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jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Being added as a Favorite...?? Posted: 9/1/2008 12:35:44 PM
Playing favorites: because you add them as a fav. (like most here) you can check back a few times to make sure and prepare to make that first impression. BUT: They get a message saying some one has added them as a favorite. Now they have the chance to check you out. If they don't want you to make contact, they can pull themselves off your list. For me its a good way to find out who the players are. If I see a profile and she has 900 guys who have added her as favorite I know not to bother. What we really need is a way to flag profiles to not ever return on a search.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 10/23/2007 4:34:52 PM
here is the flyer to print for directions: http://a347.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/25/l_bc9881378a55a6080d897bbc67082d1a.jpg

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 10/22/2007 7:11:04 PM
Yes, rghtgrl4u2 we try, I hope you make it! We have a huge Pig Roast every year in July and the bands kept bugging me to do a Halloween show...So long story short.....12 bands and a saturday night in October!

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 10/22/2007 7:06:19 PM
Hey Seattle/Tacoma singles, time to get motivated: This saturday starting at 5pm we have live rock music all night long with (now) 12 bands. This being a Pot luck (bring a food dish of your choice) and a costume required party (Now we have the outstanding Pumpkin-palooza shirt for 12 bucks at the door so you can wear that rather then a costume) we should have one super fantastic time. Bring all your friends to the best party!! and get the shirt showing you know how to do it right! Direction and rules are located at www.myspace.com/oneshadowkeeper

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 10/14/2007 10:26:23 PM
We are in the greater Seattle/Tacoma area. Just up the hill from Sumner. Tonight we went and watched the battle of the bands at Hells Kitchen only to realize we have a better set up then they do.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 10/8/2007 6:23:43 PM
We have just found out that MTV will be attending to film the Xbox Boys new song 'Halo 3'.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 10/8/2007 6:21:12 PM
The address to the party is now posted at www.myspace.com/oneshadowkeeper We look forward to everyone having a wonderful time. Make sure you read the posts and rules so there will be no suprises.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Ok, how serious of a drug problem is marijuana??? Posted: 10/8/2007 1:09:22 AM
Back to the question: Yes, its deal breaker! I have no desire to be around anyone that reeks of the odor and has yellow teeth from the action and acts dumb as a post when doing it. I had a relationship that ended when she couldn't quit. She was 38 and hid it very well. For her it was a true addiction (she felt she couldn't function as well without it). Even if it were legal and sold in the liqueur store I wouldn't be hanging around anyone that foolish enough to use it.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 9/22/2007 10:28:28 AM
All direction will be posted on the web site listed one week before the event. It has now been confirmed that we have 10 bands. It has finally be authorized to state who our special guest are : The Xbox Boys you can watch their videos in two places www.thexboxboys.com and www.myspace.com/thexboxboys. If you want to rock all night this is the halloween party to be at.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Tacoma - Why we should party Posted: 9/17/2007 11:04:24 AM
I have a party event in Bonney lake for Halloween (yes that’s pierce county). Its called Pumpkin-Palooza or Rock pumpkin as other have called it. Right now we are up to six great rock bands playing at this free event........You just can't beat the price.....FREE. To get in on Oct. 27th just bring some food and a costume. Now isn't that Simple? My parties pull in several hundred so You have plenty of opportunity to meet some.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 9/17/2007 10:48:58 AM
The band 'Stack' has joined us for this free party. They play classic rock. Where else can you go to have a Halloween party with a lot of great bands? Its a free party as long as you bring a food dish and wear a costume. Simple!

