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lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

I give up... Posted: 4/13/2008 4:28:32 PM
1 bad apple and ok there may be afew more...KEEP your eyes open, go in with listening ears...notice things and dont let your heart fall in too quickly.Theres plenty of us out here who WANT a good man like you. You have to kiss many frogettes to get to the princessbride.It doesnt come FAST! slow and steady wins the race and good things come to those who wait I assure you! it WILLhappen if you want it to but be careful.date many and then figure out who wins the second round. You ll know.Keep the faith! Dont shut love out because one woman wasnt ready. She should ve told you up front where she was at or maybe she got overwhelmed by some one SO good as you and couldnt believe it was real. Her loss. Move on, forget it and plunge back into the deep end! Everything worthwhile takes guts and giving your all. You know what thats like. same deal different scenario! Again dont let a few bad pickins be the generalization of the whole lot.HAVE fun with this.Dating is supposed to be fun. Dont take things so seriously and it will all fall into place!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

What does he really mean by that? Posted: 1/1/2008 12:58:00 PM
NOT all women do this SOME of us have figured this out or are tomboys and try to think "what would a guy say/think/do in the same situation. I try to take the guys perspective and yeah sure sometimes that girlie stuff creeps in and after I say think or do it I go oh yeah...i never thought of it that way. Its something in the female psyche and how we are brought up as well. If we hear mom or dad say or do it we think that thats the way its supposed ot be BUT if we look at it as, well thats THEIR perspective and I m gonna think or do it my way, it can be considered a learning experience. My mom isnt successful at dating nor marriage even tho she has been i those situations, they werent to her liking whereas I decided I needed to NOT do what she did and it has worked out well fo rme. I ve dated succesfully some great guys and have met a great deal of good guys just not HIM yet:)she has been NO help in dating for me at all where mothers usually try to set their daughters up with people they meet as good date material, even just eluding to it, she tells me AFTER The fact and didnt do anything about it. She doesnt knwo HOW to help me date like most moms would. OK off task but related. ANYWAY i think its learned behavior as well as what "typical" females do. I for one try not to and have been quite good at being ME not doing those things you mentioned. SO LADIES, be yourself. Dont see negativity in everything a guy does and says. Take him for what he says Guys are blunt and straight forward(unless they re trying ot cheat on you but hopefully youre smart enough abou tthat) When you talk with guys be straight up Say what you mean...THey do!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

Being Lonely Sucks Posted: 8/11/2007 6:49:19 PM
hunney, you re 23. i didnt have abeau until I was33 so there are some great years ahead. YEs Im still looking but there were impending health isssues along the way so I looked at it as the big guy had me wait fo r th e righ t time for me..my perspective.all good right for us things are hard work to get there but once we re there ..whata wonderful thing it will be. You re far too youn got be so discouraged already. theres so much more to life awaiting you. I have hop efaith and belief it WILL happen. and be just right for me at the right time(althoguh I sit here saturday night alone and I get sad and lonely like the rest I still have hope that tomorrow could bring me a wonderful surprise. Everything greatthats happened has been a fluke..dont seek so hard an dit will come to youwhen you least expect it! dont give up! keep the faith and believe in yourself. Make sure you re happy! an dbring that happiness with you! I wish it happened already but im positive theres reasosn it hasnt. Jus t means Im gonna have th e best there is for me.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Which is a better, Widowed or Single? Posted: 8/10/2007 3:09:26 PM
widowed....always be honest from the get go otherwise it sets things up for falshoods that werernt meant. besides it says you loved once and are capable of loving again!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 8/1/2007 6:24:31 PM
where are you staying? and age range? ya looking for fun/nice/upscale/divey but good/chains or all the above:)

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

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First actual meeting Posted: 7/31/2007 2:17:11 PM
ALWAYS meet a guy AT the place in point. First dates are the clinchers of who they are for th emost part. Safety first...Meet at a place half way between you both that way theres no knowing wher eith erlives ITs safe for both so put it to him that way. (The next guy not that horrid drunk guy) Set up the meeting place and meet him inside or in the front. did yo uemail him long enough? I email until I can say ya knwo this guy is like anew friend an dI d go mee thim for dinner or lunch or whatever. You shoul dfeel safe in your emails to call him friend. please be overly cautious next time and yes let there be a next time You lived an dlearned no wmove on and get your good guy!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 135 (view)

Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it? Posted: 7/31/2007 2:04:32 PM
if a guy went out of hiw way to arrive with ANYTHING(I ev had teddy bears/flowers of allkinds/candy/and one guy to know me so well he arrived with my fave candy and ina box he printed up himself of a character I liked) I am ve floored. Im honored/delighted/happy/appreciative beause it shows hes thoughtful and thought of me and our date. It goes above and beyond

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Do Muscles Matter ? Posted: 7/29/2007 7:25:53 PM
muscles freak me out. I dont mind if they re there but Id rather a not so muscular guy who is stil capable of pulling his weight and maybe carrying me in moments...that sall Im worried about:)I actuall yprefer my guys alittle hmm heaftier..not fat and no unfit but one who is willing to eat junk now an d again with me and the treats I ll bake or cook for him especially. I d like him to be active tho as well. Not amuscle head or gym rat but into keeping soemwhat fit an dheealthy his own way...Mind ove rmuscles any day!gimme goo dlooks (which is subjective to me) an d intelligence !!!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Where did guys get the idea ..... Posted: 7/29/2007 7:12:53 PM
i ve come to find guys are more worried abou ttheir looks then women mos ttimes an dwhat they think they look like and what actually is are two different things(fit to some and average are as gram used to say Pleasingly plump..I htink they re not wearing thei rglasses soemtiems)and maybe THEY dont liek their smile but the one who has to look at them does .. Smiles show fun happiness with life easer o fliving etc..and guy swho dont come off down depressed and usually are from my experiences...so guys SMILE!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Run out of interested/interesting people! Posted: 7/29/2007 7:09:48 PM
your age range is alittle low. There are some really great looking women over 40 as well( an dno I dont mean me Im just saying.. I know I haven tpassed for forty with anyon eI ve met inperson yet... but its to each his own... I vecom eto find some older men ove rmy age range are quite handsome and will go with it if I find them so

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Getting scared looks after shaving my head Posted: 7/29/2007 6:43:52 PM
its a very chic look right now . I dont see anything wrong with it but maybe if you smiled instead of looking so gloom and doomy...its the facial look mo rethan the head shaved goatee thing. Any guy wou dbe scaryish looking if they had this mad at the wolrd facial expression(not saying you do but itcan appear that way)Try smiling mo reand see what reactions you get then. I think you look neat clean attractive

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Tomboy's okay?...or not so much! Posted: 7/25/2007 3:01:54 PM
geez NEVER change who you are for anyone but you! Im a tom boy as well... I maynot "look" the part because I "appear" frail and thin but inside i ve been likened to a sherman tank:) in a good way:) meaning I can have avery professional exterior while I deal out my opinons as well as be able to tolerate alot of junk that happens to me.(My health has been thru a lot of JUNK) but I LOVE tempting things...daredevilish?more like try somehting once or so and see how it goes...guys tend to do mor fun things-active things..sure I can go tothe mall with the rest of em but not that interested.Yes I have shoes galore but I ll galdly put on a pair of sneakers and go out hiking in the woods. try the spiceiest wong sauce with th eguys ...I ll take that bet!guys can be silly active fun and HAVE fun.So why cant we!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Why are so many middle-age men in the online-dating-world into motorcycles? Posted: 7/24/2007 3:05:19 PM
yeah why? I dont MIND it its just there seems ot be LOADS of guy swith them at middle age as well as th ebeard growth an d some long hair deals. I think its revisitng their youth or TrYING to not realizing its LONG gone and tim eo tbe a KID at heart and not in looks. The teeny booper looks dont cut it anymore. Go for broke if you wanna and can afford the bike. but ditch the hair and over growth deal. YES YES its what counts onthe inside but if we re not attracted to tthe outside it doesnt play as smoothly as it would.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 70 (view)

Long hair freaky people....Doesn't anyone like to clean up anymore Posted: 7/23/2007 3:14:35 PM
im with ya. Once one is at acertianage it just looks ridiculous unkempt dirty scraggly... I liek the clean cut look Even facial hair is soemwhat aging on a guy . TOo much beard is just yuck Ya can catch your food in it so there again it comes off as dirty. I KNO W its beyond th e looks thing but we re first taken in by our first impressions. They include appearance. We see the face first and foremost. so good teeth hair neatness all count. I once asked aguy if the hair made him feel younger and he admitted it did. I said bu tYOU ARENT younger anymore. and he saw where I was coming from but "liked" his hair. He can have it. I have no problem with balding guys who have youthful appreances and goatees or weekend stubble but full blown beards(like ZZ TOP) and just unshaven laziness beards nah. I dotn have a thing fo rmustaches either but hey thats me TO each his own. But the comely appreance of being well kept will get poepl emor edates Women as well. They need ot be well kempt too. neatness cleanlines etc. It goes both ways and like I said to each his own

