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Joined: 4/22/2009

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How do you feel about dating a smoker? Posted: 5/26/2009 10:53:37 AM
Oh, and another thing. IF I were to date a smoker, yes, I would worry about being around the temptation. But, it's ME that chooses to give into the tempation or not. If I really liked someone that smokes, then I would ask to having compromises or rules such as: not smoking in my home or my car if you have to smoke, go outside or in the garage don't ask me if I want a cigg... the answer is no don't be offended if I hand you gum before you try to kiss me (or) be considerate. if you want to smoke, then gargle mouthwash out of condideration. don't ever smoke around my children don't ask me to buy ciggs for you. it's your habit and your cost i will offer to help you quit if you want the help, but you have to make the effort. if we go somewhere important, like a dinner or movie, please don't leave to smoke during it. wait until it's over. If a smoker could be considerate than dating a smoker would be an easier decision. Also, as a side note for those of you who do smoke and want to quit: I quit last December when my dad bought me WalMarts version of Nicorette gum. I was kinda hurt but decided to try and quit as I really didn't like it anyhow, other than it did relax me when Igot stressed out, or if I was out drinking with my friends. I enjoed it then. It was hard. I finished my last pack and started chewing the gum as directed. The first 2-3 weeks were the hardest but I have to be honest that IF YOU CHEW THE GUM and don't give in to the tempation IT WILL WORK. Take the gum everywhere with you and make sure you always have a back up box in case you run out. AND don't let yourself run out!!! The cravings are bad but the gum DOES WORK to help them and I would chew each piece of gum as long as possible. Sometimes one would last me for a few hours. After the first month or so, you will eventually find that you will not need to gum more and more, and the time periods in between when you chew them become longer and longer. After 4-6 weeks (and a weight gain of 14 pounds!) I was chewing the gum only a couple times a day IF THAT and some days none at all. By March I didn't really need it. It's now May and I chew the gum MAYBE a few times a month. I have to be honest that I did smoke a few times since December but each time (and after chewing the gum) I did the taste was horrible and it made it easy to throw it out. I also did find myself out with friends who only smoke when they drink and have smoked with them. But that was it. And if I ever do smoke when having drinks with my friends like that again, I will not feel bad because I made the choice and it's not like I am starting back up. I was able to only limit it to a couple and be done with it and not have anymore again. Before I quit, I would never have been able to do that. I would have started back up and would have been back to square one. I might have more will power than others, too. And willpower is a BIG thing to have when combating your demons like that. I am a firm believer that the nicoteen gum works. I used Walmart's brand and it was cheaper and tastes better than the name brands. I also used eBay and was able to get brand name gum for a fraction of the cost, like 60-70% savings. I still have a somewhat full box here that I will continue to use when I get the cravings which are rare now. I cannot express how much better I feel now that I don't smoke. I don't miss it one bit. And as for the weight gain from me quitting? I am working on losing it by walking when I can and eating healthy (and portion-controlled) foods. My doctor also put me on a weight loss pill which has helped. My 2 cents.... ; )

Joined: 4/22/2009

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How do you feel about dating a smoker? Posted: 5/26/2009 10:26:05 AM
Personally, I don't care if someone smoke or not. Preferrably NOT because I did quit last year and dating a smoker would make it hard for me. I also was more of a social smoker anyhow... mainly having a few when out drinking with my friends. I really could care less. I am not going to pass someone by who could be my potential soul mate because they smoke. I agree (not that I am no longer a regular smoker) that the taste is horrible and I HATE the smell on me and my hair and my clothes. I also hate the COST. But, if someone I date wants to do that then it's his choice. There is always the possibility that he would quit one day, perhaps with my encouragment. I do have a question though since I see this alot. From those WHO WOULD NOT DATE SMOKERS, do you care if they do it only socially with friends when you are not around? I know friends who ONLY smoke when at a bar after drinking alcohol and never smoke any other time than that.... does that change your opinion? Off the record, POF should post an option when we fill out our profiles for the whole smoking that that gives a new option to chose from saying "only smoke when I drink" because there are a LARGE number of people who this applies to. There is one for drinking, so why not smoking as well? : ) Jess