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Pumpkin-Palooza Posted: 9/14/2007 5:44:51 PM
We are having a Pumpkin-Palooza this Oct. 27th in the Bonney Lake area. What is a Pumkin-palooza? Well its a huge Costume party and a Pot luck feast. You see, to get in the party you must wear a costume and bring a food dish of your choosing (No costume then its ten bucks....No food, then its ten bucks.) So to avoid the 20 dollars entry charge bring food and a costume. What do we provide? Well lets see....a place to party and Five kick ass bands! See I told you it was a Palooza! We will have a full bar for a one time charge of 5 dollars (maybe a little more for the cool glow in the dark or skull cups). Sorry kiddies we do ID checks (its the law). Why a costume party? Because everyone needs that story about the best costume party ever and yes we have it. We have a special performance by a band I'm not even allowed to mention their names due to contract talks so you know they are going to rock your world. Oh yea, this is an all age party so if you can't leave the kiddies at home bring them along. However I'm not responsible for the actions of the crazy costumes you might run across later in the evening. There will be voting for best costume and for best band so pay attention and get involved. We are always looking for more bands for this Palooza so if you know any that might want to get involved let me know. More information can be found on myspace site oneshadowkeeper. Or e-mail me here.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted Posted: 6/26/2007 1:42:13 PM
20 pages behind.......well it looks like I won't be talking to her as well as many other guys now. What we need is like other sites...once we don't get responses we are able to remove their profile from any further search. Nothing like writing the same person twice once they modify their profile and pictures and you think you are talking to some one new. I've gotten to the point I have to write down the names and reading it prior to trying to formulate a whole new e-mail of introduction. The sad part is the list is getting several pages deep.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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what do you think of meeting right away? Posted: 6/10/2007 9:59:40 PM
I too have issues with wanting to meet right away. Three times now I've gotten the..."Enough talk lets meet" speech. Sorry but I don't move that fast and I have a few questions that need to be answered long before I jump off the cliff into the unknown. Questions like: Am I wearing a parachute or is there a trampoline below? Or Did all your ex'es survive the gun shot wounds? It seems every time I do the unknown date rush.... I learn something on the date that just makes me want to run for the car. I'm sure this is a common experience that should be avoided. All it does is ruin what might have been something special if we knew more about each other prior. Items like (Example only): Your a war protester and I'm in uniform just back from Iraq....Kinda awkward to say the least.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Have you ever noticed... Posted: 6/3/2007 10:48:48 AM
Lets get back the original point: Women (Girls) in Seattle area love to chitchat and then drop you after weeks of conversation via e-mail. It’s so damn true. Seattle Rob...I feel your pain. This happens to me a lot. It happens to me even when they make first contact. And when the conversations lag almost to a stop I love the, 'Well I'm really busy' line.....translation: I'm already talking to someone else who has peaked my attention for now. In other words they have a bigger fish on the other line. In reverse to this, I've had a few that would also carry on long conversations but in the end would never want to meet. When I ask why they say, "I like our pen pal relationship." So now I get to be the one to say good bye since I'm not looking for a pen pal. All of it being told dude its better then all the 'read delete' you get. It become hard as hell to create a attention grabbing message knowing more then likely it will be UNread and deleted.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Are there any WA Ladies without kids??? Posted: 6/3/2007 10:09:00 AM
I found a few women out there without children, but I have to add it wasn't by choice. Medical issues or emotional ones eliminated the possibilities. If I was in my 20’s and looking to start a relationship fresh, then I would go back down to southern California or Phoenix to find the women who are not only attractive but more energetic and open to doing fun things. Most of the younger women there are in better shape and happier attitudes. Don't be surprised if you get asked out more often then you doing the asking. Seattle is just not a good city for singles to hook up but it is a good city for existing couples. I’ve known a lot of women who moved here with children from other states. Saying this is the single mothers capital is (in my opinion) correct. Now I just love the concept of saying: Women here are more ‘independent’. This is incorrect. The only way this would be correct is if the woman did not receive child support, welfare or any other support other then her own earned income. Since this is generally not the case then this concept of independence just means the woman wants to hold position of control on any and all situations. Being single mothers force women into a position of control and authority over their children. The problem is, this control spills out to every day life even out side the home. The hard part is for a woman to release that control to anyone else. Most feel they shouldn’t have too.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Figure it out. Posted: 5/10/2007 12:15:13 PM
