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sirthinkalot

Joined: 4/21/2009

Msg: 66 (view)

Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/7/2009 5:21:50 PM
I will in a minute wolftxus, This next one will be a howl. I want to be careful, wouldn't want anyone falling down laughing from such great heights, "After all this build up" Some of my humor might seem cold alas it is Good Humor It may be a little while though as I don't have a high speed connection. I'm busy finishing up some stuff for Steven Wright.

sirthinkalot

Joined: 4/21/2009

Msg: 61 (view)

Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/6/2009 10:47:01 PM
oohlala21 Humor has it's place. Using it to appease those that continually try to directly attack and offend me is not where I choose to use it. If they had anything of value to offer on the threads subject matter it would be nice to see. Perhaps then, when they grow up, I can resort to humor. As it is I have been "humoring" you and her. Why don't YOU try posting a bit without trying to attack me, mentioning me or misquoting me. See if either of you two are capable of it. If humor is sought then politely request it. I do not "play well" with those that seek to offend and insult me. In casee you did not know it. That is not sarcasm.

sirthinkalot

Joined: 4/21/2009

Msg: 59 (view)

Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/6/2009 10:08:10 PM
blueceleste Alas again you take on the persona of a "Troll". You completely misinterpret and misrepresent what I stated. I did not state whether or not I personally do or don't like sarcasm nor whether or not I employ it. I merely presented two opposing perspectives on the subject and the view that some might take of same. I happen to be known as very humorous, rather gregarious. I must be, after all, I've found your attempts at despairiging remarks to be humorous instead of recognizing how much you degrade yourself. Some are known to be of very low intelligence and lacking in class. Others prove it when they open their mouths or write. You continue to write. Thank you for showing your abilities (or is it lack of?). Let me try to put this in a level, even you might understand... If you are going to comment on someones post then at least get someone to read it to you and explain it in child speak so you can comprehend what it is they wrote then perhaps you won't seem so idiotic. Stop trying to bait me. Get back to the appropriate subject this thread was meant to address. You are now beginning to bore us. Do you really NEED that much more attention?

sirthinkalot

Joined: 4/21/2009

Msg: 43 (view)

Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/5/2009 11:18:47 PM
Absolutely as I never looked to see what color anyone was. The posted image means nothing to me and I rarely look at it. TXT speak is a form of "bonics" read further: "As the shock subsided, the often sarcastic notion grew of making -onics or -bonics a suffix designating any dialect or distinctive way of talking. Among the countless inventions were Chicagonics for Chicago talk, Hebonics for Jewish speech styles, TVbonics for the language of television game shows, and Greasebonics or Mechanics English for the language of automobile repairpersons." refferenced from: http://www.answers.com/topic/ebonics She did not use "TXT speak" She used lousy English, poor spelling, insults and a display of little to no communication skills. Now as "ebonics" or other "bonics has been used in many forms by many people without a standardized definition for it perhaps that leaves the door open for each to use it in their own way subject to interpretation. Did I insult her intelligence? I think not, I merely reaffirmed what she had already displayed. A complete lack of the aforementioned. This entire thread has centered on the idea of Sarcasm and it's interpretation as to whether or not it is received as insult. Most have completely disregarded the definition of "sarcasm". The idea of whether it was meant as humor or insult is important. Yet some of the very people involved in this thread cannot understand their inability to comprehend the meaning in which a statement was intended. They instead chose to twist it into something it was not. Yes these people are not ready to accept sarcasm. They could not appreciate good humor. You bring up color. I never have. You might display racism I never will. I live to a much higher standard. If I am wrong I am man enough to admit it. I have seen you are not. All have seen you try to play the race card and your false accusations. You may attempt to weasel out of this but it has been shown. At this point I really don't need the apology as it would be worthless. Thank you for proving my point.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 40 (view)

Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/5/2009 10:58:10 PM
oohlala21 I don't know why you would accuse me of being racist? It is a stupid, ignorant, accusation. Not worth defending. I do not nor have i ever made racist statements. It is against my beliefs and nature to do or act in a racist way. If I condemn someone for the way they act and behave it is that person I critisize. Never their race. Wherever you tried to make it up from. Perhaps you should take heed to check your facts first. Whenever you are humble and decent enough to acknowledge your wrongdoing and false accusations you may make a public apology as you have chosen to publicly & wrongfully made false statements and insults. I may be wrong in thinking this but somehow I doubt you will be honest enough to admit your wrongdoing. That in of itself will show what you are. I need not prove it. You will. BTW before further incorrect statements are made by you showing your lacking, perhaps you want to check your spelling before accusing others of mistakes. What a shame you and your cohort have hijacked a fine thread with your unwarranted bashing and flaming. Good night and good luck. You deserve each other.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 31 (view)

Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/5/2009 10:19:17 PM
Blueceleste I'm going to give you some advice and will try to bring it down to your level of understanding. You need to read, comprehend and attempt to understand the postings on here prior to writing and placing posts that will demean yourself and show your lack of cerebral prowess. You falsely accuse me of attacking your earlier post. FACT: I did not. The earlier post referred to was made by farceur. And I made no insult to her merely commented on her statement. I never said you were the poster crediting sexual frustration with sarcasm. Furthermore I never said it was to be equated either. Secondly: You falsely state "ive met guys like u," this is not so. "guys like me" would not be interested in meeting the likes of you. I do not associate with judgmental common people who are not capable of having meaningful intelligent dialogue. You have not been fortunate enough to land someone like me. Without change you most likely never will. As to putting you to sleep... yes that is likely. I would not be capable of keeping your attention for long. I have trouble only using ebonics, slang and words of four letters or less. I can fully appreciate your statement of "if i was insulting u, u would know it trust me" You have made the mistake of insulting me. Either that or you have attempted sarcasm and are not adept at it. If it was your attempt at sarcasm, you need training. If it was your effort to insult me. You are far better off picking an opponent more your equal. You are not equipped to have a battle of wit nor the mind with me. As you grow, hopefully you will learn this forum is a place to share knowledge, advice, opinions and recommendations. Not a place to attempt to bash, degrade or insult others. You really never know who you might tangle with. To put in a vernacular you might understand, In all ways you are messing with the wrong person. As to my sense of humor... it must be pretty good as I'm currently laughing at you. Thank you

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 18 (view)

Sarcasm: Bad vs. Good Posted: 10/5/2009 4:57:02 PM
sarcasm, as stated previously, is in the strict definition "insulting and meant to cause harm or hurt." Hence in that sense it is wrong and not pleasant. And no one would enjoy receiving it unless they are Masochistic. However most people do not mean it in the true definition. Most equate sarcasm to twisting ones words, using pun, irony etc to have fun. Harmless intentions. Attempts at humor and levity. Therefore Sarcasm is very good and used well it can be favorable for both. Don Rickles mada living from insulting people. Millions loved his humor / sarcasm. I myself never cared for his humor. I'm in the minority there. Sarcasm may be a sign of intelligence, comedic timing, quick thinking etc. Ii may mask nervousness etc. The poster who claimed it is due to sexual frustration... all I can say is I hope she was being "sarcastic"

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 5 (view)

Advice Posted: 10/5/2009 4:46:28 PM
OP, would you rather he did not care about you nor showed any interest in you to seek advice in your relationship? What possibly could be the down side in seeking information? The info might be good or bad. That will be for you him and possibly you to determine. There is rarely anything wrong with gaining knowledge or insight. I might be more concerned if you seem to feel threatened by this advice coming from a female. Are you perhaps feeling insecure? That is in itself a different issue.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 16 (view)

Sensible advice when dumping somebody Posted: 9/26/2009 3:20:09 PM
Be decent. There was something good, you saw in them, to want to have the relationship in the first place. You were caring enough to be with them long enough to call it a relationship. Unless you were faking it and are a liar there was a bond. Why would any decent, honest person want to hurt someone they cared about. Be kind, be gentle, have some guts, show some class and perhaps be there for them in the consoling if necessary. Why not? Can't we take the time to help someone we care about? There are those that will complain of concerns about "what if..." the other hangs on etc. So what. Deal with it. Take the time to help. If you don't have the time, caring and decency to treat a failed relationship partner well then you are not ready to start a relationship with anybody. So perhaps the first test of a person, when starting a relationship, is how they handled ending previous relationships. I'm confident many on here will bolster the block and ignore concept. That says a lot of their character.

sirthinkalot

Joined: 4/21/2009

Msg: 17 (view)

Is a phone call that difficult? Posted: 9/23/2009 8:30:33 PM
Ho2w about the obvious. You state he has not responded to your texts. Did it ever occur to you he may not be receiving them? I have traveled plenty and find, depending on the carrier, my texts as well as my voice mail indicator did not work while away. Most recently I was away and texted people. They never responded although my phone showed the text was sent. Upon returning I questioned the recipient. They had never received the text. I even checked their phone. It never came through. So Stop second guessing. Any relationship needs to have a foundation in communication and trust. If you are not sure of something, ask him.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 16 (view)

animal antics Posted: 9/22/2009 7:12:21 PM
I have met some real Daisey's. Oh? no flowers? Well they were real vegetables. Not an animal? Well they were mental vegetables. Some were Ferrets. Sneaky, trying to steal what they could. Unfortunately I love Ferrets, just not the people kind. I've met some Hamsters. Very cute but no memory, no brains. Just going about their mindless way. Running in circles. Eating and waiting to die. I'm looking to meet the one animal I want a woman to be... an angel. What not an animal? OK, I'll pretend she is then.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 36 (view)

