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dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

5 to 1 ratio of women to men in Vancouver Posted: 6/12/2009 10:57:48 PM
bad news, eh? 20- to 49-year-olds in Greater Vancouver, there are 208,545 single men and 176,060 single women

dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

Body Hair Posted: 6/9/2009 7:13:17 PM
Hilarious comments ... I love it. But seriously, although we are evolutionarily heading towards being truly the 'hairless ape', unless the area is holding onto a funky odour (like the armpits, etc.) by being hairy, I don't see the sense of removing hair anywhere unless it is so thick and long that it runs interference. I mean, who says hair is gorgeous in one place but ugly in another? A fellow's body is as it is, and I think that (again barring B.O.), his hair should be done with, or not, as he prefers. Just my opinion. Well, m'lady, you are part of a dying breed! These days it seems at least half if not more women view chest hair as downright gross, which is rather frustrating for hairy chested guys like me. Apparently women want feminine men now.

dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Former Soviet KGB agent Lennikov takes sanctuary in a church Posted: 6/2/2009 3:57:57 PM
As sad as it is, and as much as this man seems legitimately innocent, the law is the law, and if the laws are relaxed this time, it'll make it that much harder to enforce when someone really bad wants to stay. So he has to go. But while were at it, why aren't we rounding up every gang member that is here as an immigrant? I know it won't do anything to help with the problem of domestic born gangsters, but that doesn't mean they should stay. Enough with the PC crap.

dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

What do you like most about being single ? Posted: 5/31/2009 5:40:23 PM
Not a heck of a lot. The novelty wears off pretty quickly. Freedom is overrated. I'd take cuddling and movie nights over freedom any day.

dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

New Non-Smoking By-Law In British Columbia. Gov't on the fence! Posted: 5/31/2009 2:21:36 PM
yanno.. oddly enough.. I have rights too .. I choose to smoke.. you dont like it.. then piss off. Smoke away, it's not like you can damage your looks any further, and if you destroy your lungs you'll be less of a wind bag. BTW, couldn't help but notice your profile states you don't smoke. So in addition to being unattractive and unintelligent, you are also a liar. What a catch you are! Once again, you can't cure stupid.

dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

New Non-Smoking By-Law In British Columbia. Gov't on the fence! Posted: 5/31/2009 2:14:46 PM
Sorry, but the facts are that there is absolutely no excuse for anyone starting smoking in this day and age. If you started smoking within the past 20 years, or even 30 years, it is because you are selfish and/or stupid beyond belief. There is no lack of public education against smoking, and there is certainly no lack of resources dedicated to helping people quit. I'm pretty sure BC Medical even pays for stop smoking drugs. The only thing lacking is will/brain power among smokers. The government can't stop smoking. What do you think would happen is cigarettes were made illegal? You think it would be better to hand the profits over the organized crime where it can't even be taxed? If people are gonna be stupid beyond belief, might as well tax them for it. You can't cure stupid.

dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Male Clevage. Posted: 5/23/2009 6:31:35 PM
It's a biological fact that women have much lower sex drives than men. You gotta be kidding me. Every girl I have ever dated has had a much higher sex drive than me, and I am by no means lacking in the sex drive department. As long as we are talking about myths though, right? Honestly dude, any guy who goes into a bar in a tank top, or walks down a city street with his shirt off, is just a god damn poser, and in this case the double standard is completely fair. What more unfair are office buildings where men are expected to wear suits and ties but women can get away with some nice pants or a skit with a blouse. But even that is hardly a big deal. Oh yeah, and as for this Linda Meyer woman, well that's just gross. I mean honestly there should be loss against gross looking old men going topless too, discrimination be damned, it'd be for the good of society.