Common sense...its not as common as I thought judging by the comments. However over time you have three factors that will change your belief system. 1) Emotional events 2) Education or loss there of 3) Time Each one causes our bodies to modify and thus our concepts. Very few of us still believe in half of what we did 20 years ago. You can be as picky and choosy as you want to be, but you have to remember others are also dong the same to you. What you might find right, they find wrong. As one person put it....settling is 'compromise' and that IS the best we can ever hope for with dealing with ever changing people. I love the connotation "Independent". If you can find some one who is truly independent I'd love to meet them. Non of us who live in a society are independent. We all rely on someone else for something. The same concept goes for relationships, the match your hunting has something you are looking for or desire that can not be accomplished alone. Other wise there would be no point in having a relationship. All that we desire is based on Need or Want at the time we find it important.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Hanging out with more than one person Posted: 5/7/2007 12:02:23 PM
When I want to hang out with a gal and when I get there she wants to hang out with others I either have to accept those people or leave. Most of the time I leave. I see it like this....If we agreed to meet and do something and then she invites other to go along before asking me, I feel that her action are rude. It was my choice to come spend time with her and that was negated and over ruled, in other words she has no respect for me. It’s a quick way for me to not want to come hang out at all.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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How important are looks? Posted: 4/30/2007 11:30:35 AM
Lets face it. When a guy looks at your profile he first looks at the pictures then he might read the rest. weight can be an issue. If you're heavy now he can just assume you will be heavier when you get older and less active. If you are happy with who you are then you have to accept who is willing to accept you. Each man is different and has different values.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt? Posted: 4/30/2007 11:17:50 AM
Oh gads, What the heck are you guys calling a lasting relationship? 5 years? With a divorce rate over 50% with people there own age range, do you really think some one ten years older/younger is going to last? It’s all about maturity and there is rarely a true balance when the age is so drastically different. Here’s my advice..........enjoy it while it lasts it’s the best anyone can do.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Why don't men like talking about their feelings? Is it because... Posted: 4/30/2007 1:39:57 AM
Why don't guys talk about their feelings? We do but we don't just talk about why we feel the way we feel. We talk to find answers in how to solve the situation so those feelings go away or remain for longer duration. Give any guy a sob story and he will find a way to resolve the tears. He will think about it and find ways to fix things and if he can't he will ask other men the question that will lead him to the fix. Most men just don't talk to be talking about talking, to us it never solves anything.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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dog in bed Posted: 4/30/2007 1:26:48 AM
Do you sleep in a dog bed? If you do I see the guy has no choice. I guess the question should be: Whats more important to you, the Dog or your guy? I personally hate anything sleeping on my legs when I try to sleep myself.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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URGENT- sex + respect? Posted: 4/30/2007 1:17:15 AM
They (all the poster) are right that the two, sex and respect are separate. But the answer your are looking for is 3 dates. After the third one the guy is wondering if the effort is worth the prize. Some guys are willing to tow the line as long as it’s required. But fools are abundant and its why so many get used or feel they have been played. I believe if your not interested in having sex after the third date then there is something wrong with the attraction and its better to cut losses and move on. You have to remember you are pleasing yourself as well as the other.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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not over his ex? Posted: 4/23/2007 1:41:03 PM
What are some of the signs that a guy might not be over his ex? 1) When he calls out her name during sex. 2) When he tells you things like, "Wait you used to love sugar in the tea" and you never have and you know his ex did. 3) He still has a picture of her some place close. 4) He gets 20 IM from her a day because they are still 'so called' friends. 5) He start asking you to dress differently and do your hair in a different style. oh the list goes on and on and on................