Kissing Birds and then your date? Posted: 9/17/2009 3:42:15 PM
OP, did you ever wonder if this was her way of telling you she did not want to kiss you later? Maybe SHEe was grossed out later when you tried to kiss her. She was thinking & saying to herself "oh, NO! This guy has no class at all. I go to the extreme of putting something this filthy in my mouth and he still wants to kiss me?! UGH! " Yes you misinterpreted her. She was trying to scare you off Next date, while the two of you are strolling down the street, she is going to poke her finger in some dog feces laying on the ground. Then she will lick it off. If you kiss her after that she will give up and marry you. I'm trying to think of what the wedding cake will taste like.

sirthinkalot

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I hate liars Posted: 9/10/2009 7:38:08 PM
Not sure all would agree on the origination of all from Africa. I believe some would point to the three "primary" race descriptors as "Caucasoid, Negroid, Mongoloid". Color being only one value attached and at that not a definitive one. Bone structure, facial features and many others being more prominent. The primaries extrapolate further into races that divide even as far as religion. Anytime there is a separation of many generations that result in physical differences that are measurable, a value of race can be assigned. No beneficial reason to be dishonest of race. No race is superior of others in all ways. Some have certain advantages as do others. Together we are all equal. Except one. There is a race that, at times, is the worst on this planet. The human race.

sirthinkalot

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when to stop Posted: 9/4/2009 10:10:12 AM
To CassaGo I've made no inconsistent statements. You assume things that are not so. I believe in and am very adept at communication. If I am blindsided it is due to the woman's being dishonest or failing to communicate. Not due to my not communicating with her. What you call blindsided is not such to me. As stated, if she finds someone else, fine. I'm happy for her. If she were to find someone else than she was looking and needed that. It would have happened eventually anyway. I have had these discussions in dating. I have communicated my ideals. I believe you missed some of the point. It appears some do not know a finite time period in which to switch to monogamous. This is what I was addressing. They must choose to do this. I cannot tell them to. You CANNOT stop someone from looking elsewhere, even in marriage. They must choose it. Or YOU will become blindsided. BTW I believe in and practice. I have no problem with being a monogamist in a relationship, when the time has come to proceed that way.

sirthinkalot

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when to stop Posted: 9/4/2009 9:34:57 AM
I encourage the person I'm seeing to go online yet. See whomever they please. Until we form a monogamous relationship I do not want to advise her to stop looking. This must be a decision she chooses on her own. If I am giving her all she wants, she need not look elsewhere. If I am not, she should be able to find it elsewhere. Being secure in a relationship does not mean putting binders on the other. It means giving them their freedom. I would never want a woman to "settle" for me because she had "not yet" found something better. I would want her to choose me because I am what she wants and is satisfied with. Because SHE is not interested in seeking elsewhere. If anyone thinks they can know this in just a couple of dates, they rival Kreskin. Please tell me the next lottery numbers also. Oh and when you write your thoughts we will dispose of Nostradamus writings too. Arranged marriage **************************************** Years of courtship **********************Yes there is an in between ***************************

sirthinkalot

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Wanted : A Chemistry drug ! Posted: 9/3/2009 8:39:37 PM
I'm with Red Buttons on this Chemistry idea. I do not believe there is such a thing. Many years ago before I was married I dated a LOT of women. All types. As for immediate - instant feelings: I may have felt lust, desire, all sorts of things from hormones etc but never this magical "chemistry". Not even with the woman I married and after 20 years separated and in the midst of divorce. I believe two can have chemistry but it takes a long time to develop, nurture and grow. Instant chemistry is bu***hit in my humble opinion. Those that judge by it are superficial and fooling themselves. Just my opinion though as I might just be abnormal and suffering from a delusion also known as reality /logic/ control of my emotions etc. You know, things that have no place in a quickie relationship.

sirthinkalot

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White Knights... lol Posted: 9/3/2009 6:41:40 AM
Perhaps the OP's opinion is subject to his interpretation and experience. I like to have fun, be facetious and humorous in many of my emails but I do not buhit at all. I let them know when I am having fun or using levity (most times). OP you need to understand that what you perceive as dishonest or bu might be sincere and genuine from the poster. I agree with the garbage of telling the "10 different chicks that their the hottest" is wrong and bu. As to the reuse of cliches... perhaps they have limited communicative skills, limited command of the English language or are comfortable with a certain expression. Some people use "a" "um" and words of that nature constantly in speech. Does that make them shallow, phony or bu*hiters?

