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judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 103 (view)

A STATEN ISLAND SINGLES MINGLE....Just to say thanks Posted: 5/26/2008 8:36:50 PM
I am hoping to be able to attend..Sounds like it will be alotof fun! J

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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your thoughts on guys that just want to talk Posted: 9/19/2007 7:50:17 PM
talk Message: I am a married man and I came to this site for talk/e-mail only.I've gotten some responses and have some nice conversations.I've also gotten some responses that was looking for more than talk because they did'nt believe my profile.So, my question is,does a guy seems to be gay,if he only wants to talk? Alot of people are just here for forums... and one can stay so busy with them I Would wonder about someone looking for friends of the opposite sex to "chat with" If someone is faithful I assume they are Decent...not gay. But when people are opening dialogues with the opposite sex.....(IE "friends"..chat/ email) I think they Are potentially looking, no matter what they say.. I can not keep up with my general/work/ friends/groups/ e mail and forums as is.!.. If someone who was married and wrote to me for "friendly chat" I'd decline. They would be writitng to me ..why? Cz they are married...but do not have enough single female friends? C'mon

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Have you ever acted dumber to attract a male of interest ? Posted: 9/19/2007 7:43:53 PM
Hi Montreal.. I have never "acted dumb",,,if I did wouldn't I have to keep that up all along? and he liked that.... he would like some thing that isn't me. I have let men do things for me that I knew how to do if they wanted to though. As in..I know how to change a tire,,but if he said "no, let me do that for you" that's fine by me. I will also ask his opinion on alot of things...but bcz I value his opinion..Not cz I do not have one of my own too. I have also dated men who were ,,goodlooking and/or pleasant or funny or had some good quality other than being learned.. I think just about everybody is smart about Some topic and if I am drawn to the person I do not care as much what that topic is.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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My gf wants to know eachother's msn messenger passwords! Posted: 9/19/2007 7:35:27 PM
Happi If you have nothing to hide what is the glitch?? If there is nothing untoward in your e mail why would you care if she could access it?

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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To My Beloved Posted: 9/19/2007 7:33:51 PM
Call.. What a lovely poem that was!...J

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 68 (view)

Should I Date A Man Who Doesnt Want to Marry Posted: 9/6/2007 6:42:41 PM
Dear NFP.. You can't change people very true.. And I have learned to Listen, especially at the beginning, and Believe what people say! He is saying flat out he does not want to marry. Listen..He might change his mind but He Might Not. If you do develop a relationship and begin to feel he is "the one" , he would have every right to turn around and say " hey, I told you at the start". Do you want to find out a year down the road he has Not changed his mind.. but you have? I think the absolute worst choice is to head into a relationship saying.." he says that now.. but maybe down the road it will change"..Maybe It Won't. Even if you are not hungry to get married at the moment...if you would want that down the road why start up with somene who is being honest enough to say he doesn't want that Ever? And are you ok with never having a child of you own? Cz he says he is not interested in that either. Are you looking for an LTR...for awhile, and then another LTR and then another? Or someOne who is right for You ? Don't sell yourself short! Someone who announces this within an hour of meeting ? woah they have Not issues,,,but whole Subscriptions. I see little difference btwn Trying to change someone and hanging around Hoping they change...both are usually a waste of time. Isn't it better to start a relationship where "as is" is what you are looking for? Just my 2 cents. Judy