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Head over heals or slow and easy???? Posted: 7/23/2007 3:06:34 PM
i ve had a few guys want to say it on date meeting one. OI tol dthem dotn say it Dotn go there We know one anothe rSOME but no tenough for THAT. so Give it a chance an dtell her to SLOW down. Tell her wait to know you and you her. YOU hav eot be friends first and foremost to be abel to say that. ITs possible it CAn be real but..I always tryto figure is this someone I want to be friends with? Then go from there. If I wan tot hang around with them and do stuff with them etc etc then theres lieklihood theres potential for it really being real. Love me for allmy faults flaws and downfalls and then we have somehting!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

Been single for too long Posted: 7/23/2007 12:49:26 PM
have you been actively dating? that means you meet ANYONE you email that catches your fancy and yo lcik because you never know. and even try blind dates Imet aguy i went with for three years totalyl BLIND! take chances if y adont you re gonn astay where you re at. At least its nice night out with company y aknow?

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 217 (view)

Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen Posted: 7/23/2007 12:45:32 PM
i do date guy s like you

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

Are you surprised at the type of people that contact you? Posted: 7/23/2007 12:27:25 PM
not just here but other sites as well. I have avery detailed ad of who I am and what I wol dliek inmy life of a guy to be. It has nothiing ot do with looks(except of course please dont look as old as my dad and my dad looks young so that skind ahard) but I have in general no weight height coloring issues and even hair..I dont mind some bad guys. but I have a grad degree. Doens tmean much I know but the guy has to have SOME intelligence fo rme to even think of dating him. I dotn mean he needs apiece of paper-I ve dated may without degrees andthey were th emost generous giving guys Loving too.But for me to see myself spending the rest of my life with someone I cant converse both silly and deep for th erest of my life or at least hopefulness inthat ..taitn gonna happen. I have a good job THe guy needs to as well. I have traveled th eworld and hope ot do more. Thi sguy has ot keep up withme on all aspects. Hes gotta be able ot do the stuf fI do now withmy friends and family or more then that . IF you cant, I cant seemyself going there. THey have ot be open to that.Money mean s little to me but Im content where Im at, with what I have, i like nicer things. Im looking for a guys heart and soul, BUT in this world to be comfortable is also a good thing.Not to have financial worries. but I get th e gammot.SOme guys are far too young(you tell me WHat are they looking for) and then far too old(and again what is it they re looking for) I may be blond(out o f abox) but i have afew brain cells. I think that blows some of them away. Im not here to be arm candy and never thought I was of that making. But I ve gotten SOME emails with certain requests I dont know. I guess people take shots. Why not WHat have they got to lose. Bett erto have tried than not and have wondered. SO you get soem that are way off the mark SO what . Its acompliment.Thank them and be on your way. Always say something nice. OTherwise dont say it at all right?just think, we could be gettin gNO emails at all..wouldnt that be worse?

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 165 (view)

Marriage vs. Living Together - your views and why? Posted: 7/23/2007 12:14:21 PM
that san individual choice andbelief system. I fo rone believe in commitment to marriage. I also dont see anythin wrong with living together bu tot me its just like "playing house" if you re gonna do that why not just commit to the whole nine yards.Besides suze orman the financial planner on tv says down the road its better if you ARE indeed married as some tstates dont see each other as spouse like. So if you think of it long term, the survivor doens tfair as well and may lose everythting even if you wanted each other to HAVE benefits afte r one o f you is gone.so financially its better and then you hav e to dig into your soul to see if its bette r fo r you there.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 132 (view)

Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that? Posted: 7/23/2007 12:06:49 PM
women are realtionship buliders and keepers. We dotn liek to see things end. We hold on to keeping people in our lives for other purpposes as well as mo rethan friends. If we arent attracted to you beyond friendship we dont wanna lose that .GUy sseem to take or leave the fr4indship deal IT means alot to women t hold it together. Im not saying guys dont There are guys who do , all my old beaus are still friends..to a point. I would neve rinterefere with th e guy and his new woman or wife. THey make the first call or emails. They check on me because I chose guys with hearts. My throry..once you love someone how can yo possibly have ZERO feelings. I dont . I still love these guy Just differently. I ve fdound most guys friends or other wise want MORE;seems they always wan to tsee what they can get.BUT they have to be able ot be friends with me first before we go anywehere anyway.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 226 (view)