sirthinkalot

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Rules Posted: 9/2/2009 11:53:30 AM
Cookie Too many Two's Very well put post. I agree wholeheartedly. Too bad many others do not understand or follow your thoughts. They are so busy doing what someone else has laid out and not showing their true self. How can they find the right match.? Well put

sirthinkalot

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Rules Posted: 9/2/2009 11:23:59 AM
Don't let the rules, rule you. In an equal relationship no one has the rule. To be straight I don't need a rule. Shall we rule out rules? Simple rule. "Do unto others..." oops, that won't work. Some treat others in a lousy way as they are used to it and expect the same for themselves.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 347 (view)

The Toilet seat thing!!! Posted: 9/2/2009 6:49:34 AM
mrcm37 you said: "The seat AND the lid should be left down by BOTH sexes each time" Then how is the cat supposed to drink?

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 69 (view)

Background checks?? Posted: 9/1/2009 9:40:54 AM
sorry to disagree but: 1)If you google yourself it will not necessarily show your forum posts. Not if you are not logged into POF and if you regularily delete the tracking. Now if you google the username & plentyoffish toegether in the search criteria it should work. But that can already be accomplished in POF without google. 2) good luck on the IP address thing. A) It is easy to spoof an IP address. B) If you were savy enough to get my IP and traced it would show a location and state in which I've never lived and am not situate in. 3) MOST online background check systems are a ruse they either supply you with freely available public record data that you could have gotten on your own or nothing of value. I google myself and nothing. Not a thing on me. My name is listed many times however it is not me. Also remember this. Just because someone is a criminal, wacko, stalker, mean, nasty or whatever the issue is, do not think they are not intelligent. They might be brilliant, an IT professional or good at covering their tracks. It is not hard to disguise your identity online and be private with your identity or your past. Hence why bother to try to find out the information that way. It is useless and gives you a false sense of security unless the person being "checked" is dumb. In which case simple questioning directly of that party should suffice. This is not just opinion.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 17 (view)

Pulling teeth style of communications - is it age? - or gender? or is it just me? Posted: 9/1/2009 8:53:31 AM
my previous post was not posted as written by me. The reference to the email address should have read " firstname DOT Lastname AT SYMBOL EMAIL PROVIDER DOT Com" example might be "John DOT Doe AT SOMEMAIL DOT com

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 16 (view)

Pulling teeth style of communications - is it age? - or gender? or is it just me? Posted: 9/1/2009 8:50:02 AM
To 13 Karat I understand your point however when you state: "When you meet a new person, do you not at least give them your first name?" yes, if that is a face to face meeting. This is not. As stated, when talking on the phone or face to face I gladly share that information. When "meeting" online I do not know if they are a man pretending to be a woman, a child or if they are even situate in the area they claim to be. Just because they list a Town near me does not mean it is the truth. Further you state: "It does not have to be a full name, it can even be a nickname" I do provide a pseudonym, no difference between that and a nickname for them. What possible legitimate reason could, a person of integrity, have for needing my real name in early email correspondence? If that were the case I would have my email address be . @ .com, as some do. It might be good in a business or marketing scenario but rarely any other situations. I see no difference between them. Lets see, perhaps I'm rather ignorant and cerebral challenged hence someone help me out with this one... I post my photo, my real name, my location, my interests, about maybe ages of possible children, perhaps what I do for a job and my age on the internet for a few million people to view at will. What could possibly be the consequences? Yes we must share certain information however in good judgment we must draw the line somewhere. It is a matter of perspective. What some see as being secretive others see as being sensible. what some see as paranoid others see as knowledgeable. What some see as rude not to divulge others see rude to push to find out.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 12 (view)

