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missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

Msg: 120 (view)

Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 11/12/2009 4:47:22 PM
Some guys use "self-employed" as a code for unemployed or seriously under-employed. While I wouldn't reject a guy based on being self-employed, I would ask questions about what exactly it was he did.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Dating a deaf person... Posted: 11/12/2009 9:11:24 AM
I speak sign language, and my last significant other was Deaf - as in culturally/dependent on ASL/next to no residual hearing at all - DEAF. I hate to say it, but at this time in my life, I wouldn't consider dating another Deaf person. There is a huge difference between the Deaf culture and the hearing world. Most of the fights we had - especially early on - were cultural misunderstandings. He had this complete belief that all things Deaf were vastly superior to anything hearing. He didn't like it when I would talk on the phone because he had no way of knowing who I was talking to. He didn't like it when I would listen to music. If I had my Ipod in my ears, he'd grab it and start screwing with the controls. To talk to him, I had to stop pretty much every other thing I was doing and look at him. Everything we did had to revolve around the fact that he was deaf. We could only go to the movies if there was a special captioned showing or it had subtitles. When the stage production of Phantom of the Opera came through DC I really wanted to go see it. I ended up not going to see it because he didn't want to see it because - why would he? He tried to stop me from going to see AC/DC, but I put my foot down on that one and went anyway. He had what was basically a temper tantrum. He would accuse me of being ashamed to take him around my hearing friends (I only have one hearing friend who signs). But, anytime I tried to bring him around my hearing friends he would behave like an ass. Being with him meant that I was on as an interpreter 24 hours a day/7 days a week. Sometimes I felt more like his personal interpreter than his girlfriend. You could say that all those problems were just that individual and him being selfish, but when I very first started dating him a female deaf friend of mine warned me - that for that relationship to work long term that I would have to be willing to turn my back on the hearing world. In the end I wasn't willing to do that.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Mooching off Posted: 11/12/2009 7:29:14 AM
I want to know what happened to the car and laptop.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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so annoying..why do people do this? Posted: 11/3/2009 7:35:41 AM
I know some men think that faithfulness and commitment are a one way street. And why wouldn't they when there's soooo many women who will put up with that sh*t?

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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looks or profile, what attracks you first? Posted: 11/2/2009 11:57:04 AM
I don't click on profile pics where the guy is posing with a car, a motorcycle, a big fish (yes, I've seen that), or flexing. Other than that, I tend to click based on what's in their caption.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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so annoying..why do people do this? Posted: 11/2/2009 11:39:40 AM
Dump his @$$! Just tell him - if he's not ready to commit then that is called JUST FRIENDS - and he has NO RIGHT to act jealous/possessive if you're with the entire Dallas Cowboys football team let alone one other guy. He is trying to keep you as a backup while he plays the field - and YOU'RE LETTING HIM! SHAME ON YOU! The reason men act the way they do is because we women let them. Period.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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My ex-husband cheated = The sex was bad Posted: 11/2/2009 11:34:31 AM
In my limited experience and talking with other people - if sex is bad it's because of one or two things (or both): bad communication and/or selfishness on one of the partner's parts. Sex should be fun. Even if someone is inept - falls out of the bed or something equally silly - you should be able to laugh about it. Usually people take it to seriously and think it has to be perfect every time. You should be able to take time and explore your partner and get to know what they like. But, all too often guys think they know what a woman's supposed to like, and if she doesn't, something is wrong with her. That, or he doesn't care what she likes, and it's all about him. I'm sure there are women like that, but since I'm a straight woman, my experience is with men.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 10/5/2009 8:31:53 AM
I know you can't spot reduce for fat, but I also know what I saw in my arms. When I was doing the tricep pushdowns I saw a huge improvement. When I stopped, they got flabby again. I would hazzard a guess that those people are also doing other exercises to work on other muscle groups - to work out all of their muscles. Using the same machines all the time is 1) boring, 2) your body gets used to it and you stop seeing results. I, personally, like to split up my weights, so I'm doing different muscle groups on different days of the week. I've always preferred that because doing all my weights on the same day of the week just makes for being in the gym wayyyy too long.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 10/5/2009 7:53:39 AM
Tricept push downs made a HUGE difference in how flabby my arms were - as opposed to any other tricep work out that I did. When my trainer had me switch to something else my arms started getting flabby again, so I switched back. Now, that has stopped working for me, and I found something else that seems to be helping. PT's are good when you're completely new to working out, so that you get your form right and don't do anything that is too hard for you. But, I've been working out long enough that I feel like I'm able to switch up my workout as needed. I also watch what some of the guys are doing - Actually, that's when I started seeing the best results - when I started ignoring the trainer and just copying what I saw the guys doing.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 10/4/2009 3:44:47 PM
The personal trainers at my gym...They think they are hot shit, and they always steal my machine! BTW WTF is with the fat people they train? How is stretching a cable or a tricep push down going to help somebody 100 + pounds overweight? Because it's common knowledge to anyone with an i.q. higher than their shoes size and actually knows something about health/fitness that the more lean body mass you have - i.e. muscle - the faster your body burns calories. Combining weight training with cardio produces the best results for weight loss - which would explain why they are professional trainers and you are not.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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What Do I Do About This? Posted: 9/9/2009 5:59:08 AM
I've been having problems with pain in my upper leg near where my leg meets my hip. Actually, what I think it feels like is that my hip is going to come out of the socket. I took a few days off from running because that's when I notice it the most. Yesterday, I tried to run for 30 minutes, within 15 minutes the pain was back. Today, I still feel it. I don't know what to do for this. I took a few days off. I can't put a brace on it like I do for my ankles. Any ideas?

