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 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Two profiles on POF
Posted: 8/28/2011 2:00:03 PM
I don't text - period. So if he was unwilling to talk to me in the first place - he's gone !

If I got as far as you did , I think I would be tempted to drop his phone in the toilet - if he needed to take it with him each time. "ooops" !

And I SURE would not sleep with anyone , who is not going to talk to me on the phone a whole lot before, and whenever we both want to after !

Geez.
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Is it normal to not be sexually attracted to other races?
Posted: 8/21/2011 10:44:24 AM
Here, here Morgan !!

"As Morgan Freeman said..you want to stop racism..STOP talking about it."


Sexual preferences have nothing to do with being racist , or bigoted.

It's one thing to find a person sexually inviting or not, and quite another to think that because someone is different than you ( and that could be in any number of ways !), that they are somehow inferior , or there is something inherently wrong with them because they don't look or act the same as you !

So I can't answer if you're weird - but it sounds like you find certain people attractive sexually , same as we all do !

 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
my spider
Posted: 8/13/2011 6:32:16 PM
Well - looks like I'll have to jump in here , as I have two (yes ... 2) tarantulas , along with a few cats for the cuddle factor.

Since the time I was old enough to walk, I happen to have always been fond of ALL animals - along with most of the critters that make most folks want to stomp, swat, or spray. I know that's not everyone, and I also know that my choice of housemates is also not for everyone. And that's fine with me !

I met a big strapping "manly man" on here, a former military guy, and retired Police officer , who, upon finding out I had spiders , promptly discontinued contact, saying he'd never come in my house ! Ya just never know.

But then, I've also has some turn tail and run because I ride motorcycles, or have cats, or am a vegetarian , or am not a heavy duty Christian too. Can't please everyone - nor would I want to ! And yes - the choices we make will sometimes effect who will choose us - or not !

In the past , I've had several different snakes ( used to lecture with them at a local school - to the delight of the students !) , and an opossum (also used for education). And some of my work now involves wildlife education.

And by the way - I wasn't aware there is an age cut-off for having certain pets !?

Whoopee-e-e !
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Should people depend on the Instant click during a first meet?
Posted: 8/4/2011 4:11:12 PM
To me there is no "should" - as each and every meeting of one or more people is a whole new and unique experience. I'm continually fascinated by the variables in meeting new people, and I go into it intending to enjoy myself , and learn something about that new person. I try to have no preconceived notions.

I've also worked on developing more patience , as I've discovered that it often takes at least two meets to get a more accurate assessment of the "click factor". There have been times when at first glance I wasn't particularly attracted - but after talking awhile their personality made them more attractive - and vice-versa.

Because of the way the process usually goes - chances are good, that we all may have missed out on a good match at one time or another, simply because we weren't with them long enough to know. That's why relationships abound in the work place, or at school . The day-to-day exposure, under different circumstances , can cause someone to "grow on you" (sometimes like a fungus) !
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Rap Music
Posted: 7/28/2011 4:10:47 PM
There's alot of different rap out there. Some is nasty stuff , and some has great positive messages .

Closed minds only look at things that are different and judge them . Find those whose minds are flexible , and willing to learn !

 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Anyone in pof-land pulled this off?
Posted: 7/28/2011 4:07:04 PM
No - but I'll admit , in a couple profiles, I've thought of doing it. I don't really see it as a great idea to show other people in your profile photos - just for that reason. May distract the viewer ... too much !
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Possible to connect with opposing political views?
Posted: 7/28/2011 3:46:12 PM
You can always include a casual comment or two about your political leanings. Or , write abit first to someone , and make mention of something in the news perhaps, to see what his reaction might be.

Like any major differences between people though - many can be worked out if both partners are open minded, and tolerant enough to allow someone else their own feelings and beliefs . You can always agree to disagree .

Honestly , politics aside , I look for those traits anyway . A live and let live attitude. I don't wish to pair up with someone who is constantly at odds with those that are different from him - in whatever way. Life has enough challenges already !

