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Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

Msg: 60 (view)

Did you expect to be single this late in life? Posted: 8/12/2009 5:57:58 PM
Did I expect to be single at this stage in life? Expect it? I've worked very hard at staying single this long. Not everyone is meant to be married. So was I expecting it - I've been praying to remain single since I was 18. Why is being single and happy such a difficult concept to grasp?

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Question about marriage. Posted: 8/2/2009 3:02:56 PM
Well, I was kind of with you until you began to bring up the 'blood line' talk and such. Right, Americans are Heinz 57 mix of people and cultures, but blending cultures has gone on ever since we came down from the trees: cultures blend and new ones arise. But the 'Bloodline' talk smacks somewhat of 'White Supremacy'. But I'll give you the benefit of the doubt on that one, forumnite.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 7/27/2009 12:59:10 PM
No, Naw, Oh HELL Naw, Not gonna do it, Nyet, Nope, Get lost, Take a hike, Go find yourself and then get lost, blrrrrt!, You've GOT to be kidding, Hold your breath, F*** you mate, So where do you want your things thrown out? ...and the horse you rode in on!!!

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Does a pet sense true character? Posted: 7/27/2009 12:14:50 PM
I can't say that my cats can sense a persons absolute character or not, but there are definitely people who come in that they can't get enough of, and those who get attacked. So I watch them closely, observing their (the cats) behaviour. That behaviour gets factored in pretty heavily. They really hated the woman who ended up being my stalker for a couple of years, so yeah - I believe in them.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 7/24/2009 8:31:03 PM
Sure. She was a very talented artist in oils and a great photographer. She was a little older than myself but I can say that I loved her. She was a very special person. I think of her fondly and wish her all the best.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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I don't think anyone has enjoyed the 69 position since 1969. Posted: 7/24/2009 12:02:17 PM
Never watched this 'Sex and the City' thing, and don't quite get it's connection to the topic, but I know very well what I like, and I like to 69 and any variation on it. I'm afraid that it's one of those prerequisite things for me - I gots ta have it. On top or on the bottom, it's all good to me.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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strap ons Posted: 7/24/2009 11:54:37 AM
It's amazing that there are so many men here who live for the Big O, and yet have no idea how to help make it like Orgasm to the 5th power. Some of these men are going to love their first prostrate exam. Nevertheless, I'll step up and say that I've had girlfriends n the past who where all about anal play and the strap-on. Gotta say that it woke the neighbors and took the house off the foundations, but it a awesome and I'd do it again in a second. The odd thing is I'm still attracted to women and not a bunch of hairy legged men. I guess that whole 'Gay Conversion' didn't take. Just one man's opinion.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Is she crazy or am I reading more into it? Posted: 7/24/2009 11:29:25 AM
What if you find out that she's your one and only SOULMATE!?!? I don't necessarily believe in this 'one true love' nonsense, but if I did I would at least expect that that ONE person would not be a lunatic.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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The Y chromozone is dissapearing = homosexuality Posted: 7/20/2009 2:37:45 PM
I just take a look around the boards and find too many homophobes with internet access. But let me check the "Enquirer Source agogo" boards for the latest on that. 'scienceagogo?' Dude....