dilettante_84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 132 (view)

street racers cars being destroyed...for or against? Posted: 5/21/2009 5:37:35 PM
Waste of a good car. Just take them and auction them off.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Single transferable vote Posted: 5/14/2009 6:43:53 PM
STV was bad. STV would have favoured rural voters. In short, it would have been really nice for the NDP. Rural voters already have a vote than counts 3-1 over your average city voter. That's hwy the NDP can form a majority goverment with only 35% of the vote and the Liberals can't. The fact that the Liberals have won a third straight term shows that they are a heck of a lot more popular than most people would like to admit. I am not crazy about them, personally, but voted for them knowing they were better than the alternative by a long shot. Did every NDP memeber fail math class? Because their spending promisses and budget balancing promisses sure didn't add up. Anyone remember the fudgit bbudgets? I am only 25 and I sure do. The only electorial reform this province is to make each riding represent the same number of people (or at least close to the same number). If everyone's vote carried the same weight, it'd be a lot more fair. If this same things was done for federal ridings, the Bloc Quebecois would become a non issue, and french ridings would no longer overwhelm the vote. We don't need electoral reform just to get a few Green party members elected. If the Greens truly appealed to anyone outside their fringe group, they would be able to elect members easily under out current system. The fact is they don't. Did we really need STV to help us ellect a a few greens so that they could ram their fringe politics down everyones throats? So the Liberals only got 45% or the popular vote? Do you really believe that means that 55% of the province is no disenfranchised and unhappy? NOOOO!!! Because at least 30% or more of the population is not alligned with a particular party, and is centrist. They may have had a preference, but they are far from unrepresented now. That's why Barrack Obama has a 70% approval rating even though only a little over half of Americans voted for him, and why Dubya had a 20% approval rating.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 57 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/6/2009 12:17:19 AM
Men still represent, by a large margin, in Canada and the States at least (don't even get me started with Africa and the Middle East!)the majority of parents who leave their children, permanently, without support or contact! Woah, at what percentage of those men would you say chose to leave their kids versus those that has the choice made for them? You can skew statistics any way you want, but I would be willing to bet that far more men are forced away from their children that those who do it willfully.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/4/2009 8:20:57 PM
Excuse me, but saying that getting involved with a women with children involves additional risks (in a world where courts ALWAYS rule against men) is not equivelent to saying that all women with children are just looking for man to take care of them, or that they aren't capable of doing it themselves. Two totally separate things.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/4/2009 7:09:03 PM
what just bugs me is the whole attitude that a single mom is just looking for a man to take care of her and her child I don't think anyone here has displayed that attitude. It's not even relevant.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/4/2009 6:25:42 PM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/12280942datingPostpage2.aspx Is it really so simple? Sounds a bit like Sophie's Choice to me. But what if u were to meet the perfect girl... smart witty... great in bed... nuturing loving compasionate... ur going to not give her the time of day cuz she has a child? Well no one can tell you what they would do until actually faced with it, so I really can't give you an answer beyond speculation, but I am fairly confident that if I knew a woman had a child, I probably would not ever get to the point of knowing what she was like in bed, and if she was smart and witty and loving, I'd likely appreciate those qualities as a friend, not as a lover. I simply am not at a stage in my life where I want children to be part of my relationships, and certainly not other people's children. I envision spending at least a few years with my partner enjoying the freedom to travel at will, go out whenever we want, etc, etc, before children are added to this mix. I love kids. I have close friend who have kids, my cousins have kids that I think are great, and I definitely want my own some day, but I do not want them now, at all! And frankly, I need to be honest here, I question the wisdom and judegment of single women my age or younger who have kids. I have receieved messages from 21 year olds who's profile proudly states that they are the mother of a four year old. Sorry Jamie-Lynn, but if you got pregnant at 16, you are not the girl for me. You might not like it, but some things are just deal breakers, and finding fault with people's deal breakers is awfully immature, isn't it? But so many do it. Personally, fat is a deal breaker for me. A lot of fat girls would consider me to be a bad person, or shallow because of that. Well I wholeheartedly disagree! Why is it wrong for me to want a woman who cares about, and understands how to take care of her health? It's not, its simply my preference, and I am entitled to it. Why it should be considered a flaw for me to want a partner who's naked body is not a turn off for me is beyond me. Not liking animals is a deal breaker for me. I'm not gonna spend my life with somone who is going to make my dog live outside, or will freak out over a little bit of pet hair. Owning or desiring to own horses. I grew up around horses, I like them. But I do not want to hassle of owning them. I also know that many horse woman have a peculiar quality of putting the horse first in everything, even before her partner. If this sounds like crazy talk, just ask any guy who's dated a horse woman, or even a horse woman herself, many won't even deny it. So strange as it may sound this is also a deal breaker for me. Again, does this somehow make me a flawed person. Blah blah blah, I'm rambling. So I'll stop.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Teen boy bringing girls over. Posted: 5/4/2009 4:56:36 PM
STFU and mind your own business. Also, get a life. Frankly, your concern about this is a bit disturbing I'm not nosey and not a busy-body The fact that you posted this thread at all suggests otherwise.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/4/2009 4:53:17 PM
yeah guys can wait till they are older to have kids which is lucky for u but women we have a clock... Puuhhlease! You're what? 27? You probably have a good 15 child bearing years left in you, the clock doesn't run out that fast. Honestly you come across like you have a huge chip on your shoulder. a child is NEVER a mistake... anyone with common sense knows that Uh, no. If the condom breaks and your get pregnant unintentionally, then it's a mistake. Just because that mistake is going to grow up to be a (hopefully) loved human being anyway, doesn't mean a mistake didn't happen. I mean, if you put paprika in your spaghetti instead of rosemary, by mistake, and it ends up tasting good, that doesn't mean you somehow didn't make a mistake, only that it worked out anyway. Common sense? How about simple logic? when reality was he didn't like comming second to a newborn... and men have to realize that they are always going to come second even after they have their own kids.... cuz men should put their children first too.... cuz u love ur child unconditionally... where u might not the partner... men are grown adults... they shouldn't need to be babied... "grow up"... It's this kind of baloney that leads to so many divorces, I swear. Just because you have kids doesn't mean you stop placing a priority on your partner, both need to be given adequate attention. If you neglect your relationship and focus soley on the kids, guess what happens? The relationship dies, the kids end up in a broken him, and everyone suffers. For god's sake, your job as a parent isn't to smother your kids and make them your everything, it's to love them and nurture them and raise them up into healthy independent adults. And then guess what? They are going to leave you, and move out of the home, and if you haven't placed adequate focus on maintianing a strong relationship with your partner, you're gonna find life is suddenly very empty. It's just "common sense".