Joined: 4/22/2009

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How Many Do You Date at a Time? Posted: 5/26/2009 10:15:32 AM
Great thread and it's got my attention because I wonder the same thing being a newer member on here and new again to the dating seen. So, here's my opinion. We are all here in one way or another to meet people, or in some cases, a special someone. Since POF offers different dating style options like: talk/email, friends, initmate encounters, dating, serious relationship, etc... we have to realize that each person will have their own agenda for what they want to accomplish on here. So, when asking how many do you date at a time, let's assume this is meant more for those of us un here who are dating and looking for relationships. For me, I am here to meet someone special. I want to be in a relationship. But, in order to find someone right to do that with I have to date. Now, realistically, that means going on dates with more than one person at once. I talk to several people a day on here. Some never make it to phone conversations and some do. Those that progress to phone coversations may progress to meeting in person. I have (as of this posting) met 5 people in person from this site. 2 of them were people I talked to on here BEFORE meeting them at a scheduled POF singles night. They were there so it wasn't a date, but we did get to meet. The night after that I had made plans to meet another person I was talking to on here for a diffferent POF singles night. Again, not really a date, but a meeting I guess. Then I had an "official date" with one of the men I met at the first POF singles event. It went ok but we lived way too far from each other and there just wasn't any chemistry there on my part for him. Even though I had the date, I was still talking to a couple others. There wasn't and will not be a second date, so I continued talking with others and meeting new people. A few weeks later I made another date. That was a Friday night. I liked him and we got a long great but no physical chemistry between us and that was mutual. I had another date planned for the following night. That guy was very weird and I will not get into it but we talked for 5 minutes before he left. Unless you take your profile down it's normal to still get new mail in your inbox daily, and from people you haven't talked to yet. And, I don't see anything wrong with talking to multiple people or going out to meet them. I think you know when you have a phone conversation or first meeting if something is there to work with.... and so far out of the 5 I have met, there hasn't yet been that "something"there. I think that once you have 3-4 dates with someone, and/or reach a level of intimacy (includes sex), then you should focus on JUST that person to see where it goes. Otherwise, we will all have dates and meetings that won't pan out so why pass up someone who could be the person of our dreams just because some people feel it's not cool to even talk to more than one person at a time. Please. Life is short. If you get serious with someone THEN focus on them. Until then, all is fair in love and war, lol. : ) Jess

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Dating Advice for Men from a Woman! Posted: 5/26/2009 9:48:51 AM
My above message was to rnrcitylaw, and same with this post: This is what I wrote that you referred to... just so we are clear on what your post and my responding posts are discussing: For many of us (of the female species), I have to say that we don't look at how much money a man makes, nor do we find shirtless pics of men sexy enough to warrant a response to a message. For me, I am intimidated if a man is too good looking or has money. Infact, men with money is a turn off for me. Most of them are arrogant SOB's who don't know how to treat others with respect and kindness because they are so assuming that money will buy them anything. Well, their money won't buy me! And if a man is too good looking? Chances are high that he knows it and acts it. Chances are also high that he will only date other equally beautiful people or has a wandering eye. No, most women like the everyday man who they find an attraction for and who is hard working. Most women really don't care about how much is in his paycheck... we care about things like loyalty, faithfulness, kindness, etc. We want someone who can be our best friends and someone we can grow old with. Someone good with children and treats his mom with love and respect. Someone who isn't a criminal that is in and out of jail. You know, a guy that is like MOST of the men out there that are already married and taken because another woman was smart enough to snatch him up! Hmmm... maybe you didn't understand the line where I wrote "For me, I am intimidated if a man is too good looking or has money." I go on to say that MOST women want normal men... and do NOT look for good looks and/or money. And I still think that is a very true statement. There are women gold diggers. There are also MALE gold diggers. But men nor women should be grouped into that category automatically without justification... and by reading lots of other thread posts from men who are frustrated with online dating for THOSE very reasons, I decided to write my topic about dating advice. Take it for what it's worth. You obviously didn't agree with what I wrote and that is fine, but make sure when you post a reply to someone that you at least have read fully what you are attacking them for, and have understood what was written. :) Jess

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Dating Advice for Men from a Woman! Posted: 5/26/2009 9:37:32 AM
In what way do I do the same thing with money or looks? I have no idea what you are reading, but it's NOT the post or my profile or anything I have written. I never condone that. You misinterpreted something. I did say that women may look at a profile and not respond (and then listed examples of why), and agreed that SOME women may only want men with looks and/or money but not MOST of us.... There was nothing hypocrital that was written, and I am sorry that instead of reading the post with the intention in which it was written you have chosen to make it out to be a way for me to "whine" so that men contact me/us women without sincerity? That makes no sense. Again, I am not sure what you read or in what context it was taken in but you did NOT get the jist of what I wrote nor was it apparently understood by you. Wow.... lol. but, everyone is entitled to their opinions, lol. I just wanted to help some men out who are confused by us women.