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Is being added as a favorite an invitation to e-mail? Posted: 9/1/2009 7:02:59 AM
I was wondering why anyone would add me as a favorite and not e-mail me?

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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The Diet Solution Hoodia ? Posted: 9/1/2009 7:01:27 AM
I'm pretty sure he was kidding. I tried Hoodia early on in my working out routine - I used it for a month. I did not notice that it did anything.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Is it ok to work out twice a day? Posted: 9/1/2009 6:55:52 AM
I do spinning class three mornings a week in addition to working out in the evening. Although on at least one day a week spinning is my only work out because of my schedule at my second job (it sucks!).

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 9/1/2009 6:48:00 AM
As entertaining as this is - didn't we just have a thread on this?

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Running with a weighted vest.... anyone do it? Posted: 9/1/2009 6:39:41 AM
Running with a vest sounds like a bad idea to me. When I broke my ankle, my podiatrist said that when you run multiply your weight x 3 and that is how much the impact on your joints is.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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PERSONAL TRAINERS Posted: 8/25/2009 5:02:28 PM
When I joined my gym, I got three free sessions with a trainer. Being as she really only changes up my work out ever six weeks or so - I don't find the rates unreasonable.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 8/25/2009 4:57:54 PM
I'm a total slut for a man who can play the guitar.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Exclusive dating??? Posted: 8/25/2009 11:25:25 AM
I chatted with a guy on here who acted like I wasn't allowed to chat with anyone else. I blocked him.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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PERSONAL TRAINERS Posted: 8/25/2009 6:57:16 AM
I used one when I first started working out - which was a good thing, or I might have hurt myself. She was really good for making sure I had my form right. When I broke my ankle she devised a workout that I could do completely off my feet, so I could simply maintain my routine of going to the gym every day. But, I feel like I've progressed enough that I don't really need it anymore. Plus, I've learned some great new things from other gym members.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Fat vs muscle Posted: 8/25/2009 6:36:43 AM
I've lost 15lbs since May, but 5 inches from my waist.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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I Wonder....If we put too much emphasis on sex in a relationship. Posted: 8/24/2009 11:47:58 AM
If we put too much emphasis on sex in a relationship. When I was in school (I did go to Catholic school) they told us that sex should be down around #3 or 4 in the top ten things that are important in an intimate relationship. But, from what I'm reading in these forums it seems to be everyone's #1 priority. I've been reading a thread (and laughing my butt off at the responses) about a guy who would end a relationship if a woman wasn't willing to have anal sex. So, if a woman is your match in every other way - spiritually, intellectually, the sex is in all other ways great, but she isn't into going in through the outdoor - you're gonna end it over THAT? Give me a break! Hypothetically speaking - if you all were in a long term (married even) relationship that was your dream relationship, and then by some freak accident your SO couldn't ever have sex again - would you leave?

