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brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

Msg: 26 (view)

guy/girls who were cheap on date Posted: 10/6/2009 7:54:13 PM
Honestly, I'd like the woman to pay for the date occasionally. If I pick her up (aka initiate date planning) I don't mind paying, but if she plans everything (sort of - it doesn't make for a good impression to dictate a date plan) then I don't mind at all if she picks up the tab. If women want to be equal with men, then the dutch date is the way to go. I can hear the whining of "but I want to be swept off my feet, etc" commencing, but since most women work and don't live with ma and pa until they get hitched there isn't any reason that women can't pick up their side of the tab. I'd say half, but the steak eater picks the pocket of the salad person when half is involved. I am not saying a guy can't take a woman to a nice place out of the blue and pick up the tab, nor am I saying a woman shouldn't do the same. As a guy, I am just tired of paying for a lame duck date with a lame duck woman. Why do I keep getting stuck paying for someone's meal that I simply do not like. I really don't think someone I just met off the street (internet, bar, favor for a friend) really rates a free meal at my expense. I'll give a hobo a few bucks, but he/she may actually need the money. I often not buy meals for my friends, so why would I want to pay for someone's meal who statistically speaking I'll never see again much less like. And if I do like her, I really don't want her to believe that me paying for the entire date is the "norm." Dutch first dates are a great way to establish precedence. I'll spoil you later, if there is a later, and when I feel like it. No, it won't do any good to argue virtue and chivalry with me, both of those went out the window with woman's lib. If women want equal pay then women should pay equally. So, any date I have to pay for is a cheap date with a woman. And I've had enough of cheap dates already.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Moving In Posted: 10/6/2009 7:31:15 PM
The majority of folks who shack before shackle (marriage) usually end up divorced. If you want hard numbers, google, then check all the news sites. I would not recommend moving in until marriage.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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OMFG I am NOT a love toy! Posted: 7/20/2009 6:16:19 PM
There are two types of women who post on a public dating sites - those who are looking for love, and those who are looking for lovin'. Depends on where I am on what I find, here in Ohio I've found women looking for love, but in Louisiana I found most women I dated were looking for lovin'. Unfortunately I was to naive to realize that. That being said, I'll give you the best advice I've heard - don't turn down a free ride as you never know when your next ride will be. Two other tid-bits - never jump out of a plane without a parachute better known as safety first, and always check for cameras.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Adding Favorites Posted: 6/14/2009 4:57:54 PM
Unfortunately I can't really contact my favs atm without being somewhat rude. Simply put I am moving across town and won't have internet for a few weeks to email them back in the rare event they actually email me back. And that is part of it. The other part is I am really picky. I'll digest a bunch of profiles, favorite a few of them, sort thought the list and drop the ones I don't think I would like, and then end up with a short list that I email one off of every 2 days. I unfortunately don't believe in seeing how many women I can get to talk to me at once. So I might work through a list of 10 women in 2-3 weeks. That is just how I do it. Of course, some women like to be on tons of friends list as that is a rating of their popularity and aids in their vanity/"Paris Hilton, love me" level and the fellows who add you and never contact you could just be trying to help in this effort (not the vanity bit, I hope).

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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The Funniest Joke In The World! Seriously! Posted: 6/14/2009 4:26:32 PM
The lesbian frog one was pretty good, so was the hammer. Father Murphy was sent to a nearby church to fill in for Father O'Maley while Father O'Maley was on sebatical. Father Murphy was new but did a fine sermon and was all set for confesionals. The first few confesions were fine, usually just a few hail Mary's and a small donation. But with the last confession of the day hit he hit a snag involving a conversation that went like this: Mr. Smith: "Forgive me father, for I have sinned." Father Murphy: "What be your sins, son?" Mr. Smith: "Well I was feeling a bit froggy and my wife was a tad bit drunk so we had wonderful sex, and knowing she was a tad bit drunk I did something she made me promise never to do." Father Murphy: "Well what was that my son?" Mr. Smith: "Well I slipped into my wife's back door and had my way with her." Father Murphy, quite new, and now at a loss was unsure what to do. Knowing that the alter boy seemed to be sweeping the same spot next to the confesional the whole time, Father Murphy had little choise but to ask him. Father Murphy cracking open the door and in a whisper: "Hey alter boy." Alter boy: "Yes, father?" Father Murphy, still in a whisper: "What does Father O'Maley usually give for sodomy?" Alter boy: "Usually a coke and a candy bar."