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/3/2009 3:35:47 PM
Because we want our own kids, not someone else's. Sorry, but that's the harsh truth. Also, in my case, even though I want kids, I certainly don't want them tomorrow or next week, but rather in several years time, and at such point as a find my long term (and hopefully forever) partner, I am going to want some time together as a couple before we bring kids into the mix. That's really all there is to it. Oh yeah, and the fact that our ass backward court system can actually make us financially reponsible for someone else's children in the event of a break up. Dating a woman with kids is not worth the risk. And there you have it, the somewhat harsh but brutally honest answer as to why many (if not most) men under the age of say, 35, who do not already have kids of their own, will not date a woman who does. Sorry.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Why are intimate encounters EVIL? Posted: 4/24/2009 7:58:50 PM
Not to those who have their reasons....to them, they are keeping away from what they don't want. And, as I detailed in my post that your snipped most of, probably also keeping away what they do want as a side effect. Why did you take mt words out of context in your reply? What purpose did that serve? Like I said, I don't check what people are looking for before I message them, and I don't even remember messaging anyone who was looking for an intimate encounter, but apparently I did, and now there's an entire segement of the POF population that I am not allowed to talk to as a result.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Why are intimate encounters EVIL? Posted: 4/24/2009 7:20:09 PM
Personally, I think that thos blocking people who have messaged poeple seeking intimate encounters are very foolish. Just because I have messaged people who are looking for intimate encounters doesn't mean that's all I am after, and in fact I have never gone after someone strictly for sex. The truth is, I most of the time don't even look at what the other person is looking for, I contact them based on whether I like the way they look and if their profile displays a measure of intelligence or not. There are a lot of people who have missed out on hearing from a great guy because they have short-sightedly (if well-meaningly) blocked messages from me. I can understand blocking people who have listed that they personally a looking for intimate encounters, that obviously leaves little doubt as to what they are about, but again blocking people who have simply emailed someone who is is very silly.

dilettante84

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So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/17/2009 10:49:32 PM
As far as going around superficially smiling and being polite to everyone is not exactly what the OP has in mind. Thank you!

