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jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

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My date plans dates with short notice ! Posted: 11/21/2009 4:49:35 PM
Hey, I get it, you like this man, so you want to see him, but really OP, you are letting him set the pace, and he is holding the reigns already. I hate these games they play. Like many above have stated, it sems like you aren't more then an option. Distance, 70 miles? C'mon, meet halfway then there is alaways a way to see the one you desire... Go about your own business, DO NOT count on him at all, maybe it's just a personality difference, if this is how he works, and you obviously don't, well maybe it's better to find out now. Just DO NOt let him take such charge like this... You try and set some stuff up, and don't worry about what he thinks, why give him such thought? Do what you want to do, and if he doesn't like it or appreciate it.....Adios!!.....Next!!! JJ

jj4u427

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you tell me....... Posted: 11/11/2009 9:58:53 AM
c deacon thanks for the input, your red flag theory may ring true at times, but i can assure you it was just a genuine question having nada to do with insecurities. People can just want to know things that they wonder about. Oh and I know it's NOT gender specific. If your a schmuck in a relationship you don't necc have to be the one with the p enis!!! LOL JJ

jj4u427

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legalized marijuana...a possible American reality? Posted: 11/11/2009 9:02:13 AM
Look, there are obviously medical benefits to weed, and if it really eases peoples pain due to illness, then good for them, but the bigger problem is that we are all human, and in the end it is still classified as a drug. It is very addicting, and in the hands of people who are just pot heads, legalization of the stuff will just cause people to make up some malady, and become seekers of it, this way now tho, legally, thru a prescription. Also, I don't want to be around the stuff. It opens many doors now to people's "right's", and as we all know people do not like being told where they can and can't do something!!! But damn, I don't want to smell it thru ventilation ducts or outside, or in a public place because now it's "legal" to take it.... There HAVE to be rules, tho they will be broken of course. Remember, it only takes one person to ruin things for the rest of us!!!! Will it be given out like say pain pills, with rules, a certain dosage a day? And when it runs out, you have to wait until it can be "refilled", for lack of better termonology, again??? Should it be done at a medical location? What disease should it be earmarked for? I mean who is to say that another's pain is greater then anyone else's? It is a huge issue, and in the end, nobody will be completely satisfied with any outcome. JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

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you tell me....... Posted: 11/11/2009 8:39:13 AM
broncsbuff, ain't that the truth!!! LOL

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

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you tell me....... Posted: 11/11/2009 7:51:27 AM
Your a man, your in a relationship, yet still continue to seek out attention, intimacy, etc, from other women..... Obviously there is something wrong. Is it just an "ego" boost? Is it that we are all just human, and aren't perfect and have needs? Why, especially if you aren't married, where it might be more difficult to break from a person, do you carry on with the "realationship" with the other person, yet readily partake in flirting, intimacy with others? I always thought that if a person was really happy and content with their partner, that this wouldn't occur. I myself would have no need for the attention of another if I was really happy in a relationship. Am I naive? Is it narcisism that makes us act like this? Just looking for opinions... JJ

jj4u427

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Things are changing... Posted: 10/24/2009 8:32:29 AM
I can't sometimes, I mean really OP. Men are the KING's of not wanting to communicate. Did you ever think that there are some folks out there, (both men and women), who go the texting, email first route because they are tired of giving out a number and it not being used. Or it's being used in the first phone call for phone sex, or something unsavory. LOL?? C'mon, like everything else it's just par for the course... In the end if a person really wants to know you, they will eventually move to a phone call.. It just may take some extra time in some cases.. JJ