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Adding Favorites Posted: 6/14/2009 4:11:56 PM
I call my list of favorites "bookmarks" of women I will contact eventually. If you don't want him to have you as a favorite, you can simply ask him to remove you from the favorites. If he says "no" then block his butt and move on.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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you're in a relationship,all of a sudden he disappears,gets back in touch few weeks later, nw what? Posted: 6/11/2009 12:54:15 PM
Well, I have a relationship with a guitar. I occasionally break it out, play with it, and when I get bored or distracted I go do something else. Now even though the guitar and I have a relationship, I might not get back to fiddling with it for about 3 weeks after I got what I wanted out of whatever distracted me. I think that even though I neglected my guitar for 3 weeks that it still kind of likes me and has no problem being played with again. Of course, it is just a guitar and doesn't have a choice whether it gets played or not, but you do.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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The Six Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make Posted: 6/9/2009 1:15:12 PM
I prefer women to approach me in bars. The ones who don't, just aren't my type. However, I find women who are too confident when approaching me are usually the ones who are just looking for sex. Just an FYI for those who thinks someone isn't a man for them just because he won't approach her, he could be there just looking to unwind and have drinks. If you think he's cute, why not woman up and talk to him. Men like a woman with confidennce. Food for thought.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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They say they want to meet and then disappear?? Posted: 6/9/2009 1:06:14 PM
I would venture that it is their loss. Maybe they just wanted a pen pal and actually meeting a real life breathing woman is too much for them to emotionally handle. Or they could be married/dating and chickened out like a few other posters have stated. Standing up a woman wouldn't be a good style to have. It is just plain rude. The good news is that you have an easier time seperating the boys from the men. Good fishing.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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The Six Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make Posted: 6/7/2009 4:26:45 PM
DiyDiva, I think you missed my point (but I understand how you understood it). What I clarify what I said meant is I'll ask questions on what you said, "did you ever do this," "which one was your favorite," "wow did you really..," etc. You know, show interest in your passion and also showed I paid attention to what you were saying as opposed to entering the blah blah blah zone.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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What Makes a Man Commit? Posted: 6/7/2009 4:22:07 PM
I got married - twice - because both times, it seemed like a good idea. So in my case, I will commit on any level if it seems like a good idea. I image it varies depending on who the man is.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Im too nervous! Posted: 6/7/2009 4:19:00 PM
Once again a slew of cute gals from Canada... location location location.. Anyways. OP, you are cute, look very shy in your photos, and are just getting started in dating. I'll tell you what, you can pick and choose who you date. You seem to have a good personality, well grounded feet, and have no problem asking for help. You can pick and choose who you date. I found that worth repeating. You have no need to be nervous. You just need to realize that you just need to do it. Once you take that first step in meeting up with a guy, you will be all set and the whole deal will be no big deal.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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The Six Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make Posted: 6/7/2009 11:29:09 AM
