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wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

i caught my ex boyfriend dressed like a woman Posted: 3/7/2006 1:57:46 AM
well Its certainly not for me Id be out of there ( never to return ) In a heartbeat. I dont think Its a fetish, to me Its a severe mental Issue that needs some serious shrink work. A fetish Is dressing In PVC ect or liking s & m ect.. not wishing you were the opposite sex. Cross dresser .. Tranni .. you know haha thin line and If they didnt tell you they cross dressed ( which has a distinct likely hood of wanting male sexual partners too In some form ) I donno I think we need a psycologist to reply to this Its beyond me but I know I wouldnt be there.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 88 (view)

Keeping in touch often......... Posted: 3/7/2006 1:31:21 AM
Haha peoples our threads must be slow lately for everyone to jump on this and trash Diana .. Well I agree with her really .. If they dont email you for weeks ( and there's no valid reason ) they just arnt that Interested and after something else fell through or no better arrived your called In as backup. Cmon be honest who HASNT kept In contact with anyone they are really Interested In on any level ( except a real life situation after a fight ect ) we're talking the net .. shes right on the money. And obviously the lady has to much self respect to be the fall back plan .. as we all should have! But kudos to you guys replying after weeks of gaps where they simply had better people to keep In contact with .. let us know how that works out In the long run Face It If there was a valid reason It would be written Into their next contact .. ie the computer blew up .. I was sent away on work ect. No reason means simply couldnt be bothered as you arnt In my A list but the A list fell through so Im looking for B or C fillers untill I get more A quality fired up. Oh I know Im going to be done now for being realistic and not living the net Illusion but they are the facts and If you think about It we all do It. ALL this Is assuming there Is no valid reason, and since It was Diana speaking to them she obviously knows there wasnt to have even started the thread or It would be more like he said he was away could this be a lie? It takes 5 minutes to send a brief email flat out with work ect. It takes 3 weeks with no contact to try out something better and have It toss you over, as they never thought theyd need to contact you again. I wont be someones keyboard hollaback girl when the dating scenes dry either

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Just friggin odd isnt it. Posted: 3/7/2006 12:50:17 AM
If your not a player why did you want girls to email you from a dating site when you were In a relationship?? Your right It Is odd .. but luckily now the women can see what to expect .. advertising never say It's useless

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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in love with two people Posted: 3/5/2006 12:42:30 AM
Dont worry when you meet them they are usually nothing like the Image you get before hand. But this Is the very reason married people, or people In relationships shouldnt be on these sites or In chatrooms .. Its like placing yourself alone on a bar stool nightly then claiming It was by chance you ended up meeting someone. Work on your marriage and leave the net alone, Its just a fantasy that youll lose everything for and regret with a passion.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Fall in love from a pic?????? Posted: 3/2/2006 9:20:02 PM
You cant fall In love with a picture.. you may feel some kind of draw to It thats about It.. And unfortunately theres a far higher chance that IF and when you do meet, the person looks nothing at all like the Images they chose to display .. as Im sure we've all found out on many occasions I think this fall In love on the net things only for the newcomers.Ohhhh yes I spent many MANY hours chatting untill sunrise with a man when I first joined yrs ago .. thinking wow this connection Is amazing bla bla the usual ... to then meet and find out this person and I could hardly hold a converstation In real time and had no chemistry whatsoever.. Its not love Its fantasy and lonliness making a dangerous blend that will only leave you thinking WTF upon meeting

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

He doesn't want a relationship!? Posted: 3/2/2006 5:56:25 PM
Yep sorry to say your just the booty call, time filler while he looks for someone he really wants to be with. You shouldnt need to ask why he shows up In the middle of the night, Its not to see what your doing , but to get a bit. Sorry but that should be glaringly obvious. He wont let you kiss him as kissings obv for someone he has feelings for as far as hes concerned - theres no kissing with sold sex either seems hes taken It to this level for his booty calls as well. You deserve better, what hes saying Is he does not nor ever will want a relationship with YOU, not a relationship In general. And If he doesnt have a lot of friends or much of a social life theres your answer to why hes around so much. Set yourself free and find someone who really wants you..