jj4u427

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I didn't expect this at all Posted: 10/24/2009 7:42:27 AM
Ok... Here is what happened... You met, it was great, time went by you got to know each other better, she started to think that as "great" as you were, "something" just wasn't there... She backed off, but still had some type of pull towards you, unfortunately just not as strong as you do. It may be her age, it may be that she is just confused, or it may just be that she is distracted with other men, other ex's, other lover's, whatever.. Either way, you can't make her feel more then she does. I know your confused, I know it sucks, and I know your heartbroken. I know all that cause I went thru it as well. Look OP, all you can do is completely break away from this girl. Otherwise you will continue your torture, your questions, even if answered by her will never be what you want them to be, and you will never be able to give another person a chance.. It's very hard, and I feel for you. My consolation was that I was not the only person in the world who went thru this. You are not alone, and lots of us understand your situation. Change your number, email, whatever. End contact, if you don't ,it is you who will continue to be hurt.. JJ

jj4u427

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A Very Ugly Situation - What Would YOU Do? Posted: 10/24/2009 7:26:18 AM
As far as I can tell, unless this loser actually harasses her in some way, you can't write him up for being an ignorant jerk.. Stay out of it. If you approach him, he will undoubtley turn it against you and get you for harassment, and cause trouble.. Maybe you can give your c0-worker the heads up?? Something anonymous? Or just talk to her and say "Hey, do what you want but........." Also, I wonder, if you were out in a club, or a bar, and you were with friends, and your guys were just trolling for sex, would you go up to their "intended" and warn them? Um, no....I understand that this is a different setting, but really, this type of B/S happens every day to women. Maybe you can learn from it.... JJ

jj4u427

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Air climber users? Posted: 10/22/2009 8:56:12 AM
Anyone ever use it? It seems like a fun exercise. It is suppose to be easy on your joints, and it has some good accesories, dvd's, and it seems better then plain old walking. Any opinions either way? Thanks fishies... JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Just a question Posted: 10/17/2009 7:56:42 AM
After a while OP, she very wisely (even you admitted it), may have gotten the hint that you weren' interested in a relationship. Now that she is pulling back and not acting like the girl you knew her to be, you are all of a sudden confused.. Once again, a classic case of what I call "the challenge". I really hate games. If I'm wrong, then I apologize, but it's still my opinion.. JJ

jj4u427

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the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men Posted: 10/17/2009 7:27:06 AM
OP, I'm sorry, but your theory is b/s. Just because the man to women ratio is higher, DOES NOT mean that anyone's chances of being successful on this or any other site is a given. Big deal if the men seem to out-number the women...?? You think that in those numbers that the quality is just as good as the quantity? UM--- NO!!! That is a FACT!!!! If I get one more one word email, "Hey"..( Yup, that's gonna rope a girl in), I'm gonna scream... Oh wait, I know, the men who clearly don't read your profile, and prove it by asking stupid questions like "Where you from?".. Oh wait I know, the men who just want to cyber-sex.... Then there are the obvious reasons why there is no connection... No interest in the person's profile, don't find them attractive, don't see much in common. The list is endless... In the end us women,DO NOT have it any easier then the men.. You use that excuse as a crutch I think for why you aren't successful. I'm not trying to be insulting or rude, but we can all make excuses as to why we aren't all with the person of our dreams... Me included.. JJ

jj4u427

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She brought a friend to our date.. Posted: 10/17/2009 6:27:31 AM
LOL. I know what you will do. This girl now becomes a challenge, and you will no doubt pursue her, and leave off your other two lady friends.

jj4u427

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/11/2009 6:18:07 PM
Has anyone else noticed that most of the female replies are of a negative nature, (based of course on what experiences they have had of course). I find it very eye opening that most men's remarks of of an opposite theory.. "Talking... Isn't that the reason for being here", one quoted... Um yes, but really fellas, you have to understand that a HUGE majority of men, well their intentions are not of a serious, let's get to know each other behaviour. If you have MANY women telling you that lots of men just want to cyber, mess around, phone sex, etc, the why don't you listen??? Maybe you should take that into consideration and not assume that just cause we don't want your number right away that you are "wasting your time".... Maybe a person's guard does have to be up at times.. At least until we are sure enough that you aren't just looking for cyber sex. JJ