I agree and disagree with #2 - from a guys stand point, a girl with lots of friends is residing in her castle. She will have folks to get in your way from talking with her. You will be entering a place where if you embarass yourself, you do it in front of her friends to so you are like # of friends squared time the creep now. I disagree because going out alone sucks. Going out alone isn't as safe as with friends. You can get instant reviews(some truthful, some self motivated) from your friends on who is cute, and who isn't. You have your friends there to get your back if you get way too drunk. I don't know about you, but I want to be the ugly one when I wake up hung over. I don't mind if a woman talks about her passions all night - how great her job is, art, favorite movie. A woman who is passionate about something has her beauty amplified like 100 times because the smile she wears brightens the room. The face she makes brings forth the feeling of spring. The hand gestures tell how stressed out she is - the more rigid she moves her hands while talking, the more stress she will need to get rid of before she will really have a good time. Low stress - hula dancer movements. High stress - death ninja blows. Most of the time it is life/job stress but sometimes she just needs to get laid but doesn't have a clue that that is the problem. If you spend all night talking to me, expect to be quizzed about what you said.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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need a guys advice, not a womans... Posted: 6/7/2009 11:14:22 AM
I agree to keep things civil, but once a man crosses the smack-a-wife bridge, he will keep doing it, you will keep spiralling into a self destructive not worth a pigeon doo doo pit of despair, and one day your daughter will walk in and see it. He won't stop, no matter how much councilling he goes to. Somethings will make him mad, accumulate all day, and you will say the wrong thing to him and pow, right back to square one. Sometimes the hardest road is the one you have to travel.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Mind boggling! Please help. Posted: 6/7/2009 11:09:43 AM
I hope not, I usually say that to mean "holy cow, I can't wait for date #2" but that is just me. That would explain why some women disappear into thin air despite them having a good time.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Does my independence scare men off? Posted: 6/6/2009 4:33:52 PM
Hey, revealing such secrets violates man-rules.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Does my independence scare men off? Posted: 6/6/2009 2:43:05 PM
In the past I found women who think they "scare men off" are either just having a bad string of luck, or are arrogant, down right mean, condescending, and so self-involved the guy feels like the woman's bragging forum. The worse thing is, the woman doesn't realize it and assume the guy was scared off because of the woman's brilliant intelligence, stellar career, and independence. I have fun finding things I really don't do to give up as excuses not to have date #2 - "I have water polo that day," "no, I have to jet to England to see the regional cricket finals," "I have to go take delivery of my new Porsche that day," etc. I just keep hoping one will catch on that it is her and can be saved from her egocentric narcissist ways.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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last minute dates Posted: 6/6/2009 2:34:27 PM
What if I called up to ask you out because I someone gave me floor seats to the Lakers/some ballet/some opera or some other event that I know you would loooove? Or I could have been working until 9-10 at night and couldn't make plans until just before I called? There are a million reasons for it, but I would get upset to if last minute date plans were the norm as opposed to the exception.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Why are guys scared of approaching? Posted: 6/6/2009 2:30:44 PM
Missed a few: They could be looking at you because the back of your skirt is tucked into your underwear. They could be looking at you because you have toilet paper stuck on your shoe.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Nothing excites me over 30 Posted: 6/6/2009 2:27:54 PM
The question you should ask yourself is, have you ever been snipe hunting? You sound in a position to hunt a white whale and when you do find one, you'll just dismiss it because you are looking for reasons to be bored with your find. You should spend the next rainy day and splash in a few mud puddles while examining fallen leaves. Just stay clear of trees during lightning storms.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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The Funniest Joke In The World! Seriously! Posted: 6/6/2009 2:13:35 PM
God, needing a vacation after centuries of hard work keeping the universe in order, stopped by St. Peter's desk to ask for his opinion on where to go on vacation. St. Peter: "How about Saturn." God: "No, I went there 10,000 years ago and all it did was storm - never had one good sunny day." St. Peter: "How about Mercury?" God: "No no, I went there 6,000 years ago and saw nothing but rocks there, and I ended up with terrible sunburn." St. Peter: "How about Earth?" God: "Heavens no, last time I went there I was accused of knocking up some chick named Mary."