judythecuety

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gun control in the usa Posted: 8/22/2007 1:49:32 PM
One of the problems with that is that the founding fathers had quite limited firepower in mind when they were writing these laws. If you had flintlock pistols and rifles around today, it would be a far different story Using this logic we could dismantle all the rights we have now based on "times have changed since then",,, Who knew the press would grow beyond papers off on a press.? Should we now do away with freedom of the press... bcz it It is inconvient and technology has changed? The founding fathers didn't forsee the internet..but few would agree we should not have free speech here too. The founding fathers didn't forseen Plenty.. that's a very slippery slope! And one we are already on as the Unconstitutional gun laws prove. If I do not have the right to protect my life,,,How is it that I have a "right to life" at all? And so it goes... that as they take away one right,,,others follow. People may Believe they have a "right" to life and liberty....but actually that "right" has been taken.. The police are not and cannot be everywhere..so then "if you are Lucky ...you will have life and liberty"...and if not "oh well". That's the full extent of the "Right" you have left when they can't protect yourself.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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celibacy...whos doing it,who isnt, whose seriously considering Posted: 8/22/2007 1:23:56 PM
Do any of you posters know what the term "celibate" actually means? It means UNMARRIED. You can be celibate and sexually active at the same time Webster's gives celibate two meanings ...it means both unmarried And refraining from intercourse.. Someone has to be using either one meaning or the other ,,Otherwise... if someone is married but in a sexless marriage,,,they're not celibate? Someone who is single,, but sexually active is celibate? Here I beleieve the OP meant to second accepted meaning,,,refraining from sex.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Does it really matter who makes more money??? Posted: 8/22/2007 1:13:04 PM
If a woman marries a lawyer who pulls in about 150 grand a year (I said thousand earlier, because 30,000 is only grand if you get it all on the same day) and leaves him, she gets a substantially larger check every month,. That's job security if I ever done seen it! Both of my sisters are divorced...( NJ and NY ) For my elder sister...( NJ ) No alimony was awarded ..They were to split the proceeds of the sale of the home..He was an exexcutive...Course when they met he worked in a mail room.... and she put him thru school ..He paid his child support though he spent years in court fighting for reductions..He purposely let the home him child lived in be repossessed...against court order, he just never paid the mortgage...so there was no settlement "to her" at all. The next sister ( NY ) divorced,,He was a blue collar woorker,,No alimony was ordered..He left the state and never paid a penny of chid support...Yes, he remarried and has other kids,,...but He never paid one penny towards the support of his child with my sister.,, nor gave her a dime for herself.. Tell me again about the "security" divorced women have. I've never seen it.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Curious about blocks Posted: 8/22/2007 12:53:40 PM
Thanks for the info.. .Would I get that message if He messaged others for intimate encounters and My restrictions there fore block him?

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Curious about blocks [CLOSED Thread] Posted: 8/20/2007 10:45:03 PM
Tried to send somene an e mail ..but can not contact them. I read thier specifications...(must not be married,,didn't intimate encounter seek etc etc) and none apply to me.. It does not say " contact no longer possible" so it would seem he did not specifiically block me...Help page says that's what it would say if he had blocked just me.. and besides we have never corresponded before... So I am just curious as to why I would not be able to send a message to that person. Has this happened to anyone else....anyone know why this happens? thanks in advance.. J

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Call me when you want to get laid!! Posted: 7/29/2007 9:52:41 PM
We all have times in our life where things are especially hectic and even tho we may want to go out on that date...the schedule just won't allow it. Do you write people off, or take it that they are not interested, or have found someone else, just because they are in a busy streak with daily life? Most people realize a relationship requires a certain amount of time,,care and interest. The truth is that someone who can not get a sitter or family memeber to watch thier child for for One night to go out with someone they say they are interested in...Really does not want an adult relationship.. They want someone they can see "when they have nothing "important" they have to do". His e mail Was rude but so is saying you want to go out but plainly acting like the opposite. Yes, I do write people off.. People are usually putting thier best foot forward at the beginning .. If this is someone's "best", I won't watse my time with someone who says the want to start something but really couldn't care less about doing so. Would you want to date somene who can't spare you a night in weeks? I wouldn't. J