jj4u427

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Abandoned and ashamed Posted: 10/1/2009 9:00:10 AM
Minor loss or not, he fell hard for someone, and it's got to be damn hard for him to know that she likes his best friend of all people better then him. Where the heck are people's hearts on this site? Maybe it's not the wisest thing to put soo much stock into a person known for such a short amount of time, but you really can't help who you fall for and how hard... Obviously, based on his post he knows where he was in the wrong.. All I can say OP is that we have all at some time in our lives have this happen to us.. You are in a tough spot. In time you may be able to overcome what happen, but if they end up as a serious relationship, well you can either accept it, or you lose a friend. Only time can tell that. I think you will get over it in time, it heals ALOT, but that doesn't help you today.. Just know that others are out there who have gone thru this. You are definately NOT alone.. JJ

jj4u427

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Giving up due to complete waste of time Posted: 9/26/2009 7:04:56 AM
I love when the men on here rant and rave in a childish, arrogant ( thou the OP certainly has NO reason to be that), way!! I'd stay away from his dismissive, ugly attitude anyday. Oh, and if he HATES this site soo much, then why the hell is he still on? The original post was in April.. Move along you scrawny, grissly, emotional retard.. JJ

jj4u427

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what's up with this? Posted: 9/21/2009 2:39:59 PM
Who cares what he thinks? He seemed rude, and selfish by his lack of interest in your world, so why even bother with him? Ignore him, that, inevitably ,will make you a challenge, and he will be running after why you are mad with him then.... Even then I wouldn't bother. Anybody who is really interested in a person would'nt be so one sided with the conversation.. JJ

jj4u427

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Flakey Girl after the 3rd date.. Opinions please?!?! Posted: 9/21/2009 2:35:52 PM
Maybe she thought you were flakey that you waited 5 days to call her the first time, and then after your first date another few days you waited again? Maybe she is being cautious??? Sounds to me like she isn't the only one being flakey.. And your comment on how she wasn't a "bombshell", well that was just ignorant. What a us "non-bombshells" should expect worse behaviour because of looks? I can't sometimes.. JJ

jj4u427

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Sex question. Posted: 9/19/2009 8:44:56 AM
The women in this world who use sex as a "reward" are the one's you need to stay away from. They are the gold-digging biatches of the world, and they do exist... But alas, men do love being challenged, and then get all annoyed when they find out they were being used. Adjust your radar to see what's inside, and not soo much outside... Yeah, um, OK!! Not that a less attractive lady isn't capable of being like this as well, but let's face it, that's how it is.. I know a person who did this, and the men were lining up to try and win her over.. I wanted to smack the hell out of her. Needless to say, she isn't a friend anymore. Not all women do this. Don't hold it against us all OP. LOL JJ

jj4u427

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What would you do??? Insomnia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 9/12/2009 8:57:13 AM
I feel your pain OP. I dread the nighttime as well.. For me I also have RLS (restless leg syndrome), so I would literally toss and turn for 5-6 hrs before exhaustion set in. Now i have a medicine for that so it's much better but sleep still is the pitts. I try to go go bed as late as possible, and reading with a dim light definately makes your eyes sleepy. Also make sure you have a good mattress, because if your not comfy the problem is compounded. JJ

jj4u427

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our league Posted: 9/12/2009 7:27:48 AM
Wow... That's all I have to say is WOW, and that's not a good WOW... Hey ladies, at least he laid all his cards on for us all. If anyone made a play for this dude, well don't dare post a forum asking "What happ here?" Oddly enough though, your question, had it been presented better, with more maturity isn't such a bad one. I think there are def some men and women who put people in categories.. They either just won't admit it, don't realize it, or are in denial.. I agree with other poster's that your attitude toward women does suck.. Good Luck in finding your "chesty blonde who can excite you!!" JJ