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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The text message blow off? Posted: 4/17/2009 9:01:55 PM
She did not stand you up. I never said she did. I said she cancelled two hours before the date with no reason or indication of whether she wanted to reschedule. That's a different thing. She told you she wasn't meeting you that night. She does not owe you an explanation why. If she had said I can't meet you because an old boy friend has dropped by, would you be satisfied with that explanation? What if she had to see a sick friend in the hospital? Maybe do her nails and hair. See a man about a dog. Going out with her crew. Possibly she just did not want to put in the effort to meet you. All supposition of course, but none of your business. Dude, no offense, but grow the **** up. Why do people insist on making excuses for other people's rudeness? No she doesn't owe me anything, but the polite and courteous thing to do is offer an explanation, or at least make it clear what her future intentions are where I am concerned, instead of leaving me scratching my head. BTW, I find it surprising, but interesting that the woman who posted in this thread is in agreement with me, while you as a man are not. I would have expected the reverse.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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The text message blow off? Posted: 4/17/2009 6:31:02 PM
So a few nights ago I was bored and decided to waste the rest of my credits on a certain other website. Long story short I got to chatting with a pretty girl and we seemed to click. The funny part is about half way through our conversation I realized I met her before at an acting workshop, several years ago. Back then I was really shy and didn't talk to her even though I really really wanted to. Anyway, we were supposed to meet for a drink tonight, and about two hour before our schedule time she sent me a text saying she wouldn't be coming. She didn't give a reason or any indication she wanted to reschedule. So whatever, I can deal. Yeah, can't deny I am pretty disappointed that my friday night plans were abruptly cancelled with little chance of making new ones. So I guess I'll be home watching hockey instead, meh. But what I don't get it what's so difficult about being straight up with people? If you cancel a date, especially with two hours notice, shouldn't you at least say why? And wouldn't it be considered common courtesy to make it clear whether the person can expect you to reschedule or if he should forget about it and move on? Heck, it is her loss, and I know that sounds cliche and arrogant no matter how it's said, but damn it it's true, I have a lot to offer the right woman, but it's still annoying as hell.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/14/2009 9:14:03 PM
Here's an idea! Be what you are looking for! Try it out. Tomorrow, smile and say hello to the strangers you see - on the street, in the coffee shop, in the office hallways, etc. See what happens I'll tell you what will happen, since I smile at strangers every day. Most of them will either ignore me, or give me a half hearted uncomfrotable smile and move along as quickly as possible. A few will look right at me and not smile, and a very small percentage will smile back. I also hold doors for anyone and everyone as a matter of habit, and the percentage of people who are appreciative of that friendly gesture are far outweighed by those that ignore it or act like it makes them uncomfortable.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Please check out my profile. Posted: 4/13/2009 8:22:52 PM
Anyone at all? I re-wrote the entire thing, over a hundred people have viewed this thread, and 8 have replied?