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Does it really matter who makes more money??? Posted: 7/29/2007 9:35:31 PM
Women often claim that men cant handle it if they earn more than the man, whereas the truth is.. its really the other way around....most women feel that they can always do better and or DESERVE to be with a man who earns more than them. The feeling of security is very important to women as is the approval of her friends...it's that simple... Two thirds of working women still earn under $30,000 ( us dollars) a year. and if they are divorced with kids they are raising them on that paltry pay and paltry child support.. It is easier to turn it around and say "women feel they deserve more" but the truth is that for many women: they want someone who is doing well bcz though they do work all day ..they are not doing well.. With that pay base it is not too hard to find someone making more!!... Yes, they may want security,,which they do not have Even though they do work everyday...perhaps when That is addressed things will change. I have been on both sides of this fence....I had a traditionally female career (special ed teacher) and made very little money,,even with an advanced degree.. Then I switched to a job that is over 90% male, which one only needs a high school diploma and training for, and make many times what I used to.. The reactions have run the gamut... when I earned little I met some men who did not feel comfortable bcz I had more education ..And those who did not care about that or what I earned... When I earned more I met both men who still did not care about my salary and those with whom I could not go to the restaurant I wanted to bcz they did not want to spend that much but also wasn't comfortable with me treating at times.....Women are always told that "men Will have a problem if you make more".. Some won't ,,but some will. So making more can actually mean that there are Some men who that will be bone of contention with...certain men remove themselves as an option.. cause it becomes an issue in the relationship..Women are told earning more will somehow bristle the man's pride...not always true....but sometimes true. Jme....J

judythecuety

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celibacy...whos doing it,who isnt, whose seriously considering Posted: 7/29/2007 8:57:33 PM
. If a person want to eat, but cannot because there is no food available, then they are starving and it is not a personal choice. So based upon that line of though, if you want to have sex, but do not have an opportunity, then I do not think you should consider yourself celibate because it is not a personal choice. Then, what is the time frame for celibacy? I found this post very curious...There is never "no opportunity for sex", really, is there? I mean there are professionals men can hire and I dare say that any women who asked a few men would get a yes..and after asking how many people? I think it is more a matter of not having the opportunity to sleep with someone one would care to sleep with..or waiting to meet a right person..rather than a lack of Any opportunity at all. So I would have to say ...(Jmo) ..That those who are chossing not to have sex bcz they haven't found the right person ..are choosing celibacy....while someone who is sleeping with someone else every 2 weeks...and are actively looking for the next possibility to present itself and not celibate... Iow.. I think the difference is in the mindset... J

judythecuety

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gun control in the usa Posted: 7/29/2007 8:42:29 PM
The 2nd Amendent in the US doen not exist to protect duck hunters and target shooters. . Don't want to own a gun, don't own one, but do NOT try to take mine. I agree with you Rcc... And I have always been curious about how the lines ( paraphrased).."the states shall make no law limitting citizens' rights to bear arms" could even have been misconstrued.... It's obvious that all gun control laws which deny US cititzens the right to carry are blatantly unconstitutional.. On my job, I go into people's homes all the time... what am I supposed to rely on for self protection...luck? the police? The police are not there and counting on luck does not seem very sensible. I should not have to be endangered or become a crime statistic bcz someone else does not like the idea of me having a right that the constitution affords me.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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gun control in the usa Posted: 5/5/2007 7:20:12 AM
Cutting down on problems I can agree with .. But I am law abiding citizen and always have been...Why should I be denied a handgun? If responsible people could obtain a gun legally the black market would dwindle and could be addressed more effectively. I do not belive that guns that aren't used for self protection or hunting should be available to the general public..but handguns/ rifles should be.. It is Not quick or easy to get a carry permit .. I t should be Much easier for a person who has no record. There is a certain amount of danger inherent in my job and I go in there alone. I am not going to be going around lamenting and recovering from being a victim of some heinous crime. Whoever wrote what I referenced ...It's still American bashing.. Free trade? If you do not like our decisions become a world power. As to what does not directly affect you..I could care less about the Canadian opinion of Americans politics.. There's much fixing needed in Canada.. I suggest Canadians focus on thier own counties problems ( and there are many) and stop carping like jealous poor relations. The first thing you might want to look at is your police force, which has been known to prey on tourists.. And the Canadians here might want to cut back on the Americcan bashing, Tourism is one of your main industries. I know that after I had been on the forums awhile and saw how many Canadians spew I vowed never to spend another dollar there.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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gun control in the usa Posted: 5/4/2007 5:32:51 PM
americans are a very uneducated people, most americans dont know their geography, most dont even know where iraq is on a map, much less many dont know where the USA is on a map, many americans dont even know where their own state is on a map, talk about ignorance, most americans think canadians live in igloos. so that goes I don't think canadians live in igloos ..But I do think alot are bigots.. ( read the definition if you do not know what this really means) When we Americans want to know what Canadians think of how we live...we'll let you know.. Watch for that referendum ..Seems to me there is Plenty that could be improved in Canada ..( I Have been there several times) so why are you wasting your time and "mind" ragging on us?...Nothing better to do.? This is just American bashing in a guise. I am a 5 ft 3, petite female who appraises homes.. I go thru the bedrooms,,basements, attics and garages often alone with male strangers....Do you think I can rely on good will from all of them ? I have a right to protect myself . And for future reference...your prejudice is the picture of ignorance.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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what would you do in this situation ? Posted: 5/4/2007 5:11:50 PM
Someone who tells you that youare too old an unattractive to find someone..is someone who doesn't deserve 5 minutes of your time..for talking,,shopping..or anything else. For a small fee the phone compnay will block just her number,,,(You keep your telephone number but this one particular person can not get thru. ) I do not know what type of retalaition you fear..but I say "one step at a time". If she asked why she could not get thru I would tell her "you insulted me one too many times". This person does not even meet the minumum requirements for an acquatintance! Curious......What are afraid she will do?

