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DrumminD20311

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Why do I usually attract men that I'm not attracted to? Annoying! Posted: 10/7/2009 1:38:15 PM
Haha, but you are superficial. Just admit it and you've won half the battle.

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I got a crush Posted: 10/6/2009 11:14:33 PM
Hey, 29 year olds can have crushes too. The day I stop having crushes is a day I don't want to face. Might as well pack it in at that point. I guess she's just not that into me. Damn. I'm still gonna try tho.

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I got a crush Posted: 10/6/2009 12:17:51 AM
Oh trust me I've been trying. She always turns down my dates, so I'm all bummed out, then she'll straight ask me out on a date. She thinks like a man or something. Facial hair? What? Was that supposed to be a joke? Shaving is where it's at.

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I got a crush Posted: 10/5/2009 8:12:56 PM
So I got a crush on this girl. We have been hanging off and on over a year, and she just dumped her bf. We have kissed before, but it's been a while. How do I snag her now that she's on the prowl? Now I'm just typing random letters to make sure that this posts.

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The curse of the Asian Persuasion. Posted: 9/11/2009 2:59:19 PM
I still haven't gotten to experience the Asian Sensation :( Is it as magnificent as I hear?

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She's just not that into me? Posted: 9/10/2009 12:38:47 AM
Yeah, having fun is important, but I would make a move as soon as possible. If she just wanted to hang out, she could go out with her brother.

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Women and The Mention of Their Kids Posted: 7/31/2009 3:27:57 PM
Yeah, reading about kids is a major turn-off. Everytime I read that a woman has kids, two scenarios pop into my head. One is my ex's baby which had the most blood-curdling scream I had EVER heard in my life. We would be making love, as the kids say, when all of a sudden I would hear what sounded like the death rattle of Beelzebub raised forth from the seventh level of Hell, sent to Earth to reign destruction on mankind. Every hair on my body would stand on end, and my adrenaline would surge as I thought that Armageddon had finally arrived and the demon horde had arrived to wage war against the righteous, of course totally killing the mood. You reading this may imagine that I'm exagerrating, but sadly I am not. Her scream would literally terrify me, and she wouldn't be hurt, she would have just woken up or dropped a cookie or what not. Kids don't seem to get any better as they get older either, as I recall a date where the girl's child broke all her crayons and threw them against the wall, pulled my arm off of her mom, and kicked me repeatedly because her abusive daddy was the only one allowed to touch mommy. If you got kids, that's cool, but you might need to lower your standards.

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C*CKBLOCKERS! Posted: 7/31/2009 3:09:28 PM
I've read that to avoid this, a lot of women decide to go out alone. It's scary, but they have a lot more luck, because in addition to no c-blockers, guys are less intimidated because they aren't around ****y succubi.

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Awesome profile disclaimer Posted: 7/27/2009 3:09:13 PM
Saw the following statement on a girl's profile, thought it was awesome. Use it girls. "Please do not be offended by my honesty. Also, please don't get angry or disappointed if I do not respond to your messages"

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Arrogance Works in Dating But I'd Rather it Didn't Posted: 7/24/2009 12:57:59 AM
I did not read this whole post, but I stopped at the phrase "damaged." Damaged people defy rules. I'm guessing you played on a damaged person's emotions and felt guilty? Hey, no sh*t, damaged people need extra care, and attach themselves to people that provide that for them. Do not abuse people's emotions. You can engage healthy people and challenge yourself, or abuse the weak. Do the right thing.

DrumminD20311

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Inter-racial dating Posted: 7/21/2009 8:37:26 PM
Bugs, shut up. Quit watching Hannity.