Are there ANY women who don't CHEAT? Posted: 6/25/2007 2:53:17 PM
I'm offended by your statement "are there any women out there who don't cheat?" remember the shoe can also be said on th eother foot. What abou tmen. ? I don't LUMP peopl einto one greta big category Thats just ridiculous. For some reason you must keep picking the same women...go out of your famiaiar relam of dating and dat e someone you wouldnt normally date and see. There ar ePLENTY of us women out here who wouldnt dream of cheating ever especially if it were a guy we were so deeply feeling for. You hav eto ask yourself Why did they feel the need to cheat? It may not necessarily be sexual. Sometimes its soemthing as simple as not getting enough of a guy stime, attention etc... Im not stating this from personal scoop as I haven't but... Then ask yourself what types of women do I see myself dating over and over again. DO you see a recurring theme in the types? Sure they mat look different but do they act different? See if they fall into similar categories. Are they needy? Do they ask you for things and you give it to them? are they co dependent?do you give too much to the wrong women? Just remember tho, just because you were burnt by these women , don't take it out on th enext girl. Sh emay just be what you re looking for. Change your pattern. GO outside the box! goo dluck!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Financially secure Posted: 6/2/2007 2:20:15 PM
I agree with uglybetty. I want aguy whos able to do stuff with me that I do now. Things I do with my friends and family.I tend todate guys with big hearts and loose wallets-meaning they re very generous as they can be but really DONT have the ability to do so. I dont mind footing the bill for someone who in turn does thhings fo rme that Icant such as painting and house hol d labor stuff, but I like to be taken out too now and again. I want someone to travel with which I reall y enjoy and that can be expensive UNLESS you re financially stable. I thi k it really means you re responsible. can pay your bills and have spending miney to be comfortable and can go out to eat a few times a week etc etc. Basically you dotn have to say No, I cant afford it.You re not living from bill to bill and have collectors calling you. I dotn so I d rathe rnot have th eguy Im with have that issue. I want him to be prepared for his future or thinking about it.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 64 (view)

why do people on these dating sites get scared when its time to meet for real Posted: 6/2/2007 2:06:46 PM
chickens...dotn want ot face reality. Im here for gettgn to know you friends and if we spark when we meet Thats where its all at. Afte ri meet him Im off these things! its only a means to an ends! get on get into it and get off!!!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 427 (view)

Thirty and not married Posted: 6/2/2007 2:05:13 PM
41 no kids never been married YET! Hope an dhave faith I will find THE one. Hav ehad health issues but it didnt stop me. Didnt dtae until I was early 30s. Not fo rlack of trying. Was often tolfd from email dates "I Look like I shodl BE with someone" so they wouldnt have attempted asking me say ina grocery store or club( at th etime) or wherever else. I was in everythig you could think of. Hike ski clubs, traveled, singles events(yuk),bookstores ,I went up and talked withguys- I htink my confidnece was scary to them.Emailing has been wonderful! I ve had a few serious guys CLOSE but ultimately we got out before it happend and couldve gotten worse. It ll happen if you have faith!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 194 (view)

How should a very fit 40 year old dress? Posted: 6/2/2007 1:59:22 PM
Im 41 and tiny(somewhatfit very thin an petite-I get mistaken as akid sometimes because of stature:P I htink we should dress in what makes us comfortable but its also what do you wan tot present to people? Professional? stuck ina time warp?I dont think it appropriate for us(this is my opinion only)No low riders-clubbing days are gone...and the teenie boppers or 20 somethings and teens wear them. Some are ok but too low-with the thong showing-nah. as for the belly..I was never into it so I cant really answer it. I just know I MAY agree an dI may not..I htin kit depends upon how it looks. Not seeing your photo I cant comment and thats quite judgemental. Do you want to be seen for YOU -which is your insides anyway. You can LOOK great but maybe save it for someone important to see? I dunno.I still dress in shorter shorts(They look normal onme because I am so short) shorter skirts but not super short(IM aprofessional and try to look the part) we shodlnt be judged upon appearance but we are Its jsut afact. so again I ask-how do you want to appear to others?You cant tell me you dotn care what people think because you already know you re casuing a ruckus with your tone tummy:) by exposing it. We all want to be looked at but its the what impression do we want to make?to cause the ruckus?Or to not and be seen for more then the body? Iguess in the end its all up to you. happies whatever you do