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Problem Snoring - over 45 men and women Posted: 3/17/2007 2:47:25 PM
I wonder if anyone has tried those "breath rite" strips you put on your nose and whether they work. I do think there is an operational one can have that ends snoring if one is willing to go that far.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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when does she call it quits Posted: 3/17/2007 2:44:00 PM
If it were me I wouldn't get involved. She should go herself ..If He shows she knows that " I don't go on anymore" was a lie.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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I need some advice/help Posted: 3/17/2007 2:37:19 PM
Rachel Ray has some good books on 30 min meals..Maybe not all would be good for your diet ..but I am sure some would.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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my life or whats left of it ! Posted: 3/17/2007 2:09:52 PM
^^^ You aren't qualified to diagnose him over the computer as being clinically depressed either. Sometimes shit happens...sometimes people just want to blow off some steam - you can't know. Someone who is saying "there is no point in going on" is not just having a bad day. That's not rocket science (and btw . I worked as a clinical therapist for a number of years and when someone feels tis way there is no downside to going to talk..There can be a very big downside to Not going for help)

judythecuety

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no car, bad apartment, no cash flow WTF?? Posted: 3/16/2007 11:07:57 PM
I bailed on readin all the replies about 3/4 of the way thru.. why watse time asking for advice and attacking anyone who gives it to you.? The crazy'd be the one who answered that ad...You want.. you want ..funny you don't mention what you offer,,Have a field day with the low seld esteem crowd..they'd bite.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Do you really look at a guy's shoes? Posted: 3/16/2007 10:58:14 PM
Yes, I always look at the shoes..I love men's shoes.. If the are bad..I won't toss him over for that..If I like him I am buying him shoes I want to see him in for b-days and holidays.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Lately I have noticed more girl on girl...??? Posted: 3/16/2007 10:50:49 PM
Guess he got burned...sorry I couldn't resist.. The situation you mentioned out in clubs are usually women doing this for attention..Women who are really into each other are not making asses of themselves to entertain men. Unless they are looking to take someone home and even then are usually subtle and approach one guy.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Can attractive people be trusted? Posted: 3/16/2007 10:46:49 PM
and yes some people don't know if their good looking, but the majority of them do. So these people have a WAY higher chance of doing something they shouldn't be if they're with someone else... The chance of someone cheating has to do with their personality and character..Not thier appearance. Being unattractive does not necessarily mean the person inheritted good moral fiber!! Cz it is not an inheritted trait. Perhaps you mean the very goodlooking have more Chances to cheat..but again a person of character doesn't persue elsewhere when involved.. Some one who is lowly will cheat ,,,and there is no one way a lowly person looks. You can meet someone here..look at some testimonials to see. good luck

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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How do you tell if the guy your dating is no longer interested? Posted: 3/16/2007 10:40:32 PM
People who drop you are not into you..