Pulling teeth style of communications - is it age? - or gender? or is it just me? Posted: 9/1/2009 6:10:32 AM
I have had the transverse experience. I agree with what you state in experience however it has been the women doing what you state. If they have little in their profile and I ask them to tell me more about themselves I get a standard "What do you want to know?" response. If I say "tell me more of yourself, tell me what is NOT already written in your profile" I get almost the same response. If I ask a lot of questions I rarely get many answers. This is not so dissimilar to IRL. I find people often do not listen carefully to what people say. How often we find ourselves asking a question of somebody and they give an answer that does not match the interrogatory. As to the name question... What difference does that make? Early on there is no reason for a "real" name. Once some sort of rapport is established, and telephone and / or real life meeting is in place yes then exchange names. Prior there is no need. Use a pseudonym, if comfortable however if not, the real name given later, there will be accusations of false statements hence no benefit. A real name prior is useless. If the person is a stalker / bad person they will most likely lie and use false information anyway. Hence a Google look up is fruitless. Anyone contacting me will find I have no issues with communication. I will have issues with divulging personally identifiable information until the appropriate time to do so. However I do not expect such information from the other until then either. We should both be safe to find out about what the other is like in personality, beliefs, values and opinions before sharing personally identifiable information. If I find the other has more interest in name and such than what I am about then they are not for me and I move on. If they cannot or care not to communicate I move on. If they will not tell me ore of themselves so I can learn if we share common values, ways, ideals etc, I move on. Luckily this truck is in good shape and can keep on going. There's plenty of road ahead.

sirthinkalot

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What is shallow? Posted: 8/28/2009 12:34:10 PM
"I think it is ABNORMAL and SUSPECT to NOT disclose a person is shallow and is fist and foremost concerned with looks rather than integrity, intelligence, feelings, moraes and values BEFORE meeting." BTW this thread was not about a photo first scenario but that concept has apparently been lost To those who feel the GREAT importance of a photo first. To those who believe that not showing a photo means you have something to hide. Try this 1) Post your phone number, SS number, DOB and other private information. Why not? Oh, you must be deceitful and are cheating on someone. 2) Take real, high resolution photos of yourself to post. 3) I'll create a website just for you. It will not allow more than one email. No chat. Just a collection of photos. In the emails you will be limited to no more than ten words so you cannot get to find out what someone is like. In said website we will rate you on your looks. this will be discussed openly in the forums. A) In said website a test will be required. This test will determine if your IQ is over a certain level. B) If your ability to understand information, extrapolate data, correlate information and draw to a reasonable conclusion is of sufficient abilities. C) If you take time to analyze information and have the ability to see with different perspectives If you are deemed to have the aforementioned qualities of A, B & C a warnings will be sent to you not to enter said website as you would not be comfortable with those that fail said test and infect said site.

sirthinkalot

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What is shallow? Posted: 8/28/2009 11:28:21 AM
Wow. I guess it is near impossible to filter out the quick to judge, lack of reasoning individuals from the rest of us. Who decided this was a "boo hoo" or "self pity" thread. If I questionn of a police officer beating a civilian - does that mean I am a civilian who was beaten by an officer? If I questionn of a person using prejudicial remarks toward someone of a particular race - should people assume I am of that race? If I ask of someones shallowness of people who are overweight - should people assume I am overweight? If I state the conversation made - does that mean someone was rejected? Some of these prejudicial posts and comments are indicative of the exact conditions in shallowness that prevails on these sites. This is all part of being shallow. Keep to the issue discussed. For all those who feel it is the initial appearance that determines a possible relationship. May it never happen to you that your partner eventually gets out of shape, has a disfiguring accident or illness. Incurs a health condition that damages their teeth. For surely you would abandon them immediately. Should it happen to you be prepared to be alone from thereon for why would anyone, who is not shallow, wnat to spend the time and energy to educate you on the depth of a person. May the shallow, quick to judge, people of the world UNITE. Yes unite, get together and go be with yourselves. You are deserving of each other.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 12 (view)

What is shallow? Posted: 8/28/2009 10:12:20 AM
To DemonDingleBerry It is a shame you did not read my post and have expressed opinions that some may see as "shallow" . I was not looking for a definition of shallow in the dictionary sense. That may be perceived as: : penetrating only the easily or quickly perceived b : lacking in depth of knowledge, thought, or feeling Your response does that as you assume and did not pay attention to my post. 1) No one rejected me. This person and I were in only early stages of conversation. No "attraction" as yet was present. 2) I walk th walk not talk the talk as many others do. I have been with women that you might not have found attractive, That is a shame as you have no idea what you have missed. I have been fortunate enough to not be "blinded" by the quick and prejudicial assumptions made upon immediate ocular results. 3) It was never stated, you wrongly assume, she found me unattractive. This was a discussion of opinions on shallowness. I did not realize that one such as you would expose themselves as being so shallow in such a public way. This you have accomplished with your jump to conclusions, assumptions and derogatory remarks. 4) Why would you, wrongly, assume I am of the build and description aforementioned? Fortunately many of us are considerate of people such as yourself and will overlook your shortcomings, hoping you will grow and develop. Kindly look to other posts for your flaming.

sirthinkalot

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Too Fast Posted: 8/28/2009 9:35:57 AM
simple: Lack of communication. ALL successful relationships are based on communication. Good effective, willing, honest communication. Many people, I find are either too lazy to communicate or they are afraid to confront people and be honest with their feelings. Perhaps this is due to a lack of confidence in their convictions or they are afraid the other will argue & try to change their mind. Either way it is unacceptable but true as most do as you've stated.