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Deal-Breakers! How soon is too soon? Posted: 8/24/2009 11:34:01 AM
I used to live upstairs from a couple that the guy liked her to do him in the butt with a strap on. How I know about that is the first time he asked her to do it - she freaked out. She came running up the stairs with the thing. It was huge. I wouldn't let anybody stick anything into any part of me that was that big. She was crying and said, "My**likes**" Eventually, she went along with it though. And just in case anyone couldn't figure this out from my other posts in this forum - anal sex is an absolute - HELL NO! I'll be honest - I tried it once. It hurt like hell. I'm not doing it again.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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WHATS THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF Posted: 8/24/2009 11:25:18 AM
I haven't had a bad POF date yet. I've gone on two dates with the same person, and they were both very nice.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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How to tell when he's playing you... Posted: 8/24/2009 10:40:24 AM
He's playing you like a fiddle, and you're letting him.... Save sex for three or four DATES? Are you kidding me? What about three or four months?? You have to be at most jobs at least that long before getting benefits because the employer needs that long to decide if you're a good fit for the position. If you're looking for a life partner - isn't that position at least as important as a job??

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Help me here - what to do after meeting a psycho? Posted: 8/24/2009 10:34:51 AM
Unless there has been a threat of violence or actual violence, local law enforcement isn't likely to get involved. I don't know what state you're in - any advice I would give would be relevant to Virginia. Call your local District Attorney's office and ask if they have a victim/witness coordinator or if they can refer you to one. They can talk you through your legal options. In VA what you can do is: 1) Send her a registered letter stating that her behavior has become scary to you, and you want her to stay away from you. If you don't have her physical address - e-mail it to her and SAVE THE E-MAIL! 2) After that, do not, do not, do not respond to her in any way shape or form. 3) Save all attemps at communication. Keep a notebook and document and days/times that she approaches you on the street. Then, if she keeps it up, you can file stalking charges and get what's called a stalking protective order. I recently sent a registered letter/e-mail to an ex-boyfriend telling him to stay away from me, and that seems to have done the trick. Thank God!

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Have you ever had a psychic connection with someone? Posted: 8/24/2009 10:23:33 AM
My mother. Probably about 10 years ago now, I was seriously injured at work, and had to be rushed to the hospital. Before anyone had a chance to call my mother and notify her that I'd been taken to the hospital, she started frantically calling my work trying to get ahold of me. She later told me that she heard me screaming (which I had been) just as clearly as if I were in the house somewhere.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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do you look like your pictures? Posted: 8/24/2009 10:14:05 AM
My latest photo was also taken today because I cut my hair in the last week.

missainva

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Shoes - on or off? Posted: 8/24/2009 9:06:55 AM
What kind of cardio are you doing? Runner's World has a forum dedicated to barefoot running.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Would you ever consider being in a relationship with someone who is into BDSM? Posted: 8/23/2009 7:27:32 PM
I figure everyone's got their kinks - some people's are tighter than others. But, as for BDSM - not this little girl. Now how, no way, ain't happening.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Deal-Breakers! How soon is too soon? Posted: 8/23/2009 7:25:22 PM
This thread is cracking me up!

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Aspartame about to be banned? Posted: 8/23/2009 7:08:14 PM
I wouldn't give aspartame to a child, but I'm not a child.... Give me Diet Coke and nobody has to die! I am in complete agreement with you, Taekkyeon. It boggles my mind, what humans will put into their bodies, and the excuses they will use. I have a life long friend, who is creating all types of drama right now in her life, as she is borderline Type ll diabetes. I suggested to her to switch to water, and walk 30 minutes a day for a month, and then be tested again. Her response: "I don't like the tasted of water, and then she said, you will never catch me exercising." ...she then later stated, "this is just what happens when you get older. It runs in my family." Wow! I think I have that same friend! She went to the doctor and her sugar was over 170. I felt like hell when mine went up to 104, which the doctor said was still within normal ranges. Anyway, I've suggested exercising to lose weight, and pointed out that there have been people who have reversed type II diabetes by losing weight. She won't do it because joining a gym costs money. She'll take a walk every couple of weeks and think she's done something. She hasn't modified her eating habits before. She's just resigned herself to becoming diabetic because "it runs in the family."