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Breaking up via email - is it the new way to end it? Posted: 3/1/2006 11:06:13 PM
I know a girl whos fiancee ( after 6 yrs ) sent her her parting message via txt.. I mean text theres not even room for more than the blunt Its over goodbye. Just the way the worlds headed I suppose sadly, people are treated like disposable objects , easy come easy go. I think emails OK personally as you can put things down In there that would be too hard to even remember If the other partys crying or trying to arguee the breakup.. get deeper things out. But I think they should be available for at least one phonecall to go over things afterwards. But obviously thats what hes trying to avoid. Hard as It Is realise Its nothing you've done and try to move forward.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Blocked by a woman Posted: 3/1/2006 4:49:40 PM
Ivy a lot of women come on the net and put Bi as they think they are going to attract men, come on the threads going on about how they do women bla bla .. its an attention seeking effort poorly disquised for most. Maybe you got one of them and because you are a genuine woman not someone just trying to make men think they are some sex goddess she didnt know what to do? Dont let It get to you Im sure you did nothing and just unfortunately were In contact with one of the legends In their own lunchbox.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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What is the main reason Posted: 3/1/2006 4:42:25 PM
7Times about time someone said It as It Is and stopped avoiding the obvious

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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This is Funny! Posted: 3/1/2006 4:39:38 PM
YEP the nets full of the cunning high Intelligence types.. you have to be so careful not to fall for their amazing slight of hand hey Makes you wonder why they dont feel like the losers they are really but I spose the Intelligence doesnt go deep enough to know shame

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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To tell if someone is lying to you Posted: 3/1/2006 4:36:17 PM
Gypsys spot on and to the person who asked If this Is proven, yes beyond any doubt.. thats why It stands up In court and law enforcement / psycologists use It.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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dating multiple people Posted: 3/1/2006 4:40:54 AM
Ive never had an exclusive conversation either. Ive always found that you just " know " when they are really Into you and Its Immediate, none of this dating 3 to see whos the best ect ect. Ive had those types ( only off the Internet ) .None have ever gone anywhere, which I feel Is the obvious conclusion since the person didnt think you were worth getting to know exclusively from the beginning ( my experiences personally and for all the others Ive seen go through It, though Im sure for some Its worked ) . I dont even know how to put It Into words what happens but from the FIRST meeting you both know this Is worth Investing your time Into to see where It goes. And then before you know It ( and both parties know theres been no outside Interest from the original meeting ) they tend to just start calling you their gf. I find this takes weeks - not months a few weeks - and ALL my long term have been this way. Since discovering net dating ( that I no longer do due to this fact ) I had nothing but wasted time and attempts at being added to a harem I think people have forgotten how to have a relationship and the reality of dating due to these sites to be honest .. Its not about upsizing.. Its about the Immed connection and " wow this can go somewhere lets see '. You start an exclusive relationship .. IF It Isnt working you end It .. but seeing 5 at a time you will get to know noone on any real level and just keep spinning around ending up 8 yrs older and still alone. Sadly a prime example of the net dating life for 80% of the people who join. Never can work that out net dating versus real life dating .. why are they so different? There'd be no couples If real world opperated like the net world .. just 8 month flings people term as LTR .. I always thought long term meant yrs - not months

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

A strange break up which comes back for more. Posted: 3/1/2006 3:11:32 AM
I think Varient got It down pat In his thread. Kind of like a child throwing a tantrum to draw attention their way again.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 79 (view)

