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Joined: 4/23/2009

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Do women mind single dads with kids Posted: 5/15/2009 3:23:03 PM
I don't mind single dads...I'm a single mom...

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To those who love poetry. I want to share. Posted: 5/15/2009 10:57:58 AM
Congrats on the new baby :) ..beautiful poetry :) Freedom In the darkness I scream in the darkness I roam For there are people around me that want to steal my freedom Suffering am I wanting to soar in the sky Oh how I long to be FREE! _______________________________ Angel Of Death God, send me an angel show me your peace Let me sleep forever and ever with sweet sweet dreams send me an angel on this horrible depth send me an angel the angel of death ____________________ Love And Lost The Night is dawning, I fear it not. For our love, you have forgot. Life has taken on it's task Causing to miss what was the past. The sun is rising into the sky I wipe a few tears that found my eyes. A lonely star seeks the night... through the light... out of sight... Away from all the loney faces I hide from losing all the races For my heart is weak... and no longer whole The loving girl has lost her role. I stand alone and wish of love, Will God hear my prayers from up above?

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I Must Be Strange... Posted: 5/15/2009 10:07:43 AM
I opened this to discussion to see if there were other people who believe the same as I do. I am not questioning myself. I am merely trying to find out if there are other Christians like me on this site. Or, if there are other people that acknowledge the dangers of having sex before marriage. I am part of a minority, which is sad. I am strange to others, which makes me feel as if I am an alien visiting from some distance. The world has changed standards which really makes me sad. I feel sad for people who do not grasp the understanding of what is happening and what is going to happen in the future. My heart aches for these people.

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I need help understanding the way women think Posted: 5/15/2009 8:20:29 AM
Let me help you by showing some figures.. 1) there are about 14 million single parents (I include myself in this number) 2)One in five people in the United States has an STD 3)In 2005, 1.21 million abortions were performed, down from 1.31 million in 2000. From 1973 through 2005, more than 45 million legal abortions occurred (notice that is only the legal numbers, who knows how many illegal abortions have happened) 4)Between the start of the epidemic in 1981 and December 2006, more than 1,000,000 AIDS cases have been reported in the United States. During that time, more than 565,000 Americans have died of AIDS. These are not the most recent numbers...I am sure that they have increased. People can look around and say, "Yeah, it's God's fault, why would He let these bad things happen?" People call Christians names, point the finger but that is what living in the darkness does to people. Yes, you have a free choice to live how you want. We as humans are not puppets but there are consequences for each action we take. Be it good or bad. People take a look at these numbers and say, "It won't happen to me..I'm so careful...I use protection..ect..ect..." It's happened to people just like that.. So, you can tell the OP that it is his choice and that Christians will never find what we are looking for but it is so worth waiting. At least by waiting we are keeping our bodies and minds safe from anything harmful

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I need help understanding the way women think Posted: 5/15/2009 5:23:51 AM
O.P. I feel for you and my heart aches to know that this woman would break up with you because you wanted to wait. I have met with the same problem recently. I would like to say though, I am not quite sure how the Catholics in Europe but in the area I live in, it does not matter. Catholics here believe in living for the here and now. I try to close my ears to the things that are happening or I fear that my tears would never cease falling. It breaks my heart to know that while we do what we know is right is met with so much opposition. I just wanted to let you know to be strong and of good courage. There are others in this world that share your views and beliefs. Being a Christian sometimes can be a painful experience but yet we continue toward the prize before us. My prayers are with you. I would have sent this in a message to you but because I am a bit too old lol, I had to tell you here. I am just happy that I am not so alone and thank God for showing there are others like me. We are pilgrims my friend and we need to struggle on. Keep your head up high because you are a very rare find.

Joined: 4/23/2009

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I Must Be Strange... Posted: 5/14/2009 7:43:43 PM
I am going to shine some light when it comes to my having sex before I was married subject. As I have posted before, I made a MISTAKE. We are all human, including myself since the consensus is that I am not an alien. As humans, we all make mistakes. Everyone on this site, in this world makes them on a daily basis. The man I had sex with, by the way was a man I was going to marry. We had the date. However, he admitted to cheating on me, he lied to me and laughed as he told me these things. How can anyone make presumptions like that? If you do not have all the details, don't make assumptions. Ulterior motives? Sex as a gift? Sex is very sacred to me. In fact, I consider the word sex itself to be unfit. I prefer the words making love for a reason. I really dislike the idea that people use sex as a game or to suit their needs for a moment. Friends with benefits, one night stands, or having sex and then your so called partner looking at you and saying, "I just want to be friends." Sex as a gift, truly amazing. You should have said game because that is what sex has turned into. Who can do more people... I am offering a serious relationship, not one with ulterior motives. A life long commitment not just some booty call...