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 62 (view)

so im 20 and never kissed a girl is this pathetic?? Posted: 6/2/2007 1:46:26 PM
It sounds to me liek you re TRYING too hard. Just let it go with the flow. think of the girl as afiend first and formost. When you go out ona date(if you are) just talk like its an old pal and let things just slide into place. If you re feeling it and sense she is too(look for the signs-hair toss/flip/play, head slanted to one side slightly, shes laughing WITH you at your jokes and sarcasms, shes miling alot) but its all in just letting it feel like hanging outwith afriend! thats how things lead on. once your sensing its there, dont fumble/nor make it awkward, just move in quickly and give her alittle smooch. If she goes for it YOU RE in! if not, she ll let ya know. It should be done WAY afte ryou ve been having a good convo and having a good time. It shouldnt be forced in anyway. it should just seem natural. And dotnbe surprised if the first kiss is not so good. We all have ideas of what and how it should be from movies and friends but until you actually do it, you wont know. No noises, no big sloppy tongues taking up your whole mouth, just a gentle little smooch at first and if theres more then gradually move in to the more open stuff, gently! smoothly, Dont make it liek your licking a giant lollypop because you re not. Its a small mouth and too much tongue is just NO good. and constant over and over lick lick lick is just blech blech blech!Go with the flow, have fun and stop tryin gso hard. I find its the gus who try too hard that dotn cut it with me. I feel badly but its just not goin gto be happening:( it should be FUN!!!!! it ll happen Dont worry and you re not that old.... I was much older and so was a guy friend of mine. There are more peopl eout there that are inyour position then fess up to it!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Honestly... Posted: 8/15/2006 5:10:08 PM
i don tusually say anything on the fisrt date while we r eout I say I had agood time IM vey grateful forhteir company and the evening and see what their response is first...if they move infor the kiss I kiss the cheek or give em a hug IF they email I email back I had a really nice time but that I dont htikn we had the IT thing going on.. I tyr to be nice because i thin kof how I would wan tto know.... Either no response which tells me immediately that theres no interest in me as an IT person I can figure THAT out or an email that say I had anice time but I dotn think we have a thing going on.... I get it It hurts no matte rhwat but still anice way of puttin git is best

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

DO you think there is someone Posted: 8/13/2006 1:40:39 PM
absoposilutely! and maybe more than one even!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

Help, please!!!!!!!!!!!1 Posted: 8/12/2006 10:42:31 AM
you re still too higly emotional You haven ttotally let it go... WHo cares who he sees. It shi schoice no matt erhwat you say or do so... just realise you are ina bette rplace You say nothing an be the bette person You ll end up being the SKANK if you have a reaction to it.... be bigger than thtat and if thers a away to do so try NOT to see her daily... If you do be cordial and professional and you get what you get...... if you cant say something nice..you can thinkit:) but dont say it:) hwos that. I had a friend go thru the same deal The only thing that helped her STOP talking about it was having her stay at the SAME position but in another area so...it worked for her... Its still hruting you YOu cna see withthe anger you hav etowards her in the letter. Try hard to let it go .. take care

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

If a man breaks up with you because he is not feeling it for you, can he change his mind? Posted: 8/12/2006 10:37:39 AM
he was apparently atracted to you enough to get a little play action and just didnt feel it. MOVE on....dotn waste your time on someone liek that YOU deserve quite much more than that ...egads Has happend to me too .... they get what they can get but werent feeling it really enough Just enough for a little mushy mushy

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Woman Analogy. Posted: 8/12/2006 10:35:31 AM
havent you ever heard "good things com e to those who wait" IM waiting Have had some good sidetracks in the meantime(meaning long terms and serious stuff) but the real deal has yetto fall upon my "line" its not the shrinking line....its the plowing thru the toad field(albeit good toads) to ge to that one mighty toad who turns into her prince or in todays light Her Shrek! a giant ogre full of mushiness for her:) Now time to go back and stand in line Youneve rknow what you re gon aget....