help help help help help help help Posted: 3/1/2006 2:52:02 AM
Change jobs, move on, leave It behind. IF anything he says Is true and the marriage was as good as over before you , and the legal wife Is trying to emotionally blackmail him Into staying In a dead situation he will sort things out and move away from that negative situation with or without you. I dont believe In people being forced Into miserable stagnant lifes as the other party cant face the big world alone. And you cant put love where theres only resentment .. and if someone wants out .. they have that right to leave and find the happiness you couldnt give them ( your husband or wife ). Its a sad reality of life and one people should accept not try to squeeze the last drop of life out of and then wonder why the ex hates them. When the loves gone you have nothing, why grasp a dead branch untill It snaps and cuts you. That said though frankly your screen name and web camming ect makes you sound very Iffy so Im not sure what to think .. ie If this Is a once of or a lifestyle choice to just put It around to one and all. Id pull that side together too , no man wants a real relationship with a floozy be It net or real world. If you didnt realise what web camming means It means the so desperate to validate myself I take my clothes off to try to boost my flagging ego .. so watch that one. We cant choose who we love , and sometimes people are tied to the wrong person before the right person comes along sadly. You made the wife no promises, they are his broken promises. But from what you say hes been honest to her ( cant ask for more ) and told her hes seeing another and wants out of a dead loveless marriage so If hes being honest hes as good as out the door already or putting the children through years of a loveless staid miserable marriage wich will adversely affect them In the long term. But the thing you must do Is stand back and walk away now, let him sort the situation for whats best for him and him alone ( not you, not the wife ) AND IF you are meant to be together let him approach you to start afresh after hes left the marraige and sorted through his baggage. You ( or anyone else reading this In the same position thats too scared to comment due to the responses ) are not the first nor will be the last to go through this. This Is the real world , not the Ideal world we would all prefer to walk under the skies of. People fall out of love , women have children to try to chain the man bla bla ect ect and so It goes. But untill he makes the clean break you dont know If hes the real deal or just a desperate player.. make the break from him and time will let you know.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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when was this site started?? Guy I see may be cheating... Posted: 2/28/2006 3:26:06 AM
Sorry to hear that, It seems more and more common these days sadly. No ones on these sites looking for friends sadly so once you find their profile best to get rid of them. There are thousands of forums for Interests ( dogs, cats, craft, bikes, list Is endless where you could meet friends ) IF you met on say this site and they wanted to remain a member for the forums and their profile stated that - different matter. But when you find their profile on dating sites It doesnt take a genious to figure out what they are doing .. In real life or type all the same thing and one quickly leads to the other anyway. The Internet makes It seem so easy for them to cheat, I just wish they'd go meet some of the people they are chatting and find out like even us singles do that Its more often a rude awakening then a ego boost! That said though It does not remove his Intent .. so please move on from him you can find a lot better out there. And If they are keen to play around theres only too many who believe keytype and a few calls sneaked In when he / she can fit them = relationship.So they jump In the sack first meeting to then start why havent I heard threads the following week Your better off without him and I feel for you right now, Its a horrible thing to have to go through but you will get through It and not look back once the pains worked through

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 107 (view)

Ever get an email like this....??? Posted: 2/27/2006 4:54:58 PM
Id say Its total crap sorry. But he leaves a nice opening for ( subtly ) how hed like one ( yes ONE ) night of sex with you due to his poor poor condition. Theres a lot of nuts on these things and no matter how sane or genuine they come across on a few meetings the truth can be far different. I dont believe what he's written sorry and I think the fact he then Ignored your email, and you on yahoo kind of shows he didnt get the response ( come to my hottub naked big dying boy ) he wanted. Please be careful with him your a very pretty and obviously caring girl and deserve someone nice.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Contacts Posted: 2/27/2006 4:40:12 PM
Steelworker your right on the mark there. Thats why I quit Internet dating, Im not usto being one of a harem, just a consideration after meeting or one of 5 women a mans trying on for size ( ie hes not going to pick any of that lot believe me, when they find one they are really Interested In they stop looking ) so to me It was just a merry-go-round and one I wasnt Interested In being on any longer. I speak of men doing this as Im a woman, so my experience was obv with men, but I know the men go through It too. I did find a couple of men not Into trying to string along tons and mass date the lot with no Intentions of becoming Involved with any on a real level, but only a couple out of an awfull lot of dates, and sadly It takes chemistry, compatability ect too. Just be blunt with It upfront as soon as you start chatting, yes It scares a lot off, but thats only because they realise you are onto the situation and wont be sitting back while they are dating you and still active on all the sites looking for more. So you dont want the ones It scares off anyway.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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What if your date told you that he/she was a convicted felon? Posted: 2/27/2006 12:24:14 AM
Yer no one has to date a felon but I kinda like arresting him In my sargeant sexy uniform How longs your fella In for broken? My maybe maybe not fella Is In this time for about 6 months. Problem Is once they've been In for anything termed serious ( armed robbery ect ) It follows them for the rest of their life even when theyve been straight for ages.. ie they do something the rest of us get a fine for and their back In the big house. Not sure how that works but It seems to be the way.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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to wait or not ................... Posted: 2/26/2006 9:29:58 PM
The problem with waiting Is when Its someone you've just met ( or havent spent a lot of time with ) your never sure If whatever excuses they use are real or a blow off. And sadly more often than not Its just a polite way of saying Im just no longer Interested. So you could be wasting your time sadly. Make sure you know what your really up against If you decide to wait .. and If theres any doubts dont wait.. lifes too short