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Do Men Really Want Honesty? Posted: 7/17/2009 10:36:58 AM
Someone up there said "be honest in a kind, tactful way". That means lying you ass off. If you don't have the curse of being honest like me. Lie Okay, I wrote that line. I know what it means without people trying to put words in my mouth about it. All it means is that, and apparently speaking strictly for me, is that just because you have the power to bludgeon another person into a wailing heap, that doesn't mean that you should. Everyone here whines about Drama, Drama, Drama, and if you follow the interpretations of others over that line, then you are creating your own little circle of drama - and welcome to it. When did social interaction turn into a 'screw the other guy against the wall if they show a perceived weakness?' If everyone wants to take that simple line about being nicer to one another, then have it - the original meaning will still be where it's important and true. Still, in all humility, this man wants honesty, whether I agree with it or not. My emotions are not so infantile that I'll loose anything important over it.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Women Don't Always Cum Posted: 7/16/2009 8:45:52 PM
You know - many women can't reach an orgasm for many reasons - physiological and psychological. The dedication to a woman's orgasm is to be congratulated, but in the aforementioned situations, no amount of trying is going to do the job. That's not to blame anyone - it's just a fact of nature.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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How many is too many? Posted: 7/16/2009 8:40:44 PM
Over 10 is disgusting? Since it's all relative anyway, everyone is entitled to their opinion. But then I never did put much into the archaic Judeo-Christian regulations that try to govern whether I use my body as a carnival ride or not. Numbers are just numbers - nothing more, nothing less, and they don't carry a moral judgment with them.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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How many is too many? Posted: 7/16/2009 11:04:54 AM
Interesting question. I've been a stage musician since age 17 I suppose some 30+ years. But I tend to go with military adage of 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell.' But for the young lady who worried about knowing her lover had been with many partners and might not measure up, I understand your point, but just for myself, I'm in the moment and am not grading anyone. It's like the old interview George Burns did with Playboy: He was asked about sex and what was the worst sex he had ever had. He went on to describe it in some detail. The interviewer asked him how it was, and George answered 'Great!' It's all relative.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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What Do I believe? Posted: 7/16/2009 10:38:54 AM
You have to ask the question? Screw the ultimatum and walk. There may not be concrete evidence there, but there's plenty of circumstantial that adds up nicely. Walk.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Do Men Really Want Honesty? Posted: 7/16/2009 10:32:45 AM
Of course I want honesty - it's a prerequisite with me. Being blunt is acceptable as long as it's tempered with some degree of decorum. It's not a license to bludgeon another person with the truth. With truth comes great responsibility, one of which is to not knowingly use it to inflict harm on another. It's just bad form.... Hurting someone just for the sake of hurting them is inexcusable.

Rogue Saint

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She tells you she's bi-sexual Posted: 7/16/2009 10:25:58 AM
I've always had friends who were Gay - men and women alike. What they do at home is none of my concern. But I've dated women who were bi and I've not had any problems with it. If she wanted to be with another woman on a particular evening, I've no problem with that - it IS a problem if she wants a 3-way with a man and a woman however. But if she wants to go out with a girlfriend, great - just let me know about it before hand, and will you be home by daylight, and what do you want for breakfast. That she might leave me for someone else can be said of any relationship. What can I say - It's just not something that's going to measure very high on the Richter scale for me....

Rogue Saint

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Just For Fun - Top 3 What Not To Do On A 1st Date Posted: 7/15/2009 8:50:56 PM
#1. Taking calls from her friends during dinner. AND insist I talk to one of her drunk male friends as he threatens to 'mess me up' if I'm not good to her. #2. Being rude to the second power to the waiter/waitress and not wanting me to leave a tip. (Hey, my mom raised us on a waitress gig - be VERY nice to them - they handle your food you know) #3. In a loud voice proceed to tell Racist jokes about everyone who isn't a Republican WASP. I REALLY wanted out of that date long before the evening was over, but with a date comes the social obligation to be as much a gentleman as possible. When the night is over, it's over. But that's just the way I see things.

Rogue Saint

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sympathy sex: begging a chic for sex even though you know she doesn't like you Posted: 7/15/2009 1:27:24 PM
You're sure EVERYBODY has done it before? Not so fast these little buddy and speak for yourself. I could never get so desperate as to debase myself for a sympathy fu*k. That would diminish a man or woman in so many ways that even the Europeans with their tiny little metric numbers could count. I'll be keeping my dignity, thanks just the same.

Rogue Saint

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Cowboy hats and boots....any thoughts people? Posted: 7/15/2009 1:19:32 PM
1995 called - they want their look back....