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Do guys know what honesty is? Posted: 4/23/2007 1:32:12 PM
dawn114 I'm glad you decided to be a guy for a while here on "Ask a Guy" because I agree with you. To the OP: However I have to defend this dude, How often do we guys get the chance to date two women at the same time? The fact he actually told you he was seeing some one else was a pure shot of Honesty! Now you had the choice to see him or not. You did not walk into the unknown!

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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He has a female pic in his truck....?? Posted: 4/23/2007 1:18:43 PM
Pictures of friends and past relationships belong in a photo album or storage area for photo's. Having pictures of ex's in the car/truck is just a sign of his needing to move on with your shoe in his back side.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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How do you guys do it?? Posted: 4/23/2007 1:13:55 PM
I have to chime in here because this is a BIG issue: I hate the READ DELETE women. Its why most of us men here on FISH stop trying to make contact. Its that simple! As the others have said, "If a woman sends out an e-mail its about a 90% chance the guy will respond." With odds like that why are women waiting to send e-mail? I just don't get it. Do you women think men handle rejection better then themselves? Come on....When you are a bridge troll like myself its hard enough to reach out and then get slapped down time and time again but it really hurts when we spend time creating a real e-mail only to have it deleted. Then there is the killer.....UNREAD/DELETE This should be instant removal from the site. And you wonder why men do mass mailings looking for that one out of a hundred responder.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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New Winks and Points. Posted: 4/17/2007 10:45:59 PM
Winks just haven't worked on other sites I can't see them working here. Women in my area will be hit with hundreds of winks and will not look at a single one. Yea, it’s a Seattle issue I know. I just don't understand why you pick the cheesy ideas and skip the good ones. Ideas like: If some one reads/unread and deletes your e-mail without a reply you can remove them from showing up on future searches. When you guys send me my auto matches, there they are in the mix.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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is this a way of feeling less guilty or is there truth to it Posted: 4/14/2007 12:49:40 AM
Oh that is so correct. The fall back set up. Most women have a fall back guy. They string a guy along just incase. Note: I said 'Most' not 'All'. I had this very conversation with my ex and she agreed that its true and had hoped I was going to be that person. We had history so it made it even easier for her to believe it possible. However she knew I don't play the game, so she had to go find some one else......and she did...it shock me how easy it was for her. Women hate to be alone for any length of time so they just make sure it's not going to happen. As for the OP its very common for the woman to already be gone before she actually leaves. You took care of her well enough she was able to take her time.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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read and delete [Closed Thread] Posted: 4/13/2007 8:58:16 PM
We need the ability to remove profiles from showing up on searches over and over. If I write and they read and delete without responding I would like to remove them from my search . Or I need a flag on the search that says I have already contacted this person and got no response. I don't like the idea of blocking anyone in case they decide to change their mind as I have experienced. Or as I like say, "Lowered their standards."

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Seattle times aritcle about Seattle dating life, can you relate? Posted: 4/9/2007 12:35:12 AM
Sir wattson is correct. I agree with him. However the article missed the entire point about the reasons for the Ice venture. Simply put.....competition. Women here do not want it. We have a ratio of men to women in there late 30 to 40 's that is second only to Alaska.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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ADD UP YOUR FINE!! Posted: 4/9/2007 12:15:21 AM
585 and a lot of those items are required and shouldn't even be on a list of fines.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Reporting And deleting Main images Posted: 4/8/2007 10:38:48 PM
People...People you are here advertising yourself. Not the dog or your photography skills. You are here to sell yourself to another.....nothing less. So do it right. If you were buying a car do you think a picture of the ash tray is all that should be posted? A profile without a picture is simply hiding something.....themselves! profile noun 1. an analysis (often in graphical form) representing the extent to which something exhibits various characteristics; "a biochemical profile of blood"; "a psychological profile of serial killers" 2. an outline of something (especially a human face as seen from one side) 3. biographical sketch 4. degree of exposure to public notice; "that candidate does not have sufficient visibility to win an election" [syn: visibility] 5. a vertical section of the Earth's crust showing the different horizons or layers

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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funny names.... Posted: 4/4/2007 11:56:38 PM
I went to school with: Nick Barfus Ima and her sister Yhura with the last name Hogg. Think they couldn't wait to get married.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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What We Say vs. What We Mean in our online personals Posted: 4/4/2007 11:52:39 PM
yes, I've seen these too but it still doesn't make them untrue.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Stretch Marks .... Posted: 3/27/2007 9:26:54 PM
I guess the question should be: To what degree? Are they huge and deep as if the skin was pealed back? or just light and barely noticable? Like most of these guys I've seen some marks that didn't bother me at all, but then I've seen some that I knew plastic surgey was a requirement in the near future. I can't say they are attractive but hey its package deal. But I do have to say this, "Having a child at your age? What the hell were you thinking? The 20's are the age to play and party not stand behind a diaper changing station."