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 17 (view)

Probably a man? Posted: 8/28/2009 8:16:14 AM
You might be 100% correct or... All the following assume it was a woman 1) she was there at the meeting, stealthily checking you out & changed her mind yet afraid to admit it 2) she has agoraphobia and is afraid to leave the house 3) she is deaf and you might tell in a telephone conversation as well as IRL 4) She is blind same answers as above 5) she has anxiety disorders causing a phone and meeting issues 6) You know her and she knows you, she might even work with you and she is not ready for you to know that yet. a "secret admirer" you would recognize via voice and meeting. With any of the above and others an explanation to you is warranted just the assumption of female impostor might be questioned. Many possibilities abound.

sirthinkalot

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What is shallow? Posted: 8/28/2009 7:41:20 AM
We all may have different opinions of this. Looking for some opinions here. Recently I was in contact with someone who basically stated: that if she were to correspond with someone on here without a photo for awhile. Then telephoned. Found after a while, they liked each other a lot. Cared for the way their minds worked, their souls felt. Had commonalities. Then arranged a meeting sight unseen. When met she found the guy was 400 lbs and had bad teeth. She would be repulsed and never want the guy. She feels that is not shallow. I feel that is exactly what shallow is. Now, I have spoken to someone else on here who is bright and I respect their opinion. They feel that is acceptable as the repulsed one is displeased with the lack of health care and hygiene the overweight bad toothed individual practiced. I feel that may be a substantial reason but is more rationalization applied. My feeling is we seek the soul, the mind and the heart. If one finds that online and yet judges by the body then they are shallow. Do they have the right to be shallow? YES. does it mean they are not shallow? NO BTW I am not 400lbs with bad teeth as those who have met me can attest to. This was a hypothetical situation only. But the conversation was real. Let the opinions begin...

sirthinkalot

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Msg: 2 (view)

Could be interference... Posted: 7/16/2009 8:42:54 AM
It's simple: If your friend wants to date him fine. If it is you seeing the guy and in a relationship of some form (yes, friendship is a relationship), then she needs to but out. Every person has different needs, feelings, interpretations of a relationship. Her perspective should not be yours, unless by coincidence. If it were you complaining about the status of your relationship then effect changes. If it is your girlfriend who is not satisfied with the relationship, too bad for her. If you have been and are building a very strong friendship with this guy then that is great. Some friendships can outlast a marriage. A successful marriage can and should start with a great friendship. If you are secure in your friendship with this guy then you should be able to approach him and tell him how YOU (not your friend) are thinking / feeling. If you cannot be satisfied with his responses then you must decide on your next course of action. A true friend you can discuss anything with. A future life partner, you can discuss anything with. After four years, it should stand the test.

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Msg: 8 (view)

Profile Viewing Question Posted: 7/15/2009 4:24:59 PM
Don't count on the "viewed me" list as a way of contact. If you are interested let them know. If they reject you, big deal! If they respond well and after emails and meetings you hit it off, Great! You state: "think about adding people to favorites that you have never talked to?" NEVER! I would not add someone as a favorite if I haven't been socializing with them. How can someone be a favorite if I don't know them? To me it is not a young kids popularity contest. Some people collect favorites. I'd rather collect real friends and people I have come to know, understand and like. They are my favorites.

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Msg: 234 (view)

Why would you lie about your age? Posted: 7/13/2009 2:57:28 PM
I'm sure everyone should be very wary of someone who lies. In fact someone who lies about their age about a couple of years must be dastardly. We must condemn them. Why it is despicable. If they lie about one thing or mislead on something as important as that what else would they do? Why they might use that ability to thwart the truth to wrongfully influence children too. I'll bet they are the same despicable, insidious bastedous that told their children to believe in the Easter Bunny. Maybe even lied to them and said there was a Santa Claus. Lied, were dishonest and told them a fat guy in a red suit climbed down their chimney. Yes, we are right! We must condemn those SOB liers! If they would lie about anything at all, they will lie about everything. Trust no one. Except the person who has never in their life told a lie. Someone please let me know when you find that person. What you found a person who never uttered one word of falsehood? Really? Oh, you didn't tell me they were born mute. I believe in honesty, however I have realistic goals and do not expect the impossible from others. To those that condemn the liar of their age, think. Have you ever thought of the person who dyed their hair as lying? What about the person who drives a car that is well over their means but has a large loan they struggle with to compensate thus project an image of financial success that is false. Ever tell someone they looked fine in that dress when you thought it was ugly? What woman thinks of herself as lying when she puts on makeup to hide the natural looks and features of her face? Ahhh, the falsehoods abound. Just let us hope while judging others no one casts that stone at our own walls.