jj4u427

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Don't know what is going on..... Posted: 9/12/2009 7:12:34 AM
Mb the fact that his Mom is sick is a huge distraction, but let's stop making excuses for him on the most basic of things. Let's say you meet someone who you really do like, well it would seem to me that this tough time mb a good time to reach out to another person for support and compassion. I know what I'm talking about because I lost both my parents. So yes, to a degree OP, you shouldn't expect to be the first on his list of priorities, (it sounds to me that you are a pretty reasonanble young lady), but I would certainly hope that he at least would turn to a person that he is really "into" just a bit more in this crisis.. It just, unfortunately may not be you. Plus it's only been 2 weeks, and most MEN will see it as they don't owe anybody anything after only 2 weeks of dating. Live and learn OP. Good Luck, and Hopefully his Mom will get better. JJ

jj4u427

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What do you think about people who have psychics' readings? Posted: 9/10/2009 3:19:23 PM
I have been to kick ass psychic's who were unbelievable with detailed stuff, and run of the mills who are 50/50, and then the $5.oo in Atlantic City Boardwalk who are as vague as the sky... I don't live my life by them, but there is a level of fun and awe when they tell you things that they couldn't possibly know. If you are a non- believer there is NO way to change their minds... One funny story... Some years back, met a great guy from here. Had our first date at Coney Island Amusement Park. Walked into a pyschic's booth for" fun", and she told me that he was my "it", but the other lady told him, that the girl he was wiith, (me) was not for him..... He later told me that even tho he wasn't a real believer in that stuff, that it did in a weird way, influence him in the back of his mind... LOL Moral of the story, don't go on a first date to a phychic's booth for "fun". Unless you paid them to say "Yes, so and so--- Is the one for you!! " :) JJ

jj4u427

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What kind of man would do this? Posted: 8/11/2009 6:46:02 AM
OP, you have all of this disgusting info about this man, I use that term very lightly, and yet you are still questioning his morality? You need to wake up and fast, especially if you are pregnant. Good luck with him supporting you with that one. For the life of me I just can't understand why women waste such time and energy on such total pieces of you know what! JJ

jj4u427

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3 farmers daughters Posted: 8/10/2009 11:44:41 AM
LOL, what can I say, oh yes I know "my virgin thought's..." :)

jj4u427

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Favorite Family Guy Lines Posted: 8/10/2009 10:27:30 AM
"Victory is mine................" Gotta love that crazy Stewie.... ( Louis walks in on Stewie torturing a bully..........) S- "We were just playing house Lois..." L- " But that kid is all tied up..." S- " Ok Roman Polanski's house!!! " Stewie, "There has always been alot of tension between lois and me, it's not that I want to kill her, it's just that I want her not to be alive.. I sometimes wonder if all women are soo difficult and then I think to myself "My God wouldn't it be marvelous if i was a homosexual?" Love Him!!!!

jj4u427

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3 farmers daughters Posted: 8/10/2009 10:18:47 AM
I admit I had to read it three times before it sunk in, but darn that is funny. My eight year old neice is like " What is soo funny..?" Too bad she's too young to be let in on the joke, it was a good one!! JJ

jj4u427

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what to do in a certain situation Posted: 8/10/2009 9:25:36 AM
For whatever reason OP she is all talk and no action.. C'mon think of it like this. If you really were into someone, you wouldn't after the first meeting cancel everyone there after. She doesn't contact you at all, you are the one who does that.. C'mon, red flags all over this one hun. Drop her, move on... Oh and even tho she may have apologized and talked about setting up another date, well I wouldn't hold my brath on that one.. Don't really think there is much there.. Sounds like her pride may have been hurt a tad.. I'm glad you said something to her.. You didn't screw that up at all. Why let people drag you along in their games? JJ