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Stephen king? love him or hate him? Posted: 3/27/2007 9:04:12 PM
Ok I have to chime in here because I neither hate nor love his method However I understand his problem. He has the ability to start a scene and develop a story but he always falls short on the conclusion. The end never justifies the story build up. However he has gotten smart and has been teaming up with other authors as of late. This in turn has improved his books by allowing the other author to conclude his tales. Now there is a more balanced story. I wished he had done it sooner and many of the other stories could have been salvaged.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted Posted: 3/27/2007 10:48:10 AM
Oh here the proof, I read this on a profile two days ago and its the answer to all the questions. She wrote: I've also decided to be completely truthful. If you are ugly, don't e-mail me !! You don't stand a chance!! Chemistry contains mutal attraction. I'm tired of those ugly guys e-mailing me. I think " WHAT? Do you think I'm ugly or something." So please no ugly guys or older gents...I want to stay young...I don't want my daddy. ......................................................................................................................... This gal was 46 years old. Itjust goes to show us Bridge Trolls what to expect.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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girl, don't get your hopes up... Posted: 3/25/2007 10:41:18 AM
Wrong circle of friends............Thats all it is. I know many men who are great guys who would love to have a story book romance. But all they find are the caped women holding apples.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Ok lets hear them about guys! Posted: 3/25/2007 10:35:23 AM
Yoodle I'm going to use you as an example. I have nothing against you but I chuckled when I read your post so I had to reply. Yoodle said: I think guys can be viewing online dating much like they view shopping--get in, get what you want and get back out. Well, then. Is that a date? Wrong hairstyle, not a sure fire bed partner? Eeeewww. It is pretty lame to IM (period). For several weeks? I wouldn't waste my time. But maybe this is the new way to date. reply: You are right, this is exactly why we men have issues. Most of us older gentlemen know what we are looking for. We have been knocked around enough to figure out what didn't work. Going on and on for six months is a simple way of telling a man you want attention but provide nothing else in return, Yes I’ve been there and back. I wish to God dating could be like shopping. Look at the list of things I want, select the best match to my desires and take it home. If it’s broken I would return it for a refund or exchange. But is that a date? Yes! Dating is nothing but window shopping for the product up close. You can call it anything else that makes it fit better for your justification, but it doesn't change the fact we date to decide if some one is a fit for us. As for IM, well it’s a lie detector in away. Most people can't remember lies well enough when typing quickly in response. Oh sure if you have time to sit and write e-mails you have the time to recall the past statements and continue on the path. But IM is just a quick way to get down to the real person. Oh don't get me wrong a professional liar is always prepared, but most of us aren’t that good as I have learned using IM. Far too many times I learned things that couldn't be bent or slanted in a well-worded way. (country-western song) Thats my story and I'm sticking too it!

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Don't just read this, respond!! Posted: 3/25/2007 9:44:56 AM
responding as requested........Ummmmm Hello, HELLO? seems my tin can and string doesn't reach the border.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Cold Responce vs. Read/Deleted Posted: 3/23/2007 8:28:20 PM
I've seen both in my own case and I've had a full 'In' box too... but lets just face it. No reply is just their way of saying, "I'm too lazy to bother because I find your message/profile/pictures not worthy of my interest". I have gotten "unopened and deleted" messages but when I check the "who viewed me" there they are looking at the pictures. So By seeing that I know they were not the right person for me anyway. If they were that cheezy here on this site, how bad are they in real life? I sure don't have the desire to find out. I always resond even if its not the answer they are looking for chuckle I have even gotten back seething answers to my 'no thank you' and I posted one on my profile that says it all.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Would you cross the border to date? Posted: 3/23/2007 8:02:12 PM
But..............if she was willing to travel south it just might be a match.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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Would you cross the border to date? Posted: 3/23/2007 8:01:21 PM
I see a lot of profiles that catch my interest but I have to say I have no desire to deal with the border crossing these days. After putting back together a car that was randomly selected I have my severe doubts that the trip is worth the time on the side of the road in the rain with a sharpened tooth brush trying to reinstall Phillips head screws into the dash board, just so you can see to drive. However every day here in the city I see those white plates of northern dwellers visiting the south land. Seems it’s a different world and it depends on the direction you are trying to travel.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