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Pazoozoo - Love your style. Posted: 3/16/2007 10:36:55 PM
Someone who walks out is not committed to the relationship on an emotional level. I would not take them back. The fact that he ignored the child all those years spells one thing : dirt bag.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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my life or whats left of it ! Posted: 3/16/2007 10:32:05 PM
To tell someone who is so depressed they are expressing suicidal ideation that drugs will not help is IRRESPONSIBLE.. anti depressant medication saves lives by addressing biochemical imabalnce which is usually temporary..

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:40:21 PM
^^ I think what you said is very true to ..Every person has a circle of influence that only goes so far. We have to do what we can in our sphere.. Some chose to be part of one "movement" or another..others don't.. But they still have a sphere of influence. I am going to sue my boss and just found a witness to one incident that occured in public.. ( I am So loving that) When I have my biz of course I won't be sexually harssing people and I would encourage women to get into my field. So it seems my old boss will be paying for what he did after all..

judythecuety

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Recurring Dream Posted: 3/16/2007 9:33:15 PM
It is a sensory dream indicating what you want. Someone is there and you are happy at Peace and spending the day near the beach and lounging. You can't see him bcz he is not here yet..but this is what you want.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Married men looking Posted: 3/16/2007 9:28:29 PM
A certain number of men who say single or seperated are married.. If they are honest and say outright they are married.. they are looking for someone in a similar situation or someone single silly enough to go out with them. I don't "approve" but at least they are being honest..More than you can say for some.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Guys how do you maintain a friendship with a woman without ENCOURAGING Posted: 3/16/2007 9:24:09 PM
Mention other women you are interested in. .. Even if it is hypothetical.."so Sue how should I ask out that gal at the vidoe store"?

judythecuety

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Lately I have noticed more girl on girl...??? Posted: 3/16/2007 8:01:23 PM
Most are posers ..not bi sexuals. They dance like that but aren't having relationships with each other..

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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my life or whats left of it ! Posted: 3/16/2007 7:59:34 PM
Don.. You have clinical depression.. It's a medical condition that does respond to treatment but you'd need to go for help..Medication can make a world of difference..Don't give up it things can get much better..You really need to go for help from the sounds of it.. Feel free to write me off thread if you wish.

judythecuety

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Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist? Posted: 3/16/2007 7:43:20 PM
Thanks K Lo Well you raised alot of good issues...But, Yes, I do believe that if two are doing the same job they should get the same pay..Make no mistake, as it is now there Is no glass cieling for the man...and it does not exist for the woman who does a marginal job but for Every women..I worked in a huge wall st firm that had not one women above middle manangement..Pls don't even think to say there were no eligible women, I knew them. Big businesses sometimes Do need to be regulated to do right..Now if you would like to take the lower paying job after that..that is your choice..but I'd want my shot at the higher paying job. Noone is going to foist these better jobs on those who want to stay home..But that some want to stay home dsn't mean other women should be discriminated against. Then there is the other kind of sitaution..Like where with my Masters I made far less than my fiancee who was a train conductor and had a HS diploma..Not that he did not do a skilled job and deserve a good salary..but then, didn't I? I paid for college and the Master's.. and you wouldn't beleive what they pay teachers in NY. I switched careers to a field than is over 90% men.. and just got fired bcz I would not date the boss..And he made some truly crude comments. But he doesn't seem to get he did anything wrong..Yeah, I will find another place and finish my apprenticehsip. But STILL it's mostly women who have to go thru this. Unless I want to go to civil court there is No other consequence for him bcz it is a private company noone oversees what he does and he knows it...This is what one gets from unregulated bizness. Biznesses should not be able to do whatever they want bcz I have never seen them do the right thing left to thier own devices. They will take advantage wherever they can. I know people are divided on abortion,,but I am very firmly pro choice and I think many women do not know how close they are coming to losing this right. And when women can't own thier own body, they can't own thier fate. I grew up in a working class neighborhood where most Moms worked and it was not at power jobs or even bcz they wanted to..My Mom used to go clean other people's houses till she became a nurse. And I think alot of people are in that postion now..Two are working cz that is what it takes to make the mortgage..there's no nanny and when she gets home she is doing the lion's share.. Things are changing a bit but for many this is still a way of life. All in all, feminsim benefits everyone whether they "agree with it or not". Do I agree with every single thing that others take issue with? No not always,,I'd rather see people against those anorexic models than sports illustrated.. but if SI offends someone they do have the right to say that..It's part of a free society. Janet..if you do not believe in abortion..don't have one ..There is no birth control that is 100%. so unless you are a virgin you are simply lucky not to have been faced with an unplanned pregnancy. Luck doesn't make one more moral. Now you can say .."well I am moral cz I'd have it"..IMO people who have kids they can't give a Good life to aren't more moral at all. Or you coud say "I am moral cz I base my life on the bible"..but the US is not a "christian country" it's a free country.. Even if abortion is illegal women will have them..And there is a monument to all the women who died as a result of that..