Rogue Saint

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Anal Sex...he wants it, but I'm scared to try Posted: 7/13/2009 11:24:25 AM
And remember: If it hurts, you're doing it wrong

Rogue Saint

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Love my kids more than anything else..... Posted: 7/4/2009 3:03:36 PM
Just remember folks with children; one day it will be your children who pick out the nursing home they are going to stick you in so you won't interfere with their dating life and relationships. Oh, and children are NOT excuses. Someone wanted them, they had them to satisfy whatever urge needed to be satisfied, and they didn't ask to be here. And once they are here they are a fact of life - NOT an excuse - deal with the reality of your surroundings. I swear, some of the guys (not all of them, mind you) remind me of animals who want to get rid of a females cubs so she will come into estrus sooner.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 7/3/2009 10:42:59 PM
Condoms - since 1972. I've no issue's with buying my own, and do it gladly.

Rogue Saint

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Love my kids more than anything else..... Posted: 7/3/2009 10:39:15 PM
If a woman with children doesn't put her children first, then I'm not going to be interested in her at all. Yep, you are right that the children may be jealous and not like you, but guess what - they are children and anytime their 'security' is threatened then they will respond that way. You want to be involved with a woman who puts her children first - then be a man, try to understand the children from their point of view, and get over your insecurity. Other than that, your going to have to exclusively date women without children. But one last thing and this doesn't really apply to you per se, but why are so many men threatened by a woman's children? What kind of insecurities do they have?

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships.... Posted: 7/3/2009 10:28:50 PM
I can't believe some of the guys here. 'See a therapist' ' Anything excuse to rationalize rude behaviour'? It's no wonder some of you men have been divorced 2 or 3 times with such draconian notions as this. PMS is NOT imaginary, it doesn't just exist as an excuse to bash men as some seem to think. This is some very real and serious stuff here. One girlfriend of mine had to have surgery for this twice, and still the intense pain and other ailments never went away. As one woman stated earlier, yes, for some women sex does help ease the symptoms of PMS. Where did some of these people get the idea that relationships were all cake? You take the woman - to take ALL that comes with her. You can bash at me all day long if you like, but I do understand this problem more than most men. At least I've bothered to understand the women that I've cared for and what is happening to them. So bash away, say I'm just trying to garner favor from the women here, but I'll know different and that's all good with me.

Rogue Saint

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Love my kids more than anything else..... Posted: 7/3/2009 10:08:24 PM
A potential suitor comes further down the list and rightfully so. If you feel that you would be or are competing for the affection of the mother, perhaps you should rethink the whole 'should I be dating at all' thing.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 7/3/2009 9:57:31 PM
The Rhythm Method? Pulling out? Wow, that takes me back to high school. Of course people who rely on the Rhythm Method are called 'Parents' in the end. But bloody hell! We pay for condoms and die 10 years before women - what more do you want from us!?!

Rogue Saint

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Texting before talking on the phone. Posted: 7/3/2009 9:42:04 PM
I like to take the straightest line possible between two points. Texting and IM might be fine for some - I just think it's a way to never get invested in actually knowing a person, but that's just me and I don't claim to have the market cornered on 21st century dating. It just seems that the texting and IM BS is akin to passing notes in the 7th grade. I can't be bothered with all that extra drama.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Texting before talking on the phone. Posted: 7/3/2009 2:59:14 PM
All men DO NOT have a natural phobia about talking on the telephone. And who are these that ARE afraid of telephones? I LOVE the phone - I give great phone. Emails are okay for a short while if that's what the woman wants, but I don't text (I can't even type!) so I'm sticking with my love affair with the telephone. I gave up things like 'Caller ID' years ago. I sorta like the little surprise when I pick up and say 'hello?'

Rogue Saint

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Socializing with people of opposite sex when in a relationship Posted: 7/3/2009 2:50:37 PM
Who says that a man and woman cannot be friends? I have female friends from when I was 12 (you know, back in the Pleistocene Era). Male friends, female friends, people I've known forever and have been a good support system when needed. I always assume that a woman I'm getting involved with has male friends. I wouldn't presume to ask her to give up her friends and I expect the same courtesy in return. Besides, it works out great for me if she has male friends - that way I don't have to go to sporting events, Nascar, or the Champions of Competitive Eating Contest. Feh!