jj4u427

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I just need someones opinion other than my friends..? Posted: 8/10/2009 9:11:35 AM
And you want him to call you why OP? ???? It just baffles my mind that a seamingly nice lady like yourself would waste your time and energy on a druken, immature fool.. Let him chill wth his friends, show up drunk on your dates, (if he ever makes it to another one I mean), then sit at home and wait for this paragon of manliness call you.. C'mon... JJ

jj4u427

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what would you think? Posted: 8/10/2009 5:29:56 AM
Wow OP, I thought you were in your teens/twenties based on what you wrote? But you are older, and I'm sure have been thru alot of life's unfortunate situations, and such maybe have known better? That's not meant to be insulting, I'm in my mid-thirties and how some men act still shocks the hell out of me @ times!! Bottom line, is men and women look at these situations very differently.. In both of your ways you are both right and yet both wrong. He never mentioned or implied that you and him were in a relationship based on how he acted, when he called you, and what it was for.. You let him act, do, and react exactly as a man who is in his situation would. As for you however, you, as a woman who wants respect, kindness and courtesy from this guy, now is all confused as to what he is thinking, what he wants, is he upset @ you, did you mess up??????? And the answer is NO, you didn't mess up, I would have been a bit fed up to at this point, but that's only because YOU were thinking it was more then it was, and HE, is like an above post said soo dead-spot-on, "Wait, I was just banging this girl". It's pretty clear to me that he doesn't want an exclusive thing with you, and I know it sucks to hear, but we as women really have to be clear about what we want out of a "friendship" with the opposite sex. It's hard because you realy like someone, and you want them to want you back, so intimacy, in a woman's mind will move that along for the better.. NOT the case in men. They do not always equate intimacy/sex , with love or even feelings for a person. Sometimes it is what it is.. If a woman CAN TRULY handle that, then most of these frustrating issues wouldn't be soo common. But on the other hand, if men can appreciate what a woman goes thru, then maybe also these situations wouldn'd exist.. JJ

jj4u427

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Do you think he's interested? Posted: 8/7/2009 4:21:31 PM
^^ Oneitis^^ I hate to disagree, but that's really not always true. I had two men the last month ask me for my number, one an old crush from High School, and one a customer from where I work, and neither of them seem to be jumping thru hoops to set up a date. sometimes, it really just is platonic.. The key is figuring that part out without driving yourself batty!! :) JJ

jj4u427

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What would you appreciate more guys? Posted: 8/7/2009 4:17:04 PM
Demon.. LOL ^^^ First when I read your post I thought it was a bit harsh, but i think you may have hit on something. I'm sure he has other "friends" he can turn to, which is fine, and I'm also fairly sure that the whole drama of the situation he is in is months from really being over... I don't know about the manipulating part of your theory, but the other stuff does give me something to consider.. Thanks!! JJ

jj4u427

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It finally happened Posted: 8/7/2009 2:24:19 PM
It is a wonderful feeling. But I'm gonna echo the sentiments of many that have already responded. Just take it easy, don't overthink, or expect anything too quickly. Hopefully it will work out in your favor!! Good Luck. JJ

jj4u427

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Ladies, I Get It, I Finally Get It Posted: 8/7/2009 2:04:12 PM
Good post OP!! I just recently got a email on here and all it said was "So, when I'm I gonna hear from you?" Yeah that really ropes a woman in!!! And yet, you guys wonder why you don't get the responses you expect back!! JJ

jj4u427

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Do you think he's interested? Posted: 8/7/2009 1:56:28 PM
OK, I'm not a man, but I'm gonna put my two cents in. :) Bottom line, he has your number, I think, if he is interested in you, well you will hear from him reagrdless of the whole "dancing" thing!! Good Luck!! JJ