judythecuety

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How do you date when your mute Posted: 3/16/2007 7:01:21 PM
Hopefully it won't be permanent...if it is you will learn sign But if you could type all that..Your language center isn't compromised. I would be shocked if there wasn't a full recovery.

judythecuety

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is a year and a half to long Posted: 3/16/2007 6:28:19 PM
I'd much rather date someone who hasn't been in a rela;tionship for awhile than someone who just broke up from an ltr..

judythecuety

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Why can guys not see the big picture and know patience has its reward? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:32:57 AM
" Do you have any sexy pictures, so what turns you on the most? Are you really into oral ?" I'm just sitting there blinking my eyes, not believing what Im seeing! I will definitely keep the " not ultimately rejecting you " in mind. Ever gotten an obscene phone call?..that's just what this is..looking for free online entertainament...Free is cheaper than phone sex. You're not talking about the average man here but the type that has his tissues next to his computer.This is who you are trying to comprehend..I don;t think "he" rates this much thought.

judythecuety

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Someone tell me what I am doing wrong! Posted: 3/16/2007 9:27:29 AM
You are actually quite handsome ...and thisis just my opinion..a nice hair cut would not hurt..together .with the no shave it looks unkempt..

judythecuety

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are we better off never speaking again? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:24:19 AM
I got kind of queasy reading how your sisters "rape" men by getting them to pay child support,,,and how you out of this girl's league.. and how someone who feels as you do has unprotected sex and "dumped her cz of the pregnancy" ..(you got over your paranoia..but apparently forgot common sense and decency) You are not out of her league..with your issues and attitudes you were lucky to have her..or anyone..Leave her alone, you have hurt her enough. You met her just out of rehab? shaking head.. Maybe you could find people more together to prey on.

judythecuety

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Can't seem to meet the right guy Posted: 3/16/2007 9:18:57 AM
Not a guy but you say "desperatly trying to settle down" maybe they are picking up on this sense of urgency..Couple that with hang out and you will be meeting the wrong kind..You are asking to meet people who don't want what you want. It'll be easier to meet the right person if it is not a Crucial thing in your mind...imo.. Rememeber you are going to want to be discrening and not just jump at the first opportunity with just anyone so it may tale some time..Try to be ok with that idea or you might leap b4 you look.

judythecuety

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We bring out the worst in eachother.. end it? Posted: 3/15/2007 9:12:25 PM
There is fighting and then there is fighting fair...(not insulting,, bringing up past, I statements) b4 you throw in the towel would you try some communication books of counselling.?

judythecuety

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Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist? Posted: 3/15/2007 9:04:08 PM
Oh Yeah I hate men cz I talk about pay equity..what a laugh.. You aren't the competition..for many reasons..You do not live near me.. I won't date men who date bio daughter age (you're welcome to the inappropriate daddy's) Plenty of men are looking to date someoone where college major and job at starbucks aren't the topics of convo. And then there are all the men who want to date someone who isn't where you are emotionally. You don;t go to personal insults hehehe that actually made me laugh..In WHAT one post do you not insult others?.. How many here said they are feminists..which you equzted to ugly dried up ****es..You do not even Know where and when you insult is it such a habit.. You have the freedoms you have cz of feminism.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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sex and heartache Posted: 3/15/2007 8:58:03 PM
He actually asked me if I wanted to have sex with him...then answered his own question by saying "of course you do you're a whore." He told me I turned him off after I poured my heart out to him explaining how I felt. Look he was verbally abusive...and seems cruel.. You are far better off without him. Not good signs..