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Advice and opinions wanted.... Posted: 2/26/2006 4:36:46 PM
If both names are on the mortgage 50/50 In all payments - utilities the lot. If both names are on the mortgage and hes the one who's put the main amount In .. well wouldnt the relationship be serious enough now that Its not whats yours and mine but whats ours? Ie you dont earn so much each, you earn so much together? I know a lot of people dont do this but well I feel either 50 /50 on the entire lot or joint finances who earns more Is Irrelevant Its not the party who earns mores fault nor responsibility to make up for that. I dont understand 1/3 of ulities sounds odd, so what he has extra children.. hes also paid the main deposit on a house you can take him for later after putting In hardly any Initial funds. I personally think people should keep things seperate untill they are comfortable enough to do the whats mine Is yours and vice versa. You both probably need to get legal advice before you go even one step further as theres already Issues coming up.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Men.. Do you have to have the chase? Posted: 2/26/2006 4:21:57 PM
Dont ditch him over 4 days Tessie - and I think FilmScorpio may be pretty on the money here ( and love the way It was written ). What everyone chooses to forget Is the book was written by script writers obviously they saw a way to cash In on the show simple. Some of It Is correct, but really you cant treat each man the same. All you have to do Is look at how many times the man mentions wanting to see womens underwear to get an Idea of his professionalism. Its good to read as a laugh If you are down about a man who clearly was not Into you .. not to run your life by .. this ISNT sex and the city scripted and filmed Its real life with real players In the game and It doesnt come word by word scene by scene. I say just see what unfolds with It .. and whats anyone got to lose by telling someone your Interested? A little bit of pride .. a lot cheaper than sitting around Imagining your playing hard to get as the days clock on

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Take Care of Her Man? Posted: 2/26/2006 4:08:36 PM
Yes Id tell her Im not an unpaid prostitute and to take a hike personally. I think Its pretty damn degrading she'd ask but thats just me.. do what you feels right. I'd seriously review the friendship and what she thinks of you though.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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How many of you have gone across country or to another country to meet someone?? Was it worth it? Posted: 2/26/2006 4:27:06 AM
I met a uk guy ( In person ) days before he had to return home - was Intense and we had the months of emails, phone calls ect then I went there for a month - all went well. Then he moved here, biggest mistakes of our lifes lasted 8 months but 8 months of " who are you really " you dont get to know a person via msn chat, email and phone nor via a 4 week vacation when they are on best behaviour for their " guest ". You know only the good side, or the side they present. Id never do It again total waste of time though Im sure for some It may work.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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What if your date told you that he/she was a convicted fellon... Posted: 2/26/2006 4:12:38 AM
Well id date one .. IF Im lucky Sounds odd but I just found out why the man I was whining about In the other threads was doing the cant let you go cant come In act with me .. as hes just been jailed. And due to the way a lot of people view this he thought he wasnt good enough ect ect. Well he IS good enough - hes a fine person whos done some silly things and was raised on the wrong side of the tracks - hence getting Into situations some of us are lucky enough never to have to even see never mind live. But that doesnt change his soul or make his heart evil. Yes It puts him at odds with a lot of the world - works harder to get ect ect, but thats OK I have a job.. was never looking for what a man can provide for me anyways on a financial level - just what they can provide me love wise. So thats all fine with me - low paid works all the same to me I have my own house, business ect ect so thats not my deciding factor. Now that said I would hope after this stint If we do date he stays out of jail for obvious reasons. But right now since Ive just found out since cutting him off ( strangely days b4 the court case ) then wondering why Its been so quite my only concern Is sending my letter letting him know I now know where he Is and sending him some money for Chocolate And no hes not a rapist or murderer. You have to review the crime and see If Its something you yourself can live with.. and I understand that others couldnt. I wouldnt go looking for It but this mans special to me, and I wouldnt turn on a soul for their lifes errors .. I didnt go searching for jailed men .. the universe sent me someone I cared for deeply who happened to come with a shifty mcgilly past. Obviously we cant date, hes In Prison for 6 months. But I will be there for him as a friend during that time ( If he lets me after my hissy fit about him " stringing me along" ) and IF Im single and Its an option when hes released If he wants to date Id be there with bells on. He's still the same person he was before. And before Im classed as jerry springer material Im actually quite well off with a very succesfull business and 20 staff - one of the reasons he thought he wasnt good enough - silly boy. Each to their own Its deffinately not for everyone and Its deff the harder choice to date with the men / women with the pasts that cought up with them .. but hey since when was the easy way always the right way. Sometimes the path of least resistance leads to a stagnant life too. Id say review their crime - decide If Its something you can live with .. and please dont jump on the no way they sold drugs ect If you've ever had a few puffs yourself at any stage In your life ( and most have ) cause oddly that came straight from a dealer so they were good enough to associate with at some point In your life - even If you were 17 Mines In jail for speeding, not dealing so dont think that either please It was just a point how quick we can all be to judge. Chin up Broken just dont buy Into being led of topic the threads about felons not nicotine addicts at least you know people are taking deep note of anything you post on any thread

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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your not so good qualities? Posted: 2/26/2006 12:33:06 AM
Blunt Opinionated Talk to much when Im drunk Bad temper If pushed Not the worlds most sociable person ( bit of a homebody ) Gees wonder why Im single ...