Peace !
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
what to say.....
Posted: 7/28/2011 3:37:50 PM
I agree with many posters here , that some back and forth emails, and a little phone time can usually give you a real good idea of whether or not someone is ... uh ... verbally challenged !

If I don't feel communications are flowing and reciprocal, I'm not likely to want to do the face-to-face thing.

Though lately, it seems my issue has been the opposite - folks that run off with a subject , and I can barely get a word in edgewise ! The last one gave me all kinds of tiny details about people he dated , that I will never know or meet . Fascinating.

arrgh ...
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Moral dilemma!!! Opinions needed...
Posted: 7/25/2011 6:34:55 PM
We all make choices that can deeply effect our options. You and your wife have chosen the easier route. But that doesn't mean there will be too many single women out there willing to tolerate all the complications that come with dating you - nor should they have to !

This may be a case of NOT having your cake and eating it too !

You want different options ? Might have to tie up all your loose ends first .
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Do you ever see POF members in public?
Posted: 7/24/2011 4:50:04 PM
I was at a store in my neighborhood , and a man working there approached , and asked me if I was on POF. (he was nice looking too, but unfortunately he's a smoker - so no go)

Guess I look like my picture !
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 440 (view)
 
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 7/22/2011 1:00:22 PM
To stick to the original question : it'll stop being important to me when I'm dead !

But I'll add a caveat - since I don't really know what happens to us after we die ...

 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Would you let your boyfriend still chat online with other woman when he is dating you?
Posted: 7/17/2011 4:39:48 PM
Some folks are comfortable with the idea of dating more than one person at a time , and some definitely are NOT. So first you need to be on that same page.

I feel that if you meet someone on here , and it advances enough that you both decide to make it exclusive : that means NOT dating others, NOT trolling online anymore , and certainly NOT sleeping with anyone else .

Either you're willing to put some real effort into growing a connection - or you're not. Trick is, to find someone who has the same feelings about how to go about dating , and growing a real relationship - whatever they might be !

"Therein lies the rub" - Shakespeare
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
How does retirement affect fishing in the pond?
Posted: 5/24/2011 2:02:10 PM
I definitely relate to what rearguard says in message #2. So many men I'm in touch with here are miserably out of shape , and unable to participate in the kinds of activities I do regularly - the ones I'd like to be able to share.

And the resultant health issues speak loudly about one's self image, and how they're choosing to take care of themselves (or not!).

Thus - I tend to find more compatibilities with those that are physically capable - and often younger. I'm sure there's exceptions to this amongst men my age - but I'm not finding any ...

As far as finances go - I'm not looking to be supported - however , I don't want to support someone else either ! If finances are not under control by now , the future could look pretty dim .
 el lagarto
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
the new MEET ME [THEAD CLOSED! See Inside for where to add your thoughts!]
Posted: 10/15/2010 3:48:18 PM
I've received a few emails now , from people who supposedly want to meet me. My feeling is , if they wish to meet , why not write ? Just because they want to meet me - based on glancing at photos - doesn't mean I want to meet them.

It's difficult enough to have people really say something in their emails. Now with this shortcut - any sort of effort of civil greetings are bypassed.

I think most folks want to know something about people BEFORE they decide to meet !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
 
How Many Dominate Females are there?
Posted: 5/22/2010 8:23:24 AM
Probably more than you might imagine ...

I've been approached by a few hopeful, submissive males on here .

Wonder what they're seeing in my profile ?

Could they be right , yes or no ? heh-heh
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 114 (view)
 
Women with Harleys
Posted: 5/15/2010 7:24:55 AM
As a long time woman rider , gotta put my two cents in.

First, there are many other makes of bikes that women ( and men) ride, besides Harleys.

I've had just about all of 'em over time - including a Harley, along with all styles - cruisers and sportbikes. I love 'em all.

Some men love that I ride - some steer clear . Whatever , their choice (or loss).

I've dated ( and married) some who ride , and some who don't . I'm not an obsessive rider, and don't mind if my man doesn't ride - as long as he supports the fact that I do. I wouldn't be at all happy with periodic lectures on "how dangerous" riding is . LIFE is dangerous.