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 5/26/2009 9:25:48 AM
Well, this was an eye opening experience. I just assumed that because we are on here looking to date that people took the time and interest to read profiles. I know I do. I had someone tell me before I read this thread that men don't read profiles- they just look at the pics. Then he told me mine was WAY to long and negative. So, I changed it to (hopefully) make it more enjoyable for a man to read a woman's profile. I could use some opinions and thoughts though to see if others agree or not. I am new and want to be honest, funny, and keep the attention of the reader. Any reviews would be appreciated and it's nice to read the other posts on this thread to see how guys think.

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Dating with a Disability... ?'s Posted: 5/21/2009 7:11:29 PM
Hi Dennis, Thanks for the honest feedback. To answer your question about my limitations, I have nerve damage from an injury that is in my feet and legs. I look fine on the outside, but it's hard for me to do certain things like normal people without too much pain. I am not in a wheel chair but I do sometimes limp. However, I feel it's best to be honest because some men on here like real active women who can do anything, and I am not one of those types of women no matter how much I would like to be. As for my profile, I agree with you that it's long. I contemplated keeping it short and sweet then decided it made more sense to say what I wanted to say right off the bat. Infact, I have been a member here now for about a month, and my profile wasn't that long in the beginning. I had my first date with someone I met on here and during the date he was arrested. I learned from the cops who pulled us over that he had a warrant out for his arrest and had 27 others convictions against him... and I am talking about some REAL bad convictions. This guy said all the right things in his profile and on the phone and basically lied about his whole life. If we hadn't been pulled over and had he not been arrested then things could have progressed between us which would have been a horrible experience for me considering he did nothing but lie about himself. So, because of that experience I deicded it was best to add to my profile about being a criminal. To try to weed out any other potential "bad worms"so to speak. But I guess from your perspective you found that "not cool." I will take your suggestions to heart and shorten what I wrote in my profile. I am just not sure why you felt, or got the impression you did, that I am looking out from a trailer park? I don't know what I said that could have given that impression at all. Very strange that you would make that particular comment, since I have never lived in a trailer in my life and the house I just sold was $280 k. I am not sure if you mean I sound like I am trailer trash? If so, that's not the impression I want to give and you thinking my profile was very negative was also alarming. Not very good comments you have given me and it's the first time hearing anyone speak so negatively of my profile. Again, thank you though.. I did ask for honest opinions, but I meant about the disability issue, not necessarily to critique me and my profile. Wow. I will take some time to think on how I will change my profile and still weed out any potential trouble makers at the same time-- AND how not to sound negative and trashy while I am at it. I never intended to come off in any way as being negative. I was just trying to be honest and divulge enough information to not waste anyone's time on here. Most profiles have no info on it which is equally frustrating.