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

If you Met Online, do you tell People that? Posted: 8/9/2006 9:52:04 AM
you r girlfriend is being childish about this WHO cares where you met If you re a pair an d it works thats all that counts....THERE is absolutley nothing wrong with it If she hadnt have met you SHE d still be online looking too .. i ve alwasy met guy sonline as my serious beaus later....guys wont come up to me offline even when I make initial contacts They get SCARED!so tellher she s being immature She l LOVE that one ....hinestly do nt say that that was ajoke but thats wnhat shes doing ...tell her its about the here an d no w and she shoudl be proud of how you met if you lasted this long!!!!its a success story. shes nuts

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 445 (view)

loads left Posted: 8/8/2006 8:37:28 PM
a lot o fwomen are too quick to judge EVEN before they meet someone. I find guys more able to say i ll go for it anyway.i ve met 90% good guy sand the 10% werent all that bad just either egotistical so it d be me him and his ego in the relatioship or there was no communication connection and I CAN talk and listen .I only date gentlemen and they all have been so YOU go GUYS!!! I sem to find them maybe not all for the LONG term but have to kiss many afrgo albeit gentlemen frogs to get to the frog prince:)

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

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NO confusion LOSE HIM! Posted: 8/8/2006 8:27:07 PM
get out Any man that s WEAK enough to run in the bad times(isnt marriage suppose dto be thru thick and thin richer an d poorer in sickness an din health..well he left Hes a spinless waste of life... ifthe shoes were reveresed WOUDL you have left ?Probably not. I find men get wask in situations they may not be ableto "handle" not all just some....i figure Hey i can handle it and go on with life sio why can t you grow a spine and not be yellow and be there for me just to BE there...I know men like to FIX things and they cant deal with stuff out of their control TOO bad..grow up!(The guy not you)this stuff makes me angry becus e i have a hidden disease that isnt life threatening but can interupt stuff now an d again MOST Guys dont care but some were too smart fortheir own good an d instead of thinking HEY we could have agreat life togather for alongtime and have afew bouts here and there but it wouldnt be set backs It d be moving forward to get better..i neeed aguy who ll make me laugh(best medicine) when I have my bouts which are rare but when they do comeI want someone to just BE with me It makes me feel saf e and evenr ten time s better knowing they re there They dont realize how much better aperson feels when someon eis JUST there.It proves their heart ..and thi guy has none HEs demeaned you an dused yoru illness as a way out WAST E of life an dtime... Lose him. there are guys out there who WILL love you for you just the way you are thru sickness an d in health!Hes th e loser here!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

Reality revisited Posted: 8/8/2006 6:27:13 AM
negativity seeks negativity....your whole ad is a total RUN AWAY type...you sound angry at the world and also soundlike you ve been burned. WHAT women in her right mind would wannabe next to take the abuses inflicted upon her from you because of how awful soemone before her treated you-sounds like you d be taking it out on the next woman and who would wish to seek this man who sounds like he hates the world has no future good out look on life and pity me feel sorry for me. One shouldsnt write things or ads about himself when in an angered mood or just having been burnt.if you re seeking loser material users and walk all over you types...thats what you ll get ..but written in positive light ...like seeks like REDO your ad if you truely wish to meet someone NICE. I d delete you as well with an ad like that..i want someone who brings a smile ot my face and lights up my day not brings me DOWN with him

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

Are some people meant to be alone? Posted: 8/7/2006 6:41:30 PM
u can get Godly on this if intended..god did NOT make us to be alone..we always need someone els whether its buying somehting from them or medically so we ALWAY SNeed people but also in a relationship deal...we re here to be WITH someone to make life and possibly create life ...this gets back ot that question of DO we need ot get married..its ato each his own decision but we NEED otbe with poeple....our society today has taught us how to be anti social and people dont talk when out anymor eliek they used to.... Can ya tell I teach social skillls for aliving... I hat ean dlove the computer It has its purpose but beyond that we need to interact with others!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 106 (view)

Are you hopeful or hopeless? Posted: 8/7/2006 11:57:52 AM
HOPEFUL always any where I am.... not just pof

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 135 (view)

If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different Posted: 8/7/2006 11:56:54 AM
hunney its just you YOU need mor eself confidence Its sexy to be confident in yourself. Yours are more observable but I have a giant T from the bottom of my ribs all the way to below my bellybutton and arm scars from multiple surgeries that basically saved my life. I call them battle scars SO should you YOu survived a horrible person Youre beautiful in and out.I cant help that I have them Neither can you so deal with it and move on. Be a beautiful confident woman and men will only see that . I ve not heard one man I ve been with EVER say anythign to me. I wear bikinis and only my nephew had remraked one day-auntie, why do you have scars all over your tummy.I tell him their battle scar s and saved my life. they re for good. Yours are for good too. Your scars arent your issue. It runs deeper than that so maybe seek some help oevr that or read some books. YOU survived a horrific relationship where someone did bad things to you and YOU won! you moved on ..there are plenty of men out there that WONT seea thing. God if I thought liek that I d NEVER date and im a dating fiend:)i try to be as goo dinside as i can so they see that more than anythign else...tr ythe bookstore! get yourself some confidence help...