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Astrology Posted: 7/3/2009 2:40:10 PM
Don't believe in Church, don't give credence to astrology either. I'M responsible for how my life turns out and what my day will be like.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Do Straight Males Need/Enjoy Having Their Prostate Stimulated? Posted: 7/2/2009 8:06:38 PM
What can I tell you - I'm straight, if she goes for the prostate I'm going to bust a testicle! It takes a standard issue orgasm and amps it up to 220! And for the homophobes who feel that there has to have been 'something' there before, don't project your insecurity on those of us who are comfortable with who we are. Nothin' but love for ya!

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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but WHY do guys love it when a girl swallows? Posted: 7/2/2009 8:00:30 PM
Well this is interesting enough. I thought the whole 'don't cum in my mouth' thing was a high school thing. Seriously, I've not been with a woman who didn't swallow, or at the very least keep it going until I was done. Spit or swallow I don't care - just don't stop until I'm through. That's like saying 'I got mine, you go get yours.'

Rogue Saint

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Justifying Cheating? Posted: 7/1/2009 9:21:58 PM
I'm all about therapy versus the easy way out. No justification to cheat - I've been on the downhill side of that and it hurts like hell. People do try to rationalize and justify such selfish behaviors, but again I have to refer back to the initial promise/contract about being faithful, forsaking all others, sickness and health and all that. It's sad how quickly those words loose all meaning in a society that has little, if any, notion of delayed gratification, when instant gratification is so much easier. But thinking it's okay to cheat because a spouse or partner cheated is just pathetic and sad.

Rogue Saint

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PMS apparently holds a hand in my relationships.... Posted: 7/1/2009 9:06:22 PM
I was in a LTR with a woman with the same problem. We were even engaged and we stuck in out for 3 years. I genuinely felt bad for her. As the only male growing up in an estrogen dominated household, it was nothing new or scary of confusing to me. Oh I could be as supportive as humanly possible, but there where times when the best thing to do (we agreed) was for me to go to my house for the night. It took TONS of communication to work out, but we did. The end of the relationship, oddly enough, had nothing to do with her going predatory 5 days a month.

Rogue Saint

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Justifying Cheating? Posted: 7/1/2009 8:47:55 PM
Gotta say no on the cheating here. Isn't there something at the beginning about 'sickness and health, good times and bad, forsaking all others?' And it crawls up my ass that people try to rationalize things with money - I'll loose this and we'll loose that. Tough - suck it up and if there is such a problem - better get to communicating fast. Sure, divorce and cheating are the easy ways to compound a bad situation, but they're for sissies. But that seems to be the way of things now - can't get off - cheat.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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There was another music death last Thursday. Posted: 7/1/2009 8:18:52 PM
Damn, I hadn't heard that until just now. I used to love to do covers of "Pushing to Hard" in many of my bands. Damn shame that he didn't get the recognition that many lesser bands got - he deserved better.

Rogue Saint

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are there still cd buyers out there Posted: 7/1/2009 8:14:29 PM
I've been a musician most of my life, and I've worked in the business of music at the label end of things to the Sam Goody store on the corner. I buy CD's on occasion, but I download just as much. As a musician I've had my music downloaded because I put it out there for that reason. At $15 -$16 per cd these days from a retail outlet, you're being sooo ripped off and gouged. In 1988 when cd's were packaged in those large cardboard long boxes, it added an additional $1.50 or more to the total cost of the disc. When they did away with those boxes and went to the jewel box, you'd think that the savings might get passed on to the consumer - the ones who support the bands and keep the retailers and labels afloat, but no - it just boosted the profits of everyone but the bands. Now they have us buying the cheesy little cardboard jewel boxes - even cheaper, but the savings go to the labels and the few retailers left. I'm all for free enterprise, but the practices of some of the labels (Sony) border on tyrannical. And to be completely honest, I don't care if Lars Ulrich get's to buy a new $250,000 car or not because I bought the new cd at a used cd store or that I copied on from a friend. I gags me to have to buy a cd, but I still do it from time to time when I want to actually see something tangible for my money. But that's just me.