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Dating Advice for Men from a Woman! Posted: 5/21/2009 6:10:54 PM
I have read so many posts on here now from men who are very discouraged with online dating because they have some of several women who have deleted messages that were written to them without reading and responding, or the message was read but not responded to. Then there are other men who just don't understand us women at all, and want to know how we think. Or men who think that the only thing women are looking for is men with good looks and/or money. Yes, that is true in certain cases but PLEASE do not generalize the entire female population for mistakes other women make. Most women aren't like that. If you keep finding women like that then perhaps you are looking for the wrong TYPE of woman in general. Like attracts like in most cases. I am going to try and help you out by giving you a woman's perspective on things. For many of us (of the female species), I have to say that we don't look at how much money a man makes, nor do we find shirtless pics of men sexy enough to warrant a response to a message. For me, I am intimidated if a man is too good looking or has money. Infact, men with money is a turn off for me. Most of them are arrogant SOB's who don't know how to treat others with respect and kindness because they are so assuming that money will buy them anything. Well, their money won't buy me! And if a man is too good looking? Chances are high that he knows it and acts it. Chances are also high that he will only date other equally beautiful people or has a wandering eye. No, most women like the everyday man who they find an attraction for and who is hard working. Most women really don't care about how much is in his paycheck... we care about things like loyalty, faithfulness, kindness, etc. We want someone who can be our best friends and someone we can grow old with. Someone good with children and treats his mom with love and respect. Someone who isn't a criminal that is in and out of jail. You know, a guy that is like MOST of the men out there that are already married and taken because another woman was smart enough to snatch him up! Coming from an everyday down to earth woman, here is what my take is on the whole "why do women delete messages without reading?" or "why do women not respond back to my message?" or even "why am I wasting my time on here?" issues. Men, I am going to tell it like it is, and you can either love or hate what I am going to say but just listen and try to hear what I am telling you. Not what you want to hear, but what I am telling you. First, don't EVER get discouraged with being on this site, or question why you even bother. You are here for a reason. To meet and date someone. But, in order to do so you HAVE to put in the effort to do so and do it with a positive attitude. DON'T get discouraged if you see that a woman read your message and deleted without reply... or that a woman didn't read your message and deleted it. Here's the facts: There are MANY different reasons why that happens. Maybe she looked at your profile and something she read didn't agree with her, like the fact that perhaps you live too far away or have kids or smoke or WHATEVER. Maybe she looked at your profile and wasn't attracted to you. Maybe she just gets tooo much mail and was overwhelmed. Who knows what the real reason is but you automatically look at it in a negative light and get frustrated. Then you decide that online dating isn't what you thought it would be, or that it's a waste of time, or that all women play games, etc. Enough self pity and whining MEN! Man up and stick to you guns! Online dating CAN be a great way to meet someone special IF you have the right approach about it. If you send a woman a message and it does get deleted with or without being read, then try the postitive approach/thinking in dealing with those situations and think about it these ways instead: A.) obviously the women who do that are NOT meant to be in your life. B.) at least she is not leading you on and wasting your time or giving false hope. C.) just think of them as one less bad date... lol. D.) It free's you up for bigger and better women. As a woman who is on here looking to meet someone special, I can tell you first hand that women get MUCH more mail then the men do. It's a statistical fact. In case you are aware of this or not, we get some of the worst mail imaginable. For example, on average I will get at least 3 messages each day that all say the same thing: "Hey, your hot. Let's talk." Uh. Ok. That's flattering and all but when you have 20 or more of those EXACT messages each week it gets old FAST! And to be honest, it sounds so generic. Coming from a woman, I am much less prone to responding to messages that only say that. Honestly. You want my attention then say something to capture it. Instead of telling me how hot I am, why don't you start off my saying "I am Tom and I read your profile. I noticed that you and I have things in common such as ___. (go on to fill in the blank with something you read that you DO have in common with her)" Tell her WHY you wanted to contact her. What made her stand out from any other woman on here. Did you like her smile? Tell her that. Maybe you live close to each other? Mention that. Maybe you contact every woman on here just because you are that desperate... (DON'T tell a woman that, lol!), but whatever your reason validate to her WHY you felt the need to contact her without being too generic. Another good example of being too generic? The classic one of "Hi. Wanna Talk?" Sure, that's a great way to spark up a conversation, but again, remember that women get 75% MORE messages than you do, and we get that same line MANY times a day. It's just as frustrating to open a message that just says that and nothing else. Men, you need to make yourself stand out. Don't be someone your not but step up a bit and do a little work. With anything in life, success doesn't come easy for most. And that includes dating. If it was too easy do you think there would be so many damned single people? Nope. You cannot be lazy and expect everything. Have faith, perseverance, and portray a positive self-image. Another thing that turns most women off is negativity. Whether it's a bad attitude or a man who is so** about himself it's disgusting-- whatever it is, just be aware that it can be a big turn off for a woman. Especially the men who are always like "poor me" or Ï'm just not good enough"-- get over it. If you want to date then you need to be self-assured but not*. Next... let's be real. It's a smorgasboard of people on here. Most of us with having jobs and kids have very little time for the games associated with dating. So if somone doesn't respond to a message then BIG WHOOP! Move on. There's other fish in the sea (no pun intended). You get back on the horse and ride on. Let's pretend that dating was a job you got paid to do... a real career that paid a nice salary & benefits. Just like any job there are things you will like about it and things that will drive you crazy. But just because it's dating you are willing to give it up and quit? to