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

How's THIS for Shallow..? Posted: 8/7/2006 11:47:23 AM
how lucky for you you found out early enough what a rotten person she is..That was very very calous of her...be glad you found out!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Do I deserve a second chance? Posted: 8/6/2006 10:03:55 AM
u didnt scare her away I ve come to the conclusion if two people REALLY like and want each other theres really nothing scary about it. NO regrets man! no regerts SHe did what she did MOVE on. its one of those situations I htink, where shes just not into you or not ready yet but dont REPEAT DO NOT let her play you and your heart...thats what its lookin gliek its going to lead to. You re young yet THere ll be plenty more FISH haha so to speak ...and there ll be someone who WANTS to be with you and call you and play with you etc... why shoudl you have ot work so hard at someone who keeps pushing you away. Ive learned that much from dating at this point.If they re into you , they WANT To spend timee WITH you!!!! try to look for apattern as well...you may be picky these women that seem needy and or are the push away type. WHY? Find agirl who WONT push you away...haven tyou ever been with someone wher eyou felt stifled and were like, god shes always calling and hounding me and and and....to me that says not meant ot be

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Busy or blown off? Posted: 8/4/2006 7:59:40 PM
i dunno If Im really interested in someone I ALWAYS make the time for a text or email or call ESPCAILLY A call if Im really intrested I want ot hear his voice and theres the spark goin g on...But Thats just me

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 88 (view)

Classy if a girl offers to pay half? Posted: 8/4/2006 9:30:12 AM
Im very old fashioned but I WILL always offer to pay ona first date when we re done,i think it an endearing quailty that guy pays for the first date. It has noting to DO with the money part..it shows his true gentlemanly qualities to do so...it puts him on a higher echalon than those who say Ok sure you can pay half. I am mor ethan capable to pay my way but that old fashioend sense is Its a date, i liek the dating ritual of the guy shows the lady agood time with his manners. OF course if things lead to along term thing then of course its proper to always divy the bill or she takes him out once and a while too.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Re: is something wrong Posted: 8/3/2006 6:05:12 AM
BE YOU! the women yoou re choosing are WRONG.. learn from your ways and change them... Most of th eguys I ve dated didnt have adegree. BUT they had much muhc more. I go with this thought..my dads a smart man and could ve went to college but chose ot be abusiness man instead..If th eguys ambitious a gentleman wins my heart with his HEs got me.. MY sayin gis this-its not the degree that makes the man It the man who makes theman!!!! if these women cant see you for you then you re choosing the wrogn women. Take a look at the ones you ve dated and notice if theres anythign similar. Its got to be th eone syoure choosing DARE to step outside the box and date someone you d never have thought of dating. example YOU used to only date red heads, now try blones and brunettes OR you only dated short, try taller, BUT go beyond that YOu only dated high school grads Try someone who wen t to college. Expand your ideas of whom to date and , you ll hav eto date a fwe befo reyou find her but try it! The guys with degrees were great but the ones with out, had more to give...and mor e tim e to give it too...they made up for things if it can be put that way, by being MORE in other ways. GO for it my man Date outside the box!

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

I had a realtionship that meant the world and I cheated Posted: 7/30/2006 5:41:20 AM
you were ina bad moment ..It happend Its over...MOVE ON..BIG words MOVE ON...you ll carry the guilt with you forever BUT Its you r guilt. YOU DONT have to cause anyone else pain with it because it was a weird time for you -you needed a shoulder-the one you chose just pushe d you beyond. TO me the guilt is yours and you DONT releive it by telling th e person you hurt. Yes it can effect the relationship bu t i also think its selfish of people to burden their Significant other with THEIR own downfalls. It only relieves their guilt and inflicts pain on their SO who doesnt deserve any of this. You are NOT like th eother guy sin your town..dont judge yourself liek that. YOU had amoment, it came IT went NOW just dotn ever do it again. WHenever you are tempted again ...remember this time. LEt that be the only thing you ve learned from it. You re young you have alot to look forward to and maybe even if you dont get back togteher with this girl There something even better for you as you MOVE ON...this too shall pass.WE ve all made learning errs, that show we learn to better ourselves. You learned avaluable lesson. DONT Torture yourself forever...Start fresh/dont look back but hold it in your mind whenever temptation comes near. You Ll be ok...Some day your GF may forgive you but at first its very hard to take and BURNS her heart badly.She didnt do anything and yet shes the one who gets hurt the most. Time will pass, it ll be in the past and as I keep saying...you ll all MOVE On! have no regrets ONLY learning experiences.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