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Msg: 64 (view)

public pickers are on pof TOO Posted: 7/13/2009 2:41:22 PM
Sung to the tune of... Everybodies doing it, doing it, doing it, Pick your nose and chewing it; I love green, Yeah!

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Msg: 63 (view)

public pickers are on pof TOO Posted: 7/13/2009 2:39:25 PM
You go to kiss your honey; but your nose is kinda runny: You might think it's funny; but itsnot:

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Msg: 232 (view)

Why would you lie about your age? Posted: 7/13/2009 1:33:16 PM
Because my real age of over 300 years would not be believed by most women on here. Signed Methuselah

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Msg: 19 (view)

Does Media influence the way we approach dating? Posted: 7/13/2009 12:37:31 PM
Shall we ponder further? Is anyone influenced by what they read in these forums? I'm confident some are. They read the posts and if enough people make similar statements, they believe them to be accurate. If statements are made that are compelling they may adopt those ideas. If the poster of those statements has a photo attached they may equate the legitimacy of those statements to a higher probability of accuracy based on their perception of attractiveness to the photo. And what does this have to do with the question? This forum is the MEDIA! The internet is one of the strongest media out today. This website is media at work. It is interactive media. Hence the prior influence of those stated magazines, movies, TV, billboards etc. has had the desired effect on the posters in this forum. What we write, how we look for our photos, what we put in our profiles, it is all based in part on the media. Our primary influences, Family, School, Environment, Social circles. All of the aforementioned are affected in part by media. George Orwell was right. Unless of course others are like myselves. With our Schizophrenia we area able to split ourselves and while one of us is constantly affected by media the other has a clear head, is unaffected, observes and is able to share these words of wisdom.

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Msg: 15 (view)

Dating Abductees Posted: 7/12/2009 10:10:22 AM
I would try to find out the contact information for the aliens. They might have some single alien females along with them and I've been wanting to have a relationship with female aliens for years. 1) They might Grok 2) Those numerous appendages can do marvelous things 3) We could be the center of attention at group get togethers 4) If her relatives are undesirable, due to geographic limitations, I'd rarely have to be with them. 5) I could get away with anything by just telling her it was normal for us humans, how could she know the difference 6) She could take me to places I've never been before 7) As her society has grown beyond meaningless money as a system of trade, she would not need nor desire any. hence I could settle down and become a lazy bum. (My life's ambition) " Beam me up Scotty, there's no intelligent life down here" (Borrowed, not mine)

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Msg: 5 (view)

Interested in a Lehigh Valley Singles Picnic/BBQ ? Posted: 7/8/2009 5:51:55 AM
Guess the OP lost interest. No new post or response in almost two months. Well I still think it is a good idea. If others are interested lets discuss the possibility.

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Msg: 30 (view)

What are men looking for in an older woman? Posted: 7/6/2009 9:11:03 PM
scary stuff you state there with the age calculation: (20 / 2 ) + 7 = jail

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Msg: 14 (view)

public pickers are on pof TOO Posted: 7/6/2009 8:55:36 PM
So at the end of the date, now this is important for us to know... Did you kiss her... ... or... did you... Shake her hand If so which one did you shake?

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Msg: 46 (view)

Look at me, look at you Posted: 7/6/2009 8:46:02 PM
maybe it is a misinterpretaion: Perhaps she feels you are incredibly handsome and yet she feels unattractive. The comment might be her saying she is not pretty enough for you. Ahhh, the glass is not half empty, it is about to overflow.

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Msg: 16 (view)

Yahoo Bots are out in force and they're quite convincing Posted: 7/6/2009 5:46:55 PM
if proper provisions are in place you need not worry. However provisions constantly need upgrading as technology advances and security flaws are realized. Basically if you have little protection think of it this way. Do not put anything in your computer you would be aghast of finding on a Billboard on the major highways. Keyloggers are useful to the malicious individual however if you never put you SS number, passwords, bank account numbers into your system, don't worry.