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I Must Be Strange... Posted: 5/14/2009 7:14:26 PM
So, because I enjoy sex prior to marriage - I don't have morals and values? Way to be non-judgmental. My morals and values are different than yours. I did not mean to offend. Judgmental? If you wish to call me judgmental that is fine, it's your opinion. However, I am not being judgmental at all. I just have a high set of standards that I try to live by. I have this knack to make people upset which is not my intention at all. It is just the way I type my words which makes people believe that I am trying to be "miss goody too shoes" or some other words, such as prude and so on and so forth. Speaking to me in person on the other hand, you may have a different opinion.

Joined: 4/23/2009

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I Must Be Strange... Posted: 5/14/2009 4:57:35 PM
I thank you all for your comments. I am a fully functioning woman, physically, mentally, emotionally, ect ect. I make my own decisions as a grown adult. I need no one to tell me what to do or how to live. (This being directed to the last few posters) No, past does not and should not matter in a newly developed relationship. I would just not be comfortable looking into a man's eyes and saying, "Oh just to let you know, I need to be tested because I slept with about fifty guys this past month. I hope you don't mind.." Yes, I am religious, yet I am a bit rebellious to a few things. With life comes learning and what I have learned is that if a man is not willing to wait for the one he "loves" the relationship will never last. That's from personal experience. I did not say that I would never again have sex, I just said I would prefer to wait until marriage. I want to wait.. My heart and mind may change with the course of a relationship. I do own my feelings, my beliefs and will not allow anyone to make me change my choices. I am willing to wait and if it takes until I'm 90 years old, so be it but at least it was worth waiting for. I agree with the poster that said I am old fashioned..I also agree with another poster that said this should be called Plenty of Fertility

Joined: 4/23/2009

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I Must Be Strange... Posted: 5/14/2009 5:53:04 AM
O.K. ..Wow, thanks for all the responses everyone. I didn't have to cut off the relation with this guy because well, he said that the people in Maine were "beneath him". When I said that was insulting, he said there was no more to discuss and I haven't heard anything from him since. However, I was going to break it off with him in either case so that worked well for me. This whole sex before marriage issue. I know that many people these days sees things differently. I just wanted to respond to a few things I've seen from responders. 1) How do you know if the sex will suck or not? I saw that question on here... while I was in my twenties and dating stage. I had sex. DUH it's how I became a single mom. I didn't hear any complaints of performance. I actually don't know how you could suck (not b.j.) during performance. In fact, I've never had complaints about a man's functioning either. (unless it was the one night, thanks a bunch you'll never hear from me again kind of guy) 2) I am quite happy with my sexuality. I have no sexuality issues. I just do not wish to be used or abused in said manner. I am looking out for my peace of mind. I want to know there's commitment before I go jumping into a bed with someone. I refuse to be someone's sexual toy. I was not made in Hong Kong. 3) The area I live in is very French. A great deal of history in this part of the United States. I do not speak French. It isn't that I have not tried to learn. I could go into Canada, I am a duel citizen but I have no passport at the moment and the new law they came up with prevents me from entering Canada. Or let's say I can go in but I can't get back home. 4) Yes, I can and have joined Christian single sites. However, I do not see the sanity of having to pay fees to meet other "Christians." I have found out that people can be whoever they want to be on the internet. I prefer to be myself; mocked or not for what I believe. Many of the people on the so called Christian sites are no better than the ones on this sort of site. You can call yourself a Christian but do you actually live like one. I am not perfect, but I try to live like one. 5) My son was born, as I have stated in my OP...out of wedlock and my eyes were opened to how men (not all men so don't get too upset) behave. Just because I have sex with you doesn't mean that you are going to stick with me, does it? I do have a question...do you really want to have sex with someone that's been...with twenty, thirty or more people??? Just to see if you're sexually compatible? I am sorry but wow...

Joined: 4/23/2009

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I Must Be Strange... Posted: 5/13/2009 2:17:40 PM
I have noticed how times have changed so much. I'm 32, I live in a small town so our selection is sort of...limited. Which is why I am on the internet. Ok, so here is my problem... I met someone on here..we get together......we connected to some degree...but then he started the whole sex conversation. I don't want to have sex before I am married. It's not happening. I kept telling him this. He kept touching me, hinting about wanting sex in our conversations, sending me sex jokes, ect. ect.. Am I an alien? Do I not belong on this planet because I have already had sex before I got married..I have a son and I would not trade him in for anything in this world. I am so happy I have my son but since his dad has been out of the picture...because sexually transmitted diseases are running wild in the world and because I love having morals, values...does this make me so bad? So far, the only men that have sent me messages, (with the exclusion of one person..) are the ones that are looking for a booty call.. When sex is the only subject in a conversation, it upsets me a bit. Granted, I am not a virgin but it is because of everything I have been through that has made me switch my chain of thinking. I have learned the hard way. Sex is wonderful, enjoyable and sure, I miss it but I am not willing to put all I have learned, all that I wish to learn on the line.. I guess I am just looking for feedback...am I the only one that feels this way????

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