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/12/2009 2:13:58 AM
OP Perhaps the perceived unfriendliness is of your own making? Do you have an expectation that people should treat you in a certain way, and if you don't get that you reflect that with an unfriendly demeanour, lacking courtesy or good manners, and you are just getting back what you give? no.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/11/2009 2:38:14 PM
I am going to throw a wrench into things here and suggest that, if you are not happy with where you live, save up some money and move. The things that bother you - if you haven't just been in a bad mood for the last few posts and people aren't reacting to something evil and nasty in your personality (j/k) - are cultural, and guess what, culture doesn't change very quickly. There are other cities in Canada that are friendlier than Vancouver, and there are other countries in the world that have a friendlier reputation that Canada. Save up some money and see the world, or at least, see the country. Actually, I have seen the country, been from one end the other on the train, and it was wonderful. So I have seen first hand how friendly and warm the people of PEI are, for instance. And you know what? PEI is a beautiful place and if I didn't hate winter so much, I'd be very tempted to live there. I actually love Vancouver, I just wish we weren't such an aloof bunch.

dilettante84

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Msg: 9 (view)

Please check out my profile. Posted: 4/11/2009 2:35:25 PM
I think I heard a pin drop.

dilettante84

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Msg: 33 (view)

Profile Phrases or Key Words That Make You Cautious Posted: 4/11/2009 2:51:25 AM
I never read the interests section, I skip right the the main profile, to be honest. Actually now that I think of it, a couple of phrases, two that jump out at me are "I love my freedom", well duh, we all like to be free, but the fact that you need to state it in your profile suggests you might have difficulty with committed relationships and being sombody's "partner", and your warning people that you are gonna keep your distance. Then again, maybe not, but I don't know you yet, so it is going to make me cautious. The other one is anything followed by "with my girls", which to me seems to indicate party girls, bar stars, and worse, that certain breed of woman who' s relationship with her girlfriends is always going to trump any relationship with a man. Again, it may not always mean that, but it does raise a red flag in my head, probably because I have had a relationship with a girl who used to cancel plans if something came up with her girlfriends instead.

dilettante84

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Please check out my profile. Posted: 4/11/2009 2:21:59 AM
Okay, rewrote the entire thing. Improved? Suggestions?

dilettante84

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Please check out my profile. Posted: 4/11/2009 1:03:29 AM
yours is easy.get rid of the side burns and the beared.your good to go. yeah, well people who know me say how much they like it on me, so I don't think so, and I doubt that's the issue. Right now you may as well have them in bright black capital as that’s how much they stand out!!! I am sure you know what parts I am referring too! Well it would help me out if you could point them out anyway, as I am not as sure as you are. if it's the comments about bisexual or smoking, why would that be a problem, I mean, of you aren't bi and you don't smoke, why would those comments be perceived as a negative or offensive?

dilettante84

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Please check out my profile. Posted: 4/10/2009 12:19:54 PM
what specifically is making me come across that way? If I know then I can make changes. Thanks again.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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Wondering why no reply's? Posted: 4/8/2009 7:58:16 PM
Your profile demonstrates a lack of undertsanding of basic English grammer and makes you sound like a hillbilly.

dilettante84

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So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/8/2009 7:54:45 PM
On the other hand Ballroom Dancing or Lamaze classes would promote more interaction. Strange then that my dance class has students behaving like it's a calculus class then. Lamaze class I think I will stay away from for a long while.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

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So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/8/2009 7:42:25 PM
Okay, maybe it was because I was on vacation. Maybe it's because being on vacation allowed me to play outside the sandbox a little, I don't know. All I know is that meeting people in Mexico was absuredly easy, and in Vancouver it is obsurdly hard. Maybe I am looking in the wrong places? I do know that there is a class I am taking that I thought would open up opportunities for social interaction, but each day when the class is over everyone shuffles for the door so fast its impossible to meet anyone.

dilettante84

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Please check out my profile. Posted: 4/8/2009 7:38:54 PM
Be kind, or not, but be truthful and helpful no matter what :P Not sure what else to say, but this post has to be 200 characters long, apparently. Thanks in advance for you detailed and honest suggestions. BTW, I have sort of given up on emailing people, I find I rarely get replies, and the effort it takes to try and write something original and non-lame each time is getting tiresome. But then again, I don't get many bites so something must be wrong.

dilettante84

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Msg: 26 (view)

Girls Looking for the Nice Guy Ya Right!!!! Posted: 4/8/2009 7:35:35 PM
Doh, right in front of my face! I can't believe I didn't see it!