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Why do guys give cell phone numbers instead of home numbers ...is that a clue they are taken? Posted: 2/25/2006 9:32:53 PM
Well I dated a guy who only had a mobile - never gave a land line. I decided he was taken and ended It.. BUT we were In and out of contact all the time over It. He'd come back same thing act all suspicious no landline ect... eventually he told me It was to avoid the police .. they can get unlisted numbers even get the address that way. Yes well I didnt believe that either, but since I just found out he's In Jail there may have been something to that ( wondered why hed been quite since jan ) So there you go the end result wasnt much better than If he was Involved .. well he was really just with the law enforcement agencys

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump you later? Posted: 2/25/2006 9:07:33 PM
Well If It was a real commited relationship .. they fell out of love with you .. If you can fall In love you can fall out of love thats common sense. Things change, life directions, goals ect, one party can simply outgrow the other and want to move on. Or they may love you ( but not be In love with you - BIG difference ) we love our friends or parents, we dont want to wake up looking at their face each morning. Or If It was a short term thing - and a man that said It then left , prob to get sex. Love doesnt last forever .. not all love. Theres many degrees of love and obviously all those divorced people and people who've had ltr's thought they had It .. but alas here we all are so It doesnt take einstein to figure out we were either - A . wrong B. It wasnt a lasting love. Loves pretty useless one sided and they obviously arnt the one we think they are ( as we all find out later on ) or they'd never have left In the first place. They may be great people but they are not the " One " for us and Im sure most of us will find the one eventually. I say most as settling seems to be a bit common these days, so obviously If we cant take what may be years alone to find the right match we will keep repeating past mistakes.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Primal Instinct Posted: 2/25/2006 5:09:52 PM
Well my experience looking at It from the outside Is that Its NOT the pretty women who cheat and have affairs .. they arnt out to prove anything to them selves and have been getting hit on since 13, Its not a thrill to them ,and Its not hard to say NO as they are so usto It as single - add a partner and Its no problem. I find the same with men .. and funny enough I did read this has been proven by study now. But Its something I realised about 15 just from noting peoples behaviour. Think about just being out In a bar ect - whos the ones all over the place? There was some scientific study on this that came up with the same ( yet more formally worded ) results - would be worth looking up If anyone has any real Interest In this. But Im a bit sick of the beautiful women / men have no personality threads - personalitys INSIDE .. some do some dont - the same as not so good looking women / men - some are nice some Arnt. And actually I gotta say the pretty women Ive always found to at least be friendly - kind and helpful - yet to have one of them stand back snearing at you. Just my findings. And as for the old house wifes tales from the 1920s about marry a plain jane and be safe - gees sounds to me like It was started by someone plain or with a lot of plain daughters they wanted to be rid off! Marry someone you love - you'll fall In love with the full package - not the personality In someone you find ugly.. NOR the body of someone you find the persoanlity a off put In.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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she wants me back! Posted: 2/25/2006 4:56:26 PM
You were her fall back plan - the guy she left you for realised what shes like - left her and she cant stand alone so you are fall back. Sorry to say It but Its true - you can guarantee she was seeing the one who " moved In with her shortly after " well before she left you. She'd leave you again, obviously you meant nothing to her for her to treat you that way - going out 3 years she meets someone else and you didnt even get an explanation? She wouldnt even speak to you .. thats how much you really mean to her sorry. Now shes alone , Karmas got her - she obviously needs somewhere to live and someone to use for a while again and you were top of the list - the old sucker whos sposed to fall at their knees and destroy their new life for her. Your better off without her , If she rings again hang up on her - tell her you found a real woman - a decent woman and she'd best go speak to the man who was so much better than you. And dont listen to HER friend - yes they are her friend - where were they with their deep concern 12 months ago - drinking wine with her celebrating her better catch. You are worth so much more than this woman - dont lose a decent one for one who showed her true colors already!