I'm Just Not That Into You Posted: 7/30/2006 5:26:10 AM
there IS no one answer. It all hurts no matter what.whether you just stop emailing -answering their calls/telling them you just dont feel that way or the same as they do/I ve tried "I dont think its gonna work" That one Im keeping.Every person TAKES it differently. Some harder than others and some dont care.Thing is you wont know HOW they ll take it until you do it so do it ASAP for both your sakes.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Why do girls don't understand No? Posted: 7/28/2006 10:47:16 AM
YOU re right. There are alotta stalker chicks it seems. I have my guy friends telling me stories. I have too much confidence i guess for that crap. If a guy says no IM not going to go chasing him down, calling him, leaving multiple messages YOu dont want me WHY shoudl I wantto be with that?I dont know why it is? fear they had you and wont get someone else? obsession? just plain sick to begin with?

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

The Stupidity of the Coffee Date.R/O Posted: 7/28/2006 5:55:42 AM
Its Okkkkkkkkkkkkk but no fun and I dont like coffee but its just a term used for LEts meet BRIEFLY to see if we have a spark of anythtingthere. With me I KNOW if I have good emails with you, a good phone convo where the date asking is done We re guaranteed a good night out so lets do dinenr so we dont have to eat alone, chatter as we KNOW we can, laugh smile and see if theres more. I go intothese htings with Im meeting a friend so ill at least have good convo and anice night out Thats ALL i ask.and if theres more then woohoohooie. YOu get ot see how they react with wait staff, having to wait for atable, people around them etc. It gives a first glance of how they can be even if they ARE on their best behavior.

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

First Date Posted: 7/27/2006 8:39:37 AM
for me the sparks either there or its not. I give it a second shot to fiigure out if i missed soemthing. If theguys not talking much and i have to lead it all ..I need ababbler like me..I m not nervous because I teach social skills and the way I look at it is I ve passed a few emails to get to know them a bit We talked once to make adate and then meet. I dont go into it as Im meeting my super love, I look at it as Im meeting a person who I had a great time talking with a new friend so treat him liek that and not alove sparkle until you get there, Just look at it as not spending the evening alone for a change and a nice night out to dinner with a friend/company. If more ignites from it Oolala all the better!If notihng more,,,at least I had anice evening out laughed smiled and had company and possibly made a new friend anyway:)

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 131 (view)

Anyone think adding IQ to profiles is a good idea? Posted: 7/27/2006 8:29:24 AM
Nah...i agree with others an dtheir thoughts. If you re smart enough you can usually figure it out/people will lie/IQ isnt EVERYTHING-a sense of smarts and a super inside means more to me ...I want an intelligent man meaning he keeps up with todays news/knows the politics game/dabbles in a lot so has the mind full of useless info like I do so hes savy and can talk with anyone from the guy living on the street to heads of state if the case would be/anyone who can keep up with me is just dandy and it doesnt take a degree to do that...smart doesnt mean a peice of paper and neither does heart...cant find love in a test form-have to find that for yourself...some poeple have smarts in areas where we have smarts in a different area and then to have the added extra of dabbling into bits of info here and there is great. im babbling now-babblers too dont mean LOW IQ nor high just maybe fun wacky and happy and lots of heart...this topic could raise quite a few off shoots

lirgo87

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Looks? Personality? Can't find a partner? Posted: 7/24/2006 6:14:11 AM
i agre with notaprincess...you have to meail a bit and then talk to see if theres actually gonn abe anice night out at least and see if there are any red flags ahead of time...you can get the gist of someone and read betweenthe lines with some ample info ahead of time...if you dont connect by phone then whats gonna happen when you meet..sit there in silence and wait anxiously for one of you to say I have to go? Nah at least if you carry a good convo, chat it upa bit laugh etc, when you meet you ll have anice night no matter what the outcome.Thats what I always hope for...

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