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Working out the buttocks Posted: 8/22/2009 6:56:48 PM
The elyptical machines are supposed to help with your butt. I think I feel it most in my butt when I run backwards on it.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Aspartame about to be banned? Posted: 8/22/2009 6:51:42 PM
Are you people telling me that Diet Coke isn't a food group?

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Age differences in dating - What's the gap for you? Posted: 8/19/2009 12:49:31 PM
^^^^^ My great-grandmother always said, "It is better to be an old man's darling than a young man's fool." I don't date men who are younger than me primarily because a lot of guys my age and younger want kids, and I don't. I've gotten messages from men asking me if I can still have children. Can I? Yes. Am I willing? HELL NO! When I was 24, I dated a guy who was 17 years older than me. Ultimately, it was the age difference that broke us up. He was continuously treating me like a child and acting as if my thoughts and opinions were of no consequence because I was, "so young..." But, I'm a lot older now, and I might be willing to date someone up to 15 years old than me.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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most attractive parts of a man/physically Posted: 8/18/2009 8:28:32 PM
Eyes, smile, and voice. Everything else is either a gimme or irrelevant.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Should I go out with a girl 16 years younger? Posted: 8/18/2009 12:45:38 PM
When I was about this WOMAN'S age, I had a boyfriend who was 17 years older than me. My dad called him a craddle robbing child molester. Did I mention I was 24 at the time? I will say, however, that it was largely due to the age difference that we ended up breaking up. He treated me like my thoughts and opinions were of no significance because I was "so young."

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Don't love your food... Don't dream about double fudge ice cream... Posted: 8/18/2009 10:37:00 AM
Also keep in mind most of those European countries that you've mentioned have much better community planning than the U.S. does. In Europe communities are planned so that people can walk where they need to go. In the US, you have to drive. In the U.S. 60 miles is a short distance. In Europe - that's a long way to go. I never ever saw a truly rotund person growing up in north Jersey, but I see them all the time down here in Virginia (even became one for awhile). The difference is that in north Jersey and New York City is that everyone walks at least part of the time. Anywhere I wanted to go, I could either walk there or walk to the bus stop to get the bus that will take me there. I walked 2 miles each way to school with a back pack. No wonder I was such a skinny kid. Anywhere I went outside of school - I walked there too. Around here unless you're right down town - there are no sidewalks. So, walking in a lot of areas is unsafe. We have had one jogger killed by a hit-and-run driver earlier this year, and a woman walking her dog was run down just a few weeks ago. Riding a bike in a lot of areas is dangerous. With the economy like it is, there are more pedestrians and bike riders out than ever before. It's against the law to ride a bike on the sidewalk - but in areas where there are sidewalks - I see a lot of bikers ignore that law because they don't want to become road pizza. I live right by one of the three local colleges - a community with A LOT of bikes and pedestrians. But, unless you're right on campus there aren't any sidewalks. There is a bike path that goes from near my house to a local park, but that's it. There's going to be a town meeting in September about pedestrian/bike issues and planning. I'm going to take time off from work, so I can go speak.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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I need to get in shape.. need help. Posted: 8/18/2009 9:14:31 AM
Join a gym and work with a trainer. My gym used to have a really wonderful sense of community about it, and it went a really long way toward keeping me going to know that if I disappeared for a few days someone was going to come looking for me. Plus, on days when your inner-slug is asserting itself and you don't FEEL like going to the gym go anyway and just tell yourself that you're just gonna do it for 10-15 minutes to keep up the routine. That's what I used to do when I didn't feel like it - then by the time 10 or 15 minutes were up I usually felt good enough to complete my work out. Establish a routine and DO NOT break it for anything. If your friends want to make plans during your work out time - tell them they have to wait. You can't make it until your work out is finished. The routine is everything.

missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Rate my plan. Posted: 8/18/2009 9:06:23 AM
Jogging speed varies from person to person and has partly to do with how long your stride is. I start to jog at 4.6 mph, but I have a very long stride is. My trainer says she doesn't know a whole lot of people who won't start to jog before that. A significantly shorter person might start to jog around 3.7 mph which is a comfortable walking speed for me. Try this: http://www.runnersworld.com/article/0,7120,s6-380-381--9397-1-1X5-3,00.html I'm following this except that I'm doing it for a whole hour instead of 30 minutes. Though last Thursday I had to stop 35 minutes in because of achilles tendon pain and Sunday every joint in my body hurt. But, I did okay yesterday. Oh and after 30 minutes I do take the liberty to walk 3 minutes if I want to.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Is Smelling Bad a Bad Sign? Posted: 8/12/2009 4:36:49 AM
I'm not a germophobe. I'm a smellophobe. I don't have any skin problems - apart from having extremely sensitive skin, and I've always had that. So sensitive that I can't wear most kinds of deoderants. Suave is the ONLY one I've found that won't break my under arms out in horrible sores. The problem is Suave doesn't work particularly well - and I sweat like a horse - hence all the showering.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 8/6/2009 4:40:58 PM
This just depressed the hell out of me today: http://news.yahoo.com/s/time/20090806/hl_time/08599191485700

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Background checks?? Posted: 8/4/2009 6:17:53 AM
I really do not get guys (or women) who lie about being married. If you're married and of a mind to screw around there's plenty of people out there who won't care that you're married. Give those of us who do care the chance and the right to say, "I'm not that kind of person. This is not what I want." Not to mention, it's a damn good way to get yourself shot. I've said before - I worked in a maximum security prison for 10 years - you guys want to know how many people I can name right off the top of my head who are in prison (many for life) because of this kind of behavior? They caught their spouse/SO screwing around and killed them and/or the other person. The other person caught on to the fact that they were being played... On and on it goes. I've also said that I've been surprised at how many ex-convicts and convicted wife beaters I've recognized on here and other dating sites. Someone should start a dating site where they do a criminal background check before putting up your profile.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Is Smelling Bad a Bad Sign? Posted: 8/3/2009 6:42:18 AM
I gotta side with Jaqi here. It's a rare and unusual day that I only take one shower a day. It's usually two, and during hot weather (like now) more like 3-4. Also, make sure you're washing your gym clothes EVERY DAY - or have more than one set of work out clothes. But, DO NOT wear the same clothes two days in a row without washing. The vinegar tip was good advice. I always wash my gym clothes in hot water. That helps too.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Please Help! Broken Bone! Posted: 8/3/2009 6:38:14 AM
Stay off that ankle!!! Keep it up!!! If you belong to a gym maybe one of the trainers can work out some exercises you can do sitting down - that's what my trainer did for me when I broke my ankle.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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I want to start running first thing in the morning.....should I eat something before running? Posted: 8/3/2009 6:36:30 AM
I eat something before I go to the gym in the morning. The trainers at the gym just say that your metabolism is at it's highest in the morning.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Why do so few men take part in yoga.? Posted: 8/3/2009 6:34:55 AM
It's great for girls because what else would be they doing besides long walks in the park and laundry. Do what? We need a middle finger icon because this guy has it coming.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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Is Smelling Bad a Bad Sign? Posted: 8/2/2009 11:43:27 AM
Take a shower and put on some deodorant BEFORE you go to the gym. I do it routinely. My son was actually making fun of me yesterday when I came in from bike riding (getting better) yesterday, and I took a shower/changed my shirt/sports bra before going to the gym. He was like, "God mom! You're just gonna get sweaty and nasty again." I told him I like to start out fresh.

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

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I am curious of other people's workout pet peeves Posted: 8/1/2009 4:27:31 AM
Okay who brought up the guys who flex in the mirrors because that just cracks me up for some reason - and they say women are vain!

Missainva

Joined: 5/4/2009

Msg: 140 (view)

Why do so few men take part in yoga.? Posted: 8/1/2009 4:12:07 AM
There's a yoga class at my gym and about half of them are guys. I've heard a few of them comment about how they always feel like they did a really hard work out afterwards. I don't go to the Yoga class because I'm already doing a different class, and I don't want to spend all my gym time doing classes.

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