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

how to deal with controlling Ex's Posted: 2/25/2006 12:46:06 AM
Whys he expected to pay for the house If she cant afford It " on her own?" sounds like shes the demanding control freak sorry - they are divorced - I assume settlement was done hes not responsible to pay her way any longer. Remember this will be you one day .. we should never forget that. I think she should buy or live In a house she can pay on her own not expect the ex to finance her lifestyle. And If she does expect this ( and thats how it sounds ) then he Is a fool to be pandering to her financial control of HIM anyways. Hes the ex - tell her to pay her own way now. Sorry to be harsh but It sounds ridiculous. Id say he still thinks theres something there - and Id say shes letting him think It too to get as much $$ as she can. She lets him control her with her greed by the sounds of It, and she controls him to get her way financially. If he wants to buy his kids expensive presents, why not Its his money and his choice.. whys that wrong when she expects him to finance a house she cant afford on her own?

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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a senior citizen posting an ad on a pay site and the results... right here Posted: 2/23/2006 4:54:34 PM
I dont think Its right you use someone elses photos simple.. you DONT know what trouble you may cause for that person.. ie WHO sees the pic there and thinks It Is her ect. You could destroy someones life doing that crap think about It. But to the topic I usto have men contact me on another site .. then a 54 yr old lady I knew .. shes old enough to be my mother for lords sake and I found It sick actually. Anyman I knew had contacted her I wouldnt even reply to , to me It showed he was either - A. desperate B- looking for casual sex with anyone 18 - 80 C - a total sicko. Oh these were men 22 - 40 so yes I think Its foul personally. And If a woman this age was on the site Im sure she wouldnt be kissing young men looking like a desperate old trollop shed be seeking men her age .. thats what got the bad responses and banning.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Single parents that have children but do not want more when looking for relationship. Posted: 2/23/2006 4:35:39 PM
I avoid these profiles personally. I have no children and arnt even sure If I want them... BUT I do expect It to be a joint desc with my partner, one we both have a say In. Not have them say Ive already been there done that and bad luck for you, I have my children so tuff . It would never be much of a even relationship, or even healthy for that matter. Those children are not and never will be yours, you are simply taking the negatives and none of the positives on. So If the person Isnt even Interested In making a real life with you with all the possible family ect I wouldnt waste my time. Obviously this Is different for Couples If they both already have children. But otherwise your setting yourself up for a fall, Investing time and money Into someone elses children and If and when the relationship disolves chances are rather high they dont want to visit mummy or daddys ex from 6 yrs ago simple

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Women who date yobs Posted: 2/23/2006 12:28:30 AM
Working girl I dated a few Knobs too so I feel for you there! A yob - In australia It means a bogon ( badly dressed - common type complete with mullet or similar hairstyle ) I havent dated any of them .. well OK then not since the 80's

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

Looking for A guy with an edge? Posted: 2/23/2006 12:16:19 AM
When I had a dating profile I had similar wordings - to me ( and Im sure Its diff to each person ) It means someone with some sharps - someone thats not the boring accountant type ect .. I think mine said seeking a homebody with an edge. I know what I mean I cant put It Into words - maybe he has a past ( gang whatever ) maybe he has temper bla bla whatever each to their own. But for me as Im a Medium , I like men with a little bit out there left of field to them too. I dated accountants ect = It doesnt fit my lifestyle.. nor me theirs. Im not judgemental and dont care If he's been jailed ect as I just see It all as stepping stones on lifes path. Im NOT recommending that to everyone so no need to flame haha but for someone like me Its Irrelevant and I like the edge otherwise Id go Insane with the kind of guy with no history and no street smarts. I spose I need an Old soul Is what Im saying .. and they are drawn to what the newer ones shun like moths to the flame. And no my add didnt work

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 210 (view)