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Any nice way to show you are uninterested Posted: 6/6/2009 12:07:32 PM
I usually go with variants of this: Hi, Thanks for the compliment. You have a very nice profile, but I don't think we would be a good match. I know Mr. Right is out there for you somewhere, and I know you will find him. Sincerely, Brian

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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How do you stop missing your ex because it's so hard... Posted: 6/5/2009 1:47:38 PM
He's moved on, so you need to learn to do the same. If you miss his hugs, buy a large body pillow or a large teddy bear. If you miss the late night phone calls, watch late night talk shows or find a nice chatroom. If you miss the deep conversations that only the two of you had, write a novel, blog, or talk to your friends. If you miss being kissed and held, buy a puppy, a kitten, or a gold fish. A little substitution goes a long way, and one day you'll realize that you have moved on too, and are ready for the next guy. I just hope he likes puppies for your sake.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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What do you guys think? Posted: 6/5/2009 1:43:15 PM
Just buy a dog and after a while you realize you have become that crazy old guy who talks to his dog all the time - the same one you used to make fun of with your friends - you'll realize you should go out and find yourself a woman before your condition becomes permanent.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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A Misdirected Email Posted: 6/5/2009 1:39:03 PM
I'd go with your plan, OP. You'd give him the reason why you aren't talking to him any more, and you would get him to turn various shades of white and bright red.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Would a man catch the eye ... Posted: 6/5/2009 1:34:04 PM
Sometimes a person needs a smile to grow a smile. Of course, sometimes it makes a man's day if he just sees one hot chick.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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The wearing of knee length boots Posted: 6/5/2009 1:32:40 PM
Thigh-highs are much better, but most women do fine with whatever they are wearing. If I care about the woman, she could have curlers, a muumuu, sweat pants, and cotton stuffed between her toes and still be the hottest woman on the planet to me. Love is quite blind.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Do you really? Posted: 6/5/2009 1:30:02 PM
Sometimes I just need to be held or cuddled up to.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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A Chance To Be Honest Posted: 6/4/2009 6:34:18 PM
Are you deciding on whether to drink on a first date or not? Anywho, I haven't been conditioned to waking up with a woman I just met. If I did wake up with my date, I unfortunately would be accustomed to having just moved from the "omg, she is standing close to me" to the sex phase of the relationship and would want seconds. However, if it isn't the norm for the gal, I would guess she would be embarassed by the situation slightly and be too confused to be tangibly set on what to make of the situation. I would at that point, play it by ear to know whether to expect a good mixing every night or whether to jump back to just dinner and a movie.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Anyone read Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man? Posted: 6/4/2009 6:26:27 PM
I just know if I ever saw a woman I was just starting to date standing while peeing, I would run away terrified.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Do any men know the difference between being in control and being controlling? Posted: 6/4/2009 6:20:19 PM
I don't mind the woman wearing the pants, so to speak. I have very few needs - food, sex, attention when I want it, keeping the woman happy (without expecting a reward), my opinion respected, a man cave, and sleep. I am kind of selfless unless the woman starts some silly little mind tricks like creating a situation and then blaming me for it, playing silly games like "I'm moving out - but not really," or the fun "let's change everything for no real reason" quiz game. I think women have the 3 P's - Pampering, Proud, and Partnered. Pampered - a foot massage, back massage, or someone else cooking her dinner spontaneously is much appreciated. Proud - you introduce your wife with a smile and not as the ball and chain even if you just had the fight of the century. You also earnestly tell her she is the prettiest thing you ever saw. Partnered - dish washing is a group exercise, so is cleaning, and going to that stupid ballet thing downtown where you have to wear that monkey suit.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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topics to talk about on a first date.... Posted: 6/4/2009 6:05:01 PM
You just need to relax, realize he is just as nervous as you, and be yourself. No need to broach what you aren't interested in, and no need to tell him your entire life story as why ruin the suprise for later? Also, keep aware on how much you are talking about yourself and it is ok to study his profile a little so you can have a question or two in the even there is that weird silence moment. "I saw you like to ski on your profile." "When was the last time you went skiing?" "where has been your favorite spot so far?" What, when, where, and how are your friends, "who" might not be unless you want to potentially pop open the ex girlfriend files.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Best Friend Dating a Seperated man Posted: 6/4/2009 5:58:27 PM
Sounds like he is a player and explains why he might actually be seperated. You probably aren't the only person he is trying to hook up with so you might want to invite yourself over to her place and check out your mailbox, point at the message he sent you, and then pop open his profile and say "he is kind of cute, think I should respond?" That is the play like you don't know what he looks like even though you may approach to breaking the bad news to your friend. Expect her to want to see any evidence and possibly a few lonely weeks/months until she calls blubbering about how she was a terrible friend to you. You can blame my views on having to sit through too many romantic movies with gals.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Why do most guys turn to butt holes? Posted: 6/4/2009 5:53:23 PM
Here's a delima I've had once or twice - sometimes life gets in the way and both folks are actually too busy to see each other, or one person is too busy to see the other, or one person needs some self time and the other person views it as some form of avoidance dumping. I guess that stems from the relationship being really important which leads to self-doubt (oh he doesn't like me) or just plain frustration which leads to angry sad crazy folk. It is worse for me as I hate to impose or seem pushy when it comes to women. If I don't get invited in after a together shopping trip (for serious relationships) like I normally would be I rarely question it and just assume something. My mistake has always been assuming instead of communicating with her. Actually talking to the person seems to fix most misconceptions. Unless the person is just chicken and really wants to hide away....