Rogue Saint

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Casual blowjobs Posted: 6/30/2009 1:49:58 PM
No such thing as casual fellatio? For those who question the validity of casual blow jobs, you need only learn to play an instrument and get onstage. Looked mighty casual from where I was standing.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Celebrity one-nighter Posted: 6/28/2009 12:15:01 PM
Not a problem: Cate Blanchett AND Halle Berrie (or how the hell ever you spell her last name).

Rogue Saint

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Worst dressed & Best dressed First Dates! Posted: 6/28/2009 12:10:11 PM
First REAL date, as opposed to a coffee date: It can take me over 90 minutes to get ready to walk out the door. But the bath involved water and soap, the teeth are brushed, and the hair has product and brushed. Cool weather I wear boutique jeans, the shoes are clean and polished, and the socks are clean, no holes, and they match. A nice shirt (button up) and a real leather or velvet jacket. I am a 'Tie Free Zone" so there may be a good scarf draped around the neck - no jewelry, no cologne. I feel at my best that way, so if the date were to sour - I'm still feeling good.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Name Calling... Posted: 6/28/2009 11:15:35 AM
It's just not that big of a deal. It happens, so gather up your security get on with business.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Long vs short hair Posted: 6/28/2009 11:12:34 AM
Gwendolyn2009 is VERY right - long hair on bare skin is a delight to be savored. This woman knows her hair....

Rogue Saint

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Long vs short hair Posted: 6/28/2009 10:41:17 AM
Really, I don't care if the hair is long, short, or recently shaved - I'm not about the packaging so much as I am about what's UNDER the hair. But long or short, I do like running my fingers through it. Even a shaved head is sensuous. Just softly tracing the contours of the head is a turn on for me.

Rogue Saint

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Beating the heat at our age Posted: 6/25/2009 5:21:53 PM
Here in the South it's been in the high 90's for the last few weeks. With the white hair comes the fair skin along with it. How do I beat the heat? I stay in and work on a painting, or work in the recording studio - iced tea is a 'must have.'

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Does chemistry happen immediately? Posted: 6/25/2009 4:59:33 PM
thecatsmeoww - very well said - in fact, I believe you said it better by add the touch of personal knowledge. What a great thread this is....

Rogue Saint

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Does chemistry happen immediately? Posted: 6/25/2009 1:15:04 PM
Agreed. Immediate sexual attraction, or lust, is a fleeting thing and can be dismissed. I never trust relationships that start out that way. Things that begin spontaneously too often end that way.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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If s/he has never been married that's a major red flag Posted: 6/25/2009 10:25:54 AM
Why is it that men who choose to not marry, or chose to wait for the right woman get labeled as headcases? I think there's something tragic and sad about people who seem to marry for the sport of it. The red flag for me is too many failed marriages - 2 is my limit. 3 or more and I have to question their decision making processes.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Does chemistry happen immediately? Posted: 6/25/2009 10:19:39 AM
I believe that great relationships are made -- they don't just happen in the blink of an eye, regardless of what Dr. Phil and his Hillbilly Good Ole Boy pop psychology says. And, the reality is that they take a lot of work to keep them stimulating and fulfilling. They key ingredients are friendship, acceptance, honesty, trust, loyalty, and respect. Relationships are not about competition.

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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When someone points out that you're old.. Posted: 6/25/2009 10:13:11 AM
Being old isn't a problem, although it did startle me the day I opened my mailbox and had literature from AARP. No, I just have a hard time believing I was ever so young as to be so vapid and one dimensional. Granted, it seems like it was just a few weeks ago that I was bouncing across a stage somewhere and screaming my head off. But all things considered, I'd rather be 51 than 19 again any day. Way too much drama and angst to be a teenager again. Feh!

Rogue Saint

Joined: 4/26/2009

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Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men? Posted: 6/25/2009 9:39:48 AM
People should be free to explore their...'humanity' if you will, without fear of judgment and reprisal. But of course I will add the caveat that 'as long as it doesn't harm another.' I think that should fall to everyone. But you're correct - you picks your theory and makes your choice.

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