dilettante84

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Girls Looking for the Nice Guy Ya Right!!!! Posted: 4/8/2009 7:29:03 PM
As someone who has been involved in both sides of POF I suggest the OP (Original Poster) add himself to the Profile Review thread Where can I find this profile review thread?

dilettante84

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So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/6/2009 11:54:59 PM
What does friendliess and safety level have to do with anything anyway? With that said, if we don't get tough on gangs were gonna become more and more like Mexico. Maybe we should follow their example and let the miliatry deal with them. Bring back the war measures act.

dilettante84

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Msg: 133 (view)

Beautiful People Only can apply...WTF.... Posted: 4/6/2009 6:25:18 PM
I agree with Temp. The only people that would go on that site are people that "believe" they are either a pretty boy or a pretty girl. And in fact,,,those people "believing" they are such,,,,deserve a partner that "believes" the same. Kind of a match made in heaven isn't it????? Actually I would say that the vast majority of the people on there are not there for dating, but because they have a very deep insecurity about their looks (even if they are beautiful) and need the reassurance that a site like that provides them. I know on person who was on that site very intimately, and that is without a doubt the reason she was on there. (And she was a beautiful person, so it was very sad she needed the attention from that website to make her believe it. ) Okay, so not everyone is on there for that reason, some may actually be completely up themseleves, and other might just be deluded and good at taking misleading photos. Point is, the whole thing is kind of silly. I did not join BP because I have low self-esteem and needed to have my looks validated..haha..I find that comment really funny actually. I dont think that I am a super model by any means, but I also have enough self-esteem to know that I am beautiful (inside and out) without a site having to tell me so. If you look at the logic behind that statement, you can see why I laugh...people post their pictures because they think that they possibly have what it takes to be on there, not because they dont and hope that their fears will be disproven. So what exactly do you get out of it then if you already know that you're beautiful inside and out? Surely being a member is a bit pointless for some as confident as yourself?

dilettante84

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So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/6/2009 6:19:05 PM
Well they have more murders in mexico, and that doesn't stop them from being friendly and inviting. (As a side note, I felt totally safe in Cabo San Lucas, and certainly not any LESS safe than I do in Vancouver these days). A whole new world a place I never thought I new but from way up here its crystal clear that now I'm in a whole new world with you. Care to clarifty the point you are trying to make? I'm a tad thick I suppose, but it's not totally clear to me, but it caught my attention so I'd like to know.

dilettante84

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So I just came home from Mexico Posted: 4/6/2009 6:00:13 PM
And I have the post vacation blues. Big time. After spending time in Mexico it is hard not to notice how cold and uninviting people can be. Wheras in Mexio everyone smiles and says hello, Vancouverites look away and avoid eye contact. I love Vancouver, but I'll be damned if it isn't one of the hardest places in the world to meet people, and I don't just mean romantically. Why are we such and unfriendly city? Granted we are not the only one, Calgary, Edmonton, Toronto, they are all much the same. Why can't we be open and friendly like the maritimers, the mid and north vancouver islanders, and yes, the mexicans?

dilettante84

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Msg: 13 (view)

Idea: Bridge from Vancouver to Victoria Posted: 4/6/2009 5:46:35 PM
A bridge might be impossible, but I seriously doubt a tunnel would be. There is already one tunnel in the world longer than that one. The tunnel that connects France to England is over 50km... the distance from the mainland to Vancouver island is only 45km... It's not a good idea. The island is unique, the people have a much better more connected liftstyle. The island still has communities, people know their neighbours. Generations stay at home on the island and raise their families together. The island is a wonderful place and connecting it to the mainland would surely destory much of what makes it special, and I am speaking as a mainlander who loves the big city of Vancouver. And if it happened, having it go from Vancouver to Victoria would be a huge mistake, there is already far two much girdlock in these cities, and joining them together would destroy what makes them unique. Maybe a destination somewhere mid-island would be more appropriate. but it would probably make more sense to connect to the smaller islands and build a series of smaller bridges and tunnels to us. This would be an horrible thing! Vancouver Island may be well developed and have a fairly dense population, but the gulf islands are truly a unique treasure and joining them to the mainland by bridges would be a travesty. Let the islands be islands. The only real problem here is that BC ferries was meant to be a public "utility", designed to serve the peoeple, and not a profit making American run enterprise is has been morphed into. The call should not be for a bridge, but for a return of BC ferries to its rightful owners, the people of BC, and service before profits.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