jj4u427

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What would you appreciate more guys? Posted: 8/7/2009 1:52:01 PM
I have a question about a FWB of mine who is is alot of pain right now. Some background: We briefly dated years ago, lost contact, became friends only for a couple of years, and then last year it morphed into a FWB scenario, as we were both single, and truly don't have any other intentions other then what it is. About six months ago he started to see a married woman, and to make a long story short, things went really bad, she isn't leaving the hubby, he's miserable and wants to be with her, etc. I, having 5 years ago, been in a no-win situation like this can 100 percent understand his pain.. I offer him whatever advice he asks of me, first and foremost he is my friend, and I truly want his happiness. So my question men is this: He is now completely depressed, heartbroken, distraught that things ended badly with this woman. He spoke his mind, and she flipped out, and is now ignoring a blaming him for ruining things!! I'm very worried for him, and I want to help. I know exacrly what he feeling, but he is closing himself off from all his family/ friends. He doesn't want to talk, rarely texts back, and if he does it always says how upset he still is. How can I help him without being pushy, but letting him know I'm there for him? JJ

jj4u427

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Fitness and Smoking! Posted: 5/30/2009 8:55:44 PM
What the heck is the point of maintaining a good outward appearance, when you don't take care of your inside's because you smoke? Complete contradiction in my book.. Example- Jennifer Aniston. She does yoga, runs, works out, eats nothing, etc, but every pic of her you see a cigarette in her mouth.. Why?? Pointless.. JJ

jj4u427

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Virginity. Posted: 5/30/2009 8:48:55 PM
I was a late bloomer in this dept, lol. (29) And I'm glad that I waited until the right man came along. I had dated alot in the past, and some men couldn't handle it, other's were ok with it. Go at your own pace, don't worry about it very much. Jj

jj4u427

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Lease is up.. Now what? Posted: 5/30/2009 7:17:23 PM
The lease on a friend's apartment is up in 2 months. Highly doubtful it will be renewed due to a couple of barking complaints (dog) over ten months of otherwise peaceful, always pays rent, doesn't cause problems, living.. He is having a hard time finding a new place, and may need some additional time in the apartment. However the tennant association he is involved with, well they are proving to be ***holes, (he changed his cell number, didn't inform them, and two weeks later found a note tacked on his door saying that if he didnt call them they would start an eviction!!!) That was pretty embarrasing, and I think highly un-called for... YUP, over not having a phone number for him!!!!! He plans on continuing to pay his rent, but I think they will harass him to no end. He isn't concerned about an eviction, it can take up to a year, and he may just need an extra month or two, but what if these folks harass him in the time he remains there? I don't know what to advise him. Any ideas? JJ

jj4u427

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80's Hot or not Posted: 2/14/2009 8:30:09 AM
For the men..... Late 80's.... Remember the cavarici pants, and the cologne "Drakar"?????? Too Funny.......... JJ

jj4u427

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Experiences with electronic dog training collars!! HELP!! Posted: 1/26/2009 6:49:21 AM
Thanks all again. I think all dogs are different, and individual, which is the reason why training collars work on some, and different ideas on others. Knowing my fresh little man, (Louie) :), I think that I will try that kong ball idea. He loves toys and food, so it should be right up his alley. The only problem is how to get him to notice it when I'm gone? Louie tends to neither eat, nor drink or even look @ his abundance of toys until I am with him, so I have come up with a plan.... Louie CANNOT, under any circumstances resist a bag that is within his reach. He loves getting into the garbage, he can't help himself, lol. So I'm figuring, leave that kong ball thing inside a bag, that he will not doubt go to once I leave the house, and he will find it and hopefully it will distract him enough to forget about me not being there!! I know my dog well, and I really think it should help a bit. Also some more advice needed........... I moved in my apartment in July. Didn't get any complaints of barking until beginning of DEC... Just got another one early last week, six weeks after the initial one. Obviously it's not such a huge issue because it took 5 months before a complaint was made. I have a lease, and have broken no parts of it, and I plan on leaving the place in July when the lease is up, but in the mean time I'm a ball of stress because I'm soo afraid to leave him at night where he might disturb others. The neighbor who complained lives downstairs from me, and the other neighbors say that they don't hear him barking at all... So it's not like it's coming from all my neighbors.. Other people wouldn't care and just say screw them, but I have a conscience, and want to not cause trouble. In the meantime I have no life!!! :( No 311 complaints have been made, it's really just an occasional thing. Would anyone else get sooo stressed out from this? How would you handle it? It's a tennants association, and I feel like I'm being harassed now. JJ