Seems like most people feel the same way. Their partner needn't do EVERYthing they do - but at least tolerate - or at best , cheer them on !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Having Kids Is Selfish
Posted: 5/13/2010 4:56:37 PM
I agree with some of what you say , as there certainly are folks having kids for all sorts of very dumb reasons.

I cringe when I watch some blurb on infertility , and the "agony" of the parents who cannot conceive. Damn ! There's millions of kids , of all ages, colors, shapes and sizes out there , that would LOVE to have a forever home. ADOPT one - or a few !

But no-o-o-o ! We don't want just any kid - we want to make a little duplicate of ourselves ! Too bad on all those other kids ...


As for this line that somebody on here wrote :
"You ever feel horny? That's you wanting to have a kid. "

I can assure that person that I have NEVER, EVER wanted a kid when I felt horny !!!
I wanted a man - ready and willing !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Biting off more than you could chew
Posted: 5/8/2010 8:29:58 AM
OOPs.

Nothing wrong with multi-contacts. But for everyone's sake it's a good idea to keep your facts straight !

Some will be fine knowing they're one of several - and some definitely won't like it at all !

I keep a pad by the computer , to write down names, #'s , and personal information , of those that I'm in contact with . I'd never trust my memory to all that stuff , and I feel I owe it to each person to help them know I'm paying attention !

Might want to develop a better system for yourself .
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Has anyone ever made their own dildo from a molding kit?
Posted: 5/7/2010 6:11:04 PM
Does this count ? When I was 11, I "borrowed" a sex manual from the home I was babysitting at ( I returned it later ), read the dimensions of an average erect penis , bought some paraffin to melt down , and made me a play weiner while my parents were out!

Then I used it on myself ! Pretty clever for an 11 yr old , dontcha think !?
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 54 (view)
 
sex and feelings
Posted: 5/7/2010 5:49:42 PM
I don't think detachment is exclusively male or female . There are some women and some men who cannot comfortably engage in sex without a real emotional attachment.

THEN - there are some of either gender that are quite comfortable just "doin'it" for the pure pleasure of it all .

I've found in my life, depending on what my life was doing at the time , I've been in both groups . Presently I have to at least like someone alot - and of course be attracted to them and feel comfortable and safe , in order to enjoy sex.

But for me , the ultimate has always been to be in a mutually loving relationship.

Hands down , the best !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Cancer hitting home?
Posted: 5/6/2010 3:57:18 PM
Wow - thank you for this thread !

And my heart goes out to all of you who have had to go through this very difficult challenge, and I rejoice for those that have recovered !

And to "the Kook" - I certainly respect your right to believe in whatever you wish - but - not only are your thoughts insensitive and not helpful to those suffering, I wonder how those beliefs will help, if YOU are faced with a serious illness ... let's hope they aren't tested.

Anyway - several months back - my very dear long time friend began having intermittent partial seizures . She was hospitalized and tested - nothing.
12 days ago ( on her and her husband's 17th wedding anniversary) , after yet more seizure activity , they found a very large , very aggressive , malignant ( after a biopsy) tumor in her brain .
I've been at the hospital often , offering support where needed. As of 5days ago - she has been non-responsive - and "sleeping" continuously . Seems the tumor continues to crowd the brain, and is squeezing it into oblivion. Thus, we may not get a chance to even say goodbye. Oh - how this hurts , and how I miss my vibrant , brilliant, raunchy, talented, funny , loving friend .
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Gay sex but claim to be straight?
Posted: 5/4/2010 7:05:21 PM
There are many people whose behaviors will defy any sort of categorizing . The very nature of sexual urges is often experimental and highly varied .

And ya know what ? Who cares ? And why ever do you care ?