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Aggressive Dates - Women Please Comment Posted: 7/21/2009 8:06:01 PM
I was in the middle of the process of him supposedly getting me a better internship. Well he grabbed me once, very sneaky, and I was like "must have been an accident." Then he did it again, and I was like "Did that just happen?" Then he did it again, while pretending nothing unseemly was going on, and I was like "Uhh, gotta go." Then he followed me all the way to my car and could tell I had figured it out and was trying to persuade me everything was cool. I then left that internship with a big fat F. I gotta outta there but: A) I'm a man and wasn't too scared. B) Even if I hadn't, still NOT A REASON TO BLAME THE VICTIM! I was able to get over the shock and think clearly and act, but maybe she wasn't. Don't blame her for her assault. It's not here FAULT she was assaulted. This stuff happens all the time, and it ended rather fortunately for her, because it often ends in rape. Then the victim goes to court and the jury finds the rapist innocent because they are just like you and think "why the hell didn't she just get outta there." And then the cycle continues, and more people are raped and more kids molested. You don't blame a 5 year old boy that is molested for years and doesn't tell anyone till 10 years later. That's what happened to my cousins, molested by my uncle for 10 years. Why didn't they just get outta the room? Stupid children, they should have known better than to let themselves get molested.

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When a date insults you via email 2 days after the date. Posted: 7/21/2009 7:56:37 PM
Damn Firery1, you're like the whole cast of the real world combined into one person.

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Canadians Posted: 7/21/2009 7:52:19 PM
Canadian women do seem hot, I think I'm moving. Wait, do y'all allow 'muricans to live there?

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Aggressive Dates - Women Please Comment Posted: 7/21/2009 7:42:37 PM
Oh, and I'm SHOCKED the people are blaming the victim here. She did NOTHING to deserve this. It shocks me more that women are doing the blaming. This is why sexual assault is so common. Nobody every empathises with the victim, until it happens to you or your kids.

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Aggressive Dates - Women Please Comment Posted: 7/21/2009 7:40:23 PM
The "shit" is true. It happens all the time. There are Japanese websites dedicated to men like this. It even happened to me once by my supervisor, a male, with me being a male as well, when I was younger and more naive. It shocked me so bad I couldn't even fight back at first, but I got the hell out of there and that job REAL quick. The shock of the situation paralyzes you, because you can't believe somebody is doing it. Just prepare yourself. You should have RUN like hell and screamed as soon as it became apparent what he was doing.

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Shoot Guns on a first date!! Posted: 7/21/2009 7:08:33 PM
Yeeeeeeee haaaaaaaaw! spits tobacco

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I Accidentally Found My Bf/Gf On A Dating Site Posted: 7/21/2009 2:18:43 PM
It's very easy to find people these days, VERY EASY!

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Women only seeking Christian men Posted: 7/21/2009 2:13:08 PM
Haha. Try living in the South. I rarely mention my "faith." I don't understand why you're so angry though. Christianity is a life-encompassing belief system that does not teach tolerance, it teaches intolerance. Skim through the Old Testament some time. Of course they are going to be prejudiced against you. It's like a black man trying to get with a white woman in Mississippi in 1955, ain't gonna happen! Also, a relationship with someone with a life-encompassing belief system that contradicts your life-encompassing belief system would be ill-fated from the beginning.

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OMFG I am NOT a love toy! Posted: 7/21/2009 1:38:06 PM
If you meet any more women like that, send em a link to my pro and tell em to hit me up.

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What's up with young guys coming on to older women? Posted: 7/21/2009 1:36:08 PM
Wtf? Older women hit on me all the time, and that's cool, but if I do the opposite it's taboo? Make up your minds ladies. Wine may grow better with age, but not people :)

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What ALL Men Want... Posted: 7/21/2009 1:25:52 PM
When I find her, I fall in love and latch on tight until I scare her off and she dumps me :*(

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Bi Girls Posted: 7/12/2009 4:19:06 PM
If you "don't like" gays and lesbians because of their sexuality, you are homophobic. If you don't like that term, I'll use prejudiced. You're prejudiced against gays and lesbians. Whatever you want to call it, that attitude is destructive, immoral, and not in the best interests of advancing the United States. Does that work for you? Also, everyone is saying women just "act bi." These girls aren't "acting" bi. They are going home and having sex with each other. I've watched it happen, and been involved :) Most of my friends that are girls are bi. They aren't the exception, they are the norm. "Out" lesbians are all over the club too, not the "lesbian" club, the "normal" club, and they do quite well with the ladies, an str8 people don't bother them. Maybe Mississippi has gotten more lesbian tolerant than the rest of the country, although it is certainly not more gay tolerant.