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Experiences with electronic dog training collars!! HELP!! Posted: 1/23/2009 8:13:09 AM
Thanks all, I do appreciate the input. Integra, u made some good points. The problem is that I got his when he was almost 3 yrs old- and he is very set in his ways. In the beginning he had tremendous seperation anxiety, but in the year and a half that I have him, it's improved alot. We have our routine, and for the most part he is well behaved. HOWEVER, if I break from the routine, an example being, that I come home from work and 3 hrs later I go out again, he freaks out. He will bark for hours on end, which is the main problem. I have tried walking him longer, many toys to distract him while I'm not @ home, leaving the t.v on, etc. He will NOT go into a crate, I can't leave him behind a closed door, he will sctatch and bite it to death. I'm chained to my apt because of it. I literally have to worry about moving because of it, but I do not want to give my little guy up, and I don't want to use any harmful methods, and training, while is a great idea, is a big expense, and I'm not really connvinced that it will help the situation. I talked to my vet, and he suggested a half of a benedryl, so last night, I gave it to him, and watched him to see how it would work, needless to say, it made no difference in relaxing him to the point that he could just hang out. He is stubborn, and soooo smart!!! Thanks agin for all the ideas, oh and to the few nasty replies, and you know who you are, try not to judge people who are looking for helpful ideas, I don't need to hear your ignorant critisizm. JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Experiences with electronic dog training collars!! HELP!! Posted: 1/21/2009 7:52:57 AM
Anyone ever had to put that on their pet?????? Was it harmful, does it really work?????? Any experiences, good or bad are greatly appreciated............ I'm desperate!!! I have tried everything else on my poodle/coc ker spaniel mix.. Thanks fishies, JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

4 Months and then Dumped? Posted: 1/16/2009 11:32:07 AM
OP. I went thru the exact same b/s a couple of years back, so I can feel your pain, and understand your dilemma. Bottom line is that there are NO ANSWERS to your question, in the end, we just have to accept that that person, for whatever the reason is not the one for us... Oh and the fact that another woman was still in the pic is always a disaster. How the hell can you concentrate on a relationship with such a distraction, damn fools.. But I digress............. :) It's a hard pill to swallow, but you will literally drive yourself insane with trying to figure it out. If you would like to talk more in depth, feel free to contact me. JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 75 (view)

What about cats?!? Posted: 1/6/2009 2:04:54 PM
Cats are sweet, but if I get within 2 feet of one, I'm in an allergy attack nightmare!! Men that love pets are definately a plus in my book. I have a crazy dog myself, and the love one can feel for a pet is very deep. They become a part of your family, so anybody who would be against a furry friend in my book, would lose some points, I guess that's where persuassion comes in!! JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 127 (view)

Dumped too quick 4 having Herpes, or just lack of education? Posted: 1/6/2009 1:39:52 PM
Lots of people on here, their immediate reaction is "No, I would never". But think about it, what if you really cared about, loved, needed, wanted the other person in question? What if the only obstacle was an STD? Ok, it's not the happiest thing to hear, but is giving up on a wonderful relationship in fear of not contracting HPV, or herpes, such a dealbreaker? While I'm sure these conditions are unpleasant, and embarrasing, they aren't life-threatening. Yes, certain strains of HPV, may cause cervical cancers in some, but with taking proper care of yourself, such as getting yearly pap-smears, and vaccinating both men and women while young, well the chances of it turning deadly doesn't need to be in such high numbers.. HIV is in a different league, and while life expectancy, and quality of life, is much better, and higher it still is a deadly disease. In the end, it's a very personal choice. Some people will be adament about walking away from a person because of an STD, others may really want to try, but just can't feel comforatable with the risks, and other's will say "To hell with it, I love you-- and that's ok by me!" Just another observation, for all you fishies that are in the "Hell, no, never,yuck", catagory of attitudes, I truly hope that one day, you aren't of of those folks that are diagnosed with something with such a stygmatism. Maybe then you will feel more open minded and empathetic. Good Luck OP!! JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