Just so your own thing , and have fun !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Thumbnails in inbox
Posted: 4/30/2010 4:46:02 PM
I checked in earlier - and the photos were gone - back to normal - and I rejoiced. Then I came on again just now ( friday eve), and damn - they're back ! UGH !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Thumbnails in inbox
Posted: 4/30/2010 10:46:32 AM
I just checked in , and they're gone !!!
The powers that be have heard the masses !!!!
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Thumbnails in inbox
Posted: 4/27/2010 3:44:23 PM
Don't like this new feature at all ! Too much wasted space . Too much fuss to check the list. Make it go away ! Or at least give us an option for those that want this.
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
All the photos included in my mail list ...[CLOSED Thread]
Posted: 4/27/2010 8:16:23 AM
I'm not sure I like the photos being included in my incoming mail list . Now the page takes up way too much room . Plus , there are some folks I don't mind seeing , but others I'd rather NOT see every time I view my mail list !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
What are you looking for?
Posted: 4/26/2010 7:31:14 PM
I've both asked the question , and had it asked of me. I don't mind it at all . I'd rather know up front if we're even roughly on the same page. It can prevent a whole lot of wasted time !

Plus I like the idea that someone has actually THOUGHT about what it is they're looking for, and they're not just floundering along with no direction whatsoever...

I find the discussion especially appropriate if someone has not really given me much to go by in their profile.
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 76 (view)
 
I've been corresponding with a nice lady, BUT...
Posted: 4/21/2010 12:58:40 PM
Ah - if I had a dollar for each one who claimed to "really like my profile" and "have read it over and over" - I'd be filthy rich for certain !!

We all tend to see what we WANT to see .

Make sure she is clear on where you stand religion-wise. Could save a whole lot of wasted time and heartache .

OR - it may be a happy non-issue !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Not on the same level?
Posted: 4/20/2010 7:18:51 AM
"Overall showing of affection ...... she makes no attempt at holding hands, arm in arm, or even walking next to me. I'm not a needy person or selfish, but I enjoy and probably need the closeness 'factor' "

To me , this would be a big deal , as I thrive on physical closeness . It's one of the main reasons to be in a relationship to begin with , as far as I can see ! I love touching ! I could not stay with someone unwilling to share themselves in that way .

Have you discussed this disparity in affection levels ? Does she know you're feeling "lacking" in this department ?
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Ever misplaced THE RING
Posted: 4/17/2010 7:28:35 AM
No - but someone else did ... I was riding my bicycle one day , and found a man's wedding ring - quite beat up from traffic. I out an ad out - no one responded. Took it to a jeweler, and they bought it from me for a pretty penny !

Wonder what the story was that went with it ??
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
ho did i get voted the sexiest user?
Posted: 4/4/2010 10:43:05 AM
I think we all have it under our main photo . Not sure what they're trying to do - boost our egos ??
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
A Funny Thing Happened
Posted: 3/29/2010 12:34:27 PM
I think it's neat , and romantic , and fun ! Though I do agree about handing her the photo at a good moment - as opposed to putting with the flowers .

But hey ( to you party poopers ), of course you've changed , and there may not be any sparks at all . But you do share a history together , and at the very least you'll likely have a great time reminiscing !

A great time to both of you !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Why do guys expect intimacy so suddenly?
Posted: 3/29/2010 11:53:54 AM
I hear alot of victim-speak here . NO one can take advantage of you without your consent ! You need to grow a backbone, and tell these guys keep their hands to themselves and to respect you , or get lost !

It might help you greatly - especially in light of working alone in a convenience store - to take a women's self defense course . Most areas have them at community colleges, or Police stations etc. Ask

Not only will you learn valuable skills to protect yourself if need be, but it will help to boost your self esteem and overall attitude - which just may prevent guys from treating you disrepectfully in the first place !

It's human nature for people (not just men) to take advantage of a situation if the opportunity arises - don't let it !

 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Wedding jitters or is she a little crazy?
Posted: 3/26/2010 6:25:04 AM
Whoo-hoo ... after what you described , it doesn't sound like the two of you are able to communicate too well , and that there's all kinds of unfinished business on your lady's part - and maybe yours too , for that matter .

Getting married at this point sounds like a REALLY bad idea .
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 32 (view)
 
What does it's complicated mean?
Posted: 3/25/2010 5:37:19 PM
Depending on what someone is referring to - it's going to mean different things to different people !

And the details of the complications will be taken differently by different people as well!

What could be considered complicated to some , might be a walk in the park to another.