stereo-type all women for mistakes of others? Would you quit that "dating"job just because of some frustrations it gave you? If you were being paid for it, I would guess not. So, look at it as a job.. and one you cannot quit. Keep at it and when the going gets tough KEEP going! Here are some other tips to consider: 1.) Everyone has their own definition of attraction. Just like you have a certain "type"of woman you are attracted to, women have certain types of men they are atracted to. You aren't always going to find someone who is attracted to you and that is OK. It doesn't make her a bad person, just like it doesn't make you a bad person for what you feel attractions for. If you send a message and she doesn't respond, don't take it to heart. I mean, who gives a poop? There are worse thing in life to worry over. And be honest-- have you not never done that to a woman who you were not attracted to? I know I have contacted a few men on here who never responded to my messages either. No big deal.... you love on. Obviously there was something about my looks or something in my profile that they didn't jive with. It's nothing personal and should never be taken that way. 2.) If you really want a woman to respond to your message, then take the time to write a message just for her, and make it one worth taking the time to read and respond to. Maybe a little joke to make her laugh, or tell her a story about something in your life... anything that would capture her attention. Even tell her in your message that if you aren't intersted for whatever reason to let you know... as a simple courtesy. 3.) Not all women are into appearances no matter what you think. Or money as I mentioned before. Personally, profiles where men are showing off their bodies are kinda annoying. I know it's a big ol competition in here but be yourself. If you honestly think that a woman is more apt to respond to you cause you have a shirtless pic then you are getting the wrong kind of attention. Also, keep in mind that it may also intimidate certain women. For example, let's say you are not picky about a woman's body and would gladly date a woman who was a little chunky and had curves. ALL WOMEN suffer with self-esteem issues in one way or another... and THEY ALL worry about their weight and size. If you are Mr. Body Builder and show off that fantastic bod, how many messages will you realistically get from women who might have a genuine interest in you but were intimidated by your body? Because maybe they think they might not have the right body type to interst you? I know I get intimidated like that. 4. No one is perfect. Don't look for perfection. Don't judge women based solely on looks either. That's a great way to get burned. If you haven't realized it by now, LOTS of women who have the perfect hair, and perfect body, and the dark tan, and the fake boobs, and the flat belly, and the designer clothes are just HIGH MAINTENANCE and more hassle than their worth. And some of them require so much physical maintenance that to keep up with looking so good costs LOTS of money. Chances are, they are on here looking for someone with the money to maintain their lifestyle so BUYER BEWARE! Broaden your horizons and look at a what a woman writes in here profile.... don't make assumptions based off of a picture. There are plenty of GREAT women on this site who aren't perfectly gorgeous and yet are freaking awesome woman, myself being one of them. 5. Lots of men want women with no kids and won't date anyone who has any. Sorry to disappoint you men, but the older you get the harder it will be to find women like that. IIt's a fact of life that adult women get married and have children. Maybe you just don't like kids, and that's fine.... but some men on here have children and still won't date someone who does. What a crock of crap.... and you will potentially miss out on a great woman too with that thinking. Be open to someone for who they ARE, not where life has taken them. You may find yourself pleasantly surprised...... 6. Just like your time is precious to you, our time is precious to us. So, if you aren't on here for the right reasons than don't waste our time! I read so many posts from men griping about women wasting time, but really, it's just as bad for us. Men who say they are looking for a relationship and have been on here for 5 years and yet have not been in one yet. Really?!!? Sounds a little commitment phobish to me. 7. If your a SHY guy, then unless you come out of your shell you won't have much success. It's ok to be shy-- but if you really want success with online dating then YOU need to make the effort to contact women and meet them. If you think that someone will come to you and it will magically happen you are SADLY mistaken. Dating takes time, work, and EFFORT to be successful. And it's takes equal effort on both parts-- not just yours. 8. Don't lie. Nothing is more aggravating than having a date with someone on here who said all the right things in their profile. Then you meet them for the first time and are like "what the F!" No lies. Post recent pics of yourself... not of a buddy, not one of you from high school. A RECENT and clear picture. And for those men out there who don't even post a picture... come on... what are you trying to hide? Post a pic and don't waste my time. If you don't post a pic than don't be surprised if your inbox doesn't get much action. I will not bother with someone if I cannot see what they look like for 2 reason: either they are not confident enough with their looks to want to post a pic or they have something to hide. Either way, you will not hear from me without a pic, and that goes back to the whole "attraction"thing. Why waste someone's time? Also, be truthful about what you want and who you are. My first date on here was with a man who said all the right things and was attractive. We went on a date and had a great time until the ride home. We were pulled over and I found out the hard way he had a warrent out for his arrest and was a criminal! With over 27 other charges against him! SO DON'T LIE and make yourself out to be this perfect person. Otherwise FATE will step in (like she did for me) and reveal your lies. 9. Have fun! Don't place too many expectations on dating. Just go out there, be yourself and have a good time. Don't get angry if things aren't always perfect.... and don't get discouraged. You will eventually find someone. It might be sooner or later but you will!!! 10. Men are from mars are women are from venus. End of story. No matter how hard we might try, we will never be able to fully figure each other out. So why bother. let's just get along and enjoy this ride together and not sweat the small stuff. If you have any questions that you want a real womans input on, just ask me. If you haven't already been able to tell, I will be open and honest and tell you like it is without the BS. I hope this information was insightful... I am here trying to help you out and clear up a few issues that some men seemed to have been troubled with. My intentions are good, so no replying back to attack anything I may have said. That won't get you a date, lol. ; ) Hugs* Jess