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Bi Girls Posted: 7/12/2009 2:40:02 AM
[If a lesbian is attracted to a man, what does that say about his manhood...? hahahaha ] Oh now I get it. Homophobia. I was trying to figure out a new trend, and homophobia rears its ugly head. I thought homophobia was centered towards men, but I see it is directed towards females as well, just not as violently. This actually helps explains why normally str8 women go for girls occassionaly, to get away from d-bags.

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Bi Girls Posted: 7/10/2009 11:31:24 AM
What's with all the hostility towards the bi girls coming from the men? I think y'all are jealous. I don't "think" it's hot when girls make out, it is hot. And I'm not talking girls pretending they are bi to be cute, I'm talking about the girls that follow through afterwards when they go home and do it. I've seen it happen. There's a lot of that going on here, especially odd considering this area is so conservative. Seems like a lot of these girls prefer women over men too. They can get a guy any day of the week, and cherish their rare opportunites to get a girl. Seems like girls are becoming bigger studs than men. I know it's cliche, but I think there's something in the water, all those synthetic hormornes.

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Would you try a male sex surrogate? - for the ladies Posted: 7/10/2009 1:35:25 AM
What? This is a real job?! How do I apply?!

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Do Women Know If She Will Sleep With You In 10 Secondes? Posted: 7/10/2009 1:30:10 AM
I disagree. She knows if she's attracted to you within 10 seconds, but not if she will have sex with you. There's a lot of time to mess things up. Some girl gave me that look tonight, but she was married. Dammit.

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A guys's drear come true is becoming a pain Posted: 7/10/2009 1:25:10 AM
Quit being a ****. It happens. Every girl becomes boring eventually, unless she dumps you about 3 times. Be happy with what you got if you really like her and stop being fickle.

DrumminD20311

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Choking during sex Posted: 7/10/2009 1:14:23 AM
I love to choke! Let's get married :)

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Bi Girls Posted: 7/10/2009 1:11:44 AM
Seems like every girl I connect with lately really wants a girl. Not that I'm against that at all, I love girls and bi girls. I love the lez love. It just seems weird, that EVERY girl I know at the club points out some girl that she wants to do. Is this normal? Opinions welcome.

DrumminD20311

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Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left.. Posted: 7/8/2009 3:20:01 PM
LOL!! I've never done that. Since it apparently happens a lot, I might try that sometime. That's just so mean though. He can't wait like 10 minutes to conclude the date and excuse himself? Shiiiiii..., I think he did you a favor though. You wouldn't want to be with someone that would do something like that.

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Do you really decide within 15 seconds? Posted: 7/7/2009 1:47:25 PM
15 seconds? It only takes me one to notice how big here breasts are. Oh!

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Female Trekkies Posted: 7/7/2009 1:43:21 PM
If she'll roleplay as a Borg, hang on tight and don't ever let her go. "Tonight your body will be assimilated. Your sexual distinctivness will be added to our collective. Resistance is futile."

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My date was too interested in my daughter Posted: 7/7/2009 1:40:29 PM
Maybe he was trying to get a mom-daughter menage a trois going on. Oh yeah. I don't blame him.

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Guys are still idiots Posted: 7/7/2009 1:38:51 PM
I make girls buy me drinks :)

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How do u know when your a couple Posted: 7/6/2009 2:06:40 PM
I once dated this girl, and I never actually called her my gf, but then after she dumped me, I called her my ex and vice versa. So she was never my girlfriend, but she is however my ex-girlfriend. I don't quite have these rules figured out either.

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Actual Dating amongst under 25 Posted: 7/6/2009 2:03:03 PM
Naw, dating ain't dated. Just ask a girl to go somewhere with you. Technically it's a "date," but you don't have to call it that. Say, "hey, I'm going to the club, join me there."