Just always be careful not to assume anything based on incomplete information .
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
3rd date
Posted: 3/24/2010 3:39:21 PM
Sounds good to me - I find it very sexy when a guy really knows his way around the kitchen !

But please - make a some extra so s few of us can stop by with take out containers !

Good luck !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Eager Reluctance... A First Date Story
Posted: 3/23/2010 2:15:30 PM
That sounds like a great date to me ! I have a "dark side" myself , and would have appreciated the undertones of the experience .

I had a unexpectedly pleasant date - though different from yours. Ended up being someone who was in my area temporarily. But we were so in sync online , we decided to see if the in person chemistry was there as well .

We agreed to hike a trail we both knew - and met there.

It was a warm, overcast day. I arrived first , and was roaming around when his car pulled into the lot. I began walking over , he got out of his car , and we headed for one another. It was like instant great chemistry - we hugged warmly , and just kind of reveled in how good it felt , while looking one another up and down and liking what we saw - then we hugged again ! It was like we'd known each other a very long time.

We headed out on the trail , found a walkway over some water , where we decided to stop and chat. I sat on the railing , he stood opposite me , all the while stroking my forearms in a most pleasant manner , while we talked and laughed.
The skies darkened , and thunder began , gradually sounding more threatening ...
It began to rain , so we agreed to head back. As we were walking the rain got harder, and we ran . We managed to make it to the park entrance where there was a small overhang at the trailhead. We ducked under and wrapped up in each other as the skies opened up big time ! With wind and rain all around - we continued our conversation , and stood there for at least a half hour. It was just great !

The unfortunate conclusion is that he's left the area to go back to his northern home, and then continue his work in various locations . But I won't forget our sweet and innocent interlude !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Include politics and 'wants more children' in profile
Posted: 3/21/2010 11:32:07 AM
If one's political lean is important enough to become a deal breaker - it should be clearly mentioned in one's profile !

As for the kid thing - yes more options would be helpful .
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
When rating photos ...
Posted: 3/21/2010 11:29:09 AM
When I have time, it's interesting to check out the different photos , and rate them . However, every now and then , one comes up that I would really like to know more about - or at least find out if they're close enough to consider .

It would be great to be able to click on the photo and see their profile !

Good idea ? yes? no?
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Dont meet the must haves? give them the option
Posted: 3/21/2010 11:23:25 AM
Excellent idea !!
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
A penny in a bag of water to keep the flies away ?
Posted: 3/19/2010 3:05:00 PM
The other day , I met someone from this site for lunch. We went to a cute little family place out in the boonies .

My seat happened to face a picture window. As we were eating/talking, I noticed hanging over the window - on the inside , was a maybe pint sized ziplock bag with water in it . In the water , was a penny !??

What the ....... ?

After I asked , the waitress sweetly told me it was there to keep the flies away !

Has any one ever heard of this before ? And if you have , how on earth does it work ?
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Met a nice guy, he has a girfriend. Is it wrong to ask him out for coffee?
Posted: 3/19/2010 7:22:23 AM
Everyone here has pretty much said it - IF deep down, your motives are purely honorable , AND it wouldn't matter if his girlfriend came along , AND it's just for conversation ( about what , I wonder... ) , you wouldn't be on here soliciting opinions from others . You would have just done it already !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Tell me what you think...
Posted: 3/18/2010 1:49:46 PM
Curious : Have you gotten past the "we are definitely girlfriend/boyfriend" stage , and done the "I love you" thing as well ?

Has she done other things with you and other friends before ?

I don't think you're "too" anything here - but right on , and that she should be going with you to a dinner that was planned two months ago !
The Birthday back-out sounds kinda lame on her part as well - you're clearly being put in second place ( is she being honest ?).


I'm thinking either she's not into you to the same degree as you are into her at this particular junction .

OR she's moving at a slower pace than you , regarding the relationship , and doesn't want it to move to the "public" phase quite yet .

OR the 'ole "she's just not that into you" ????


Different people have different ideas about balancing new romance with old friends or family. And some are afraid of losing their friends if they become too exclusive with a partner. Might want to discuss how each of you feel on this .

