted: 5/13/2008 3:03:54 PM
"Tink" It don't help trying to beat some sense into him. But at least you got some cent$ out of him. Love will trick you that way and your heart will want revenge. Are you Stupid? Nope! Just don't let him fool you again! Skunkster

skunk12pu

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 5/11/2008 4:48:35 PM
"April Showers" Since when did you age? Look like Campbell Soup to Me! LOL! Skunkster PS. Being called "OLD" beat some of the monnikers I've been pinned with!

skunk12pu

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 5/11/2008 12:09:41 PM
It's happened a few times in the fish bowl here and in reality land. I'm old enough and wise enough to just give them time to realize it's gonna happen to them sooner or later. Now if I can just stay wise enough to reach oldest age. That's the Kicker! LOL! Damn Young Whipper Snappers!

skunk12pu

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Good Night GA Posted: 5/10/2008 7:51:58 PM
Good Night Ga. Ponders! May My Maker Take a Likin' To Ya! God Bless! Skunkster PS. Good Bye Giggs...you always had some funny topics.......Girly you might be gone ...but you ain't left me! LOL! Almost time for phone TAG!

skunk12pu

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Men...........women.........and sleep Posted: 5/10/2008 7:19:20 AM
I gotta have my 8 hours of beauty sleep....any less and I'm a bear .....anymore and I'm a squirrel. Skunkerooni

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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Would you do it again Posted: 5/10/2008 4:26:01 AM
I don't think I would, but then there are women out there that have made me rethink my position. If you choose not to choose, you still have made a choice! LOL!

skunk12pu

Joined: 1/28/2006

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 5/10/2008 4:09:43 AM
There are a lot of good responses on this subject and I would like to clarify myself on how a woman decorates her home. Sparce or eclectic,lavish or bare,neat or cluttered, classic or modern, gives me a little insite on how she treats herself. As an example, some women I've met have parts of their homes that are show cases of their interests. I looked around my place and wondered what it might say about me. Let's see books, tools, CD's, job related material, repair manuals, weights, and my two dogs asleep on my bed. And apparently, I have a thing for green curtains. But that's what I see, you may see something quite the opposite. "Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid." George Carlin

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