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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what happened?? Posted: 3/15/2007 8:54:35 PM
The reason I drink drinks with cranberry juice in them is they are an antidote to this drug.. You may get looped but you will be able to tlak and remember.. OP if you lost memory with having had enough liquor for it...Yes, very likely you may have been drugged.. Maybe not the usual MO..but loons do vary and the count on you not being able to prove it.. Sorry this happened and just remember... it is not your fault.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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Suggestive Flirting... but unavailable Posted: 3/15/2007 8:41:51 PM
There are some people who will look for the next person before the thing they are in has ended...They don't seem to need any down time..Maybe she is doing this?

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

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sex and heartache Posted: 3/15/2007 8:39:25 PM
If you are a whore...wouldn't that make him one too? Correct me if I am wrong.. but weren't you both doing the same things? Often with friends with benefits someone wants to make it more...You thought cz he took you on dates ,,maybe it could be a relationship..BUT He believes only men are allowed to be free sexually that is a right Only for men.. So you are a whore for just having sex with someone.. He could not get past how you started. ..Yes,, that makes him a hypocrite..but it is a very common hypocrisy. Most of the time fwb's can never go anywhere... cz men Most men underneath it all can;'t respect a woman who does it...or they have fwbs they feel are "not good enough to be thier gf.'s.. It was the first case here I think.. It's not "wrong" that you developed feelings for him..but he is an a******ole.

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

sex and heartache Posted: 3/15/2007 8:38:06 PM
If you are a whore...wouldn't that make him one too? Correct me if I am wrong.. but weren't you both doing the same things? Often with friends with benefits someone wants to make it more...You thought cz he took you on dates ,,maybe it could be a relationship..BUT He believes only men are allowed to be free sexually that is a right Only for men.. So you are a whore for just having sex with someone.. He could not get past how you started. ..Yes,, that makes him a hypocrite..but it is a very common hypocrisy. Most of the time fwb's can never go anywhere... cz men Most men underneath it all can;'t respect a woman who does it...or they have fwbs they feel are "not good enough to be thier gf.'s.. It was the first case here I think..

judythecuety

Joined: 2/2/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

Do You Consider Yourself a Feminist? Posted: 3/15/2007 8:12:45 PM
I can't get on board with feminism, or any collective movement, group, or cause - - because, deep down, what they really seek, is to suck the life out of everything it means to be an individual. And, if that's what equality really means (which I think it does), I pick freedom. I guess it would depend on a Individuals defintiion of feminism that certainly isn;t mine..How does seeking pay equity, appropraite consequences for crimes and things like sexual harassment against women suck the life out of individualism? In fact,,could you clarify what it is that you think the feminist moevement is doing toward that goal..cz I can't think if anything!!.. Maybe you think all feminists are against women being home makers? Feminists I know are for Choice..As to women who set out to have it all.. I think many vastly underestimate what it takes to do that..Esp in a field like law where it's 80 hour weeks to make partner. Just remeber that you have decent birth control,,control over you r body,the right the vote and even the job you have bcz of feminism..50 years ago you probably probably would not have even been considered for the job you have, it would have been considered far to responsible a position for a woman to have..Big compnaies did not start promoting women just cz they Wanted to..and there's still a glass cieling As to women who do not want to back burner thier career...Half of all marriages end in divorce.. And plenty wind up with child custody and little/some/ no child support.So maybe not a bad idea..Aand of the couples where they both work.. I want to know who is doing what in the home after work..If it goes the usual way.. dot dot dot. It's not easy to try to do both and I would bet some regret the decision.. Yet many men seem to handle it..and why is that? Right,, they have a wife. ( for the time being anyway) .Feminism, the raging bitter version you see in modern times, is just a way for ugly women to justify why they are alone and then reinforces it with behavior that will make sure that they will stay alone forever. .............and if you want a real exapmle of women hating women here it is. DQ.....Not all of us are comfortable being bootlickers for those strokes. And unbeknownst to you, you are Quite ugly ..every post shows inner Bile directed at some one or some group. But I am sure you'd answer the ???s in msg 53 yes anyway.

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