State-funded sex for the disabled Posted: 4/6/2009 5:39:18 PM
I am 100% against it; just as I am against free education for "native" Canadians, native only fisheries, bicycle helmut laws that don't apply to sihks, and Michael Jackson being considered a black man. If handicapped people get taxpayer funded prostitutes, then we all should. Anyway, who defines handicapped anyway?

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 127 (view)

Would you have sex with someone for the first time if they were wearing dirty underwear? Posted: 3/24/2009 9:35:00 PM
so gross. I would not be able to even think of sex if I witnessed dirty undies.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 354 (view)

Ladies That hate recieving oral sex Posted: 3/24/2009 9:06:29 PM
so annoying. Hating it doesn't mean it hasn't been done right. Might mean they actually hate it. Since you have openly stated that you have sexual issues brought on by trauma, that's probably the real reason. It's sad that you have been robbed in such a way.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 353 (view)

Ladies That hate recieving oral sex Posted: 3/24/2009 9:02:45 PM
The road to the orgasm is often the mind, just as much physically, if not even more. I mean women can get wet off of sexy thoughts without any physical stimulation whatsoever! (And yes, ladies I am jealous! lol!) Why would you be jealous? Are you saying you can't get hard from just a thought?

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 86 (view)

How many women fantasize watching their man with another man? Posted: 3/22/2009 9:04:52 PM
I have to admit that I do get very turned on by watching man-on-man porn (especially if the two men are hot). However, it's never been a fantasy of mine to watch my hubby with another man mainly because I don't like to share my man with anyone else and because I know he'd say "NO FRIGGING WAY"! I had a girlfriend who had this has a fantasy, and she wasn't shy about sharing it, often with details. It used to bother me not so much because the idea of it was a turn on for her, but because if I had been willing she would have been only too happy to make it happen. I was bothered because for me the idea of my mate being with ANYONE else, male more female, is a huge turn-off, and I could never accept that she didn't care. While it doesn't bother me that some women would be turned on by two men together, I don't think I would ever attempt a long term relationship with another woman who is turned on by the idea of me, he exclusive partner, being with another man (or woman for that matter). Same goes for me with another woman - I'm not into women and wouldn't just do it to please him. YAY!

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Need some tips about how to make friends on POF Posted: 3/20/2009 12:35:03 AM
Damned if I know, I don't think most of the people on here actually want to meet anyone, lol. That's why I never send messages, ar at least very rarely, it just not worth the effort trying to come up with something clever to say only to have it ignored. but I will pass on guys who want to flash me their moobs.[/qoute] Manzier! or is it the bro?

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

casual recreational sex versus meaningful intimate experience Posted: 3/20/2009 12:33:43 AM
To me, sex is an intimate experience, and I strongly believe you should be choosy about who you do it with. I expect any potential long term partner to feel the same way and also have been choosy about who she has done it with. With that said, I am not against casual sex, sex is a very real human need, but I think people should be just as choosey about their non-romantic sex partners as their romantic ones. IMO, sleeping around without any kind of discretion or self control is not cool.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 344 (view)

Ladies That hate recieving oral sex Posted: 3/19/2009 11:48:24 PM
My ex would not allow me to give her oral, and it was a huge sore point for me. I actually think it was a bit of a deal breaker.

dilettante84

Joined: 1/29/2006

Msg: 207 (view)

Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men? Posted: 3/18/2009 1:07:51 AM
No. Since I have to make this post longer I will just add some ranbdom crap here since the above really says it all.

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