I just know that , as a woman , if I truly feel connected to someone , I want to be with them in all kinds of settings so they can "show me off" , and I can "show them off" to friends and the world ! Makes the connection that much richer to be acknowledged by others you care about .

Hope you can salvage this , Good luck !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Sex Maniac???
Posted: 3/18/2010 7:49:39 AM
PLEASE !

Don't analyze it .
Don't overthink things.
Don't concern yourself with what others are doing.
Don't compare.
Don't have second thoughts .
Don't stop thinking about sex.
Don't worry - be horny !!!!!!

Enjoy, savor,experience ...

Now we're all envious - dammit !!
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Is Dementia Setting in at This Age?
Posted: 3/17/2010 4:59:09 PM
Anything's possible ! We all have our "flakey" moments .

I generally don't lose things - but one day I had an appointment and it was time to leave - and I could not find my car keys ! I looked everywhere ! I hate being late !!
At one point I turned around quickly , and heard a metallic clink . I looked down and there they were - hooked over one of my fingers the whole time !!!! Oh boy ....

Anyway - I once heard a doctor discussing the difference between occasional forgetfulness ( which can occur at any age ) , and the onset of dementia .

Forgetfulness is not remembering where your keys ARE .

Dementia is having the keys in your hand - and not remembering WHAT YOU DO WITH THEM !!
ouch ...
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Ever Feel Like your Body Betrayed You??!!
Posted: 3/16/2010 7:22:47 PM
So far so good - only very minor annoyances every now and then . Seems I'm benefiting from long time good health choices (mostly).

But that said , I NEVER take this well functioning body for granted - EVER.

Things can suddenly turn - as you found out - when we least expect it !
And to anyone of any age !

Everyone - take good care !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Does anyone else have trouble relating to people their own age?
Posted: 3/16/2010 7:43:35 AM
I've always been fortunate to be able to relate well to most anyone of any age .

However , when it comes to dating and mating - I seem to naturally draw those that are younger - even my friends of both genders, in general .

I find when looking for a partner , I just don't fit in so well with the grandkid junkies, the golf addicts, the habitual buffet frequenters , the afternoon nappers , the six packers ( not their muscles either ! ) etc. Those that sit around saying they're "too old to ..." , while watching their bellies grow !

And I KNOW there's plenty of exceptions - I just haven't found them so far ...
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
LTR is it marriage or living together?
Posted: 3/15/2010 11:34:03 AM
LTR : Long term relationship. That can occur in many different forms . But I think TallTales ( message 5) hit it on the head !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Why mature people make wonderful partners
Posted: 3/14/2010 6:36:57 PM
Kudos on the subject matter !

However the incidence of maturity is totally independent from chronological age . There are kids in grade school that have more maturity than all kinds of folks 18 and up - and way beyond ! As for life experience - that's a big variable too , as not everyone is open to gaining the wisdom that can come with age .

Maturity rocks !
 letson
Joined: 4/29/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
First Date...he's calling daily?
Posted: 3/13/2010 10:47:54 AM
There is no right or wrong , or schedule , to this sort of thing . As a couple folks have suggested , he may simply be quite taken with you .

Think of all the effort that goes on here , and elsewhere , by people seeking their "one". What if he thinks you're it ? What if you thought he was "it" too ? Would you be on here griping about him contacting you too much - or would you want to hear from him , and maybe see him as much as possible ?

And let's say he IS clingy. Then can't you just tell him you're not comfortable with this level of communications - and to back off if he wants to continue with you ? Assuming you like him enough to do that ?

Years ago , I had a divorced friend who reluctantly went out on a blind date that her sister set up for her...
Well - she met this guy on a Friday night , they stayed up all night talking till Saturday, split just long enough to go to their respective homes for showers and change of clothes , were back together Saturday afternoon , spent the rest of the weekend together, both called in " sick" Monday , saw each other every day for the next two months - after which they moved in together , got married six months after that - and as far as I know , are still together ! Sometimes - even though "the rules" aren't followed - it just works !!!!
 
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