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anyone ever met crazy/insane people off the internet? Posted: 12/25/2006 1:28:42 PM
Oh my yes and yes and yes and yes..........All listed are women I've meet off the internet. I've learned that all women have a crazy streak but I think I've found the ones that can even fold space with their minds. Oh I've learned the hard way that you have to ask a lot of question on line long before you ever date. Key question and then you ask them again days later in a different phrasing to see if the answer changes. the first one I traveled to Montana to meet and she was so nervous she recanted (after I asked a few question) to me how she cheated her ex-husband out of custody, child support and spousal support. I laughed and smiled and later ran away never to see her again but I did let her know via e-mail I was a single father. The second I learned was a drinker to extreme and always wanted to be in one bar/tavern or another. Have you ever met some one who can give you direction to any location by only naming off the bars on the way? Good indication to run. The third had more tattoos then the circus freak and I'm not even going to explain the steel rods. I hate when a picture is posted that is 10 years old. The fourth couldn't even get out of her house let alone into my car...nope... she was skinny. The fifth only wanted a baby. I must have heard that a 100 times. Begging and crying and then she was pregnant. I was fixed years prior so I gathered her family to celebrate. I announced I was leaving her that night and displayed my test results to the group that I had reconfirmed. The sixth was the worst of all, like a prior posted comment she too always had a need to go for drives and spend time out in the car alone. She would leave her daughter with me and be gone for hours. One day we looked out the window and saw her parked in front (we had parked at a neighbors and walked home to get something and looked out as we saw her car home at a odd time of the day) She was smoking and I didn't know she smoked but the pipe was glass and I guessed right away what it was. He daughter beside me too was shocked to see the actions. So we walked out the front door and knocked on the car door window and stared at her as she tried to hide things. Then the lies flowed and the hate insued and the insults raised. Over the next few months she punched holes through doors in the house. Smashed my items and even called the cops on me saying I was abusive to her and her daughter. Not once did the cops believe her and I had to ask her to leave with an actual eviction notice. The seventh was fun and out going and always on the go. Not all that attractive and far more kinky then myself but entertaining. but when she told me how she loved to send off the young boys (18) to the military with fond sexual memories. I knew I had to move on quickly. Some day I just might find that normal woman.....but I have my doubts

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Confused and alone for Christmas Posted: 12/25/2006 12:39:59 PM
Christmas is a time when people gather but we place way too much emphasis on it. I'm alone this Christmas and I sent the kids off yesterday to be with their mother. I have no relationship to speak of and even if I did I’m sure she would be off with her family. So spend the time being in 'YOU' mode. Do all the things you want to do that you never get around to because someone else always needed your attention. I finally get to watch those movies I bought months ago and I get to read that book that has gotten dusty after being half finished. I've gotten my tools out and fixed items that I thought I would never have time for. But now I need to say this one thing that all parents truly forget about or just plain have it wrong. You are number one. Not your child. Far too many times I read comments like, "My child is the most important thing in my life and I need a man to understand this." Yes, I've seen even the guys write this. These people have predetermined themselves to be alone. They have placed themselves in a subservient position to their children and tell all other matches they will be second class member of the family if they join. What I'm saying is: You did nothing wrong in sending your son to his father because you need to be first. Your relationship needs to be first for it to truly work. Far, far, flipin’ far too many times I’ve seen relationships fail when the joining adult party is not placed on top of the pile. It’s the number one reason second marriages fail. Nothing is more devastation in a family when a child says and believes, “I don’t have to listen to you, you are not my mother/father!” and the originating parent doesn’t grant equal ground and far worse allow the child to continue in the behavior because they are number one. As for your choice of type of man.....I can not fault him because I do not know him or the details of the situation. But If I have to guess I would say you picked the wrong man and breaking up might have been the correct choice. I’m not sure who said it but it’s so true, “Love is fickle and when you think you have it figured out, you learn you were wrong.”

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Going back to her ex for the sake of their daughter........ Posted: 10/30/2006 12:11:06 PM
The reality of the situation is hard because it involves emotions. But the simple answer is just this: She wants him more. You might be the better person and a better provider and an all around NICE guy. However...She would prefer the bad boy. She will never be able to explain it to you where you will understand, but its just something you will have to accept. Women may mature faster then men but it takes years and years for most to grow up or better yet, to grow Out of a mind set. Someday she might look for you again but by the time that happens you will become jaded if you tried to wait. I've seen it happen over and over and it’s not like the movies. I've yet to see a happy ending. You are here on Plenty of fish....use it to find someone who may appreciate you in the manner you deserve. Yes, its hard, Yes it stinks and yes, its just wrong but once again you are dealing with emotions. Oh yea one last thing….you didn’t do anything wrong. She asked for a family with you only to test you. She already knew your answer and was looking for a reason to leave. She had her mind made up long before she asked. A lot of women try to make themselves love someone else, they say the words as if to convince themselves as well as the partner. But words do not chance the heart. Sorry you had to learn the hardest way possible but know you are not alone.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Is this all Posted: 8/27/2006 1:22:16 PM
Actually the beer is fantastic in Montana now. Micro-brews are popping up all over the place. However it is still hard to top Oregon and Washington in pure volume of different brands.