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Dating with a Disability... ?'s Posted: 5/21/2009 4:20:45 PM
I was just curious if any members on here has a disability, and if so, how is the dating market? Due to an injury, I am disabled (you would never tell from looking at me) and I find that getting back into the "dating" world is scary because I do have some limitations and, well, it's scary to have to admit that. I cannot enjoy amusement parks like normal people because walking for too long is hard on me since I have permanent nerve damage from an injury that happened almost 3 years ago. I cannot go out dancing like normal women (although I have tried but it's so painful for me) and I cannot play spoorts (although I would love to--- I played sports my whole life prior to being hurt!) and sometimes being too close to bands that are playing can exaserbate my nerves and cause me pain. Are there people out there who honestly do not care if someone is disabled or not? Do you pass someone's message up if you know they are disabled in any way? Don't worry about hurting my feelings-- I am looking for honest and heartfelt answers here. I don't want to waste my time on this site if people will pass me up because of my limitations. I am still a great gal with a lot to offer-- I just cannot be as physically active as other women my age. Here's another question: when should someone who does have limitations make it known? In their profile... on the first date... etc? I did update my profile to mention my limitations because it is part of my life and after that I noticed the amount of mail I received diminished by 90%. The funny thing is, unless I tell you straight up I am disabled you would never even know it and it hurts that men don't even take the time to get to know me before passing judgements. Any help or opinions on this matter would be great. If you have a story to share please do, as I really want to know if people with limitations have successful dating stories. Hugs Jess

Joined: 4/22/2009

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 5/21/2009 4:01:23 PM
Wow, lot's of very different opinions on here. Funny thing... opinions... we all have them and to each his own. It was kinda dissapointing, though, to read posts from people who think that tattoo's make women look cheap. It's cool to express that opinion but tattoo's do not (and should not) define a person's character. It's like judging a book by it's cover.... just because a woman has a tattoo doesn't mean she's trashy or easy, or any of the other misconceptions I have read. It's a personal choice and shame on anyone who refuses to date or talk to someone because they have a tattoo. How childish is that? You could be missing out on one heck of a person by being so biased like that. It's similar to saying "I won't date someone because of their skin color." I thought in today's day and age that, we as a collective whole, were getting past all the stereotypes and embracing mankind as a whole? For the record, I have 4 tattoo's of my own. I like them and find them sexy. That is my opinion and only an opinion. There will be people who agree with me and others who will not, and that is fine. But try to keep an open mind when dating that no one should be judged like that based on the fact of whether they have a tattoo or not. Sometimes people get them and have regrets.... and should they be punished or judged because of that? No. But, again, to each his own. Just wanted to share my 2 cents worth.... and by the way, if your a man who lives in Northeast, Ohio and you have tattoo's than chat me up! ; )

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