Ladies 37 and up Posted: 2/22/2006 6:31:26 PM
Im 37 and had been using Internet dating ( Australian ) for about 5 years as I work from home alone ( ie meet no new people ) and all my friends were married with familys ( dont go out at all anymore to singles venues ). So I had no option and It seemed a good Idea when I joined. Now I am classed as above average looking ( some say beautiful I wont go that far ) and have my own Business - House bla bla - ie supposedly a good catch. HOWEVER on all those years of net dating - and being always In the top 100 for the most popular on the sites and having TONS of contact and 62 dates - I met no one serious. Most Im the first to admit I had no Interest In upon meeting - however the sad fact Is even I did they are just out to play the field and add numbers to their spread sheets. I went through what everyone else does - tons of bad dates to finally find one compatible with all the connections ect to get excited think finally this nightmare payed off .. to find you were being played. This goes for a large number of the women too so Im NOT being sexist. Seems many of the women try to find the richest guy who owns the most - ie always trying to upgrade - and the men just want to ride each pony on the merrygoround. I heard many men In the same situation thinking they were seeing her then finding out she was seeing 10 at once ect. So It goes both ways. However the moral of the story Is I remained single all that time ( the one relationship I did have I met at a pub on my first event outing In 2 yrs ). And all the men I first met on there 5 yrs ago - and many of the women I remember seeing profiles of ... are still there. NO ONES got off. The few I spoke with who got relationships off it - none have lasted - 3 of the guys ( 2 living with their gfs they met on It ) are still on there secretly looking to upgrade without her knowledge. Its an addiction of delusion to them. and by the time they realise this their life has passed them by and they've lost the best years. Ive never been single for more than a yr In my Life ( and that was by choice ) before the net - the net gave me the entire time single - but not happy single - bad date - played - bla bla single. Yes I know It can work for some - but do the sums on It - It didnt work for tons more than the one that claims It did. And please look at their storys too , you can see some on these threads " I found my man lucky me wow wow party party .. yes he wants us to see others for fun .. no sex no that he's still looking no way he loves me " Yer right Some need a god dose of reality to wake them up I think. Girls ( men even ) the bottom line of this Is please - time Is precious you cant replace 37 - 40 or any other years above or beyond .. dont reli purely on net dating you probably wont like the end results of It, or hear of many who have. If you have no one to go out with .. see If you can team up off here and get out In the real world to meet people. People who dont think a life Is a delusion chatting to strangers behind a keyboard. Use this as a sml part of your dating options not the only one.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

When a heart begins to die. Posted: 2/22/2006 1:49:24 AM
After the darkest of nights comes the brightest of days - spiritual speak for the limbo Is passing you feel It strongest as the Limbo shifts out.. The darkest hour Is just before the dawn - stay strong.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

what then?? Posted: 2/22/2006 1:09:04 AM
Been here wasted 2 years of my life. Maybe more. You cant be friends with someone you love you are just tying yourself to the pain and delaying the healing. I wish I could say otherwise but they are the sad facts - like dead wood needs to be cut from a tree to allow new growth you need to cut It before you can start to heal and grow again.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

Why women don;t like me ? Posted: 2/20/2006 11:18:17 PM
Well theres obv something In It If several women have come up with It - the only common denominator between you and them Is .. YOU. Take a long hard realistic look at your actions that made them claim this - and change them for future encounters thats all you can do.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

I've got one for you guys, see if you can help me..... Posted: 2/20/2006 10:52:57 PM
I really feel for you, but THIS Is why people dont date people In their 20s when they are In their 30's - even at 30 you should be looking not under 26 - yes it works for SOME people - but honestly ltr - how many do you know It worked for - a very very sml % of those that started them. Its hard but better now then a bit further along as Is the norm with these situations and then you lose 75% of everything to a 28 yr old leaving you at near 40 to start from scratch. Keep your chin up and you'll find the right partner when the time Is right - but please dont keep dating people who are not even yet remotely like the person they will become by 30.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

should I take him back? Posted: 2/20/2006 10:18:30 PM
People make mistakes - follow your heart on this one - only you really know whats the right thing to do for you. I read It as he was seperated - started dating you and the wife put the moves on for a reconciliation - MOST likely when she found out you existed - the old I dont want you nobody else can have you scheme - well worked by unstable exes and never worked out for anyone In the long term . Its just a control thing the control freaks pull when they find out they are replacable after all.. Anyways back on topic - so he was probably put under pressure to try again - for the marriage vows - for the time Invested ( may be a long time ) - for the kids - for the history they had - for whatever .. reasons why dont matter It all amounts to nothing In the end as hes found out . And he did the right thing In his mind to do this - to put 10 yrs ( or whatever and vows above something new ) at least he knows for certain now Its over theres no going back and he tried all he could. I'd look at It this way - the loyalty ( however twisted ) he showed placing the ltr above the new one .. Is the right thing to do ( I know I know It sucks when you feel you came second as you were the new one ) BUT wouldnt you want this loyalty shown to you If you'd been married or ltr for yrs - wouldnt you want that to mean more than 2 hot months with a new Beauty? No one can answer this for you - only you know how long they were seperated and the emotions Involved on yours and his part. We're just standing on the outside looking In here - ie we have NO Idea whats there or what can be. Follow your heart and Intuition