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

Once a cheater, always a cheater Posted: 8/26/2006 10:25:08 PM
Warning: This is long winded but might answer some of the question. Reading these posts almost makes it seem we are blaming people….What am I saying?…We ARE blaming and rightly so! However I see the old statement hidden in the text…”Men are bad, just plain bad and can’t be trusted….Ever!” This I don’t agree with and I doubt I ever will. Why? Because I’m a man and I’ve never cheated. Oh don’t get me wrong, I feel your pain….Truly I do! I’ve been there in your shoes. Yes I have worn those shoes many times. Not once, not twice but seven times. Two were full blown marriages. I can honestly say that all my relationships up to this point have failed for one reason or another but the infidelity was the quickest track to termination of any type of union. I’ve lived thru it all and I’ve survived. I can’t say I enjoyed the time wasted but it has not yet deterred me from looking for the right woman. In my seven bad long-term relationships I’ve found simple facts that ring so true as to why cheating occurs: 1) If you are physically ugly or even just marginal the person you are with at one point will ask themselves if they could have done better and often make the attempt to find out. 2) Control: none established lines of agreed control with kids, money, religion, politics ect. These items will cause one or the other to be forced into a submissive position that is found disagreeable. I’ve learned the hard way a woman does not like to be told what to do even if she doesn’t know what she is doing and a man hates to be forced into responsibility when he feels it wasn’t given a choice. 3) Not true love: The concept of “I think I love you but I’m not sure yet”. Far too many relationships are built on this faulty foundation hoping the mortar hardens into solid rock but often ends up being mud in a rainstorm. 4) Children: His, hers and mine! Relations built on necessity or connivance. Or worse yet a relationship based on the children’s needs first. The phrase: My children are the most important things in the world to me. Faulty belief of setting yourself second or (in most second marriages) third. 5) Money: Want a better existence and feel they can find it on someone else’s dollar. ‘Gold diggers’ is the term and they will dump a relationship in a heartbeat for the step up. Often when they are told NO they run back to what they had and try to pretend their actions never existed. I love this one….”Once a cheater always a cheater!” In my opinion this is factual. I always sit down later once things have calmed down and have civil discussions as to the reasons for actions and I’ve learned it all comes down to the single conclusion. The thrill of instant full attention and the fear of being caught heightens the experience. My last exwife sat down and told me she was cheating on her current relationship just because he wasn’t all of what she wanted. Side note: I have listen to so many individuals who have cheated in the past, whine and cry about how they got cheated on. Nothing works better then winking and saying, “Karma baby!” Now the hard reply: The reason the other women didn’t listen to you is because they simply didn’t believe you to be the wife. I’ve had this very experience: I had a failed relationship and I called it off but the woman I had the relationship with refused to agree and wanted to continue her control. Now understand I had her move out and I refused to even talk to her for months but for around 10 months she continued to contact my friends, family and me on line on posting board like this one and other sites saying we were still together. I got banned from several sights when I supposedly posted nasty comments that flamed everyone. It didn’t take long for everyone to learn I’d been hacked. Then she got on those sights again and pretended to be someone else. It took three usernames to be banned before she got the message. What I’m saying is we all know one crazy woman who is only one step away and will go too far and blow the trust for all women. We all know that one evil conniving woman at work who will stab you to just watch you bleed. Right? Now this doesn’t cover everything and I know it. Hell I’m on here looking for the exceptions to what we call now as normal. Plenty of fish isn’t a bad place…it just has a few bad people

jetmech

Joined: 2/1/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Really, is it too much to ask? Posted: 8/12/2006 4:10:26 PM
If you have treated yourself like crap for years, do you really expect someone else to treat you any different? You can cry, wine and **** but that never solves a problem. Hell it rarely even makes you feel better.

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