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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is a man that's taken more attractive than a man thats single? Posted: 6/4/2009 5:43:22 PM
I seem to find myself in a greener grass situation when in a relationship more than a month or two. I have never hopped the fence, but there always seems to be a lot of temptation.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Never viewed your profile? Posted: 6/4/2009 5:30:20 PM
Thanks for your input. I was worried, but not too much.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Asking out a younger guy? Posted: 6/4/2009 12:52:15 PM
If the vibes are right, go for it. Age is irrelevant (unless ya want kids). Not asking is akin to me seeing a pretty girl who flirts with me an I never ask for her number. Life isn't without risks.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Never viewed your profile? Posted: 6/4/2009 12:49:38 PM
Hi, Would you respond to a guy's message who appears to have never viewed your profile? I just realized I was in ninja mode - didn't allow wpmen to see that I viewed and I am wonder if that has affected my chances of getting a response from any of them.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Do men have dating patters? Posted: 6/3/2009 2:31:42 PM
Please pass the patters and grevy.. Anyways, I usually end up dating someone who just wanted a hookup (which I don't abide by) or has some sort of emotional issues (sometimes deeply disturbing ones). I just want to meet a nice quasi normal gal, or one who has emotional issues I can enjoy.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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What are some good dating sites? Posted: 6/3/2009 2:27:57 PM
Well op, if you were here in Ohio..... Anyways, I've only had luck with yahoo, match usually presented me with bbw both initially contacting me or my results. I never had much luck with eharmony, but of course, I only paid for a site if someone I saw interests me. I don't recall many of the pay sites having forums.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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How often have you been pleasantly surprised by your date? Posted: 6/3/2009 2:18:20 PM
I am pleasantly surprised when the date shows up. After that, I usually have a really good time or at least, learn something about myself.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Liking them more when they are far away Posted: 6/3/2009 1:22:53 PM
Well to be honest with you, both my ex wives were at least partly long distance before we got together. The first one I really regret not dating a bit more before we got married. We had dated a few months in college before she went off to get her masters I and I went off to the army. We met up at least every 6 months before we got married. We had a decent few years but had we dated more I perhaps would have picked up more of the cultural differences and realized how right she was before we got divorced instead of a couple of years later. The second was just plain stupidity on my part. I guess you would call her a recovery wife? Sure she had a good personality and we got along, but had we lived in the same area and dated a year or so more I would have realized how vicious and obtrusive her parents were when it came to their daughters relationship (plural intended). Had I had more time with both of them before marriage, then I'd probably still be married to one of them. The biggest decision for both marriages was that someone had to move somewhere close to the other - one person had to give up a job or be in a jobless position before it would make sense to move (1/1 split in my case first wife moved for me, 2nd I moved). I can't say not to have a long distance relationship, but I can say that with long distance relationships I didn't have an as solid foundation on which to build a marriage. There wasn't enough face to face time to figure out each other's quirks or family's quirks. There wasn't enough tangible emotional events. Writing on paper and on a computer screen is nothing compared to face to face time where one can see each other's emotional reactions via eyes or complete body language. Of course, then there is the seeing other couple's effect where you get mad when you see other couples holding hands or going to watch new movies together or shopping together. Then there is the psycho times when the other person can't email you do to scheduling, etc, and trust begins to rust. Long distance relationships are the hardest ones to have. Period.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Do you lose interest if its too long? Posted: 6/2/2009 1:18:54 PM