9yr old gives advice on dating, what do you think? Posted: 1/3/2009 7:12:20 AM
Oh gosh, you know the world of 'understanding dating" needs help when a 9 yr old gives out more common sense advise then most adults!!! I think it's sweet, and he does make some valid points.. I think that with a few more years of experience under his belt, this little guy could be onto unlocking the mystery of all this nonsense!!! JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 98 (view)

Do guys really want to be in a relationship??? Posted: 1/3/2009 6:52:48 AM
Look, after a decent amount of time, both men and women should have a fairly good idea about where a relationship, or lack there of should be heading. The issue here is that there are people out there who genuinly reach a good/bad conclusion, and there are people out there who simply put, use people for sex, money,good times, fear of loniliness, etc. To weed them all out, and understand every situation is impossible. I can only speak for myself, but I have had relationships with people that SEEMINGLY had everything good. Months go by, things become deeper, and more intimate, and just as things get interesting, they back off and come up with the excuses. I'm sorry, but why date a person for months on end (man or woman), with NO INTENTION of staying put? This is what sucks about dating Dating shouldn't be a free for all, just because dating exists doesn't mean that people should turn into serial daters, take what they want, satisfy themselves, and then move on once the "fireworks" mearly turn into something that may resemble deep, true feelings.. This is what I despise about dating. It shouldn't be a license to plow thru individuals feelings, until your selfish needs are met. And again, not every man and woman acts like this, but a huge majority of people out there carry this nonchalant attitude.. And yes, people may want different things, and that may take some extra time and effort to find out, but most people just scatter off with the first sign of discontent. Dating sucks!! IMO :) Happy New year to all... JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

TIME to bail out ??? Posted: 12/10/2008 7:31:47 AM
I'm glad you looked thru her phone OP, screw her privacy issues. She is lying to you, and had you not taken the initiative to snoop around, she would still be dangling you along.. You pretty much know her deal now. She is trying to manipulate the situation, and you, by calling you crazy, etc.. It's a shame that it had to come to this type of situation, but like I said you pretty much know her game now.. Good Luck, JJ

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 351 (view)

Best position for BBw Posted: 12/6/2008 7:11:54 AM
Bravo Octobersixty3, you just keep on showing your true colors baby!! Obviously a 148 IQ and the horse coc k that you claim to have has made you a really true, wonderful catch for any woman in the world!! Nobody asked for or wants your "tough love" you arrogant, ego-maniac. I feel bad for you that you walk around this world, that is filled with soo many wonderful, different, people, and that you have such anger and hatred. You are the one who hates yourself hun. Read over your posts, it's YOU that "lacks the minimal amount of self-respect", I'd rather be my chubby self then walk a day in your shoes.. JJ Best of luck to you - your huge coc k, and your 148 IQ!!!

jj4u427

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 335 (view)

Best position for BBw Posted: 12/5/2008 11:45:52 AM
Another winner !!! That IS NOT the point of this discussions fellas. If you want to insult people then start your own insecure, hate filled thread.. The point of this post is not your vengeful opinions.. God and you men are old/older, shame on you that you have the mentality of a 12 year old... Wait that's insulting to the 12 year olds I know, they are probably more open minded then you fools.... Yes ladies, if you want to find a wonderful guy, you can at least weed out the winners due to this forum!!! JJ

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