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Drugs?! Posted: 7/6/2009 2:00:48 PM
Because marijuana ain't a drug, "it's a plant, it just grow like dat." Drugs you gotta mix up with baking soda and heat it, don't ask me I do not know the recipe.

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How can you tell? Posted: 7/6/2009 1:55:46 PM
You're cute. Fly me to California and I'll show you what a real man looks like :)

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Very Excited ... Until The First Date Posted: 7/6/2009 1:52:42 PM
You probably gave a bad "first impression," like they mentioned in the head and shoulders commercials. I doubt it was looks, probably more personality. You are probably nervous and bring your nervousness to the date, pushing her away. I've found that an exaggerated sense of self-confidence is best for first dates. You have to convince her within 10 minutes that you're coolest, most confident, most exciting person in the world. It's a tough task, so you gotta believe you are yourself in order to trick her into believing it as well.

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Can a guy become confident with women without having been successful? Posted: 7/6/2009 1:38:46 PM
I actually accomplished this trick myself back in my virgin days. You have to take note of all the good things about you, granted that you have them. You don't have to be confident in that you are confident in your dating skills or whatever, be confident in your life skills. I was really smart and cute and musical and deep and cultured, and realized I had a lot to offer people. The women are lucky to be out with a wonderfully unique and genuine person instead of the dbags they are usually with. I also approached all my dates as if they were games. It didn't matter what happened, it was just an adventure. I've got a lot of experience now, but I view the experience as somewhat as a disadvantage, because I have expectation now and get disappointed easily. The adventure is gone.

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Confidence attracts.................. Posted: 7/6/2009 1:33:10 PM
Yeah confidence is key, especially when we live in a society where everyone is constantly trying to beat it out of you.l

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He won't ask a girl out unless he's 80% sure he's got a chance Posted: 7/6/2009 1:30:35 PM
You're supposed to give him hints, like "So I hear there's this good movie showing Saturday," or "I really love this restaurant but I hate to go alone, I wish someone would take me there," etc. Also I'm pretty sure a girl likes me when she makes big googly eyes and smiles at me.

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I think I have the friends thing figured out. Posted: 7/6/2009 1:11:23 PM
Yeah, when a woman says she just wants to be your friend, guess what, she actually just wants to be your friend!! I assume you believed there was some double meaning to the word? Who's fault is that, hers or yours? Also, it is a gift to be friends with cool, hot people. True friends are always a gift, especially if they help you out when you need help. Just don't expect anything sexual to evolve from their friendship. That's your dilemma, not theirs.

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Guys Who Post Long Term and Don't Mean It?????? Posted: 7/3/2009 10:59:13 PM
Ha, actually he is looking for long-term. He's dating you long-term right? He's just dating others too. No where in the phrase Long-term relationship does it say "monogamous." Also, maybe he is looking for a monogamous relationship, just not with you

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Being picked up at work Posted: 7/3/2009 1:43:37 AM
I've NEVER hit on anyone at work. It's cool on the Office and apparently in real life, but work is work. It's not sex time.

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Phone Sex???? Posted: 7/3/2009 1:42:08 AM
What? Don't delete this. Guys always want easy sex. It's nature. Play hard to get.

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Wow this is a good ? Posted: 7/3/2009 1:40:15 AM
Yah it's possible. It happens often. Girls need some motion in the ocean too.

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Longest sexual performance. Is it better quick or lasting? Posted: 7/2/2009 5:29:13 PM
I have gone an hour and a half a few times. It's never bad or boring. If I'm going an hour and a half, it's because I'm having a blast and I don't want it to stop! I've noticed most girls stop me before I go that long though because it starts to hurt for them. Even the first time I had sex the girl made me stop. Seems odd since I had always heard that most guys don't go long enough, then I got all these girls telling me to stop. Make up your mind ladies! Seems like most girls just want around a 30 minute session and then cuddling and passing out, just like most guys do.

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Does this make me racist? Posted: 6/24/2009 12:27:14 PM
Yes, you're racist. Shave your head and tatoo swastikas on your face.

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