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Msg: 11 (view)

Yahoo Bots are out in force and they're quite convincing Posted: 7/6/2009 2:53:32 PM
What is most enjoyable is the placebo Yahoo IM offers up: The option of reporting the BOT as SPAM etc. I'm confident they are taking extreme efforts to thwart this most hideous of abuses. I have no knowledge of the actions YIM takes but I do wonder if there is anything at all done with the BOT reporting. Now you could be nasty and take a little script and send it to them with the response. Just something simple that will boot them. Not that I condone or have any knowledge of such nor would I ever consider sending malicious code to another party. I have no knowledge of the workings of these infernal contraptions anyway. There are only 10 people in the world that understand binary. The other one doesn't. To err is human, to really foul things up, requires a computer.

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Msg: 9 (view)

Yahoo Bots are out in force and they're quite convincing Posted: 7/6/2009 2:34:09 PM
I've known for years not to use the same username, password or information on different sites. As to BOTS, easy as of the first contact recieved you can merely ask something that cannot be auto answered such as: "If I had Two cows and then acquired Three more then one ran away How many would I have left?" Leave something like this in an easy access place. Paste it into your first or second response to the BOT if they don't answer with a logical response in two tries they are blocked. Of course by then if you did not take precautions they already have your IP, username etc. so you will be targeted by others again. Now the real problem is BOT Flies, they are harder to shed.

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Msg: 26 (view)

What are men looking for in an older woman? Posted: 7/6/2009 1:57:09 PM
Younger men want older woman, why? Let me count the ways: Stocks Bonds CD's Mutual funds Real Estate Holdings Trust Funds Jewelry Gold Bullion Inheritance Cash Misc. Investment portfolios Acquired material possessions Security Greed Did i miss any? Sure lots. * Warning Levity, Humor, facetiousness, sarcasm abounding * Maybe they are very intelligent and need someone many years their senior to equal them mentally. Maybe they are very old inside but held captive in their young and virile bodies. Perhaps they are suffering from a terminal illness, have not long to live and fiqure to hook up with someone old enough to not outlast them by far therefore being not unfair to someone their own age. Other plausible reasons to follow, stay tuned

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Msg: 36 (view)

A dating site devoted to not hooking up Posted: 7/6/2009 1:44:32 PM
Wait a minute! I've heard some prejudicial and ridiculous statements on these forums but this one has to be among the upper ones: When dimension5 stated : "Anyone who doesn't meet on the weekends has already someone else or is married" Are you kidding? Do you have any idea how many people have jobs that are primarily on the weekends? Many restaurant, Catering, Entertainment and other jobs require work schedules primarily on the weekends with time off mostly on weekdays. I know of many people who are off Mondays or Wednesdays and never Friday - Sunday. Medical fields also may follow this. Often people who are newer with a company are stuck in the Weekend shifts until they have enough seniority. Then what about the separated / divorced ones who only get teim with their kids during weekends. That would not be traded for an early "meetup". Think of others situations. Not just our own.

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Msg: 3 (view)

First Date Posted: 7/5/2009 9:56:22 AM
The prior poster (Idoc Steve) touched on several points. To add though. Simply put he changed his mind. The issue here, I believe, is communication. Obviously the two of you did not have a commitment with each other yet. Therefore the issue is not why he changed his mind. That may be what is on your mind. The issue should be why no communication between you of this. Basically I have found the vast majority of people are Lazy in communication. They do not want to take the time and effort to fully communicate their feelings to another. Is this wrong? Yes Is it rude? Yes Is it disrespectful? Yes Is it commonplace? Yes Would they want this done to them? No A little courtesy and respect goes a long way towards making this world a better place. Just seems people feel it is for others to do, not them.

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Msg: 12 (view)

A dating site devoted to not hooking up Posted: 7/4/2009 1:01:56 PM
Thank you for solidifying my point Stephanie Many others, as you have just shown, also like to only read, learn, understand a small part of things before making their judgments. Guess it's easier like that. Old saying I like for people of that mindset: "Don't confuse me with the facts" Apparently you woke up again though. Either that or you have gone on to sleep typing. I don't know as I WONT ASSUME EITHER.

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Msg: 1046 (view)

Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 7/4/2009 12:55:40 PM
forum101: understood, however it is still an illness. Wouldn't a married person still be obligated to stay and get the help for that person that is needed. Not all illness' can be cured. Many can be treated. Many with treatment made manageable. Stay with that person, safety measures in place, through out the treatment process. It may also be found that there were signs of this prior to matrimony. Unless it was a very rapid advancement from first meeting to marriage. Perhaps that needs looking into also. It is known that many people who get into a relationship with someone who has mental issues will often go into a future relationship with same. Help might be needed on both sides. I'm not here as a doctor, nor counselor. Just some experience in handling marriage and illness.

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