Nope, if you have a few common interests, I would read through the whole thing. Of course, if I see a lot likeable women it would help your cause if there was good info in your profile. I haven't read yours through, so I was using the general "you" and not you specifically.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Would you move for him/her ? Posted: 6/2/2009 1:15:49 PM
Been there, did that, and had a bad experience.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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He is 32 and lives at home? Posted: 6/2/2009 1:14:52 PM
Picachu emphasises why younger men seeks older women - because they act more mature. Gemeni makes the point why age doesn't reflect maturity as she has shown very good maturiy. I agree with both of them. I don't live at home as now it is more of a resting point on my life's journey, but I've known friends of friends who still live at home and have good careers. They help their folks out and vice versa. I did see the downside of a gal living at home with her folks - the apron strings were really tight and eventually brought down our marriage. I've also seen the good side where a married couple live near or with their folks and not only do the kids turn out better for it, the married couple seems happier. Imagine a life where your baby sitter is in the next room.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Best way to deal with a procrastinator? Posted: 6/2/2009 1:06:39 PM
I think procrastinators are just misunderstood. It isn't that we are lazy and don't want to do anything, it is just that we just don't want to do anything right now. We will get to it, and if you do "nag" us after we specify an event that needs to take place before we do the task that will spell impending doom for the world if it doesn't get done when you want it to, then we will just drag it out until later. Who wants to do anything when we are coping with the newly added stress? We have feelings too, so respect the procrastiantor and he or she will suprise you. On a positive note, the person can't be a procrastinator as they did get around to asking you out so they can't be all that bad.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Calling your bluff by giving you his / her real address Posted: 6/1/2009 3:13:11 PM
Sounds to me like he wanted you to show up because he didn't have the balls to start a divorce with his wife. You show up to suprise him for sex, his wife is home, she goes balistic. Next thing you know, he has his divorce.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Can someone interpret this for me? Posted: 5/31/2009 5:53:27 PM
Oh you are just finding out that the folks who don't ask about your music are just self-centered and egotistical. Someone won't be and will ask you about your music after he shows you his - sounds like a musical game of dr... Anyways, just look at those who don't ask as a way to screen out undesirables.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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Giving little gifts early-on Posted: 5/31/2009 5:50:38 PM
You can always talk about it. Just say that sometimes, when you like a fellow, you like to buy him little gifts to keep him thinking about you and ask if he is alright with that. If he says no, then you go "cool! I can get a perm" or some other silly thing. You will really have to watch eye contact and body signals as the guy may be saying yes to not ruin things but really means no but can't think of a way around saying no without hurting your feelings. As a guy, I would prefer the gal to 0ffer pick up the tab as a little gift every now and then lol. Not very personal, but still usually doesn't cost the woman a dime unless she insists.

brian1342

Joined: 4/22/2009

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A question on a male friend (who is wright or wrong?) Posted: 5/31/2009 5:35:24 PM
Statistically speaking, men who sleep with married women are more likely to have affairs after they are married. I can't find a good link off of google (I don't feel like looking through 1,000's web page to find the article - sorry) but I did read an article that stated that men who sleep with married women are signifigantly more likely to have an affair after they themselves get married. I guess they just see how "easy" it is and do not have regard for the covenant of marriage in the first place. I did find a stat repeated over an over during my search that stated 80% of the men who cheated got caught. 78% of the folks who stayed together after the affair are unhappy.

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