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

Dating mistakes YOU made........ Posted: 2/20/2006 10:04:17 PM
Ummm haha heres some Id like to keep In the closet Drank too much and behaved like a Psycotic desperate ( they really should have breathalisers on email that wont send the goods If you blow over a certain limit ) Spoke of exes - but then went one further and got out the photos to show him mmmm there'd be tons Im the queen of putting your foot In It and messing up something good sadly.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

What should i do?? Posted: 2/20/2006 9:53:03 PM
Yep sad to say but hes clearly seeing this girl and quite seriously for her to be leaving I love yous on the voice mail - thats not a new or casual situation. Women dont say I love you to men who never say It back .. and deff not on a voice message unless Its a serious partner. Time to move on Im afraid and I know Its easy for me to say and a lot harder to do .. but the sooner you pack It up and put It away the sooner you will be over It. He at least owed you the decency to tell you he'd met someone else and wanted to move on with his life. Be strong and know you'll find someone much better further down the Road

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 62 (view)

How do you spot a player Posted: 2/20/2006 9:44:02 PM
Peace do you take credit card .. my cash reserves are a bit low this month and remember I need to pay for the flights over for our love tryst too

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Competition amongst women yet guys will stick together. Posted: 2/20/2006 9:36:11 PM
The only women who do this are the ones trying to prove to themselves they are as good ( pretty, smart, whatever ) as their friend and In their warped mind If they can attract the man they think It means this. The Jealous sort that need some serious counselling and to get over themselves. Its not the norm with women In general.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

Childfree Posted: 2/20/2006 9:29:12 PM
I have no children by choice ( Im 37 not 19 like the profile says ) was just never my thing - I wanted to travel extensivly - set up a Business - buy a nice home ect ect - wich have all been done. Had ltr's but was never Interested In having Children to any of those partners. Ill probably never have Children now - and Its not a problem to me - It would only be a option If I met Mr right sometime In the next few yrs and he wanted them. Its nothing Id ever plan or decide I needed or wanted alone. That said though I did think when I left my last ltr at 32 that I wouldve well and truly met Mr right by now

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Great Looks or GOOD soul Posted: 2/20/2006 6:51:46 PM
Via the net - looks obviously no one can see your soul via a photo or the quality of Inner being there Is ( well psychics but for the layman I mean ) . And most of the writing In any profile can be disregarded - Its how we see ourselves - NOT how the rest of the world does. But In the real world soul would win over looks everytime - just via this medium Its all based on looks to begin with If anyones honest about It

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 57 (view)

How do you spot a player Posted: 2/20/2006 5:06:21 AM
I cant even get a online player to try to ease me Into the delusion Im desirable .. Instead I just got this email from here .. hey baby., lets get it on., all night long., i have a big ding dong., 1000 u.s.d. for as ride. I even have to pay for my players If I want their company

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 2 (view)

idea for long term online daters Posted: 2/20/2006 4:57:19 AM
Na excellent Idea but theres one flaw .. theres voice via computer now .. so the next one will still sound like they may have something more going for them But still you could call It www.merrygoroundofdreams.com where the flawed seek the perfect and no one ever gets off or gets a life

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

The Adult life style is this for you? Posted: 2/20/2006 3:41:59 AM
Im a one person ( man In my case ) only person. Yes the point about the stds he man made above Is very realistic .. If they are sharing In your bed they obv get around freer than most .. and good for them but have u checked out positivesingles.com to be sure they arnt on there first I did actually look at this site just last night - a friend was searching to see for himself some info and pointed me there. Mmmm I never knew that hpv was just as spreadable to your mouth as It Is to your genitals - mmmm genital warts In your mouth and on your face - nice look .. may slow the dating for sometime though Actually Its very sad all jokes aside but worth taking a look at and reading what these poor people go through - they have forums ect. I think all of us would be rather suprised at whats out there and even the ones we think we have knowledge on the fact we have little If none. I for one didnt know genital warts ( hpv ) was contagious and can be cought via oral sex even without them having visable signs... ie the warts come on your face - In your mouth - down your throught - hundreds like genital warts can be - not one like a planter wart. Worth a look peoples - but get a drink first - I sure needed one.

wrechercats

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

What's in a name ? Posted: 2/20/2006 3:25:08 AM
Your not Imagining It so dont worry - Its all to do with numerology ect and worth looking up If you find It of Interest. All a bit complicated to work out on a pratical level, but really most people have a few names picked out then choose the one they feel suits the babys looks - personality ect so that may explain some of the but how do they become like their name. Maybe the mother / fathers Psyche already picked up what they were going to be like without them even realising It. And my experiences with Lisas are the same

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